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>Age
>Sex
>Why?
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>>31307451
29
M
Low self esteem cucking me, I convince myself a girls just being friendly when she's blatantly interested.
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>>31307451
33
m
When I was younger it was ideological matter, now it's just the fact that you don't start doing something you never done your entire life.
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18
mtf
no black cock in area
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>>31307553
>Low self esteem cucking me, I convince myself a girls just being friendly when she's blatantly interested.
Many such cases
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>age
31
>sex
male
>why?
never tried
depression, avoidance, etc (usual mental health issues that lead to this situation)
declined the only opportunity i was approached in college as I didn't want a drunken hook-up as my first/only experience. wanted to date a girl first. not fond of hook-ups in a moral sense
thought a girl would approach me one day or things would happen by chance through work, school, serendipitous moment, etc. never happened. no girl made the first move, and I likely never had the confidence to make a move on any girl remotely interested.
feel too inadequate to even try online dating due to no woman ever expressing interest in me
purposefully socially isolated from college onwards due to feeling ashamed over my life
work a career relatively devoid of women in the field (engineering field)
few friends in the past. no friends no after isolating for years.
was chubby for years until losing weight after college (long after it mattered anymore)
never leave house other than work or gym
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26
m
i dunno, dont get out much? i never went to parties where people just fuck and ive never had a girlfriend. i dont think im particularly ugly or an awful person but ive never put effort into actively having sex, ive never really thought of sex as something that just appears on your doorstep that you claim
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32
M
Depression for years, generally awkward and low sense of worth due to being born HIV positive.
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21
m
i'm uninteresting and don't know how to fix it
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>>31307752
get a hobby, do something with it. playing videogames and watching shows/movies doesn't count.
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>>31307451
>Age
22
>Sex
F
>Why?
Combination of autism and just not being interested in sex. I never really think about it or desire it. Like I get that it feels good and all but don't want to do that with someone. I guess I'm probably asexual
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>>31307451
22
F
Honestly just not really interested. Got my fingers, got a dildo, much easier, cheaper and more convenient than a guy really.
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>>31307781
>>31307789
sounds like neither of you ever were in love
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18F
I heard a lot of bad experiences from my girl friends. Really want it to be special and romantic for my future husband. I guess it's makes me feel more valuable to a potential one.
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>>31307798
Nope. If I ever fall in love with someone maybe that would change my mind but I don't know for now.
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23
M
Autism with a high dose of neuroticism. I tell myself I’m waiting for the one but I had my oneitis orbit me for a few months and I wasn’t even able to get myself to talk to her.

>>31307801
Smart girl, stay that way
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>Age
27
>Sex
M
>Why?
I'm too autistic to get along with normies
I'm not degenerate enough to get along with retards
I don't value sex enough to go for casual hookups

I almost had sex a few times in collage, but I'm glad I didn't.
They were not decent people.
Closest I got was pulling a girls panties off and rubbing her, she had a few days old shave downstaris and it felt nice to grab and rub. We were really drunk and she almost threw up on me and ran to the bathroom. Then I remember she came next to me in the morning and I cuddled her for a few hours, which was nice.

I lied to friends that I lost it that night, because I'm kind of ashamed of being a virgin.
Sometimes when I get horny, I think about making a tinder or check out a sex addicts website we have in my country...
But... I don't ever go through with it because I think it would be more special with someone I actually like one day

Anyway porn exists and they have it in all flavors so who cares
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>>31307789
You lost your virginity to a dildo?
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>>31307883
It's an inanimate fucking object, that doesn't really count now does it? Though I can't deny the idea of losing something that so many people consider so precious to a toy is kinda hot.
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>>31307892
>Cucked by a dildo
That's more amusing than anything how much that probably pisses at least one autist off
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21m
Very low self esteem, bad health issues. Used to look 14 at 18.
Now I still look quite young, but I've put on muscle, and somewhat cured myself.

>>31307801
That's a great way of thinking. I hope you'll find a nice partner in the same situation and both innocently discover your bodies.
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Based
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUoH5VQTDek
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>Age
27/M
>Sex
No
>Why?
Social anxiety. In high school and college I much preferred staying home and playing video games, which were the easiest times to do it. Now there is no easy way for me to form natural/meaningful relationships. Like others have mentioned, I feel like it would be a lot better to do it first with someone you genuinely connect with. Forming the connection takes precedence for me.
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30
M
No IRL social circle, don't have the looks for online dating. The usual problems, niche interests that don't appeal to many people - gamedev, programming, digital music, that kind of thing. I'm also not good at making conversation with people who I don't have common ground with (be that interests or work). High functioning autism. No fashion sense. Even if I were to put aside the common sense practice of not dating coworkers, all my coworkers are male so that's not an option either. Etc.
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>>31307451
>Age
28
>Sex
m
>Why?
low self esteem, was fatter (still fat but I lost a lot of weight so far), low self-worth, very high self loathing and emotionally distant and avoidant.

