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/SIG/ Self Improvement General

Talk about:
- Overcoming Depression
- Mental wellbeing
- Financial planning
- Career planning

What has been going well? What are you having troubles with?

http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky
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>>46018860
When do i see change with IF 16/8
Wanna try cuting with it
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I signed up for meditation class because I don't have the discipline to do it myself. We'll see how much Hindu bullshit will be included with it.
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>>46018882
who knows, how many calories ?
macros?
there are three mains in weight loss
time or feed window
macros
and calories
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Gettin up early this morning to go do some work, then gonna go get groceries, relax and maybe read or do some art for a bit, go for a run, then go get Chipotle, come back and my friend will come over for lunch while he's in town at his job, then right after that I gotta drive to a nearby city to help out for a habitat for humanity dinner I volunteered to help cook at. All in all gonna be a pretty busy day. Wish me luck bros!
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Finally learned how to stop spilling spaghetti around women but now I need to learn how to make a move. They probably assume that I'm not interested when I don't go in for the kiss or whatever, but I guess I'll learn by putting myself in the fire.

Going to be starting community college in august, I'm thinking about going into construction management but my hearts really in physical therapy. But being realistic, there is zero to no chance that I have the discipline and dedication to pull that off.

Lifts are going well, on day 16 of no-fap, meditating 5 minutes everyday, stopped smoking pot and reading a lot more. I just wish I had enough money to travel the world indefinitely
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>>46019036
You don't need luck my man.

>>46019158
A friend of mine tried physical therapy, but stopped. You REALLY have to love it in a sort of selfish way: they pay is abysmal for the hours and women don't want to be touched by man, so you're actually less desirable than a female therapist.
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>>46019218
I've been in and out of physical therapy for the past two years which is why it's on my mind. I'm the type to get obsessed with something I'm passionate about. But I've been out of school for the past five years and don't consider myself very intelligent. Would really appreacite anyone's two cents
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>>46019321
I meant *selfless* instead of selfish

Imagine your career path in general.
How does the prospect of helping (mostly) elderly people moving?
If you see that as a nice, stressfree and fulfilling career, go for it. If you don't like it, don't. Maybe ask a physical therapist if you can follow them around for a day (or a morning/afternoon) to see if you would like such a career.
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>>46019158
My Bro. You should check out a guy on YouTube called Alpha Male Strategies.

He sure as hell helped me. I used to be a beta who girls would quite literal (no joke) brag to me about how they were pounded hard by some BBC the night before. Just cus I was so beta that I wouldn't call them a disgusting slut.

But yeah check out some of AMS videos for advice on women and dating.

His principles are essentially...

>Bitches ain't shit so stop holding them on a pedestal
>Get on your grind
>Get your body in check (no real need to be saying that on this bored)
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>>46019453
You don't need to watch anybody on YouTube with titles like "they're all sluts"
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>>46019453
You can tell this "man" is a tool by observing his facial hair and peircings. He doesn't improve himself, he puts on a facade and pretends to know things that he is clueless about.

Anon, stop giving your attention to these bad people. They will lead you off a cliff.
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>>46019509
This. Backwards ass thinking bro. Though it is true, don't put women (or men for that matter) on a pedestal, hustle and grind the stuff you are passionate about, and stay fit.
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>>46019509
>>46019553
Damn. These /fit/ phaggots need to spend a couple days on the /misc
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>>46018860
I'm returning to a uni class for the first time since December 2017, I fucking bailed out of my first uni because I stop caring about business, got depression due to loneliness, and all I did for almost 4 months during my first semester of the second year was play video games, browse 4chan, go to work, and watch anime.
It was utter hell
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>>46019611
Hey we are not the ones needing a YouTube channel to talk to women

Stay on /misc/, you incel
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>>46019158
>there is zero to no chance that I have the discipline and dedication to pull that off.
try . you never know till you try .
if you do not try you never will .
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>>46019871
Thanks anon
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>>46019871
shoo shoo, la goblina
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>>46018860

>Overcoming Depression
Ordered by usefulness:

1.Stop smoking weed
>m-muh weed cures depression
Fuck no. It makes you complacent, lazy, saps your motivation and makes you comfortable with your misery. After 5 years of almost daily toking I came to realise weed hasn't given me almost anything while simultaneously becoming the only thing I looked forward to. After I tapered off I realised how slow, foggy and emotionally unstable it made me

2. Stop watching porn
This is such a cult around here that I won't even explain it. Pretty much same as weed - it rewires your brain so you get shitloads of satisfaction in the form of dopamine from watching someone fuck a slut, instead of pursuing sluts yourself

3. Workout
obviously

4. Diet
Obvious, but still - watch your sugar intake, watch your simple carbs in the morning (better start with fatty and protein-rich food in the morning so you don't instantly spike your insulin), eat your greens, eat less processed shit, drink more water

GET YOUR GUT MICROBIOME IN CHECK
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4CBy0uVqRc&t=3s

5. Supplements
If you're anxious/depressed, go on examine.com and look at the following:

-ZMA
-Ashwagandha
-St.John's Wort
-Bacopa Monnieri
-Fish oil
-5-HTP
-Phenibut (careful with that one)
-aniracetam/piracetam (any -racetam drugs)

I know it's difficult to do anything when you're depressed, but if you want to ever overcome it, you gotta start small and be persistent.
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>>46020057
>Fuck no. It makes you complacent, lazy, saps your motivation and makes you comfortable with your misery. After 5 years of almost daily toking I came to realise weed hasn't given me almost anything while simultaneously becoming the only thing I looked forward to. After I tapered off I realised how slow, foggy and emotionally unstable it made me

This is 100% my experience. I tried a shitton of drugs including harder ones, but weed did by far the most damage to my life.
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>>46020057
>I know it's difficult to do anything when you're depressed
true but i was desperate for help
so desperate that i tried meditation
it is hard to do every day , sometimes i get a 4 or 5 day streak
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqYPhGiB9tkShZorfgcL2lA
thats a great channel
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>>46020057
>It makes you complacent, lazy, saps your motivation and makes you comfortable with your misery

So much this. All I have are anecdotes but pot heads rarely work harder than they need to in order to keep a roof over their head, food in their bellies and hobbies (usually movies and internet) paid for.
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tfw living the NEET life in the couple weeks between end of classes and start of summer work. feels good man

>wake up, lift with long time best friend from hs who I haven't seen since winter break
>spend afternoon reading (the name of the rose by umberto eco, really good) and working on photography
>have home cooked meal with family and go on light stroll with parents
>spend night listening to music and working on a short story I'm writing

just got back from the gym, today it's raining so I'm staying inside and watching Werckmeister Harmonium by Bela Tarr. Feels comfy

>things to improve:
cut down on internet/social media, I've gotten better but still have the tendency to waste time mindlessly flipping between the same 4 or 5 apps/sites
>girl I was dating last semester is studying abroad and I can't talk to her that much, need to give less fucks and stop being insecure about her

hope everyone has a good day!
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>>46018860
Thinking about having this as my only meal for the day. A Chipotle Burrito Bowl, plus two free tortillas. It has half chicken, half steak, white and brown rice, black and pinto beans, lettuce, fajita vegies, and a little bit of sour cream. Is this an ok option for OMAD?
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>>46020545
Not enough protein M8
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>>46020057
What exactly am I supposed to do to get my microbiome in check? I get probiotics and healthy eating but that won't fundamentally alter it. Steal a fit person's poo and shove it up my ass?
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>>46020545
Just had chipotle for my main meal of the day, go for it dude.

But yeah like this guys said >>46020573 tomorrow have extra protein or something
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most people here are massive indoctrinated delusional cringy cunts
jesus christ
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>>46021275
don't forget you're one of us now
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I live my life the way I want to but I'm stealing some of you guys' tips. Reading? Hell yeah I've been starting to read and meditate too. How long is a good time for reading and meditating?
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I just want a girl to like me i'm so fucking lonely
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Today
>wrote about another 1300 words of my novel. Shit is now starting to unfold and popping out of my head from literally nowhere.
>now i'm through 4/5 of learning Let it Be, piano arrangement with both hands. Still a couple of clumsy passages where my hands are sticky on the keyboard
>today squatted 130kg (286) and OHP 58 (128) from previous 128 and 57 of last Friday
>unsubscribed myself from /pcgaming and /MGTOW

Issues:
>i will see a very nice girl, my age, this Saturday, she wants to partake to my non profit organization. I have some clues that it's a set-up meeting from one of my associates to have us know each others. But i FEAR a lot i'm daydreaming and am being derailed by my own fantasies. Day dreaming is the bane of everything that is right. I keep repeating in my head that it's virtually impossible that she's not already engaged, but it does not work. I'm reading 50 pages of Copleston a day just to keep my mind busy.
>i have not ejaculated in 2 months, and i cannot stop thinking about fucking any decent piece of meat i see. I started smiling back to cashier girls ffs.


pic is how cool i'm feeling rightnow
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>>46020057
Why are weed fags the most insufferable faggots around? They keep harping on about it's alleged benefits, but the vast majority of them are utter losers.
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>>46018860
>What has been going well?
I've spent the last few days planning how to make things better i.e improvement, also beat my PR solving a rubiks cube in 2min40s which was pretty nice
>What are you having troubles with?
even though I know everything will help me and I'll feel almost infinitely better it still kind of feels pointless, I'll be doing something that makes me happier but it feels pointless
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1) Stop masturbating, and stop addictions, read this:

https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home

Don't fight against your own will, don't count the days, don't use the willpower method, you don't have to fight through it, you just have to think about it.
4 hours to read (i don't even speak English....)

