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Everytime I try to study I become very stressed because of the fear of not remembering the stuff later, what leads to not remembering the stuff later because my mind was so worried I was not able to study. Just like anxiety-driven onset insomnia - by worrying about not getting enough sleep one does not fall asleep. Any ideas?
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>>17622115
dont study

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Do soulmates exist? Can there truly be someone you belong to forever?

How do you know if you've found them?
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Many, many stranger things in this world happen every day than love at first sight.
The thing about a lifelong relationship, is that it depends on two flawed people to exist together their whole lives. It's not easy, but it shouldn't be a cross to bear. The key to a lasting relationship, is a combination of attraction, compatibility, communication and negotiation.
Arranged marriages work often because the people in them know that divorce is not an option. If you know that no matter what, you were stuck with them until you die, then you're going to be more likely to be as accepting and agreeable as possible.
I've been married 14 year. We got married young, but we discussed every contingency (kids, religion, employment, location) we could think of, and we agreed on our roles before hand (if you are doing A and B, I can do XYZ). And then the main thing, KEEP THE FUCKING SEX ALIVE!

I tHink if two people love each other, and are selfless each other to put the other first, it shouldn't be so hard.
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>>17621223
>They are in their forties and they still love each other like day one.
Never understood that saying.
Should love be stronger the long you're together with someone?
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I think there is basing on actually opposite experience. There is that guy. We never talked too much so I basically don't know him, but he dislikes me for some reason. The thing is that we have many random encounters where I end up accidentally ruining his life a little. I think there must exist the opposite kind of "fated person"
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>>17621643
Well the love should become deeper and more... Rich (can't think of the right word), but I think that phrase is meant to imply a passion and enthusiasm. The couple that's been together for 20 years that you can still catch exchanging a good tongue kiss and smiling while looking into each other's eyes. Still playing grab ass when they're like 50
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>>17621514
>we discussed every contingency (kids, religion, employment, location) we could think of, and we agreed on our roles before hand (if you are doing A and B, I can do XYZ).
Please make a list of these and share them with us.

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Yoni thread.

I'll have to meet with her tomorrow.
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>>17622071
Just admit you wanna her to knock down your pussy. You're basically asking for this.

Also, we still have money on this. Don't disapoint us this time.
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>>17622071
The fact that the highlights of your relationship with her is the fact that you used to nap and shower together is troubling itself.
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Isn't "yoni massage" a fancy way of saying "handjobs for money"? (But for women)
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>>17622071
Thread 1
>OP's friend b-day, asked for a fingering session
>OP's husband strongly against it
>/adv/ against it
>"ugh, you guys don't understand, he's CONTROLLING me! i'll do anyway just to piss him off lol"
>OP fuck up
Thread 2
>fingering session went wrong
>claim that /adv/ was right
>ask /adv/ what to do
>/adv/ says to tell everything for her husband
>"ugh, you guys don't understand, he's will be MAD! I was confused! I'll lie lol"
>OP fuck up
Thread 3

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>>17622073
No cock no cuck

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Talked every single day for a couple months. She was really busy in Real life, she is the seamstress at the ren faire so weekends were bus and she works during the week. So we planned on having Thanksgiving together.

We are a days drive apart from each other so no one could just spontaneously show up.

So since we met on fetlife (erikaundone), she has another dude she plays with but she has been playing with him for months (extremus),(she is new at the bdsm thing but he has been in the world for decades).

He kept their relationship at a FWB level because he didnt want to commit to a relationship and thats how its been for about 7 months.

As soon as he heard from her that she made plans for thanksgiving with me he collared her and made her cut off all communication with me or any other potential

Though he is still free to play.

I feel obligated to try to expose this douchebag of a person as the douche that he is, though I am unsure how to do that.

I still really care for her and know that he is just using and abusing her in ways that no one that is in that lifestyle and purports to be a good dominant should..

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?

