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Just want to get out of the 10-11 dollar/hour gutter I've been in for my entire adult life so far (I'm 26). I have experience in sales, graphic design, and retail store management but I'm not in love with any of it, I'd be willing to pursue a new career if I had to. Just want some easy low stress job where I can make enough to live comfortably as a single man, I already live pretty good on 20k a year, so I estimate that at 30-40k I'd live like a king

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>got really depressed 4 or 5 months ago
>stopped eating
>lost like 40 pounds
>really thin now
>Like it at first but realize it changes nothing
>still depressed
What now?
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>>18154480
No
I have pride
Also therapy is feminine hogwash and pills are government mind control
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>>18154486
Only one thing left anon , meditate.or become a stoic but youre nit smart enuff so meditate
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>>18154486
Not going to the doctor when you're sick isn't something to be proud of.
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>>18154486
>I have pride
And you're posting on this pathetic image board?

>Also therapy is feminine

Says the cute twink faggot that lost 40 pounds and liked it.
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>>18154486
>pills are government mind control

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Let it out /adv/.
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>>18154709
On a scale of 1 to 10...Hillary Clinton.
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>>18154722
What
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I am stuck in a cycle of zero productivity, zero learning. I abandon everything I start.

I'm NEETing my life away and I feel no motivation to break out of this shameful pit.

Is medication the answer? Am I depressed? ADD? Something? This year has been surreally numb.
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Guys, I'm really stuck here.
I'm 19 and I live on my own working various low-end jobs (completed highschool).

I was recently reconnected with my mom, since I was adopted I hadn't really spent anytime with her other than a few visits early on.

The point is that she said she could arrange for my education to be paid for if I go to school in winnipeg (where she lives) which would mean I have to leave ontario.

The problem is my girlfriend couldn't come with, and she doesn't want to do long distance. We both love each other and she's my first girlfriend, been together for a year now. I felt like it was really special but maybe it always feels that way? Anyways I don't want to lose her and it probably seems like an obvious choice to you guys, but any advice for me? She basically said if i leave for school then I'm not putting in effort to stay with her.

It basically comes down to skip education/go into debt over education to stay with girlfriend, or free education but have to leave girlfriend.
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>>18154746
How sure are you that your education is 110% free?

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Is it weird to add girls on facebook out of the blue as a way to start talking w/ them?

I have been smitten by a girl in one of my classes and we have a lot in common personality wise. I just don't like the idea of asking someone out in a busy college setting so early in the morning.

We matched on Tinder before this (didn't know each other at the time and we only talked briefly. Later she deleted her account)

My friend told me that I should add her and facebook and it won't be that weird.

Is this a normal way of doing things? ( dont really use fb a lot) or should I just approach her someday after class?
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Are you an Indian by any chance?
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White girls... why are you so hostile towards us Indian brothers? We just want to talk and maybe build towards a relationship. Is that such a crime?

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>>18154734
lmfao
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>>18154731
>>18154734

no. my sister had a stalker who was Indian. He got sent back
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>>18154723
dude just ask after class, it's going to be way better than facebook messaging, if you already are able to talk to her about other things it won't be so weird. You're cute you want to get coffee at x or y, or just leave out the cute compliment and compliment her on something that sounds more genuine. Don't expect too much from it though, just take everything as experience :)

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>Match with a girl on tinder
>top of profile says she's just looking for people to chill with and that she has a BF
>bottom of profile reiterates that only trying to chill but that everyone wants to fuck
What did she mean by this?
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>>18154221
A lot of women seem to not get what Tinder is supposed to be. Or she wants to play hard to get first.
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>>18154221
She sounds like a prize.
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>>18154221

maximum level attention whoring, possibly coupled with the idea that if she insists on her profile that its not about sex and then sex happens she can play innocent like she wasnt purposely looking for it.
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>>18154675
>playing hard to get
That might be it. We've been messaging nonstop since I made this thread. She's also a 1st yr foreign exchange student so I'm having a hard time buying that she's in a committed relationship. And part of me can't comprehend why you'd be active on tinder if you're in a relationship
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>>18154698
She's a whore or her bf isn't delivering. Maybe both.

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Ok, so I'm trying to get a job at Chipotle and I can't tell if they're desperate or not for employees

>Applied online last night
>No work experience, high school diploma or references
>Call me in for an interview the next day
>The interviewer wasn't writing anything down and didn't know what questions to ask
>Interview over in 5 minutes

Am I going to get in?
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you never know so keep applying. Did they even set up a follow up or say they would be in touch if they wanted you in?
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>>18154739
They said they'd call me in the next 1-2 days

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I need help /adv/ what jobs can a 19 year old punk who's willing to learn anything and work hard get without a degree? I need to be making about 2000 a month at least.
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>>18154710
What are some good companies?
>>18154715
The problem is that I am moving into an apartment with my Girlfriend out of necessity because we have nowhere to go (shitty parents) And I need to provide for her within 10 months.
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>>18154728
I don't really see what the problem is. Does she not work?
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>>18154733
I make 1200 a month. She only makes $300-600.
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>>18154737
Where do you live? Seems like that should be enough for a 1-bedroom.
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>>18154738
Ohio. total cost of living is going to be around 2000.

