Why does society teach us that we should ignore problems and be the bigger man when faced with confrontation when doing these are the fastest ways to lose respect from others? I look back at all the times I've apologized when I was clearly in the right and I highly doubt it ever made the other person think about their actions. And even though other people saw it, they never gave me a pat on the back or acknowledged me being the "better" person for not escalating or defending myself, even when it would have been justified. They always just pretend they didn't see anything. Or even worse, they probably just assume I was at fault because I apologized and internalize it subconsciously, forever painting their perception of me as a weak bitch.I feel like it's the latter because I've never been respected and people treat all my achievements as flukes instead of real competence even though I feel like I've proven my abilities time and time again. My merits just don't speak for themselves I guess... I also think people are inclined towards the more cynical way of thinking because they lack empathy, act in bad faith by immediately assuming the worst, and don't care enough to put in the effort to see who was actually in the right once the dust settles. Even when I'm shown to be right in the end, everyone who saw just pretends they forgot or that it never happened and never acknowledge it. But they still keep with them that mental image of me and my "weakness" that they picked up on and was imprinted subconsciously.
Human nature favors the asshole who screams the loudest and sees the one who takes in on the chin as weak. And by assuming the worst out of me, my inaction is used to create a negative perception of me in their twisted worldview. At best, they treat me with pity, at worst they paint me as a villain who deserved it by applying Just World Fallacy because normies hate nuance and can't engage with it. It wouldn't be as bad if my inaction in these situations was met with a like-wise neutral indifference from others and they just went about their business, but I know under the surface they do take something from it if only subtly. It is in this way that my inaction actually does speak volumes but to my disadvantage only because of people's tendency to easily adopt the worst perceptions of others while refusing to give any credence to anything that would prove their assumption wrong and thus is used against me.It feels like because of this, you can't count on anyone except yourself and you gotta defend yourself and your actions like hell because people will find every reason to devalue your actions and vilify your intentions. I just wish I realized this earlier or people could just not be assholes who love assuming the worst from their fellow man.
>>33925080In this meaningless life of mine I have seen both of these:the righteous perishing in their righteousness, and the wicked living long in their wickedness.Do not be overrighteous, neither be overwise— why destroy yourself?Do not be overwicked, and do not be a fool— why die before your time?It is good to grasp the one and not let go of the other. Whoever fears God will avoid all extremes.
>>33925080Thos is the mindset that comes from seeking the empty praise of retards. You did the right thing and that is what matters. Ask yourself, would you really feel better if you were an asshole and got praised for it but you knew inside that your actions are wrong?
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>>33925080When "society teaches" you to ignore problems, actually it was just an individual passive-aggressively telling you they didn't care about your problems.Autists on /adv/ don't get it, you can't take what people say literally. Normies don't say what they mean or mean what they say. Often when they say something confusing, it's just a way of brushing you off or silencing you because they simply don't want to listen to you. Stuff like "Just be yourself", "just keep trying", "be the bigger man", it's just a nice way of saying "shut up, this topic is boring and depressing." There is so much wisdom that no one ever says out loud, but you learn by watching how people behave. And it's kind of good because it's like a filter for people who don't know how to observe and think for themselves. If you can't observe and think for yourself and read between the lines, then maybe you shouldn't be escalating conflicts with other people because you'll just do it wrong.
>>33925112nice
>>33925343"just be yourself" is a very good advice for most questions on this board though.
>>33925080Prisons all over the country are filled with "bigger men" who decided that the respect of the mouth breathers around them was more important than even their own lives. Your thinking is flawed and inherently leads to ruin. When the opinion of others drives your decision making, not your internal values or sense of self-preservation, you essentially let other people control you. Strong people don't give a fuck if other people think they're weak.
>>33925080Congrats you just discovered jewish tricks
>>33925080Picrelated is retarded horseshit, but practically speaking, it's just what is worth your time or not.If somebody is acting like a spastic, the least bothersome course of action is usually to just apologize and let them be a douchebag somewhere else.Now, if they're either threatening you or are trying to scam you, by all means, stand your ground. But sadly, we can't dispose of subhumans in the way they deserve.
>>33925080>Why does society teach us that we should ignore problems and be the bigger man when faced with confrontation when doing these are the fastest ways to lose respect from others?there is actually a tangible societal stability reason for it but I don't think you care
>>33929067i'm all ears
>>33929127So basically the human mind is very generalistic with violence, more or less non-discriminant. For example in execution towards a mass murderer, Someone very uncomfortable with this concept unlikely to start a fight in their lives unless they absolutely must, and vice versa. Situation that justify *some* violence justify *all* directionless violence in a person's psychology.Add to this that aggression can develop or be conditioned, and violence is inherently cyclical and changes your worldview, and crimes spiral in severity and you're starting to see my point. In arab shitholes where violence is required to constantly produce more jihadists and terrorists the society intentionally practices things like executions, wifebeatings, and indoctrination to facilitate those needs. this a calculated known metric that influences policy.You live in a high trust society that relies on you not being mugged or raped at random and that society wants to keep it that way, that's why you can NEVER EVER EVER fight back even if you are currently being beaten, go to a teacher or something. Even if you kill yourself from abuse, simply allow him to scream at you, let the woman punch you. If you fight back you'll be severely punished and shamed. If the abuse traumatizes or even kills you on a societal level this is better than allowing *some* violence no matter how justified.Of course, humans were meant for some violence. But you aren't supposed to think that.
>>33929240I wrote this sleep deprived but it's readable-ish
>>33929240that's cool, but I was talking more about defending my decisions or stances from verbal accusations, not really physical confrontations. Society just likes to preach tolerance and civil conduct, but there will always be the primal revulsion to someone who is reserved and seemingly unaffected by stimuli. Not fighting back or defending yourself is strange and the psyche finds it dangerous and will always respect someone who is imposing because it's a clear demonstration of strength. Even if we understand that someone not fighting back doesn't mean they can't fight back, the damage has already been done. And sure, this certainly traces back to unga bunga violence = strength and signals to others the alpha of the tribe, but it still applies to how we conduct ourselves in a society. Sure, it's nice that you put aside your beliefs for a quick compromise or solution, but everyone will see it as weakness in some form especially if you do it repeatedly. It's stupid that we have to be selfish and hurt people over shit that doesn't matter just to get our point across and get the respect and recognition owed to us.
>>33929288>People treat me as inferior just because I cannot assert my will and do other's bidding when I'm told and do not defend myself when I'm spoken down toThat's because you are inferior. Give me your fucking lunch money faggot, you can keep daydreaming about how we're equals in the locker
