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Simple as that - I have a small penis. It's about 11cm (4.3inch) when fully erect and is almost more than half of that when not. Like, I understand that the world isn't based around that fact but holy crap didn't it make me depressed day after day. It also made lose a lot of confidence and the last summer was a total nightmare. Is this the end? Should I just sudoku? What's some ways to get something like this fixed? Still a virgin btw.

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The next time a woman who has been dumped by every other man tries to initiate a romance with me, how can I go full G-mode, playing it out for the company and sex? I don't think I'd feel guilty about it, not after learning how this type of woman typically treats others. Is the goal to stifle the part of my mind that imagines a good romance like in the Disney movies?

I started my first Job as a writing strategist a year ago at a marketing company. The salary was good, the team consisted of a small group of 10 people, and I was hired on a part time basis. I'm a shy but very hard working grill, with decent academic credentials. Overtime, I found that I was given very heavy workloads, and being put in charge of leading projects which I complied to anyways because I wanted to be committed and kept on permanent basis. The workload exceeded my part-time hours, and I was left to handle the project on my own. My boss started being verbally abusive, writing 'idiot' on my work, telling me how lucky I was to be there, and shouting how incompetent i was in meetings. I started turning into a mess. My self esteem slowly diminishing, as I question my value. This went on for a year, I was excluded from lunches, and online chats. I was was singled out. I kept going because I intended on finding a job before quitting. Well I was fired a couple months back. I saw it coming when they started to ask for my work, using it and not giving me feedback, and slowly taking things back like the office PC. I feel so humiliated. I was hoping I could get a recommendation so I could move the fuck on with my life, but he doesn't seem to want to give one. I would rather not take legal action, and move on but since this is my first job it's difficult to gloss over this. I don't want to be branded as some sort of trouble maker. What do I do??

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You know the drill.

This is the place to unload that baggage that's been weighing you down for days, weeks, months, or years; to relieve the pit in your stomach that won't go away, write a letter to someone, ask for advice, etc.

Previous Threads (up to 5, working backwards):
>>18842042
>>18834883
>>18828455
>>18820435
>>18812816

- For even earlier threads, check out this archive (here): https://archived.moe/adv/search/subject/GIOYC/

- When posting a new thread, use this template, for the convenience of all users.


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>>18848347
The first guy I ever did anything with, someone I have strong feelings for, and one of my closest friends recently has been sharing extremely conservative/traditionalist posts, (I'm talking 'make europe white again' even though he's american levels here) a lot of them being very homophobic.

I don't know if anyone knows this feel, but it fucking hurts. It's worse than just being rejected, y'know? It's like being shunned. I hate it.

I confronted him about it but he just does what he does best and dodge the fucking question.

Why do I torture myself like this
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>>18848548
Most of the time when I have those thoughts my dad would say "who told you that? name them?"
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>>18849163
A man isn't measured by how many thots he's fucked, anon. Don't base your masculinity on how much of a slut you are.
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>>18849152
Are you the bad guy? it could be a matter of bullshit or it could be a matter of lacking self-awareness. It would be a shitty thing to prove you're not an ass only to find out eventually that you are.

otherwise it depends on what tactics they are using and who that person is (it's a difference in situation if your loved one is doing it as a opposed to just some asshat).
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>>18849014
start fucking people that know you

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WHY CAN'T I FUCKING HAVE SEX JUST ONCE WITH A NORMAL GIRL

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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>>18849130
stop playing. can't play a two person game when one party flat out refuses to engage. they'll follow your lead or lose interest themselves and quit wasting your time
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>>18849136
Are you a KHHV?

"Ego loss" to some degree or another is characteristic of everything sexual. This is true regardless of gender. There's probably a deeply ingrained biochemical reason for this, since sexuality is so much older than consciousness. Regardless, it's part of the fun.

I mean, you've masturbated, right? How much actual thinking is going on at the moment of orgasm?
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>>18849150
>Are you a KHHV?
I thought that much would be obvious.
>Regardless, it's part of the fun.
I don't get it. A loss of control is horrific.
> How much actual thinking is going on at the moment of orgasm?
Never really bothered to keep track, but I see your point.
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>>18849143
tread carefully was my first thought too. sounds like you're her "one that got away" and what's fueling her current feels are the prospect of redemption and the reignition of a crush on who you were back then. presumably she got with her boyfriend because of getting to know him and liking him. presumably she's not realizing the distinction and is willing to throw away what she has for something she's tempted by, or worse betray the guy and be disloyal. already crossing some of those lines imo. so we're left with the following:
>who's to say she isn't having a lapse in judgment and will come to her senses?
>who's to say she already decided on you ages ago and there's some version of happily ever after in your future together?
>who's to say she simply lacks strength in her convictions and would toss you aside on a whim later too?
thus bringing us back full circle to tread carefully
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>>18849125
It would make me happy if she did like me that much, but she does similar things to the other guys. Either that or I think too deeply.

