I'm autistic, with ADHD. I can't focus on trying to get better at all or even come up with anything to draw without just giving up and going back to looking at my phone and doing something else.I've legitimately never been able to commit myself to any serious hobby and have gotten lazy over the years with my only actual one which is writing and the only reason I'm good at writing is because I wanted people to be able to understand what the fuck I was saying and I wanted to write good stories because I thought I'd never be able to make them in a visual medium, but that's it. I've never been able to commit to a serious routine, schedule, or anything. I just sit in my room online doing basically nothing.Everything I try doing looks so daunting and impossible. I tried learning Source Filmmaker as a teen and I gave up immediately because it looked too complicated. I tried learning how to make my own games in game maker, gave up immediately and never touched it. Even something like drawing just looks so complex and impossible. This is what it's like for everything I try doing. I don't know what to do anymore.
>>31269607Draw every day. Even if it's just a couple of doodles or something fully rendered.Challenge yourself and draw/do/test something different each time you draw.Use many references. Do studies on objects you struggle with.Actually take criticism and learn from it. DO NOT put yourself in a hugbox full of dick-suckers.Look at other people's art and yoink small things you like about it. Like how someone draws eyelashes? Steal it. Like how another artist draws jackets? Yoink that shit.And even if you do all of this, your art will still look like shit a year later. It won't be acceptable until you do everything above for ~2-3 years. That's just how it is.
>all these newfagsToday I will remind themOP has had many people offer help. OP refuses to consider any advice. OP does not actually want to change. DO NOT ENGAGE. Reposts in March 2024:How do I get a hobby? (24 Mar)https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30954073/how do I get a hobby (24 Mar)https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30950579/Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>31273066>>31273088Yep, all the “earnest” replies are him samefagging btw
>>31269872It’s actually been a year AnonHe’s been at it since last summerI suggest roping desu
>>31269607Are you the fucker that was posting this shit a ton last time. I remeber seeing some faggot spamming about mEh CAnT DO AnYTHinG for awhile and it related to drawing. I will give you benefit of doubt but to simplify.JUST DO IT. Have a schudle and do nothing unless you complete it. Lock yourself in your room, no vidya, no nothing, until you draw for 10 minutes. After a week do 20, then 30, if you want to make it your going have to figure it out body. Millions of youtube videos and shit to coonsum on the topic. Just look up those and figure it out. If you can't do it after that NGMI or get a therapist.
Information>5'3 (male, dont laugh), 18>Gym for around a year a half>Interested in reading books recently>slightly better haircut>skincare (inconsistent)What now? What else should I look into to become a more fulfilled person? Height seems to be a big issue for me, but I also think my personality needs work but I just don't know how to improve any of that.
>>31274780>5'3u can seriously try becoming a modern version of a court jester with that height. Lol
>>31275136you mean a white house comedian? wtf is the modern version of a court jester?
>>31275158internet lol cow, stand up comedy, comedian in tv series that everyone pokes fun at, etc..
>>31275163non of these have anything to do with courts.
>>31274780Are you an interesting, fun guy? Would a woman enjoy your company even standing up with your clothes on? THAT is the best route to lying down with them off.
All the good looking women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking (7 and above) women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to
So quit your job and go to university and snag them just like you describe you retardThere's literally nothing stopping you from doing it except for time to save up. Universities will always exist and with them a way to take one of the women You just need to quit your job and come back to schoolNothing in your post indicates that you cannot get a great wife or mother to your kids. >>31270621none of these videos have any info of ever talking to a woman or ever being around one in same roomevery incel follows all the advice in these videos 24/7 and none of this shit mattersonly school setting can ever help anyone
>>31270612This gayass board is just the same 12 or so schizoids spamming nonsense at each other in a circle. Hiroshimoot should just put /adv/ out of its misery at this point
>>31275159Not true. The best places to meet people are through family, friends, work, bars/restaurants/parks, and online. School is the WORST
>>31275279Not true your drawing is entirely fictional and you've cried 100s of times because of it alreadythere's literally no data at all that suggests any part of this drawing is real you might as well have made a graph saying dragons are responsible for majority of deaths with 2nd most likely cause being asteroid strikesits made up drawing work fires you, people who are at work dont want to go out with customers, in bars/restaurants/parks every woman is just sitting with her boyfriend/inside meat cube unable to communicate, and they dont at all use dating apps to ever meet anyone, men outnumber women 1 000 000 to 1 on every appthere's literally no way to ever speak to a woman outside of school for people who dont already have someone
>>31275384>Schooler on suicide watch.>Again.Your real problem, Schooler, is that you are literally retarded. Your IQ is no more than 80.