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I discovered lolicon when I was about 12 years old (same age I started fapping). When I started, I didn't really care if the characters looked or were too young. "These girls are supposed to be around my age", I used to think to myself. As time went, I just kept fapping to it, along with other (more normal/"acceptable") kinds of hentai and porn. However, especially after I turned 17, I started thinking to myself "are they too young?". Shortly after, I started seeing more people saying that all lolicon fans as pedophiles, although they would reply that "loli != CP", and I agreed. I never saw real children as something I'd desire to have sex with. Maybe the only time was when I was 12 years old, when I wanted to have sex with my 12 or 13 years old classmates, but logically that must've been because I was, well, a child too. But as I grew up, I would now wish to sex girls around my age.
I turned 20 years old this week, and for some days before my birthday, as I went on with my regular fapping, I started thinking: "Am I getting too old for this?", "Is it really normal for someone my age to like lolicon?", "Am I really a pedophile?". Those thoughts have been giving me a though time, and since then, I've been in doubt. The fact that I've never been in a relationship (and that by consequence, I'm still a virgin) don't really help me. I don't really have anyone to tell this about IRL. Most of my friends are super normies who wince in the sight of anything related to anime.
I don't ever want to be a real pedophile. I know I don't want to rape children and I don't feel comfortable about the existence of real CP; the whole deal behind that market is gross enough that I don't want anything to do with it. But I don't want lolicon to become a "gateway drug" to that stuff. I just like that, the same way I like MILFs, or big breasts (yes, it's possible to like loli and big breasts).
What should I do?

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I know there are plenty of threads on here saying "How do I talk to girls?", but for me, when I'm already in the conversation it'll go pretty smoothly.

My problem is with starting a conversation. To me, it seems completely inappropriate and borderline creepy to just walk up to a girl and ask her some shitty smalltalk question, but I honestly have no idea how else to go about it.

I wouldn't say I'm ugly, nor particularly boring, so I believe this is my only hurdle, other than practice.

Got any advice?
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Take your bike out to the park. Spread some dirt on yourself and give yourself a good scratch on the head. Lay in the middle of the bike path and wait for a lady to come by. As soon as you see her start wailing and moaning in pain. When she comes over to see if you're okay grab her by the hair and pull her into a bush. Sit on her arms with your knees and do that trick where you lean over her face and let a loogie fall out of your mouth just low enough to almost touch her and then suck it back into your mouth. Keep doing that loogie trick and threaten to let it touch her unless she gives you her number. When she finally gives you them sweet digits yell "MIND ERASE" and bash on her on the head with a heavy log so she won't remember. With any luck she'll wake up a few hours later with no recollection of the incident and a neat text from you on her phone saying "Hey whats up." For bonus points stop by the hospital with flowers and promise to help her find whoever attacked her in the park. In event that you bash her too hard and she dies wipe your fingerprints off of her, leave her body in the bush and try again with another girl until you either find a date or you're arrested by the police.
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i basically treat women like NPC's in TES.

the conversation minigame is annoying at first, but you soon realize the AI is limited and you can pretty easily just memorize the appropriate responses for the different spawn types.

the key is practice, which really isn't that terrible either. if you fuck up the minigame, another one is going to spawn nearby pretty soon so you just try again.
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>>18154462
What if the police officer is a girl?
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>>18154704

Abort mission.
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>>18154708
Too late, already trying to drool on her.

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I'm terrible at picking up signals, give me your thoughts /adv/, I'm leaving this job in a few weeks anyways so I'm not too worried about it being awkward if I make a move and she denies me

She was asking me where I live today, when I told her she started talking about how she is in that area often

At the end of our shift she changes out of her work clothes, she gradually has been more revealing. Pullover one day, part way zipped down the next, zipped down all the way the next, and today just a tank top

Catch her looking at me all the time, but that also means I look over at her a lot, not sure if she's just looking to see if I'm looking

She laughs at a lot of the stuff I say

I look a lot like her ex who she was with for 5 years, at least as far as "type" goes, not to be vain but I think I'm slightly better looking, in better shape too

What do? Go for it?

