my boyfriend isn’t super open about when he’s upset with me or annoyed because he’s afraid it’ll upset me. what are some cues i can look for to tell if he’s not doing well and what can i do to support him?
>>33925612You ask him to be honest with you and the rest is on him. The only thing to do is create a situation so that when he does open up about his feelings, he can feel safe expressing them to you. I would not recommend trying to guess his feelings
>>33925612Your boyfriend is clearly a gentleman but obviously there will be a breaking point to this. The other side could also mean he doesn't trust and rely on you fully.>what can i do to support him?Ask him to teach you stuff on the stuff you screwed up. He would be happy to teach you what to do if such incident happens again and you know how to deal with it.Ensure that every mistakes and argument that happens gets repeated less or none at all. This could be a bonding between you two and for every frustration gets rewarded with a learning lesson for both of you to strengthen the relationship.Not all girls would be able to handle dealing with those expected to be treated like a princess all the times (which means you're weak, unreliable, untrustworthy) though but that's what you should be doing as equal partners.>what are some cues i can look for to tell if he’s not doing wellHe wants to spend time alone. Rarely interacting with you for some time. (He could mask it that he has to do something else, work, friend, family, doing his hobby etc..)You could always make tender caring/loving advances to soothe things up or even sexual advances that most women do but those are just temporary fixes that doesn't address the problem which goes back to preventing issues.
>>33925612>he’s afraid it’ll upset meWell, will it? You women are really bad at controlling your emotions, to be honest.
>>33926357>he was the one who had to comfort me after he opened up to me bc it made me sad
>>33925612Oooh Guuurl, no no no... you are going about this all wrong. It's one thing if he won't tell you about something unrelated to you that's upsetting him like work or something. But he won't even tell you why he's upset at **you**?? That's called stonewalling. Why are you trying to "support" him when he's acting sulky and petulant. No. "Supporting" him is emasculating, in the grand scheme of things he'll resent you for it, and a waste of time for you too.I'm bracing myself for you telling us what it is you supposedly did "wrong" to "make him" get upset with you. He's probably an immature babyman you should've already broken up with.Don't be a full on unreasonable bitch, but as a woman, it's usually best to embrace your traditional role as a tester of men. Sometimes you support, but tactful shit-testing is part of a healthy relationship. It's kind of like when male friends roast each other. A relationship where people have to walk on egg shells for each other all the time is not sustainable."Supporting" a moid that is acting like an immature babyman is called "codependence", look it up. The best simplest thing you can do is ignore him and cheerfully go about your day until he feels like opening up. Coddling men just makes them feel emasculated and then it's one more thing he quietly resents you for.
>>33926448Tf is this shit?
>>33925612>>33926448>>33926459Wisdom. Good and useful advice.When men go quiet, it's because your hurt them, but they don't know how to articulate their problem without hurting themselves even more. All I'm saying is if a man is acting like a sulky petulant child, just leave them be so they can save face.
>>33926448You're exactly the fucking bitch why not a single man open up a problems to a woman. This is why you were never treated as equals with that spiteful attitude of yours.May you live your life as a cum dumpster and a divorced single mom.
>>33925612Honestly just break up with him. You can't make him open up, and he might just let it fester until it becomes toxic and aggressively push you away in the end
Read him some Mises or Marcus Aurelius
