It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is open
>>75207335First in a thread that's gonna last all damn week.WAGMI
>>75207351WAGMI!!!
Snorlax here. Just got back from a wedding where I was best man and delivered a speech. I was best man at his last wedding, fifteen years ago when I was a sloppy drunk and gave a pretty bad speech so I was extra careful to ignore the booze until it was delivered. Saw sleep doc last week and doing a sleep study this week. He wants me to lose twenty pounds and get to 195 to see if it helps snoring. Fiancee saw blood pressure numbers which were a bit high and I came home to turkey bacon, which is fucking awful and I'll eat it because it's there but this is the only package I'm going to eat. Goals for this week - Continue cardio fag mode, I have a half marathon in November so doc's orders line up nicely. I'd like to have a four or five mile run logged on Saturday in addition to a total of ten miles the rest of the week. We picked out her engagement ring, next is figuring out the photographer and videographer. Also applying to more jobs because I'm on a call right now with twenty Indians and I'm going to kms. Go Phils.
>>75207335FIGHT!
Good morning OPI'm getting a jump on sober October, and thinking of just knocking it on the head 'til Christmas. Doing a bit of an inventory of myself:>Saw dietician>Saw GP, got a sleep study>Booked optometrist tomorrow>Booked dentist next weekIt came to me in a dream (srs) about the consequences of damaging my body with excessive bad food, alcohol, etc. It manifested as watching a hole in my nose get bigger and bigger and turn me into a freak; that's a sign to get myself in order. >WAGMI bros
>>75207335Last week a physio fixed a couple of my niggling little issues, in no time at all. I was previously foolishly trying to correct the matters with youtube self-diagnosis for months with no substantial headway. I've learned my lesson.Now I generally feel far better, sleeping better, just feeling completely connected body-wise. Pumped to ramp up workouts and get better every day.
I don't need motivation anymore. Bye friends, I love you all!
>be me, 37>37 years single>finally meet someone>we get along>life seems happier...she says she didnt care about my abs, she got interested because i was FUN what the FUCK anons.Lads, wagmi. It might take some time but there seems to be some light at the end of the tunnel ?Have a nice week, frens(Pic unrelated)
>>75207640>she says she didnt care about my absMy dude, you have seen the image of the office lady drinking up Chad's attention but calling HR on the uggo, right? Your abs are a huge part of how your personality is perceived.Congratulations on your win, though! Sounds like you've earned it.
>>75207640>she says she didnt care about my abs, she got interested because i was FUN whathahaha yeah women every time
>>75207640>she says she didnt care about my abs, she got interested because i was FUN
>>75207335It's so fucking weird how I know what I need to do and how easy it is but there's a part of me that wants to retain the weak, bitchy side of me. Why? Where does this come from? I know things won't be as bad as they seem yet I'm more content to do the easier method. Is this trauma coping? I'm always afraid of getting berated and shouted at.
Had a great test day last week.>550 Squat (+50lbs)Shaky walkout but I feel like I’ve could’ve done another rep but I wanted to play it safe with my quad tendon injury plus my brace wasn’t the best (my back caved a bit).>375 Bench (+10lbs)Good recovery since I failed 380 last week. It’s unlikely I’ll reach lmao4pl8s at the end of the year but I’m going to keep the bulk going even though I want to give up; otherwise, how could I say I have an indomitable spirit?>655 Deadlift (+30lbs)Deadlift was solid, not much to say. On track to hit lmao7pl8s at the end of the year.Now to focus on hypertrophy. Let’s get this shit, top o’ da morning.>>75207351WAGMI>>75207580FIGHT!>>75207450How tall are you? 215 doesn’t seem that heavy.>>75207581I love powerful dreams. It feels like I’m getting a message from God.
>>75207784Post body? I wanna see what you look like (no homo).
I WILL CONTINUE APPLYING FOR JOBS I WILL CELEBRATE PASSING MY LEVEL 3 CFA EXAM IN OCTOBER I WILL OBTAIN A BETTER JOB BY THE END OF THE YEAR I WILL ESCAPE I’m continuing to search for a better role. I have only received rejections so far but I need to keep on applying until someone takes me. I’m not confident that I passed my Level 3 exam but I need to believe in my effort. Even if I do fail, I can always try again. Best of luck frens. WAGMI!
>>75207748If you've spent a long time living one way, even if it's negative, it's going to feel more comfortable and even safe. At least you know what it feels like. Sometimes you just have to step outside of your comfort zone, there's really no other way if you really want to change.
>>75207784I'm 6'1", I easily have ten pounds to lose, we'll see how it goes. Weighed in at 215.5 this morning so I'll keep posting with the Bryce Harper pic each Monday for updates. Would not be shocked if I was at 208 next week.
Wife left me 3 weeks ago. I am the in the different country for work now. Talked on the phone with her today. Couldn't hold it and burst into tears and couldn't stop crying while in a video call. She shed a few tears.She told me she loves me but love is not enough, she needs someone more dominant and assertive. Not someone waiting constantly for her approval to do anything. Someone who does not wait for her initiative to start anything.I am devastated and crashed, the grief is soul crushing. Was planning to have kids, buy a house.I have therapy in 40 min, for the first time in my life (36 now).
>>75208020Her loss. Simple as.
>>75207335This week I want to do any amount of calisthenics exercise and any amount of meditation, every day except Sunday. Also NoFap all week.I'm a terminally lazy dyel and I tried to stick to workout routines but I always eventually fell off so I figured I should focus on just doing a little bit every day for some time.
Shutin virgin loner checking again. Tbh, I feel pretty rough but I also slept horribly.If I’m not too worn out, I’ll go hit legs, and then I’ll apply for some jobs. Draw like usual.I’m thinking of finally telling my parents the truth on a lot of things, so hopefully they don’t kick me out as a result.Got an optimistic one today though:https://youtu.be/XOPM1q8EPYU?si=ayM8DeOWD3fGp9U5
>>75208020Important thing to remember, you can't make her change her mind. All you can do is recover and tackle any personal failings you think you might have, find love again. Good luck, anon.
>was gonna give up>decided not toStay strong, anons.
34 Weeks til my friends get married. I missed my update last week /MIS/, due to work craziness, but I'm glad to say that I've not been missing my workouts! I'm getting into a nice routine with the gym, and starting to see the numbers on my lifts slowly tick up.I've been tracking my weight using a shitty set of weight watchers scales, but I have a new set of fancier scales coming today, which I'm hoping should give me some fresh insight into my weight and body composition, and be a bit more accurate. According to the scales, my weight and body fat have been fluctuating a fair bit over the past few weeks, but I think as long as I keep getting stronger, I don't mind.Starting Weight: 155 lbs, 16.8%bfCurrent Weight: 154 lbs, 17.3%bf
>apply to program I'm enthusiastic again >days later realize my resume has a mistake >my application is currently "under consideration" and I've been asked for additional information I think they want me so I don't think I can withdraw my application and apply again. I'm so angry at myself
>>75207335I have been looking for book suggestion about hero-ish story because I really like herofag such as Shirou and it helps with my motivation for lifting. (inb4 the author shit on heroism, he can eat a dick)
>at home with a cold (not out sick, it's my day off)>was supposed to have a phone interview for a promotion 30 minutes ago>15 minutes before the scheduled time it got pushed back to this afternoon>think it's gonna go well but I'm afraid they're gonna bring up a super extended medical absence I took to get addiction treatment (3.5 months sober now) and I'm debating how upfront I should be about it>whole back is sore from an extended late night workout last night, which along with the cold led to me barely sleeping at all>chick I'm interested in still hasn't talked to me since canceling our date this weekend, I've already accepted she's probably gone and I'm not gonna play desperate. Even if she really is interested in me and is just pulling some mind game shit to make me chase her, I ain't playing that shit.>need to set aside time to meet up with buddy of mine who is definitely going to jail for at peast a few months after burning his life down in a booze-feuled manic state. It's sad as shit but it's really the kick in the ass he needs to pull out of his suicidal alcoholic death spiral and I'm just trying to help however I can>thinking about trying to start back up a music project I had going with a couple guys last spring, want to start working on a couple rough ideas today>might go record shoppingIt was a weird fuckin weekend and it still feels like I'm separated from reality by about 10 feet of fog because of this cold and lack of sleep. Really just trying to not overthink stuff. Gonna try to make time to go visit my other friend who works in an ice cream factory and is always giving out shitloads of free new/experimental flavors, it's not what I need in this cut but goddamn is it comforting.
>>75207335Still b& off hinge. All the communities I attend have no single women. I’m 26 and feel like an abject failure because all my classmates and friends are getting engaged or married
>>75208422SameWell, not the banned partI simply have no fucking idea where all the single women go or what they do outside of work and clubbing. Even when I've done volunteer work it's all 50+ y/o women.