One difference is she hugs them while she just keeps grabbing me from arms to hips. I never get a hug and while this isn't bad, it baffles me.

I'm going to take this slowly and cautiously. Besides I don't into love psychology. I don't want to be what Black Philip calls a "time hoe"

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Anybody have experience with this?

>Be me 26, 6 months ago
>be a 6, 7 on a good day
>manage to score a date with a 10/10
>get in relationship
>lots of great sex every other day
>goes on for 3 months
>she starts feeling guilty that we had sex so early in relationship
>comes from a strict family
>she says she wants to take things slow
>say some stupid shit that I regret every day
>relationship ends



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>>18849146
>Help me. I literally cannot find women that aren't 10/10s sexually attractive anymore. I've had top tier pussy now it's affected my psyche. How do I return to normal? Like I'm seriously freaking the fuck out.
Sucks to be you, I guess. Don't get me wrong, I like sex, but my only standards for looks are "my dick can get hard without any sort of aid." I'd rather have a funny, intelligent, loyal, caring 5/10 than a 10/10 that was none of those things.
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Dont jerk off to porn. That usually raises your standards. Also don't put good looking girls on a pedestal. You will give them the feeling they are hogher value than you and they will leave.
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>>18849153
Don't get me wrong, I usually only date people I don't know, so looks are what I go by when asking them out. Sex isn't what I mainly look for in a relationship, but sexual attraction is mandatory.

>>18849155
That pedestal thing might be true. Sometimes I get the feeling that I'm getting unusually attached to my partner and come off clingy. Whenever I have a breakup I always feel like shit. I need to work on that and a lot of other things about myself.
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>>18849171
>Don't get me wrong, I usually only date people I don't know, so looks are what I go by when asking them out. Sex isn't what I mainly look for in a relationship, but sexual attraction is mandatory.
I'm not sure how any of this has anything to do with what I said. It sucks to be you if you can only bring yourself to be sexually attracted to 10/10s.

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I saw a news story on revenge porn, and it make me think to myself, if the hottest girl I knew, who I would consider a friend, had nude pictures of herself leaked onto the internet, would I respect her enough not to look at them? I hope so, but honestly, I don't think I would. It makes me feel really terrible about myself. I know it's wrong, but I'm so weak that I probably would violate my friend's privacy to get my rocks off if the opportunity presented itself.

What should I do? How do I make myself a better person?

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How do i make sure that i dont have autism?
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See a professional
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>>18840673
I got 15 on it.
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>>18840414
33 out of 36
I'm probably not autistic then; just a shitty person with poor social skills and neuroses developed in NEET solitude.
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>>18840414
>posting on 4chan

it's too late boyo
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bump

This perfect girl liked me. It could have been perfect. I ruined it all before it could have even started.

God, I don't know why I'm posting this here
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>>18848519
Been there too

I agree with this>>18848748


Take the positive out of it. The fact that a girl like that was into you is proof that you have potential. Many guys will never have a "perfect" girl give them the time of day.
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>>18848519
tell her that

tell her how you feel

you have nothing to lose anymore.
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>>18848519
>I ruined it all before it could have even started

Now that's interesting, tell us how you did that. I'm a fucking robot who somehow attracts a lot of girls but they eventually all figure out my autism and keep their distance. Cool and mysterious turns into weird when they start getting to know me. Even then I've never managed to fuck something up that quickly, I always stretch it out a few months at least, with girls Im actually interested in maybe 6 months.

So go on, make my day. What did you do?
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>>18848519
>posts thread
>doesn't reply to anyone
>abandons it within an hour or two

What a fucking fag, no wonder you ruin every relationship in your life when you can't even run a simple thread without ruining it. What a waste of bandwidth.
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he probably was just being a pussy and didn’t make a move, that’s why there isn’t a story for him to tell

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I've been told by so many people that I'm shy,
very introverted, awkward seeming etc etc.

I have no idea what I'm doing "wrong" compared to what others do. I know I can't change my personality traits but I certainly don't want to be judged by them.

What can I do?

I'm willing to answer more questions related to this issue as I really want to sort it out.

What’s the best way to confront someone who has a fake service dog on the bus?
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I didn't know stealing guide dog valor was a thing.
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>>18847838
Who's the vicious animal now?
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>>18848670
>wheeewheeewheee
>dog that's doing nothing but sitting there being cute is triggering me how do I get the owner in trouble because I'm an irredeemable whore

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What if that dog's human is a service human? Didn't think of that, did you

No, you only think about yourself
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>>18847770
A person like you sees threats and danger everywhere

What's it like, living in such fear?

