hello… so i wanna say in late septemberish, i caught my bf ahem… pleasing himself, to pirated of content. it came a surprise bc he always shits on simps and whatnot, and honestly it really hurt me, he was extremely nervous so he blurted out what it was, saying “petite, brunette”, and honestly that hurt me even more bc that’s exactly me. having all this happen was kind of an info hazard to my brain, while we got over it, and set boundaries, and he was extremely, extremely apologetic, sometimes it comes to my brain again. and it hurts. it does. it’s not something that ruins my entire day or anything, but it just makes me think. i wish i could just unlearn it. truthfully our sex life did get better bc of all this stuff, it encouraged me to really give it my all in that department and he’s been so happy about that, i as well. on that hand, it’s good it happened i guess, but god, it still rings through my head sometimeshow can i take steps to get fully past this? he clearly wants me, he gets very feral over me, so i know it wasn’t just him wanting something he doesn’t have. he was basically on his knees asking for forgiveness, he knew how much it destroyed me and we set a boundary after and he was completely fine with it, especially after all the steps i’ve taken to make him even happier.i wish to fully erase this from my brain, and fully get over it. i don’t want it to even come to mind. how can i cope with this? i’m a lovey dovey woman so i couldn’t even fathom the very thought of pleasuring myself to someone else. thank you.pic unrelated, but funny nonetheless
Note sure what steps you can take, other than forgiveness and moving on. Men should have willpower, but porn is very addictive and he clearly felt guilty so he knew it was wrong. No excuse for him, but since you say you are now giving it your all it sounds like you recognize you weren't before. Glad you have set clear boundaries.
are you retarded? he literally masturbated to the thought of you. and you find that disgusting? leave him his privacy and let him masturbate. everyone does. he obviously loves you. when I dated a fat chick, I masturbated to chubby porn. since I married an asian, I am masturbating to asian porn. that is a sign of affection. you should be worried when he masturbates to cuck and cheating porn.
>>33927939thank you for your kind response. i really appreciate it. i think you’re likely very right that there’s not much i can do but just keep it out of mind and not let it affect me. yeah, it really did kinda help me out of my shell, it didn’t make me do anything i didn’t want, but it gave me a bit of a push to be more like me. thanks again.>>33928020i don’t know how you classify that as the thought of me if it’s other women… i get men jerk it, and maybe im wrong for hurting as much as i do, but i can’t control the way i feel. it is a spiral of wondering if the other women are better, and what they have that i don’t. i get where youre coming from, but emotions are a bitch.
