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Me and my friend have been "best" buds for a few years now, we always hang around at school all the time and we crack jokes like the teens we are but for like a year now I feel like we've been really cold to eachother. We always hang out but we barely even talk, we crack jokes but one or the other don't usually see it funny. We reply the same words over and over like K,Ok,Understood and such. We've been friends for around 5 years now but I think it's time we part ways, I think we're both holding eachother down since we don't usually hang out much with other people. We have totally different friend groups and both of us have changed alot these past few years. I wanna end things on a good note but I don't know how. My friend sees no worth in himself and with this in mind I don't really know how to say it nicely enough that he doesn't hate himself or hates me. He recommended me this place just incase I ever needed advice, I thought I would never use it honestly. But please I honestly want the both of us to part ways I think its for the best.
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Maybe he's bi OP
I've been thinking that too but he says otherwise
Just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime in private and see where it goes from there OP
Tell him to be completely honest with you
I've tried but he's not a very serious person.

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So I'm 23 and I still have to lie about my hobbies to get women . Are there women who really like anime and video games?

I work I go to school I'm a cool guy but if I ever bring up this shit I feel like and people treat me like a fucking loser. So i never bring it up I'm able to fuck and have full relationships like this but..

I'd really like someone with my same hobbies who i can really open up to I don't think that's too much to ask. I may be a man but I'm a nice guy don't i deserve that at least?
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All kids play video games these days. Even girls, even chads. Lately i hears bunch of kids age ~15 yealling at each other on street about which CPU is "the best".

But you are right. You are still better off pretending to be somebody else on dates. Software engineer? It is better to tell you are tech support. Video games? Movies. Anime? Netflix.
I can't imagine anyone cares that much. Nothing personal, it's just like, the average person doesn't have enough energy to contemplate whether or not you liking vidya is a bad thing.

Maybe people just appreciate you have the common sense to not answer "videogames and anime" when striking up a conversation with them. They don't run away from you once they find out you play videogames.
Anon seriously fuck you I love reading about history and shit but I don't care if other people find my hobbies shit or not I don't care if I'm considered great or not I just really want to connect with another person and when i have sex to really feel that maybe you are not old enough to understand that but there are certain things you simply want after getting to a certain age realizing how fleeting most relationships can be.

I don't know maybe it's the type of women I aim for and date
>going to a really good school
>business major or job
>Rich parents
Typically the type i aim for and have been fucking past 3 years. It's not like I aim for all of these thing but for some reason that's what I have been attracted to only to learn later details afterwards. My last gf told me (Video games and anime are for losers I really hate guys who are into that type of stuff)

Like actually what the fuck what kind of person do other people assume I am ? because this is stuff i grew up with.
>my over aggro /adv/ insults cause I think thats alpha
Just stop man it's honestly embarrassing I probably get more pussy then you.
>asian with the whole stereotype of pushed into uni and forced to have good grades
No wonder they hate vidia op. They would love to play them as a kids, but they parents beat the shit out of them instead and told them only losers and niggers have console.

Stick head out of your ass and lower your standards. These chicks would divorce you anyway in long run. Aim for long term sustainability and happiness, not social status.

They assume you are as souless as them. I know that type of people. They consider anything unproductive as waste of time. Terribly boring people. But i have to say the feelings are mutual. They see me as lazy ass underachieving faggot.

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Is their any legal advice on this board?
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>Doesn't hurt to ask /adv/ does it?
Honestly that’s debatable considering this is the relationshit help board.
>I'm a step away from just going into the airforce our of sheer desperation.
Military service isn’t a bad idea honestly. You’d be better able to argue that you can support a spouse.

Really though, spousal visas aren’t that hard to get provided you actually know the girl and seriously want to get married. There are loads of places you can get info on this that are a lot better than /adv/.
Care you spoon feed a baby or am I just going to have to sharpen my google-fu?
Honestly that’s as much as I know off the top of my head. I took an immigration law continuing education course late last year and I’m just filling it out with what I understand to be the case.

Seriously, I’m figuring your income levels aren’t so high that you’d be DQed from getting help from an immigration legal aid org. Try looking for law schools in your region that have legal aid clinics. Even if they don’t have immigration specific stuff they may be able to refer you.
Sweet, something I didn't know. Thanks man will follow this up. My income this year was 900 dollars, last year was 10k. I am dirt poor.

