I know the difference between a joke and disrespect. I'm not the sort of guy to go off on people the second they poke an insecurity.But lately it seems like my generation doesn't know how to confront anymore and just shit on, ostracise or sabotage people they have a problem with.How do I deal with it?Reddit's advice is, to be frank, a fucking pussy response. >Ignore it and don't respond.Nah, fuck that. That's just people disguising a fear of confrontation as stoicism. I want to deal with shit head on. What's a healthy way of doing it? Otherwise I'm just going to slap the shit out of some shit talkers.
>>32331983Be better than everyone.
>>32331983If you want to tackle this directly, then I guess go talk to them and ask them, frankly and without insults, what they're doing and what their problem is? And probably to stop. Then if they laugh in your face or play stupid, I guess you lose.
>>32331983If you think someone is being disrespecful, confront them directly. Anyone who makes a joke/talks bad about you doesn't expect for you to bite back. "What do you mean by that?" is my favorite question to ask people if they think they're being cocky: it gives them a severe brain fart. Bonus points for doing it in front of their friends. If they so much as start defending that person, "Hey, I'm talking to him, don't interrupt us"This is a picture of the Bogdanoff Twins, but related to the topic, you wanna confront people like this: looking dead in their eyes, without raising your voice
>>32331983It's like a game. If you are perceived as flipping out: you lose.
Bury them in a crawlspace.
>>32332223Being better than like 9 Billion people does not sound like the most healthy mindset.
>>32333858Mediocrity is okay! Your best is good enough, you don't have to try to be better than anyone! (◠‿◠)
You've already lost by posting this, not just here but oh feggit too and probably other places. You're so insecure that these things live in your head rent free to the point you're asking all over the internet how to make it stop. You've also already lost that you're threatening to go full retard and hit people. It's only made more retarded because we know you're a small dweeby loser. >> I'm not the sort of guy to go off on people the second they poke an insecurity.The existence of this post suggests otherwise. >> my generation doesn't know how to confront anymore and just shit on, ostracise or sabotage people they have a problem with.This isn't a generational problem. People have always done these things, it's basic human nature. Indeed it's the kind of basic behaviour most social animals exhibit. It isn't done to everyone they have a slight disagreement with, only those who do not belong, or who pose a threat to the perceived tribe. Gee, I wonder why people may think the kind of self entitled little bitch that feels they are just entitled to respect from everyone, no doubt has a warped idea of what respect means and wants to use intimidation and violence to instill fear in others to garner the illusion of respect even if actual respect isn't achieved as you have described yourself. It's the tantrums of a toddler. Respect is earned. It's earned through conformity to the tribe, acceptance of the established hierarchy, behaviour towards others and deeds. If you're diagnosed autistic, and given this platform there's a reasonable chance you are, then people are unlikely to ever respect you. Spergs aren't humans. They're mutated mistakes of nature. As such they can never conform and belong to the tribe. People can tolerate their existence to a point but not beyond that, and certainly never respect. If you aren't autistic then get your head out of your ass. You aren't important. Be respectable first to be respected.
Bro, you sound pathetic. No wonder people don't respect you.
>>32333908There's a pretty big distance from mediocrity to the top of the world.WTF?
>>32332223Or be a little bit better than I was before.>>32332233Ah I don’t consider it a loss if I set boundaries, beats letting someone walk over me.>>32332262Well hopefully not exactly like those guys, I don’t think they have any muscle in their face, but I’ll be direct and calm when I do it.>>32332272And maybe treat it like poker and not snap.>>32333967Alright chill dude, you spent way too long writing that.
>>32331983NTA but recently, I was hanging out with friends at a club, and this guy said that this other guy (my friend's I guess distant acquaintance) was fucking great, we met maybe an hour ago, had mutual acquaintances, we were all wastedso I was like>yeah, that guy is fucking great, I can vouch for thatshaking his handyou know, just shooting the shit, I guess being nice or whateverthat fuck I jokingly complimented then says that I'm a "shit guy"first time dealing with such outright disrespect outside of school, so I didn't know what to say, and jokingly said some shit like>well ain't that some nice shit, it's always the same shit, huhlooking at others present, but didn't confront himthat guy was way bigger, stronger than me, so I wouldn't have really said anything, either, fuckWhat could I have done different in that situation? Nothing much, I thinkI do always carry pepper spray on me in case shit goes south, not pussy spray, it's that good police-grade shit, (legal to carry) but it's not a good idea to just deploy that shit, especially when that bastard can find youAnyway, I'm working out, that is the solution to that problem, I believeHe saw that I was weak (54 kilograms, scrawny) and thought he could shit on me just becauseAlso, was what I said "wrong?" The joke compliment? I was just shooting the shit, do people not like that? I talked like that with other people all night, made a lot of friends, but I've been more wary and reserved with strangers and acquaintances since then, colder I guess, maybe I was getting too friendly, or maybe this fuck was just an assholeI observed him, he really is an asshole, a pretty dangerous/reckless one, it seems, has torn knuckles, and he took a shit right on the street afterwards
>>32336853I mean I generally don’t value the opinion of people who shit in the street so hopefully you’re not taking that personally.But let’s be honest, most of us aren’t going to be gangster with a guy that can beat the shit out of us- but to be fair a person doesn’t have to be a giant to stab, shoot or ambush you with a bat. It’s sensible to not confront people you don’t know.