Ever since I was young, I've allowed people to control me, tell me whats right, what I should want and shouldn't want, etc. I've been in three relationships (including the one I am currently in) The first one was very obviously abusive. Let's call him A. A would tell me I should kill myself and give me ways to do it, in detail so I knew it wasn't some joke. He would threaten me by saying he would cut himself if I didn't do something for him. While I was with him he would show me pictures other girls would send him and make fun of them to me. And then tell me to send him pictures of myself. I was with him for 4 years (god knows why) I never did anything sexual with him. Coming out of that relationship I was weary and had the idea that all men just want sex and they'd do whatever for it, and would hurt a girl and not care about it. I had very little self esteem etc. Then I got with B, who cheated on me then broke up with me. So at this point I have 0 self esteem, and just EXPECT people to treat me wrong.Now with C (current relationship) I'm always scared he's angry with me, I assume the worst, and I'm still a little uneasy with sexual things, though I did get over this fear with him. Any time he seems to be talking differently to me, I get scared he's mad, and that I did something wrong. I'm scared he manipulates me (I always think "I shouldn't talk to other boys, it will make him upset"and other things similar) and I just let him. I'm scared about what I should say and shouldn't because he might get upset.I love him, I don't want to leave him. this is just a problem with me. All that said, i do not think my current boyfriend is doing anything wrong, my brain just assumes he is.so what do I need to do to help rebuild self esteem and not be terrified of my own boyfriend. Also not let people control me in general? I find myself feeling sympathetic towards the people who did me wrong, A for example. Do I just like being abused or something.
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>>18154362
Too long didn't read
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I think you're afraid of change and conflict, so you just take it and get used to it. Your life will not take a good turn if you don't stop being a conformist; start questioning your boyfriend and tell him what's going wrong in your relationship, voice your point of view when people try to make you do something you don't want to do, forgive people who wronged you in the past but don't forget. That's the only advice I can give you.

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chads of /adv/
in what way can I tell a girl I like her. she's given all the signs, but I live in a small town and there's no interesting places to take her out on a date,if I went the "hey wanna go on a date" way.
obviously you can't just go up to a girl and say I love you
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>>18153422
everyone would like to live in their dream world where everything happens like a movie.
I hope it happens after death. its a sweet thing to hold on to

>>18153424
thats exactly a script
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>>18153439
I think some drug was described as making you the star of your own movie. I think I understand the addictive nature.

OP, try this
>"i like you"
>"i like you too haha"
>"listen, i thought i would show you a very special place to me, if you want"
>"haha what's that?"
>hugs her
>"this is that very special place"
>cue music
>REEE RE RE R R REEEEEEE
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>>18153293
this

or just watch a movie/get dinner and invite her back to your place

use your spidey sense to detect if shes down for you and then just go for a kiss and make out and slowly start groping her

this wil lead to a relationship likely
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>>18153400
he said this thread was for chads, gtfo
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>>18153756
There are no cinemas or restaurants.

>>18153459
that drug is ego

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So I was thinking of what I would love to do for work for the sake of keeping my sanity as I wait to go to college in the future and I decided a movie theater was a good idea to try.

What kind of stories can you tell me from experience working in one? what are the pros? the cons? I know free movies is one and that's sick but what are the things that turn you off about it?

Share with me your wisdom.

Some extra info about me is that I got an interview with a new supervisor for a security guard position but I'm not too thrilled about my chances getting it and I already sent my resume to cineplex.

Just waiting for the email back telling me if they're willing to give me a shot but other than that yeah.
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>>18154024
Oh and we were always able to watch movies before they came out. I don't know if that would still be the same. I worked in theaters back in the days of film projection and I think everyone is all digital projection now. But with film they had to make sure they assembled the movie correctly, so they would screen it beforehand and staff could watch it. It can be exciting for a big movie, but I had to watch a lot of crap to make sure I put the film together correctly.
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What's the worst part about working in a cinema? anybody know?
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>>18153850

so heres a harsh reality: you can't put this much thought into entry level employment.

you're like 'oh yeah id love to work in a movie theater' but with everyone competing for jobs that anyone can do, and people with degrees in line ahead of you, you take whatever job you can get. you can't afford to think this hard about what you want or don't want.

once oyu get a job you can start shopping for a 'moving up' job
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>>18154689
this so hard. you gotta get a job to get a job nowadays.
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>>18154719

its always been that way. its not like in the movies where someone sees a 'help wanted' sign, and thinks 'wow i always wanted to work at a movie theater' and walks in and gets the job. instead they say 'yeah, you and 40 other applicants, fill this out'.

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I had a pretty successful date Monday. We went rock climbing, got physical, ate together and had many things in common. However, as I tried to lean over for a kiss, she said "not now, I need to trust you better" and said she is "hard to get". She later texted how she loved our date etc but she hasn't contacted me since then.

Should I be making a move or is she just not interested? It's my first time with a woman this vague. Is she testing me?
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>>18154717

You tried to kiss her on the very first date. Are you honestly surprised that she didn't like that?
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>>18154720
Well I know her since August but never had the time to date. I don't know man, been my standard procedure all my life. I guess I fucked up

How do you guys live by yourself? I've finally excepted that I was born of the sin of being disgusting and ugly and having a bad personality. I want to fully embrace the hikki



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