Gonna kill myself if I can't get the first round of antique bouquet. The site won't load for me

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I will always be that one autistic dude included in the diversity quota, effectively and not effectively included at the same time because no girl in the community is single, they're not that attractive, they're weird, they cosplay weird things, they've had rage outbursts in conventions, they act like a happy puppy and do not notice subtle things, in essence a happy accessory. No girl wants to date a retard.

>>10930392
>2024 Anno Domini
>he still wants to date a cosplay thot
Mein neger, you are a victim of the manic pixie fantasy mind virus. Go find a normie girl from a good family (with a strong father in her life) and marry her. Cosplay girls are on the same tier as strippers when it comes to wife potential

>>10930396
> Cosplay girls are on the same tier as strippers when it comes to wife potential

Please elaborate on this statement.

>>10930407
Are you too black to comprehend it or something? It's quite straightforward. Maybe you are the retard that doesn't deserve the girl.

>>10930421
It's clear that (You) personally think that
> Cosplay girls are on the same tier as strippers when it comes to wife potential

I want (You) to explain why you think that, preferably with some sources and/or research. Personal experience can be used too, but I won't take it seriously (it will be just a fun read for me), so your claim will be unproven to me.

Been on local con not so long ago. Seen a few cosplayers with wedding rings, cosplayers with their husbands/boyfriends and at least one or two cosplaying couples who most likely got together this way. know a few people from old times who still cosplay, most of them are married and have kids. Meet my wife because we both were volunteers on one of first cons in our area.

>>10930427
And only I remain single.

>>10930396
No woman wants me, dude. What regular girl will date an autistic guy? That only exists in fictional stories.

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Threadly karaoke poster here. Props to the absolute BASED woman hosting my last one. It was obvious before we even started she was different, making some curious remarks
>Guys, remember this a party so try to keep things upbeat
>We're picking at random
>Then Bohemian Rhapsody "randomly" comes first
>Followed by famous crowd pleasers but none of the obvious ones
>No shitty boring funeral marches by overdramatic neurodivergent girls
>Everybody's so hype they're dancing, marching, joining on stage
>Near the end it gets to every obvious ones in a row (I Write Sins, Bring Me to Life, Crawling)
>It hits me
>This isn't random AT ALL
Genius move, well played. It keeps the crowd retention high the whole time, avoids all the mood whiplash, keeps the melodramatic kids at bay. Cheers, ma'am. (But still fuck Hamilton)

>>10930396
> Go find a normie girl
Normie girls are as worse if not more horrible compared to cosplay thots. Most of them have no personality and just follow whatever their friends are doing, completely unable to think on their own. You like them because they’re easy to manipulate once they trust you/marry you.

>>10930378
I assume you got the items you were after. I know the site crashed but it seems like meta had so much stock that people were still able to get the stuff they wanted from the 2nd term items more than 24 hours later.

>>10930469
so then date an autistic girl.

>>10930392
>>10930469
Girls would have no problem dating an autistic guy as long as he's physically attractive. Girls marry serial killers ffs, as long they're good looking. The problem is that autistic men don't take care of themselves and are usually greasy and unkempt, or otherwise disgusting to look at. Fix your looks and you'll do better.

>>10930565
>Girls marry serial killers ffs, as long they're good looking.

not just good looking, they're charming and/or charismatic. And most women wouldn't be interested in a man they know is a killer. There is a small group though, let me see if I can find the term for it, but they're attracted to danger or something. Found it;
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hybristophilia

You're right that a lot of autistic men do not take care of themselves. Poor hygiene in general is an issue with autistic people, but men even moreso than the women.

I had a colleague who was a 30 something man with autism. Not unintelligent, but I have never seen anyone less interested in hygiene. He had a pair of favorite trousers, he wore them every day and never washed them. They eventually became very stinky and waxy, some of the staff made jokes about his trousers being able to stand on their own. His supervisor eventually intervened by telling him he had to wash them or wear a different clean pair. He did and the problem was solved.

And think about "con funk" (iirc that's the result of people stinking up an anime/comic convention). There are guys who think dousing themselves with deodorant or bodyspray is a good alternative for washing themselves. And that is if you're lucky they use deodorant and don't just go in reeking of BO.

There was a young woman in my college class with autism who always went a bit too long between hair washes. It started to smell sour and you had to keep your distance.

>>10930527
Autistic girls are statistically very rare.

>>10930565
>>10930582
>There are guys who think dousing themselves with deodorant or bodyspray is a good alternative for washing themselves

Kinda guilty, because I cosplay and well, you sweat a lot. I dunno my dude, I just think it's my destiny to never have a fulfilling sex with a woman, i'm too retarded for that.

>>10930423
I'm the anon who wrote that original statement, the other person who replied to you is a homosexual.

What I mean is that cosplay girls are accustomed to massive amounts of male attention and unsolicited favors, and it has fried their brains. They are physiologically incapable of the kind of love you want from them. Going on here and fishing for your unicorn is the same as those boomers who go into the strip club, fixate on a dancer, and try to "save" her. Don't do it, bud. Go out and approach girls, you'll find that a normie 7/10 is less arrogant and entitled than a 3/10 """geek girl"""

>>10931022
having sex with women in general sucks and isn’t fulfilling. I don’t know about having sex with men because I’m not a homongus

>>10931022
The % of autistic women in nerd spaces (anime, manga, comics, games, etc) is a lot higher than the % of autistic women in the general population.

For cons I recommend showering morning and night with a shower gel or soap you actually like the smell off. Doesn't need to take a long time either, just 5 minutes. After your morning shower apply a product that combines deodorant and antiperspirant to your pits and anywhere else you sweat more than the rest of your body. There are powders and creams that supposedly stop you from having eh.... "swamp balls", idk what to call it. That's just for your own comfort though, keeps you feeling fresher and reduces the chance of getting a sweat rash (a rash that happens in high friction, high sweat areas). If you can then also take temperature and comfort into account when making/ordering your cosplay.
Where I live cons usually happens during the hottest time of the year, you don't want to encase yourself in synthetics. But people still do.

>>10930527
>>10931051
Autistic girl here. Why are you assuming we want autistic men? Most of us do not. They're prone to violent meltdowns and verbal abuse at a much higher rate than normal men.

>>10931062
fascinating.
if you don’t mind, could you perhaps shed some light on what kind of men autistic girls tend to prefer?

>>10931065
men who don't hate women

>>10931062
Is that why murderers get so many love letters and marriage proposals. And why women stick with abusive men who hit them.

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And it only took two posts. Awesome job I like !

>>10931062
I did not assume anything about autistic women's willingness to date autistic men. I've had bad experiences with autistic men not even trying to get along with others, not trying to display socially desirable behavior, and other bad traits that are common with autistic men, so I know what you're talking about. I think there are enough of them that are more than decent though, and it can be a great match between two autistic people.

The difficulty in finding someone with autism who would be suitable to date is the same issue with dating anyone else. If you don't have the same norms and values it's not going to work.

>>10931065
if they're attracted to men they probably prefer fictional ones. I'm only half joking.

>>10931080
nayrt

see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hybristophilia
Hybristophilia isn't a common thing. Why women don't leave abusive men has other reasons.
"We identified three main themes for why women stayed. The first theme was that of investment, which contained the subthemes of marriage, pregnancy, and keeping the family together. The second theme was that of entrapment, which contained subthemes of economic dependence, physical entrapment/social isolation, learned helplessness/coping mechanisms, and religious/cultural beliefs. The third theme was love (no subthemes)."

Reasons why women leave abusive men "we identified three main themes for why women left. The first theme was external support, encompassing subthemes of professional support and informal support. The second main theme was fear of harm, which included the subthemes of fear for negative effects on mental health and fear of physical harm. The third theme was that of protecting the children (no subthemes)."

source; Why Do Female Domestic Violence Victims Remain in or Leave Abusive Relationships? A Qualitative Study
Heron, Rebecca L.; Eisma, Maarten; Browne, Kevin

In my experience the majority (meaning more than half) of women where I live would leave fairly soon when it is clear to them that escalation into violence is going to happen. I think most would leave soon after it has already happened. But I live in a country where women are typically not financially dependent on men, there is no dominant culture or religion that tries to keep women in relationships with abusive men, etc. Countries that rank low on the social equality chart also typically have far higher % of domestic violence.

>>10931080
>>10931090
As a girl that participates in j fashion, maybe my opinion might be useful to someone.

