i am 25 and i got addicted to porn at a very young age. it has totally destroyed me.i have also been out of routine for over 5 years and have not been working or in education. i don’t even keep up basic hygiene like brushing my teeth. i struggle with anxiety and depressioni know that i am better than this but it’s so hard to climb out of the hole i’ve dug so deep. it’s so hard to keep everything up daily.like always it’s late at night and i just finished drinking a monster and ate a bunch of shit food and ended up watching the same porn as always which is interracial and sissy stuff and that’s another problem itself.then a short while after i finished a girl i used to speak to came to mind who confessed her feelings for me and i looked at her instagram and she is having so much fun with friends and her new boyfriend. this isn’t the first time. i feel left behind but it’s all my fault. i know what i need to do but it’s so difficult.please somebody help or give me advice that i can take
all of the girls i have spoken to were online. i have a good personality, I’m funny and i look good but i’m obese and have shit hygiene due to no routine or discipline. i posted on here at the end of 2023 asking for advice for 2024 and i’m in a worse position in life now
>>33925648The only solution is to kill yourself
>>33925671yeah that’s very helpful…
>>33925678I agree, kys and ur non-problems
>>33925648Do shit one step at a time, start building habits slowly by forcing yourself to brush your teeth, shower, clean, etcCompletely block and shut off ANYTHING that harms you, this includes both large chunks of 4chan, any porn website, any discord server pushing that kinda crap, etc. Throw away ANYTHING even slightly reminiscent of such addictionsStop caring for women at this point, care for yourself and your sanity firstGo outside more, I know the "touch grass" meme and all that but genuinely living on the internet and on gaming WILL destroy you, I know it has seriously harmed me Do exercise, read and find some artistic outletMake friends and if you're in too deep go to a psychologistBut the biggest point is to do shit ONE AT A TIME, don't try to do all this at the same time cause you'll get burnt out and fail. Tackle the big stuff first and then move on to smaller details
>>3392564834 here in the same boat but living in squalid conditions. No action I take gets me out of here including being very vocal that I'm living like an animal. Very surprised I haven't been welfare checked. Like I'm invisible
>>33925648>>33925648Imagine you have an army, you are preparing for war, and you have land to protect. You will definitely need a disciplined army. A disciplined army consists of disciplined soldiers who do everything they are supposed to do in the most difficult times. Imagine if these soldiers were undisciplined? Yes, your fate would be destruction!The question here is how do we get disciplined soldiers? Quite simply, we train them. And in military training, there is no training without punishment. Punishment if he does not do what he is ordered to do. It does not matter if he is unable to do it or if he tried his best. In real war, a slight mistake can mean the difference between life and death. Therefore, the least you must do is to do what you are assigned to do to the best of your ability.Well, we are in a constant state of war!War is life's challenges. The army is your body, and the soldiers are your desires!Soldiers don't want to do difficult things, but as the commander of the army, you must examine and monitor your army every day and close the gaps in preparation for the next war.Okay, I'm writing this, and in a little while I have to go out for a 20 km walk on foot for the umpteenth time. I definitely don't want to do this, but for me it's better than 1000 push-ups or burning all my money (yes, you read that right).The bottom line: Punish yourself; don't wait for life to punish you!*Note: I rarely log into this platform. I only log in when I relapse. You know what's even rarer? Me logging into the advice board. I don't believe in coincidences so I think it's predestined that I'm writing this now and that you're reading it. So move!I watched this video. I think it will help:https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1rt1Wpx0eGs&t=3
>>33926719i hope it gets better for you>>33926698i didn’t drink any monsters today so far, i’ve eaten pretty bad though. i showered and cleaned my hair, i used lotion, i made myself smell good, i am about to make my bed, i watched the video >>33927055 sent and i have tried to do some educational things. i thought about searching for a trigger when i woke up but i stopped myself and put my phone to the side>>33927055thank you to you both for caring to write so much beneficial advice
does anyone else have any other advice?
>>33927055Unfortunately, asking him to punish himself won’t work. The punishment has to be forced upon him, just like it would be in the military.I sometimes wonder if we should do what they do in some other countries and force people into work camps.
>>33929034Work camps are retarded but a mandatory conscription period where you don't just sit around would fix about 70% of the youth's problems unironically.
>>33925648>keep up basic hygiene like brushing my teetha good start>drinking a monster and ate a bunch of shit food>why me feel like shit
get more sunlight it burns degeneracy
>>33925728Wouldn't kys fundamentally be the biggest problem? What would you consider a "problem" if OP's problems are "non-problems"?
