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>Highschool senior
>Special Ed in math and english, haven't taken a science for 2 years, barely pass social studies
>Literally none of my friends know about this and they take AP classes
>Fall into infatuation with a girl I don't know. She's a Junior. She seems so much like my type.
>Grades have slowly been dropping. I'm usually one of the more succeeding people in my iep classes.
>2nd Semester starts
>Notice girl takes the same route I take when heading to class
>After being way to beta to talk with her, I manage to strike up an introduction
>We talk about filler shit
>She starts leading the conversation by asking "soo.. what class did you have?" since we haven't even hit an actual subject yet
>I'm panicking because she's leading the conversation
>Big wave of people intervene while telling her what class i'm going to next, she couldn't hear me at all
>I'm having so much fun with this right now

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You did fine, good job. Now ask another girl out, preferable before getting infatuated

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The condom broke and now I'm pregnant.
Bf wants to keep the baby. I don't.
What do?
I am willing to carry the pregnancy to term IF I am guaranteed that once it's out of me I won't have anything whatsoever to do with it anymore.
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>>16874678
No problem, I just didn't want anybody to be scared away from one for the wrong reasons (Although obviously it's a very serious decision even when done for the right reasons.) I'll admit I'm curious where you live.
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>>16874339
Personally know at least one person still living in regret of their abortion. (20+ years later)
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>>16872680
you need to know right now if you won't have to deal with the baby once it's born. we are talking about abortion, so the sooner the better. otherwise it's your body, and this is happening inside your body. do what you feel is better for you.
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>asking 4chan for advice on a major life choice.

Don't you have anyone else to talk to?
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>>16872680

Just abort it

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Ask a Christian man anything.

Also, offering advice to Christians.
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>>16874612
This seems reasonable to me, to a certain degree. Some internal force within the individual is drawn to a specific belief that they are exposed to and you feel compelled to follow it.

This wouldn't be a problem of certain religions were not so easily weaponized and used to manipulate people. If all men kept their spiritual beliefs to themselves unless asked, it would be one thing. But a key part of western religion is to reach out and attract more followers. And that certainly seems like a worldly cause.
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>>16874725
Hmmm. I see what you mean.

I think at the core of what you're saying is something I've struggled to put in to words for years. It's something like, "We are imperfect people, trying to discuss and define perfect metaphysical concepts that are beyond our scope of understanding." Like, we can talk about these things, but it's the blank spots where we get hung up. We're defensive of our ignorance.
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>>16874725
Comparing evolution to string theory is absolutely laughable. Evolution is simple and intuitive enough that it can be explained to eight-year-old children. It's also universally accepted amongst scientists. String theory is unintuitive, requires a huge amount of background knowledge to even begin to understand, is still hotly controversial, and is still very much developing, whereas have a century's worth of hard evidence for the veracity of the theory of evolution and none of the charges leveled at it have yet to be answered.
>People tout it as the start of the universe ignoring the whole observable universe part.
This is literally meaningless.

>>16874729
>How long before we break light speed. Because if we accelerate for long enough we should double it.
Assuming you're being sarcastic, I have absolutely no idea how this analogy works in your head.
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>>16874692
>Oh sure! But I think anyone who claims to know with 100% certainty that their belief system is the right one is super conceited and arrogant.

When you settle for one after barely any effort or research you are equally as conceited and arrogant as those types even if you are only 97%. You say they may be wrong or right but you certainly do not live that way.

> KNOWING I'm factually and scientifically correct would require some crazy ass proof that obviously nobody anywhere has.

Or it would require you to actually start looking and questioning.

>In the meantime I'll keep doing what I think is right because why wouldn't I?

Because you aren't arrogant and conceited enough to arbitrarily declare that because a perfect answer isn't immediately available you are justifyed in saying that your lifestlye has legitimacy.
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>>16874709
>Now as for the none monotheistic religions, polytheism is fairly ridiculous and no one in our current day actually believes in it.

>Saying this right after you mention the trinity.

>handwaving up to 13% of worlds population who have a variety of Hindu belief.

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I'm male, 18 and only 160cm tall. I've got naturally large shoulders and a broad chest. This has always made me feel extremely self conscious. What can I do to get past my insecurities?
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>>16874617
Hey I didn't give any specifics and that description is only marginally close.
This whole thread was about insecurity anyway, I came to cheer op up.
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>>16874625
But you do see the damage, don't you?
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>>16874634
There's no harm in talking to me.
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>>16874535
Fat people aren't the same as skinny people when lying down..
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>>16874598
BMI suggests overweight, regardless of gender.
Likely bad metabolism, which is just as bad if not worse than a height deficiency. At least with height you know what you're getting with a partner. With being overweight this can fluctuate based on external factors and way of life. Even based on long term mood and it's follow on effects.
Short+good metabolism > Tall+bad metabolism.