Sup fags? Heh, just joshin ya. How are we all feeling today?
>>75207610Based! Keep working hard every day so you can make it!
>>75208020if the therapist is a woman walk out.don't video call wife anymore. doesn't seem to be doing you any good and to be honest, being a bit of a dick right now might actually save things. nothing left to lose is a good position to be in.
>>75208605yeah just ignore her. she will come crawling back. then you can ignore her for the rest of your lives (just like she wanted?)
>>75208416Good job anon. Just went to the wedding of my old drinking buddy who finally had enough people tell him to fuck off (including his now wife) that he went to rehab. Ironically as the best man i had to give a speech so I had to watch my own drinking all day. Alcohol is a sneaky little cunt. Congrats and keep it up
>>75208089>>75208255>>75208605Therapist was a woman and thanks anons. I will succeed in the end, I will have a family, I will have children, I will make a business and I will be successful living a fulfilling life.
>>75208020>someone more dominant and assertiveThis is a really hard one to learn and internalize. The funny thing is, and i dont know you obviously, but you may have been like this at some point but were raised to treat people, including women, with respect as equals. So society basically memed on you and you need to get back to remembering how to do things just because you want to do them. >>75208605Is 1000x correct as well. Just like you wouldn’t try to figure out how to be a woman, dont expect women to understand the needs of men and their psychology and cultural expectations even though so many have a delusional idea that they do. They just wont get it and will give you shit info
>>75208632Parents made me see a therapist when they got divorced, I'll never forget that bitch saying something along the line that she didn't want me to have any trust issues with women. When it was my mom that ended it with my dad before at least making it official with her coworker.
>>75208431Fuck the hags.
I love these positive threads, what happened to /sig/ ?
Stuck to my 1600 cal allowance, killed it at the gym to the point I almost fell asleep on the bus home. Goddamn I thought my rear delts were going to explode.Still falling in love with a younger co-worker, my lonesome home life sucks but I will endure.
>>75208020Women will harangue you about your Initiative giving them anxiety and disturbing their peace and demand that you slow down, and then despise you when you try to be attentive and slow down.What's the solution, bros? Is there a way to make them understand that they're demanding their own dissatisfaction?
>>75208716Ignore what women say and throw them a bone every once in a while. Most people dont know what they want just that most women dont have the self awareness to recognize it. Im sure its the same with men but no one asks men what they want and also i dont date men.
>>75208638My mother was a single mother raising two kids. Extremely overbearing. Beat all the dominance and assertiveness out of me when I was younger. And then was surprised why I became such an overthinker and indecisive person.It's my responsibility to change. I want to reclaim my manhood, it's just extremely hard to let go, goes against my moral principles. I need a male therapist. In the end the session was ok I guess, I talked 99% of the time. Don't know what I expected. It was emotional for me again talking about it. Going through that again with another therapist is just mind numbing. Maybe that's what I need in the end, cathartics in repetition and talking.
>>75208731this
Rent is due tomorrow and its gonna be another month of starting from almost nothing. Didnt have to ask my das for money for the first time in like 6 months so that feels ok. Not spending nearly as much on booze helpsGoing to the gym every other day for 2 weeks, not drinking in the mornings or before work for 3 weeks as well. It's a process but I have to get it together.
>>75208829Single mom gang. This is gonna double super gay and I dont have any great recs on how to do this at 36 but you need to start spending time with more masculine men. I was raised much like you and when I started working as a paramedic my personality really changed due to constantly being surrounded by that type of person. Sure I was always a bit of an odd man out but it changed me by degrees enough to get along with them even if I sometimes didnt like or understand them. Also being in a high urgency leadership position pretty much squeezed out all that toxic passivity crap I had internalized. Maybe join an mc club or a club sport. Somewhere stereotypically male dominated where youd find that type of personality. Something that involves risk seeking behavior
Just got rejected by a really nice girl I went on 2 dates with, she told me "she doesn't know if she sees me that way" and that "she doesn't think she wants to meet again".
>>75209029>double*sound. Gd phoneposting
>>75209029Thanks anon. I believe you are correct. I was thinking kite surfing or boxing/Muay Thai. But MC or club sport does sound to be more productive for the purpose of camaraderie.
Finding motivation is the hardest nowadays.Anyway my goals for this week are to start going to the nearby fighting gym, new experience for me and I'm looking forward to it.Also I'll visit a few pubs again on Friday, I want to learn how to properly socialise besides the bare minimum I do at work.Meeting a new girl and planning a date is optional, I wouldn't say no to it but I'm also not rushing, too fucked up in the head to jump in a new relationship, I do want to get laid tho.Stay strong anons, we're all going to make it!
>>75209055Anything that gets you around guys (god theres no way to not make that sound gay is there?). Bonus you get to learn new skills and grow as a person and probably incidentally meet a new woman
>>75207804Your posts give me comfort and motivation, CFAnon. You're gonna make it, keep at it fren
>>75208953proud of you. you're starting from 0 instead of in debt. keep it up.
>haven't had power since thrusday>have been at work since Friday>only been home for 15hrs then back to work today>terrible sleep because no AC, no wind and living on top floor>seen more dead and ruined lives in the past couple days than I'd like >open tinder for the first time in forever>match with slampig>thinking about just plapjaking irl to relieve some stressNot having a good one but WAGMI
>>75208020How did she not realize that about you before you got married? Sounds like she's a fucking idiot anon.
>>75209379I am extremely passionate, motivated and disciplined when I have a north star. My other qualities were clearly more important at the time.
>>75208632You can always change therapist if you don't think it's helping, or stop going entirely, but sometimes you can just use it as an excuse to let everything out. That alone is enough for some people.
>>75209356well I do have student loans I havent been able to pay but yeah I was able to avoid the feeling of dread calling up my dad. Dread is a powerful emotion, anons, do not recommend.I started the process of being a teacher, so Im paying monthly for that cert, but havent been able to substitute this semester because you dont get paid for like a month after your assignment. Ive needed more immediate money (new bills for other nonsense) so just been waiting tables like a madman, which has caused me to fall behind on the cert program material. Im just fucking gassed when I get home. Teachers get starting pay of over 60k, which is more than Ive ever made, so it seems like my only way out, and Im already locked into the cert program fees.Exercise has helped my mood though, and given me more energy during my shifts. Also consistently taking st. Johns wort, not sure if it's just a placebo but who cares if it works.
>>75207335Having a month off of drinking and smoking, hopefully I at least manage to save some money
>>75207335just started training neck wagmi brahs
>>75208020I'm so sorry anon, look after yourself and take it easy for a whileThe good news is that 36 is still a good age for a manSending some bro hugs your way
>>75209412I have 5 beers left. I wonder if I should just chug them tonight because them being in my fridge all month would be torture.
30 years old, going to a recruiter tomorrow because I have no direction in my life. Wish me luck boys
>>75209458what branch? good luck man.
>>75209394>>75209439Thank you anons, just getting actual (you)s with any advice is very comforting. Talking about it does help. Obstacle is the way and struggle what makes us grow. Hope to come out better our of the other end, and if not, will have at least stories to tell. Good luck with everything in your own lives.
>>75209460Air Force. There anything I should really know besides to avoid strip clubs and alcohol?
>>75209477Oh I have no clue, Im >>75209404Sorry, but it sounds like a good way to get your shit together
>>75209477>>75209458Good for you, man. 31 here, for the past 10 years whenever my life has hit a low point I've strongly considered enlisting, and every time I've decided against it I regretted the decision.Well, except for maybe the marines. I was literally getting ready to head to recruitment when a family friend who went through the corps told me that it would indeed fix my life but that it would also be absolute hell because I'm not a peanut-brain sack of shit.
>>75209475Thanks, man. We'll all persevere and make it through.
Does anybody have any tips to use AI for resumes and cover letter?