2) Read this (very short, 1.5 hours, and i still don't even speak English)

https://www.amazon.com/War-Art-Winning-Creative-Battle/dp/1501260626

It's difficult to say what it's about, but broadly it's about doing the shit you have to do: here are some clues


3) fucking pic related! STOP DOING your usual shit, do something completely different. And commit to it (having read the previous book). Your brain CAN be rewired, you can associate a positive feedback loop with something you have been terrorized by up to today (like social events and girls). I swear to god, i buried myself in my house for 8 years, now i can't stay inside for more than 5 hours, i've spent the last 2 months doing the most crazy shit, from chopping down trees to gathering signatures for city council's redressal (is that even a word, isn't it in the bor?. Have i already saied i'm not even English?)
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>>46020458
ah that sounds comfy my friend >)
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>>46022854
what the fuck is your life
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>>46022999
>>What are you having troubles with?
>even though I know everything will help me and I'll feel almost infinitely better it still kind of feels pointless, I'll be doing something that makes me happier but it feels pointless

Plan to have kids. Have kids and do everything for them.
Or just try to do things to not hurt others. Try to not turn others' life into misery. Or even better, try doing something that will improve not only your life, but the lives of others too. Like what? Like donate blood tomorrow. Go to a meeting\conference that is vaguely interesting just to enlarge the audience for the guys who did the work to organize the event. Sit on your chair and think to be funny, think about making a joke about the first thing you see, then be funny in public, give people a laughter
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>>46023030
it's a fucked up life.

I own 10 homes and live out renting them.
Last year i've spoken in front of a crowd about once every 2 months, still i can't watch a person in the eyes for more than 10 seconds.
I have a non profit organization, but i never had a best friend in my life.
I arrange family parties, events for others, for free,and spending a lot of effort so they can feel cozy, but i don't have an intimate life, and, more of everything i wish i could have somebody to love.

i'm trying to be a decent person. I'm hoping i won't spend my entire life giving to the others without getting anything back. I don't think i'm entitled to anything, but still, i wish.
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>>46018860
Ive been consetuctively sectioned for a few Summers in a row now, I always get a lot worse during Summer and it always wins. I was doing okay but I recently crashed again and now Im back at square one again, only a few weeks before Summer starts too. Fuck. My plan is to make a light routine and give myself some good hobbies and habits that will just take my mind off things in the meantime. Instead of always trying to completely cure myself of all my problems and solve them all. Just going to focus on a bit of respite and chilling before Summer gets underway.
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>>46023144
How old are you and how did you get the money for the 10 homes?
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>>46023144
>The NEET Gatsby
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>>46023458
34

Have you ever gone on vacation with anything that was not a camping tent and your car? I mean, since the day you were born, with your family, to the day you met that girl you wanted to take a week off with and bang in the ass no stop?
Have you, and 3 generations before you, ever refused to taken out a loan?
Is your car older than 10 years?
Are you running a Core2?

The fanny bit is that my bank savings are going up because i don't spend money, but, since i don't have a salary, the bank refuses me to have a credit card.
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>>46020318
I feel you my dude. It's hard keeping up the habit. What helped me is trying to atleast get in 1 or 2 minutes of "micro-meditation" the days in which I skip it in the morning. This means trying to clear my head for a few minutes while in public transport, while Im washing the dishes, while Im cleaning or basically while I'm doing any mundane activity. I've noticed that this actually works well along with the meditation practice because it incorporates moments of mindfulnes throughout your day, which becomes a habit in itself.
Thanks for the channel, gonna check it out for sure.

>>46020852
Good for you if you're taking probiotics. That's pretty much what I meant. Aside from shoving shit in your ass you should also consider looking more into what these probiotics are pro-bioting. Maybe take something more specific. I can't recall the name of the specific bacterias which have been linked with decreased anxiety/depression, but they're in the video somewhere.

>>46022924
No need to be harsh, I used to defend weed all the time when I was still a novice pothead. The bad effects only start creeping up after 1-2 years of heavy use. Weekend/monthly stoners may never feel brain fog or loss of motivation. Try smoking mulitple times a day for a year and see where the positive effects go.
Like any other drug, weed is okay in moderation and can even be beneficial.
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>>46022854
>1300 pages written today

I just imagine a 1 gb text file filled with complete gibberish and no grammar or formatting
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>>46023604
>Core2?
core2duo? yes I am thank you very much
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>>46024649
>that reading comprehension

This is what happens when you cut education funding.
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>>46020852
Eat healthy, more specifically reduce/remove sugar and carbohydrate intake and take good probiotics.
They should have 10+ different bacteria stems and 10 billion per serving at least
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>>46021316
>meditating?
idk 10 min or 20 min maybe 5.
the app headspace is a easy way to learn
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>>46024800
>good probiotics.
making kimchi is easy , watch these two vids and try !
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUwy71ddj1M
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTucCw1w6Ak

pic somewhat related , do not eat a standard American diet
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>>46023604
Dads money?
Even if you are a total slum lord 10 houses is still $1MM minimum. If you took a $10,000 vacation every year for the 16 years that you have been paying for your own vacations and you bought 3 brand new $30k cars during that time it still leaves $750,000 that you had to somehow come up with.
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Any tips for nofap?
A new tip I'm excited to try is to hold your breathe for 30 seconds when the urge arises.
The other problem I have is long drawls of lethargy from shooting my adrenals with so much porn and it feels as if I only can revitalize myself with a fap, but then I fap too much and I'm sapped again.
Probably just need to get through a few days to balance out the energy levels on nofap.
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>>46025478
>The other problem I have is long drawls of lethargy
try a cold shower . not really for no fap but for the energy . but perhaps the mental gains would help resisting the urge to fap .
ive never understood the no fap . i fap every couple of days or so . i dont think about it much . what is to be gained from no fap?
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>>46025478
>A new tip I'm excited to try is to hold your breathe for 30 seconds when the urge arises.
try this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EWHRumILOOk

this next vid wimm explains and you can do it with joe
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9zS94x2nd8
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>>46018860

A lot of things have been going very well for me lately, and some things haven't. I take them both as they come to me now.

Physical health has been steadily improving for 3 years now and I am starting to like how I look and feel again.

The biggest thing has been the mental health part. I've struggled with feeling "not good enough" forever. Been in therapy for months now. I understand where it comes from, and how it effected me and I feel much happier. My depression feels less and less like it has a hold over me.
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>>46020458
sounds really good, jealous anon
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I know I'm normal looking, actually quite masculine looking and 6'3. Now that I'm taking care of my appearance and getting fit I'm almost handsome.

Yet theres still a voice in my head that says no girl could ever love me because I'm so hideous. It basically stems from childhood when I was about 12yo with no friends, and had terrible acne, and girls would bully me, slap me and say I was so fucking ugly I waa the ugliest person in the world. My crush said that to me, so thats how I felt.

But I know I'm not ugly now. I have the courage to ask girls out now so I'm gonna do it and maybe when I get a gf I'll finally get over this

Sorry for blog
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super long story short:
>like a girl
>breaks with her bf
>says she likes me and all that
>wants to talk with me to make things clear
>asks me for some time alone before having a relationship
>pretend to be mature and strong and agree
>last saturday
>she starts conversation with me, we chat for around an hour
>tells me she wants to see me next saturday, so we can see Deadpool and then talk
>agree but still on this weird hiatus of comunication
>stressed and anxious as fuck
>missed last night
>this morning
>didn't wake up for college
>not doing any fuckin work at my job
>not studying

Fucking hell. How the fuck do you deal with this?
I know things are going well and this girl likes me and that there's a very big chance that we will get together in a matter of months, but I am still devastated by having to stop texting her. I can't fucking wait until saturday to see her but at the same time I can't get her out of my fucking mind.
Even though she has told me she wants me to work hard on college and graduate and all that shit. I can't fucking do any of it. I can't stop procrastinating, stalking her facebook profile and just not doing anything. I feel so weak and effeminate.

Anyone been in a similar situation?
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>>46026252
missed last night's gym session*
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>>46026252
I've had a similar experience. You're gonna run yourself ragged over her, and eventually become so needy and desperate that you'll tank your own chances. Start sincerely pursuing other people instead of putting all your eggs into her one basket.
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>>46026252
>all that BS
That's exactly what women want to happen to you, she built up the hype and then yanked the fucking rug out from under you to make you more desperate. 90% of women do this shit.

>>46026287
Do this. Fuck waiting for her, she is just some basic ass ho and there's thousands like her out in the world. Just date other women and when she's ready (aka she knows that her ex bf is for sure not going to take her back or she can't get with someone better than you that she's had her eye on) you can go out with her if you still feel like it.

Let me be clear with you my man, women weigh their options out. If she REALLY told you that she needs some "time alone" it's because she wants to make sure you are the best option at that moment before she makes the commitment. She's fucking trash and you shouldn't even waste your time with a bitch like that, but I know you will anyways because I've been in that same exact situation in the past and I always did just what you're doing. It wasn't until the cunt moved away and was no longer an actual option for me that I was able to move on with my life and eventually get married and be truly happy. It's a horrendous spot to be in and I'd like to save you some trouble.
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>>46026252
Stop it dude, you're just setting yourself up to be a wreck the minute none of this goes the way you expected. I know its hard, but you gotta chill out and keep living your life. You can only believe so much out of a woman's mouth, and that's one of the last things I'd take at face value.
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After fucking with some stupid exercises and telling myself I could start working out again till I got a bench this week I said fuck it. I just picked up my dumbells and did some meat and potatoes lifts not worrying about things like aesthetics or routine optimisation, or any routine glamorised by /fit/. Just lifting the way I did when I was a teenager, a time in which I was never stronger. Felt really good. Still really want a bench but what I'm doing now will have to suffice til I figure something out.
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>>46026627
>could
couldn't
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>>46026388
>>46026287

I hear you guys, really.
I know women are thots and all their dirty tricks. And I also know how stupid it is to be arguing with other people on the internet about how I found "Miss Perfect" out of every other female in the world.... But yeah, this girl is a little different.
We've known each other since we were 12, we're both 24 now. She was my first gf when we were just little innocent kids and then life split us up for like ten years. Now we're back in our lifes, we've dated and talked a lot.
The night she kissed me she was anxious and nervous as fuck. I never thought I'd see a female being nervous about kissing a guy. "You're the first guy in seven years I've kissed, other than my ex".

