I'm a 19 year old female student pilot. Prior to this, I was a loser who spent all day indoors and never talked to anybody, never dated, or made lasting friends outside of 3 people I talk to on Discord because I've always been a "weird kid" and have always been bullied, leading to me becoming very introverted. The one guy I did ask out in middle school laughed in my face and he told his friends, which led to more bullying.I recently went to pilot school because I decided to bite the bullet and pursue my interest in becoming a commercial pilot, I was assigned this CFI (flight instructor) who's obviously older than me, I don't know how old specifically, but he did recently complete college and that's all I know.Of course, since I'm new, I get motion sick sometimes, on my first flight, the motion sickness was really terrible to the point where my CFI had to fly us both back to the airport while I tried to rest. Anyway, a little while later, when I left to go home, he texted me asking if I felt better. As loser as it sounds, that was the nicest thing anybody aside from my father has ever done for me in a very long time.My CFI is nice towards me, he's professional obviously, and I feel so stupid for developing a crush on him. I obviously don't let these feelings get in the way of my school and I focus on what needs to be done. I wish I could get to know him on a more personal level sometimes. He has a nice voice and looks attractive, meanwhile, I'm a short, somewhat stupid, overweight, ugly mf with an awful voice that makes me sound like a 15 year old boy.I know I have no chance with him, he's way out of my league and probably too old for me. Besides, I've already embarrassed myself in front of him. The one guy that's nice to me, and it's because he's paid to be nice, I wish I wasn't this way and I wish I could get rid of these feelings. If by chance he sees this and brings it up to me, I'm probably gonna drop out or switch instructors.Is it over for me?
Wow do you have a discord? I would like to be a pilot one day
>>31129174yeah I have Discord, my username is spiriytus
>>31129145Just ask him out, never heard of a boy rejecting a girl that asked him out...>>31129201>Shamelessly makes Discord tag publicNevermind, you're retarded, or a tranny larper
>>31129214>Just ask him out, never heard of a boy rejecting a girl that asked him out...I've only known him for about a week, plus it would be very awkward if he said no. That's the two things stopping me, but they're huge things>Nevermind, you're retarded, or a tranny larperIdgaf.
>>31129266>I've only known him for about a week, plus it would be very awkward if he said no. That's the two things stopping me, but they're huge thingsNo they're not
>>31129273How would I go about asking him out?
>>31129145>Is it over for me?NopeGratz on improving yourself. I hope you have a wonderful future in aviation.It's quite easy to start to fall for an instructor. You're essentially forced to spend time together and your lives literally depend on each other. That creates a bond.I also fell for my CFI, but in my case I'm an older guy and she's a young 20's woman. She made it clear she liked me also, but I'm married so we just kept it professional.
>>31129298https://www.wikihow.com/Show-Interest-in-Your-Crush-Without-Overdoing-Ithttps://www.wikihow.com/Let-a-Guy-Know-You're-Interested
>>31129145Grab his control stick.
>>31129314Method 1 in the second link is shit. The rest is fine.
>>31129655this is insane advice im ngl
>>31129314Gonna try some of these tactics and see how it goes... I don't have much hope but hey, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take or whatever
>>31129174im studying to be a CFI right now, i can let you know a few things. before you start though you should make sure youre medically able to fly, the FAA is really strict about medical stuff. Then go on a discovery flight to get a fell for it, a lot of places do discovery flights for cheap. Discovery flights are just one hour flights to show you what its like and thats where they get you hooked. The FAA also has free books and resources on their website that are really helpful and you should read them to make sure you knwo what youre getting into. I have seen three of my closest friends drop out of training mostly because they didnt know what they were really getting into. flight traning is hard and everyone has thought about quitting at least once, you just need to know what youre getting into and having the desire to do it. (also first time posting hi, i usually just lurk but i like pilot stuff.)