>>75207335Posting it here too since it is relevant:>>75201499Dear Anons,we all know the /sig/ Archive on mega -> https://mega.nz/folder/v6AzSDSJ#9nFO3qrNGUEKs3M-uMFfuwI wanted to update some parts and as it turned out, this stupid little brain of mine somehow lost the access to that mega.It was created hastily after the previous archive was banned from mega due to "copyright violations".After all that time and changes on the PC I couldn't even find the recovery key.Here I am now, telling you that in the near future there will be probably a new link to the updated /sig/ archive.So far, I hope it served you well.For any input, help or thank (you)s, the updated mail address is: sigAnon2@proton.me
>>75209041Welcome to the club anon. I hit it off with a girl from hinge, we texted back and forth so much and for the first time in years I felt there could be something there. We met for a date on Saturday and I did my best, I thought it went well but she has ghosted me.My self esteem is truly in the gutter after the rejections I've faced over these last few months. I used to be so confident, but now even if I find someone who likes me, all I'll be able to think about is the rejection I've faced and don't understand why she likes me. Feel like I've been damaged for good.The self loathing is big atm and I'm struggling to get out of it. With the winter coming, cold mornings and dark evenings I'm in a shit spot. I know there's worse things that woman issues but I'm 29 and I feel like a failure. Fuck. Very down on myself rn
>>75209629I really don't think it a (You) problem my brother in Christ, women really have unrealistic expectations until they get swindled and end up pumped and dumped, several times.
>>75209458>>75209477>>75209500Bros, would you recommend I do it as a shutin in my early 20s? Had the same experience as the guy above talking about his mother beating the rebelliousness out of him at a young age.What’s funny for me though is the first time I chose against it, the vax thing happened and I was like “thank god I didn’t join”. Now I hear they’re deploying some people to the ME, but still who knows. You think we’ll see real conflict?I hear there’s like a 2 year option for the Air Force so I was thinking I’d do that then dip and enjoy my life. I don’t know, I feel like with my luck, my investments would blow up as soon as I join, then the I’d get sent to some warzone to get blown up myself. But maybe I’ll see you there anon.
>>75209574Thanks fren
>>75208020I'm really sorry bro. Please give yourself adequate time to recover and reflect. You're going through a hard time but I promise there will be light at the end of the tunnel
>>75209460I'd say go for it bro. As I said I'm 30-- my friends and people around me aren't going anywhere in life, my girl left and my mom is getting up there in age. I'm very impulsive and getting fucked up everyday is not fun anymore. I need something to not only leave my environment, but also reteach me how to be a man.
Sometimes it's over, sometimes it's just getting started.
>>75209922Thank you anon. It's brutal, I burst into tears a few time a day. I can't help it. I know it will get better. There is always hope.
>>75208157I’m the same way in that I suck at quitting but I’m persistent enough that I refuse to quit. You’re really good at art though
Depression is over. I got a job. It's not the kind of job I want and the pay is low but it's easy as hell and low stress so I'm living freely and won't starve to death nowI'm in a pretty good mood.I spent almost two weeks without working out in September out of depression due to lack of job. After three days back at it I'm quite sore but two weeks ain't all that much. Will bounce back right away.Wagmi bros.
I really believe the mature latina manager likes me. Like I KNOW when a girl is into me, but it’s never been one this much older. I started at this job and the last few weeks whenever I was in this store she looked pissed at the world didn’t talk to anyone. Then we interacted last week after I said good morning to her. She kept hovering when she didn’t have to, she changed the playlist to her personal music, and then she insisted on bringing me waters and snacks throughout the day literally only me and when she would hand them to me she would blush. She totally ignored every employee and coworker she had to be near and talk to me. We kept chatting here and there about nothing. She’s definitely like 45 years old, a good 15+ years older than me. But she’s cute. 4’11” great ass, good body, despite being older pretty face.Today when I came in again (haven’t been to this store since the above, she knows what days I’m in) she had a full face of makeup and her hair done, like caked in make up. Too much for my tastes tbqh. She looked at me, we made eye contact, she blushed and looked away, and then speed walked to her office and hid there until I left.Really bizarre. I have a crush on an older lady and she seems to like me too. She’s acting like an 18 year old though kinda off putting. Idk if more will come other than talking and some light flirting at work. Idk if I want anything to. On one hand it could be a sugar mama and that’s great if everyone wins, on the other what if I really ended up liking her? A fucking mid 40s woman? What am I gonna do, marry her and have her pass away on me when I’m still under 70? Which is another thing, lately my tastes have changed. I’ve been eyeing older women, thicker women. Even finding tall chicks around my height hot. I don’t get it. 3 months ago I liked skinny early 20s chicks. Oh well, maybe it can be a fun no strings attached thing where I go home with her, fuck her all night a couple days a week.
>>75210272Cant lie, got a half chub off your story
>>75210292I’ve been getting full chins just talking to this lady. Like my body just KNOWS. I’ll have to see what happens. I in part worry about it going bad or regretting it after if we were to hookup. I’m simultaneously horny but also almost disinterested from sex and dating and mostly just wanna be alone. Usually women have to push me a lot to give them a chance because I’d rather just not bother and enjoy my solitude. I wouldn’t turn down head though if she wanted to suck me off in the parking lot.
>>75210365you cannot go wrong fucking a latina just saying. you may even not be able to go back to white pussy afterwards. just be aware that they will get pregnant just looking at a picture of an erect penis so use caution
>>75209475All the best anon, you'll pull through. Always listen to the cliche advice people will throw your way, it's cliche for a good reason. I went through it earlier this year with the sickening rumination and crying fits when my girl and I split. It's grim but I honestly believe these things happen for a reason and that we'll be the better for it.
>>75208104Every little bit of progress counts. Find what you want to do and commit to it. Best of luck!
>decide to do an early morning lift sesh for the first time ever>wake up at 5, arrive to gym at 6>still a bunch of people thereOn the plus side it did genuinely feel great to get my lift done before going to work, no more having to force myself to go when I get home and feel sleepy as hell. Looking forward to another pre-dawn lift tomorrow
>>75208020Buddy... if your goal is to get more assertive and manly, crying to a therapist ain't it. Go get some strong friends to confide in and be strong.My condolences.
>Just started hitting strides>Sick with a coughI give up, I’m out for at least 2 weeks when I get sick
Haven't posted here in a while but things haven't been going too well. Got laid off from my job and have been getting rejected from listings for a while now. I got my ass kicked in the match, only good thing was I wasn't knocked out. I've more or less quit the gym and lost about 15 pounds so far. Drawings have been stagnating despite the effort and even that's starting to feel like a chore. Luckly I haven't quit boxing or drawing. I'll turn this around starting this week, I'm not doing this shit anymore of being a NEET. Let's make it count. https://youtu.be/XV8FiHg1au0>Goals for this weekDo some introspection, try something new as what I've been doing hasen't been working, post regularly for accountability, get back to the gym even if it's at least once and apply for at least 5 positions. WAGMI bros
>>75210771You’re always welcome back :) Sorry you’re in a rough situation right now. Life can sometimes really suck. But dig deep and find the power to change everything. Every day counts, so let’s do our best. WAGMI!
I'm pretty new to the gym. Hit 135x9 on bench today :)
>>75208280I will stay strong as well no matter how many obstacles I encounter
Just wanted to say that today I did deadlifts and ran hard and now I feel amazing
>>75208368You’re doing great, keep up the hard work!
>>752094777 years in here (pic related)Go to the recruiter with a job in mind>DO NOT sign an open job contractTheres 4 different job sections: General, Admin, Electrical, and MechanicalAn open contract for one of these sections will pretty much mean you get the shittiest one. Going open general will NOT get you that medical job, you'll end up being a gate guard in arizona.>Jobs to avoidSecurity forcesAircraft maintainer / crew chief (you get shit on 24/7, work horrible hours, and have the worst living conditions)Any kind of cookCivil Engineering (trust me, this does not transfer to the civ world)I'm biased, but I like my job (PMEL - 2P0X1), and it transfers well but PLEASE at the very minimum don't go in blind, and utilize reddit (i know) and other forums to get real feedback on jobs.You can also tell the recruiter, "I want this/these jobs and Im willing to wait for a contract if none are available." They will push back but stand firm and advocate for yourself, don't get played.Good luck, friend
>>75209678I joined at 19, and it set me up to get out with a decent future in the next year. Get yourself a good job, and you're not getting sent anywhere to be blown up.
>>75211232Cool, cool. I have a degree in comp sci and experience in that/IT, also have some language skills so I wonder how well I could do. Very fit, and I did like two practice asvab tests that average 85%, so I hope that's enough. Got arrested once as a teen tho
>>75211256>DegreeYou could commission if you wanted to, although the contracts are longer and you shoulder more responsibility faster.There's cyber jobs for both enlisted and commissioned Airmen. Keep in mind that as someone who has not signed a contract that you have more power now to set your path than you ever will once you put pen to paper
>>75211271I'll start reaching out to recruiters I guess. If I get rich during my contract, is that like grounds for early release as like a conflict of interest? I unironically have a terrible fear that as soon as I join, my portfolio will do silly numbers and I'll be a zog slave for the full length. I'd be fine with seeing it through fully if literally nothing else panned out
>>75211316>If I get rich during my contract, is that like grounds for early release as like a conflict of interest?Unironically, yes. But I've personally never even met someone who knows someone who's done this.
