Girlfriend just told me she's pregnant. 30 year old female. I'm 32. I've got a good job, she's about to finish her physics PhD. Naturally I'm going to marry her. Any advice from dadanons or schizos on how to raise a good family, have a healthy baby and avoid autism? What do I need to know about pregnancy and early childhood
>>33917966>avoid autismyour priorities are already pretty strange, just love the kid enough to do as much as you can to make sure he/she is as healthy as can be and hope for the best, no shit food no unmonitored internet, honestly avoid internet exposure for as long as possible
>>33917983My nephew is giga autistic. 5 years old and only grunts. Can't be left alone more than a second. I assure you my priorities are practical here
1. Don't have her take anything. He schizo about drugs, raw meat etc2. Get your extended families. Guilt them into gifting you money. There's nothing more important for them to spend it on anyway3. Buy baby stuff on the secondhand market. They don't need toys or many clothes and people will gift them to you.4. Her being comfortable is more beneficial than anything else. Let her chill. It's also free.
>>33917990theres tons of developmental disorders that could manifest in your child that will lead to them having a suboptimal existence, the fact that your specific worry is about the one that could potentially be incredibly mild and even beneficial in some cases instead of something like downs or some degenerative disease is really casting doubt on your mental processes
>>33917990Were his parents 40?
>>33917966>Any advice from dadanons Be consistent. Be reasonable. Be understanding. Laugh with your child. Encourage your child. Shield your child, but not to much. Don't sweet the details. Do put your foot down when it comes to your values.One thing none of the manuals say is that you need to learn nursery songs before your kid is born. You won't be able to read lyrics in the dark.>have a healthy babyAvoid alcohol during pregnancy. Avoid cats. Do not give your baby plastic toys or synthetic clothing. Do give your kid good food, daily. >and avoid autism?Do you mean actual autism or internet-autism? If the former, they have it from birth and it's unavoidable. If you mean internet-autism, then make sure your kid has a social life. Don't let them stay isolated and shut in.
>>33917966>Any advice from dadanons or schizos on how to raise a good family, have a healthy baby and avoid autismif you have any siblings get them to babysit the baby
>>33917966I'm a schizo who's dove down the rabbithole.No formula. Only breast breast milk until about 3 when they can start eating solid food. No polyester. Cotton or linen. Buy organic if you can. Buy simple household products (soaps, detergents, etc). Powdered form. No parfum/fragrance, etc. Eg. Don't use dryer sheets. Use dryer balls. The EWG database is a good source. I use the brand EVERYONE. You can buy in bulk so you're not paying 1$ per once of shampoo. Nothing with plastic in your house. Not in the kitchen or bathroom especially. Restrict their internet access. Brainrot will make them retarded dopamine addicts. Best case is to not even own a TV. Set an example by reading. Regularly bring them to the library. Ensure/ provide opportunities for them to socialize. Get them into sports or ensure they're active. Eg. Take them out bike riding.Good luck.
Check if your local hospital/Healthcare center has a cheap/free parenting class.
>>33918093>Only breast breast milk until about 3 when they can start eating solid foodWtf? Babies get weaned starting at 6months old. It takes about a year so they're done between 1.5 - 2 years old.
Any good alternative to child day care? I don't want to leave my toddler with pedos and freaks. Do church groups offer child play groups or old ladies looking to look after kids?
>>33918227Even if you find a good church, or other responsible socual group, you really can't be %1000 sure that whoever you leave your kid with isn't a pedo. You have to be able to talk with your kid afterwards and have them describe what they did with the babysitter. Encourage them to do an activity that has physical proof, like cutting paper dolls. You aren't interrorgating your kid if they got their pp touched, you're having them recall a fun time they had while you were out.Pedos are retards, but they can be patient so stay vigilant.
