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So.. I'm 27. But I look like I'm 14, no breasts, 5ft, 104lbs. I get mistaken for a child, I've had cops called on two different boyfriends in public areas for this reason. I don't feel my age at all - I love Disney movies/ cartoons/ color books/ blowing bubbles in the bath. At home I can freely be myself. I found the DDLG community and felt really accepted and other adult women who wanted to play with me. But I was told everything I am doing is wrong, unhealthy, I'm sick and I needed to get help - so I got help, I went to therapy, I took meds, boxed up my toys and tried to be normal for a few months. I had never been more unhappy. So I went back to being the way I was and I felt better until one of my closest friends ripped into me and told me I was disgusting for being apart of the CLG community and having a Daddy Dom and enjoying age-play with him, she found proof in my room.
I don't do this stuff in public, never around minors and I keep it between him and I. I mentioned my appearance and personality because I'm wondering if there IS seriously something wrong with me, like I'm physically/ mentally underdeveloped. Could I be?
I don't ACT like a child I AM like a child and people treat me like one. My whole family infantilizes me. They've never said "aren't you too old for that?" and my mother actually bought me coloring books when I was 21.
I'm autistic as well. But I don't feel like I belong in the ASD community either. I have lots of friends but I still feel like I can't win and shouldn't be alive. Should I consider killing myself?
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You could try changing your style to be more masculine or mature. That way, less people will see you as a child.
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I found the anon for you
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Can we skip to the part where you post pictures.
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>>19771863
I feel for him so hard. But I don't have relationship trouble.
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In what way are you autistic?

Sounds like the healthy thing to do is to choose the lifestyle you enjoy the most. You're fucking 27, and it's nobody's business whether you want to call your lovers Sir and Papi.
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You sound fucking amazing btw
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I don't get what the problem is. You're allowed to like what you like and if someone has a problem with it then cut them off and surround yourself with people that are more positive.
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While I'd say it isn't healthy to allow yourself to be infantile. But liking certain things or having certain kinks is fine and you seem to do them responsibly. Why even worry about killing yourself?
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>>19771856
I read all that shit and it sounds like you don't have any problems.

Come sit on my lap, or fuck off.
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>>19771917
I have a very hard time maintaining eye contact with people and tolerating loud noises, I also get unusually obsessed with certain topics can come off as aloof, disinterested or rude to people who don't know me. but I try my best to be courteous. I have a lot of the classic symptoms of high functioning autism.

Some people tell me what I'm doing is harmful and I am normalizing pedophila. But I don't bring this around anyone else besides like-minded friends - I tell them that but they tell me it's still harmful. Even if it's between two consenting adults in my own home it's harmful.

But neither of us are attracted to children and we want nothing to do with minors so I don't understand
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>>19771975
People who aren't degenerates don't understand degeneracy. Just do you. Long as it's two consenting adults, who gives a shit
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>>19771975
I understand what you're saying because I'm also a high functioning autistic person. You have no idea how easier girls have it than men. You're able to get relationships because people find you cute. I'm a magnificent gentleman but girls won't even look at me. I deserve better than this.
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>>19771999
Not OP, but people who call themselves magnificent gentlemen usually aren't. Well memed friend
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>>19772006
You miss the point
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>>19772062
Please explain
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>>19771856 (OP)
honestly you kinda sound like me. like i love my animation stuff , cuddling my many plushes and making bubble beards .
ok my advice to you is to accept yourself , embrace that inner child.
i mean for me , when i try to change to myself , it puts me alot of stress and i don't feel happy.
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>>19771999
>magnificent gentleman

Dude, you're on 4chan. You're not here because you're a shining example of humanity. Get your life together and stop whining.
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>>19771856
"should I kill myself?"

Spoken like someone with true autism.

No you shouldn't. You are a normal human being so long as you don't harm others. Try to channel whatever you do to something more meaningful though.
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>>19771856
First of all, you have to accept your height, don't worry too much about it. All I know about you is what you posted here, but that aside I know jack shit, you could always try different make up or clothes, but based on what you wrote it may not fit you very well, you sound very cute from my perspective.
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>>19771975
>Eye contact
Very common among people who are agreeable and insecure
>Aloof, disinterested and rude
Can also be avoidant personality disorder. Autism is a meme.

>The rest
Worrying about this, even considering that your friends are right, makes you come off as an adolescent, which is precisely relevant to your predicament.