Getting anxiety recently I feel like no one respects me around me except a few people. There is this one guy who constantly nags me online and makes fun of me or tries to bring me down he is extremly manipulative and talks shit behind everyones back then he plays nice with them basically he turns people against each other. So yeah i feel anxious and its hard to be alone as well, like people suck the energy out of me as well.
>>31275289https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kbb_0qNdjjohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H07Rs3H0-PMhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udkS-FVLUbk
>>31275289Ignore him, ghost him and warn others against him
I’m a 28 year old firefighter. My gf is 26, she’s a nurse. We’ve had some issues prior because my libido is higher. Ultimately I decided to just stop whining and jerk off before bed or run more. Thing is, now I’m starting to have episodes where I’m restless in bed and it’s waking her up. Originally she said she didn’t want to fuck me beacuse she didn’t want to feel like “an object or tool for you to use when you’re stressed or need to rest”. Now, she’s saying she’d rather fuck me than have me keep her up. I’m autistic so this kinda doesn’t make sense to me, why was it bad for me to ask when I needed a shag to sleep but now it’s fine when she’s loosing sleep over it? I don’t know bros. I’m used to staying up so I’m not really bothered. Been overall just doing my thing. Anyway, some solutions I figured are sleeping on the floor or zapping my libido with an SSRI. Any other actionable solutions? Don’t suggest divorce or whatever, too expensive. Thanks
>>31267866youre getting cucked
>>31267866>My gf is a nursemy condolences
>>31269441Sorry, I don't take advice from someone who doesn't know the difference between your and you're
>>31272382You were only jealous because you can’t let yourself be vulnerable like that with anyone and it makes you irrationally upset.I think a relationship should be mutually tender and caring. >>31270829This is sweet and cute, this is precious and ideal and is a moment of this man showing care and women become more high pitched when experiencing attraction. There’s a silliness that expresses wonder and joy at such a simple action of care.The idea of needing to be hyper-serious and overly mature for adults is retarded. Being playful and silly and indulging in mutual care is sweet. Look at any old couple that enjoys being together after 50 years, they have great senses of humor and vulnerability between one another and do silly things that last a lifetime.>>31269205Most stable answer in the room. She’s probably feeling ashamed she can’t provide you with what you need due to her emotional insecurity. She may feel unsafe to be vulnerable with you. The repeated inability she felt to have sex and your responses lead me to believe you were very strong with your requests. That’s why she said she doesn’t want to just be an object for your desires.Take her out for an adventure she’s never done, but has always wanted to do. Look at her interests and hobbies and actively seek out her as a person. Don’t expect sex during this time. She will want to have sex with you, naturally, when you treat her like a person more than just your wife.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>31274423>The idea of needing to be hyper-serious and overly mature for adults is retarded. Being playful and silly and indulging in mutual care is sweet. Look at any old couple that enjoys being together after 50 years, they have great senses of humor and vulnerability between one another and do silly things that last a lifetime.i wasn't complaining i like being silly/goofy with her we have fun batnz. and it's really cute when she gets all high pitched. we had a fight and i didn't see her this weekend and i missed her a lot.
Living in a walkup in Tribeca and ive had the exterminators in twice. It's a shitty student size pad just for while I finish my degree. The roaches just keep coming back in small numbers no matter what. Most of the people in the building have them too and have stopped giving a fuck. This filmschool jackass was just like "welcome to NY" when I expressed how stressed I was about roach infestations. Should I just resign myself to the fact that they're living in my walls? I try to keep the place as tidy as possible but I still get them maybe twice a week. I'm basically the guy in Joes apartment for real.
5/7 places I've lived in NYC had some combination of roaches, mice, or bed bugs. landlords are obligated to make an attempt to get rid of them, like getting pest control come by once each year. but that's usually not enough because the buildings are so close together, you get re-infestation pretty quickly. the best you can do is set roach traps everywhere. there are some poison treatment that they'll eat and take back to the nest causing the others to die as well. do try to get the landlord to bring in pest control if they're not already doing so>"welcome to NY"sadly this is how it goes
>>31275015You're never going to get rid of them because while you are apartment may be clean other places nearby aren't.