>>33917966>avoid autismNope, good luck babe.
her diet and temperament are well worth investing in during pregnancylearn to love putting yourself secondgood luck
>>33917966Do NOT circumcise your child.Do NOT let it out of your sight.Poor thing could get a trauma from it, and that's just one of the negatives. Here's a (long) thread about it, if you'd like to learn more about it.https://archive.4plebs.org/x/thread/41403359Also, play classical music for it every now and then while it's developing. My parents did it for me and I turned out fine :D>t. seemingly antisemitic schizoanon
>>33917966>she's about to finish her physics PhDSo she'll be a stay at home mom. Not many jobs for that. Good idea for raising the kid. If she can get a postdoc position someplace or adjunct lecturer or even just a tutor at a higher ed school lots of them have all kinds of cool free tuition deals for the kid.If you want a serious answer, enjoy your family life as just the two of you. Don't have to do anything special other than be together. It'll be like two decades at least until its just the two of you again. Having a cloud of kids around you is fun, but its fun just being the two of you, so enjoy it while you can.Seriously though, her field is some hyper pyramid where the top guys make $250K, a couple under make like $100K and most folks end up selling used houses or teaching high school, so don't expect her to do too much financially. Focus on the kid the first couple years not putting in hours to get the promotion that probably doesn't exist anyway LOL.
>>33918120I'm not anon, but my wife and I had a couple kids and the wife ends up tagging out on breast feeding after a couple months, its "a lot of work" and "a lot of missed sleep" so just do as much as you realistically can, but most women give up a long time before 3 months... the less formula you feed them, the better, in the long run. 3 might be a very realistic goal for BF. More if you can, but I bet most can't.
>>33918093>dove down the rabbit hole>literally the stupidest post i've seen across five years on this board
>>33917966Make sure your woman eats more than noodles and butter. I have a theory thaat evere fucking retarded skinny kid at school was born from a mother that didn't eat enough meat and vegetables. A meal should be 1/4 meat 1/4 vegetable and have your pasta or rice or bread then whatever else like cheese or milk or cheesecake or genuine no artificial flavor ice cream. My chinese dad made my mom eat really good and walk with her miles while pregnant (the excessive walking 5+ miles is extreme and shouldn't be replicated with a pregnant white woman they arent as agile as pregnant asians and this hurt my moms feet)But thanks to abundant nutrition in my fetal and childhood years im going through my colleg courses EASY while the others struggle because their moms malnutritioned themselves while pregnant causing lack of brain development because of nutrition scarcity. Its so tragic too then they eat more sugar and starch in class and cant focus. their moms probably also drank, smoked cigarettes and weed while pregnant LOL. These poor guys were all so doomed. I cant wait to actually make something in class
>>33918015No i bet his parents had a mom that smoked and ate only pasta with butter while pregnant. Or the woman was a "low calories vegan" while pregnant. Pregnant women need lots of everything except for slop sugar or else baby comes out retarded.
>>33917966>avoid autismYou are aware autism is genetic, right?
>>33920044No wonder there's so many autism traits. They're being fed onions before developing the ability to notice facial expressions. Fun activity for the baby: laminated pictures of you holding them as flashcards.
>>33917990Home birth with a good midwife, don't cut that cord until it's bone white, be very selective in vaccinations and push them as far out as possible, IF you are even going to go that route,(It's been proven now that unvaccinated children ARE healthier across the board)Short of that, just feed them breastmilk until they are weaned, then CLEAN, healthy food.And make sure you engage them and talk to them as much as possible.Do I even have to address genital mutilation?Congrats, anon, I hope everything goes well! You might not get much sleep for the next 2 years, but it will be worth it.You might show your soon to be wife this too:https://www.aninconvenientstudy.com/
>>33918120>Babies get weaned starting at 6months old.Weaning age depends very much on culture and era. There is no hard and fast rule.
>>33918227>pedos and freaks. >church groupsChoose once (1)
>>33920033There's always the option for being an online tutor for homeschoolers.I have a feeling that's going to be more and more in demand soon.nice post BTW.>>33920049Other than the Plastic thing, which has merit, but is next to impossiburu, other than it's a really solid post.>using greentext for anything other than quotes or actions in storytelling.Kek!
>>33920448This guy knows his shit. Dad anon here of 3. Midwife all the way. The MD OBs are fucking clueless. Our DR permanently fucked up my wife’s cervix. The only other advice is make sure your gf wife stays home and raises the child. Her career is over if you want a happy family. If you can’t support your family on your own you better buckle up and be a man. No man makes her gf go to work with a child
>>33920554not doing real well on the Turing test here, SABLE
>>33920570>Other than the Plastic thing, which has merit, but is next to impossiburuI mean, I managed it with my daughter. There's an entire industry of wooden children's toys. One thing is you have to make it clear to everyone in your family that you will return all plastic toys.
