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>insecure about being extremely, EXTREMELY sexually vanilla

why am i like this
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>>20227881

Nothing wrong with that. Just find an equally vanilla partner and you're golden.
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>>20227884
Like finding a needle in a haystack nowadays desu senpai
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>>20227881

why would you be insecure?

who the fuck are you measuring against?

are you sure you're not just conflating vanilla with shy?
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>>20227903
>why would you be insecure?
because everyone's into kinky shit nowadays and i'm really really not. i'm not some superdom that most women seem to want, and i'm not a sub either.
>who the fuck are you measuring against?
see above
>are you sure you're not just conflating vanilla with shy?
yes, i'm sure.
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hokay...

>because everyone's into kinky shit nowadays and i'm really really not. i'm not some superdom that most women seem to want, and i'm not a sub either.

No, everyone isn't. And even if that was true its immaterial to the notion of feeling insecure about how you prefer to express yourself sexually.

Your sample base to judge such things are skewed. Your fine.
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>>20227909
You seem to be brainwashed by media and porn. Most women want a normal guy that doesn't need insane fetishes to get off. You're better than those kind of guys. There's no need to be insecure.
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>>20227914
It's not immaterial when you can't do things that someone else is into. Which has happened in most of my sexual relationships. They're into things that are not at all that insane but that just weird *me* out.

>>20227915
That's the thing though, most of the time their "normal" is MY "insane".

Not exactly the most scientific of support but take a look at pic related. The BDSM test. You may have heard of it, you may have not, basically it judges and tries to calculate what you are into sexually. Here's my results from May 2017.
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>>20227923

sexual compatibility is not unidirectional, though.

How many partners have you even had?
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>>20227938
Three.
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I'm insecure about wanting to be feminized, abused, and humiliated. There are worse things.
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>>20227940

3? ok your sample size is pretty small to be making blanket statements.

but i'll go with it. of those 3, how many of them ended due to sexual incompatibility that was discovered after getting close?
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>>20227881
I want to be cucked and humiliated so trust me when I say I would love to be vanilla. It's something to be proud of OP.
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>>20227950
Two of them, and the third (current) is trending towards that direction. They could tell that I was not at all into what they wanted me to do, and it killed the attraction. Maybe I've somehow struck out and managed to attracted the same kind of girl 3 times in a row, but they all wanted the same thing. D/S, ddlg, etc. etc. etc. Stuff I couldn't do because it just weirded me out and made me uncomfortable.
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>>20227881
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>>20227881
Hey I'm pretty vanilla too. I like a little dom, bu generally I have sex to feel close to the other person. Just find a long-term partner who is not fucked up and enjoy yourself... It's pointless to stress about your fetishes(or lack of them)
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>>20227884
>girls
>vanilla
>in 2018

LOL
O
L
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>>20227881
There’s nothing wrong with being vanilla, especially if you can entertain or dabble in some of your partner’s fetishes. There’s pretty much an inexhaustable number of things you can do to spice up sex or just touching in general, and most of them aren’t extreme. What this problem seems like is a lack of creativity.
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As long as your having fun, who cares?
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>tfw only into extremely submissive slave girls with low self esteem who do anything I tell them
>tfw want a relationship but know these girls are horrible relationship material

wat d0
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>>20228720
>especially if you can entertain or dabble in some of your partner’s fetishes.
And that's the problem. I can't.
>What this problem seems like is a lack of creativity.
No. Trying to do what they've wanted me to do has just made me extremely uncomfortable.
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>>20228951
What do they want you to do?
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>>20228966
See: >>20227958
>D/S, ddlg, choking, hairpulling, spanking, etc. etc. etc.
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porn culture is really bad anon, nothing is wrong with vanilla sex and honestly most people wouldn't have all these weird fetishes conditioned into them if not for the Internets acceleration of access to pornography
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>>20227923
>not at least 97%
found the deviant





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