>>75211316Also, if you get some easy ass job like admin or finance, it's literally just a 9-5. The amount of zogging you'll be doing is minimal. You just fuck up peoples paperwork all day and get payed for it, I never see those fuckers actually working
>>75211324Alright, with my luck I very well could be the first. Thank you for the information anon, I'll screencap everything and deliberate carefully going forward on all my options. I hope your career pans out or whatever it is you choose to do.As thanks, I'll give you this image of one of my favorite bogged bimbos. I'm a big fan of bimbos and hope that one day soon, I'll be able to empty out my testicles in an unlimited supply of them.
>>75208471I’m doing decent. I spent all day updating my resume. I hope I get a better job soon
>MONDAY'S INDOMITABLE SPIRIT>My wife left me guys, my life feels unmoored and I have been cast adrift >Chin up bro, just go die in Iran for Israel, that'll get your life togetherWhat the FUCK happened to this thread?
>>75211400>airforce>Dying in any way but diabetes
>University going good>Getting work done on time>Getting As>Gains are being made in the gym>Sleep schedule is not that bad>Stress is relatively low>Can socialize with classmates without having a panic attack>Joined engineering society at school for more socializing/networking gainsLife is fucking GOOD right now bros
>>75211704>engineering>socializingkek
ONE MUST IMAGINE SISYPHUS HAPPY
CONTINUE APPLYING FOR JOBSCONTUNIE STUDYINGCONTINUE ASSESSMENTSCONTINUE CODINGCONTINUE TRAINING FOR COMPCONTINUE READINGCONTINUE HAVING FAITH IN MYSELFCONTINUE EVERYTHING
>>75211049Good. At these most difficult times, we will never give up.
My desire to smoke weed and drink and sit around like a lazy piece of shit playing vidya is strong. Let my desire to keep getting more jacked be stronger,
>>75207784LIFT like you want to WINhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7YLpQbQcHOU
>>75212884Sagisu didn’t need to cook this hard for such a goofy-ass episode lol. The Eva soundtracks are all so great.
Stay strong, anons :)
Forgot to post here yesterday but I finally was able to do 10 neutral pullups.Amazing how fast the progress has been once I was able to a single one of them.
>>75211256if you're good at languages and can pass a background check (top secret clearance) ask them about a linguist role. I did that with the Navy and they had a shit ton of airmen there. also makes the recruiter look good
>>75208713You're making all the right steps, eventually you will get a gf
>>75207450>buy blood pressure cuff to track BP>gf happy and then proceeds to fucking lecture me for an hour about my diet >this is after i find out my rental property in Georgia had two trees fall on it>pissed but put it behind me, dontgotobedangry.gif>sends me a fucking screed this morning while i'm working, about diet and blah blah and i'm basically picrel levels of anger now
>>75207335start of a new month boys. trying to stay positive but it has been hard lately. lost my job early last month and ive always told myself id be able to make it on my own with my own skills if something ever happened. now, here i am and im just completely overwhelmed and frozen. >maybe today ill go drop business cards off>ill add a little to my website>or maybe i can do X little project to try and get some cash flowand then i do none of those things, get depressed, and thats when the self doubt thoughts start. ive been journaling with a lot of positive affirmations and all that to really try and drive it in my head that 'yes i am capable of doing XYZ' because i know i can. and it does help, at least in getting me to feel good enough to cross a few tasks off the list instead of feeling overwhelmed the entire day and getting nothing done. tl;dr start journaling bros.
>>75208678/sig/ and whitepill only occasionally appear. /MIS/ is the only positive general that is created regularly
>>75208415the arthurian legends maybe?If youre more of an animefag try vagabond it's unfinished but still gold
For every difficult day, there will be good days. You have to believe. Stay strong, anons. You can achieve your dreams.
>>75213709I have to believe but the hardest part of my journey is believing in myself
>>75213839Other people believe in you, even random anons. Hopefully that's enough until you get more belief in yourself. Good luck to you and all of us.
Hey anons, you might remember me saying my dog was dying and it was hard to deal with. Well, sadly he has died now. It was last Monday. I pampered him all week leading up to it and he wasn't afraid, which is a better end than a lot of people get. He had a good life. Have a good day boys and make sure to show your dog how much you love him.
>>75213901Remind yourself that you gave doggy the best life you could and he loved you until the very end :)
>>75211400Been seeing a lot more recruitment posts lately as well
>>75207335I'm sh00k, haha. I can overhead press 52.5kg now but can only benchpress 70kg =0. 60kg overhead press equates to 100kg benchpress from everything I've read lmao. Any ideas as to what I am doing wrong? Pls and thank you.
>>75213901sorry to hear that o7
>>75213924I know it's cliche but have you checked your form?
>>75213962Yeaahhh, the form for both seems fine. I've recorded myself in my home gym and watched both lifts. My chest is quite prominent but I feel weak as piss on bench.
>>75213901Best wishes to you anon.
>>75213702already finished vagabond, but what version of the Arthurian legends should I pick?
I had sex with my ex again
>>75213972HIP DRIVE!!!!
>>75207335Just took my very first BBC. He was so gentle. I was worried because he usually ravages my wife but she likes that. Very gentle with my asshole. WAGMI
>>75213901Sorry to hear that, anon.
>>75214004Please give tips on that
>>75214026just push your leg while you bench.
>>75214001How did that happen? I can't imagine ever texting an ex asking to have sex with her
>>75214354I didn't ask her to have sex, she invited me to come hang out and we got drunk and fucked
>>75207335>What are your goals for this week?I'm like super fucking lonely and I want to make a friend. How does a grown ass man make an IRL friend? When I was a kid it was as easy as just spotting another kid in the neighborhood and you'd run up to them and ask them if they wanted to play and they'd be like "DO I!?" and you'd run off and play tag or whatever. I don't think that strategy works if you're over 30.
>>75207640>because i was FUNWhere did you take her on dates? Or are you just like naturally charismatic, fun loving, and have an outgoing personality or something? What's the secret to being seen as "fun".
>>75213859Thanks, that means a lot. Kamina always talked about using others as motivation. I need to remember his words
>>75213839Don't believe in yourself, believe in me, the anon that believes in you. You got this anon, wagmi.
>>75214421>find hobby with other people around>make small talk with someone who looks approachable>repeat until you get a small conversation going (might happen over multiple visits to whatever it is)>eventually invite or get invited to other activities, meet their friends etc.Not saying it's easy, but that seems to be the way.
i binge ate last night but today's the start of a new month and i will be perfect.1. NO alcohol2. 500 calories under TDEE3. protein target locked in4. 5 miles of walking per day5. lift 3 times per weeklet's fuckin go
>>75209078I know, we live in a cursed world. However, we must be optimistic and persist. I'm the same way in that I also need to learn how to socialize. Bets of luck fren! WAGMI!
>72 hour fast>no coffee>no weed>no jerking offit's game time
>>7521482272s make me feel so good anon. first day is a bit shite but after that my mind gets so clear. good luck anon i believe in you
>>75213017What was your job in navy? You’re probably one of the anons I’ve spoken to about this. But I achieved step 1 of my 5 year plan. Got a job. Now for step 2 I need to save my money and continue losing weight, I estimate I’ll make qualifying weight in another 7-9 months. My goal is to join the navy do a contract, mostly for benefits. But I wanna be an MR and if I can’t do that I’ll just be an MM. AMM (whatever aviation MM is called) would be cool but they won’t let me because color vision issues.My whole idea is that while in I’ll save all I can, and my life will be work and lift in whatever free time I get. So that when I come out after the 5 years I can hopefully have about $80-$100k saved (head start from this job), have a good physique like I used to, skillset, and then the benefits like GI bill and home loan. Use GI for an apprenticeship probably, use home loan to wedge my way into owning rental properties and hopefully before I’m 50 I can do mechanic or machinist stuff as a hobby & side hustle and have my main job be the rental properties. That’s my plan to escape the rat race and make good money anyways, to not have to be working into retirement age>linguist roleI can’t read hence why I’ll probably be an MM and not an MR lol
>>75208678/sig/ was killed through a combination of discordfagging and janny vendetta.May /MIS/ never suffer the same fate.
Girl asked for a rain check on a second date because she is sick. She was actually the one to ask for the second date and has been continuing to text me. Is she actually sick? With this excuse I am used to girls just ghosting me after but it has been a couple days and she is still texting me.
>>75215164Not sure if we've talked before. I was a Navy CTI (Crypto-Technician Interpretive). They sent me to learn Arabic before working at an NSA site for a few years. Home loan and GI Bill were game changing in terms of life. I know that Navy has a delayed entry plan specifically to help people get ready and lose weight, could be worth checking out. Can't really talk much about what "Navy life" is like since i just sat in a cubicle farm and watched Drone TV.
