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So my husband and I aren't sleeping in the same room. He's upset about that, but I'm holding my ground until he admits I'm right.

Our son is friends with a little boy who is adopted by a gay couple. That couple offered to take our son trick or treating with them and their son.

My husband thought it would be no big deal, and told them it was fine without even asking me. I asked him if he thought it was right to expose our son further to that kind of lifestyle and he seemed to think it wasn't a problem at all.

He's trying to get me to "chill" but I already told our son he can't go with his friend because his friend's dads are sick. I offered to take him myself, but he decided to pout and say he didn't want to go at all if he couldn't go with his friend.

I'm starting to worry they've already had an influence on him through their son. I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable. How can I get them both to see that I'm just trying to protect our family?
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>>32239214
Based. Stay strong. Those fags are probably raping that kid. Those gay couples always do that shit.
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>>32239214
>Withholding him from sleeping in his own bed due to a disagreement
Shit wife, shit marriage.
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The mistake you made isn't that you are protecting your child from two degenerates and the doomed kid they bought... You're correct in fact.

The mistake is that you made the decision unilaterally.
As parents, you're a team. You either work together, or work in opposition. Working in opposition is destructive, undermining trust and authority. It creates anxious, unhappy miserable kids.
I realize thst this post is probably bait, but there's a teachable moment here.
The correct thing is to move off, and decide TOGETHER on a course of action. Debate and argue in private, then act in unison as a couple.
But whst do I know? My wife and I have 4 non-fucked up kids. We learned from raising my oldest and making our mistakes. As an adult, he's wise beyond his years and the one who saw my wife and I in conflicf the most, but also the one who saw us resolve every single conflict too. He's the most optimistic of my kids and the organizer and caregiver among them.
My youngest is also the most calm and confident as a result of us doing things right more often, lol.
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>>32239214
>using ultimatums and leverage over partner
Divorce imminent.
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>>32239214
I think that is foolish. Just seeing a gay couple isn't going to turn your son gay. If that were the case, a lot more guys would just "go gay".
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>>32239214
I don't think it works that way... As a man who has tried to fuck ass before, you can't turn gay by being exposed to gay shit. Although maybe getting molested would destroy their brains enough to do it but you should be able to tell if they're pedos by their adopted son. Molested kids are easy to spot, at least for me as a formerly molested kid.

Now MILF, can you please leave me some input over here >>32238417 if you didn't already?
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>>32239248

I missed thr part where you're sleeping apart.
DO NOT DO THIS. EVER. This is a horriffically bad idea. The old timers say that sleeping apart after conflict offers room for the devil to sleep between spouses.
Your bed is more than big enough for you both to sleep in it and not talk to each other.
Conversely, not talking and sharing a bed provides impetus for making up after a fight. It feels wrong and awkward. It gives you perspective.
My own take here is that you won the fight and lost the war by your actions.
My suggestion? Apologize for how you handled yourself and remind him that you don't have to resolve the initial argument for you to apologize for your actions after. This is a great peacemaking gesture. Humility is a virtue especially in that after today your decision is a moot point. Take an adult position here and tell him that you think it's a bad idea to sleep apart even in conflict and how sorry you are that you didn't come to him and ask him to come back to bed. If he's still assmad, something like 'I don't know if we'll resolve that today but we don't really have to...But I don't want to let one fight become something that could wreck our marriage."
Htpxj
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>>32239247
What’s shitty about it? She has a good point.
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>>32239214
>So my husband and I aren't sleeping in the same room. He's upset about that, but I'm holding my ground until he admits I'm right.

Divorce Speedrun Any% category. That counts for emotional abuse OP, knowingly withholding affection and weaponising it to force the partner to buckle and submit to your will.

And it’s a shame because you ARE right, and you are a good mom by protecting your son from potential molestation. There is a reason those two queers deliberately chose to adopt a boy, and not a girl. (it conveniently fits right into their sexual preference).

