How the fuck are you supposed to meet women IRL? I know dating apps are shit, believe me. But the alternative of cold approaching them is just a humiliation ritual.Sadly I didn't do this in college and I just turned 30, so my future looks extremely bleak, I know.I just want a relationship once, then I can die alone.
Why do people keep spreading this "dating apps don't work" lie when it is by far the most common way people meet these days?
>>34555107I've met a couple of women off them but it's like trying to win the lottery. Even when I get matches I say hi and talk to them about their profile to hopefully get the conversation rolling, but I'm immediately ghosted.
>>34555107Source?
Its hard but you need to find a hobby you like that you can participate with in a public group or class. Just went to a small guitar class for the first time and I could tell the one indian girl in it was into me because she kept talking to me and was giving me a look. However idk if im gonna pursue her lol, ill see. She isnt bad at guitar.>>34555107They only work for normalfags who like texting and posting pictures of themselves online, not "everybody". Ive used dating apps for much longer than id like to admit and I have never met anybody off of it. Im tall and normal looking,however I just dont like doing performative bullshit for the attention of strangers.
>>34555093>But the alternative of cold approaching them is just a humiliation ritual.It is until it’s not. The more practice you get, the easier it becomes.
>>34555093>be 29>have 22 yo prime, naturally blonde, slimthick nordic pussy coming over later to make me short ribs while you masturbateThis could have been you but you didn't want to put that grind in on pictures for hinge.
>>34555835What do I need to do?
>>34555848Stop being a pussy and accept that you'll have to get rejected/ghosted dozens of times, there is no painless shortcut. I kept curating good pics, hell at least one of them is deepfaked convincingly, ask me if I give a fuck, I went through the ropes with like 2 dozen girls getting rejections of various severity and ghosted dozens of times until I got to where I am now
>>34555107Kys>>34555093Use booze
>>34555093The dreaded friendzone may be a sad place to end up, but in your age group it is the most fruitful place to begin. Look around you at friends, neighbors, co-workers, churchmates, friends-of-friends, etc. It is very likely that you already know your next girlfriend.
>>34555093Talk to them.Stop masturbating. Release your inner caveman, be unabashedly and unashamedly horny. You will inevitably meet a woman who agrees to get clubbed and dragged off into your cave.
>>34555093Here's a recent one that I'm not proud of>be me>go to a bar with my bro to drink the sadness of asking to breakup with my gf away>still in a relationship tho, just there to have fun>cute girl arrives at the bar>she has great boobs, friend and I keep calling her MissFortune the whole night>notice her glancing at me and bro a few times>fuck I'm gonna have to say something, I feel it coming>I'm 3 drinks in, we are leaving after a couple of laughs and some drunken wisdom>can't let this chance go to waste I'm gonna tell her how I feel>"excuse me miss, not to bother you but I was looking at you from across the bar and I think you have a beautiful smile. You and your friend have a great night">as I am leaving, both her and her friend asks us both to stay>asks if I don't want her number>I decline because I'm still feeling bad for me and my gf>bro takes her phone number for me anyways>both the girls compliment me on approaching themI didn't even go there to pick up women I just felt the urge to be real and they were into it. I'm bald and not very muscular anon, not a chad and you don't have to be one to do it. And I've done this before and got rejected, you'll never know if you don't take a shot. If me and my friend agreed to stay with those two girls that night, I know that I'd end up with a win, you can feel it, but I had my relationship to take care of.
>>34555093I'm having trouble because i'm over 40 and quit drinking but if you're only 30 and drink why the fuck aren't you going to bars and clubs to meet women?
>>34555107Top 20% of men get 90% of women.
>>345590841. Going to bars and clubs alone is a terrible mistake and only leads to feeling awkward (unless you're super extroverted, which if you're an incel you aren't) because almost everyone else is already in their own groups. You basically need a posse or at least a wingman to back you up and make you seem like you're not a loner incel. 2. Women who go to clubs are not the ones worth dating. They're usually sluts and turbo normies
>>34559101This is a terrible attitude. Go do it instead of making excuses why it's bad. I am not an extroverted chad and I got laid so much at bars I forget what the girls names were. And I went to clubs where bands played and met some decent women, not like the club where ghetto hoes go.
>>34555856>ask me if I give a fuckyou gave a fuck enough to have to clarify that you don't
>>34555093Friends, common hobbies or workplace.
>>34559242Gross. Not looking for a gf who goes home with guys at bars.
>>34555107I use Facebook dating and the only matches I get are either single desperate moms, bots, or the single bitch in her 40's that's single for very obvious reasons. Dating apps only really work if you don't care about dating the absolute bottom barrel of women, that's why I dont feel any kind of envy when I hear someone pulling a bitch from one.
>>34555254>go to nerd hobby shops>constantly see a ton of cute bitches with their soiboi fuckwits>can't meet these women cause they constantly stay home/online and only come out when some fag can guard dog themShit sucks really. I would love to find an actual nerd gf but these bitches either only look for dates online or they get snatched up in record time.
>>34557833I'm honestly just tired of being a fucking jester. You know damn well the only reason why im talking to you is because I want to fuck/find you attractive. Can we please stop the bullshit?
>>34559505>they get snatched up in record time.The question is, HOW do they get snatched up? You have to put yourself in as many situations as possible where you could meet a nerdy gf.
