I don't know what to do anymore. I've been with my girlfriend since late '22, and things really feel like they're getting worse. Any flaws I considered early on in the relationship have amplified. She doesn't really care about my passions (art) and never asks about them. She's against a lot of sexual behavior—specifically, anything remotely "submissive." It has to be exactly equal in pleasure for her to want to engage, so we still haven't had proper sex yet.She rants all the time, creating a suddenly bad aura throughout the day whenever she goes on these negative 20-minute tangents. She'll abruptly cry at jokes or if I don't want to watch 30 minutes of TikToks, which she has me do every week. I don't really like staying at her apartment; she stays with me four days a week, and considering I work Saturdays and Sundays, I only get one day off each week. Despite this, she still complains that we don't spend enough time together. She actively makes sure I don’t do anything that doesn’t specifically involve her while we’re together. She once cried when I asked if I could just play a game or watch a movie while she hung around. I like her being there, but I don’t want to necessarily do couples’ activities all the time.I feel like I don't know myself or my life anymore. My mental health has been oddly deteriorating as this relationship has progressed. You'd think a relationship would make things better, but it's made my OCD and intrusive thoughts far worse than they used to be.
Just a few days ago, we were at her only friend's party, and her friend's fiancé was discussing in-depth blowjobs he's received in public and sex he's had. I expected my girlfriend to react, but she said nothing until I brought it up. When I did, she replied that she accepted most people are like that and that she is just different. I don't think she considered that I felt uncomfortable, and that's been on my mind lately.On the positive side, she makes me laugh often, goes to the movie theater with me a lot (even though she says she hates movies and criticizes or makes fun of me for some that I like), and drives me around since I don't have a car. I pay for everything, and she can be really sweet when she wants to be. However, a lot of the time lately, she's just been very rude and negative.
>>32239451Your gf just sounds neurotic bro. It's fine to not want to deal with this shit, just keep in mind that a lot of women today are like this. Doesn't mean you couldn't use a detox either way.The BJ thing seems like a total non-issue to me but if there's been no PIV after two years then that's a serious problem.
>>32239476She's autistic and has only 1 friend. I'll be fair and admit I'm an autist too, though I have more friends.
have you attempted sex?
>>32239487Yes, but we’re both virgins, so the foreplay isn’t great. She doesn’t like anything except kissing and cuddling, no oral. She’s a little chubby, and I’m very skinny, so it can sometimes be uncomfortable for me when she puts pressure on my body. She often complains about not being super skinny and goes on tangents about that, yet she still eats fast food and asks me to buy it for her. One time, she attempted to give me a handjob, but she gave up and said it was boring, so I had to finish myself. After I did, she took a swab of cum with her finger and smeared it on my lip as “revenge” for a time months ago when I lightly placed my finger on her underwear and then on her nose.She once cried on the phone when I asked if she could try a BJ.
let me guess, nothing is ever her fault. right?
>>32239509>uncomfy due to pressure of jer weightWeak
>>32239682Yep. You point out anything that makes you remotely upset, and she’ll put it on you and say she’s acting normal. >>32239688I’ve gotten fine at it. It used to bother me but it’s whatever now.
>>32239720yeah man there are few options for getting out of that hole. if she behaves that way, then she has no respect for you and honestly I doubt she has self-respect either. no decent woman bursts into tears at the first sign of trouble.this is just me but it's not a good sign that her only friend has a fiance who talks "in-depth" about blowjobs and sex. it's just trashy and it's a sign of what's really on her mind all of the time if she that's the kind of company she chooses to keep. she's thinking of sex, just not with you in mind.