Is it weird or a redflag that my boyfriend refuses to delete pictures of him and his exes? He doesn't actively look at them, he just has them.He says it reminds him of his "younger times and good fun he had" and literally said I can break up with him if I have a problem with this.I am 100% he is not cheating on me and he has absolutely no contact with his exes, he is a massive open book - no passwords on his phone, lets me use his phone and his social media accounts without any second-thoughts, he is not hiding any communication from me. Which is how I found those photos.He is not even in touch with his exes, not even following them - "they are probably dead or married with 3 kids now, idk I don't care" he said once.99% of the time we are spending evenings together and every single outing with friends I am always with him. He actually makes sure I come along with him. Sex is great too, we fuck almost every day and we have been together for 7+ months at this point.I am just wondering if I am overreacting a bit? Yeah situation is a bit weird but besides this he is so fucking perfect.
>>33922243No, you're weird
>>33922243I always burn/delete images of my exs but I do it for my own purposes. People are allowed to have memories.You are acting poorly with what sounds like a pretty good bf.
>>33922243You are reacting poorly. Also sounds like you're going through his phone, which is bad
>>33922243Not weird in the way you're thinking. Memories are great, we all have fond times we look back on. At some point you have to let those things go and stop living for the past.
>>33922243You are retarded
>>33922243So, if he had a shoebox full of photographs from his past, you’d require him to burn those too?
>>33922277>>33922481>>33922501The way women feel about this is the equivalent of if you found out your gf had a mold of her ex’s dick still
>>33922586How is that even an equivalent. One things is a photo to look at, the other is a sexual object.
>>33922243I still have my ex somewhere in my phone, I don't look at the pictures at all, but I hate burning memories. I never, ever think about her, I just think it's part of my life and I refuse to destroy it, it happened, it ended up badly, but it happened, and I don't want to forget it.
>>33922243>I am just wondering if I am overreacting a bit? Yeah situation is a bit weird but besides this he is so fucking perfect.He became better at treating women like you after his previous breakups that didn't went well and try to get things better and not repeat things from the past.If this whole shit bothers you then break up with him because you're so disgusted with his past or history that made him better at treating people or you as his partner in the first place.People always want fucking virgins of any genders and expect the relationship to go so well when nothing goes well the first time and experience makes a person improves overtime. Sure it doesn't hide the fact that he may have wonderful memories with his ex and prefers to be with her but he can't but it is what it is.If he's perfect to you, you act as if this shit is his flaws. You always have the right to break up with him but there's no perfect person out there that'll fit your criteria. You either deal with this fact or you don't.
>>33923143>You either deal with this fact or you don't.I'm betting she won't.Girls nowadays only see chad on their phone and therefore expect the perfect male specimen to fall on their laps. And even if they do get chad, he's never enough. Girls like that will only learn when they realize they're getting older, less attractive and hitting the wall, to the point of wanting to finally and begrudgingly settle with the next best thing. Which, by te way, is worse than the opportunities they had before. It's kinda sad and ironic, really. They're getting fucked by their own biological drive.
>>33922243There's a difference between keeping pictures of your ex and keeping pictures of yourself with your ex. Especially since guys often don't have that many pictures of themselves.
>>33922243I literally nuke every memory I ever had with an ex, but some people don't. It sounds like it's not even about the women, they're just fond memories of bygone good times.He has a clear boundary and showed you the door if you don't like it. Grow up.
>>33922586>a picture>and a thing I literally fuck myself with>they're exactly the same!!
>>33922243Is not your business. You cannot expect someone to throw away their memories. That makes you the bad guy.
>>33923236Kek
>>33923083>>33923236Men are threatened by physical posession, women emotional. So yes, they are not the same but the threats are perceived equivalently among two completely different mindsets
>>33922243>99% of the time we are spending evenings together and every single outing with friends I am always with him.And the 1% he's teleporting miles away to have a quickie with one of his exes.JK, he's actually taking a massive dump and you're opening the windows, grabbing the air freshener, and getting some candles to light before giving him permission to open the bathroom door and leave.You have a good thing going, don't fuck it up.
>>33926386No, men are not threatened by physical possession. They are threatened by the emotions and feelings girls attach to them. Because women attach emotion onto physical possessions, that’s why, for example in this case, they will hate the physical possession of a picture because they are projecting that men have the same emotional connection to it that they would. Do you realize that men don’t dislike if a girl wears her ex’s hoodie bc it’s a physical possession? See, a guy can wear something from his ex because to him it is purely just a physical object. But for her, these physical objects evoke emotion.
>>33926386>Men are threatened by physical posession, women emotionalBut you're just projecting now, since the man is with the picture and not the woman...
>>33926429>Do you realize that men don’t dislike if a girl wears her ex’s hoodie bc it’s a physical possession?I would dislike it though because I know whatit means to the women, since they put so much value into the emotional stuff.
>>33926471…that’s what i said. And they project that onto guys. So because THEY have an emotional connection to an object, they project that guys are doing the same thing…like with keeping a picture.
>>33926506I agree
>>33922243You don't deserve him