I see hybristophilia as a fetish more than anything else. What these women believe is that they can “fix” these men into becoming normal or she wants them to stay the way they are and only treat her differently. There may be some truth to this as far as human psychology and biology goes, but it’s very uncommon. Once these women realize the men are just psychopaths at heart and don’t want to be with them romantically, they will immediately want to leave them in fear of getting hurt physically/mentally. People online say that hybristophilia is a sexuality or whatever, but wanting to date criminals isn’t something you’re born with.

>>10931096
hybristophilia is classified as a paraphilia. Which are sexual interests that are psychologically and/or physically harmful to the person themselves or others.
Included in the list are things like pedophilia and masochism. These are not "sexual orientations".
Here are some possible causes for hybristophilia that have been offered by specialists:
-Low self-esteem and the lack of a father figure
-Some believe they can change a man as cruel and powerful as a serial killer.
-Others 'see' the little boy that the killer once was and seek to nurture him.
-A few hoped to share in the media spotlight or get a book or movie deal.
-Then there's the notion of the 'perfect boyfriend' when it comes to these men in prison. She knows where he is at all times, and she knows he's thinking about her. While she can claim that someone loves her, she does not have to endure the day-to-day issues involved in most relationships. There's no laundry to do, no cooking for him, and no accountability to him. She can keep the fantasy charged up for a long time."
-Some mental health experts have compared infatuation with killers to extreme forms of fanaticism. They view such individuals as insecure people who cannot find love in normal ways or as 'love-avoidant' females who seek romantic relationships that cannot be consummated."

The regular household strength version of "I can fix him" is probably only rooted in a need to nurture imo. But this would apply to scenarios with women and the immature men they seek to raise into mature responsible adults who have got their shit together. This is also unwise, but not on the level of wanting to fix a killer/criminal. It's also disrespectful to the guys. Just let people develop at their own pace.

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>Cosplay community flooded by hornies and bitches with no love for the hobby just putting on skimpy Aliexpress costumes
>Con crowds become fucking huge, tables and stalls become considerably more expensive
>Genuinely talented costume-makers, artists, and cosplayers end up priced-out of even attending the one Con in my country
>Con becomes just a big corporate event, most the AA tables are Instagram shops selling overpriced anime merch
It was over before it even started man

Fellow autistic female, going to chime in real quick.

I do prefer to date autistic men, BUT autistic doesn't mean not working on himself and just letting it all hang out.

If you are someone who struggles with anger issues because you've had problems in the past with how you've been treated because of your autism, you are okay, but you need to work on how you express those feelings. If you find an autistic girl, she's not magically going to be as angry as you are about things. But she might be willing to sit and talk with you when something really upsets you when other people wouldn't understand without a lot of prep.

Embarrassing her in public by sperging out when she probably spent her whole life faking being normal to avoid being stared at is not going to win you points.

Women learn to mask better because our lives are way easier when we do. Often in ways we don't realize. If you keep working on yourself, you can find someone who does understand you and can help you deal with all the hard stuff that comes with your brain working differently.

>>10931134
That was very insightful and respectful. I 100% agree.

>>10931065
Normal, mentally healthy ones.

>>10931080
The first thing is is not common and the second is very difficult to escape. Those men often isolate the women and threaten them to keep them around, and if she does manage to leave then he'll stalk her. You have spent too much time on incel boards if you think enjoy abuse and actively seek it it out.

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>>10931130
Bump of acknowledgement for someone who posted about anything other than this boring shit that's gonna eat up the entire remaining thread

I had to shave my beard for medical shit, I look like shit. It will grow back in time for my Snake cosplay however I have a date this week and I'm tempted to cut my hair to look like less shit. The problem is I'm not sure if it will grow back in time for the next local con. I don't get many dates I'm a chubby NEET with a weak chin.

>>10931152
>Normal, mentally healthy ones.

>tfw I’ll never have to worry about autistic girls stalking me
it’s kind of relaxing, I guess

I met my wife of 4 years at an anime con in Texas
I used to be really self destructive, drink anything and abused cocaine. I don’t even know why I went to an anime con but a friend invited me but at one point I couldn’t handle the stress of all the people around me and started having a really bad panic attack, so I hid on a stairwell to stay away from the noise. I saw her walking up the stairs in a Misa cosplay from death note, she kept walking away but I guess she stopped and turned around to ask what was wrong. I didn’t really say anything because but she noticed I was crying so she stayed with me for a while not really saying anything. No one’s ever done that for me before, we hung out a bit afterwards during the con and eventually she helped me get out of the rut I was in. Kind of realized that I just had friends who were trying to get me to spiral down with them and broke off. I’ll always be happy she came back down those stairs to just sit next to me while I was having a horrible time mentally, honestly if it wasn’t for her I probably would’ve od in a car. I got to be a better person cause of her, saved up enough money to fly to Japan with her years ago and proposed there.

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>Go out to the mall yesterday just cause
>Near instant brain drain
>Wow this feels like being at a convention on a bad day
>Have super late lunch
>Ready to pass out after finishing
>Oh yeah that's right, maybe ignoring meals isn't a great idea after all
But enough about feels, as you were LG x
>>10931187
>>10931197
I see you.

>>10931195
You're confusing autistic girls with bpd girls.

>>10931260
No, I don’t think I am.

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>Been going to cons for close to 20 years now
>Made tons of friends over the years of all persuasions, made enemies, had drama, reconciled some of it, all of the shit
>Past few years have been pretty good, re-meeting old friends and coming to terms with some people I had "beef" with not really being in the "beef" category since we're over issues, so my circle just kinda revitalized itself

>Things going good until 2019
>Most of my con friends who have stuck around are all highly conventionally attractive women, so I don't really have guy friends to talk to about guy things anymore
>Trying to shoot the shit during actual con hours is impossible since everybody's either in constant motion trying to get to all of their little things or are generally just bad at talking
>Trying to shoot the shit during parties and social events is cancer because every guy that comes to my group has literally no idea about any anime, video game, manga, etc. that isn't the most normie shit imaginable and they factually cannot hold a conversation for more than a minute without trying to change the topic to race, drugs, alcohol, politics, etc.
>My general distaste towards this pushes me to try to move my circle around to avoid them, which tends to invite girls who are here for actual weeb endeavors to enter our circle, which then means more girls, and when it's deep enough, literally no guys want to talk anymore

I'm so sick of you fucking frauds out there. I just want a guy friend to go to cons and enjoy anime talk with. I wanna sit in the hotel room and talk about Mecha or some cool underrated Shonen or some shit, not just the latest Bishounen that fills up TL's full of Yaoi ships. It's not that hard, you can make real friends instead of just going out to fail to get pussy. Fuck.

>>10931271
are you ok?

>>10931197
Damn that's really sweet wtf
>>10931271
Cons are literally full of guys like that, wtf are you talking about? Of course there are some people cruising for pussy but they're a pretty small minority

reading this board makes me exponentially more nihilistic. some of you are legit bad people. this place pollutes the soul, this is why I stopped coming here years ago. I have to remind myself to only ever come here if I am desperate for help. but even then I'd rather ask anyone on discord than come here. surprisingly the years only made people here even more bitter. people used to be more candid here years ago. imagine being worse than people who made fun of PT.

>>10931387
are you the fat girl from the fat girl cosplay thread?

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>>10931397
Thanks for bringing this to my attention, cause I wouldn't have seen it otherwise

>>10931387
What are some of the discord that are better than here? I hate this place too and would like to find somewhere less toxic.

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How to ensure I WON'T watch your anime with one simple trick
>Advertise it on a con badge
Not being a contrarian dick, it just happens that no one ever asks me to check them out either. See: Bleach Thousand Blood War, Zom 100, Solo Leveling

>>10931062
>>10931065
Pairing two people with similar mental issues is NEVER a good idea. You need at least one to be be a stabilizing factor, not somebody who'll amplify things and reinforce problems.

>>10931520
nayrt, but this depends on the mental issue. Like if you get two people together who both have wild and unexpected mood swings it's going to fail most likely.
But two people with autism can definitely work (and understand each other better than other people could) if they both have similar norms and values and have learned healthy ways of dealing with their condition. Someone who has violent outbursts shouldn't be in any relationship at all, but that's also not a defining characteristic of autism in adults afaik.

>>10931520
Correct.

>>10931526
Austistic meltdowns are something that every autistic person experiences regardless of age. Autists do not emotionally mature over time like normal people. Anyone who claims they don't have meltdowns is likely a "self-diagnosed" poser.

>>10931576
nayrt just because autists have meltdowns doesn’t mean they’re going to be violent, most of the people I know just end up overwhelmed and crying which is awkward and uncomfortable but not dangerous. if an autist is violent they’re just an asshole or an abuser

>>10931578
For men, it does mean that they will be violent. Men in general become violent upon feeling anger because they're unevolved chimps, but it's 10x more intense with autistic ones.