I'm honestly giving up on dating women unless they drop the whole

>I lost an argument so now i'm going to get emotional and cry on purpose

Literally every girlfriend i've had has learnt to cry on command. Every friend I have has a girlfriend, that even when she's dead wrong, will give him the silent treatment.
Better get on your hands and knees to apologize, otherwise she'll make a fool out of you in public bro!

I tried something different with my last girlfriend where I would talk as calmly and slowly as possible about the issue, and nothing outside of it. That never worked, she always said

>Anon stop trying to antagonize me. I hate it when you talk to me like im a child

Am I being a fucking idiot? Am I doing this wrong?

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I'm pretty aware this is an Anime centered forum, I just cannot stand how dominant Japanese culture has become. No one cares about a cartoon or video game from any neighbor country, like a ranking.There are probably more weaboos in the world than actual citizens of Japan. I'm wondering why this is the case, and what anyone thinks.
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I feel like Japanese media has a much larger range of themes and is a lot more experimental. It's hard to find Western shows that push the envelope as much. Western media is much more formulaic to generate a profit.
Just look in /v/ for the constant arguments that will answer r your question. Western media (except literature) usually features a political voice and generally it's all the same political voice. Even if you agree with it, it can get tiring to get politics shoved into every comic, game, movie, and album. Japanese media is more diverse and often is more concerned with profit or storytelling over a political set of morals.
Before the days of anime, the types of people who are into it now were into cheesy American sci fi and RPGs like Dungeons & Dragons. Anime is just one part of the same kind of culture that gave us World of Warcraft. In fact, it even had cartoons for teens - check out the animated LotR, or the Heavy Metal movie.

Every niche in the entertainment market is geared toward certain fundamental human interests and qualities. That means that in every era, there's media geared toward geeky foreveralones, active "bros," effeminate guys, and so on.

Also, you say this like this is Japan's era of cultural dominance, and it isn't. That was the early 00s.
It's because there's a lot of 3rd worlders on this site. If you notice, outside of Africa, the more 3rd world a country is, the more they are into anime because it's a pretty easily accessible form of escapism. Mexico likes Goku more than they like themselves.
>It's because there's a lot of 3rd worlders on this site
[Citation needed]

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Femanons, do you want a bf? why?

I'm convinced women don't want boyfriends; they only have boyfriends because of money or societal pressures.
>I've heard women say a lot of negative things about guys, but never anything positive.
>The bar scene is a total sausagefest, chicks aren't looking for guys.
>I've never heard of a chick asking out a dude before, let alone a chick asking a dude to marry them.
>I'm constantly hearing women yelling at their boyfriends in the neighboring apartments, but I never hear a guy yelling at their girlfriend.
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I don't want a boyfriend. I want a husband that can pump me full of babies, and share a beautiful life with. Be romantic, be there for each other, and have lots of long conversations, snuggles, and sex. But I haven't found that and have lost all hope that I ever will.
Man, your reading comprehension skills are horrendous
>implying that's not what this thread is actually about
We go to concerts, play vidya, cook/eat, laugh, and raise the pets together. We support each others aspirations, hopes, and careers. Sometimes we get to take trips to see new places and get away from the grind. We work opposite shifts so we don't get to snuggle or have sex as much as we used to, but it's wonderful when we do. We listen to each other and comfort each other during bad days and hard times. That action is what people mean when they say the word "love", but sometimes I look at him and still get the butterflies and blushing of that first infatuation.
this reminds me of the loving relationship my parents have, good on you

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I almost want to cry but there is no particular reason besides being lonely. When I'm down I want to talk to someone, but I have no one to talk to so it feels like it just gets worse and more isolating. I'm getting old and can't make friends and never had a girlfriend. I'm financially stable and healthy, but feel unfulfilled and lonely and I don't know what to do about it. What should I do? What can I do? What have you done to improve yourself?
Yeah, we've all been there. You feel as though everyone is going off on their own and you're getting left behind. I get that. It's harder and harder to make friends in this world. If you want friends, it's always best to start with something that you are really passionate about. It could be your work, a game, hobby, whatever it may be. From there, browse online communities and engage in discourse on the very same subject matter. Or, if it is a bit more of a common thing, see what meetups are around your area. That, to me, is the easiest way to make new friends. The girlfriend part is weirder. If you crave that emotional connection with someone, I suggest dating apps. Find someone that catches your eye. You never know. Beyond that, what can we really do? Listen, unless you have blatant personality flaws (like manipulation, aggression, etc.), it really isn't too hard to make a friend. Just put yourself out there. Best of luck.
~ D
Thanks for the advice. I get discouraged making friends because people who know me only a little usually have said nice things (they aren't strangers but I only speak to them occasionally) but most people who know me more just end up thinking I'm annoying so it always feels like its in my best interest to just not get close to anyone.
You can always practice "human interaction":

