title.>start dating about a year ago>in the beginning, sex 3 times a night and again in the morning>her libido slows down over time>mine doesn't>denied sex more often then have sex>never push it after she says no, dont want to make her uncomfy>morning sex is rejected>feel like a loser and a sexual deviant for the rest of the day>she doesn't care.>only fucks on her termswhy does she get it whenever she wants but never when i want? even when im not in the mood, im easily persuaded - but with her, no means NOTHIGN AT ALL, END OF STORY.makes me feel insecure and shitty about myself. trying to find a way to bring it up without her jumping to the conclusion of "muh boyfriend only cares about sex".advice welcome, mostly just looking for validation.
>>33931274How well do the two of you connect outside the bedroom?
>>33931295she's my best friend. never fail to make each other laugh, dull moments are few and far between, and we talk everyday either at one anothers house, over dinner, on the phone etc.
>her libido slows down over timeYou need to figure out what caused this. Something stressful going on in her life? Do you not go out anymore? Could she have faked her orgasms?>why does she get it whenever she wants but never when i want?You could turn her down to get back at her but then you'd miss out on sex, which you don't want. But since you won't withhold sex, resenting her over her easy access to your dick would be silly since you're the one giving her that access and encouraging her to use it.
>>33931325Problem not as bad as could be and not caused by over focus on sex, all good signs.Could be age, hormones? How old is the relationship? Do you initiate in varied ways?
>>33931325Nta but do you date her? Also known as, making her feel the tingles? If you want raw attraction you can't just act like a good roommate or her best friend. A woman wants (even if she doesn't know it) a masculine man out of her bf/husband, not a best friend.
>>33931331not to sound prude, but i would know if she was faking. quality has increased over time, i used to struggle to make her orgasm, but after communication and practice i've got it down. she always tells me when she finishes, she also tells me when she doesn't.
>>33931331>Something stressful going on in her life?all i can think of is school stress, and the fact that its winter.>Do you not go out anymore?we go out when money and our schedules allow it. id say once or twice a month.>You could turn her down to get back at her but then you'd miss out on sex, which you don't want.exactly my point.>But since you won't withhold sex, resenting her over it is sillytrue. i guess i just want her, to want, me !! see what im saying?
>>33931353You could up the intensity?Do a sexy holiday or arrange a sexy hotel with a jacuzzi and stuff. Try karma sutra, get high on something that heightens empathy. Learn proper massage.Start an adventure anon, this could be just the beginning!
>>33931274Familiarity kills attraction. The initial fantasy of pounding her fresh moist holes is extinguished after you’ve witnessed period panties or she gets comfortable enough to fart around you.This shit is so common and everyone gives the ahotty advice of talking through it. WRONG STRATEGY! Women pick up on signals and use sex to regulate their comfort in a relationship. Your new signal is, “I’m going to get my needs met with you or someone else. The ball is in your court, bitch.”. Start making yourself more attractive and social. Break your routines, stay later at work or school, go out for beers with the boys, Work out more than normal and get some new life goals to achieve. You’re channeling your repressed sexual energy into action - people will notice. Women will be always be around success and good times. If she doesn’t realize that your needs will eventually be met by a rival, she deserves to lose you. Don’t be too overt about it. Make the changes gradually so she doesn’t notice it. Otherwise, she’ll retaliate by fucking your friends or someone orbiting her or by being a major roadblock in your life. Dont cheat but don’t stay with someone who doesn’t love you totally.
>>33931337it's tough to make time for textbook date night being university students with an unrelenting work schedule on top. summer time was peak, going on dates and trips and being tanned helped too. >>33931336we're both in our early 20's and have been dating 1 year.
>>33931374i like this idea, thank you anon. you know i haven't thought about it before, but she always gets horny after i massage her. >>33931378>Familiarity kills attraction. unfortunate but true. although, ive seen her at her best and worst but it's never killed my attraction toward her.>Your new signal is, “I’m going to get my needs met with you or someone else. The ball is in your court, bitch.”.lol this made me laugh. i hope that's not the signal im sending. she has mentioned threesome for our anniversary though.>make her miss me by staying later at work or school, going out for beers with the boyslove this idea. i feel like we spend a lot of time together without any time between for cooldown. will start trying this. gives me the excuse to study longer and harder.
>attraction and sex dies after 1 yearRed flag, ditch her.She was basically in the honeymoon phase and now she is done faking her attraction. This is what you get now.If that makes you unhappy, break up otherwise you will get the carrot bait.