>>10931582
>Men in general become violent upon feeling anger because they're unevolved chimps
real catch here lads

>>10931576
>>10931582
Stop with the obvious bait ffs

>>10931634
you'd know it's not bait if you ever were around low functioning autists. male low functional autists will beat the shit of their carers while female low functional autists will hit themselves and cry. testosterone does a number on the brain, it's proven to raise aggressiveness, I don't know why it's bait to point out simple science, I guess it only works if it's to point out trannies for you.
>>10931586
I'd rather die a kissless virgin than date a regular poster from here. not even /fit/fags are this vain about women's appearance.

>>10931649
>I guess it only works if it's to point out trannies for you.
more bait

>>10931586
Tell me again which gender commits nearly all assaults, murders, and rapes?

>>10931766
the black gender

>>10931804
Nayrt, but I'm curious who you think commits the most violent and sexual crimes in places with an ethnically homogenous society with zero black people and zero muslims.

>>10930469
>No woman wants me, dude.
Same

>>10930396
>Cosplay girls are on the same tier as strippers when it comes to wife potential
Maybe, in your country

I can't help but feel irrationally angry at a person selling an item i sold to them for 4x the price. Like I get u broke but why? fucking pass on the good will u fuckin goddamn birch.

>>10932124
This sucks but let that be a lesson. This person is not your friend.

>live on the East Coast
>most of cons I am interested in and my cosplay friends are all on the West Coast
>have ultra cushy job with pension, but no work from home or ability to leave my current metro area so I can usually only see them 1-2x a year
>can't escape feeling that I should just say fuck it all and move out West

>>10932141
would it be worth it? do they seem like the friends who would hang out with you more often if you were closer?

This happened about three months ago but I still cringe.

>> be me
>> lolita
>> go with friend to local art event
>> friend is battling depression
>> not washing hair on regular basis
>> ask her if she washed before we left
>> friend says yes
>> get to event
>> it's warm
>> don't mind a bit
>> smell suddenly hits me
>> oh no
>> realize that friend did not actually shower
>> people around us notice
>> try to subtly tell friend
>> friend doesn't get it
>> keep friend outside and out of crowded areas for rest of event
>> event ends
>> get back in car with friend
>> hey girl don't take this the wrong way but you reek
>> "oh haha sorry anon"
>> ask her again if she showered before event
>> "well no, I lied, but I couldn't smell myself so I thought I was fine."
>> but you always say your sense of smell is dull
>> "oh. well, oh well."

I think I'm going alone next time.

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>>10932141
An odd conundrum, since the average weeb instantly recoils at the mention of traveling to out of their comfort zone. Let alone moving
>East Coast
>West Coast
Even more interesting depending on what specific area. Northeast is barren as hell for the population, but so is the west outside of SoCal or San Francisco. I can definitely agree though, the weebs there are more entertaining since the average Joes on the street are too
>>10932124
>>10932146
(You)'s of acknowledgement for staying on topic

>>10932146
I have had severe depression and always struggled with self care during. But to not wash before an event and lie about it is just disrespectful. Go alone or take someone else next time. Depression is not an excuse.

I'd go with you, we can both wear lolita and I'll treat you to lunch or something.

>>10932172
That's extremely kind, nonna, thank you.

I also have chronic depression (medicated, finally) so I know what it's like, but it was the lying that really bummed me out. I also am self-concious about being considerate of the people around me and I consider being clean before going somewhere to be respectful, you know?

She isn't a terrible person! I was just dissapointed, and the event wasn't that fun because I was focusing the whole time on trying to direct her to places where we (and others) could breathe easily.

>>10931062
This, autistic males aren't just defective, they're outright dangerous and you should do everything in your power to keep them out of your life. Ideally they'd all be kept somewhere remote, far away from civilized society.

>>10932177
ayrt, and same. I don't want to be a burden or a nuisance to anyone. That's enough to get me to take care of hygiene before going out and meeting people.
I was depressed for a lot of years but this year I finally started medication that made a world of difference. Before I started medication lolita fashion was one of the few things (the other main one being my friends) that gave me some joy. Now I'm medicated I enjoy lolita even more. And self care doesn't feel like a chore.

I hope your friend finds some relief for her depression. I understand you were disappointed because she lied about it.

>Hesitate on Meta's Antique Bouquet release
>Japanese bank hikes rates
>Yen strengthens
fml

>>10932238
I just checked because you mentioned it. I used to feel bad for japan's weak currency, now I feel bad for my wallet. I didn't know it had been climbing steadily for a while now.
( ´●_●)

>>10932141
>>10932149
As somebody from the West Coast (SoCal but lived in NorCal for a while too) the scene here has gone to absolute shit, especially the SoCal end, from what I've seen I think I'd rather be on the East Coast when it comes to cons and cosplay.

>>10931134
I'm >>10930392 (the one who caused the original discussion). I think your post was the best one out of all the takes that were had in here. You went straight to the point.

I should say, i'm anxious. I'm anxious to 'live'. Now that I have a job, the cosplays I love and enjoy, and freedom to come and go from my home, a car to do so and so on, I want it all. But things don't happen in the way I want and when I want.

I just gotta chill down. I'm 26 now, and who knows, even if it takes 20 years i'll find someone.

>>10932146
Introduce her to dry shampoo. That's always been my savior through extreme bouts of depression. You spray and little in and boom, soaks up the grease and you smell like coconuts or w/e the scent is.

>>10932172
>>10932296
I've gone through two periods of my life where I had no warm water. Washing was hard. I don't understand how people with hot water don't wash. And I was extremely depressed too. That hasn't changed.

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So is there any reason this slow board needs a spam bot to bump every dead thread? I already noticed this happen, necrobumps with low quality crap but only now does it hit me here: >>10932314 It couldn't even give a coherent answer

>>10932310
Lack of hygiene is a hallmark of extreme depression so you must have not been very depressed. It's the first thing to go. But I do find it weird that OP's friend is too depressed to shower but somehow not too depressed to put on a lolita coord, which requires far more work.

>>10932361
>But I do find it weird that OP's friend is too depressed to shower but somehow not too depressed to put on a lolita coord, which requires far more work.

and not too depressed to visit an event like that.

>>10932310
first anon here, I've had also had moments (weeks) where I didn't have warm water out of the taps/shower. If I had to go somewhere (and I never wanted to) I would boil some water, pour it into a plastic tub, mix it with some cold water and wash myself the best I could. I was that afraid of being perceived as gross, even when I was suicidal.

>>10932143
Realistically it's a dumb idea. I probably would hang out with them fairly often (one group of us hangs out in VC and plays vidya together multiple times a week and the ones near eachother hang out in person 1-2x/month), but it would also probably be way easier for me to just make new friends at any of the major cons from DC through Boston or at one of the smaller local cons than pay all the $ to move across the U.S. unless I found some perfect opportunity.
>>10932149
I have had to move around a lot for work since I finished college. I used to live in kind of a dead area for cons, but I had an absurdly good PTO policy (at least by U.S. standards) so I traveled for them a decent bit and met a lot of people through it, but 70% of them are in LA/the Bay Area, most of the rest are in other random Western states like Oregon or Arizona, and one lives in the same metro area as me, but on the opposite side (i.e. near 100 miles away).

>>10932361
Unfortunately depressed friend anon here; she's not a lolita. I am, but she's a normie. Her outfits are jeans and a tee-shirt, or a very simple sundress with flip-flops.

>>10932372
It was my idea- to take her I wanted to get her out of the house.

>>10932296
She has some, believe it or not! She said that's what she uses most days before work. I don't know why she chose not to use it when she knew that we were going to an event outside on a warm day.

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>>10932618

>>10932350
the board is dead
keeping threads alive for years is just what little fun is left to have

any current animu worth watching?

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>> con at end of month
>> tea party on last day of con
>> coords picked out
>> everything washed, pressed, and packed

I live for this shit. I've never done cocaine but I feel like the high I get from being a lolita and seeing other lolitas is better anyways.

I usually hate costhots but I am happy 2B porn took off. It is funny to me because the 2B thots are almost always more accurate than non-thots cosplaying other characters. And even though they buy their cosplays, it is nice to see something more complex than Aliexpress printed Asuka/Zero Two/Dva bodysuit #427.

>>10932783
Nope. Watch Motorcity instead.

>>10932787
Imagine if Jimi Hendrix came out on stage in petticoat and sang Lolita instead of Cocaine. So many musicians would still be alive today.

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>>10932835
Reminds me of this old screencap I took

>>10932783
Have you already checked out Frieren and Dungeon Meshi? Or does it need to be even fresher?