>>31129145Seems normal, no problem here.Try being attracted to other people instead of your crush. You play any games or watch any anime? Might be some decent fictional characters to crush on instead.
>>31130738Oh yeah she just needs to be more mentally ill to fix that, good advice
>>31129145Try crushing on people in your status instead, like other flight students. It's easy to fall for your instructor but you have to remember who they are; professionals getting paid to be nice to you. He isn't teaching you because he loves you. He isn't being nice to you because he likes you romantically. He's a professional practicing basic decent humanity. It may be fun to crush on him, but remember that.
>>31129145>I'm a 19 year old female student pilotI'm (F) turning 20 next month and I want to become a commercial pilot. How tall are you? Does your family have a history of pilots? Is flight school expensive?>Is it over for me?Far from it. Even if you can't bag him, there's more (probably better) fish in the sea.
>>31130733> FAA is really strict about medical stuffLol. They’re strict about what the papers indicate.
>>31129266First, you find out if he's already got a girlfriend. He's a pilot, and good looking. Probably he has.>>31129298Just chat first and see how that goes.If that goes well, then flirt a bit.Take it from a guy who has asked out dozens of woman with a 99% failure rate, it's best to get to know someone first and see if there's chemistry. If there's no sexual tension, you're wasting your time.
>>31130738I've pretty much grown out of the "crushing on fictional characters" stage on my life and I want to date somebody real for once
>>31130813I know... I realize that part and to me, it's a harsh realization, but I can live with the truth...
>>31131441>How tall are you?5'3>Does your family have a history of pilots?my dad is the closest thing I have to a pilot in the family, he was an Aerospace engineer that worked with airplanes early in his career.>Is flight school expensive?Flight school for me, by the time it's all said and done is gonna run me about 100k USDIf you choose to pursue the dream of becoming a pilot, I suggest you take a discovery flight first, you'll go up with an instructor and they'll demonstrate turns and other basic maneuvers to you for about an hour, if you enjoyed the flight and want to learn more, watch youtube videos that go deeper into being a student pilot and the training they receive. It isn't all flying all the time and before you spend any money, you have to be 100% sure that you'd be willing to put up with the other nuances of flight school and becoming a pilot.If you do decide to go to flight school, I wish you the best of luck!!! It's the most rewarding experience I know!
>>31131984Honestly, since I've only met him four times over the span of the week, I'm going to wait a bit longer and see if he opens up to me a bit more. My end goal before I make any moves is to take your advice and hopefully end up dating him.
>>31132558I'm 5'0. Do you think I have a chance? >If you do decide to go to flight schoolI was thinking of becoming a pilot through the military, but I'm still debating on that. The best FAA certified flight school in my region is a state away from me. Anything else you'd like to share? Thank you for your insight and I wish you the best with your endeavors.
>>31132584>I'm 5'0. Do you think I have a chance?As long as you're able to reach the rudder pedals and press them fully, all should be fine! At worst, you may need to get one of those cushions to elevate yourself a little bit if you can't see past the control panel, but I don't think that'll be an issue>I was thinking of becoming a pilot through the military, but I'm still debating on that. The best FAA certified flight school in my region is a state away from me. Anything else you'd like to share?As for the becoming a pilot thru the military, while that is a valid route, from what I've heard, being a military pilot is hard because everybody wants to be a pilot and there's only a limited amount of planes.As for other things I have to share... There's obviously going to be stuff that'll suck, don't be afraid to ask questions, it's better to ask them while flying with an instructor than when you're doing solo.flight can be a scary thing, there's beautiful aspects, but there's some scary aspects, the wind will knock you around pretty awfully sometimes, trust in your CFI and take it easy, try to remain calm and be open w/ your instructor about how you feel about certain flight aspects, they're there to help!In terms of school, I've heard ATP flight school sucks, they are really intense move very fast. Plus, they're very expensiveThat's all I have for now, hope this info helps!
>>31132848Thank you! You've been a real help.