I'm typing a lot of details. My point is, I do think this girl is special.
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>>46026682
My point is I don't think she is going to pull a thot trick out of nowhere for me. I do trust she has good intentions and is a somewhat "good" girl. But yeah, I still think like you guys. I should try to get her a little out of my head.

>>46026595
>>46026595
>You can only believe so much out of a woman's mouth, and that's one of the last things I'd take at face value.
I know. It is just so hard to do sometimes.
I am posting all of this in this thread because I just need other men to remind me of the stuff that supposedly know. I am so distracted. But I guess I should try my best to keep living my life without her, and, when she comes back, it will only make it better. I'm just distracted.
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>>46026682
>i do think this girl is special
Bro, read what I said again. She's not special, she's not different, she's doing what every other bitch like her does when they're looking for the next pony to take out for a ride.

At 24 years old you don't need to go through some formal waiting period before you can go out on a date with someone else, you're a fucking adult and understand what the situation is. I could put money down that said you aren't the only other guy in her life and that she caused the situation with her old bf to go South. This isn't even to say that you yourself aren't special or that you wouldn't make a girl nervous, maybe you would, but that's just how chicks roll my man. I'm older than you and married, I've dated upwards of 50 different women in my day, I know how this story ends and it's not going to end well in the event that she decides some other Chad is the better choice.

Just casually date other girls, doesn't mean shit, you don't belong to her either way. You don't have to fuck them, just go out and have a good time, there's no harm in it. If she seriously expects you to wait like a fucking dog until her pussy airs itself out she's not worth your time.
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>>46026682
We all thought our girl was special too. And they were, in a lot of ways. Pining over her is still the worst play to make.

You are not well right now. You're suffering from a very common delusional state that almost all of us go through. Our heads are designed to fall into this temporary insanity so we can turn of the sober part of our brains and propagate the species. You need to pull back for your own sake.
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So, I don’t have any way of proving this, but I went from KHV in high school (let’s call it 2010) to fit, social, went to Ivy League, wealthy working in venture capital at 24, qt Brazilian gf, party on the weekends, etc.

I’m happy to answer any questions but like I said I can’t prove this so you’ll have to take my answers for what they are and evaluate them for yourself, as this is anecdotal.
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>>46026761
Alright. That puts it in perspective.
Thanks a lot guys.
I'll try my best.
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>>46026860
Any tips for entering VC out of undergrad? Non-Ivy, currently a sophomore, one non-IBD BB internship, thinking about shooting for MBB.
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>>46019453
Exactly, instead of putting women on pedestal, put their fucking faces in the mud.
All the girls who have ever been attracted to me liked being treated like shit
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>>46020057
>It makes you complacent, lazy, saps your motivation and makes you comfortable with your misery
thc is not responsible for any of those choices anon
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ive been on nofap for a while now, but the problem is that i still have that fetish de-sensitization
i havent looked at porn for a while either and cannot get hard just looking at girls in bikinis
is there any way to normalize my tastes so im not a degenerate?
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>Spent my entire life playing videogames as often as humanely possible
>Decide three weeks ago to drop them
>Struggling to avoid playing them at all unless invited by an IRL friend, which is exceedingly rare
I really want to play some KF2 right now. Should I continue my streak, or allow myself some time to play?
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>>46028025
no transitory pleasure can top the satisfaction of self discipline

examine the sensation, don't distract yourself from it, just don't follow through
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Read Evola, FAGGOTS
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>>46027241
You're getting close. Demonizing women is just putting them on an inverted pedestal.
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>>46025198
Dad's, gandad's and the guys before him.
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>>46018860
is there any books on how to have conversation with people? I have difficulty holding/maintaining conversation with people. My therapist said I don't have autism. IDK what to do.
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Is there any way to improve communication skills and language? I live with asperger's and have been searching for ways to sharpen my skills.
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>>46030247
I know the royal navy gives you a stupidly absurd argument, of which you cannot possibly know anything, and your task is to speak about it for 20 minutes in front of your fellow sailors.

Take a camera and film yourself talking about the most stupid shit ever. Then post on youtube (on some fake account).
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Trying to start getting up early, like 5am. Falling asleep at night is the hardest part because it's early enough for it to still be hot and all the giggly/screamy foreigner neighbors haven't gone to bed yet. It's going to be very hard not to relapse so I think I'll just have to settle for 1 or 2 nights of 4 hour's sleep every week.

The world is a surprisingly nice place early in the morning. Everything's nice and fresh, people seem much less tense and I find I'm more relaxed and focused. Plus getting shit done early let's you wind down more in the evenings.
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>>46020057
>I know it's difficult to do anything when you're depressed, but if you want to ever overcome it, you gotta start small and be persistent.

Just to back this, I've been having a fucked week. I've only made it my focus so far to make sure my diets right and I can feel my mood lifting
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Feeling pretty good today.
>lowest weight I've been in 6 years (lost 18kg)
>last piece of coursework due tommorow for my two year MA in classical history

struggling with this last peice I'm pretty motivated and pumped up though about the prospect of moving forward and applying for jobs/phds. This time last year I was being a little black pilled bitch.
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>quit gaming
>fill in night now talking to girls, chatting them up, trying to get laid
>i can be talking to 5, but if the 1 i want that night is last active now and hasn't opened my message from 2 minutes ago, i get really sad
>its gotten to the stage where i've been miserable for the last 5 days
>doesnt help im on test/deca/dbol, so my estrogen is probably through the roof
>just want to die, but not actually if that makes sense
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>>46031978
Since you've replace this with gaming do you think it's possible that you're expecting the same dopamine response from a sense of achievement and progress you would get from a game and getting subconsciously upset when it isn't forthcoming?
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>>46031999
holy fuck trips of truth youre spot on
how do you suggest i cure this
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>>46032345
Not him, but stop filling your night with some shit with an end goal. Goals are fine, but if your depends on it and it's nothing critical (like your job) then stop it. Take up a hobby you actually enjoy so that at the end of the day when you still haven't finished up that car it's not sad , it's just something you have to do tomorrow.
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>>46023009
Good post anon
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>>46018922
the hindu bullshit is just allegory. they will call it Prana, you can interprete that as greater oxygen affecting the PH in your blood increasing circulation which relieves stress on your heart and improves brain cognition
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>>46020458
my mang, living the NEET life too for about 6 weeks between working and starting uni mid-year. Shit is comfy, but I don't read nearly enough as you do, only about a chapter a day
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Started learning German a couple weeks ago duolingo isn't really cutting it. What are some other good methods for picking up a new language
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>>46032636
Going to classes
Talking to fluent speakers
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>>46028008

Give it longer. You could also jerk off without porn and try to actively focus on previous (or just vanilla if no previous) sexual encounters.

Jerking off is natural, it's the porn that fucks with your brain.
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>>46029804

The standard recommendation here is How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. I'm pretty sociable and get along well with people but still found it helpful.
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>>46030247

Practice, my dude. Old people often fucking love to talk because they don't get much opportunity to socialize sometimes. If you live in a country where it's socially acceptable to talk to strangers, just do strike up a trite conversation with people you encounter as you go about your day.
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>>46020458
I finish for the year soon, then I work 4 days a week to maintain over the summer. Going to be a comfy time period of heavy lifting and working on my music production skills, can't wait
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>>46031568
Love getting up super early, as a student I'm normally up 4-5 hours before anyone else in my home. Exam season has caused me to take modafinil though due to extended study periods
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How do I stop being insecure about not going out often enough?
I'm an introverted guy but my two little sisters are going out literally every day of the week, and it makes me feel like a loser. I do manage to have some social life but that's not nearly enough and I'm still a fucking virgin at 24.
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>>46032636
watch television in the language youre tring to learn .
ive heard german sitcoms are the bees knees
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>>46033397
Go out more. Especially if you're uncomfortable going out. Treat it like a self-maintenance duty, the same way you shower or brush your teeth.
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>>46029804
>How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
>Models by Mark Manson (mostly dating based)
>Most of Leil Lowndes' stuff
>Toastmasters classes
>practice

10% of your total self-education should be on books.
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>>46033680
How? I go out every chance I get but most of the times people are just busy.
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Lost 10 lbs with intermittent fasting and a 6 day extended fast. Goal is to lose 5-10 more. Getting in shape by doing light cardio and calisthenics around the house during the day. Went for a walk around town yesterday with my brother and got some awesome sun gains going on today.

On the 8th of June I go back to finish up some prereq classes and in the fall just a couple more to finish my degree and start working as a Medical Biller and / or Coder. Maybe even pursue a Masters after that depending on how the job market looks.

Broke my Nofap yesterday after 6 days of feeling amazing without it but that's fine I'm going for another run at it, goal is to kick it for good. It makes me feel amazing, alive, confident, motivated, etc.