Never had any relationship or anything. I went out with a female coworker to some concerts a couple of times but that was it. I don't think it was a date.

Anyway I'm comfortable being alone now but occasionally the pang of loneliness hits me before it fades away. Nowadays I just focus on work and playing instruments until the feeling goes away.
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>>31307801

Are you waiting just until you're with your future husband or until wedding night?
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>>31307451
25
M
I can't offer anything. Zero social and economic resources, also not good looking
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24 m idk desu lol I think I got a below average dick I guess not sure tho
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>>31307980
You are better looking then me. I wonder what are we supposed to do
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>>31307765
weightlifting is my only hobby outside of that. my social skills are really bad and though i get approached sometimes i cannot capitalize on that because of my lack of social skills. how do i go about improving them?
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>>31308354
experience. go out and meet people
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21
M

Have had several opportunities to fuck someone but could never get hard enough to penetrate
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>>31307451
30m
1. used to be a volcel untill recently. Fallen for a girl, got ghosted.
2. realized that how it is hard for me to get a gf.

Now I want to ask out a coworker. I have no issue to awk her out secretly, but she works in an another department and shares a room with coworkers and I have no excuse for even to be seen there. To be honest I realize I need no excuse to ask out a cool girl, but I'm still very insecure on anyone knowing of the fact of me asking her out. Please advice me anything to overcome my fucking toxic shame/anxiety and ask her out even if everyone sees it. I have no other choice.
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24
f
First it was shyness, and the constant warnings from my dad echoing in my head about how having sex as a teenager is not good and can lead to consequences. I heeded all of his warnings because shockingly, I wasnt stupid and respected my father a lot
Then, it was a variety of circumstances going on in my family that led to me acting mentally ill and offsetting to everyone I encountered. Now Im just a loner and dont want to get entangled in people's lives. I mean, I can talk pretty normally now for the most part. Im just apathetic. I want to, but I dont want to A, give it up to someone random & B, I dont want to get THAT envolved with people/let them get to know me that well.
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>>31308513
if you have no other choice then this is how i would look at it. it is a net negative if you continue to do nothing. if you do nothing, nothing will ever happen. ask her out is the only option that will lead to positive results. if there is a 50/50 chance she says yes, would you take those odds or would you rather do nothing and be depressed regardless/ i can full emphasize with being embarrassed about this around other people. but it is as you said, you have no choice. i don't think anyone would hold it against you for asking someone out
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>>31307789
You can get sex from a toy, but you cannot get love from a toy, and love is 1000x better than sex.

But to feel love you need interaction. A date.

Where are you from? I wanna a gf. Not a sex partner but a gf.
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>>31308556
Thank you for your kind words. Yeah, I know this.

IDK how am I going to cope with the anxiety in order not to be miserable and insecure in front of ppl.
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BTW more info about my case: >>>/adv/26721389 and >>>/adv/26708701
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>>31308571
I don't know the context/dynamic of your work, but maybe you can just ask her to step outside the office so you can ask her something? or maybe find out a time you can find her alone, like during a break or before/after work.

Regardless, you just need to throw yourself in the moment and try not to put anything thought into it. If you struggle to do that, you might have to consider if this is someone you really want to ask out to begin with. I will be rooting for you either way, as I can easily see myself in a position like this. Good luck!

Also, though I never tried myself, I heard a bit of alcohol can be good to just ease nerves
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>>31308524
>>31308443

Interested in talking to someone who wants to have all that intimate, loving stuff before and after? Keep things simple, but genuine.
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>>31307451


I am a 24-year-old male living in Washington state.


I don't think I've ever really had an attraction towards the opposite sex, nor the same sex. It was just after high school that I started to realize that I wasn't normal, I never had any female friends and the guys that I hung out with would always make sexual comments about women's bodies that I never understood. In the past four years, I've learned to feign attraction around others and I know what conventionally attractive people look like, it would be terrifying to be outcast for what I suspect is asexuality. My online friends think that I am weird because of it. It's very frustrating to live life like this, I've always wanted a romantic partner that I can depend on emotionally as well as start a family with, but it seems like women will expect me to put out and asexual women are not very common. I've tried online dating but never really took to it, I'm probably going to give up on everything here in a year or two and commit to living a selfish hermit lifestyle.

