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I went on a date with a woman, and she seemed interested in a second date, but some of the things she said made me hesitate about pursuing her further.

-She said her last relationship ended because things became monotonous and they started fighting constantly.
-She said the breakup didn't hurt that much because she had already "gone through the sad phase" while still in the relationship, meaning she mentally checked out before ending it.
-The guy wanted to keep trying, but she blocked him on all social media and completely cut contact.

I don't know. She's physically attractive, but she's only slightly younger than me. I'm 31 and she's 28, so she's approaching her 30s and her looks is fading already, and some of her behavior concerns me, I don't think she is suitable for a long term relationship.

And look i'm not getting much attention from women, and she does seem genuinely interested, but something still feels off. Should I tell her I'm not interested in continuing to date or do you think I should give it a try? As I said, I don't have many options available.
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the autistic lawfully neutral thing to do would be to do a synastry chart between both of your natal charts. that would deliver clear answers to your both problems. but thats wayy to much work and i dont do them except for my self and the normies see that as "uoh oh wItcHcRafT" so theres that.
>because things became monotonous and they started fighting constantly.
so shes either a boring human or a high(er) maintenance or superior character? and cuz shes bored she starts to fight to have at least some variety?
>-She said the breakup didn't hurt that much because she had already "gone through the sad phase" while still in the relationship, meaning she mentally checked out before ending it.
yeah im the same. i take mental notes of people too, all the time.
>and she does seem genuinely interested
well, there you go, 2nd date it is. use that second meeting to further see her standpoint and to ask questions.
its just a date and you can see where that goes. you arent obliged to do anything.
>As I said, I don't have many options available.
options always come and go anon. as long as your dick and balls are working, you are fine. the rest can be mended and coped with.

my guess is shes either born in mid january/february or june
if its june be ready to have arguments, lots of em
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>>34552920
>I don't think she is suitable for a long term relationship
Who said you have to have a long term relationship?
> Should I tell her I'm not interested in continuing to date or do you think I should give it a try?
You could simply try the truth. Tell her she's physically attractive but you don't see her as relationship material, the only way you'd consider seeing her in the future is as a casual friends with benefits arrangement.
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>>34555793
>Tell her she's physically attractive but you don't see her as relationship material, the only way you'd consider seeing her in the future is
if she changed x y z of her behaviour because that x y z is not long term relationship material ( what will the kids think!?) in your eyes. and then see her reaction or her explanation why her behaviour is like it is and if she is willing to change and to grow. maybe shes got some solid explanation. if she dont, well then you still can do what 793 said.
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>>34552920
>28
>her last relationship ended because things became monotonous
>said the breakup didn't hurt that much
She rode that carousel and lost the ability to bond. I'm just surprised OP being a channer can't recognize that.
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>>34555793
>>34555793
>Who said you have to have a long term relationship?
Biology, I'm in my early 30s, I can't waste anymore time. I don't want to have children in my 40s. And I can't just tell her the truth, If I do she will get offended. Women doesn't understand that we stop seeing them as human beings once they turn 30.
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>>34555567
Kys

>>34552920
Use her as a confidence boost to get others women
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>>34552920
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJZZ9dKaoJU
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>>34552920
I'm going to be brutally honest: if you're incapable of attracting women in their early 20s, get ready to deal with severe emotional baggage because the odds of finding a single woman in her late 20s that hasn't ridden the cock carousel are basically zero.
Also: a woman with decent genes shouldn't look like shit at 28. If her looks are starting to fade that means she doesn't take care of her body which is bad news for a long term relationship.
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If you want a 'forever' relationship ('Till death do us part) then yeah this doesn't sound good. You should ask her if she wants that, or if she prefers to just stay in a relationship as long as it's fun and ditch it as soon as the fun ends. If she says she does want a 'forever' relationship, ask her if she realises that all relationships will eventually enter hard times, which will require both people in the couple to put hard work into getting through it.
If she disagrees (That all relationships have difficult periods) then she's delusional and you should end it there.
If she agrees, then ask her why she ended her previous relationship in a difficult period even though her boyfriend was willing to try to fix it.
Whatever she says, don't take it at face value.
Can't really know what to do further until you've gotten these answers from her



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