I suggest you stop the ultimatum shit, because not only will it kill your romance and sex life, it increases chances of resentments which lead to divorce. And if (you) want to be united as man and wife to protect your son from bad influences, then do not drive your husband away emotionally. It will make you seem like the irrational one.
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>>32239298
>There is a reason those two queers deliberately chose to adopt a boy, and not a girl. (it conveniently fits right into their sexual preference).
That makes sense. Just like when straight couples adopt a girl, it means the dad wants to fuck her.
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>>32239214
Gays are disgusting degenerate perverts. Even if they don't rape kids, they still expose kids to perverted sexual shit. Keep your kid away from this and if your husband continues to try to expose your kid to faggots then it's time to leave him and take the kids with you.
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>>32239304
Oh it's you from the adoption agency again? I told you I meant that girl was hot as in TEMPERATURE.
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>>32239304
>Just like when straight couples adopt a girl, it means the dad wants to fuck her.
Nope. Because LGBTQuacks have extremely high levels of hyeprsexuality and also infidelity. And also, let’s not forget the prevalent high %’s of LGBTs experiencing child molestation themselves. Let’s also not forget how children who are molested in a hetero marriage aren’t touched by their own fathers, but by step siblings or cousins and/or step parents.
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If you're telling your kid that gay people are devils he's going to realize that they're not as bad to the degree that you're warning him about. He might actually think of them as good people.
Tell him to approach cautiously and he might be smart enough to pick up flaws on his own
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>>32239322
>Because LGBTQuacks have extremely high levels of hyeprsexuality and also infidelity.
The rates of infidelity in straight couples are 20-25%. Is that not an extremely high level?
In addition, the divorce rate for gays in Denmark was only 17%, while the divorce rate for straight couples is 46%.
>And also, let’s not forget the prevalent high %’s of LGBTs experiencing child molestation themselves.
That does not mean they are attracted to children.
>Let’s also not forget how children who are molested in a hetero marriage aren’t touched by their own fathers, but by step siblings or cousins and/or step parents.
For you to be consistent, this would mean you are against any heterosexual couples adopting children, because the rates of sexual abuse are higher.
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>>32239284
You want HER to apologize because she doesn’t want to sleep with him, but he doesn’t have to apologize for being irresponsible, reckless father? That’s not normal.
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>>32239214
You made the right call but being a pain in the ass to your husband is almost certainly totally unnecessary. Anyway, the real danger wouldn't be your son "getting exposed to that lifestyle" (seeing fags doesn't make you a fag unless you are already mentally ill), but sending your unaccompanied boy to be with two adult gay men. I wouldn't do that. I am sure they could be swell guys - the problem is if they aren't.
You got your way anyway, so probably try not to be a sore winner. That's even worse than a sore loser.
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>>32239382
I love how you missed out the Gay cheating % on purpose. 58%. That’s over 1 in 2 gay person will sniff at other males while in a relationship or marriage. You also forgot the % of how 35% of Gay/Bisexual men report being molested themselves.

And if you know anything about child sex abuse and trauma, you will know about the phenomenon of normalization as a coping mechanic. Aka, a child abuse victim will have a high chance if abusing someone else to make what happened to them feel ‘normal’.

So here we have two grown gay men, who went out of their way to specifically adopt a little male boy, and who are now showing interest in taking OP’s little son out to go trick or treating.
If you were a parent and saw no issues handing your son over to them, you’d be a fucking idiot.
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>>32239261
Fags are statistically much more likely to be pedophiles
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>>32239470
>I love how you missed out the Gay cheating % on purpose. 58%. That’s over 1 in 2 gay person will sniff at other males while in a relationship or marriage. You also forgot the % of how 35% of Gay/Bisexual men report being molested themselves.
Considering that heterosexual men cheat about twice as much as women, it is statistically consistent that gay couples involving two men would have about twice the cheating of straight couples.
In addition, the fact that gays stay together longer than straight couples indicates that instances of cheating are less likely to destroy a gay relationship than a straight one.
>And if you know anything about child sex abuse and trauma, you will know about the phenomenon of normalization as a coping mechanic. Aka, a child abuse victim will have a high chance if abusing someone else to make what happened to them feel ‘normal’.
The vast majority of abuse victims do not go on to be abusers.
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>>32239214

This larp is a good time to remind everyone there are no women on 4chan. OP is male.
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>>32239214
OP most males are gay anyway. Your husband likely has a gay episode in his past and convinced himself he isn't gay so its no big deal. Boys will be boys you know.
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>>32239479
Okay tiptoe and lawyer around the bigger picture all you like then. Let me ask you this: Pretend you have a child, a son aged 4. You have to leave him in the care of another adult man. Option 1) Straight hetero male. Or, Option 2) Gay man

Choose and dont be a coward
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>>32239544
I would never leave a 4 year old alone with a man. Men are statistically far more dangerous than women.
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>>32239559
Thats sexist
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>>32239580
I'm okay with saying anything as long as it's backed by data.
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>>32239559
Got it, so you can’t answer the question put to you. Too scared to say what you’d pick lol
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>>32239621
There is no other answer because the question is based on a faulty premise.
However, if it is more satisfying, I can offer this. If I vetted the straight guy and he was a predator, then I vetted the gay guy and he was well-adjusted with high morals, I would pick the gay guy.
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>>32239637
Still dodging the question. Give a direct answer. Let’s suppose you are unable to vet either for predatory behaviour (which would be the reality anyway, predators always win the trust of the parents of their child target before striking).