The gains have been plentiful.
>tfw no gf tho
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>>46033750
Strike up light conversation with people in shared areas (coffee shops, transit, gyms). And join some kind of club or activity where you're repeatedly interacting with the same set of people and doing a specific task you all like (e.g: casual sports, book club, weeb club etc.). Get a large enough social circle and start trying to make things happen.
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>>46018860
>Finished sophomore year of college at a top 15 business school in top 10% of class.
>Getting masters in finance in 4 years with bachelors in economics-finance combined major
>have qt3.14 gf of 2 almost 2 years
>benching 2 plates, almost squatting 3, working towards 4 plate deadlift
>got an internship in private equity during spring semester, networking for an internship on Wall Street next summer

Life is good bruhs. I'm a former fatty up until junior year of high-school, and I was depressed for most of it. Never stop grinding bruhs and smile through all the shitty parts because it only gets better once it all pays off.
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>>46023009
De donde eres
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>>46018860
Worked out today on schedule, didn't give up even when I was doing on the last set. About to go for a run.
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Trying to draw. Been at it for like 3 days now and pics my best attempt so far.
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Watched a video of Greg Plitt today where he talks about transformation and a method for overcoming your weaknesses, addictions etc. Something clicked in me, and I for the first time I feel like I am in control in overcoming the shit I've been carrying around with me and working towards becoming the person I want to be.
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>>46035828
Its going to take forever for me to reach pic related level.
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>>46035828
Go download Loomis drawing texts. Emulating anime as a drawing foundation off the bat is gonna lead to Chris-chan tier art. You can always shift to weeb style later.
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>>46035942
I actually just got loomis earlier today.
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>>46035975
That's good. If you're having trouble, you'll probably have to go all the way to basics with stuff like still life sketches, landscapes, and grid drawing. Beginner artists have to unlearn a lot of bad habits, like drawing what you perceive (schemas and symbols) instead of drawing what you actually see. Anime and cartoons are 99% symbols and schema.
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>>46020057
just a tip, if your doc is prescribing you something and you're taking some St. John's Wort you should mention it cause it fucks with a whole bunch of other medications
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>>46035909
So your idea of self-improvement is being able to draw loli erotica.
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>>46027802
This

Weed helps me be more active and lets me clear my head. Maybe they are smoking the wrong stuff
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>>46019036

Awesome. Staying busy really is the key. There's a bit of a momentum boost you get from just knocking down errands all day.
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>>46035909
>>46035828
Have a seat anon...
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>>46035377
Run went well, also I got my protein goal today.
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>>46036347
>>>/reddit/
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>>46036297
yes, Im already a good programmer and started working on a dwarf fortress inspired dating sim, but no one is going to want to play a dating sim with programmer art, so now I need to learn.
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>stop eating outside of two small meals a day
>stop masturbating, don't even really feel the urge
>finally sort out a bunch of shit I've had backburnered for more than a month
>still managed to fail my Calc final

Oh well I'm not even upset, I'll just make up for it this summer

Why is everything so good right now
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How many 'things' should you do at one time? Im not talking about multi tasting, but things you do in a day or week at a particular day or week. I have 11 (Lift, Job1, Job2, Studying, Hoby1, Hoby2, SelfImprovementActivity1...) and I feel like Im not spending enough time on each. Lifting is just 1h a day, and the time I spend on Job1 as also nicely boxed, but the rest I have to divide time up manually.

Of the remaining 9 things I try to do 2 a day, and spend at least some time one a week on each. maybe I should only focus on 3 of them each week and make sure I do each one a month?
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>>46036363

>>>/sex offenders register/
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>>46033887
Why did you decide to go into business finance? Just the money?
I'm struggling to find a career path I truly enjoy, regardless of how much money I'd make.
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>Overcame Depression
Noticed I had serve depression and thought about suicide daily. Went to therapy and got on the meds.

>Fast forward 4 months
I am now actually happy with myself and I no long have thoughts about dying or being loney

>fitness
Since I am actually happy now and no longer just want to stay in bed, I am lifting and making amazing grains with the addition of shredding a lot of fat.

>Job/School
I got an amazing part time job that pays really good and good hours. I am going back to school to finish the degree since I am in a better mindset to keep me motivated to work.

I feel like everything is going normal anons. If any of you feel lost or have thoughts of suicide, please talk to someone. We're gonna make it
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>>46036450
I think it's more about consistency than quantity
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I'm leaving to hike 500+ miles in about 10 hours. My life is fucked in every way other than my fitness, since apparently that's all I can find motivation in. Hopefully this helps
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>>46036389
Right. Ya. Please change your fetishes, wanting to fuck children is in no way shape or form an improvement.
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>>46036471
Seriously, go back there.
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>>46036521
Godspeed on your journey man. May it give you new insights on life. I hiked this morning and my mantra during the hard parts is “Only through suffering can I truly know peace”
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>>46036480
Good work anon, happy for you
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>>46036389
Sounds cool, I'll play it.

>>46036542
>drawings
>children
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>>46026252


Read this. Be this guy.
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>>46036542
Where the fuck did you get the idea that I want to fuck children?
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any outdoor hobbies that aren't physical/sport? i like photography, but it's not something i do consistently everyday/weekend. i need to get some sun.
i thought about fishing, seems comfy.
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>>46036480
What kind of job you got anon? Otherwise congratulations man and I hope it keeps up for you. You're gonna make it and I hope I do as well.
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>>46026860
What were the most important steps in your self improvement ?
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>>46036594
gardening
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>>46036594
Fishing is peaceful. Hell the few times I fished I didn't even bother reeling in the fish half the time. It became more of just an excuse to sit in the shade and relax for a few hours.
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>>46018860
>overcoming depression
Yeah I’ve overcomed it hard to be honest. I feel like I’m finally awake in life. I have goals and aspirations beyond finding new porn and video games. I finally feel like an actual man. I have a life to live and I don’t want to kill myself.
>Mental Well-being
I went through some hurt recently. Fucked things up with a woman but it was the first time I’ve had anything close to a gf. The emotional suffering passed and I came out the other side mentally and emotionally stronger.
>financial planning
Broke as a joke paying for school but it’s an investment. I can get my foot in the door into dentistry and make way more money than I do now. Then I can start investing and saving properly. Starting early so I can have my first million put away as quickly as possible. Dodging hedonism and spending money quick is hard in today’s world because of wanting to impress thots but I’m sure it will pay off
>career planning
It’s going good. Going to be a dental assistant soon once I finish school. Work that for a year or 2 then work on my education to become an actual dentist.

It’s funny. Teenaged me probably wouldn’t even recognize the person I am now. I’m proud of that and still have more to do.
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>>46033750

Start trying out new hobbies, make small talk with people there.

Scope some new hangouts. If you feel like having a pint and watching the game, stroll down to a local pub to do so instead of doing it at home. If you want a coffee, grab one at a local café. Always go to the same gym. Check out gathering places that link to your hobbies (local game stores, outfitter shops, etc.) Make small talk with the regulars and staff you see at these places. You'll get practice being a social person and likely make some new friends.
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>>46036554
>>46036564
Are you in denial? Define a loli for me. A prepubescent cartoon girl right? And you want to fuck it right?

>oh its a cartoon its ok
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>>46036761
They dont even look like real children, except that they are called children in anime world they have no relation to real children. Do you think people who like tentacle porn want to fuck squids irl too?

(If you know children irl who look like lolis please tell me where to find them)
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>>46018922
Not Hindu but why the fuck would you meditate in a class? Doesn't that defeat the whole purpose of meditation? Isn't it ideal to sit in complete utter silence in your own presence rather than with other people next to you?
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>>46036761
Yes, because fiction and reality are different. If you can't tell the difference between fiction and reality, you might want to talk to a therapist.
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>>46036847
>(If you know children irl who look like lolis please tell me where to find them)
man im on your side but youre kind of hurting your argument here
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>>46036926
It's ideal to actually learn how to meditate first.
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any good reading recs for coping with general anxiety?

I'm still too poor to pay for therapist, though I'm looking forward to try my best meanwhile

I'm fucking tired of being constantly preocuppied by absolutely nothing and tired from it
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>>46037000
Go out of your way to trigger your anxiety, and seek out things that makes you especially anxious. Deep breathing exercises too
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>>46018882
2-4 weeks if done properly.
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>>46036326
>>46027802

Different strokes for different folks I guess. In my experience weed only had similar effects to what you describe in the first year of (only occasional) toking. After that it was mostly paranoia, lack of motivation, couch lock and brain fog. I currently study in the Netherlands so I have access to all kinds of good-quality weed and I've yet to find a strain that makes me even remotely active or clear-headed.

However, if it works for you smoke up by all means, I'm actually happy for you that you don't have to give up one of your favorite past times for the sake of being a functional human being
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>>46036478
Then try to find something you find worthy of your resources and attention. I was in the same boat as you before my bachelors but when the time came for me to decide I realised I'd never feel fulfiled working just for myself, for a corporation or for other people (which excludes a shitload of popular choices), then I thought about what I find interesting and what I find meaningful. Some choices were purely "interesting" (psychology for example), while other were purely "meaningful" (medicine). Finally I found something which fell in both categories and now I'm extremely happy with my choice.

Don't fall for the "this is not gonna be profitable so I might as well not take it" meme and sure as hell don't fall for "this is a trendy/profitable career path and I want security" meme. Just think of your interests, think of what makes you the most angry and outraged in the world and pick a path which would allow you to make a difference.
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>>46036926
>>46032557
I went today, Hindu bullshit was limited to a couple of mantras at the beginning and end. Meditation classes are usefull in the sense that
A) You are going to a place to meditate, forcing yourself to go
B) Learning multiple ways to meditate. There is more to meditation than mindfulness of the breath
C) Be able to ask for help if you have questions or problems

>>46037000
Cut out caffeine from your life if you haven't.