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My girlfriend of roughly 2.5 years was sexually, physically, and psychologically abused by her previous boyfriend. She hid it all away because she had receded into a mental state where she believed she was a terrible person whom deserved to be treated badly, and we've had to spend much time pulling her out of the trenches so to say. On my side, this all occurred thanks to someone whom I'd had a lot of trust in, and I feel to blame for much of it all. I know who he is, I still see him often, and he haunts my subconscious to near murderous thoughts. I feel it's too late to get official judgment, and I don't want to dredge up old feelings now that she and I are getting passed things. What can I do to either book this away forever or find some satisfying action to take?
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like revenge? i'm sorry but i don't feel like this is your fight. if anything, you could give her the weapons to feel better about herself, and then maybe she could do something about it.
unless of course she wants you to enact revenge in her stead, but i'd stay away from that.

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Is small and kinda dull pain in the chest while breathing something to be afraid of? Or do i have little strokes that may kill me in a year? It only happens once in some time, about a week, and goes away quickly

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>be me, 4/10
>go to Japan in summer 2014
>meet Japanese girl who falls in love with me
>she's in the US now on a year-long exchange program
>she is still very obviously into me, almost worships me
>I just don't find her attractive no matter how hard I try, even find some little things about her annoying
Also, she's Japanese but she's dark skinned and looks Hawaiian or something. How do I get over myself? Life could be almost perfect
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>>16873255
I'm unattractive and have no romantic prospects

>>16873886
She's an Americaboo and she just finds me really impressive for whatever reason
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>>16873209
Negro weeaboo loli?

Nigga you insane? gibmedats
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Give us a pic of her goddamn it.
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>>16873209
sucks to be her, i guess.
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>>16873209
The problem with you millennial scum is that you think you deserve more, or better, in every aspect of life; this, even when you realize you are unattractive, not qualified, and so on.

Accept that you cannot do better, and factor in that this girl is into you, hard, for some reason. This means she will probably be alright with everything you want to do to her, and maybe her head game is inspired.

Accept your limitations, and be happy that anyone wants to tickle your pickke

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Got into a fight with my gf and she said we shouldn't call or text or see each other until Monday so we can appreciate what we both have. Should I text her now... Wait till Monday... Let her call or text first...
Appreciate any advice anon
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>>16874734
If you're in a mature relationship and miss her and want her to know, call her.

If you're in a relationship full of drama and all sorts of bullshit and this is bullshit you deal with daily, call her and tell her you've got more going on in life than to deal with a relationship in which you both act like children and that you want to resolve the problems you're going through or break up.

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I've got a pressure washer where the on/off switch broke. i believe it used to have a small piece of metal that when you switched it on, it would go over the two wires and complete a circuit.
My question is, can i just cut and reconnect the two wires together when i'm using it to make it work? got a pressure washing job tomorrow so i can't replace it until the factory sends me a new one.
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>>16874350
>>>/diy/
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>>16874350
If it's a 2.4 gigahertz flux capacitor then you don't want to fuck with it.
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Not familiar with that exact type of switch, but yes, you can just put short the wires together and it will be as though it were always 'ON'.

There's probably some cheap switch you can throw on there if you need to be able to turn it off easily.
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>>16874350
just go down to a hardware store and buy a $10 soldering iron, $4 roll of solder, and $2 switch. do a little bit of googling on how to solder and you're good to go with that and other basic electronic fixes.
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Electrical stuff on pressure washers tend to be heavily waterproof so pay attention to that unless you want yourself,your family,Joe public to suffer the wobbly dance.

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Legit question: is there any way to make someone lose human rights? Without being large corporation or dictator. Some kind od agreement?
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>>16874699
>is there any way to make someone lose human rights
Yes.

If you have a very big mansion.
You can keep a baby girl you kidnapped in a secret dungeon.
Where you will only teach her how to please you sexually.
You now realise she don't even own any basic human rights at all.
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>>16874702
Innocent curiosity
>>16874706
You are still in trouble if someone finds out, while i am basically asking about a situation like slavery few centuries ago
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>>16874719
>is there any way to make someone lose human rights
I gave u a way.
You just have to not fuck it up.
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>>16874699
Frame them for a felony, preferably a sexual offense.
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>>16874723
I guess
>>16874741
This will only put them in jail, there will be no use of them

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Any advice for a guy who's struggling to make real friends in school and who's also under a lot of stress from academics as well ?
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>>16874696
>school
high or college?

don't know which i should assume it is anymore.
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>>16874696

stop trying to make 'real friends'.

the thing about bonds is that they cant be forced (healthily).