I just want to love and be loved.
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>Age
31
>Sex
Yes pls ;)
M
>Why?
I hate myself and I'm afraid that people will hate me for the reasons I hate me. All I do is work my menial labor job, do enough exercise to not be an absolute landwhale, then wither in front of a screen. I suck.
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>Age
24
>Sex
M
>Why?
crippling disability has kept me a shut in for the past decade, been told I'm good looking and have a good sized dick by girls I talk to online but they've always lived far away and I can't travel.
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Hello! 20M here looking for a long term fap buddy! I have an addiction to big juicy slutty woman booties! I also have a tiny cock so I’m looking for a male with a massive cock that’s bigger than mine (4 inches) to mentor me in the ways of big booty porn and encourage me to cum as much as they want! Please reach out:)
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>>31308443
aftercare?
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>>31307451
>Age
24.7
>Sex
F
>Why?
EXTREME shyness, einzelganger, I like being alone most of my time, don't leave the house. Recently have been trying somewhat to lose it, shouldn't be hard as someone from my species but it's still scary of course genuinely meeting up.


>>31307980
What country are you from? Tantan is a good app of you are into asians and it's guaranteed matches. On tinder in cities the male female ratio is 1 active female (including bots, escorts, paywhores) for every 5 active males. Other dating apps/websites this ratio is even higher. Think 1 female for every 20 males.
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>>31308603
>Regardless, you just need to throw yourself in the moment and try not to put anything thought into it. If you struggle to do that, you might have to consider if this is someone you really want to ask out to begin with. I will be rooting for you either way, as I can easily see myself in a position like this. Good luck!

Thanks.

>maybe find out a time you can find her alone, like during a break or before/after work.

not easy. I tried monitoring activity of pcs, she is hot alone in that department.

>Also, though I never tried myself, I heard a bit of alcohol can be good to just ease nerves

I'd prefer a more pharmaceutical thing, if I decided to rely on them.
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>>31307789
>Breaks her holy seal with a piece of Chinese rubber
woman moment.
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>>31307789
Good LARP.
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>>31308428
i realize experience is what's needed but i have a hard time meeting new people, i'm really shy and mostly keep to myself.
for example i went out with a group of friends a few days ago and i enjoyed it but i have a hard time following up and perhaps letting them know that i'd like to do this again. wat do?
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>>31307451
19
M
I was pursued a lot by quite a few women, older and younger in my teenage years but I didnt really get the social ques so nothing came out of those. once I started to become far more depressive and reclusive, not looking after myself and such. practically all female interaction stopped and its been like that for a couple years now. I get lonely every so often but I dont care enough to do anything about it. I know that if I started to take care of myself and my appearance again and I started going out, I would have no issue but I just simply dont care. yes I am young.
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>>31307451
18
M
I’ve had a few girls pursue me. I’m 6’3, got big hands, am skinny and kinda femboy-y. The problem is that they were all skinny. I’ve only ever felt attraction to fat girls. I just haven’t met any yet. I want a fat weeb gf, so I need to go to a con soon.
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>>31309988
Also I’m kinda autistic but apparently the type which some people find ‘cute’
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21
M
i think its due to 3 factors: compsci has 0 women, my class in high school was all male, i didnt go to parties/clubbing etc. due to strict parents and no money
i havent really talked to a woman for the last 6 years of my life and i think its going to stay that way for a while (probably until i decide to give dating apps a go)
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>>31307451
>Age
36
>Sex
M
>Why?
Ugly as fuck, introverted, low self esteem, never had any friends
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>Age
29
>Sex
M
>Why?
Ugly and introvert, I'm a relationship virgin. Never had a girlfriend, but I lost my virginity at 24 to an escort. She was my first kiss too. I'm a coomer too, and I masturbate 10-11 times per day watching prostitutes ads
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>>31309169
Canada. I actually made an account on tantan last week. Got three matches all of whom never responded.
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Join here for likeminded incels and schizos
https://discord.gg/Rb6p8k72
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>>31307451
20m
no confidence, justified until recently, now likely one of the biggest remaining flaws
gotta train myself to ignore the doubts and it'll work out

To make this thread more than wallowing in pity:
If the limiting factor is meeting women:
>uni?
for me, no women
>parties? clubs?
only ever met thots and crazy bitches. bad sample size?
>sports
have been great. regular group classes, like a sailing course. filters whores, selects for beautiful and interesting people
other ideas?

>>31307548
what ideology?

>>31308087
it was a date. or, at least, you're better off thinking it was a date
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>Age
27
>Sex
M
>Why?
Standards way too high for being average looking male with nothing going for me in life. Have been called hot and had a fair amount of girls make it clear they want to have sex over my life but I have very low self esteem and severe anxiety that makes it difficult to believe they're actually into me and I freeze up in person and brain and body stop working. Also generally enjoy the chase of relationships and often lose interest and ghost people after they make it clear they like me, feels like I won at that point ig to my brain. Would like to find someone to help me work through these issues one day, if you're in the US and for some reason interested lmk and I'll post my discord.
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>Age
Mid 20's.
>Sex
M
>Why?
Throughout school to college I was a shy social recluse that never understood how friendships and relationships worked, and neither could find anyone to make a meaningful connection with.

