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I just saw my ex got engaged, we didnt date a super long time(1 year) but it still kind of bothers me.

The dude she got with looks like an OK guy but is a lower social class and makes less money for sure. I am honestly kind of dumbfounded by the whole thing but she was getting old(36 currently) so if she was going to have kids it had to be now.

My dating life after our breakup has been fairly shitty, I had sex since and a couple short term relationships but nothing really sticks. I fucking love my job though which is good I suppose.
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>>33917867
Guess money isn't everything for her, and it really shouldn't be. Who cares if he is "lower class". Weird thing to type. Everyone on here whines that they need to make 600.000 dullars a year or no one would even look at them.
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>>33917867
The best skill a man can have is the ability to let a women posthaste. They have men in reserve, so it's only fair.
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>>33917908
> Who cares if he is "lower class". Weird thing to type.

She was always kind of mad about me having a graduate degree and working in an upper class field so I suppose it's not too surprising she went in the opposite direction for her follow up relationship.

Honestly I was always a little bit worried about marrying into a family with significantly less achievement/higher dysfunction but I was serious about her.
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>>33917922
In that case maybe you dodged a bullet? My family has never had much and never felt like we needed more. At the same time her way of acting out sounds strange. I'm not mad at others for earning more than me. We all more or less have good options to achieve those things.

What is your plan now? Just keep trying to get something permanent?
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>>33917945

I have no real plans but continue to make money and progress in my career, hopefully sculpting a life that more easily attracts the average thot.

I don't think I will every invest too much emotionally in a relationship again though, they are simply too easy to have ended and too hard to replace(as a man anyway).
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>>33917960
You seem pretty down to earth. I like the post in general. Just wanting to strike up conversation. Nothing sour about anything typed. Don't act like the guy to get married either. Really hope it works out for ya.
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>>33917978

Thanks bro. Maybe all men need to have this experience to not end up in an even shittier situation. My biggest annoyance is dating takes so much time I could be using to make more money or expand my technical background.
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>>33917908
>Weird thing to type
Yeah you can tell he's a creep by the way he thinks
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>>33917999
Maybe more pragmatic to the point of seeming that way. Don't think he is though. He seem genuine enough.
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>>33918329
It's a manipulative LARP and it shows how insecure and pathetic op is
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>>33917867
>lower social class and makes less money
The fact that this is how you define him suggests why you failed with her (and others since). Some people respond to others in terms other than class and money. It is likely that her new man is not just a last-minute sperm donor, but a genuinely nicer guy than you
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Not true

I'm worth more in every way and it makes him so insecure that he has to make these larp threads
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But no worries, we're almost done with you
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>>33918389

>It is likely that her new man is not just a last-minute sperm donor, but a genuinely nicer guy than you

I was never a nice guy, but I was a better one in terms of every long term relationship metric.

If you believe having kid with someone who makes marginally more than minimum wage and has has no meaningful career trajectory at 30 is a great idea I don't know what to say. This is an absolutely massive sign your future is going to be fucked up.
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I'm excited to share my work with you and travel the world
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>>33917922
desu if i was a woman and somebody called himself an upper class because he has a graduate degree, i would run out of a window
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>>33919182

>Doctors, Lawyers and Engineers vs service workers some trades, etc.

There's absolutely a class divide there.
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>>33917867
looks like your ex dodged a bullet when she dumped you.
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>>33917867
Ignore the faggots saying you're wrong for calling out a woman for shacking up with a loser.
Your problems are
>r*ddit spacing
>giving a shit

Go do something with your life, either follow your passion or do what you need to in order to find another woman you actually want and accept that doing either will take years of effort and you need to do it whatever sadsack bullshit thoughts are in your brain mush right now.
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>>33921615
While this depends on a lot of factors, trades guys can absolutely make more money than white collar professionals who need post-grad degrees. The real trade off is not ending up blown out physically and thrice divorced at 40.
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>>33921615
You are a fucking retard and why will always beyond your grasp
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>>33917867
This is why barring certain circumstances, ignorance is bliss in regards to an ex.
Once they're an ex they are DEAD they DO NOT EXIST.
Do not look them up and try to figure out what's going on in their life, it's gonna fuck you up and hit you right in the ego.
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>The dude she got with looks like an OK guy but is a lower social class and makes less money for sure

Lmao, this is common.
I was once dating a woman who was quite fit and attractive, she stayed in shape for sure. One day, random, she looks at me and asks if I would still love her if she got fat.
I was honest; of course, I would still love her. But I don't fuck fatties so I would not find her attractive.
Fast forward a few months and she's with another guy. And she's noticeably fatter. Every pic she posts is of her body getting fatter and her just letting herself go physically.
The guy she's with lives in a dilapidated mobile home and is pretty much illiterate/uneducated, out of shape himself, etc. I'm assuming this guy gave her permission to be a big nasty sweaty slob of a woman. He sure does tolerate her misbehaviour better than I did in terms of her always visiting "her male cousin and male friends."
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>>33917867
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3PU0JgAvF0
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>>33917867
My ex cheated on me because she claimed she was a lesbian and now a few months later she's hooking up with some guy again
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>>33922231

Yeah, I suppose part of me wished she would have come back but I doubt that will ever happen, if it ever did it would be after she had kids and got divorced at which point zero chance.

Still it's an odd feeling to have someone you spent a lot of time with just be completely gone and created a new life with someone else.



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