>>33920618>2 typos in 2 words>OMG IT'S A BOT OMG OMG
some thoughts in no particular order:- do the amniocentesis to check for abnormalities- pregnancy requires more calories, but not an insane amount more. the vast majority of women overeat and end up with gestational diabetes because they have an excuse to overeat. this leads to other complications- cesarean is increasingly common (in the US at least.) if she ends up getting one, recovery is ROUGH. be prepared to be doing the heavy lifting taking car of both of them for the first month or so. - even without a c-sec, expect / plan to loose a lot of sleep so you can wake up to feed / change the baby multiple times each night--hopefully you get paid parental leave from your job- breast milk is best for as long as possible, but it's highly inconvenient, and for some, difficult to even produce enough. a mixture of breast milk and formula is fine too. pumping / storing breast milk is fine, but babies bond better feeding directly from breast- no sex for at least a month (longer for c-sec.) hopefully she'll still be up for bj>t. dad of two
>>33920622Oh, yeah totally, children's toys, dishes and utensils, glass jars and storage containers for food storage.Drinking vessels might be a little harder, but there are probably good sipper cups that are pretty chem safe. too bad that don't make kidcups with GorillaGlass. I thought you meant NOTHING plastic is allowable--almost Impossiburu to go shopping for food without having SOME. What's your take on silicone?>>33920610Thanks anon. It's amazing just how apparently sociopathic both nurses and "doctors" can be.They will straight up LIE to you and the second your back is turned try to inject them will all kinds of shit.You can circumvent the stress altogether with the homebirthing.OP might want to start shopping around now for a good pediatrician who aligns with their Ideals and is trustworthy.I'd guess that a lot of the Really good ones got shafted during 2020-2021. >>33920629Not the typos...The CONTEXT was absurd.
>>33917966Don't let her consume Tylenol, and don't let your baby be raised by an iPad or let daycare raise them either.
>>33917966Make sure not to vaccinate with any of the standard ones so your baby dies before it has a chance to develop autism.
>>33920833Get a load of this programmed NPCI hope you take every free mystery juice with a 14% efficacy or less.GOOD GOY!Don't worry, we'll find just the right job for (you) with a great health insurance premium.
>>33920857Your graphs do not prove what you think they do.
>>33920920Be honest, you have no idea what I think they prove.Are you going to try to assert that it's just the adjuvant making it work?Hilarious.
>>33917966Get used to it together with your wife and have fun with it, bc if you raise them right their brothers and sisters will be the majority of the sane and healthy kids around for them to play with.
>>33920550We're racist enough to recognize differences between cultures
>>33920554The reason churches are so filled with pedos and freaks are because of the churchgoers. They want an alternative to daycare or more daycare than they could afford. So there's parents that don't want to parent and the only people who want to look after their badly behaved brats. The horrible parents pressure other parents to give their own children the same treatment in order to feel like good people-cuz they're in church to feel good.Honestly church is worse than daycare. In daycare you're getting what you paid for and the staff is held responsible. If you want something better, get a nanny or grandmother
>>33917966You need to agree to prioritize your relationship with each-other over "the good of the children". Why? Because if you and her are on great terms and in a loving relationship, the children are also good by default. Parents who love eachother don't neglect children. They set aside time for themselves because they realize that children are generally gonna be okay. However whenever parents prioritize the children over everything else...their relationship crumbles. It ends up being worse for everyone because the children don't have a model of a good relationship and the parents just tolerate each-other. Not a good combination.
>>33917990Even if the baby is autistic, you guys are educated and well-off to get the care and support they need
>>33921322>The reason churches are so filled with pedos and freaks are because of the churchgoers.Incorrect. Churches are so filled with pedos and freaks because of the culture of silence and repression. Keeping up appearances in order to remain in favor with the church means that people stay willingly blind to issues that they perceive would be embarrassing. Church people are OBSESSED with image - the image of a perfect, christ-like life, the image of a perfect family, the image of a perfect relationship with god, free of sin etc., Those who are perceived as the most christ-like and the most perfect are elevated in church hierarchies. They bury scandals out of pride, vanity and a deeply ingrained sense of shame. In the eyes of the church and its followers, if your life is a mess or scandals follow you its because you don't have God's favor. The appearance of everything being fine is far, far more important to them than things actually being fine. So long as they can retain their social status they'll cover up whatever they need to.
