>be me>have this female friend I have a crush on>she's sweet and docile we share hobbies like gaming and anime, has almost no redflags>we spent long time on calls watching anime together and playing vidya (like stardew valley) together >she's kinda needy and sometimes we would spent every night for a week or more together on calls (I work night shifts so it's hard for us to meet in person except on my days offs)>one day I decided to make a move on her and ask if she wanted something more than friendship>"sorry anon I'm kinda slow with this feeling stuff I can't give you answer rn">well ok>fast foward a week were the same as before continue gaming together and she never touched the subject again>time to move on>I start meeting new girls and meet this one girl>she's playfull and cute but we don't share almost anything in common on hobbies despite that we have a great time together teasing each other and talking>back to the one friend>still haven't told her about the new girl im talking with>she keeps calling me to game with her or watch animes but I can't cause I'm talking with this one new girlI feel bad for making up excuses but I don't know how to tell her about the new girl because: 1° I'm still not 100% sure about the new girl she has some redflags and we don't know each other too well yet and 2° maybe is just copium but I'm hoping that she still might answer positive for my question. What should I do?
>>32380192A bird in hand
>>32380192Shouldn't be dating new girl if you're ready to drop her like a sack of hammers for your friend. If your friend won't shit or get off the pot in regards to her feeling for you, and you want to date elsewhere, you unfortunately will have to end the friendship or at least put it on hiatus. Sucks, but this is an everyone loses situation. Better to draw a line under it sooner and get space to clear your head
>>32380283I mean I'm ready to refuse my friend if the new girl is good I'm just too unsure about her she has a lot of redflag, for now it's just casual fun, on the other hand my friend is everything I ever wanted with just one redflag
>>32380192You ARE allowed to have more than one friend at a time.
>>32380316If things are still casual with new girl, then alright. Could just tell your friend all this directly. You don't have tell her you're seeing someone already, but just that you met someone you like, and unless she's changed her mind about you, you're gonna see her. And then after that you can just tell her outright when you're busy that you're with your girlfriend. What are new girl's red flags though? Not sharing hobbies isn't really a problem if you click and get on great. Just gives you more things to share with each other
>>32380319That's the thing I'm probably one of the few if not only friend of the first girl, and def the one who spends more time with her>>32380325>what are the new girl flagsShe's a single mom, leave me on read for long periods and sometimes doesn't reply to me, currently unemployed but we're trying to work it out
>>32380335>She's a single mom, leave me on read for long periods and sometimes doesn't reply to me, currently unemployedWew lad, I'd drop it.
>>32380335>She's a single mom, leave me on read for long periods and sometimes doesn't reply to me, currently unemployed but we're trying to work it outyikesI'd stay with your friend, but your friend may need some pressure to commit - in that sense it's probably good if you tell her you met someone (while keeping it vague). It might cause a reaction.
>>32380192>teasing each other and talkingYou aren't dating nor even touching any of them but think you're in a relationship and worried about cheating?
>>32380375Wew me and my friend did stayed 2 days without talking to each other (wich is rare we usually send good morning texts to each other everyday and talk at lest a bit about our days when we don't game) but she sent me a message today so I might bring it up. I wasn't sure about saying this this one friend also has her flag wich is she has a bit of gender dysphoria and wants to get mastectomy
>>32380398ThisOP is a delusional faghot
>>32380410Oh now I see, you’re just trolling and LARPING that you’re an emotional tampon.Cock sucker OP
>>32380410>a bit of gender dysphoria>and wants to get mastectomyShe wants an invasive, destructive surgery just because of "a bit" of an identity confusion?Good lord, what the healthcare mafia has done to these poor kids. Persuade her out of that shit. She can live as they/them as much as her wants, but there's no way back from something like that and she'll regret of those scars in her chest forever.
>>32380616Idk the full story she gets evasive everytime I try to talk with her about her gender identify (she says she's a NB and don't care whether I use male or female pronouns) I was hoping to talk more about it if she accepted my feelings cause I feel out of place pressuring her about it being just a friend
>>32380192>she's sweet and docileKon'nichiwa, dude!
>>32381212What does that even mean