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>>17622081
it's weird, sometimes she is all over me and other times she is just annoyed by anything i say but in general i can say that this relationship means everything to her.
i will probably talk it over with her and suggest a different app for platonic stuff.

>>17622083
Perhaps she really tried to test that then, i bet she knows a lot about tinder since she spends a lot of time on social media and imageboards. i will definitely pay more attention in the future.

I really just want to trust her and not assume the person i love most lies to me, otherwise this relationship wouldn't be worth it. But in the end i am a bit afraid of being cucked after all, thanks for the advice btw.
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This weekend will be date no. 5 now 4 weeks in. We've been taking it slow but sort of feels like sex is the next step (we made out topless last time and she basically said - 'next time all the clothes are off' . I still don't know how I feel about her 100% yet though.. should i still do it or should we wait a bit longer.
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>>17622054
>have sex with a stranger

so, you use online dating ? me and my gf met each other through a mutual friend, we hang out in group a few times before so she's hardly a stranger. Still, originally you believe having sex early on and low partner count is impossible, I just gave an example where it is possible, it is just not universally possible.
Even for a stranger, not total stranger, you have to have some prior information about that person, well, some people click, some don't, if you feel attracted to him then go for it, but the central issue is how easy does this immediate irresistible physical attraction happen ? if you have that urge like 20 times in your early 20s then perhaps that's what they (the male population you said to have impossible expectation) meant when they use their insult. Of course, you'd have to be insane to try to please every guy you ever dated, so don't worry about it, some guy will be mad if you don't have sex with him right away, but the right guy you meet later won't be.
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>gf Facebook messages ex from a long time ago
>relatively all small talk conversation
>out of nowhere my gf says "sometimes I wish we would have worked out but we didn't I guess etc. "
>then goes on to say me and her are thinking about getting married
I don't know how to feel about this. Am I overthinking? Does she regret being with me or something? What do I do?
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>>17622022
>How do you expect a girl to keep her partner count low, if you also expect her to fuck you right away?
Long relationships? IDK

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Is there any real reason not to kill yourself? I finally royally fucked up and wiped away any hope of a tolerable life, so it'd be better to just dispose of myself and stop troubling everyone.
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>>17621987
I'm not an american. I've been disqualified from obligatory military service.

>>17621998
Medical issues, inherent, nonlethal shit unrelated to alcohol consumption. It'd take a fortune to fix.
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>>17622011
go out of your house and run until you look like a Chad
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>>17622015
Not going to fix it. I'm going to need surgery and medications.
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>>17622024
then buy a life insurance, die in an "accident" and pass your legacy on research
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>>17622024
>Not going to fix it.

Then, 10 spoons of sulfuric acid and 5 of formic acid inside a closed bag. Breath the vapor and you'll only notice a little dizzyness, nothing more.

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Lately I've become "bored" around my GF. I've been feeling more interested in other girls lately and it's scaring me.

It seems like she can detect that I'm kinda losing it for her. She's been the first real GF I've had but sometimes she annoys the hell out of me. I feel like I've been thinking negative thoughts about her a lot too. How can I fix my thinking to back when I was in love?

We've ben dating for 5 months but 3 months "officially"
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>>17622053

Relationships take work

I'm a bit of a hypocrite because I also have had just one "real" girlfriend (had another when I was 14 but whatever), and I also had worries after only a few months, and I ended it

In hindsight I should have dealt with it better. Then again, I do think maybe she just wasn't right for me all along.

But anyway, relationships do take work. "Love" is... again, something you have to work for. We're all attracted to any fit woman, that's obvious. If you want to make a relationship work (for the same of having kids / raising a family etc.) then put in the work to make it work.

Or if you think she's not the one, that there's no point in the relationship, then move onto someone that you do think you might start a family with.

You're welcome.
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OP, you did not provide a whole lot of info and the first reply could be very right.