>>46037082
Ask for more sativa-heavy strains. Also edibles affect you totally differently. But most people who abuse weed are indeed lazy sacks of shit.
I dunno, I just prefer allmost every drug over alcohol because I really, really hate hangovers.
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>>46037224
Caffeine? Seriously? It's the only drug I'm still in (I also count shitty food, internet escapism and porn as drugs), although only during the morning

and I think it is going to be the hardest to come off. If I'm able to.

But I'll give it a try for a handful of weeks.
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>>46021275
How so? What about self improvement is cringe and makes people indoctrinated?
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>>46037307
I'm sorry man, but there is a clear link between caffeine consumption and anxiety :(
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>>46037307
Maybe just try to wean yourself off it slowly. I was never a caffeine type of person as it always made me a bit anxious and made me constantly feel my pulse (which is naturally really fast). I'd suggest black tea with milk, as you can make it as strong as you wish and it's also good as fuck as a morning drink.

>>46037224
Trust me dude, you're talking to a full-fledged (ex)stoner. I've tried all sorts of sativa strains, but the only difference they make is that they cause a bit less lazyness and a bit more anxiety which still makes them useless for me. What I am planning to do after my exams is to try CBD weed with a small bit of sativa weed to see if the extra CBD would balance the anxiety of the sativa. Even if it doesn't, it's still going to be a nice reward.
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>>46018860
- What has been going well?
I worked out at noon every day this week.

- What are you having troubles with?
It's difficult to eat clean, because i dont have that much time to prepare a good meal after a gym session.
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>>46037197
Appreciate the advice. Any time I try to think of my interests though, I can never come up with anything. Maybe I'm thinking too hard or subconsciously ignoring them. Maybe I'm just autistic. But I'll try to take this advice anon.
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>>46033397
Just stay busy, be too busy to go out. It's the only way. Once you have a job and get some decent hobbies to do in the evening (go to the gym in the morning) you'll have just enough time for a gf. Then your life will be so much more complete and satisfying than people who just "go out" and drink alcohol
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>>46037476
There is not a shred of actual individual thought in a lot of posts. Every time you read
>cut caffeine/weed/drugs
>cut video games/internet
>learn instrument/langauge
>read real old book
its either the biggest case of parallel thinking, or people are taking what they should develop into, or whats productive, or even what they think they want, mainly from society/self help books/memes in the scientific sense.
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>>46037528
>>46037520
Okay, I'll read into it and try to get off it as hard as I can. Black tea or chai with honey is top tier.

Have a good week with your personal goals /sig/anons
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Pic related

>>46037528
Youre talking to another dutchie with 5 saplings in his windowstill. The problem with weed is that you're consuming dozens of chemicals which all interact differently with different people. I don't even know what the point of this conversation was.

>>46037580
So what do you propose
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>>46037580
It is individual thought, it's the rational part of the mind that says "wouldn't it be cool if I spoke 14 languages and had read all of the great books and was a virtuoso pianist".

This is what most people wish they could do. But all these things are incredibly difficult. They are not as easy or fun as playing games and wanking. So perhaps these goals haven't been well thought out.

For me personally, learning another language is too much time investment for such little benefit. I simply do not have the time nor do I think it's worth the time when English is already such a universal language
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>>46037643
>This is what most people wish they could do
absolutely not. Funnily enough right after you disproved that point.
People do not want to learn that shit, good for you that you realized that that shit is retarded.
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>>46037605
i thought that dot on the lower right was lint on my screen
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>>46037676
This isnt meant to be difficult to grasp. Would you rather be able to speak 14 languages or not be able to speak 14 languages? Any sane person will say they would speak as many languages as possible if it required zero effort.
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>>46018860
wow i've never actually expanded that picture, I always thought it was a bunch of condom and candy wrappers
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>>46037699
Okay, but irrelevant?
Its still a very clear indicator of someone not being a person worth talking to. yet.
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>>46025478
I always want to fap when I have nothing to do. So the best is to be always busy and distracted from your urge.
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>>46037736
Its completely relevant to know what people would like to have with zero effort. Money, sex, knowledge, power, thats what they WANT.

The problem is that everything requires effort and everyone is extremely lazy. So you better start prioritising and compromising.
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>>46023009
>here are some clues

Forgot link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6B-dG-IwNmA
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>>46023009
>2) Read this (very short, 1.5 hours, and i still don't even speak English)
>https://www.amazon.com/War-Art-Winning-Creative-Battle/dp/1501260626

Holy shit this book is so good. Thanks for the recommendation. You can get it on pdf here https://aimeeknight.files.wordpress.com/2016/01/the-war-of-art_fastpencil_pbo.pdf
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>>46023009
I stopped reading that hack book easy peasy thing because it wouldn't stop telling me how great its program is and how it will always work, without actually telling me what to do. I was 100% sure it was trying to sell me something.
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>>46036478
End of high school I didn't really know what i wanted. Even freshman year I was considering doing a marketing major for a couple months, but then I got into finance and it just clicked with me. So I basically got lucky.
Ever since I've gotten focused on improving myself and my life, I've always wanted to become the best. I decided on Wall Street because most people can't work the crazy hours and shit like that. I also like being able to be proud of what I've done and what my goals are. When my gf's parents and extended family first met me and asked what I wanted to do and I responded with Investment Banking they shut up and instantly respected me.

That's just me though. Find something you enjoy, but something that you can also get paid for. Then grind at it until you're the best. Realistically, will you ever be the best? Probably not. But that means that you always have something to work for.
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I went to ask out a girl who looked fiiine from my periphery........... like a niceguy autist I asked her out EVENTHO i didnt like what I saw on closer inspection (acne of some kind on her cheeks).

How do I get out of this, or should I smash anyway? Also how do I get her to pay for shit without looking like a cheapskate coz I don't want to waste money lol
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>>46038885
Nigga after you finish your meal say youre going to the bathroom and skkkrt out of there like sanic. Youre having doubts so might as well get a free meal.
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>>46039668
Cmon dude im not that evil lol , plus shes a student must be like 18 - 20 young flesh is hard to come by (im 27)
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What do I do about feeling like I have no memory anymore?

Is learn things all the time, online, reading, etc. But I can't remember anything days, weeks, months later. It feels like it's getting worse. I'm only in my late 20s...
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>>46036389
Is it a loli dating sim so you can see what it's like to date a 12 year old?
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>>46039721
Well just bang her if you value young poon so much...id just get the meal but its your choice
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>>46029804
The Social skills guidebook by Chris MacLeod
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>>46036552
Thanks anon.

>>46036599
IT for a small company. Also thanks anon. You will make it. You gotta trust the process
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>>46018882
Change happens when you move up to 18/6
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>>46038463
finish the book you lazy fuck it doesnt sell you anything
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I graduated college a few days ago, so my education is done. Never going back to university, perhaps I'll go to trade school if I want to, but never to college.

Now, I have to focus on losing about 150 lbs. I have some endocrine issues that's making it a little difficult, but I'm also having a procedure done in a few months to fix those problems. Trying to lose as much weight as possible before that surgery.

Doing a lot of aerobics. I'm really into those 30 min. DVDs, because the movements are good for my legs. I... Have some not so great things going on with my legs that makes running and jogging/fast walking next to impossible. But, this gets my heart rate up and it makes me sweat!

I can't go no-carb because of my illnesses, but I've been getting my carbs primarily from fruits. I have been just absolutely obsessed with smoothies and smoothie bowls. Had a kiwi + apple + strawberry mix tonight and it had no right being as good as it was.

Mental state is a little bit better, actually. I'm not cramped in a matchbox dorm, which I think is improving things a lot. Sometimes there are dark days, but they come and go a lot faster, now. I bought a really pretty dress a few weeks ago, so I have physical motivation. It's an XL, which I'm okay with. I'm broad shouldered and tall, and I'd like a little muscle once the fat has gone down.

I've gotten much more serious about my past time, which is storytelling through animation. I get to have a really big space to work on the moving pictures tomorrow, so I'm very excited about that.

I wish you all well.
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Making it a habit to go to the library, coffee shops to get my work done - as a freelancer it's quite easy to stay home and work which makes being around people at other times feel weird and awkward or anxiety-inducing. Feel much better when I'm out around others.

Aside from that I've been stretching regularly every morning, starting to take care of my teeth by flossing daily, using mouthwash midday, also bought a new body wash, new razors and tomorrow I'm planning to go buy some new shirts and shorts. Small changes have been powerful for me and seem to have a positive affect on my self confidence and overall happiness.
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>>46042064
eat less
go low carb or omad or fast
chek the fast general op
penn basical did omad but went high carb
vegan so pick yer poison and drink the cool aids
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>>46043061
Appreciate the advice, anon, but I have to make sure all my diet changes are approved by my physician. I'm on a cut, but my metabolism basically doesn't exist, so if I only cut out calories then nothing's going to really change. I have to exercise, as well as eat.

