I need someone's else POV with me, since I'm lost in thoughts, I know I'd be getting a lot of heat for this.I've got to know and marry someone after doing no fap.In hindsight I ignored all of the red flags, because I thought she would get better or I'd adapt.We've been married for 3 years now, still no kids.We didn't consummate our marriage until 3 months later.Beside her neurotic and hysterical episodes, sex is really bad and basic, just (penis in vagina deal), no foreplay, no lingerie, no blowjob.She think as long as I put my dick in her I forgave her for the shit she put me through.This make me feel disrespected, a lot.I hate sex with her, since I feel it's something I must do as chore for her, I know she isn't getting any pleasure from it, and neither do I.But when I refuse to have sex with her she go int tantrum mode.I can't feel emotionally attached to this woman, and honestly I don't know what to do.I threatened to leave once in heated arguments and she started beating her face.
>>32381165So where is the problem?Move out, break up, divorce.>I threatened to leave once in heated arguments and she started beating her face.Record her in case she decides false accuse you.Just leave and never talk to her again unless it's to get your stuff back, handle logistical stuff. You might be able to get the cops to escort you while you gather your stuff to move out.
>>32381165>I ignored all of the red flagsYou really shouldn't have done that
>>32381183>Move out, break up, divorce.People don't know how hard to do this if you're dealing with a narcissist BPD spouse.My mother was like that, my dad put up with her shit for 50 years, until she passed away, my siblings and I had to go for therapy as adults because of her.When she died, I saw my dad relieved for the first time in my life.I asked him why didn't he leave her, he told me he always thought he could help her.Men don't want to admit they failed getting a good partner, and I guess this is similar to Stockholm syndrome.>>32381192Yes, he shouldn't have.
>>32381216Unless there is some financial issue or he has nowhere to go, the difficulty exists only his mind.It doesn't get better. Just gotta rip the bandaid off. The pain is temporary.> It's haaaarrrd, because he's a maaaanThat's some reddit-tier logic. It's just a series of physical actions. It doesn't have to be fun or enjoyable, it's simple, he just gets out of his head and does it. Problem solved.He should be worrying about money, rent/housing, logistics, false accusations, lawyereing up, not "but feelings!" Being with her feels bad, for both of them. Just do what needs to be done.
>>32381165>marry someoneThis was your mistake