>>31275015If your neighbors have them, you have them. Always. The best you can do is caulk all cracks and crevices in your home, keep it clean and food packed away, and use bait traps like roach motels and the gel to keep them in check. You could consult your local laws regarding tenancy and contact a local tenant advocate board if they're legally required to address those kinds of pests, but most municipalities only regulate actually dangerous pests, where roaches and even bed bugs just don't qualify. Slumlords gonna slum. They know you don't have better options, so they don't care.
>>31275015>Most of the people in the building have them too and have stopped giving a fuck.they're bugmen
>>31275015Manhattan has roaches. That's life. Trump Tower has roaches. You can keep killing gthem, but they are no respecters of doorways, and if they're anywhere in the building, they'll quickly be everywhere in the building.Enjoy living in Tribeca instead of some midwest state college dorm, an accept what goes with it.
Git gud nigger
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19M, I've been on 4chan for around a year browsing this board +/pol, /biz, /fit I have become completely addicted to this website, I browse this website for hours and constantly keep multiple threads open to later read. Aside from my 4chan addiction I do these things> Procrastinate> Addicted to junk food/eating out ever since I got this new job at work I tend to eat at plaza down the street ( sonic or five guys) yes I know horrible choices, but even then when I'm not at work I get the urge to get up and drive down to sonic to buy food, I have the urge right now ffs> Waste too much on my phone ex. listening to music, podcast, Instagram, youtube I know It sounds retarded but I just keep on doing it. So far I've deleted all my social media apps except for youtube > Also major porn addiction for 6+ years nowHow do I fix myself? What drastic measures should I take? ( No meds or therapy bs plz)Days and weeks go by and I don't accomplish any of my goals ( gym, guitar, studying)I want to cultivate self discipline I want to get rid of these shit habits and stop being a lazy fuck
>>31273123>No meds or therapy bs plz)Sorry bud but it ain't gonna work without that. If you don't want meds try taking supplements like magnesium, zinc vitamin b, complex, vitamin c, lithium orotate etc, they all aid in the formation of neurotransmitters and can potentially fix underlying neurotransmitters deficiencies you might have.Trust me I tried it a thousand times to implement 'drastic measures' but it doesn't work if you have adhd.
>>31275131Fuck I was trying to avoid using meds, Im planning on enlisting soon and I’m pretty sure those will disqualify me. Any way to get those meds illegally?
>>31275330You can get anything you want illegally, in the darknet. But I'm not too familiar maybe download tor browser and look on hidden wiki, stores should be enlisted there. But you will need bitcoin for that. It's all a whole procedure. Maybe ask a friend if he can go larp to a doctor who prescribes him Adderall and or Ritalin try both of them as they can have different effects. But first try vitamins, zinc magnesium, b complex etc. and see how far you get with that. Enlisted in the military? Try calling them anonymily and ask about the adhd thing to make sure.
You can still do all those things, your problem is you prioritize that over the shit you have to get done. Create a reward system like in a video game, complete task a to get reward b.
Spend the next 5 years locked in and learning and leave the rest to God, the rest, everything. Career, future, family, your entire body, your entire thoughts, your entire feeling because you could be feeling anything else. Not enough guys yet who are open about avoiding online negativity so get ready if the responsibility falls to you. Seriously, horrible spirits are wanting to know everything that you do, checking up on you and yum yum instant energy drain.When they said "Give your life to Jesus Christ", this is what it actually means.
How do I tell my fiancee to give me some time alone in a way that she will actually respect? She's hovering around me 24/7, which while initally cute, is starting to drain me. I can't have 30 minutes to myself without her coming up to me and demanding cuddles or interaction, or just loudly telling me stuff. When I try to game, she'll say she'll leave me alone, and then sit on the couch next to me and read out pinterest shit to me. When I say I want some me-time and take a bath she'll walk in after ten minutes asking if I need anything. When I put on headphones and try to read while she cooks something she'll burn herself on the stove (Or pretend to) so I'm emotionally invested and have to run over. Today I wanted to play some vidya, and the instant the menu booted up she loudly yelled for me from the bedroom to help her make the bed (Something that we take turns in and is a fucking one-person job). I even called her out on it now, but she just said "Okay, I'll give you some space" and then went on to sulk and be pissy until I cuddled her and told her it's okay, she then told me "I just don't know what to do, it feels like you're not letting me in". Which would be valid if I emotionally shut her out, but I don't, I just want to have 30-60 minutes to myself without interruption or her trying to show me shit or talking to me.