>>75215417Just make sure to set up the next date asap
>>75215460I leave town for two weeks on Sunday! By all accounts the first date was amazing, so very surprised. Unless she is actually sick I guess. She knows I leave on Sunday
>>75215460>>75215497She also said verbatim that she definitely wanted to see me again before I left
dear lord , were so fucking back khttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFmbwmEgYHg
>>75215421Holy fuck an actual glowie.
>>75207804>>75207804good luck on your level 3 exam results and job search CFA anon. your efforts will eventually pay off, keep pressing on!career switch anon here. i am beginning to see the beauty in constant struggle, and even in defeat. it is important because it allows me to learn. it allows me to learn how to deal with the negative part. i will continue to struggle, learn, and work on my career switch. i am not sure if i will make it, but i rather try than pine away. best of luck anons on the endeavours you have chosen to devote your efforts to.
>>75215421The reason I’m not doing the delayed entry thing is my knees are fucked up from powerlifting during college. Multiple meniscus tears and bone resurfacing had bone on bone at one point (still do?). I could make weight in 3 months if I started running right now. I’m walking and rowing for now while I do kneesovertoes guy’s stuff to build bullet proof knees. Essentially my knee doc already documented I’m fit for military service, but in order for that to remain and be true I have to not destroy them in the meantime. I only have to make them good enough for the 10 weeks of basic, then I know reducing runs to once a week (or less if they put me on a small ship with no gym) will be fine. For now that I have no choice but to take it slower than I want.I really feel the delayed weight loss program for round boys will involve doing a lot of the shit I can’t right now and have me end up with a new tear or worsening one of the existing ones before I even go to Great Lakes, like straight up running while I’m this fat
:)
>>75215881:)
>>75214033Thanks for the advice. Today I benched 235 for 3 reps for the first time
>>75216289aye no problem. People just usually forget to mention that you need to stabilize your legs by pushing it to the ground during the bench
>>75215783I mean. Now that there’s missiles flying in the Middle East, is it really still a good idea? Yeah yeah, I know, 2 more weeks n all>was considering it myself
is there a place for you in this world if you're not good enough to fix your life? if you're bad/incompetent at everything you do?
>>75216649Mcdonald or Walmart
>>75215750Thanks for the encouragement. I just learned how to use ChatGPT to revise my resume and create cover letters. I wish I had learned how to do this earlier but at least I’m doing it now. So you’re career switch anon now? I’m in the same boat since I’m also trying to escape compliance. I’m glad you aren’t wallowing in pity but have found optimism in this situation. Use every opportunity to become the strongest version of yourself! We are given one life, you must take full advantage of it! Best of luck to all of you frens. WAGMI!
>Calculating my earnings at a 8% ROI I could've comfortably retired by 35 living frugally>mfw I realized there were more hidden costs than I even accounted for>even with my very-far-above-average income I'll still have to work until I'm 2 years below the retirement age to retire early with my goal investment net incomeKill me.Just kill me already.
>>75216649Contact the recruiter in this thread and sell your blood or your soul to people that hate you to help them murder people higher on their kill list
Stay strong, anons! :)
>>75215565For what it's worth seeing the Syrian civil war start out was a pretty massive red pill. I don't even trust most of my former coworkers, one of them hit me up with an Instagram request while J6 was unfolding after not saying a word to me for years.
>>75218740What are some other red pills the average civies need to know about military? I keep thinking that enlisting is my last chance at making it, but I don't want to directly support """liberty and democracy"""
>>75208953Don’t get discouraged, it sounds like you’re gradually improving
>>75217397No, fuck them both, cry about it
>>75218740How hard is it to convince the zog corps you’re “mentally unwell” and get a medical discharge? Is boot camp your last possible exit stop? Jay you were someone that just needed food and shelter for a couple weeks and didn’t mind running and doing push-ups in the cold to get it
>>75219403*say
>>75217015>tfw always have <1000 in the bank.Im so fucked
I’m starting to believe that I’ll have to delay some of my goals until the first quarter of next year. It doesn’t matter as long as I reach my goals, right?
>>75218884if you're not working in intel, spec ops, or infantry, your job is probably going to be pretty boring and like most office/mechanic jobs in the civilian world. every job responsibility is ultra specialized, and they don't cross train nearly as much as they should to keep things interesting. you're literally a cog in the machine. think back to the old days where a guy would just pound one bolt into the same spot for a car his entire life. Everyone is retarded. I would say probably 90% easily, and the longer that other 10% is in, the more they're desperately trying not to fuck up their retirement by rocking the boat. I was once told to take all the information from an Excel document and paste it into Word for someone two levels above me and my supervisor wouldn't even argue the point of why that's retarded.Unless you're deadset on supporting ZOG, avoid working intel and you're fine. I have a cousin that's basically just doing accounting shit now in the air force and he's golden.
>>75219403You could probably get out somewhat easily during boot camp, my first bunkmate went in "undesignated" and they assigned him to be a corpsman and he lost his fucking mind because he realized that he could end up being deployed to a warzone. I think you end up with a general discharge which doesn't really affect you (unless federal employment or something, i don't think it's a dealbreaker even then)Most of the people in the military would be on welfare anyway.
>>75209377Bro you’re too good for a stampig. Save yourself for someone better. Disasters suck, there’s no way we can avoid them. However, you can help yourself and your community rebuild. Stay positive! WAGMI!
>>75219447It could be better than rushing and making mistakes, especially if that would completely discourage you from achieving your goals. Be reasonable with your expectations. Good luck.
need some wisdoms from /mis/ chads. i just returned home from a date with my former colleague who has been a NEET because her parents are loaded. she asked me out on a movie date and I broke the touch barrier on the first date like /fit/ suggested, she let me hold her hand, i also think I managed to pass her shittests too. by the book, i've made it however I don't feel that way, i felt trapped, and the emptiness inside of me was acting up during the date, i felt relieved when we parted ways, i used to have a crush on her and fantasized about her but now i dont want to have anything to do with her and i keep justifying it by telling myself her flaws. i know there's something wrong with me and i don't want to hurt her so what should I do to break free from such a toxic mindset or should I just tell her something nice and break contact then continue being a loner like I'm used to? the feeling of not being alone is so alien to me that it makes me sick, but deep down I also crave for someone to love, this self-contradiction is killing me.
>>75219735stop overthinking it. Youll regret breaking it off already, trust me. Just have fun with her and stop getting in your head.
>>75219735Isolation can make people feel that way. It may be depression. I think you need to practice being sociable again in general and learn to enjoy being around others, including her. Though obviously that doesn't help you right now, trying to discern how you really feel about her. Will you feel guilty if you continue? Worse if you break things off? She might not understand how you're feeling if you do tell her, so it's a tough decision that no one else can really help you make. Good luck and like the other anon said, try to have fun, even if it feels like you can't. It might just click some day and you'll notice a change in yourself.
>>75219735Bro wtaf just get some pussy and move on don't be an emo clown
>>75219783>>75219838thanks for the advice frens, I'll put that to work.>>75219861I thought lifting would have killed my inner faggot but that cunt lives rent free. I'll try to have fun and not let my inner faggot got in my way, he had done enough damage already.
>>75219735When was the last time you went out with a chick? I fucked up once because I hadn't had a date for about 2 years so I forgot how to act around women, maybe it's that.
>>75219735>/mis/ chads/mis/fit/s?
>>75219910my last date was 2 years ago with a woman who is 12 years older than me lol but I did better this time around thanks to all the advice iv'e learnt from /fit/.>>75219924kek
>>75219639That’s good advice, thank you. Unfortunately, I’ve realized that it’ll take longer than I expected to make it. It’s better for me to set reasonable expectations than feel discouraged for meeting impossible timelines
>>75219910my first date in two years and the chick had me feel the battery pack in her back from a car accident at one point. awkward but whatever, next day went on a date with someone who ended up being a needy dumb bitch. month later got fed up and then a few days later met my fiancee. six months in and we're planning our wedding for next may
I may have a date with a Japanese girl in the near future. I am not gonna give up on this one until I’m hearing “KIMOCHIIIIIIIII! IKUUUU!!!!”Wish me luck.
>>75220356>a few days later met my fiancee. six months in and we're planning our wedding for next mayGood luck anon, that's great.
>>75220356>a few days later met my fianceeForgot to ask you, but how did that happen?