Fasting does not work with endocrine illnesses. It makes the situation worse, more often than not you'll put on weight. I heard once that 500 kcal was the minimum someone who is sick should ingest, but that varies based on the individual.
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>>46043367
>but my metabolism basically doesn't exist, so if I only cut out calories then nothing's going to really change.
That isn't how physics works.
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>>46043367
>more often than not you'll put on weight
you cant gain weight when you arent eating
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>>46043367
Hormonal and metabolic disorders can resist weight loss temporarily, but they cannot violate the conservation of energy. Eating at a strict, steady deficit for several weeks cant be outmanuevered like that.
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>>46036292
are you studying for step 1 too?
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>>46039750
Start writing notes about all the stuff you want to remember, and browse through your notes sometimes? Even if something looks so memorable that you couldn't possibly forget about it, write it down in as much detail as possible if you consider it important to remember.
I recently found this old diary thing that I used to write approximately five years ago, and I was surprised by some of the content in it; I had forgotten about a lot of the things that I had written in it. Some of these things returned back into my mind immediately after reading about them. But unfortunately some of my notes were so vague that I couldn't understand them, and I couldn't remember what they meant anymore.

Anyway, people forget things and can't memorize everything. It's normal. But I think writing notes can help you remember things a little better, and reading through your notes much later can provide you cues that help you recover almost-forgotten memories.
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Focus on having close connections with family and close friends, anon. Girls are attracted to males with social circles already, not beta loners. Plus once you have a solid social circle you'll be less lonely. Only way you can handle rejection and not spiral downwards.
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I really enjoy my job. I like doing it and it is one of the best jobs I've had which I got after a string of incredibly shit jobs. I've worked it since my mid 20s into now my early 30s. However, the pay is bad, about US$20,000 a year and there is no advancement.
I really don't know if I should keep doing this nice job or improve my financial situation with something that I'll almost certainly enjoy less but for more money.
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>>46039757
There will be lolis, they might be 200yo vampires depending on the legality of it all.
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How do i save money? Im constantly battling to keep my account positive. Working part time while at uni
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I really need help and I don’t know what to do. I’ve had depersonalization disorder since I was 14 and my life is a wreck. I’ve been practicing philosophy and using escapism to hide from my overwhelming anxiety and disconnection from reality while trying to live a functional life. I’ve started binge eating and I’m 215 pounds. I hit 1/2/3/4 but it doesn’t matter because of the body fat. I haven’t attended my classes in weeks out of fear of being judged for missing class one day. I stay up till 4 am every single night. I panic eat food until I want to vomit and then I hide the fact that I binge eat to my family, friends, and girlfriend and then eat dinner with them to pretend I didn’t just binge eat. I’m failing in school despite being so intelligent and leagues ahead of my peers and my family finds me intolerable because all I do is suffer between sleeping from 4am to 1pm and going to work and pretending im at school. I don’t know what to do and I just can’t fucking take it anymore
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>>46046279
>omg my life is so shit
>and btw I have a gf lol
fuck of.
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>>46046298
>having a girlfriend instantly makes your life good
Someones never had a girlfriend. If you ever get one you’re going to be really disappointed.
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>>46019453
Listen to Patrice O'Neal on O&A on youtube. Specifically the black philip series. he has the same attitude but was a fat black guy
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How do I stop being a misogynist piece of shit?
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>>46046279
I was you except I did drugs instead of binge eating. Stop going to classes for a while and focus on your mental health

Seek professional help is the answer. Stop classes for a semester and focus on your mental health. You need to step out of the daily grind that is wearing you down.
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>>46046926
Stop actively hating in general. Just become a male chauvinist.
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>>46046926
Did you know there's this symbolical pedestal men put women on? Sure you do. But did you know that there's a reverse-pedestal men also put women on? Stop putting women on that one as well.
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>>46047086
Please use words I can understand
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>>46047156
Men often put women on a pedestal. The reverse pedestal is where you hate women in the same way that those retards worship them. They didn't earn your hate, just like they didn't earn your worship.
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>>46047196
I see your point, I guess I just gotta find ways to put it in practice. I have so many women in my life running shit and I grow so tired of them it's hard not to hate them. My doc is a women, my psychiatrist is a women, my psychologist is a women, my social worker is a women, I get so tired of those women running my life and not understanding me. Before I knew it I was hating on any girls I saw, even those who didn't do anything to me
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>>46047268
It's fine to hate people who have earned it, it's even fine to assume you'll dislike women more than men, but try to realize it isn't worth hating random people. Too much energy to do nothing but damage your mental health and social life.
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>>46046419
>Someones never had a girlfriend.
your deduction skills are amazing.
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Hey guys, can you help me find motivation?
The last 2 years went like:
>2 months of getting fit and diet
>2 months of loosing every bit of interest
>repeat
I work 10 hours a day mostly so I always end up not wanting my little free time spent in the gym. I live alone so I have to cook and clean for myself. So I'd rather spend the remaining 2-3 hours chilling or reading. I just can't keep up with the motivation. Have you got any tips? Or a fucking e-book or something which motivates me? Halp please, I'm stuck
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going to the beach with a girl today :)
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>>46047915
motivation is like a battery you have to recharge every so often. Nobody stays motivated forever so people force themselves to go to the gym or diet even when they dont want to just so that it'll form habits.

just stick with it, eventually you'll want to go to the gym every single day and have to force yourself to rest once you get a good routine set into habit
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>>46033473
with subtitles?
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>>46037000
1. Meditate for sure, mindfulness is insanely helpful for dealing with anxiety.
2. Make sure you get enough sleep, develop a nightly routine before bed that involves no screens at all. It should take ~ a half hour.
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>>46047915
I can't tell if this pic is a baby or some obese guy with a babyface and no teeth,
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>>46047268
You could probably request for your psychiatrist and psychologist to be switched to men, if you go to places with enough people working there. Pretty sure that's a pretty common request, even more common for women to request working with women docs.

But, best advice is like
>>46047289
>>46047196
said, hating shit, especially on random people, is a WASTE of fucking time and energy that you could use to do something constructive or productive. Realize that, and that your time is worth more than to be wasted on negative feelings, and you'll be free. Best of luck brother.
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>>46018860
Recently started consistently training (switched from calisthenics every once in a while to gym 4 days a week) which actually made a MAJOR fucking difference in terms of my mood and energy levels. Suddenly, the brainfog cleared, my libido increased and my confidence is back to somewhat-of-a-functional human being level. Renewed a lot of friendships with girls that I'd been neglecting and am working on establishing new ones too. My levels of charisma have also risen. Life's good boys. I just have to stop being a fucking pussy and actually do something with all the girl friendships. Im good at talking to girls that I've been introduced to through friends/school and I can be funny and somewhat flirtatious but Im still far from being able to approach chicks, escalating or something like that. Still never been on a date and never had a gf. Atleast I've had sex a few times (gotta work on fixing my premature ejaculation though).
/rant

Idk boys, I feel like I'm improving in some areas but then again, I'm still at level one in others with no clear idea of how to fix them. Guess I'll just keep improving one step at a time till then
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>>46050063
I find it pretty funny that I felt the same after ditching gym for weighted calisthenics. It's important to do what makes you feel best is the lesson here
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>>46050094
I think it was more about the consistency and the logistics of gym vs calisthenics. I love calisthenics but when there is nothing holding me accountable going to the park it was easy to get lazy and ditch it. Also now that the weather is nice there's constantly people in the park smoking weed, drinking beers and chilling which kinda discouraged me from going during the day and then I would feel lazy in the evening.
The subscription fee + the gym buddies I have are a immesurable help for keeping me consistent which is what made the change overall
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>>46047915
motivation isn't something you rely on. if you rely on it, it becomes an obstacle, an excuse.
the path to change is discipline. and the only way to gain discipline is to PRACTICE it, which takes willpower. sadly willpower is an underdeveloped 'muscle' for most people (and that's a plenty good metaphor, it gets stronger as you use it and wastes away when you don't.) how do you do it, then?
start small. think: how much willpower-enforced change can I manage, every day? just do ONE thing. one to start with. "Every day I will cook myself a healthy breakfast." "Every day I will say No to cookies/cake/candy/junkfood" "Every day I will meditate for 5 minutes" "Every day I will do 5 pushups/pullups/squats" as examples; make them as large or small as you KNOW you can do EVERY TIME. meditation is especially good for building mental fortitude.
eventually, as you spend your willpower on a daily basis, that new thing will take up less and less until it's a habit. And now you add in a new routine to willpower through. repeat forever.
It helps if you write/type up a big list of the reasons why you want a particular change, and stick it where you will see it every day. good luck.
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>>46050535
something i forgot: you will 'fall off the horse' every once in a while. you'll slip. nobody starts out perfect. the important thing is to GET BACK ON IT. don't let yourself miss more than one day in a row.
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How is your day going lads? What are ya'll up to?

I'm taking it kind of easy today, had a busy week. Doesn't mean I'm not doing anything, I'm still working on a multi piece commission, and cooking my all own meals for the day, but I guess I'm still spending too much time on 4chan. There's just a couple generals (like this one) I keep checking up on, in case someone needs help with something or there is a subject I want to talk or learn about. I should go keep working though. Wish me luck dudes! /blog

>>46050535
>>46050572
This, a million times this.
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I decided to cut out all 'social' internet groups I was a member of.
Over the years (13 to in my 30s now) I have been a member of clans, forums and other groups and with them coming communicating platforms.
But it has ended. It always hindered my real social gains.

I know some people say those people are real friends and meet up with them or whatever.
I have met some online people irl too, but for 99.9% of the people who are your online 'friends' it will not happen or work out irl if you meet them.

I deleted steam, discord, telegram and all other kinds where I was substituting a missing social life.
I feel so much better, I enjoy social interaction way more and people seem to like me more.
If only I did this when I was younger.
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Nice thread.