>>10932787
we are high on life nonny

>>10932835
>Imagine if Jimi Hendrix came out on stage in petticoat and sang Lolita instead of Cocaine. So many musicians would still be alive today.
I don't get this and I don't think I want to.

Currently at an anime-convention
I think I'm getting too old for this shit

>>10932838
>asymetric white wig
Oh man, just wait when Amazon drops their 40k shows

>>10932867
What?! How old are you that you don't know Jimi Hendrix?

>>10932891
1: too old to be on CGL
2: I know who Jimi Hendrix is

>>10932892
Jimi Hendrix was a big cokehead and sang a classic song called Cocaine. The joke is that if musicians could get the cocaine high from wearing lolita like you do then they would be alive and crossdressing.

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>>10932902
WHAT YEAR IS IT ??.jpg

>>10932907
AAADVENTURE YEAR!

>>10932902
Ok, that is not as bad as I thought.

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>Started getting interested in lolita fashion
>Bought all sorts of different pieces, because you don't know shit, neither what you like nor what suits you
>Never wear any of the pieces out, because you feel it all looks half-assed
>Sell off pieces over time again and replace it with something different
>Lockdown hits, pack everything up for a move, eventually forget about it
>Years go by, finished studying, got a job, moved again for said job
>Half a year ago while unpacking some remaining boxes, I came across all the lolita stuff again
>Start buying pieces again, now that I'm not a poorfag anymore, buy straight from brands in japan
>Today it hit me that I started buying dresses 8 fucking years ago, but have never properly worn any of them
Realizing that some of my behavior patterns may align with ADHD is just mild consolation for the fact that I may have wasted so much time into an interest that payed of so little until now. Actually makes me a little depressed considering it's literally "just do it". Has anyone else had a long period of just buying and trying before actually wearing the fashion?


>>10931197
Props to you for turning your life around and finding your waifu, anon

>>10932963
>Today it hit me that I started buying dresses 8 fucking years ago, but have never properly worn any of them

That's just sad, remedy that asap by planning a full coord (buy any components that you don't have yet that you need for the coord), then after you have a full coord you're happy with set a date to wear it. And then just wear it. That's your lolita debut. It's like ripping off a band-aid.

I mean it could be adhd. But it doesn't have to be, sometimes life just gets in the way and it seems like yours did. You may have also changed your mind a few times about whether you wanted to wear lolita or not.
I have adhd and after giving myself some time to learn about lolita fashion (a few months of watching, reading) I started buying and making stuff and wearing it out with friends. Granted I only had one decent coord the first year.
And it's completely normal to get things when you're a beginner that you don't end up liking. Or buy things you like without thinking about wardrobe cohesion.

>>10932963
>>Start buying pieces again, now that I'm not a poorfag anymore, buy straight from brands in japan
once you stop buying taobao shit and buy from actual brands, you will realize lolita is a fashion that can be worn everywhere because those are actual garments made to fit your body and made of high quality materials with good finishing and not a cheap polyester trash costume-tier sack you wear twice a year at a swampy con.

>>10932963
Same thing happened to me, though not as many years. Started getting into lolita right before covid hit, bought tons and put it in storage. Kept buying some AP MTOs here and there in the years after covid. But still haven't worn a goddamn thing yet, it's all just sitting there still in the shipping boxes they came in. I guess I like the idea of owning lolita stuff more than actually wearing it? Idk.

>>10933002
>>10932963
There's nothing really wrong with it being a collecting hobby like figures or dolls. Wearing it is part of the fun though imo

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Been a while since I went to a con but forgot just how lonely it is when going alone, I dunno I know it can have its upsides but I still feel like I'm just walking around aimlessly and just kinda get sad seeing so many groups (I know I'm not the only one walking alone but still)
At times I get approached tho but most of the time it goes nowhere, before I can reply they basically walked away again
I just don't even know how to approach people because I don't want to come over as a weirdo and I just get very drunk at the end just to cope ig, then I can sob because those feelings come out
Despite that ig it beats sitting in my room all day

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No idea if anyone is interested, but recently saw a Pokemon Conquest cosplay-performance

Wasn't expcting that

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Best cosplay ever

>>10933002
you didn't even try it on?

>Friend got really fucked over fleeting an abusive marriage, wound up homeless with practically nothing
>Let her live with me on and off for the last couple of years
>Her presence fucks my life up, makes it impossible for me to date or hook up with anybody etc., and says she's too fucked up from shit that went down to hook up with anybody herself
>Filrts with me all the time anyway, sometimes comes onto me but then backs out before things can go beyond flirting and hand stuff
>Been trying to help her figure shit out and go back to her family overseas
>Instead she's been going out with lowlives and developing a drug problem
>Finally she disappears and ghosts me a few weeks ago
>Ghosts all her other friends that I'm in contact with too
>Make peace with her being gone, throw away most of the bullshit she's been hoarding and box up the actual useful stuff, glad to finally have my place back
>One of them, a recovering alcoholic, tells me a few days ago that she'd been coming over to his place, getting him drunk, and hooking up, which ruined his marriage
>Also gave him an STD (good thing she didn't hook up with me after all)
>Suddenly she calls me out of the blue from some store's phone a few minutes ago, says she's lost everything, asks for some other friends' numbers and then asks if I can help her and I say no
>Feel shitty about it but also think I'm totally justified

>>10933032
I feel like I've met this fella before a couple years ago

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>>10933080
I have an irl friend going through this almost word for word. You already gave her a chance. You didn't do anything wrong telling her no. Wish you both the best, anon-kun.

>>10933086
Yeah, and I just can't handle anymore of it. Anything else aside I've got a stress-induced medical condition, it's been pretty chill the last few weeks and then the instant I heard her voice I suddenly had a godawful flare up that's been going on all day, so I physically can't deal with this shit on top of the emotional stuff.

What I also didn't mention is that my family are trying to clear out the house so we can sell it because we're fucking broke and she was really obstructing that, not intentionally but she's a total hoarder and extremely disorganized and just can't keep her stuff in a state where the house is showable, and I'm also the one doing the brunt of the work for this (parents are too old for physical labor and my younger brother is rarely around and doesn't really have the experience, skills, or mindset when he's here, plus I'm the one with a truck and tools) so I've got that mountain of stress to deal with and can't deal with a girl who's speedrunning her own self-destruction on top of it.

>gained another 5 lbs despite only eating 2 meals a day and not having anything particularly unhealthy, now 145 and feel disgusting
>look into semaglutide
>it'll fuck up my birth control and make me have periods again, a fate worse than death
being female sucks so much, it just never ends. i'd rather go down to 1 meal a day than have periods again so i guess i'll just starve. fuck me. bleeding from age 12 to age 50, what a life.

>>10933102
Most people underestimate how many calories they eat. You truly need to weigh absolutely everything, including every bit of oil, any condiments, or seasonings. Weight loss is hard, but I believe in you, nona

>bleeding from age 12 to age 50, what a life
I started my period when I was 9, truly fucking unfair being a woman

>>10933080
You're doing the right thing, don't let her back

>>10933102
Amount of meals a day doesn't matter if you still eat alot each meal. Count the calories instead and limit it to 2k or under each day. Don't worry about how many meals you have.

>>10933056
Nope. Opened the packages, looked at the stuff, felt happy, then left it all in the boxes and stacked them up in my storage area. Currently waiting on Daydream Carnival MTOs to arrive and be added to the pile. No idea why I'm like this.

>>10932866
the last anime watched was a bit of cyberpunk. but i'll check out those anime you listed they seem like the kind of stuff im into

>>10933102
I take contiuous birth control and have been on Wegovy since January without it affecting my bc in any way. Where did you get the idea that it does that? Might be a side effect for some people but not the norm.

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>>10930368
I've been getting away with passing gas at cons for years by farting into ziplocs and hiding them inside a wall in the dealers room. Well, the hotel is being renovated and the wall was knocked down last week, killing 3 workers and leaving 12 with mesothelioma. What are the odds of the cops finding me?

>>10933142
oh it's you again. Go away, nobody enjoys these. You're just not funny.

>>10933109
2K is a huge amount of calories and way more than most women need, especially if there's no exercise. If anon is under 5'4", they should be eating about 1200-1400/day, add in an extra 200 if they are exercising. If over 5'4", go to 1400-1600 and then also add 200 if you're exercising

>>10933145
nayrt, 2000kcal would be too much for a short inactive woman who is already within the healthy bmi range or just a very very short woman in the healthy bmi range to maintain weight and not gain weight. It's very likely the right amount of kcal for average height (western standards, not asian) women who are within the normal weight range and are at least lightly active. An average height women with a healthy bmi doing a job that requires a lot of walking and carrying (warehouse staff for example) could even lose weight eating 2000kcal.

I just used a TDEE calculator and plugged in 170cm, 62kg (bmi 21.5) 25yo female who is lightly active, and the TDEE was 1920kcal. Bump the activity level to moderately active and the TDEE becomes 2165kcal.

I think better advice for someone trying to lose weight is to calculate their TDEE and to eat less than that. 300~500kcal less than TDEE is usually considered safe. There's an idea going around that you shouldn't eat less than 1200kcal a day because it makes it too hard to get all of your macronutrient and micronutrient needs. I'm not sure if that belief is true but I know at least some registered dietitians believe it. If you're very short and inactive this might mean you shouldn't have a 500kcal deficit.

>>10933146
170cm is almost 8cm over the national average height in North America. If I use your same age and BMI with the average height instead (163.5cm), it gives you 1794 per day for lightly active. It then recommends 1544 per day for mild weight loss (losing .25kg per week) and 1294 per day for regular weight loss (losing .5kg per week). I think that's a pretty normal amount to want to be losing per week, so 1200-1400 calories is pretty safely in that range

>>10933148
Sorry, I forgot north americans are shorter than the average height in my country and neighboring countries.
Well then just follow the 300-500kcal deficit advice anyway. It takes the same deficit to burn the same amount of fat regardless of height.

If someone is within the healthy bmi range it might also not be best to aim at a 0.5kg weight loss per week. 0.2kg per week sounds a lot more sensible.

>>10933142
My first con had an exterior wall missing because someone backed their truck into the convention center.

>>10933128
Fuck, really? How is it working so far?
>>10933109
I already eat way under 2k. It's more that the margin of error you have as a woman is small, even 200 calories a day too much will doom you. I know I'm not getting enough exercise but I didn't think it would make this much of a difference.

>>10933151
Muscle helps burn fat, and you continue burning calories even after you finish exercising as your body doesn't immediately stop being in that state. Definitely beneficial, even just 20-30 mins a day will make a big difference

>>10933166
Well, I hope so. I got an exercise bike to do 20 minute a day while watching an episode of something. it's just frustrating how easy it is to put on 5 lbs but how hard it is to lose it.

>>10933167
Make sure to stretch for a few minutes beforehand and bump up that resistance! If you have a way to measure your heartrate and make sure you're getting to the fat burning zone and keeping it there, that will be extra helpful

>>10933167
nayrt, 20 minutes a day of cycling doesn't really do much for muscle building or weight loss through cardio. It's absolutely better than nothing, but I recommend building up to doing 45~60 minutes at a high resistance.
If you want to build muscle to increase your metabolism and overal well being the quickest way to do that is hitting the weights (dumbbells, barbells, kettlebells). If you don't want to spend money on the gym or equipment you can do calisthenics at home (push-ups, sit-ups, squats, etc).

Check out the anime Dumbbell nan kilo moteru. It's pretty funny and covers a lot of different exercises
https://youtu.be/RiPWsR-itnU

Is it easier for girls to gain weight than guys? I’d have to force myself to intake an absurd amount of food to beef up. I been drinking protein shakes along with my breakfast to get some extra calories but idk if it’s working lately veins have been showing up on my tummy. life is so hard

>>10933231
It is. Men usually have a significantly higher base metabolic rate than women so they burn through more calories quicker.

>>10933231
Men have an easier time losing fat and gaining muscle. It is what it is.
Just stay consistent (doesn't have to be 100% perfect a 100% of the time), use a sensible (not stupid and unhealthy) approach to nutrition and exercise and set realistic goals. Make it liveable, that way you can avoid yo yo dieting.

>>10933151
>How is it working so far?
Been consistently losing 1lb every week since I started (so ~30lbs down so far) with no exercise or calorie counting. It's pretty amazing.

I'm so fucking mad. I got a new job and moved to a new city and dropped 10 lbs without even trying to and I'm hot and skinny as fuck now, and yet I immediately lost all interest in lolita fashion. AND a bunch of stuff that I ordered back in 2023 via seamail just got delivered today and I don't even wanna wear any of it. wtf!!!!!!
any nonnas lose interest in jfash and then get back into it later? What changed for you?

>>10933346
You moved to a new city and something you ordered by seamail last year that would've been at your old address arrived at your new one today? What kind of weird larp is this

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>>10930368
Women dressing like femboy characters kinda feels like cheating. Like okay, but try being that cute with a peeny?

>>10933167
Try swimming. I've been doing IF and 1-2 hours of relaxed swimming like, 3-4 times a week and I'm losing inches.

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>>10933355
>Fellow crossplayer detected (?)
It's like seeing the flipside of the same coin, when they do it well. Plus those girls always have a noticeable case of tism, which gives it an extra layer of charm

>>10933348
yeah it went to my mom's place you dumbass

>>10933355
Trannies have ruined crossdress
It's over bros

I miss when people just cross dressed. All the cross dressers are trans now

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>>10933535
Just as I miss when people thought before talking out their ass

>>10933535
there are actual crossplayers still that aren't either trans or sissies and they mog both of those

I dropped my nice flashlight somewhere at work and lost it. the whole week is ruined >:(

I need to lose like 50 pounds. I also need to like die or something.

>>10934079
Same here. A Japanese friend I haven't seen since 2019 just told me she's coming in October and I put on a bunch of weight during covid, really don't want to be a fat fuck when I see her but I've only got about a month to try and do anything about it.

>>10934104
Ah yeah a month is rough.

I managed to lose 30 pounds in the past but it took quite a bit of being steady which is something I’m very bad at in general for literally anything. I just want to wear lolita again.

>>10934104
A month is a huge amount of time to change how you look. Focus on weight training with a bit of cardio, eat at a 500 cal deficit from your TDEE, and you should lose 5-10lbs and a decent amount of inches from the exercise. Won't be a total body recomp, but you can easily drop 2 pant sizes in a month doing this

>>10934114
Can't really do the weight training (moving out of state in a few months so I'm not gonna sign a year-long gym contract, which is what everything around me requires), but I'll definitely be doing the cardio and calorie cutting. I drink too much beer and cutting that out should make a big difference on its own.

>>10934118
See if any of the gyms have a trial pass. Some will let you try them for 1-3 days, so that's an option. Alternatively, buy some free weights. They're useful to have around in general

>>10934124
Free weights would be nice but I can't really buy ANYTHING right now. I'm trying desperately to move with only what will fit in my relatively small truck (none of my furniture is worth keeping and with all the costs that'd come with a U-Haul it's cheaper just to start from scratch at IKEA) and it's already gonna be tough with the stuff that IS mandatory to take so adding anything else is a no-go.

>>10934127
Buy free weights at Walmart and return them before you move. They don't give a shit what you do

>>10934079
>>10934104
Get on Wegovy or similar meds

>>10934127
You don't have to buy weights at all. Just use heavy things you can pick up and put down. For example, milk jugs are good. Fill them with water, dirt, sand, or whatever and use them like dumbbells. Books or magazines are also good. You can place them in a pillow case or tie a stack of them together and also use them like weights

>spend years working to make enough friends so I have people to hang out with at basically any con I go to
>somewhat established in my career and make decent $ so I can easily afford traveling for cons
>realize that I am approaching 30 and my energy levels are falling (harder to stay up drinking/am really exhausted after drinking, don't have the energy to work on 3-5 hours of sleep, generally feel poorly if I am not eating healthy for more than 2 or 3 days)
I don't think going to cons is cringe if you're older or anything, but fuck. I usually go to 3-5 major cons a year + spending 1 day at local cons another few times a year. I don't know how much longer I'll be able to keep up with it though before I need to either start taking additional days off for recovery or start drastically cutting down on how many I attend (and likely having some friendships fall by the wayside)

>>10934530
Start exercising or something, it's not normal, I really don't understand why people think they break after 30. You just eat crap and don't exercise.

>>10934632
It really sucks. I'm 34 and no one in my friend group ever wants to do anything anymore because they all feel run down so easily. They go to bed at 10PM and don't want to make plans on weeknights ever. I can't befriend Zoomers either because they're insufferable so I'm just stuck being bored most nights, staying up playing videogames and watching anime like I have been for the last 20 years

>>10934659
it's not normal to not want to do anything anymore.
I'm 40 and cook with my bff on week nights once every 2 weeks at least. We also go out and just do things if our free hours overlap. Practical stuff that needs to happen (home repair, buying christmas presents for the kids and husband, etc) but also relaxing activities such as going on long walks, gardening, going to the skating rink, seeing a free gallery show, decorating, etc. Also slower things like netflix in the evening, cooking and baking. I taught her how to crochet.
I have other friends too but I see my bff the most. One of my other friends and I went to the movies last week. We had 2 free tickets that would expire the end of this month. The only option that wasn't a drama, thriller or kids movie was Borderlands. We were not impressed, lol. We also had movie theater popcorn because I basically never go to the movies anyway and that popcorn is some of the best. Since it was a midday show we went out afterwards to walk and bitch about life.

If you can't find people around your age who want to do the sorts of things you want to do then there's no problem with befriending people in their late 20s. It won't be weird, they're well into adulthood at that stage.
If the only thing you do alone in the evening is watch anime and play videogames and you're bored because of it I suggest you try something creative to do with your hands. If you're into board games there might be a local group you can join. Like the other anon said, exercise will help (over time) to increase your energy levels.
It's not that you're old and tired. It's that a young body can take abuse (bad eating habits, sedentary life style, staying up late) much better than an older body. Depends on the person but 28~35 is usually where it starts that if you mistreat your body it will complain. Things like back pain, lack of energy, weight gain, strength loss, sleep issues. Simply move your body, eat well, sleep enough and you'll feel better.

>>10934660
I was being a bit hyperbolic with what I do at night, as I do plenty of crafting, reading, crosswords, etc. I also exercise 6 days a week and eat decently healthy. I have plenty of energy, and I can still handle going hard on occasion, but I have no one to do things with, and going out solo isn't something that appeals to me more than once in a blue moon

My best friend and I used to go to a 24hr coffee shop until 6AM just laughing and catching up 1-2 times a week, and I miss that activity the most. In the last 4 years, she's put on over 100lbs, can only hang out for 3 hours or so before she has to go home and eat a meal (she eats 4-5 large meals a day now, all simple carbs), and sleeps from 10PM until 11AM every day. I've tried to invite her to go to yoga or the gym with me, stay over and cook together, or even go for a walk, but we're in a catch-22 because she currently doesn't even have energy to do those things and won't put herself into any discomfort to get to a point where she will have energy! The saddest part is that she is 5 years my junior, so she's not even 30 yet

Sorry for the rant lol Got away from me

>>10934665
I'm glad to hear about your activities. It just sounds like you need to make more friends who are local enough to do things with.

I understand you're in a bit of a difficult situation with your friend. And that does sound like there's a reason for her current situation. Possible causes are depression and/or a thyroid issue for the weight gain, dietary habits and sleeping pattern. I don't think fat or even obese people without depression or a thyroid problem want to sleep 12 or even 13 hours. If trying to get her to move more and eat fewer calories doesn't work, then suggest she see a psychologist.

>>10934659
Basically my group since we hit our 30s too, I still want to do stuff but everybody else just wants to get high and stay in, even when social stuff happens it's usually just the same small group hanging out drinking and smoking at somebody's house, and on the rare cases we do actually go out somewhere the whole group just ends up going outside after half an hour and smoking weed and cigs in the parking lot for hours while I end up trying to socialize solo or whatever.

It was really bad when we went to a friend's birthday thing at an arcade/karaoke a while back, we're a bunch of single dudes and our friend is a girl who brought a bunch of attractive single female friends, and my group STILL bailed to go smoke weed in the parking lot almost immediately, and then these guys go back to bitching about being single after doing shit like that, it's so stupid.

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>going to dragoncon this year
>first big con i've ever been to
>had a really cool, really nice cosplay planned out
>multiple issues have cropped up (all resulting from my own procrastination)
>been so worried about my cosplay and preparing for the trip that i've completely failed to plan what to actually do when i'm there
>have no real idea about the event schedule and only now starting to work that out
>trying to force myself to accept that it won't be ready and i should make do with the much more basic idea i have
I'm more than a little bummed but at least it should be ready in time for AWA. I really, really want this to not be a bust because I've heard amazing things but I'm kinda awkward and only know one other person who's going so the fomo is massive. Tons of shit I wanna see and do and it's only a couple of days and it's exciting and terrifying at the same time. Every potentially cool idea's underscored by thoughts of getting sick or hungover or my shit being stolen. I know it'll be fun but I don't wanna fuck up and miss Health or something.

>>10934723
I've wanted to go to Dragoncon for like 15 years but I've never managed, so I'm bummed when it comes and I see my friends going every year. It's especially bad the last few years, I feel so old at anime cons now and I know D*Con is closer to my demographic, and there's a bunch of stuff I'd like to cosplay that doesn't fit in at anime or comic cons. (Raylan Givens from Justified, for example.) Unfortunately I'm on the wrong side of the country so it'd be a big trip and I still don't really have the money to book a room and flight way in advance and know I'll be able to cover it by the time of the con.

>>10934678
It isn't a thyroid issue or anything. She used to walk to and from work every day and once covid happened, she got made WFH and started gaining weight from no longer moving throughout the day and constant snacking. She only eats prepackaged, carb-heavy food (instant ramen, frozen pizza, boxed mac and cheese, etc), and she never buys fruit or veg. Based on the rare day where she will bring food to my house to eat so we can spend more time together, I would guess she easily eats 10K kcal a day. She isn't depressed (at least no more than the average person), and whenever we do spend time together, she's always upbeat, talkative, etc. I can text her any time of the day, and she responds quickly and enthusiastically. She's just the most extreme example in my friend group, but so many of them have slowed down in their late 20s/early 30s because of "getting old" (aka not exercising, not eating well, and needing days to recover from doing anything big because of that). It's their lazy, sedentary lifestyle that's draining them, and they'd rather complain about back problems and go on a Netflix binge at home with a bag of chips than go to the gym and fix it

>>10934689
Stoners are bottom of the barrel people

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>>10934730
>Stoners are bottom of the barrel people
I fucking hate it. EVERYBODY smokes weed here in SoCal now and it's ruined everything, even at cons people just want to get high and do nothing instead of go to parties etc., and it's so fucking hard to find anybody that wants to hang out with you if you're not a stoner too, or god forbid even get a foot in the door toward getting laid if you don't have weed (and increasingly other drugs) to offer. It sucks, I miss when it was just drinking.

>>10930488
>they’re easy to manipulate once they trust you/marry you
This is every woman besides the ones with brain damage

>>10934735
I'm in Canada so I get exactly what you mean. Ever since it's been fully legalized here, it's absolutely everywhere. You can't walk down a street without some asshole blowing a huge puff of weed smoke in your face

>>10934739
That’s partially true, but the difference between alternative girls and normie girls is that normies are constantly looking for validation. The stereotype is that girls that are fatherless become egirls or whores when they grow up because they want male attention, but this is rarely ever the case in my experience. All the girls I’ve met who don’t have a mother/father figure want to conform as best as possible, because that’s what most men want in today’s society. Alternative hobbies are often times immediately associated with feminism and liberal viewpoints, men don’t want women like this because it’s way easier to have a girlfriend that’s braindead then a girl that is intelligent.

I want a girl that encouraging even if my ideas are dumb but than she would have to suffer thru the consequences of my dumb ideas which would be sad. it's better to be single and not have a care in the world

>>10930396
There's a difference between cosplay thots and girls who just cosplay casually, who are still the majority. I've dated both and they're the same except the cosplayer will actually share your interests instead of hating you for them. You're also probably MORE likely to find a girl with a strong father and a good family in the con scene than out of it too, a lot of girls with nerdy hobbies inherit them from their dads and people from stable backgrounds are a lot more likely to be able to afford cons and cosplay.

>>10934756
Liberal women are braindead though. Every one I know gets every single one of her opinions from social media but simultaneously thinks she's a brave, trailblazing, intellectual feminist warrior queen. It's just cringe.

Is it normal to be this anxious before a con?

>>10934806
Nayrt, it is cringe but imo those aren't representative of liberal women. Those people seem to be looking for stuff (or even inventing it, but this is hardly exclusive to that group) to get mad about. Imo mostly seen within the younger generation (16-23 ish). Older (25+) liberals tend to take what they see on social media with a grain of salt, make their own opinions (which is the reason there's so much infighting between liberals, there's just lots of stuff we don't agree on with each other) and tend to be annoyed with the people you describe.

Don't think this makes them moderates either, these are still liberals but they're the ones you can have a reasonable discussion with as long as you don't approach it with bad faith.

>>10934735
It’s honestly refreshing to see people say this. I live in Michigan and since weed has been legalized it’s brought the absolute worst people to the state in droves. I’m always made to feel like I’m an enemy who hates freedom and “healing” or whatever they want to claim it’s for when I say I don’t like it, and pretty much every con/hobby scene is crawling with braindead assholes who have made it their entire personality.

I saw a Furina cosplayer walking with her boyfriend and a Frieren cosplayer. The Furina cosplayer was walking around in sandals while her boyfriend was holding her heels. When I asked them for pics, the Furina cosplayer was thinking about whether she wanted to wear the heels or not but she decided to put them on. Now I kinda feel bad lol

>>10934756
>because that’s what most men want in today’s society
No, it's because they want some normalcy in their lives. Then crabs-in-buckets bitches call them pickmes to keep them from outshining them. And no, it's not only today's men that want decent women either. Weirdass trainwrecks were celebrated in no previous civilization in history.

>Alternative hobbies are often times immediately associated with feminism and liberal viewpoints
Alternative hobbies like collecting Spawn & Transformers toys, or playing Magic The Gathering, or Warhammer 40000, or speedrunning Ultrakill...

>men don’t want women like this because it’s way easier to have a girlfriend that’s braindead then a girl that is intelligent.
This sounds like when fat nerds complain that women want dumb jocks instead of smart and interesting guys.

>>10934822
Idk, I live in a hyper liberal area and most seem to get worse as they get older, not better. I don't see a lot of difference of opinion

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My favourite part of a cosplay

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>>10934848
Ayrt and I’d happily have a chubby guy that’s interesting rather than a dumb jock. I guess for most people I’m just a weird girl that doesn’t understand “normal” pleasures. Previous civilizations are awful examples imo because they were violent towards “different” people that just wanted to live normal lives (lgbt, colored people, disabled people, people that followed different religions, etc). I understand if you want a normal partner, but if you won’t date a girl because she plays magic the gathering that sounds like a you problem.

>>10934802
My local comic con was full of queers. Queer dudes, a disproportionate amount.

And the women, absolutely weird phenotypes, like they were malnourished at some point, and tons of acne, holy red batman.

No judgement, everyone was a fine person, it just struck me as disproportionate, much more than cons I've been to previously.

There was One, very attractive female in cosplay, dressed as a nurse, breasts on full display, clear skin, proportional. That was it.

Unsure of the judgement call on me, but I've had a homeless lady scream at me to drop my pants and show her my dick, so I've kept that compliment and bet it stands today.

Con felt weird.

>>10934882
>if you won’t date a girl because she plays magic the gathering
My point went miles over your head. You can't be this much of an idiot. You have to be baiting.

>>10934882
I'd date a girl who plays MTG as long as she isn't a control freak. Plenty of MTG players get too intense about it.

>>10934899
girl here, mtg sucks ass now.

>>10934902
I just play Commander with a group my friend got me into. I kind of like the idea of cross marketing with LotR or Doctor Who, but they are trying to add mechanics for the sake of doing so.

>>10934892
Please learn to integrate, fag

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>>10934892
>tons of acne
>holy red batman
>the one in cosplay has clear skin

I don't even know what else to tell but go touch grass. Leave your house. Look at human beings somewhere other than the curated smooth faces in hollywood, videogames, and anime. Put down your phone and see that nearly everyone naturally has imperfections.

>>10934910
I like actually no make up the best.

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>>10934931
That's what they all say.

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>>10934931
Men always say this until they date a light hair girl and then get uncomfortable when her brows and lashes seem "invisible". Growing up being bullied for that fucking sucked. It's wild how many of us fill in those or get dangerous procedures to tattoo or dye them just so we don't get fucking laughed at for our neutral existence.

>>10934850
Where do you live (like roughly, you don't need to out yourself)?
Ime the infighting is common and real both online and irl. Someone broaches the trans topic and people tense up fully expecting a disagreement to start. Works with some other topics as well such as if it's responsible of poor people to continue to have children they can't afford. Universal income is another, you might as well throw a bag catnip into a herd of cats.

>>10934934
right eyebrows too dark, makes her hair look dyed

>>10934934
shame cause to my eyes that is a "gift" you should in no way try to hide, it reminds me of how red haired girls are hot and red haired men are discarded, fuck this world

>>10934946
>you might as well throw a bag catnip into a herd of cats.
So they all flop on the floor, purr and roll around having a good and calm time?

>>10934632
I lift 3x/week, do cardio other days, generally eat healthy, and get enough sleep day to day. Most days I feel great. It's just cons I don't do that (eat worse, get less sleep, usually drink a lot, usually have a flight home that I struggle to sleep on, decent chance of catching covid or con crud, etc) and when I break that routine at cons it takes me a few days to get back to my baseline.

>>10934833
Yeah, I was kinda apathetic about the whole thing before legalization, but watching the results over the last 10 years has completely turned me against it. They make it out like they use it the same way normal people use alcohol, but that whole concept of responsible consumption went out the window immediately, pretty much everybody I know that smokes starts in the morning and does it throughout the day, people went from "I'd never drive high" to literally rolling down the freeway at 80mph not holding the wheel with one hand on the pipe and the other holding a lighter and insisting "there's no evidence that being high makes you a worse driver" (patently untrue, many studies), and like I said earlier it's what pretty much all social activity revolves around now, and especially bad for dating and hookups where smoking a girl out has replaced buying her a drink as the standard thing.

It fucking sucks too because pretty much every nice place I'd want to move to has either been taken over by people trying to turn it into California 2.0 and has either already legalized it or is on the verge. I'd fucking love to move to Colorado, such a gorgeous state, but I'm really afraid that it's so full of people who moved there specifically because weed was legal that I'd be even more out of place than I am in California.

>>10934910
Nayrt, I never wear makeup because I just can't be bothered and it's been a long time since I was last judged for not wearing makeup. Probably because I don't work in a place where I need to look a certain way for customers. I'm sure that if I worked retail or was a waitress my boss would tell me to put on some eyeliner, mascara and some foundation. I take care of my skin but there are always imperfections, like visible veins or sunken under eye area.
If you never wear makeup there is the benefit (other than saving time and money) that people don't suddenly think you look dead if you skip it one day.

A lot of guys can't tell if someone is wearing makeup unless the woman wears unnatural colors (red lip, blue eyeshadow) and then it's immediately deemed "heavy make-up". But they can't tell if there's actual heavy make-up, like 7 layers of highly pigmented make-up, if the colors are somewhat natural. I've noticed a similar ignorance concerning textured hair. They tend to not know the difference between curls a woman naturally has and someone with straight hair who used heat or heatless methods to curl her hair. And then some of them will be judgemental because the former isn't as slick, shiney, frizz free and uniform as the latter. Really dumb stuff like "why can't yours look like this? (Points at image of model with curls), why don't you take better care of yourself?", "because those curls are man made. That's someone with straight hair who curled it. Natural curls don't look like that", "yeesh, you don't have to be so insecure about it. Every time someone points out something they like in a woman's appearance you guys shout it's fake".
You cannot inform some men about the various ways in which women alter their appearance without being called insecure and jealous. Same thing if you try to inform (usually older) men about filters when they demonstrate they don't know about the existence of them and how effective they are.

>>10934735

drinking is objectively worse by every comparable study or measure, teen pregnancy and casual sex has been declining with younger generations. This is a massive cope

>>10934985
Hahaha, no, catnip makes cats act in different (sometimes really weird, unpredictable, aggressive and/or confused) ways. Some cats are completely unaffected by it.
The topic of universal income makes people say things you didn't expect.

>>10935001
I don't share the mindset from the original post but can you expect anything but cluelessness from most men about a procedure that they don't use in their daily lives? It's easy to draw analogies when comparing the knowledge of someone who is exposed to the intricacies of a process versus the general superficial view of it. I am not condoning the behavior, I just don't think it's done out of malice in the majority of cases. It is a race to the bottom that once someone starts doing it everyone else feels obliged to or will fall behind and it's extremely effective given how big that industry is.

>>10935002
First of all, the Harvard Nurses' Study, by far the world's preeminent long-term, large group medical study, has shown serious detrimental health effects from weed, which nobody talks about.

Secondly, the vast, vast majority of drinkers aren't alcoholics that drink all day, they're people who have alcohol socially or with dinner. Every single pot smoker I've ever known, on the other hand, smokes first thing in the morning, at lunchtime, and then all evening, and often even more than that. I've seen somebody visibly drinking alcohol while driving ONCE in my life, while being behind a car while clouds of pot smoke are billowing out of the driver's window is an almost daily occurrence now.

If people actually smoked weed with the same moderation and responsibility that the vast majority of alcohol drinkers use I'd have a very different opinion of it, but the decade since legalization here in California has shown that very few use it that way. It's gotten to the point where the anti-drunk driving posters you used to see on bus shelters etc. have been replaced by anti-high driving ones now too, I just saw one today.