>>75220362Good luck but remember to be a gentleman
Former gigafat khv blogposter here. She spent the last three weekends with me. She texts me every waking hour. She's honest and says what she thinks. She's cuddly and so god damn cute. I just snuggle with her on the couch for hours on end, we don't even talk while doing so. She's polite. She's lovely. She's smart. Her face is so fucking cute. She has a great ass.Man it feels so good it's unreal. Didn't think something like this could ever happen to me, a 31yo balding 5.8" manlet with flabby skin. Don't take the blackpill. If I can do it, so can you.
>>75209412Good luck with your sober October! You are stronger than you can even imagine
#wagmihttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZQx-X87RC0
>>75220571Listen to this guy. Keep going, anons.
How do I beat procrasination? I'm procrastinating my entire life away.
>>75220571Congrats! Do you have any advice on obtaining a good gf?
>>75220385>>75220375Bumble, surprisingly. it had been shit for so long and i also have my filters set pretty tight so i wasn't really expecting much and then we met for coffee and talked for two hours. shit's been great for the most part
>>75207796This is an old pic of me, imagine this but proportionally bigger everywhere especially the chest and stomach. I look like Jeff Nippard’s build but normal height.
>>75207335As for relationships, Anon, I don't want anything with anyone yet, I just found a normal place where I more or less started studying normally.I have ADHD and I take pills so that this crap more or less calms down. If I get distracted from studying again, then it's fucked.I think you understandi dressed like dante from dmc1 after i received this message just to feel somewhat cool for once in my lifeGod save me
>>75221261I opened your image before I read your post and thought "Why's this cunt dressed like Dante?" and then I read your post lol. Based, honestly.
>>75221268>Based, honestly.thanks mani feel numb but it's whatever, i'll get over it
How do I stop being bitter and angry? my ex cheated on me, made me believe it was my fault, and now shes “living her best life” while i do nothing but work, eat, sleep, lift, and jerk off. none of my friends even like me, they ignore my messages, dont laugh at my jokes, shit on me whenever they can.my boss and coworkers are assholes and also lazy. half the time i try to vent to anons on /fit/ even in feels threads its either ignored and i get trolled. am i destined to go through the rest of my life with the thought that nobody actually gives a shit about me? no matter what efforts i put towards other people, their lives, and their goals, i get nothing in return, not even a “hey man hope you’ve been doing okay” another thing is i cant even admit openly that i just want to be cared about and respected without inevitably being called a whiny pussy who needs to grow upits just so tiring
>>75221482There's no real solution outside of just trying to live and trying to improve. Improve your health, get a hobby, socialize etc. There are no guarantees. In the meantime, maybe you can get a pet. Some prefer their company anyway. Good luck, hope things get better.
>>75215500>>75215497>>75215460>>75215417Apparently she has a sinus infection and staph. We won’t be able to see each other before I leave, so if we do go out on a second date they will be about a month apart. She stressed today that she wants to see me when I get back. Hope it happens! She was very nice when we met!
>>75220571How did you lose weight and stop being KHV anon?
>>75221645cardio and then once your cardio is good, you can chase women down easier
>>75221219Mirin' your abs. Do you still deliver sermons?
>>75221585Good stuff, anon. See? Nothing to stress about.
>>75221585Nice, good luck anon.
>>75221732>>75221827Thanks bros. I am a chronic overthinker.
>>75220816Focus on setting reasonable goals in the morning, writing them down, and then holding yourself accountable. Remind yourself that procrastination is a sign of fear and you must conquer it to move forward
>>75221862Same, you'd think we wouldn't make so many dumb decisions with the thinking we do
Someone believes in you anons :)
>>75222737Then I need to repay them by believing in my efforts :)
>haven't left the house for anything other than work the past two months>still feel like I don't have any time to myselfI just want to draw what I want to drawThat's all I wanna do in life, yet that doesn't seem sustainable.I'm genuinely trying to think back to any after-work thing I left the house for the past 2 months and all I remember was a fucking trip to the post-office 6 weeks ago.Even then, I just don't have time.
>>75222916:)
>>75223413Don't force yourself to draw if you don't want to. If you truly want to draw, reframe the question as "is drawing a priority?"
I just deleted all my dating account apps and I already feel better. Spent like 40m every morning going through with 0 matches. Fuck that shit.
>>75223413Does work take up that much time? What else do you do?
>>75210044Such is life. We need to remind ourselves of what's just getting started
>give up>find resolve>repeatLife is difficult, but every day i try again.
Today is a push day and I will lift the motherfucking sun for reps.
>>75225062Never give up, always believe in yourself and the people who believe in you. :)
>>75225062Based stay strong fren
I was friends with this introverted virgin chick 2 years ago. I ended up making a move on her early on like a dummy which made her uncomfortable, our friendship kinda fizzled out after plus saying she just wanted friendship. We were only friends for 6 months but I hit on her within like the first month of knowing her. She contacted me at the end of august and we have been talking almost every day since. Is she interested in me? I don't get it, its been so long, why so eager to talk to me?
>>75226606Thanks fren :)
I’ve given up
not gonna lie this whole ukraine/israel war is starting to piss me off. at this point I dont care what happens, someone has to lose and I dont care who. this whole war business is really bad for my stocks. the longer this shit goes on the longer I have to wagecuck. thats pretty much my biggest concern atm.
>>75221482I think, and please keep in mind I could be way off idk you only what you’ve posted here and can only assume, that you may have an issue many of us suffer from myself included. You CARE too much. As in, you value other people far too much and you’re desperately seeking validations and approvals from outside sources. Yes this sounds cliche but it’s all about you. BEEEE YOURSELF. Live for yourself. Don’t be a yes man faggot looking to please others.Do not for a second misunderstand me. I am not telling you to become an asshole who hurts and actively fucks others over. But you should first only be concerned with how things benefit you, whether it makes you happy. Then secondly you should weigh the pros and cons of that. THEN thirdly how it affects other people. The exception is if you have kids, they always come first.This is a first player MMORPG. You wouldn’t start playing a game and give your rare loot to other people in hopes that they accept your friend request or let you raid with them (you shouldn’t) because you know that is essentially a transactional relationship where you’re agreeing to be used and in return you’ll be tolerated until you’re no longer of use. The second you can’t give any more rare loot, the second they find someone they like playing with more, or someone stronger to play with, or they out level you and there’s a gap, you’re gone. It’s the same shit IRL.1/2
>>75221482not trying to shit on you here because I dont even know your situation but maybe you need to reflect on yourself. if literally everyone around you including your former gf is shitting on your then maybe something is wrong with you.
>>752214822/2I’m assuming this because of how you have worded some of what you’ve said here>what efforts i put towards other people, their lives, and their goals, i get nothing in returnBasically what relationships, friends and girlfriends, should boil down to is>friendsHave things in common, even one thing? Like each other’s company? Cool that’s your friend. Hang, develop the bond via just having fun, and eventually they become someone you can rely on and in turn they can rely on you too. Whether it’s digging a hole at 3am or it’s venting over some beers because your wife left you, or even something like tagging along to buy a new game because you don’t wanna do it solo.>girlfriendDoes she check all the boxes that are your standards? As in at least 7/10, low body count, no shitty tattoos or piercings, no shitty slut friends, doesn’t do the whole clubbing thing, can form some of her own original opinions (ex: not liberal..), cares about her health, has traditionally feminine traits, she respects you, can communicate if she has problems even if it takes some prodding, etcAnd then on top of that it’s just do you guys genuinely vibe well? Do you actually like her for her or her holes? Can you enjoy being with her even while sex is off the table? Or can you not stand being near her unless you’re fucking? Do you feel like you need to give her the world to keep her around or do you feel she truly fucks with you for you?It should not be “what can I offer this person so they like me.” It should be, “do I even like this person? Is my life better with them in it?”And do not misunderstand, you shouldn’t the using people. That’s not what I mean. It’s just purely about, do we click well? Have things in common? And for women it’s what I said above.>more about bitchesThis doesn’t mean be a total loser and hope a woman likes you. Be on top of your shit still. Be the best version of you that you can be. But that’s for you.
>>75227117>>75227145>>75221482I lied, 3/3Most people suck man. That’s just how it is. I STILL get pissed off about this. I STILL find myself thinking back to those faggot friends, to that one recent ex from over a year ago, and I still find myself getting pissy about it all. I still find myself getting bent out of shape over asswipe coworkers acting like faggots. But the anger goes much quicker these days, I used to dwell on it for weeks and lose sleep wanting to drive out and break shins.What’s my point? That’s what makes the very, very, very fucking few actually genuine and worthwhile people so special. And yeah, this involves socializing a lot. Sift through everyone. Only burn bridges where you must, but only let the few good people in close. The ones who you determine you can’t trust or who are just shitty losers are still a network who you can meet 100 other people through.People are just people. Most are barley conscious and are more like simple animals. They’re not malicious, but rather more like an opportunistic lizard. A lizard wouldn’t eat your ant farm because it hated you, it operates on what serves it the best and unfortunately lacks the ability to even consider how it affects others. Do the same, but consciously consider how it affects others at some point. Don’t be a lizard. Be an ape, a human.
