>Be me>Average 23 year old guy>swiping through tinder>cousin's profile comes up>autism and shitty touchscreen combine to swipe up>I have just super liked my cousin who has tinder gold.>can't rewind>I also regularly see herAnons, how do I unfuck this? (No, I will not fuck my cousin, this isn't Alabama)
Just laugh it off? It shocked you when you saw her because you didn’t expect it? Bait thread, kill yourself.
What sports leagues tend to be good for making friends? I'm late 20s, moved to a city for work, and have 0 friends. I'm supposed to live nearby but the job is otherwise almost fully remote, so I won't talk to a single person in months if I don't want to.
how do i strengthen my "mind's eye"? i don't have aphantasia but when i picture things it's always vague, apparently some people can picture it so precise that it's like they're seeing it?is there a way i can improve the vividity of my mental pictures? also i have the same thing for music, can i improve that playback too?
>>31273784OP, elaborating on this matter of uses other senses than the visual:1. The things you want to visualize often have: touch, sound, smell, and your limbs have proprioception.2. In addition, each sense has gradations that you can narrate and notice, such as differing textures, shades, tints, and, in the case of music, "feeling" and emotional.Work all of that into your visualizations. Practice mindfulness of your surroundings irl and then replay it shortly after in your imagination.
>>31273792>But that doesn't make the visual part of the "visualization" stronger. That's just imagining using my other senses.It makes the visualization stronger. The mind works by hooking one thing to another, and you prevent the image of imaginary objects slipping away by connecting them with multiple modalities.
>>31273832But it doesn't work. The imaginary concept of the object stays because all my other mind senses work alright but the visual doesn't improve. I'm in my 30s I've been trying for a LONG time.
>>31273817okay thanks
>>31273323practice at instantly manifesting a vimana
The work is difficult to understand, boring as fuck, and everyone is a normie. They're it least friendly and I can work from home but I'm bored to tears. I started about 2 months ago and I feel like the amount of information I have to learn just keeps on coming at me.I'm more interested in tech and IT work but I took my parents advice and majored in Finance despite hating it. What should I do? study and get CompTIA certs so I can move into tech?
am i a good candidate for ftm transition?>naturally larger adam's apple>5'11>long midface>big jaw>androgynous faceBUT>big hips>B cups>big foid ass>curly hair >fuller lips >20 (didn't transitioned in teen years which automatically sucks)What do you think, anons? Is it over?
>>31275835>wants to be masculine>born with the most masculine traits a woman can get>still finds a way to bitch and moan about it
>>31275844>have gender dysphoria >don't want to be a woman, even most masculine one becuse it's a fucking woman at the end of the day Shock
>>31275854You will never be happyWhy did you even come here if you're already set on trooning out? And why exactly don't you want to be female? What does it matter? You're attracted to men, the only reason I wouldn't want to be a woman is because I couldn't have kids with another woman.
>>31275884>You will never be happy(He thinks I don't know this)>Why did you even come here if you're already set on trooning out? I just want people to tell me am I too much old for transition. That was my original question but all I got was maybe three ok responses, everything else is just "why why why why" and they completely ignored my og question. Faggots.>And why exactly don't you want to be female? What does it matter? Do you want me to explain in socially thing or in biology thing? Becuse on both sides I don't want to be woman. >You're attracted to menWhere did you get that information? Im bisexual.>the only reason I wouldn't want to be a woman is because I couldn't have kids with another womanYet another coping tranny I see. Fucking KEK. Many such cases.
