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Is it really a waste of time to go after a girl who has a boyfriend?
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Ofc it is. Not only is it a shitty thing to do its really desperate. Stop being such beta. Stop thinking there is only one person for you. If you have crush on someone who is taken stop thinking about them and move on. Have some self worth. There are other fish in the sea
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>>17961057
depends if you just wanna fuck or hangout i would say yes
but if you want to be more serious it's at least worth a try
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>>17961057
no because you can cuck the boyfriend and let him pay for your child. I know women who have sex with alpha males and cuck their beta provider in raising a child that is not his.
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>>17961057

usually yes it is
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>>17961626
you should have no problem stealing her but you do have to offer greater value then the current boyfriend for her hypergamous nature to kick in. also make sure you add in some comfort if you want her to stay with you as well and not just make her cheat. Women might not stay with guys who offer greater value because they don't offer the superior comfort their boyfriends offer so they just cheat and go back to their beta provider boyfriend.

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Just left my iPhone 6S into a repair store in the town after I dropped it in the toilet.

The dude asked for my passcode and I obliged, but when I left the store some random dude stopped me and said the guy in there pretends there's broken shit so he can get more money.

I don't care about getting charged for an $10 antenna, but should I trust this guy with my unlocked iPhone?

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Somethings eating me up adv
For context, I work in a pharmacy in chinatown in aus, I am white, and another one of my colleagues is white

>guy comes in to pick up a script for valium
>guy is suspected to be a druggo or homeless or something close to it
>all is normal
>he comes back a few hours later and is acting real erratic
>his emotions keep changing from angry to sad to annoyed
>comes in and out acting all fucked up for about 40 mins
>pretty sure he took the whole box of valium
>is chatting to my m8
>having an argument
>goes off the fucking rails
>starts saying how he's going to go kill himself
>ok.jpg

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Please anyone I'm pretty sure we let a guy die today
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It's not your job to save people from themselves. Nor would you be able to save everyone, if you tried.

That said, I think any decent person would be bothered by what you witnessed. It's okay to be upset; that doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
If you still want to do something, you have options.
It sounds like you know what you'll do differently if your'e in a similar situation.

You have my sympathy, and I hope the guy is okay too.
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Next time, call the cops and an ambulance

Dont feel bad m8
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>>17962158
>that doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
sold a man drugs he killed himself with, watched him do it, called security to move the guy onto the sidewalk to die.

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I know I can't talk to people. I get nervous, it's gotta be some sort of social anxiety. I feel I have nothing to say, so I nod my head a lot and give short responses like "Yeah" "Right" "I get it" or I repeat what they just said but in a different way.

Then I start panicking cause I become aware of how boring I am and it just gets worse until I find an excuse to leave or the other person leaves.

Anyways,any tips on how to combat that? I go to cons with my friends sometimes and get into quite a bit of conversations that go nowhere but very few times I wish I was able to continue it. I never know how to re-approach some one afterwards either. Especially girls for some reason.

This one girl got excited over my costume and gave me a hug and stuff and when i saw her later, she was smiling at me but, like an autist, I just looked through her and kept on walking.

What hobby should I take up?
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Drawing
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Advice from my dad:
"I'm a professional hobbyist. Every hobby I have makes money. Not much, but a little bit for each one."

It’s amazing to me how he just sits around doing whatever he wants, and he supports himself that way. Then again, he's like 65 years old, so I'm sure he wasn't making money on his hobbies when he first started.

Anyway, my advice is to do something that could feasibly make money, once you're good at it. How about welding?
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>>17962119
Just curious, what kinds of things does your dad do to get money? It's hard to see how some of my hobbies could pay off.
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>>17962126
Pretty much anything that leaves you with a tangible end product, such as wood crafting, metal working, leather working, painting, sculpting. Im not the guy who posted earlier, and i never could get into the artsy type things so i found my comfort in video games. I could probably find something more productive like weight lifting or something but its not nearly as much fun in the moment.

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Anons, I want to be a 'blazer' with my friends. But the first time I smoked, I became very disoriented. Loss of time perception ensued. I know, shocking. But long afterwards I became somewhat psychotic, and as far as I can discern, it was by the cause of weed-ios. This sounds outlandish, but only until you take into account that the second time I tried it, I tripped balls. I'm not talking about regular, mild hallucinatory, closed eye visuals. I'm talking full on- "I can see my voice, and the color purple tastes like copper." I could barely walk, somehow I made it down the stairs in front of said friends house. I felt like I was dying, and for some reason I felt perfectly okay with that. Everything was a clover, and I felt like my entire body was dancing to music that was not there. I just felt tired afterwards. Not even happy stoner tired, just exhausted. Did I smoke too much, have a panic attack? I might be smoking again soon, so what do?
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>>17961488
Actually had that dying but feeling bliss thing. And stilll do sometimes while high and meditating on kundalini or chakras. I guess id describe it as ego death? For a bit you feel nothing just floating in ur head with your eyes closed thinking of nothing but your breathing.
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If it fucking sucks for you why would you want to do it?
Secondarily keep in mind you're taking a drug which, as all drugs do, has side effects which in this case can fuck uo your mental health
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>>17961488
You just did too much. Weed is crazy like that at first when you have no tolerance but after a while you get used to it. