Next year, I'll be ending my rental lease with my gf and moving to the west coast for a job-related change. I thought that breaking up would be a simple transition, seeing as I don't feel terribly attached to other people, and moving across the country would be a fresh start, but now the thought of leaving is filling me with guilt.We had a big talk the other day where she straight up asked, "so are you moving without me?" and now we're both a bit anxious for each others' futures. She is terrified of a future without me. So the thought of fulfilling her fear of "not being in her life anymore" would make me feel awful. I thought we would be able to create a space where we can maintain a friendship after the fact, but I'm learning that situations like these drift towards All or Nothing.tl;drA "fresh start" on the west coast would be cool,butNot if it's at the expense of someone else's peace of mind, especially someone that close to me. The relationship could be worth working for...!?? Not sure what the "right" play is.
fuck that hoe. if she's that hung up on you she'll follow, if not then she'll move on like anyone else would. dont neuter your life and opportunities for the sake someone who's nither your wife or mother of your children
>>32326435She deserves better than you. Just let her know you're starting a new life and end contact. It'll be the best way for each of you to get over it (she'll be in Chad's bed in one or two weeks)
Not sure. Let her decide if she wants to move with you. Sounds like you don't value the relationship that much though if you just went straight to ending things with her. Weird.
>>32326435Take her ass with.
>>32326435I won't read nigger-brained drifter ruminating about ending his current entertainment project.
>>32326435>I thought that breaking up would be a simple transition, seeing as I don't feel terribly attached to other peoplethe rest of your post seemingly contradicts this
