For years I couldn't do anything and still can't do anything beside my job, two activities, basic biological needs and things other people (including my parents) tell me to do, and even in those things I'm slacking and being slow with various intensity. It's all because I keep overthinking stuff, trying to rationalise the reasons of why I should or (mostly) shouldn't do a thing, second-guessing and trying to predict the outcome without doing anything. Because of this I never had and still don't have any real dreams, desires, passions, goals or plans for my life. It even affects the most easiest forms of my own entertainment: for now only from Youtube I get new things to watch, otherwise I'm just reading/listening to/watching/playing the same stuff over and over again, rarely and slowly contacting new things. What can I even do with this on my own? Should I seek for external professional help for this? Pic random.
>>32336175https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QT3fOMJdfbc
>>32336175I understand how you feel. I much prefer just living in the moment, because nothing can really ever go wrong in that state of mind. If you have no plans or dreams, than there is nothing that can disappoint you. If you don't try new things, that you think you wouldn't be good at in the first place, than you cannot fail. I find comfort in this, I don''t typically deviate from my normal routine. I eat the same foods, go to the same places, talk to the same people. This space I am in, is a space of comfort and familiarity. Nothing can go wrong here. I believe that you feel the same way I do. You can either learn to accept your fate, and live a peaceful but unfulfilling life, or push yourself towards change and do what your sub-conscious wants.
>>32336206> is a space of comfort and familiarity. Nothing can go wrong hereExcept for it really isn't, because why would I be worried about my way of life while living in a "comfort and familiarity"?It may be because it just happened for me to be around passionate or crafty people who are living quite fine while doing their stuff for a free time along with their job. Am I jealous for them? Maybe not. And even if I am, it doesn't help me, but it doesn't affect me enough to go down even further.
>>32336175make your home and room only for sleeping and eating . 8 hours a day max. spend the yest fo your time out of the house finding shit to do. money,car,job,school?
>>32336660> money> jobI already got a job. It does make a little bit of money, but I don't really want to do more than that and it gives me a slightly more free time than your usual 5/2 8-5 job.> carWhy do I need it? My job is not far away from home, and public transport works fine for going other places than home or job> schoolI've already learned in school and uni, don't feel like going in those again.So what should I be doing outside for 8 hours then? No people of my age are going there, why should I?
>>32336761do you want to get otu of your head or not?>No people of my age are going thereall the successful resilient ones are constantly doing something and on the move. find shit to do, whether it be hobbies,shows,concerts,the gym, or anything. its really up to you to find shit to do to keep yourself occupied and focussed on the present moment. your aid you use public transport right? i assume that means you live in or near a city?it should be 100x as easy if thats the case. the point is to occupy yourself and get out of your comfort zone which is in your head.being at home is the worse thing you can do for mental ailments like this
>>32336796> find shit to do, whether it be hobbies,shows,concerts,the gym, or anythingBut I don't have a single clue about what to search for. I do live in a city, but nothing there seems interesting enough to just join and go, and I don't I have time and energy to just go through all the activities at my city.I also fear that my initial disinterest and inexperience will make my first experience in everything miserable enough to just quit and never go back.
>>32337084>my initial disinterest and inexperienceall in your head> don't I have time and energyenergy is created by doing shit not by sitting at home.look i cant hand feed you this shit. you gotta like something. go to a bar. find underground shows, meet people.
>>32337096> energy is created by doing shit not by sitting at homeBut isn't it get all wasted at doing this same shit outside? > all in your headI'm not a separate organism that could exist without my head, shouldn't I do something with it first to get myself moving somewhere?> i cant hand feed you this shit.But you can give not very helpful pseudo-"advice" that contains no solutions but more problems to go through, got it.
>>32337161>But isn't it get all wasted at doing this same shit outside?no, is english not your first langauge?>a separate organism that could exist without my headyou are clearly mentally ill so no.overthinking will never lead to action, you should train yourself overtime to be able to act off instinct and feeling alone.the whole point of this is to get you to grow and stop seeking refuge in comfortable spaces. more problems? do you not want to live and change?if thats the case put a gun in your mouth. i dont live in your city so i cant hand feed you shit to do, even if i did know i can only offer suggestions. i cant decide for you, you have to be comfortable taking leaps of faith and being okay with the outcome. dont be a smartass with me for caring and trying to help.
>>32337184> is english not your first langauge?Yes, it's not.> you should train yourself overtime to be able to act off instinct and feeling aloneAnd how exactly? By just jumping between various random activities and totally random people with no real desire, no interest, no clear direction and no goal? Wouldn't it be just wasteful and unfulfilling? > i dont live in your cityI could tell you all about it, but for the brevity - it's meh. Not a total shithole, you can exist here, but not really a good place to live and "grow". The things that keep me here are my parents who sometimes need my help, my current playbuddies at TTRPGs and the rent prices. And I suspect that if I can't "grow" here, I wouldn't be able to "grow" anywhere else.
>>32336175>what should I do?completely disconnect yourself from the internet (phone too) until you figure it out. i've had a similar issue and this werkd for me
>>32338221And how exactly did that work for you? What did you decide to do after being disconnected from the Internet?I don't do much on the Internet in my free time beside watching Youtube, browsing imageboards, contacting people or sometimes acquiring new games or movies. And in my work time Internet is needed to contact my colleagues and students via messengers and email. Can't imagine what would disconnecting from the Internet do there.
You need to quit your job and go to uni again. Once in uni, you will be surrounded by girls again and your libido itself will push you to do things, to socialize more, to do things to be better at entertaining and will get you to actually make fun memories and do fun things by allowing you to speak to others.
>>32338323> Once in uni, you will be surrounded by girls again and your libido itself will push you to do thingsEither your advice is wrong or my libido is fucked, but that wasn't a thing for me in my 6 years of uni.
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>>32336175You probably eat a high carb diet. Eat more meat and less plants to escape the matrix.
>>32338976How does this have to do with my head? I mean, do I have to eat more meat because it will nurture my brain enough to think less about bullshit?
>>32339139Mental health is physical. You have grain brain syndrome.
>>32339198mental health is part genetic and part a product of your actions
>>32339198> grain brain syndromeNever heard of it, but alright. I usually eat whatever my mother cooks for the whole family, so how do I cook and eat separately? And how long will it take to fix this syndrome with a different diet?