>>31275925>I just want people to tell me what I want to hearThen why are you seeking advice?>Do you want me to explain in socially thing or in biology thing?Yes>Im bisexualWhich means you like men>Yet another coping tranny I seeI didn't say I want to be a woman, I'm saying I would be okay being a woman
I got married to a guy I met online last year and he’s wonderful but autistic and offers 0 emotional supportI swore off of women to try the straight and narrow. I have lost all my friends and am living in a new place where I have no friends or family locally, I am 100% alone outside of himWe recently conceived and realized we weren’t ready, but I miscarried at 7 weeks. I’m out of tears to cry and can’t process anymoreI thought I was lesbian before we met, he knew this marrying me. I gave full disclosure. im feeling like im still a lesbian after the dust has settled. I miss pussy so much. I’m stuck between getting it on the side and staying in the marriage or admitting this to him and letting him rule me with an iron fist. I value my autonomy but I do not trust myself to not chase after women on the side so I stay sane. I feel so alone and I miss women. I’ve told him I need communication and he gives me nothing, I try to start dialogue, but after the miscarriage I’ve been so depressed and suicidal that I give up. I’m done trying for nowHe’s wanted me to sleep with other men but I can only stomach him in terms of sex with men. But I am struggling to want to have male sex at all due to the miscarriage. He gets nothing from watching me sleep with women but they’re all im attracted to. Is it really that bad to have lesbian affairs? Plz help. Before anyone suggests, yes I am in therapy doing IFS + EMDR and im on psych meds for my slew of issues. I’ve been put on more meds bc of how severe my depression has gotten after losing the baby. No I do not have bpd
>>31275733I think I’ll do this, actually. I rented a cabin in the woods years ago to get over agoraphobia and ego death myself into being normal (I brought psychedelics and tripped for a while, until my brain unfucked itself). It did wonders for me and I attribute it to any current success I have. I think the communicative thing with my husband is a shame too, because it’s always been my strength. I’m a good communicator and can get even the worst communicators to work with me. My efforts have been unsuccessful here though. The cabin-book thing is going on my to do list, although I think it’ll take more than a month and I can really only get a month off from work at a time. I don’t need to work, but I own my business and love my job
>>31275228I’ve thought about firing my current therapist. She’s great, but only IFS is working with her. Might seek out someone else for EMDR and just request having IFS-only sessions
>>31273284>He’s wanted me to sleep with other men but I can only stomach him in terms of sex with menLol what a wreck. >>31273424>He’s told me it’s not a cuck thing but a hot wife swinger thing?It’s a cuck fetish.>He won’t do oral because autism and grossed out by female anatomyIt only gets worse lmao. Is this bait?
>>31276136Not bait, all legit, I just found myself in a shitty situation because I wanted to give my children a normal white picket fence upbringing
>>31276109There's nothing wrong with having multiple specialists in psychology. Some therapists are just better at some things than other things. Your main issue is this is clearly some kind of trauma response regarding the miscarriage and other issues in your life, yet you still continue to look at these "issues" as ego-syntonic and try to solve them as if they were a math problem or something. Rather than trying to make the pain go away by seeking practical solutions, make the pain go away by addressing the trauma and allowing the accompanying emotions to pass.
I am trying to cut back on the porn usage? I actually do very well I think. I don't use porn during the week anymore. I cut the masturbating down from like 2-3 times a day down to two times a week(usually on the weekend). Is this a healthy amount to keep it at? The main reason I even use it because I experience this extreme moments of loneliness and boredom and looking at porn makes me feel like a woman is right there. Horrible reason to use porn in my opinion but that is what it feels like. So normally on the weekends I use it now. Although far less than I use to. I am really envious of women not having to struggle like this with this kind of stuff. As a dude, it feels like I am powerless to not want to jack off to porn. Like it almost feels like masturbation is inherently unhealthy. It seems like women are told to masturbate all they want. Shove cucumbers up their snatches or whatever. While dudes are now told "Don't touch your dick or you will jack out your energy." and what not. I just want to be healthy.
>loneliness and boredomthose are two symptoms that you fap too much, whether with porn or out (although porn makes it worse)Fapping is a dopamine fryer. Your dopamine receptors and how your brain rewards you are tied to your habits.If you have a habit like>Fapping too much>eating a lot of sweets>doing too many drugsthen not only do your dopamine receptors get fried and everything feels less pleasurable, your brain gets addicted to the habit and will stop rewarding you for other activities.Life starts to feel dull, you feel bored, you lose interest in things you used to enjoy, you feel lonely because your brain is craving oxytocin to counteract the low mood.The nofap guys are pseuds when it comes to claiming nofap gives you superpowers or whatever, but they're 100% right that fapping is addictive and leads to depression and feeling bored all the time.For me personally quitting fapping was one of the best decisions I've ever made. Life feels good again, I feel like my true self again.
