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My current gf is sweet and I love her.
But she's cold fish in bed.
For her sex is just penis in vagina for creating offspring.
But I want more than just pp in vago.
I know she didn't have easy upbringing in very strict family, but she shouldn't be shackled by those when she's an adult.
What to do?
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>>32237884
Easier to start with what not to do. So no pushing, no complaining, no begging, in general. (maybe some girl in some circumstance would enjoy you begging or demanding something but in general) Just coax and lure her into it. Make her excited and talk about it and maybe she is a little bit receptive. Just do that many times over and over and one day she wants to do it. If there’s a repeated hard no especially with that’s disgusting or you are disgusting just give up and either live without it or find someone else.
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>>32237909
>Easier to start with what not to do
Well, everything.
I'm the one that initiate, she mostly wants romance only.
She wants cuddles and kisses.
If I beg her to have sex she would just be a star fish, and keep asking if I'm finished.
Honestly my self esteem as a man started to crumble.
She wouldn't do anything for me, never wears lingerie, no oral despite me going down on her.
We've been together for two years and we hadn't have sex for the last year or so.
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>>32237954
>been together for two years and we hadn't have sex for the last year
that's some old married couple hatred shit. get a new girlfriend, it will only get worse.
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>>32237884
Give her a sensual massage
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>>32237884
>For her sex is just penis in vagina for creating offspring.
I'm not sure I Understand the problem. That's the best kind.
She sounds like someone incompatible with your needs. My advice is give me social media so I can take her off your hands
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>>32238382
Did that several times actually.
>>32238452
>I'm not sure I Understand the problem. That's the best kind.
Your understanding of sex is on par of 15 yo jerking to his dad's collection of porn mag.
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sexual incompatibility ruins relationships. usually this happens when 2 people are sexually compatible and then one person changes over time. most commonly the woman gets pregnant and loses a lot of interest in sex and it’s hard to get it back

in your case it sounds like there’s no compatibility from the beginning. i would just leave
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>>32238570
And this can't be fixed?
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>>32237884
>For her sex is just penis in vagina for creating offspring
Based
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>>32239512
You'd have to convince her that it's a problem, which is obviously a sensitive subject to navigate. In fact, I am not sure it's even possible.
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>>32239545
Well, I brought it up once or twice.
She blamed my unrealistic sex expectation on pornography addiction.
I fap because I'm not satisfied sexually.
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>>32239571
Told you.
If you were doing something wrong, she would tell you and expect you to listen. But if she is doing something wrong, it's your fault.
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>>32237954
>We've been together for two years and we hadn't have sex for the last year or so.
What the fuck? I was reading this thread seriously. No sex when you have a gf is infuriating. Especially such a recent one. Its the same as her screaming fuck you. Asking if you are done yet during sex? I would immediatly stop and have a conversation that would result in change or a end of the relationship. Fuck that man. You can literally get more action and less stress with your hand. What the fuck are you thinking?
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>>32237884
Get into bondage.
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>>32239512
i feel like there’s 2 possible outcomes here.


1. she is truly low libido
this is possible but women are generally horny and want to fuck. it happens though that you got a gf with low sex drive. the odds just aren’t in your favor here. this is not fixable and you should leave her or commit to a lifetime of cheating on her (very social acceptable for men, ignore the haters)

2. the way you have talked to her about this is ineffective
this i think is more probable from a numbers game of likelihood. men normally suck at communicating this. saying things like:
i need to have more sex or i will not be with you. giving exact numbers like
- “i need to have sex once a week or i will not be able to be with you”
- or whatever frequency it is.
giving exact clear in english words of the sex you want to have with her.
- “i want you to come up to me while i am sitting on the couch and take off my pants and start sucking my dick. make gagging noises while you suck it. moan on my cock. and i will cum on your face. then i want you to suck my dick with a face full of cum”.
- did you give her the truth anon? if you don’t i will
telling her that you need her to initiate sex or you can’t be with her
- “i need you to come up to me and tell me you want to have sex”

notice each sentence is just saying i need. and it’s extremely clear what the ask is. it’s not “more sex”. or “better sex” communicating needs in a relationship is normal and makes relationships stronger. she should be able to listen to you and do more of these over time. she won’t get better immediately. another one you should add is “i need you to communicate you needs to me so i can make you want to be with me”

this is either going to work or she will tell you she doesn’t want any part of it. if she says no then you leave her
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>>32239571
>She blamed my unrealistic sex expectation on pornography addiction.
LOL. Get get a new gf, anon. It doesn't get better.



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