>>Been dating for almost 3 years>>Everything is great and normal >>Cracking Jokes, playing video games together..etc >>Check boyfriends phone while he’s in the shower to see if he’s been buying porn again.>>Saw that he’s going back to buying porn from Snapchat bots>>Was an issue previously and I trusted that he wasn’t going to do it anymore>>Few days go by>>I ask him to delete Snapchat (I don’t have Snapchat)>>Been quiet with me>>No good morning texts when he goes to work>>He went to bed at 6:00 PM yesterday>>He has an engagement ring for me already>>He says he still loves me and doesn’t want to break upWhy is he being short with me? He told me he would delete Snapchat no problem, and then doesn’t and for the past two days he has been short with me. I tried holding him last night and having a heart to heart, but he said he “Has no problems”. How do I fix this relationship? I’m hoping it just goes back to normal in a few days. But I still want him to delete snapchat because he is keeping that temptation around. I also don’t consume any porn so I’m not setting a double standard for him. I try to initiate sex and very rarely does he have sex when I want it, but I drop everything or wake up from sleeping to give him sex. I’ve never told him no, so why am I not enough? He doesn’t want to give me anything to work with to talk through this. I’m going insane overthinking right now, I want to kill myself every time there is an issue between us, I literally can’t bear it.
>>34554732A porn addiction is not much different from dealing with a drug addiction. The addict needs to recognize they have a problem, etc.
>>34554739I pretended I didn’t know he went back to doing it. I’m not even mad at him. I just know this is a cycle he will keep falling back into and that’s why I want him to delete it. He doesn’t even use it for anything other than the porn. I don’t know how to sit down with him without him feeling shamed and judged. I just want us to do well which we were doing great before I said anything. Any ideas on how to talk to him?
>>34554732Don't snoop if you're not going to be able to handle what you might find
He feels porn is more important and means more to him then you do.
>>34554892breaking and entering to gain information without some kind of warrant from probably cause is known as fruit of the poisonous tree. It would be better to gain information from honest conversation. People do become addicted to attention and paying for it. Be advised there are murders over this. Just make sure it's not serious. The quiet war front behavior is strange.
People change when they want to change. Truly want to change. Not feel like they should, or acknowledge that something is holding them back or hurting them. They change when they truly, totally want to.If this is seen as an issue, mutually by the two of you, in spite of what he says, then you either need to find a way to change his mindset so that he’ll want to stop (improbable to say the least), or you should just end it if you can’t accept it. This behavior of, “I know I’m doing something that I shouldn’t be, but I loooove you I don’t want to loooose yooooou,” is unsightly and pathetic. He just wants to have both you and his perceived affliction. He’s not introspective enough to realize it holds no value. Maybe he will after you leave. Maybe not.It also doesn’t escape me that all we’re getting is your side. You seem at least a bit unstable, judging solely from your opening post in isolation. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe not. Nevertheless, don’t expect him alone to introspect; you too, should look inward, and consider if the current circumstance is not also a consequence of your own deficiency. Be open and gentle but firm. Good luck.
>>34554732You're not obligated to be his personal whore. Only manwhores and the pornsick will claim that you owe him sex to keep him from watching porn while in a relationship, and you buying into that nonsense (and just having sex without commitment in general) is exactly what enables it.
lol why wouldnt he just delete snapchat and stop pulling his shrimp to random slagsdoes he hate you? dump his degenerate arse
You should give him a choice. He has to either delete snapchat, or start wearing a male chastity device.>>34556416>You're not obligated to be his personal whore. >Only manwhores and the pornsick will claim that you owe him sex to keep him from watching porn while in a relationshipWrong. If you're in a relationship, you should have sex with your partner whenever they want it, even if you don't really feel like it. It goes both ways though, so a man should fuck his wife when she wants even if he doesn't feel like it.
>>34559358>If you're in a relationshipNo, not any relationship. They're not married. And even if they were,>you should have sex with your partner whenever they want it, even if you don't really feel like itisn't true; only some level of attentiveness is required. There is plenty of room for compromise between "sex whenever I want it" and "sex only when you feel like it".And even if THIS claim of yours were true, it still doesn't give a guy carte blanche to get himself off elsewhere once he feels frustrated, whether through porn or just cheating. The entire line of logic is just wrong.