>>31274181haha your post is honestly might as well be bait. Imagine #1 actually having a girlfriend on /adv/ aside from that complain about the most stupid mundane teenager bullshit that you don't know how to talk to her about it like its some crazy social problem? You're a fucking pathetic shell of a man if this is a problem you can't just simply figure out yourself by maybe thinking 1 second longer or having a functional girlfriend.10/10 bait or you're every incels worst nightmare. either way kill yourself immediately
>>31275211I literally stated in the OP how I have talked to her about it, and was met with passive aggressive sulking and continued interrptions. Instead of outright talking to me all the time she will now agree to let me be for a bit and then within 5 minutes loudly "hurt" herself by walking into something, read out shit from her phone for me or loudly start a videocall with her friends while I'm in the room.
>>31275257My best advice is honestly fuck her senseless or something you need to put the fear of god in her because clearly whatever she is doing to you is a cry for help or she is not satisfied in her life or in you. You need to nip this shit in the BUD or i can guarantee you will not stay long in this relationship.
>>31275257Bro your relationship sounds terrible what an ignorant and rude girl. I would have believed if you said 24 months but not 24 years old. Total crybaby. People like that need to feel the immanent dread on their skin she won't learn by just talking. She is used to getting pampered.
>>31275322>How do I get this person to respect my boundaries >SEX SEX JUST FUG HER XDDDD I really am talking to fucking teenagers here
>31M>Took all your advice, got a haircu fitting my face and head, grew a beard that I take care of>Started working out and going out>Have my own hobbies, like fishing, light sports, cars>Went to a shrink and therapist>Still no gfStill, women online lose interest/find better options after talking to me, even if we go out together, it leads nowhere after one date.Even if we get to cuddling while watching netflix, I still can't get sex, even if I openly say I want it, etc.Literally NO HOPE FOR ME, women probably smell my autism, it's repulsive to them, it dries them up completely.I bet the next advice would be>Work on your personalityBecause normies will NEVER admit it's over for men like me. So here's my advice, fellow incels: DON'T TRY.If you have to try, it's over.
>>31275334https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/31186498/#31186520
>>31275368>zoomers lmaoWhich part of >31M didn't you get? Also what other option really do I have... To try and talk to a girl IRL is impossible.First, because they don't go out, Everywhere I go, I only see couples, families with kids, old people and lonely men on their own.They also don't go out to meet men like me, they go out to meet with their groups of friends and do stuff with them. At least where I live.If I would be approaching women asking them if they want to be my gf, I would get obliterated, make everyone feel cringy and achieve nothing.Women ONLY find boyfriends online nowadays. If you can't succeed there, you can't do it anywhere, 2/3 of 18-29 single men is telling.IF, IIIIIIF! a woman would be giving me major signals while I was doing WHATEVER, then yes, sure, it may work. But I never go that.
>>31275417>>31275368Also, to add to that, I will say that women give me no SOIs, on the contrary. They look away when I try to make eye contact with them IRL, they go around me, if I say HI to them, they speed up, etc.
>women online lose interest/find better options after talking to meIm backtracking, you claim to have done well until reaching this point and it may be good to look into this.
>>31275469WDYM? Okay I can look int othis: My autism and looks are enough to be of low value. EOT.
I have a crush on my gfs older Chinese aunt.She's married to another Asian man, and he's absent from most of her days as they sorta of live separately. They have no kids.Anyway, I met her for the first time last weekend on Mother's day when we were dropping off a gift for her. She looked directly to me and asked if we wanted to have a visit inside. Her husband wasn't home.That evening, she texted my gf telling her to tell me thank you for the visit. Maybe she feels it too.How do I approach this without ruining everyone's lives? I think about her every day, and have been losing hours of sleep from this the past 3 days alone. Do older, mature Chinese women like to be romantically charmed? What are some plausible deniability type of excuses for me to see her again. I only have her address, no number.