I remember once met a guy and he asked 'will you be my friend'. and i said 'errr... no.'. even after much discussion i said no. and he kept asking why. I said we don't really have anything in common or to do. and he followed with 'TRUE FRIENDSHIP IS ABOUT LOYALTY AND BEING THERE AND CARING ABOUT ONE ANOTHER'.

thats great and all, but you cant go up to someone and say 'hey want to be loyal and care for one another?'. these things develop from regular normal casual meeting and greeting and connecting on basic interests. the real stuff, the stuff that dives deeper, only comes about inbetween the moments of entertainment. its the hardships that come up and you need to talk so you go talk to the person you play video games with.

so in the mean time, just focus on your academics. make them your top priority. and just schedule spare time to hang out with people who seem to share some sort of interest with you. or just chill with strangers more until connections are found. like with romantic relationships, you gotta just live your life your way and see if anyone compatible comes along.

if someone just seems too 'fake' then dont offer any loyalty or obligation. keep it casual.
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>>16874712
what this guy said

my two cents: shared hardship establishes friendship quickly, whether it be that you and a co-worker have a 16 hr day ahead of you or you met someone at a party and now have to get back home together drunker than fuck with only your feet to carry you. these things are what allow you to establish a rapid connection assuming you both share equal responsibility for said hardship or equal willingness to solve it. it is from there that you build on it by building more connections.
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High School, I'm going through that teen angst phase

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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

Avoid asking these common questions:

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.


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>>16874662
>>16874686
Yeah literally that doesn't happen ever in real life.
Most of them turn into shitheads and try to harass you while you're doing better without their stupidity.
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Girls

What defines a good male butt? A girl asked for a picture of my butt, but I honestly don't know if my butt is good or not. So I haven't sent it to her.

What is it you like about guys butts?
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>>16874711
Shapely, firm, somewhat muscular.
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Would a girl lose interest if I hold off on asking her out too long?

Basically
>have to do group presentation in a class
>get in a group with this qt
>seems like we're hitting it well enough
>presentation is in a month

I was thinking of holding off on asking her to do something until at the least the day of the presentation so that if its a no, shit wont get weird in the group and that we can finish the presentation thing without any issues. On the other hand, I feel like waiting is just going to make her lose any interest if she has any, and that its better to just go for it. What do?
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>>16874711
As long as it's not flat, it's probably a good butt.

>>16874672
Would do. Probably best to scope out her views on guns before asking if she wants to go to the range, though.

>>16874662
I've never rejected someone and then felt regret because he got attractive later. The real quality that a guy has to have for me to date him is that he has to smell good, and if he doesn't have that, he never will.

>>16874564
It's less creepy if you talk to her in a place where people usually socialize, as opposed to just talking to some girl on the street.

>>16874559
I think I can have sex without becoming attached, but I don't think I need to try it.


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My younger brother complains to have no friends and no girlfriend. But he refuses persistently to make ANYTHING to improve his situation. For two years, I try to help him. Unsuccessfully. Should I leave it?
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>>16874382
Is your little brother me?
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>>16874382
He is just like me aswell anon, he wont do anything himself. But inside, the anger and depression will do their job, i would like someone to try making me a social human being even if i called him a dick for putting and effort. Dont give up on him
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>>16874382
if you can, keep talking to him. no patronizing, no bullshit. it's hard to break from a vicious cycle, but it can be done.
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>>16874382

im in a similar relationship with /adv/
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>>16874382
Lost cause.
Give him up.
Don't let him drag you into his black hole.

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Can anyone in la tell me how bad the traffic is? Does it really take hours just to go to a concert or the beach or something?
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>>16874437
>I think LA is more on top of it on their roads

ppppffffffffttt...

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA
HAHAHHAHAHHA
hahahaha
aaahhhhhhhhh
ha

Thank you for the laugh.

Go ahead and look up the worst traffic in the world. No matter what list you look at, Los Angeles is always there.


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>>16874437
The Los Angeles 'rush hour' lasts for 3 hours. Twice a day.

It is hell and I live in a more expensive neighborhood than I'd prefer so I'm close enough to bike to work in 20 minutes.
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>>16874437

By the way, if you're down here, as this dude (>>16874553). Waze is a godsend. Such an amazing feeling when you take a detour and drive by a sea of thousands of basically parked cars.
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Yes, it's that bad. People literally don't go anywhere far during rush hours because they know they almost literally can't go anywhere. It's like as if the freeways are closed every day at certain times. You get to know the surface streets and schedules well after a while and can hopefully avoid the traffic.
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>>16874468

>muh neighborino

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I'm a curious heterosexual man, I'm going to go to Thailand and I think I want to have sex with a ladyboy, I couldn't fuck a man and white trans always still look male so SE Asia it is.

My question is have you done this before and how do I make sure that the girl/guy is clean because I don't want to have to use a condom
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>>16874659
>how do I make sure that the girl/guy is clean

You can't. Use a condom. They probably won't let you NOT use one (except for the ones who DEFINITELY have AIDS and have nothing else to lose) as the thai government has had a huge condom pushing campaign since the 70s to combat unplanned pregnancy and HIV.
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>>16874659
If you're fucking a stranger, wear a condom. Carrying a disease for the rest of your life isn't worth getting your rocks off a little better.

Also I'd suggest trying anal with a woman before going straight for the ladyboys, I thought I was curious and then I realized I could find out about it by just telling my freaky ex to wear a strapon while I fucked her in the ass.
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>>16874659
>heterosexual
>going to Thailand for ladyboys

Faggot.

I suggest going bareback, I like your style, as on a macro-level it works out for the best.


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