I feel like hot/cold in dating doesnt work unless you are a 9 or 10everyone says "be warm, then back off a bit" and lately in chatting with girls on dating apps, even organizing discord calls with girls, the second I back off and go "cold" to not seem kiss-assy to them, they just ghost me, likely getting attention from one of the thousand other guys in their dms. Ive seen that im supposed to back off a bit to show i have other things going on, but they just dont give a fuck and go do their own thing, never messaging me again. Literally what the hell am I supposed to do? How does hot/cold even work if in our modern world a girl can just get attention from a thousand other guys in an instant? The ultimate blackpill is that the longest lasting and closest most intimate relationship ive ever been in (been broken up for a couple of years now, single ever since) was the result of flirting for 3 messages, then I sent a dick pic. She came over, we fucked the next day, then I remained extremely "hot" with her and it just worked. I just kept bugging her for sex until we were in a relationship. Lasted about 5 years.This whole thing is fucking bullshit
>>33927294well all of your examples are online. try not to be an internet addicted feminine male and go out into the world. this is an IRL method.
>>33927309hey retard its not the 80s anymore, Im not going to pickup a girl at the bar or the sockhop. if a girl i matched with is like 30 miles from me and I HAVE to build up this online connection before she is comfortable with me driving over to her for an in-person date, how do I do it? How do I maintain her interest? We hung out once on discord already but last night she responded pretty late right before going to sleep saying "sorry its a bit late by now". I kept it short and said "no problem". Do I initiate again today, or do I let her be the one to come to me for a hangout? My worry is that if I take the cold approach, she'll just go talk to another guy
>>33927329If you want to see her, then ask her to meet up again. Anyone who thinks "oh no, he texted too quick, so he's not right even tho I'm attracted to him" is RETARDED and not worth a relationship
>>33927372hm okay I guess I'll try to organize another hangout with her tonight. Ive called her cute and told her that her voice was cute last time. Should I probably ease off that this time?
>>33927383There is nothing wrong with complimenting her. Stop thinking about this like a game and just be genuine. Yeah, some women won't like that, but those women aren't really serious about dating. If you are genuine when dating, you'll attract genuine people. That's what is really meant by "bee yourself"
>>33927329Try work, university, or anywhere except DMing girls like a pathetic 15 year old kek.You will end up alone and you have no-one to blame except yourself.
>>33927434I work remote and im out of college. Are you suggesting I just hang around colleges like some creep? is that your go-to strat?
>>33927657>I work remote and im out of collegeThen get creative instead of whining all day kek
>>33927666thats why im here asking for advice on my current approach holy fuck what is this board even for
>>33927685If you don't have a social circle from which to find women through friends or any kind of social you activity you enjoy from which to build a social circle, you aren't trying. And just enjoy whining.
>>33927703how the fuck do you find a new social circle being out of college and working remote?