>>31273808>How do I approach this without ruining everyone's lives?By not approaching it at all for a start. You may as well have asked>How do I approach this landmine without blowing my legs off?By not approaching it to begin with ffs
>>31274552good analogy
>>31273915>>31274552it's a shame you, my moral advisors, are recommending this course of inaction. I know her and I could have so much fun together. And I thought it would've given her horny shivers every time she thought about going forward, especially cus she probably wont be around in 20-30 years.
You're not a main character and your life isn't an episode of School Days.Realistically the only way this might work would be if the aunt knew for a fact you wanted to fuck her. Then, maybe if she has a bad fight with her husband, she might consider a hookup.
Motherfucker you already have a GF, save some pussy for us
Is it weird that as a 32 year old virgin I still expect my first girlfriend to be in her mid 20s at least? I don't want a past her prime traumatized used up woman with baggage.
>>31274796Not at all. I'm a mate selection realist. Unfortunately feelings get hurt when men and women are coldly honest about what we prefer.
>>31274092Then you are not gonna make it.
>>31273187Expectations are fine but what are you doing to get these 20s girls anon? 30 and 20 pairings are not uncommon and being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of but they ain’t gonna drop in your lap.
I've known guys in their 30s that get young virgins but they were all normalfags that lost their virginity at 14.
>>31273187It's not weird and perfectly reasonable.
>36 years old>own home(mortgage,cheap)>no gf,wife,kids or friends>depression and anxiety problems, mostly the anxiety>feel really stuckWhat do I do?
>>31275249https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SuZ_f4oANGEhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OWTtGsk4wIhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I1AjuygSNoshttps://www.girlschase.com/content/ultimate-guide-beating-depressionhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYp_hBqPbuAhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERap8i3qpCwhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7ghrUIiyzMhttps://www.girlschase.com/content/how-make-friends-master-key-new-friendshipshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r3bo2upDMCghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNdOFnDVPs0https://www.girlschase.com/how-to-get-a-girlfriendhttp://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/
One of the reasons I am always unlucky with women is because I am usually attracted to girls out of my league (and therefore is not attracted to me). This causes me to ignore women I am not typically attracted to. I'm not a "chad" or anything, I'm a 4/10 lookswise but me being 6 feet and not overweight probably makes me around a 5/10. I feel like such a jackass because of this. How do I lower my standards to accept other average looking people?
>>31270617OP here and I don’t know. Don’t think anyone has ever found ne attractive and no one has ever flirted with me. Women talking to me doesn’t really indicate anything though. I don’t have any women friends, however.
I agree with >>31269086 please go touch grass before it's too late. You have terminal porn brain.
>>31267962You are gay and fear not being able to perform sexually, so you never date women with the real goal to have sex. So you rationalize your homosexuality with this "high standard" mumbo jumbo.
>>31273945You’re right. I haven’t watched in a couple days but its definitely a contributor. I watch because I hate myself and I’m extremely lonely so the dopamine helps.>>31274011Holy projection
>>31269086I am so proud of you. This is not patronizing, I am genuinely proud of you and I want you to live an amazing life.
25M, gf is 24F. We are heavily leaning towards choosing a DINK/childfree life. Has anybody else chosen this? Is it really worth it? Pros and cons? We don't have any older childfree people in our family to ask. Overall it really seems like the right choice for us and the type of life that we are planning to live.
>>31275200what the fuck are you talking about you fucking retard? dink what? 25 year olds planning their lives, FML RETARDS
>>31275200you are a retard. Assuming you still have the same gf in ten years (you wont) if she's still childless at 34 she will be unbearably miserable. Not having kids is a mistake. Repent to Jesus, get married, start a family.t. 30 something childless miserable dude
So when you realize all and every life endeavor is vanity and void and when the infinite meaningless of death approaches, you'll buy a dog?tl:dr oldfag
>>31275200She will dump you.It's evolutionary, human pair bond diminishes if there are no kids after a few years.It's the same as choosing to stay water free or pooping free. The consequences just take longer to develop.Why would you even want this anon?Getting married if you don't have kids is retarded. You will be working your ass off for her leisure instead of your kids future.>inb4 she has a fake dei/government job and earns moreShe will dump you for this too.