But given that you're a guy on this website and she's your first... could it be that you were more in love with her for being your first girlfriend and a girl you were fucking, and now that the first excitement has worn off you realize you don't actually like -her- and her personality?
I mean, five months is pretty short for the honeymoon phase to have disappeared.
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>>17622116
>could it be that you were more in love with her for being your first girlfriend and a girl you were fucking, and now that the first excitement has worn off you realize you don't actually like -her- and her personality?

That's a good description mang. I'm this guy - >>17622112 - and I reckon that's what happened to me.

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How can I tell if a girl is just really comfortable with me or if she's interested in me? She playfully hits me a lot, she makes contact with my body occasionally (not sure if accidental but she doesn't reel away when it happens), she constantly laughs at my jokes, today I even made her spit water outta her mouth. She'll sometimes look at me when I'm not paying attention, but she doesn't really seem nervous around me.
>inb4 ask on date
I've been friendzoned twenty times and I'm not risking it this early with this girl.
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>>17621041
Godspeed.

But if it makes you feel less confident, I've been very drunk this whole time, but it's all shit I would do, at least when drunk. See you in the breakup threads in about 5 months.

But seriously, I hope it works out.
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>>17621041
literally just ask her "hey, wanna go do x this weekend?"
life's not an anime, you don't need some crazy plan
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>>17621076
>>17621081
Thanks mates, she was surprisingly talkative with me today so far
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>>17621081
You need to specify that it's a date though.
That is what fuckers here told me when I was in a similar situation as Op.
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>>17620867
>How can I tell if
touch her inappropriately

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So the other night a neighbor cat came into my yard, and was sitting next to my cat.

They're both not doing anything which is weird because mine will always run over to me.

The other cat comes to me and i pet it.

As soon as that cat turned around mine tried to walk away. The other cat immediately ran after him trying to attack him.

I kicked at it and threw a chair at it but it got away.

Anyway, I set some snares and a can of food out and was going to shoot it with my crossbow but my girlfriend says that I'm over reacting and what I'm doing is insane.

I explained that my cat could easily lose an eye if it happens again, but she told me killing the outsider would be animal cruelty.

I tried to negotiate a broken limb but she would have none of it.

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>>17621949

If you're just going to do it anyways, then you don't need to come to us for affirmation.
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>>17621849
it's illegal. if you get caught that's jail time and your gf won't be able to pay your rent so you'll be losing money and time just to get a kick out of an annoying neighborhood cat.

this is animal cruelty. obviously your cat can lose an eye in a cat fight. but you have a responsibility too, which is protecting your cat. this doesn't mean let it outside, knowing there are other animals ready to get in scraps with your own cat, so that you eventually react to it.

"muh cat's freedum!"
still partially your fault if your cat does lose an eye. your cat, guaranteed, goes into other people's yards. i'm damn sure other neighbor's cats come in sight with your cat on some level.
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>>17621849
>>17621849
You are fucking nuts mate.

If you want to scare the cat away buy a big dog. We had 2 dogs and the cat would beat them up. Actually would wait on a chair by a door way and wait for them to come through and get their noses was proper funny.
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>>17621969
or he could get a non pussy cat. he's complaining another rival cat is running over his own cat. he wants to kill the thing and get rid of the situation. but the fact is, all cats who go outside go in other people's yards and interact with other cats from time to time.
him having a gf and talking with her about this only makes him get a testosterone ego boost because she is a female in his life.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIP9MWOjoKA
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>>17621949
Then dont leave it outside unsupervised

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I am always there when you ask, no matter how tired or busy I may be. I am always there for you. I have always made sure to make you happy, or be there when you need someone..

Where are you when I need you? You're tired. You're busy. You're going through a transition. You have plans to keep. You're preoccupied with this or that. I am unbelievably low on your priority list. I wish I had been in a situation where I ended up hurt the last time I tried to get ahold of you.

Good fucking luck in life.

>"I'm surprised you don't hate me yet.

