>>43661235
I have a husband, he's pretty great; right now I'm like a stay at home mom for our cats. I'd have a job, but I don't have a degree, most of my experience is in IT and I'm too careless to stealth properly; being in the US South means most places don't want me, being white, trans woman, and passing means I don't get companies enough DEI points for them to consider hiring me. I met him when I was still in a relationship with my theyfab ex, and they insisted on adding him to our relationship. They were into him because he has some troon traits, but was hurt and offended that they didn't take his cis identity seriously. They almost immediately lost interest in him after I told them to stop misgendering him because it was belittling the effort and pain I went through discovering myself by trivializing it.

I was excited because I finally had someone to talk discourse and politics with, most of my trans friends try to stick their heads in the sand, and then get a manic episode/freak out when reality comes crash through. I still remember one of our early convos was a disagreement about Contrapoints, in one video, after barely 6 months of being out, she appointed herself the arbiter of validity for trans identities.

Then a few years down the line we decide to get married, our ex was still in the cule at the time, and demanded to be able to perform the ceremony, but with a druid slant. They procrastinated on it for weeks, failed the class my husband shelled out 3k for, and completely stopped talking about, never apologizing, never thanking either of us for trying to help them. they demanded that my husband drop another several thousand on a new bed while he had been covering all the rent, and never thanked him again. They freaked out when their (other) trans partner had a manic episode after getting approached by 3 letter agents on campus, broke up with all of us, and the got back in a relationship with her after she calmed back down.

>>43661381
cont'd

I had felt my ex and I's relationship fading for years by that point, but I missed what we had (being like a cute old couple together) so much that I stayed longer than I should have. About a week before the breakup I asked them if we needed to take a break because I hated the distance between us, and every time I tried to ask what was going on the blame was deflected onto something I was doing wrong that kept them from being around me. Anyhow they told me "you don't give up on a 9 year relationship." That really fucking hurt a week later when they broke up with me, and I realized that they didn't really value me at all.

Technically speaking, they asked for a break from relationships, but I wanted them to go to therapy to talk about their trauma (they never had a therapist that challenged them). it's been almost a year and therapy went from: "I just need to fill out 1 more page," "I know you'll pay for it but I don't have time," "I have time but I can't afford it and I don't want help," to "I don't want to go, I'm doing the work on my own." The worst part is they are still our roommate, along with our trans friend who freaked out, and my husband and I are paying their rent without any thanks, but neither of us can bring ourselves to kick them out because they'd be homeless. So we're waiting until next year when the lease is up, and we will refuse to move with either of them.

As for my husband and I, we've been getting closer, spending more time with each other and enjoying each other's company. I've been able to open up more and spend more time doing my interests because I'm no longer holding space for someone who had almost no interest in me. Most days I clean, cook, take care of the cats, do my hobbies, run errands for us, play vidya, and masturbate. It's not the most satisfying life, but it's better than I ever thought I could get. Hell I'm not almost a year out from SRS and I had given up on it after getting DEI Fired from my "dream job"

>>43661235
met him on amino
he's hella disabled now, been together for 4 years
lifes pretty cozy, still stressed, kind of wish he was abled though, im the only one working now

>>43661519
what kind of disabled

>>43661235
>pic
Why are whites so low-IQ?

>>43661538
Happenstance.

>>43661526
myalgic encephalitis + fibromyalgia, non 24 hr sleep disorder, did, pnes (this isnt a penis joke, its pnes)

>>43661235
>put on a blouse "by mistake"
stealthiest chaser tranny