>>10935014
I don't harshly judge the fact that they can't tell when makeup is being used. What I think is bad and what I do harshly judge is when they think their misinformed opinion of it is what matters most, like telling a woman with natural curly hair that she doesn't take good care of herself because her hair doesn't look like man made curls in a photoshoot in a magazine. And then they don't believe women when we try to tell them how it works. Even worse, they accuse us of something negative (jealousy, insecurity) that we are not guilty of.

So let them get cat fished, I'm not putting myself I'm a position where a man will call me jealous and insecure for trying to help.
But they joke amongst themselves about taking a woman swimming for the first date. And they say shit like "I don't like fakeness, I don't like it when women wear makeup" so obviously the idea of not being cat fished is important to them, they just don't want our help and punish us when we try to.
Iirc there was a study comparing the data about the subject, and it showed that whilst the majority of men said they prefer a bare face (no makeup), they rated the natural makeup images as the most attractive. So they like flawless skin but don't like the idea that people don't have flawless skin and that it takes makeup or photoshop/filters to make it look like that.

I have also rarely worn makeup in my life (a hand full of times at most) and I'm not good at doing it. There also aren't any people in my social circle who wear makeup. And yet I can still tell if someone is wearing makeup both in images and irl, despite not having much real life experience with it. Men can do it too.

>>10935022
I never got the attitude. Sure, I've seen those videos from China where fugly girls transform themselves with all sort of cosmetic techniques, but in reality most women are only giving themselves a 10 or 20% boost with the natural makeup most wear most of the time (if they wear any at all), in 99.9% of situation a girl who looks really good in makeup is still gonna look pretty damn good without it and if I'm with a girl who wears it every day I'm happy that I get to see her looking so good all the time, especially when I see her incorporating my feedback into it.

It's especially dumb when I see guys in the cosplay scene complaining about it because everybody looks awful in photos without makeup, men included. The girl in >>10934910 probably looks closer to "what men think no makeup is" in real life than she does to "what no makeup actually is," cameras and especially flash (which was clearly used there) just bring out the worst in skin if you don't take steps to avoid it.

I will say, though, that I prefer natural makeup and don't like either version of heavy, other than sometimes eyeliner, but in general I like deathly pale girls with small, delicate features and flat faces and once you go past natural makeup it starts to have the opposite effect.

>>10935029
The girl in >>10934910 (You) # probably looks closer to "what men think no makeup is" in real life than she does to "what no makeup actually is," cameras and especially flash (which was clearly used there) just bring out the worst in skin if you don't take steps to avoid it.

The very facts that you both think this is the "worst" in skin and that you expect a girl to wear makeup every day, AND give her feedback about it is just ridiculous. I hope you remain alone forever and no woman is subjected to your shallowness and retardation.

>>10934882
>I'm not like the OTHER girls! I'm special and love fatties! Not like those other superficial shallow bitches. Teehee uwu
Stfu pickme. Not having standards just means you have low self-esteem, not something to be proud of

>>10935031
Holy fuck, you're just incredibly desperate to start fights with everybody, aren't you? I had written out a whole post clarifying what I wrote, and explaining why none of it meant what you're implying it did, but then I saw >>10935032 pop up, clearly you as well, and that made it obvious that you're just a crab bucket bitch trying to justify a world where you don't have to do a damn thing to meet everybody else's standards, but everybody has to meet yours. Go fuck yourself with a pinecone.

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>>10935034
We're different posters but I am very serious about hoping no woman ends up living with a man that expects her to wear makeup in the comfort of her own home and tries to coach them on it. It's fucked up, you're fucked up.

>>10935035
Nta but I bought you because you looked a certain way. Either you continue looking that way or you scammed me and I demand a refund in addition to you being returned to the factory.

>>10935035
Look, if that wasn't you, I apologize to some degree, there are important women in my life that get called "pickmes" and all other sorts of nasty things just because their own personal preferences or physical differences happen to coincide with things that a lot of men find appealing, including my little sister, who I recently supported not only through the aftermath of a brutal rape but also the attacks from other women in her life blaming her for it because of the way she looks and dresses, so excuse me if I'm kind of sensitive about that kind of thing.

That said, you are putting words in my mouth and projecting some serious shit onto me. I don't know what bad experiences you've had with men and I'm sorry on behalf of the vast majority of my sex that are utter bastards, but in no way did I imply that I had any sort of expectations, I simply appreciate and support it if the women I'm with choose to wear makeup. As for the feedback part, unlike seemingly most guys I actually pay attention to the things the women I date care about, I make an effort to be interested and learn about them, and to notice things like new makeup, and knowing that those women will ask me for my opinions on things like makeup, or know that I'm actually paying attention when I compliment something new and take that into account.

As for the skin thing, all I was saying is that photography, especially with flash, brings out the worst in any given person, and that makeup is necessary in that situation because otherwise things that nobody will notice in real life can become glaring. That's equally true for women and men as well, as a cosplayer myself I'd never skip foundation at the bare minimum, and as a photographer - a real one with a degree and career in it, not some con loser with a camera - it's something I've had to work both with and around for years. In no way was I implying that the girl in the photo had particularly bad skin, in fact I was kind of saying the opposite.

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>start wearing J-fashion in public (most jirai-kei and girly-kei)
>starting getting more compliments than you did with normal clothes
such an odd feeling

>>10935045
nayrt, and I hope you don't mind me asking this.

My skin always ends up looking better (more even) when I take my own pictures with my smartphone (without flash), so what's up with that? I'm not aware of any built in filter in the camera app the phone came with that is automatically on. It's a samsung A52S with a selfie camera, which is what I use for lolita fashion pictures, and the specs are 32 MP, f/2.2, 26mm (wide), 1/2.8", 0.8µm HDR. Does it make my skin look more even because the resolution isn't good enough to register small flaws?

That's terrible what happened to your sister, and that she;s now being blamed for it.
And the term pickme does get misused a lot. Afaik it was originally only meant to describe girls and women who tried to make themselves more appealing to men whilst at the same time putting other women down ("unlike other girls I will do such and such for you.....")

>>10935050
That phone has a built in beauty filter (you should be able to turn it off somewhere, I don't remember where the option is) but there's also a built in "noise reduction" filter that will smooth your skin too

>>10935016
You’re absolutely right about that. I’d have to find the studies if someone wants a source but roughly 1/10 alcohol users have a form of a use disorder/addiction while 1/3 cannabis users have use disorder/addiction. The only reason people think it’s so much better than alcohol is because of marketing and snake oil health claims that make it seem like it’s so much better while wrecking people in similar ways but at a faster rate. The weed industry is 100% a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Also laughable that the person you responded to is trying to say it’s responsible for safe sex/lower teen pregnancies, considering it’s not even legal everywhere and only 40% of the country has ever tried it. It’s almost like they’re falling to propaganda like most stoners do and claiming it works miracles it’s not even connected to.

>>10935050
afaik most selfie cams do some degree of filtering whether you ask for it or not, and Samsungs are some of the most notorious for it. Part of it is also the lack of flash, though, and also seeing yourself in real time as you take the picture so you can angle yourself and the phone well. On the image quality side, it's not so much the resolution - 32MP is a ton - as that it's being taken through a teeny tiny lens that probably isn't amazingly sharp.

And yeah, the "pickme" thing originally was used, in particular, for women that inserted themselves into right-wing and incel-type communities for male attention, but it's been distorted beyond recognition now and as this thread demonstrates it's getting used for any woman that does anything that might get her more attention than average, I've seen friends get called that because they wear dresses casually, because they engage with any male-dominated hobby, or as shown earlier, because they dare to show interest in guys the other girls don't pursue.

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>>10935088
Thank you!

>>10934899
Couldn't be me anon, I play mono blue

>>10935211
There is a special place in hell for mono blue players.

zzz hate people that always ask me to borrow money. like you’re the older sis why are you asking me for money all the time shits lame asf. learn to live within your means

>>10935390
I like this phrase "I would love to help you, I'm sadly not in the financial position to do so". Repeat if they ask again another time if necessary. If this doesn't discourage them flip the tables the third time they ask, and ask if they can borrow you some money.

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hm, it's not a good time to wear my AP Crown Beret

Why is the cosplay community filled with such gossipy catty jackasses? It feels like I always hear about some new tea about some random, inconsequential shit every time I hang out with a new group. I'm getting so tired of this.
>if I see anyone interacting with v I'm gonna block them
>did you hear about what w did
>don't talk to x
>y is such an asshole
>z said etc.

I miss my old con group I enjoyed every con with them so much and all I've been doing since then is chasing that same high to no avail ;-; I wish I could let it go and stop going to cons but I can’t help but chase that high and hope things will be different every time. This will be the con I talk to new people and meet a cool new group who I actually like.