>>31276226>The nofap guys are pseudsJokes aside. I understand what you mean. However, I have also heard the opposite is true. Quitting fapping 100 percent as in no fapping at all is equally as retarded as fapping all the time. Would you agree with that? ESPECIALLY if you don't have a wife or girlfriend. So me, a sexually inactive man, stopping fapping 100 percent seems too retard maxed. And again, women aren't told to stop masturbating. They do it all the time probably and no one bats an eye. No one tells them to stop shoving cucumbers up their twats otherwise they will numb them. Then when they do have sex with a man and they can't orgasm, its considered the mans fault.
>>31276260No I wouldn't agree.I've been on nofap since 2016 and I've tested all the different alternatives.Fapping occasionally, edging, injaculation, etc.The only method I endorse is pure celibacy. No porn, no fapping, no casual sex, no cooming whatsoever.I've tested this many times. I would do nofap for 1-3 months then fap to see how I would feel after.Every time I did this, whether with or without porn, I felt considerably worse mentally and physically for the next 3-5 days. It took on average a week or two to return back to how good I felt during the nofap streak.The fact you're even questioning quitting fapping is a sign you know you need to quit.Around your early-mid 20s the negative effects of fapping start to become more apparent, so that's likely what's happening to you. Fapping used to be a fun harmless activity. Now you're getting older and you're starting to notice the negative effects of being a coomer.
>>31276260also women shouldn't masturbate because it makes it harder for them to orgasm during real sex, loosens their vaginas, and it's sinful.But yes you are correct that they don't lose energy like men do from fapping. That's just a fact of life.Women gain energy from orgasm, men lose energy.It makes sense if you think about it. Men are the ones producing the only fluid known to create life. It takes a lot for your body to restore that fluid.
Is it better to stay indoors rather than "touch grass" and be reminded that you're a social outcast?
>>31276079>There's just not a damn thing I can do about it.No? You've said (repeatedly) that women don't like "guys like me" and that your personality is part of the problem.That last bit, right there, is something you can do something about.>inb4 but I can't change negative aspects of my personality because I just can't ok??
>>31276089You can't change your personality. The problem is that fuckers like you think life is some kind of video game where you can just respec your character. Your personality is the accumulation of your upbringing, your experiences, your environment, and yes there's even genetics involved. If you think all of that can be radically altered then you are delusional.
>>31276117Completely wrong, but cling to your copes if you must.What I don't get here though is that if your personality is that unchangeably bad then that means you DESERVE all your misfortune, so why are you even complaining about it?
>>31276230>you deserve misfortune for having a shit start in lifeOkay psycho.
>>31276281Except that's not what I said now is it?If you're that unlikable (and apparently proud of it), then yes, you deserve not to be liked.
At what point should I accept that I'm not good enough for a gf? I'm 31 now but I still can't make peace with the fact that I'll never experience a romantic relationship.
>>31275204if u're anywhere below 90th percentile in traits that women find attractive, u'll definetely have a very hard time finding a gf.
>>31275204Instead of pitying yourself and wallowing in your own misery do what you can to change things
>>31275204>I still can't make peace with the fact that I'll never experience a romantic relationship.You made a weird typo there. You obviously meant to write "with the decidion that I'll never...."It IS your decision.
>>31275260I have no idea how to fix being introverted, shy and quiet.>>31275866>It IS your decision.What do you mean? I never had a woman interested in me romantically.
>>31276270>I never had a woman interested in me romantically.how do you know that?
All my life my values have been a little different from the average person, most social convention is constructed around what the majority of people want. I.e., They expect me to accommodate their values but not they, my own. I have to take the time and effort to perform introspection as to what they want but they never do the same for myself. The way they behave is so entitled, things I put up with on a daily basis will cause them to get pissy and act like they've suffered some injustice, I could never imagine being like that.Take for instance that I am a final year mechanical engineering student that has just finished his final exam. I had to work very hard and couldn’t contribute the time towards cleaning yet they can’t sympathise with that much. I did extra cleaning at the beginning of last semester to make up for this because I knew I wouldn’t be able to do as much later. I live with 4 other people, one man studying another engineering degree, and 3 other humanities who are all women. The guy is cool, but the women are constantly up my ass about not doing enough cleaning in the flat, leaving dishes by the sink, and being very condescending towards me as if I am incapable of looking after myself. Continued...