Well I fucking do now.
I officially hate you.
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>>17621021
End it before it's too late. If you can't do it at least get a prenup
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I need to leave her, every day its a chore to make you happy.. You want me to invite you to social events with my co workers, yet you never want to go and when you do your " dragging" yourself there, then you think noone likes you cuz you sit in the corner and watch.
Its been like this since you found out my ex tryed talking to me, you just went mental, looking for every reason on why i would cheat on you, you degrade yourself and dont believe anyone when they try to correct you.
You dont have a sex drive anymore, we havent done anything in almost 3 months, you tryed the other day and it was amazing, you set up the shower/tub so we could watch a movie in the tub after i rinse off from work... You bought our favorite cider for us to drink, and even presented all of this in my favorite outfit of yours.,.. But half way through the short shower you decided you didnt want to watch a movie in the shower anymore and we should in the bed, but when we got to the bed and i started feeling you, which you admitted to enjoy, you got up and went to the kitchen to get chips and cheese for you to eat in bed at 3 in the morning, and i honestly wasnt suprised, you do this every time we get anywhere close to intimate, you eat... It why you have gained 20 or 30 lbs you midlessly eat, and its disgusting..
Your right next to me, crying yourself to sleep... But you have made this a weekly thing for the past 2 or 3 years... I just dont care anymore
I love you.. I really do.. But im tired of being the only one trying, and its honestly exhausting
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No one talks or interacts with me except for my family, and it makes me sad. It's my birthday soon but I wish I had someone to share it with.
Feels ridiculous but it often feels like everyone but me is having an amazing time. I know that is how social media is, but still my brain is being dumb. I guess I will just bake myself a cake and watch social eating channels.
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>>17622069
Happy Birthday anon

I'm the same way, I think. In the past month I've talked to my family (three people) and my bosses (2 people) and literally no one else. Everyone at work seems to have friends. My former friends seemed to get along really well before I was shut out.


Maybe I'm just boring?
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If my mother and brother were gone I would end my life early. They are the only reason I bother living for, they give me momentary joy and some value in myself. I'm 26. Once / if I get distant from my brother, I will probably have to start going to therapy, to avoid just dying.

I hate myself. I've repeatedly failed at improving myself. I'm horribly incompetent. But I have high expectations - I read too much, I'm an idealist. I am so much of a perfectionist that I don't let myself enjoy anything, but I'm incompetent, so my perfectionism doesn't even result in anything worthwhile. Day by day is like an endless tormenting nightmare where I am faced with a massive burden of anxiety with no results to show for my efforts, and the reality that I am too pathetic to change it. The woman I love is out of my grasp completely, the job I want is out of my grasp completely, because of genetics and family wealth and my overall lack of talent. I am not even good at making money. And I am forever disgusted by my father and do not have a single care about continuing the family in his name. There is really no point in me being here.

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>seeing this girl for three years
>she ends up pregnant
>parents insist I marry her
>they're millionaires, my family and I are not
>said they will buy us a house (but in their name)
>said they will erase all my debt (only about $18,000 in student loans)
>said they will pay for the wedding
>we would have zero wants ever

Why do I feel hesitant? I feel like I'd have zero agency in this marriage. I'm not one to control a marriage, but I do feel like I will have no control over anything. Any kind of argument we have will be quickly silenced with "well, my parents own the house you live in" or "well, my parents got rid of your debt". In doing all of this, I become emotionally indebted to her family which I don't think I want.

But on the other hand, it will be like turning on godmode for my life. I go from scraping by every month with a little to spare to literally having no financial worries ever (or at least until a divorce).
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>>17622068
is this girl beautiful? if so then go for it.
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>>17622068
Maybe you'd feel guilty for not having earned any of these things and just given a nice "freebie" in life, but you should realize this is a good opportunity for you and that you'll have other chances in the future to earn the things you wanted to work towards.
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So you are about to live an easy dream life and you come here instead of going for it?

What can go wrong? You provide 0 info. As long as you still work, literally 100% of your money could just go into savings so even when shit goes south you will be more than well off.

