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How do I stop comparing my current self to my past self and the people around me? I used feel like I was on top of the world, but over the past five years or so every person I know has surpassed me, and I can't even say that myself improved, because I only got worse
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Try role reversal, it's really effective. Just put someone else in your situation, and try your best to give them the best advice you can think of.

If that doesn't work, my advice would be to try and focus on not determining your worth by whatever metric you are currently using. What is it? Money? Relationship? All of the above? I personally had to religiously accept that my life has value purely because I am alive. Here's a mantra I like:

If all life has value
And humans are alive
And I am human
Then, I have an intrinsic value
It cannot be given or taken away
There is nothing I can do to increase or decrease this value
Because all life has value

Reality is what you make it. You only feel like shit because something got in your brain and convinced you of lies, and the evidence that it's a lie is whatever motivated you to post this. The truth is whatever you make it. I personally, would rather "delude" myself into unprovable joy and gratitude then accept some unprovable bullshit that I suck and everyone else is great. Just pick the made up one that has a foundation of love instead of the made up one that's based on commodifying and comparing your existence. Have Fun!



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