I hooked up with my current girlfriend expecting that at worst she'd be a one night stand and at best she'd be a semi-long term FWB, months later we are actually dating. We realized that we got along very well in pretty much every area of importance in a romantic relationship (politically, religiously etc), except for one... She is strictly monogamous whereas towards the beginning of our relationship that I didn't believe in the concept of marriage, but that I am also non monogamous. I told her that I could attempt to work on it, however nothing seems to have fixed the problem. My desire to have sex with individuals other than my girlfriend has gotten to the point where I can only get off during sex if I am thinking about other people, despite my girlfriend herself being extremely attractive. I dont know how to explain to my girlfriend that I don't feel comfortable with her being my only sexual release. I don't need additional romantic entanglements, however I do need the ability to be able to engage in sexual activities with other individuals without guilt. I am considering proposing the idea of having 3somes sometime in the future however I don't know if she'll be comfortable with that, despite the fact that she swings both ways sexually. I dont want to hurt my girlfriend, and I dont want to cause long term relationship issues by engaging in ENM, but at the same time I dont know if I will ever be fulfilled if I dont take advantage of some degree of an ENM dynamic. Anyways, there's my bullshit.
>>32332520Shortly, you are a whore. Step on a lego, cunt
>>32332525Trust me, I am fully aware. I am simply looking to behave like a whore in a manner in which the only person I hurt is myself, and not the people around me. Is that too much to ask?
>>32332535Sorry man, it doesn’t work like that. Playing as a whore will always hurt yourself and others around you. Even if you hook up with another hypersexual nympho, all you’d be doing is masturbating with each other’s bodies. Which is hurtful later on once one or both people become whole and unbroken, they look back at the accumulated disrespect of their own bodies and it haunts ‘em.you made me sad when you wrote this part:>in a manner in which the only person I hurt is myself.You are a person like anyone else, worthy of respect, even now. Settling for hurting yourself is one step too harsh. You deserve better, man. >I could attempt to work on it, however nothing seems to have fixed the problem. I don’t know (you), but I’d like to suggest this: Maybe it’s because you’re making the classic mistake most humans make when confronting any dysfunction/disorder/addiction/habit/behavioural pattern. Maybe you haven’t been able to tackle your hypersexuality because you’ve tackled it the wrong way. Maybe you’ve seen at as the [MAIN] problem, the root of issues, the source of problems on and of itself. When actually, it’s not the [MAIN] problem, it is not the poverbial ‘disease’, it’s a symptom, not a cause. A symptom of something deeper and older than your hypersexuality. And the real main source of that is invisible to you. Perhaps because it has to do with your past, maybe upbringing and childhood. I know that’s where a lot of men in similar situations got it from. Hypersexuality and non-monogamy is a form of emotional running. It’s running & avoiding, refusing to be penned in and captured. It’s a fear of domestication. A fear of recreating [home] with another person. Because the first home, as a child, wasn’t peaceful. Maybe it was Hellish. And so when you witness yourself forming one with another human, you want to flee and express freedom sexually in sporadic bursts to cope with the fear of engulfment.
>>32332658>Perhaps because it has to do with your past, maybe upbringing and childhood.Many people who I grew up around were engaging in sexual activity at a very early age and were also often in non-monogamous relationships, or were willing to engage in hook ups whenever with almost whoever. I think there is a large amount of FOMO going on somewhere, however even after getting into a committed relationship those feelings didn't go away. Its almost like I was raised to be comfortable in an environment that I currently dont exist in. Many of my friends, male and female, lost their virginity to individuals they only had sex with once, and then immediately bounced back from it. Hell, I had a friend who doesn't even know who took her virginity (it was in a public place with a stranger) but she was adamant that the interaction was consensual. The only reason why I didn't go down a similar path was due to my extremely religious upbringing and almost crippling social anxiety. Despite having been called stereotypically attractive (at least for the American Midwest), my mindset was in the gutter for the entirety of my late teens. Before my current partner, I only engaged in one prior sexual relationship which I regretted not because of what I was doing but because of who. Something that got drilled into me growing up is that every single sexual experience is entirely different from every previous sexual experience, and I dont want to be limited to one experience.
>>32332658>Even if you hook up with another hypersexual nympho, all you’d be doing is masturbating with each other’s bodies.Yes, this is pretty much the point. >You are a person like anyone else, worthy of respect, even now. Settling for hurting yourself is one step too harsh. You deserve better, man.What I meant by this is that if I'm going to be doing something that could hurt someone, I'd want to make sure that the hurt is all on me, not other people, but ideally there would be no hurt.