>>75226895She found some guy she liked, got piped, dumped him, slept around, and is now looking back to you for dick since she knows you wanted her
Bros.....today a cute and fit black girl smiled at me at the park. I had just left the gym and had a nice upper body pump going. I really let myself go in 2022 and 2023, so it feels good to be back in action and looking good again. I couldn't have done it without my /fit/ bros helping me along the way
>>75227198Usually I would think that but she graduated 2 years ago and hasn't made a friend since. This is a legitimate femcel-ish kinda girl whose more obsessed with manga and film. Kinda in the same boat since college made it easy to talk to people but the real world is a bit different. She did mention she doesn't talk to any of the guys at her office unless forced to so idk.
>>75227249Nta but I’ve known girls like you’ve described. The simple fact is the most reserved, seemingly femcel total shut in girls can be the biggest thots. You just don’t see it and they hide it well.The girls who seem like the biggest sluts, dressing like whores always out clubbing, can surprisingly be the ones with the lowest body count.It’s not quite a shot in the dark because red flags and pattern recognition exists for a reason. But you just don’t know for sure. It’s never a foolproof way to assume for certain.>coworkerShe had a boyfriend and immediately wanted to take me on a drive alone to smoke weed in her van and hang daily. I didn’t do anything with her but she ended up fucking other coworkers.>girl 2Seemed like a total fucking nerd. Glasses. Quiet. She didn’t do anything but watch TV read books and take her dog on walks. Hated clubs and bars and drinking and parties and didn’t like to be around large crowds or other people at all, fairly introverted. She was the BIGGEST thot I’ve ever known. Also batshit insane.>ExShe played sims all day and didn’t really do anything. She just scrolled Pinterest and played sims and did some video game design crap as a small business. Played with and cared after her nephews. Seemed like this really introverted but traditional super sweet girl. 90% sure she cheated on me multiple times. Not gonna give details it would become an essay, it’s that situation where while blindfolded something smells like shit, sounds like shit and even tastes like shit so clearly it’s shit.Also turned out despite all this she liked clubbing which contradicted everything she led me to believe about her.You just don’t know man. Don’t think of women like they’re perfect beings just because you like them. Get to know them, keep them at an arms length from your heart, determine who and how they are. Then decide to let them closer or cut them off.
>>75227384I've dealt with that with two exes before who were "good girls" and a couple of other mistakes. I can tell this one isn't a total whore. I am just mainly confused if she wants me or not, it still is kinda random since its been 2 years.
>>75227249Femcels aren’t real, anon.
Stay strong anons :)
How do I confront a manager who’s being a bully?In short, this isn’t my boss they have no authority over me. I’m not even 100% they’re management or what their job is but they dress like a manager. It’s actually 2 guys a little older than me, mid 30s. They behave like 15 year olds, think stereotypical peaked in highschool type.One said some passive aggressive shit under his breath to me in passing on our first interaction cant even remember what it was the other attempted to harm me in the most passive aggressive way possible.He watched me walking down a hallway and he had this buggy full of sharp metal frames and stood there waiting for me to pass and then last second jutted it into me “accidentally.” I put my hand out and held it against him and pushed my way past.The two of these faggots stand around and crack jokes and laugh all day. I work for a different company that’s partnered with their company. Idk what the issue is I’ve done nothing to either of these people and they’re the only ones who seem to have an issue with me. Would I be horribly out of line on the next situation to call them out regardless of who’s around? To say something to the effect of>Do you have a problem with me you would like to solve?Or>Are you good?I know it won’t result in a fight but even if it did I would winOr how do I handle this? I need to do something because I know from past experiences this doesn’t end and will only snowball until I’m forced to do something and wind up being the one in trouble.Can’t go to my actual bosses because another manager at a different location was being a bitch to me and the guy from my company who was training me escalated it with our company and if I report more shit it’s gonna start looking like I bring drama and problems. I literally just show up and do my job and no it’s not the type of situation where you have to politic and speak to people to fit in like an office
>>75228211I feel like I’m really being tested here bros and I really need this advice. I need this job. These bitches are all but goading me into a fight. It’s every day I’m at their location. Last time shit like this happened at a job I ended up throwing the coworker on his head in front of all the bosses after a year of this sort of shit
>>75207335Why are all you pathetic nigger faggots acting like you are serving in some world war or something.If you need motivation threads like this to 'make it', aka be a normal human person, you need to neck yourselves ASAP.
>>75228237Wow anon I hope I can become a normal human like you someday and also make pissy pants’d posts on obscure basket weaving forums insisting how functional I definitely am to people I claim to be beneath me. Hey I know! You should post your body and show everyone I think the visual would really drive your point home. Make sure to include the timestamp so no one claims larp. I’m sure you’ll do it.
>>75228283Holy cope bahahaha.I must have struck a nerve.
>>75228294>instantly responded>not posting body>Heh, looks like I le struck a nerve! *pushes glasses up*Thanks for the laugh
Ignore crabs, they feel worse than anyone here, they're just desperate to escape the feeling of despair by belittling others.
>>75228314Why would I post my body, faggot nigger?I don't need your approval lol.
>>75228370Nta but you’re fat lol
>>75228370Kek fatty
>>75228315Just quit whining and start acting like a normal human being. Why is this so hard for you gymcels?
>>75228381>>75228385Post y'all faces bitches.
>>75228417>>75228405>gymcels>still not posting bodyButter golem confirmed kek
>>75228428Im fat and happy bitch
>>75228315>>75228381>>75228385>>75228428Lol imagine trying to shit on people and immediately being exposed as a fat retard and put to shame for it best thread right now
>>75228436Oh nooooo Im exposed!
>>75228442And fat
>>75228497Ok gymcel. Be sure to do some extra reps today, that'll make you happy!
>>75228211>>75228229Try to ignore it. It's just work, there's no need to let it spill into your outside work. If your work life is still hell after 9 months, look for a new job. In order not to be bullied, try to make friends with your other coworkers and spend as much time as possible with them. Bullies target loners
>>75228211They’re gonna say things they think will make you react. If you are visibly bothered by it, they’re going to do it more. If you suppress it until you snap, you’ll be seen as the problem. You just gotta be unbothered by it. It’s just a bunch of nobodies being bullies. If they pull shit just say, “Is there something I can help you with?” You don’t even have to be that threatening. Most people are so afraid of conflict it won’t get past that.
Applying to jobs is truly depressing. I hate this process and hate how few interviews I'm getting. But I need to persevere to escape my current situation
>>75228912I will no matter what the world throws at me
Welp /fit/ I finally did it, after 27 years on this god forsaken world I finally asked a girl on dateShe even said yesNow I have to figure out how to actually date but at least she is also an autistic sperg like me so theres not much pressure to not be myself
>>75228525That’s the thing. I do get along with and talk to and socialize with like half the people there. I even have minimum one guy from my company with me at all times. Aside from the buggy thing (I really should have confronted him then and there but I was rushing) it’s mostly been very small but obvious things here and there maybe twice a shift. It’s enough that I recognize what it’s gonna turn into if I don’t do something now.Ignoring it is NOT how you fix this because these types delude themself into thinking they’re hard for it and that I’m clearly just intimidated and weak. Turning the other cheek has the opposite effect and no offense I know you mean well and I appreciate it but it is horrible advice here dude. It has its time and place though.That’s what I tried at that other job years ago where I ended up ragdolling the dude. It got worse because of it>>75228697>most are afraid of conflictThis is true. That’s why I want to confront now. I just don’t know how to approach it. It has to be some fine line between “I will fucking rape you to death” and professional that doesn’t come off as a threat simultaneously so it’s almost open to interpretation yet very clear what I’m saying.Either way I have to do something. I actually don’t feel I’d face a single repercussion if I went a little retarded and flinched one out or called them a hoe. I just want to handle it correctly for future practice because bitches like this will always existI feel me being taller is causing this shit like I’m perceived as a threat somehow so it’s just some goofy insecurity on their part. That’s the only logical guess I can conceive about why they’d do this anyways
>>75220362Well she ghosted when I asked for her number. And I promised myself I would delete OLD if the next match didn't work out.Now I hate women again.