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Is it better to keep both in the dark or is it better to have one main girl you keep in the dark and let the second one know she's the second one.
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>>18848731
it is normal, but OP was kind of ambiguous because sometimes younger people use the term "dating" to mean "relationship"
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>>18848727
>>18848731
It would only be acceptable if dating wasn't synonymous with sex to most people. The current paradigm is rotten to the core.
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>>18847198

Main girl in the dark, second girl knows.

It is easy. Because if the main girl finds out, you just apologize profusely and weasel your way back in.

But she won't find out because most girls won't tell. I've cheated on my girlfriend for the past five years. The only girls that threatened to tell were the ones that didn't know I had a girlfriend.


Here is the trick though, follow this and you'll be fine

>have girlfriend
>start talking to new girl
>tell new girl you just got out of a relationship
>get close to one another

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>>18848781
>I've cheated on my girlfriend for the past five years.
I'd skin you alive. Lower than trash.
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>>18847405
No, your virginity isn't irrelevant beacuse it means you are inexperienced with girls. You basically don't know what you are talking about.

>>18847313
This. Don't outright date the second girl, bit keep her around as a back up.

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I have serious anxiety, where it boarders on psychosis, and i have to move out, the problems at home is making my problem worse, I have to get a job but I'm scared what if I can't do it, I can't just walk away, I can tolerate a lot, but if I reach that point it means my health and I don't want to have an episode in the work place, I can't give 2 weeks notice. This situation gives me so much anxiety, give me peace of mind /adv/ If I can somehow work this out in my head I can do it, its the only thing holding me back, because if I live in these conditions any longer I'll probably euthanize myself.I love you.
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>>18849145
>I have to get a job but I'm scared what if I can't do it, I can't just walk away
No shit. You have obligations. You'll have to wait until you find another job to walk away from the first one.

>I can tolerate a lot, but if I reach that point it means my health and I don't want to have an episode in the work place, I can't give 2 weeks notice.
This leads me to believe that you can't tolerate shit. The only time I've quit without notice, it was done so with a doctor stating that, in his opinion, if I didn't stop working the job immediately, I would be at risk for a heart attack due to the high blood pressure. Obviously, the employer didn't want to risk having to pay the expense of a heart attack that happened on the job just so they could squeeze another 2 weeks out of them, but it was still their call. I just had the doctor write a note, showed it to them, and let them decide if they wanted to risk it. I would totally have worked it had they wanted me to.

Here's the solution to your issue: take personal responsibility for yourself. You have all the freedom, and whether you succeed or fail is up to you.

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>be me 19/bf 19
>only together 6 months, but talks of staying together throughout college and moving into an apartment after college
>me in school for business, him teaching
>found out i was pregnant last week
>about 2 months
>boyfriend and I agreed right away to abort
>can't financially take care of baby
>in school, don't have time for it and kid would have shitty life
>go to abortion clinic 30 min from school
>about to go inside
>bf says he can't do it
>breaks down crying
>tells me to keep it
>leave clinic


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>>18847348
who tf cares if he can't do this!!! HE'S not the one who is doing it!!

if he wants to have the baby give him the fingernail with a tail in the dish. he can incubate it from there.

you are not obliged to have a baby. you can not have a baby if you decide that now. this is birth control, it's like using a condom to not have a baby, but later.

you can still be together, have a great relationship, have as many abortions as you want and have a baby when you're ready. and feel great about your life choices.

you didn't decide to have this baby, your uterus did. it sent out the egg. it's like an alien implanted in you and the mothership uterus activated and now you are just the incubator. before she was just an annoying bitch with a monthly bleed for no good reason, but now you see her true intentions. don't believe the aliens.

kill the alien with it's peanut-sized body and lizard tail before it morphs into a horrible screaming baby that you cannot legally kill. yes, it's murder, like you would murder a cockroach, or a mushroom, or cow or whatever you had for breakfast.

mother nature knows animals kill. we're animals. animals consume. animals make waste and either knowingly or accidentally kill other animals.


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>>18848845
btw everyone here is right when they say, "this is your bed you made and you have to lie in it."

you have to take responsibility for this future problem inside you and GET IT THE FUCK OUT. or else you'll have to do all this stupid unnecessary shit like enshrine the rest of your life to living like a slave and maybe even hang on to any man just to help provide for it.

so no, you shouldn't just sit back and do nothing and pretend like your inaction is due to some moral quandry...

for gods sake this 2017.
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>>18848857
also fuck other people and their fucking morals.

they're all either mad that you are or aren't having kids because they're talking about their special race club or their church group or whatever LARP they're doing this week.

it's not an institution, it's not politics. it's your body, it's your life. they ain't gonna b mad when they don't see you going broke on charmins, cause they wouldn't care anyway. they'd just be pissed about something new about you bc you'd just be taking up another space in the check out line.

it matters literally not at all to anyone except you and whomever you ask to make it their problem.
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>>18848904
*sorry, pampers. not charmins.

you can see i don't have kids and it's pic related
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>>18847348
Is this him?



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