I teach Ascension meditation. Ask me anything.
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>>46036478
Honestly think this is the biggest problem for a lot of people. Once you've got a career that you enjoy and find fulfilling other things fall into place.
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>>46020057
>Try not to "spike" your insulin
Insulin response promotes the anabolic phase, which is responsible for activating hormones that build tissues (ex. muscle). It's pretty much the scientific reason behind traditional bodybuilding wisdom of eating frequent, smaller meals. Not to mention that insulin response is a healthy pysiological action.
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>>46023294
That's the way to do it lad. Start small and try to keep a bit of momentum.
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>>46052146
Explain it some. I want to know more.
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>>46023294
By sectioned to you mean put in a mental ward? Tell me what's up, I've been there a couple times myself, maybe I could give you some advice...
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>>46044757
nah man I had a lecture at uni on drug interactions and St John's came up ( doing nursing )
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Seeing as I am pretty autistic when it comes to conversations, I decided to make a joke tinder account to get some practice. Seems like it's something that has no real downsides besides the fact that it's tinder.
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>>46052146
what is it?
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Had a rather sour breakup with gf early this year and I've been really down ever since. Things are finally starting to seem better but I'm still thinking about her all the time. Recently gotten back into weightlifting and it's helping but I'm hoping the app I have with a psych doc this next month will get me some depression/anxiety medication for things beyond gf angst. One day I'll be happy somehow
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>>46052619
Yeah a mental ward, basically to summarise I just have a lot of intense regrets that peak around their anniversaries, which all take place during Summer, and in general Summer is just a bad time for me because the contrast between me and a normal person increases a lot. So I get sectioned because of suicide risk, which if fair I guess.
>thanks for the concern btw
>>46052450
Thats the plan anyways, thank you.
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>>46054394
>Summer is just a bad time for me because the contrast between me and a normal person increases a lot.

What do you mean by that?

You don't have to go back, accepting that every summer brings along another trip to the mental ward is a self defeating attitude. You have to believe in yourself, that you can do what you want to. What are your hobbies? Do them, and do them often, and if your are busy loving life and pursuing your passions, you won't have time to be suicidal. You have to get over your regrets and accept that shit happens, and sometimes it's yourt fault. BUt you can redeem yourself, pick yourself back up, etc. I've done it MANY many times in my life. I thought it was all over, but I tried my best, and I came out an improved person. You just gotta do it! I believe in you brother. You got this.
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>>46053978
Happiness is a vicious scam; just try to reduce as much unproductive suffering in your life as possible and get a goal you believe in.
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>>46018882
16/8 is a waste of effort. Switch to omad, then try 48s.

t. did 16/8 for two years and only got fatter.
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>>46018860
>hot sister of twins mired me today instead of the ugly one
Things are lookin up boyos
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I'm 26/F, 5 ft 6, 225 lbs lol I've lost 25 lbs so far. Because I'm fat and prefer fit/buff/muscular guys and don't want to date/fuck chubby neckbeards all men do is reject me even though I have a lovely personality.
5/10 looks
10/10 personality

I feel bad because I need some fuckin affection but I don't know if I can wait 8 months (80 lbs) for a buff boyfriend.
>meet guy on tinder
>snap lots, he knows how my body looks
>plan a non-sex date
>date goes well, says he wants to see me again
>next day he says he wants to be just friends
>never hear from him again
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>>46055473
>5/10 looks
>10/10 personality

C O P E
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what're some non meme ways to help anxiety and depression preferably without doctors?
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>>46055532
Can I post my dick there?
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>>46018860
most /SIG/ books ive read:

>How to Win Friends & Influence People
>The Definitive Book of Body Language

I usually read economics-shit, but those 2 definitively pertain to everyone interested in this thread

They're both pretty short reads, so even if you're a retard, you can read them. Especially the first one (which is the most essential of the two, and permanently changed how I think about every social encounter)
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>>46055473
>5/10 looks
>10/10 personality

Please don't say this again, it makes you look retarded.
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>>46055672
yea im gonna concur, that sounds fucking retarded. change that attitude
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>>46055538
This thread, finding what your passion is and doing a related hobby and getting better at it, having goals and working towards them, staying healthy, being sociable and authentic, etc
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>>46055538
doing something with your life
kinda literally
if youre some nerd pothead who does jackshit and feels like a fucking loser, that makes you depressed

read some non-fictional books that make you smart, exercise, work towards a goal. thats what the doctor is going to fucking prescribe anyway
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since the /pol/ mods deleted the /sig/ on /pol/, i would like to bring over some of the self improvement aspects onto here
are we all reading? at least 2 chapters a day will improve our reading comprehension
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>>46055538
Replace processed garbage with whole, natural foods; hydrate; exercise; sleep right; set meaningful goals and work toward them every day; meditate; embrace traditional values like personal responsibility and self-reliance. Most importantly develop a growth mindset: look for things about yourself that you can develop and improve and don't fret over nonsensical labels like "good enough."
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Hey /fit/ im about to start working out, is there any shoe i can use for running and lifting that is under $80
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>>46056412
Just picked up Toxin Toxout last week. Learning exactly which of the long, illegible ingredients in food hygiene products have been poisoning/feminizing me since before I was born and purging them from my apartment. I also have a book on microbiomes that I haven't started yet.

Shame about getting kicked off of /pol/ again, this thread just seems to get passed around between here, /pol/, and 8/pol/.
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>>46056462
find some good trail which you can walk barefoot, and run barefoot
get your feet toughened up, and soak them in chalk water after every run
callousing up your feet will help you to go with shoes less, except when youre doing it professionally
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>>46056462
"Can" sure, but that's not a good thing to skimp on. If you want to save money then buy ugly colored versions of a shoe that you know fits your stride.
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>>46056462
>about to start lifting
>what shoes can i buy for under $80

......what
just buy some fucking jogging shoes for 50 bucks or something. the ones im using atm cost me like 20 fucking dollars, and theyre perfect. dont overthink all this accessory-bullshit, just get a good routine
and where the hell do you live where you cant buy good shoes for less than 80 bucks? commiefornia?
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>>46056489
i haven't used soap in 5 months, and im completely fine
my diet has worse stuff in it, but at least my liver can sort it out
im currently living with my parents (last year of high school) and theyre the wall between me and self improvement, literally my mother will buy m&ms and force me to eat them because she's read those meme "chocolate is good for you" articles
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I need a hobby /fit/. 20, well adjusted, have strong interests in history and geopolitics (not /pol/tard). However other than reading I don’t have a real hobby. I have an urge to create or master. What should I start?
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>>46046631
>Patrice O'Neal
You are the only guy in this thread that gets it.
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>>46056556
try forging, welding, woodworking, glass blowing, take some class on it and even get certified
gud luck mane
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>>46056556
Why don't you try and become a history teacher. Or , if you want to create, literally try and and all the creative outlets you can think of, like >>46056579 said, or drawing, painting, making music, animating, sculpture, writing, singing, building cars, fucking anything dude. Try them all and you will naturally gravitate towards the stuff you like. Go get em man!
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>>46022924
Really depends on them. My friend used to smoke every day one semester. He realized he was smoking too much and smokes once or twice a week at most now. Also he always offered me some but never went on about how great it is.

Personally I've smoked like 10 times or so and never found it to be great. I loved the edible I tried though.
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>broke my fast for halaah food take out
>have my sister pick it up while i lift
>almost sure the paki came in it

daily reminder to never E V ER break a fast
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>>46018922
literally just wake up early to workout it instills discipline
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>tfw been writing in my journal for 6 weeks now

anyone else keep a journal/diary? I just write a few paragraphs before bed each night and its helped me become more conscious of how I should act in the moment. I'm a lot more positive and self-belief has gone up too as I've focused on positive thinking and thinking I'm great.
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How do I hold myself accountable when doing solo activities? I have so many things I want to do and I want to be one of those people who is always grinding at the things they love but whenever I have free time(which I have a LOT of) I just default to sitting in my chair and browsing 4chan.
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>>46046631
>only an hour in to the first episode

holy shit
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>>46057175
Plan out benchmarks, scheduling, and rewards.

>if you complete [x] hours of a solo activity a week, you get to eat a nice treat or do something fun for yourself.
>have progress reports set up at regular periods so you have an objective view of how you're coming along (e.g: current body pictures, doing the same sketch after a period of practice)
>for things you try do in streaks (nofap, sobriety, etc), have some visible counter or tally and add on to it each day. Erase it if you relapse.
>wager something valuable or embarassing that you'll get something tangible done within a certain amount of time
>monthly goal broken down to weekly goals broken down to daily goals. Don't spend more than 10 minutes figuring out the weekly or monthly goals.

You basically need to structure work so that it becomes addictive, like how vidya is.
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I don't have money for college and I have a woman who wants to start her life with me and does not intend on going to college. I have a job doing luxury cabinetry lined up as soon as I want to take it, I have experience in the field, and I enjoy woodworking, but I am in community college for engineering and if I take out loans I can go to a 4 year university, but then I would need to move away from my fiance as she has obligations to her family in my hometown. My dad was a carpenter, his dad was a carpenter, they both did well, but I fear that in the modern day the trade is not respected anymore. I want to be financially well off to support my family but I don't want to go out of the gate with 40k+ in debt. I also don't want to be stuck in a dead end job that I need to work 12 hour days in to support my family. What do, /sig/?
Also if I can't go to college, but I like math, can I do anything with all the math I've taught myself? I've taught myself calculus 1-3, linear algebra, discrete mathematics, and am working on analysis and plan to just keep going on learning indefinitely. I already know more math than many state school engineering majors have to know, but because I don't have that shitty paper I can't get employed with firms, but eventually I want to do something with all this math. What can I do with it? I just enjoy it because I have genuine autism so just the acts of calculating and critical thinking fucking stimulate me, but I haven't thought about what to use it for in the real world.
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>>46057422
I'd say, continue to community college, and get some experience woodworking, maybe even take up that job. Also, explain to your gf, very soundly and lovingly, these fears here:

>I want to be financially well off to support my family but I don't want to go out of the gate with 40k+ in debt. I also don't want to be stuck in a dead end job that I need to work 12 hour days in to support my family.