>>31270358Choose to live in society and you have to play your role in the society.Share a flat with others and you must do your part in its upkeep. If you don't want to, then live by yourself.(Meanwhile, in the time you took to write your post, you could have done the dishes and cleaned the bathroom.)
>>31274136>me being busy is their problem?You not doing your part of the cleaning is their problem.
Take out the trash, this isn't the street you grew up shitting on.
>>31274128>>31274153>>31274234>>31274152the point was that I am taking out their trash, not my own. You're just a bunch of entitles that think it's fair for me to clean up your mess. You're the one who wants me to clean up after you.
>>31274152I have explained this twice already, I have finished my degree so now I have time, before I did not. I am speaking past tense.
Is there any scientific or biological reason that I become aroused and protective of pregnant women? Also, is there any likelihood that pregnant women feel some sort of biological arousal when alone around me?>I'm not into pregnant women>I don't search for pregnant women porn and honestly, I find the bulbous torso a little off-putting>Like the idea of getting a woman pregnant, but the idea of taking care of a woman carrying a child sounds awful>However, whenever I'm alone with a pregnant woman, I feel physically aroused and protectiveLikewise>I am a large, muscular/chubby 6'4" man with a beard.>There have been times where I've been in the company of pregnant women that I kind of feel like they give me horny vibes>On a rare occasion in my life, I've had women look at me in that sort of way, and you can just sort of "tell".The whole reason I ask is that there have been times in my life where I've wondered if there's some biological subconscious part of our brain that wants that. But then also, A couple of days ago I was alone on an elevator with a pregnant woman, we exchanged pleasantries, "Hello, how are you? How's the weather..." But I realized she was staring at me in this aroused sort of way. After I saw her staring she got red in the face. As we were standing there I realized that my floor's button was no longer lit, so I leaned past her to press it and she audibly made this little excited gasp sound. Both of us then stood there awkwardly until we got off the elevator, but I realized that it gave me one of the hardest boners I've had in a long time...So I'm wondering, is this a natural compulsion for pregnant women/big burly fuckers? Sometimes in life, I wish we had a limited number of "Hold the phone" cards that allowed us to ask people what was going through their heads at a specific moment, without judgement.
>>31271349It's pretty obvious most people feel protective of pregnant women.If people would not feel that way, it's doomsday.Perhaps you are confused about being something sexual but it's just innate brain structures making you to protect the species.The same when you see young, broad hip, big boob women, ready to be impregnated. The impulse to creampie them is strong. Nobody planted that into you, you where born with it.
it’s hardwired into male brains. pregnant bitches are hot. pregnant hoes want to fuck. cream pie-ing a pregnant skank and smashing the baby’s soft cranium in is a lot of funthey can’t be about to pop, but medium preg
>>31273368Aye lad
>>31273368why i dont feel that way? i also dont like kids, am i free of the chains of this biological body?
bump
She basically had a shitfit telling me I need to wear more light-coloured clothes and hoodies lmao. She says I dress like i'm 50 instead of 23.It is true that I dress very basic - jeans/ joggers and a t-shirts/ sweaters mostly, but her idea of dressing well is wearing some shitty flashy clothing with big logos. She complimented a t-shirt I got from a friend that was basically just a plain white tee with massive writing saying "ADIDAS" across it and said I should get more like it. She also told me to get skinnier jeans. I wear regular straight fit jeans lol.If I was to dress better (smarter, not like a fucking 16 year old in rainbow-coloured Adidas hoodies) i'd feel uncomfortable because I don't like standing out.Should I listen to what she's saying or just continue doing what i'm doing?
>>31270927>And Make sure your jeans actually fit and are not baggy, dad jeans.That's what's in now though...?