SIMPLE fucking question, cmon. You got a little kid, a son. You entrust to either the straight hetero man, or the gay man. Stop being a snake and answer it directly.
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>>32239649
That is a stupid question. Would you entrust your child to anyone you haven't met?
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>>32239285
That they should break up and he should have sole guardianship?
If she started with saying there was any red flags beyond them being fags, fair enough. But her issue is solely what their sexual preference is. Judgement for the sake of judgement, not because there is any factor that actually provides any kind of forewarning.
Adopting children isn't as easy as just stealing them off the street.

If she was actually concerned and not just a turbocunt, she could of offered to go with them and they would've most likely agreeed. Because at the end of the day, would you refuse to allow a parent to accompany their own child?

I legitimately hope they break up for the sake of the kid. People that use an ultimatum to control their spouse are scum, likely to murder them in their sleep because they can't have their cake and eat it.

>>32239649
By that logic, why would you allow your child to attend school? It's literally filled with potential predators in a position of power and trust. NTA, but fuck off.
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>>32239656
Okay, two male friends. One straight, one gay. Go ahead, pick who looks after your son for an afternoon.
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>>32239669
I would choose the man of higher character. The sexual orientation is completely irrelevant to my decision.
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>>32239671
Okay so let’s say they are of equal character. Straight male friend or gay male friend? You can’t keep squirming forever lol
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>>32239673
Doesn't matter either way. I would flip a coin.
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>>32239678
You’ll do the most to avoid directly answering. And the reason you won’t directly answer it is because you know exactly what the safest answer is, you just don’t want to say it
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>>32239693
No, you're projecting your opinion onto me. The sexual orientation is completely irrelevant. It has no impact whatsoever on the quality of care.
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>>32239693
Why do you project your own views onto other people? He said it doesn’t matter as long as the guy is decent ffs.
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>>32239699
>>32239693
You're both retards. Clearly you would anger hetero but don't wanna admit it as if you would actually put so much thought into that shit and she is trying so hard to bait out of you even tho it's obvious and she is crazy too
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>>32239699
Bullshit. You were quite happy to say you’d rather a man not take care of a kid, and would prefer a woman. So someone’s gender has an impact, but not their orientation. Your wires are crossed, anon. You got your ass on backwards lol
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>>32239705
Actually no, I genuinely don't care. No one is bringing up their sexual orientation while taking care of a child.
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>>32239712
Men are statistically more likely to be predators than women, but gays are not more likely to be pedophiles than straights.
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>>32239489
This. You're a dumb bitch. In ancient greece homosexuality was the norm and dumb holes like you were kitchen slaves
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>>32239714
You woild still know their orientation if you knew them and if you don't then its an assumption. In thus scenario she puts she is saying their orientation anyways. Solution is to just go with the kid in general since I'm not leaving my kid with anyone
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>>32239734
4chan try not be closet homes challenge
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>>32239734
I'm pretty sure rape was a standard there too so....
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incel larp thread
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>>32239214
You're a crazy-ass bitch and you need to know your place. Your husband is right. Now be a good wife and shut the fuck up.
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>>32239734
Completely and utterly untrue. You are a fucking liar and a dumb piece of uneducated shit.
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>>32239214
>I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable.
You *are* being unreasonable; how you feel about it is irrelevant. And being gay is not a "lifestyle".
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>>32239968
Come back when you've read Plato's The Symposium
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>>32240287
Shut the fuck up, you dumbass piece of shit.
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>>32240295
Why?
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>>32239214
you are based, your husband is a faggot
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>>32240380
Not OP but her husband is def in that ‘weak father/husband’ ballpark for sure. Not just for obliviously wanting to risk his own child, but the fucking fact that he lets himself sleep on the couch lmao.
When a woman says ‘sleep on the couch grrr im mad’ the correct answer is to say ‘No and that’s final’. And if the woman pouts and goes to the sofa instead, you follow her, grab her and carry her back to bed like a caveman. Zero tolerance policy on couch sleeping mandates.
Its what I did when my wife tried that shit once and I put a stop to it immediately before it even started. Why are men such pussies now? You dont even need to argue with or tell at a woman, you just gotta cold cold-blooded tell her what’s what, no discussions, put the foot down etc. Fuckin bitch made generation we living in
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>>32239214
Be vigilent. He might catch gay cooties from the candy
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>>32239214
So views on social issues never came up prior to marriage and having a kid together? This sounds like a LARP or you are both knuckle dragging retards. The husband for letting the kid hang with degenerates, and OP for marrying a retard who lets kids hang with degens. That said this adversarial dichotomy in the marriage is pathetic to begin with.
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>>32239214
So you hate the gays, why?
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>>32239247
To make sure her kid isnt raped to death. you havent even had your balls drop yet have you. A real man wouldn't allow the fag kid to even befriend his son
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>>32239261
look up the stats on child abuse by gays, it's bad anon
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>>32239472
So is being white, what’s your point? You can’t just judge two individuals over statistics that’s not how that shit works
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