Or you know, install tinder. How many girls have you asked on date this year?
i think you might have depression, op.
I've never bothered trying to get a girlfriend/wife, it wasn't until recently I felt like I wanted one, but now I am getting older and have no experience.

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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

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What does that have to do with the question?
It’s clarifying that I wouldn’t know if there was anything weird or unusual about the situation.
Please help >>19391031
How forward are you willing to be?
So you want to use h

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I keep having dreams where I cry, what does this mean /adv/?
Dream thread? Dream thread.

I dreamt that my father visited me (my parents are divorced). He asked me to look for a book in my bookcase, which was apparently publish in late 80's in the Soviet Union. Interestingly enough, the book in question was an illustrated novelization of the original Resident Evil game.

He then proceeded to tear one of the illustrations out of the book and cut it into small jigsaw puzzle pieces. He then took out a pair of aviator glasses and used glue to stick the puzzle pieces to the eyeglasses, completing the picture again. However, he then realized that he can't see very well through these picture-covered glasses, so he took a screwdriver and pokes two small holes in the glasses.

Now can anyone PLEASE tell me what the fuck this dream could mean?

I am also 100% serious.

>20 y.o.
>5'10 very average dude
>constantly visit page of one chad I know from uni on social media
>chad is 6'5,my age, blond hair, blue eyed, perfect face, very popular with girls

Even though financally I am more succesful than him, I still fucking envy him to death. He is very happy dude, surprise-surprise, while I am constantly depressed.

I have never had a luck in girls, they never payed attention to me and always rejected me, even though I am fit and groomed, dress nicely.

This is stupid I know, but I really struggle to do something with it.
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Having self-confidence when you have looks is pretty easy. And I think I love myself, why would I work hard to get a good job? I take care of myself, but still want to compare myself to him.

You still haven't said where I am delusional exactly.
>Having self-confidence when you have looks is pretty easy
Fake it till you make it or go to the gym, worked for me
>I think I love myself
Then why are you depressed and comparing yourself to another guy?
>You still haven't said where I am delusional exactly.
Not the same anon
You should have self-confidence, even without looks.

No confidence means no chance with any "bitches" or "hoes".
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Is the Chad a nice guy, or a prick? If he's nice, then consider being his roommate. Maybe get some scraps?
Are you sure you don't have a crush on him? I'm kidding. Social media only shows you the best parts of someone's life. You don't see this person struggling with a class project or worrying about his family or farting during sex, because you don't know him, you know his Facebook persona. You're making assumptions and comparing your entire life to a life that doesn't really exist! There are lots of articles and studies on how horrible social media is for your attention span and mental health. Just walk away from it and focus on your own life.

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How do I become an informed voter?
Take the black pill.

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So I made a big mistake. Last night I had unprotected sex after drinking heavily. I wasn't too worried until I talked to a friend and found out she refuses to use the pill because she doesn't like the side effects? So I messaged her and asked if she would take the morning after pill, and she said no.

I know it's the night after and all, but is there a male equivalent I can take which would lower the odds of pregnancy? I'm a little desperate here. Should I just take a regular morning after pill and hope for the best? I'm a little freaked out.
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Great post OP
>Please don't have unprotected sex again.
More like *please don't have sex ever again
Imagine being this fucking down and accidentally passing on your genes? Christ
How effective is the hot bath methods of making yourself infertile for a few months?
wtf do you mean down? Use english dumbass.
I meant dumb, but my autocorrect mercifully changed it to down - which works too if you have some imagination, because OP is as dumb as a person with down syndrome.
Just don't have sex with fertile women, OP.