>>31258953My life has gotten better since I stopped dressing like a depressed old man. Your mother's fashion advice sounds like not much of an upgrade. I stopped wearing tee shirts entirelt and now only wear collared shirts of different kinds. I look and feel more dressed than most people. My shoe game sucks because my feet are flat.
>>31271087>I look and feel more dressed than most peopleI wouldn't really want that though. I'd feel tryhard. I don't like standing out physically.>>31271087>my feet are flat.lmao same. Are there a certain kind of shoes you have to wear? I had to get orthotics at 18 but they don't really work anymore. Basically any pair of shoes I get are fucked after 2 weeks max.
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I am at a wall here. I've been working nothing but dead-end jobs that haven't led to any qualifications or certifications that are useful for me. Customer service, retail, security, food service and delivery, and I am at my wit's end with the bullshit these jobs bring. My area is poor, and lacks real opportunities. When I try to search for open positions, even outside of my area, I see that most jobs just want someone dropped into their lap knowing everything and being fully certified. Nobody is offering to train you, or help you get certified. Where the hell is the ground floor? It seems as though either you have to put up a ton of money and resources beforehand for a very basic wage, or be stuck in menial without a future. Where the fuck do people even begin? For instance, how do you get a CDL if you don't already own or have access to a commercial vehicle and pay for the training yourself? On top of that, I really don't have a clue what I'd like to do, or what would be worth doing. I'm not deluded to thinking that more money equals more better in every circumstance; what I value more is gaining skills, experience, certifications, and having a general upward direction. I'd like to become valuable, and I'm willing to put in the work to get there, but aside from maybe taking out debt, I have no idea where to begin or go. When nobody is offering the requisite training to even start, how am I supposed to break into an industry and make myself valuable?I'm also afraid that my mental and physical state are just shot at this point. After many years of dealing with bullshit, bad companies, bad customers, bad living circumstances, I'm jaded, lazy, weak. I don't want to be this way, I'd like to be a good, reliable, hard worker, and I have been, and I try to be, but it is hard to maintain faith in the benefit of that when the payoff thus far has been minimal. Any time I've stuck my neck out, gone above and beyond, it's only brought more bullshit. Anons, any advice?
>>31275438Choose one of the businesses you have experience in. Present yourself in the best possible light and apply for management jobs in similar companies. (For example, a couple of years behind a counter at McDonalds can be packaged in a way to apply for Assistant Manager at a Pizza Hut)And know this - job listings are wishlists, describing the dream candidate. If he doesn't show up, they will take the best among those who do. In practice, any job asking for 2 or 3 years experience will accept an impressive beginner.
>>31275438Schools, mostly. CDL, for example, there are training schools specifically for that, community colleges also offer stuff like that. My local cc has CDL courses for 4-5 grand, I think. They provide trucks and everything.
>>31275893But that of course brings the question of how you afford school. It's a shitty place to be anon and I'm right there with you.
>>31275832I always assumed management positions required at least management experience if not schooling, is that not the case? I have been overlooking management openings because I assume getting on with a new company with no experience would just be a flat rejection. I'm a bit nervous of being in charge of others, but that would be a path forward for me.
>>31275904Thanks for the input anon and yeah it's tough getting a break-in to anything worthwhile these days. I have considered trade school but it's like 10k, and I'm not only a little jealous hearing about others that just got a lucky position where they were trained to weld or something and got their certs for free.
How does one become confident and extroverted at times? I'm kind of introverted right now/shy but mainly resulting from social anxiety. How does one become a Chad?
>>31276121https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LWZIfYcZJohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JhevrI-1w8M
>>31276121Practice social interaction with girls and work on yourself.
How to deal with people constantly talking about you behind your back? How do you live knowing people are always trying to make you a victim?
>>31272512https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdq8HnW0DW8https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHOmS1B-em0
>>31272512Ignore them, they're petty and bored with their lives. They'll never really change even when they say they do.
>>31272512The Unpleasant TruthNobody even thinks about you behind your back.Everyone has their own lives and problems and no partricular interest in you.
>>31275960That's not true people talk ahit a out others
Trying to talk some shit?Discord.gg/feedLet's talk some shit, bitch.