Plenty of good advice in this thread. Some of it is going to be hard to do in modern society (like no plastic toys, limiting screen time, breastfeeding until toddler age, avoiding unnecessary vaccines) so don't feel like you have to do EVERYTHING right or be perfect just make a good effort and focus on the things that are important to you. Diet is critical for both pregnancy and early childhood, feed your family lots of whole foods and healthy meats and veggies. If your wife likes to cook at all, praise her to high heaven when she makes delicious healthy foods that you like, tell her how much you appreciate her helping you all be healthy (and make sure she understands how good it is for your kid) Spend as much time with your newborn as you possibly can, and give them times where they have your complete undivided attention as they start to play. Play is not a fun distraction for kids, it is their life and how they start to figure out the world. Take time to play with them, set healthy boundaries as they get older, and they will both trust you and learn to play/exist independently from you. Don't try to shield them from boredom, boredom and self-motivation are important development tools. Spend lots of time reading to them and playing outside, preferably digging in the dirt. Let them start helping with chores around the house as soon as possible, especially things like cooking where they see the immediate benefit. They will work slowly and make a mess, this is fine it's worth it. Kids don't know the difference between work and play, if you have fin and do it with a good attitude they will love it. Love your kids, love your wife, be patient, kind, and strong. Take good care of yourself, remember everything you do is teaching your kid a lesson and they are more perceptive than you might think.
>>33917966>Naturally I'm going to marry her.Whats natural about that?Havign a child with a woman doesn't mean you have to spend your life with her. Just take care of the child.
>>33917966My schizo take from ruminating on it that has no basis in experience whatsoever is that your main job as a parent is to bootstrap your kid into becoming an independent person who can make his or her own choices by being there, listening, trying to understand your child problems and sharing your adult perspective on how you think they should be handled and why.Don't pretend to be some kind of infallible all-knowing authority figure, but also don't retreat from your responsibility to give the best advice you can. And obviously you don't do it by yourself but also coordinate with your wife.
>>33918338my friend worked at a daycare where an unironic chinese elliottodgercel molested a bunch of kids by kissing and making out with them (acclrdijg to her coworkers and rhe local gossip) and he inly got caught after doing this to 8+ different kids. you need to explain to kids what is and isnt acceptable. e.g. if anyone touches you HERE tell mommy. if anoyne othrt than mommy or daddy kisses you, tell mommy. simple, easy instructions that the kid will internalize. otherwise this shit slips under the radar because kids are ALSO retards. god, hearing her stories about the trianing daycare workers go thru to identify abuse made me so nervous to have kids, its so fucking common
>>33920857Does this just prove that the parents of unvaxxed are less likely to take their child to see a doc?
>>33924510Not at all.vaccine refusal doesn't mean the children don't have a pediatrician or get medical care.Besides, the point is moot anyway, since, just like male rape victim statistics, the graph can't show information it doesn't have.You could say the same about low income or impoverished parents not taking children to the doctor since they can't afford it.You'll note that NONE of the graphs have an incidence of zero unvaccinated children.Again, though, do you really trust the makers who have been caught time and time again doing evil shit for profit and depopulation agendas?We KNOW that Fauci, the WHO and the CDCoutright LIED about many aspects of both Con-vid AND the Vaxx..most people have no idea of all the other sneaky shit that they've been doing for decades.Sauces for >pic relatedhttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12346214/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2665354/Here's some more fun:*medical/pharmaceutical industry= (MPI)https://www.researchgate.net/publication/360813743_Addendum_to_HCG_Found_in_Tetanus_Vaccine_Examination_of_Alleged_Ethical_Concerns_Based_on_False_Claims_by_Certain_of_Our_CriticsFinally, I ask you, which do you value more; Faggots or puppies? Because Fauci was in charge of experiments that caused BOTH to rot away while still living...For $cience!!Back to your Query, All that documentation is sourced in the link I provided above, HERE: https://www.aninconvenientstudy.com/
>>33921357So the churchgoers are being little shits instead of owning up to the fact that they're using a crappy daycare.