Since I left college I have picked up more social skills and confidence with time but sadly I the only women I've interacted with are old or married.

I have nowhere to socialize with people my age, I dislike bars and nightclubs because they're uncomfortable places for me, and women there are shallow and only looking for other loud extroverts like they are. I don't get matches on dating apps, and nobody has ever asked me out or invited me to hang out anywhere.

It doesn't help women where I live are mostly attracted to brute thugs and drug-dealer types, me being a sensitive, intelligent, highly-cultured man that doesn't fit any of the archetypes associated with masculinity, women become uncomfortable with my presence
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M
Can’t say
Related to reason above
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>>31307451
27
M
I literally don't know why. Women treat me like they would rather fucking die than have me talk to or approach them if they don't know someone else I know prior or if I don't have my dog with me
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32
M
Was super shy in my younger years. Then went through a long phase where I wanted to save it for a potential future wife, and expected the same from that person.
Past year or two I've realized that women rarely care about whether their partner is a virgin or not, and that I was probably just shooting myself in the foot.
Lately there was a girl that was interested in me and had explicitly offered sex, but it's hard to drop the old ideology.
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20
M

A combination of social anxiety and autism. If a girl has ever liked me that much, I've never picked up on it, even in hindsight. Im stuck in a catch-22 where Im not going out and meeting people because I don't have friends, but the only way to make friends is to go out and meet people.
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31
m
ugly and dicklet
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>>31307451
>Age
21
>Sex
M
>Why?
Bad social anxiety and over think a lot what I say
Plus I was a fat kid and and the fat didnt go around my arms etc and just to my stomach
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>>31307451
26
M
Autistic, ptsd, internalized homophobia.
>>
join here for a ton of stinky virgins

https://discord.gg/PmbchDt3
https://discord.gg/PmbchDt3
https://discord.gg/PmbchDt3
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Hello! 20M here looking for a long term fap buddy! I have an addiction to big juicy slutty woman booties! I also have a tiny cock so I’m looking for a male with a massive cock that’s bigger than mine (4 inches) to mentor me in the ways of big booty porn and encourage me to cum as much as they want! Please reach out:)
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27
Male
Hideously ugly, fat, tiny penis I am insecure about. Never really had any friends growing up I always just kind of tagged along with my brothers group of friends
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>>31313866
To add onto this

Never really had any women friends, no sisters, never really been around women my own age so when I am I sperg out and make a fool of myself.
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>>31308792
Same desu and also M/WA. Maybe they put something in the water here.
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>31
>M
>Why?
I haven't met anyone that I've really wanted to have sex with and been in physical proximity around.
I've never really had a strong enough bond with a woman for it to seek like a good move.
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>>31309169
what country are you from? i've never heard of that app, looked it up and it seems like it's mostly for asian people in asian countries, or are white men with a thing for asians also popular on there?
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>>31307801
Based
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Hey! 19 M BI and Virgin.
Want to learn more about sex and masturbation.

Add me on Wickr:
hey19mbihere
>>
lots of virgins around here

https://discord.gg/PmbchDt3
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23
Male
Asocial (maybe avoidant) personality and not being where a man my age should be. Never had any intimate moments whatsoever despite seemingly getting along okay with the opposite sex, especially back when my life path (before I essentially derailed it) required me to be at least somewhat sociable. Now there is no motivation left to catch up.
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I swear I posts in here before but I don’t see it
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>>31307451
23
M
Premarital sex is a sin
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Hey! 19 M BI and Virgin.
Want to learn more about sex and masturbation.

Add me on Wickr:
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>>31307451
IRA#6139
Female
Hmu :DD
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>>31307451
23, turn 24 in a little over a month
M
Helicopter mother after I was an adult, only want to lose my virginity to someone I can see my self in a long term relationship. Have turned down dates I couldnt see my self with her for long term.
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23
Male
I am like 2 inches hard and once jizzed my pants when girl hugged me too tight
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>>31307451
30/M/Florida.

Wasn't really a priority to me as a teen and young adult. Never really had a social group either, being homeschooled up to college.

After college, I was focused on getting myself to the stability level for buying a house, but had some health issues that put me out of work for a year and fucked that up. Then covid hit, and this bullshit.

I'm sure I could lose it if I, like, went out to bars or something. I'm 6'3" and blond, ffs. But what's the point of that?
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>>31307451
21
M
Unironic assburgers
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>>31307451
20
Girl
Overweight



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