Asshole.
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I can't tell if you're a dumbass or a genius.
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Do it and when the in laws become unbearable break it off.

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Tl;dr: my wand of wonders is way too curved when it expands, is there a way to fix it? It doesn't hurt or anything, but it looks weird. Since this is a Christian board I'll post this metaphor for the OP
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Lay some books on it and give it an hour? I'm sure there's some surgery to be done, man.
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>>17621012
cut it open and stick a few beads in it
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>>17621689
It does and it hurts both of us. Also makes oral quite a challenge.
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>>17621012
Move your sheath to another side, to use your sword with another hand. That may help.
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>>17621012
If it curves up, she's in luck
If it curves down, she will frown

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How do I talk out my point while sitting in groups?

When I speak out something, someone quickly will say something and people quickly gets their eyes on them making me feel like shit.
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>>17622044
Some cultures just raise their voice until they are the center of the attention, it may sound savage but works. Like alpha vs beta, doesnt mean yell in anger just gradually raise your voice until you are heard. Nothing special to it
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>>17622044
Learn to get your point across in as few words as possible. If you're the type to go off on tangents and takes an ungodly amount of time to communicate very simple ideas, then people will generally not want to listen to you or care very much about what you have to say.

How can I tell if a girl likes me?
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>>17622096
1. ask her out
2a. if she said yes she likes you
2b. if she said no she doesn't like you
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>>17622096
Send her pictures of your penis
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>>17622099
How can I tell if a girl likes me without placing my fragile ego and limited self-esteem in any sort of risk?

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Heyo friends I need some /adv/ice,

I've been seeing this girl for two weeks now (dates, some makeout sessions at my place during movies, etc.) but no sex. Last time she was at my place we got super close to it, but she stopped me at the last second before I started to undress her saying "She wants to but we shouldn't".

Now, we are going out to a club today and we will be drinking, so I assume this apprehensiveness can be overcome more easily, as we were completely sober during the last encounter.

My question is, how do I seal the deal? I'm thinking just inviting her to my place when we decide to bail from the club (we live 10min apart walking distance) and going for it.

I live alone and have my own place if it matters.
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>>17621988
If you have been dating a couple of months, you are hardly strangers. At some point, the guy will think "How much longer will this go on? A month? A year? What if we never have sex? I don't want to waste my entire life on something that might never happen."
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>>17622010
A couple of months is very little, to me.
I don't have a strong emotional connection with someone I've known for that amount of time. I might enjoy myself with them, like them, but it's not like I feel very invested or love them. I know them superficially, but it's not like we're truly friends or close to each other.
Sex without an emotional connection doesn't seem appealing to me. I don't get turned on by people I'm not emotionally invested in. I'd rather masturbate than fuck a dude I'm not in love with.

>At some point, the guy will think "How much longer will this go on? A month? A year? What if we never have sex? I don't want to waste my entire life on something that might never happen."
If the guy thinks so, he has a mouth and can talk to me about it, so he will know my opinion on the matter and see what to do.
If he's so retarded that he cannot ask about it, I'm not really missing out.
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>>17621959

And it seems a bit wierd to me that I would have to wait 9 FUCKING MONTHS to have my needs and desires addressed, I rather not waste my precious time and find someone with equal needs.
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>>17622046
He was my first and I was 15. It is hardly my standard.

Right now I'd probably go with 4-6 months before penetrative sex, 2-3 months before oral and all that.
Sure, I don't force anyone to date me, but in my opinion it's a bit of an idiot way to deal with relationships.
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>>17621943
I don't think she's a virgin, she is REALLY into me according to her friend (my friend, too).
During the makeouts I was trying to advance by neck kissing/biting all the tricks (I've had sex with 5 girls) and she was moaning and kissing back and everything, but wouldn't let me go further.

>>17621959
You are retarded who the fuck would wait 9 months, what a cuck.


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