You are an adult. Perhaps you go to your 'little space' sometimes - but there is nothing whatsoever pedophilic about this. Whoever's lucky enough to treat you right, is fucking your mature body, not some underdeveloped teenager's, no matter how small your cup size is.
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Kind of in the same boat OP.
>23 years old
>Assburgers
>Constantly pass for teenage girl
>Noted for my tomboyish behavior and sense of humor
>Never felt any need or desire to leave my hometown.
>Have a ton of nostalgia for highschool and love doing "highschool stuff" like drinking beers at the garbage dump and doing donuts in parking lots
>Have had the opportunity to leave home and go to the city, to go traveling, never felt as fun as just hanging out in my hometown

I think people with ASD just have weird likes and dislikes, that really don't hurt anyone but sometimes dickish people like your friend get down on us for it just because it's unorthodox.
I say fuck em. Your life is your life.
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People with aspergers have a propensity of enjoying childish things because that's when they were most happy. I know this one man who's almost 30 and he's infatuated with roleplaying as a toddler and he's obsessed with shounen anime.
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this gif >>19772204 is for (you) as well >>19772184
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>>19772111
i forgot to mention that i have autism too
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>>19772307
Do you like yourself?
Sometimes I get so nervous I shut down and scrunch up. I called the cops on my drunk ex boyfriend who hit me and then passed out like 25 minutes afterword. When the cops showed up they talked to both of us but I sat in the back seat of their car crying and hugging my knees and the officer pulled my ex aside and literally asked "Is she kinda retarded?" - I heard him say it and my ex told me that's exactly what he asked. While I want to be treated with respect, a lot of times other adults in my life won't respect me at all due to how I am.
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>>19772333
technically yes if i meet myself , i would like her but i have do have self esteem issue due to trama.
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wow the cop is kinda a dick but i have meet these kind of person before like with my family members . i can understand the need to be respected but if someone don't respect you , they don't deserve your time
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>>19771856
Get a job and your own place to live. That will grow you up quickly enough.
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Another anon on the spectrum here. My whole life I've never felt like I belonged. I understand emotional intelligence and empathy but when I get in front of other people it's like I freeze up. I start talking like a robot and my monotone voice comes out. I can't hold a conversation and I can barely express myself. It's so frustrating.
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>>19771856
>I'm 27. But I look like I'm 14
camgril.
you will make loads of cash
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>>19772467
I have a job and my own place
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>>19771883
>But I don't have relationship trouble.
of course not, your a woman and you attract every pedo on the block with your legal loli vagoo
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>I'm 27. But I look like I'm 14
post a picture of yourself fully clothed on /soc/, i doubt this claim
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>>19772493
do i hear some jealous hmm?
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>>19772498
It's not that unheard of. Last year two people mistook me for 12. I'm short and skinny.
My look isn't so much my problem as the things I can't help loving and doing which are very childish. Some people think it's an act to appear innocent. I want to plush a toy on clearance while I'm out or something and if they find out my real age I lie or get dirty looks.
teens have also asked me which school I go to randomly which is actually kind of embarrassing and then I get dirty looks from their parents
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>>19772555
*If I want a plush on clearance
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>>19772555
i collect plushes(yes the pic is mine) for a hobby though i'm poor garl . like there is someone who will give ya the dirty looks like there is alway judgmental people out there.
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>>19772582
like who care's about them
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>>19772516
not gonna lie, if 27 i would fug
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Op my goodness, there is absolutely no reason for you to kill yourself. I also like playing with toys. Let me be the mature voice of reason here. NO there is nothing wrong with you. You are fine just the way you are. If you worry you get treated like a child then just bring it up to your parents. It's so easy to compare ourselves to others and feel lacking. Don't do that to yourself. You are still smart in your own way. You're not behind. You posted a fine post here.

Everybody is different. Some are smarter and even if they are it means nothing. Let them be smart and you do you. Smartness is relative. You are more in tune with the creative genius of a child because of how you can use your imagination to play with toys. Many intelligent ppl forget how to think that way and wish they could. You're also a genius in just being able to have fun very easily. Many ppl are very unhappy and wish they could find something to make them happier. But you, you can find that with a coloring book. And that's incredible. In fact I think if you made a YouTube channel about this stuff you do and your thoughts on things, minus the sex stuff of course, I think you'd get famous.
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>>19772819
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85FOGdM8CZA

People do have channels like that :) I watch this girl all the time. At 6:20 she starts dancing and sometimes I do stuff like that to stay fit.
The sex portion is the part that bothers a lot of people even if no minors are involved whatsoever
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I could have written this, I’m 27 as well but I get mistaken by 17-18. My last boyfriend left me because I was “too childish”. I wonder if the DDLG com would be the right fit for me? Never tried that and I don’t know even where to start.
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>>19772885
If you want to try it DDLGforums is the best place to learn imo. If you do join a community make sure it's an 18+ one. The way you practice it doesn't have to be sexual either :)
And I know I'm a stranger but please be safe, there are fake doms who are only in it for the age play and don't truly want to nurture you.




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