She will understand, if you don't feel ready to have kids just yet, don't. It's that fucking simple. You can marry the girl if you want and are ready, but you should both get some jobs down and make some cash so that when you are BOTH ready for kids, you can support them and give them a good life, and not have to work a soul crushing job just to keep them afloat. I really stress you BOTH getting jobs, btw. Best of luck man, you got this!
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>>46020458
Fucking boring as fuck?
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>>46023474
10/10 post
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how do i start getting /fit/ if im fucking poor and cant afford any equipment OR the gym OR any of these fucking diets

everything feels pointless because it costs more than shitty minimum wage can get me
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>>46018860
>Financial planning
If you post a bitcoin address with a time stamped piece of paper I will send you 0.001125 BTC ($10)
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>>46059575
how do niggers do it? they actually go outside and work hard at being physical active
>ahahaha niggers working hard
you're hilarious.
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>>46059655
yeah but niggers travel in packs and have each other to propel off of playing basketball or some shit

the fuck am i supposed to do? run? that's not gains
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>>46056556
Boxing.
>/fit/ as hell, excellent cardio
>bitches love it, gives you a bad boy vibe
>competitive in nature, raises testosterone
>makes you confident in any room knowing you destroy 99% of the population one on one fight
>relatively inexpensive
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>>46059780

i wanna learn to box but i live in a country ass town thats at least an hour away from where i could learn
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I have no friends irl and haven't been in a real relationship in 6 years and haven't talked to a woman in 2 years. I workout often at the gym but that's about it when it comes to what I do when I leave the house. I've been going to the gym for 4 years and haven't talked to anyone there. I assume everyone there thinks I'm a creep. I just noticed my hairline is noticeably receding this week and I'm only in my mid 20's. I didn't mean to blog post but I have no one to talk to about my problems.
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>>46060594
Go with the Ivy league haircut
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>>46060712
How does that one look?
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>>46060746
Like in pic related >>46060594
depending on how you cut it.
Just google image search it and you should find one you can show to your barber
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>>46047915
It's tough. I work swing shift 12 hours, what I do is race back home and just go to bed. No food,no water, nothing and just sleep and set your alarm to go off about an hour earlier then you usually wake up. Wake up and get to the gym and lift or do cardio or whatever you do then. Then head back home and get ready for work.
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>>46047915
Motivation just doesn't appear like everyone likes to meme about.
Something actually bad has to happen to force a change in your life.
Look at every musician and rich person that wasn't gifted the good life by their parents, looks, or by being rich.
They all have sad stories for a reason.
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>>46055473
This must be some fucking bait.
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Found out lifting helps me breath easier when seasonal allergies kick in.

Also helps with asthma. Feels pretty good man.
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Reminder that the final blackpill is leaving 4chan/internet communities forever. Imageboards have a lot of upsides, there is a lot of knowledge/information shared, humorous content and unique niche communities. But it's not worth it if you are trying to improve your life as a whole. At some point you have gotten all you need out of it. Almost all posts cause you to subvocalize negativity, racism, cynicism, apathy, which in turn contributes a lot to your character. You start holding opinions that you would never have if you didn't come here, and the echo chamber tells you they are correct ones. Board culture itself isn't even good anymore, and is dead on most boards.

To top it all off the captcha is fucking painful.

>>46047915
Listen to Zig Ziglar or other motivational speakers, ideally in the morning and/or when you work out.
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>>46059621
For real? That would help a lot!
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Redpill me on correcting my posture
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>>46052580
>>46053360
Ascension meditation is a very simple form of meditation based around powerful, delicate mental structures called Ascension Attitudes. A brief description of the attitudes can be found here, where you'll also be able to find a course calender and stuff:
http://thebrightpath.com/first-sphere-course
Because the Ascension Attitudes are customized to every individual, they are only given under the personal guidance of a certified teacher. In other words, you cannot learn these techniques from a book.
I learnt these techniques four years ago. At first, I found them merely relaxing and soothing. After two years of occasional use, I began attending regular meditation meetings. I quickly made many discoveries about myself and my life; I saw through the illusions of happiness that I had surrounded myself with. I quit my job, broke up with my girlfriend, and ventured to the ishaya monks ontop of Mont Ral, Spain, and studied with them there for six months. Now my only desire is to remind everyone that the freedom, peace, contentment and love that they yearn for is just beyond the chattering of their mind.
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>>46062228
This
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>>46054418
>swallowing the pharmaceutical jew to deal with sexual tunnel vision
I seriously hope you guys don't do this
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>>46062592
What do you recommend, enlightened anon?
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>>46056922
I usually have many thoughts as I lay awake in bed about how I could've spent the day differently to have better progress in life. Writing down those thoughts and reading them first thing in the morning sounds like a good way to change your life around.
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>>46062446
Do exercise that emphasizes connection with the earth and consciousness of gravity. Yoga and qi gong are both good.
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>>46018860

I have a problem with gambling. I've been able to manage for a few years now with just buying a scratch-off no more than once a week, and maybe a big lottery ticket regularly knowing it will lose.

Unfortunately I've gotten interested in these damn gacha games. I like Fire Emblem as a series, and the Fire Emblem Heroes game is genuinely good. Only problem is it's still gacha. Even if it's generous it's still gacha hell. My ability to hold back is not doing well. Even worse I need to save up money and also use it to do things like buy new glasses and new shoes.

On the other hand my lifts are going well now that I have found a place to work it into my schedule.

The fat/weight loss is slow but steady.

Job situation is stable, although I'm basically stuck in my current job out of other life necessities for a few years. Still, I got a raise in the first few months of working there, and that puts my earning at decent enough to get by, especially since I don't pay rent.
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>>46062561
okay but will this help me break out of the demiurgic prison
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>>46062606
hey anon. i'm sorry, this post:
>>46062592
was actually meant to be a reply to this:
>>46053978

As for your distress:
The past is gone. It is recorded as a memory in your brain, and your brain can project this memory into your awareness, but it is not real.
Thinking about the past triggers emotions stuck to those memories. There is therapeutical value in processing those emotions. Dwelling on those memories, swimming in regret are not how to you process those emotions; on the contrary, because the nervous system cannot distinguish between memories and reality, dwelling on past traumas will only retraumatize the nervous system.
The two cures to heal trauma are:
1) deep physical rest, wherein the nervous system can heal conditioned emotional patterns and restore itself to default
2) ability to endure powerful emotions while awareness is rooted in the present moment
Both of which is remarkably well achieved through meditation. Hypnothic therapy can also be highly effective.
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>>46023009
>stop masturbating
Sounds good in theory, but I still get morning wood and random boners like crazy and I'm not even a teenager or early 20s anymore. I just jerk it to get rid of the boner. What am I supposed to do, walk around the house with a boner?

I mean I don't really care about porn, but it kinda hurts.
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One thing I have a problem with for lifting is my knees. Makes me have to stop doing my squats if they start complaining, although I can usually finish the last set before that point. Also determines whether I can do my deadlifts or not. I do a test bodyweight squat before to check if they're ok.

My father beat us with a stick for misbehaving or just not blindly following his orders. For a year or two, I forget how long, he instead would have us kneel on dried beans for maybe half an hour to up to two hours sometimes. Three or four beans on the hard floor, for each knee. The alternative was being beaten, so generally I chose the bean shit because I really didn't like getting hit. I know now I should have just refused.

How badly did that contribute to fucking up my knees, and what can I do about it? I know my weight also contributed to messing them up, but I'm certain what he did wouldn't help either.
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>>46062893
What the fuck. You jerk it every time you get a boner? What the hell do you do if you're riding a bus or driving your car and you randomly get one, or if you're out in public and for whatever reason you get one. Do you just masturbate THEN too?

Dude, just fucking walk around your house with a boner. It will go away. Are you fucking twelve or just an idiot?
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>>46062893
>I just jerk it to get rid of the boner. What am I supposed to do, walk around the house with a boner?
You know that if you focus your mind on something else or if you contract you muscles, the blood in your dick causing boner will flow somewhere else causing the boner to stop. You can't not know that? Either you are retarded, or you are just looking for an excuse to masturbate so you don't feel guilt.
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>>46062228
>racism, cynicism
There is objectively nothing wrong with these, other I agree.

You are right, but there is heavy difference to what boards you are visiting.
Being of /fit/ has more chances to influence your subconsciousness positively in contrast to /r9k/ or /b/.

For instance /sig/ is one of the threads that are extremely positive, and leave positive influence on a person.
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>>46063395
>>racism, cynicism
>There is objectively nothing wrong with these

That's where you're wrong dude. As you continue to self improve you will feel these ideological shackles tug and dig into your spirit, and eventually, you will remove them and feel more free than you ever have before. I believe in you, brother!
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>>46020458
I'm living the NEET life for another week until my internship starts (finished semester 2 weeks ago)
I need some help boys.
Like I'm reading every night like I told myself. I lift everyday (with rest once a week). But I feel like I have nothing to do.
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Can incells make it or are they just gonna cope with life until they can't and kill themselves?
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>>46018860
this picture reminded me of the baltic states
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>>46041943
I'm not lazy, it's a shit book. I read a few pages and it didn't give me anything so I wasn't going to waste my time.
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>>46063944
Define "making it"

But they can't if they call themselves incel




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