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So, I'm a virgin but I really want to have sex soon. But I have poor social skills and am not very romantic. How do I say "Let's have sex" without being so upfront and risky? I can't relate to girls at all so I'm not great at small talk, or connecting emotionally . Any advice on how to achieve my goal without being awkward?
I'm pretty sure you just say hey let's fuck

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Let me start of by saying I love my mother, over the past few years I've graduated high school. I am 22 years old and I am enrolling into college for computer science. I thought about going to live on campus due to the fact me and my mother fight constantly, some days are good most are bad. It seems like she is picking a fight constantly, I lose my temper but most times I try to act unfazed. This causes my mother to goad me into fight her, "what I do to annoy you?" I tell her honestly, she makes me feel guilty or shift the guilt onto me. I cannot take it, she says since I'm her only child I should take care of her when she gets old she's 60, I am again 22. I'm losing my mind, I can't keep going on like this, am I at fault? I try to make up and get along but I can't take it, I am wanting to move into a dorm on campus just to get away. It costs 10k a year, but this or fighting i am considering it. Can someone talk to me or give me legit advice.
You can probably rent an apartment or room in a house near the university for way less money and more space than a dorm
I don't know where to look. I've never been on my own, but I'll check it out. Thanks.
Bump. My mom just smashed my pc. Fuck.
So much for /adv/ this board is garbage.

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It just occurred to me that every decision I've ever made was influenced by my parents playing favorites with my older sibling, and her having set the bar too high for a piece of shit depressive like myself to reach.

I was constantly chastised while she was praised. She was always the household example. Mine pale in comparison to her achievements in school, and that's just about all my parents care about. I took the same classes that she did. She did well in them because she cared about the subjects whereas I despised them and wanted to take other classes. I wasn't confident enough not to follow her example, which was ingrained in me as oh-so-holy. I was never able to get anywhere near her work ethic for anything that might've mattered to me, much less school. This animosity has been building in me throughout all of HS, and I needed to dig deeply to finally realize where the hell the stress was coming from. I now understand why I'm so antsy around people. I'm worried about failing and ruining their perceptions of me. It feels like I'm always overwhelmed by anxiety, even when I'm doing something simple and alone, like playing my saxophone (which I now realize I only play because my sister said it would be cool one time in elementary). Sometimes I shake, even when alone. Resentment is way too prominent in me (along with anxiety) for me to develop any sort of social life. I've never been "Anon." I've always been "the good one's sibling."

She's about to move across the country for her junior year. It will just be me and my parents until I start my first semester. How can I rebuild myself into an actual individual for my adult life? I don't even think that I know what I like doing.
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I like to read, so maybe I'll try writing.


You have assumed correctly, but I feel crippled in that regard. I've never been able to see anything I do as anything but miniscule beyond meaning, which makes life (especially school) difficult for me. I tried to comfort myself by saying that nearly everybody is in the same boat there, and that no matter how meaningless my actions may be in the grander scheme of things, so are those of others. All that did was make me see everyone as I saw myself, and I don't even feel worth my time. This mentality has only affected me negatively and I absolutely hate that I think this way. I always try to forget this philosophy but I keep dragging myself back into it. I'll eventually just have to be better than it if I want to stop losing my patience with hobbies and relationships, though.

Thank you both for the replies.
You seem like an incredibly insightful person; as if you have spent a significant time thinking through your issues and trying to solve them and I have immense respect for that.

At the end of the day trying to rationalize life or make meaning philosophically is a lifelong process, and is only one facet of life. I can't tell you how to change how you feel, only to oppose those that you think are wrong and build upon those you feel are right yknow der ubermensch and shit. Nietzsche thought you could derive meaning from morality, but as long as you make an active effort to match your desire for change, you'll get there eventually. Good luck anon
Go for it then, think about it what do you have to lose? Living off scrap is better than living off a system to which you are a slave to. You could live in a camper van and write, you could do a lot of things. Your story sort of reminds me of a verse in the Bible where Christ says "In my kingdom, it is the last that shall be first", don't think you're a failure because you don't fit into the system of mammon. Best of luck, brother, don't let money hold you back, for riches fade, what matters in life is love which means charity, to give, God bless.
I don't know if you're memeing me or being genuine, but thank you either way. I suppose I do have my whole life left to live.

But I am capable of achieving. I performed relatively well in school (with some exceptions) and could follow a profitable career path. I eventually want to start a family with someone I love, and I want to be able to provide for them. Is it worth doing? Am I being selfish for considering anything else?
Nah I'm not memeing you brother. Most of the people on this board are ignorant and tunnel vision to the max. I felt you're post had some genuine thought behind it and I wanted to respond.

You seem like a real good guy; do your best

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