>>75228912:)
>>75209041far better than getting ghosted or accused of. anyways, we've all been there, you did nothing wrong, time to move on
>>75230746:)
>>75229413Congrats fren! Does she have any interests? You should plan your date around that. I'm 27 and in the same boat. Hopefully I can go on my first date soon
>>75229413Just be yourself :)
>friday>take the day off which i literally never do because i rarely have anything to do anyway>took it off because im actually going to be doing an activity from noon to 6pm>feel absolutely worthless sitting here at 10 am on a friday doing absolute jack shit
>Getting ready for a 3 hour walk home from the city centre.....Lets go...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5GE2QdfhDAUhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vw-bSWgKhlI
>>75207640This will be me this summer, except I will not believe for one second that it wasn't the abs
>>75232177That's how it is sometimes. Learn to meditate or something.
>>75232177dont be hard on yourself
>>75232177who cares? you're doing something later
>>75207640As others have said, yes she did care about the abs.Your ability to fuck mad have women like you is like a door. If you’re a geek or look bad that door will be locked shut and you’re creepy for even looking at it what’s behind it isn’t for YOU. Looking good opens the door, doesn’t just unlock it but it will creek it ajar slightly. Looking good will have most unlocked but sometimes they’ll still be closed and it’s on you to go open them.Sometimes and ugly guy can pick a lock. More difficult to do. But happens and some ugly dudes get good at it.Things other than looks can open doors too, such as money and status.The better you look the wider and more inviting doors become and in higher amounts.You looking good is how she was able to fall for your personality. Don’t let this upset you, it’s not a bad thing and actually means she has standards. But understand women dont fucking know what they like and want and usually just say shit because it sounds good.>hang with a bitch without any real talking or even a date just straight up comes to an Airbnb to “chill” with me>You know I don’t usually do this it’s just because it’s you, anonIs an example. It’s a guilt thing. They say it not to convince other people but to convince themselves they’re not shallow or sluts. In the case of your situation it’s not even really a bad thing but she doesn’t realize it, she just at least subconsciously feels like it was shallow. She’s trying to convince herself. If you buy it then she will buy it too.They don’t even understand they have these thoughts. They’re almost lacking an entire level of consciousness. It’s almost like thinking in images feeling things and then speaking based off that without even realizing why they’re saying it or being able to connect the dots and ultimately be honest with themself. Many men do this too but it’s mostly women. It’s super baser tier and animalistic.
>>75232258She's so hot, I really hope she is a tbabe
>>75232177This has been my issue since getting a job a month ago.>NEET trying to get job for 2 yearsHated life constant anxiety too overwhelmed to enjoy anything often don’t sleep. If I ever tried to do anything for fun I felt like shit about it thinking I should be applying to jobs instead and like I was wasting time.>get jobDon’t do shit in free time almost feel paralyzed, feel like I’m wasting my time and missing out and like NOW I should be able to truly relax and enjoy stuff. Wanna get back into hobbies, work on making businesses to earn extra money, get back into classes so I can make more. Barely able to get off my ass and do house work.Feel guilty either way. Like a worthless piece of shit. At least I have a job now though. I went fishing today for a few hours. Almost caught a decent sized fish I’ve never caught before but lost it. Then I scraped my side mirror off on a light pole staring at ass while driving home and now I guess I have a weekend project.
>>75228211stand up for yourself nigga wtf. how many years have you spent on 4chan? surely you’ve acquired enough wittiness to come up with some kind of retort to their behavior?they arent women so fuck worrying about tiptoeing around feelings, next time they act like faggots, find the testicles that have recessed into your body, and call them out>why are you acting like a dick bro?
>>75207335Bro, it's Friday. WTF?
>>75232681This is sort of the problem man. I’m trying to refind this ability. As a kid I was a fucking barbarian I’d regularly get into peoples faces and insta fight. Literally damaged an 8th graders back as a 3rd grader and made him pass out and cry. I once kneed a new kid my age in the stomach and made him puke when he wouldn’t stop fucking with me and my friend. I once punched a kid so hard his glasses went flying and he spun around and smacked into a wall after he spent an hour being a dick then lied and got me in trouble then proceeded to taunt me about it. The last one I was beaten for by my mother she literally beat me silly for an hour because it got me suspended and from then I just stopped sticking up for myself gradually. Any time I tried to stand up for myself after that, verbally btw, I always was the only one who got in trouble in school which got me hit at home. It wasn’t even like my responses were to call other kids a niggerfaggot either or anything over the top I was legitimately just singled out.So from like 5th grade-8th grade it was weaned out of me and then until I was like 26 I just did the whole turning the other cheek bullshit which has never worked. But I have no fucking clue how to back into it.Yes I realize this may sound retarded and you may be thinking “wdym you don’t know??” But that’s what it is. Idk how to do it without going overboard. Without going for the throat. As a kid words worked often and if not just hitting someone communicated to EVERYONE I wasn’t to be fucked with.Now I’m this 6’3” shrek and if I do anything I’m automatically the asshole. I’ve had this happen the last 3 years where I try to stand up for msyelf and the bitches will go and act like I’m some monster picking on them and convince everyone I’m an unhinged lunatic who picks on smaller peopleI don’t know how to navigate this shit. And no it isn’t just basic banter I have no issues with that, huge clear difference
>>75232787>>75232681Another example of how this doesn’t work out for me, where I think I did right>have job, manager is incompetent retard who no one respects I’m one of the few who give him basic respect>decides this means I’m a bitch and his punching bag>every day when his other employees clown on him and tell him to suck dick he storms over to me and starts yelling at me for whatever bullshit he can make up (stealing time for glancing at my phone for example)>eventually his other workers are especially pissed at him and giving him the worst shit imaginable>in his effort to reclaim a sense of power does his typical shit with me but way worse>tell him “You need to chill the fuck out man”>get written up and company tries to punish me make me do this whole extra training shit>tell them what happened, they don’t care>just say “okay bet” and never come backIt’s like no matter what I’m the one who gets fucked. Get fucked if I don’t do hair get fucked if I do
>>75232692The indomitable spirit persists all week.
>>75232949My spirit has been dominionated and its butthole pulverized, but I'm still standing (yeah, yeah yeah)
the weekend is here :) https://youtu.be/y1DUKZapCOc?si=6TRKNNuzyrkd3F5s
This week, despite missing arms day due to being so busy, I have beaten my rep count on squats, and beaten my max rep weight on the lateral pulldown. Feels good anons.
>>75234181wagmi!
>>75234181:)
>>75233967Congrats on your progress!
>>75221699No plans currently. I only did 2 for when the pastor wasn’t there
>>75232787>>75232817Sounds like you have some repressed anger that you're worried about letting out. Or people just mess with you because you're the big guy that they're insecure around. Maybe joke around more, especially when people try to get under your skin.Have you tried training in combat sports? Sparring might help let go of some tension and put you at ease in those situations you mentioned. You'll realize how little a lot of that shit actually matters.
>>75210265You're making all the right moves, so congratulations! I know the path to success seems arduous but you're taking the correct steps. You'll be in a better place before you know it. WAGMI!
Every day we must try.
>thread still upIt's a sign. WAGMI
Today is my 27th birthday. I've completed some of my goals over the last year but I still have a long way to go. I hope the next year of my life is even better. WAGMI!
>>75232631>It’s almost like thinking in images feeling things and then speaking based off thathey! I'm a man and I think like this, does not mean that I don't have a through understanding of the ideas, it simply means I use images rather than words. And you know that images are worth a thousand words.>Many men do this too but it’s mostly women. It’s super baser tier and animalistic.Again, it's not the method, it's how analytical you are about comprehending an idea and drawing connections between them. You can use all the words words words inside your head and be a retard because you never even being to address and process concepts or connect them.The file compressions system is not responsible for well the data is organized or processed.
>>75208644hey that image is very accurate
>>75208644>I'll never forget that bitch saying something along the line that she didn't want me to have any trust issues with women.>When it was my mom that ended it with my dad before at least making it official with her coworker.fucking women, amirite?Life gives endless examples of women are not to be trusted. Yet we all yearn for a nice relationship where you can trust the other person.One might call it naivety or being brave and hopeful. Personally I think it's just our endless greed to yearn for something we know may be impossible or at the very least so exceedingly rare that vast majority of men will never experience it.
>>75237365Happy birthday anon. Make it a good year.
>>75237365Happy Birthday Anon!All best wishes.
>>75237765>>75238092Thanks you two. I'm optimistic about this year
>>75211400>is it just a psyopalways has been.Remember they don't want you depressed enough to where you don't contribute, only depressed enough to where you feel powerless to stop them.So you being depressed enough to go die for israel is just the prefect amount.
>>75238667>pic related
See you guys next week :)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2BW5EjNnyM
Believe in yourselves and the people who believe in you :)
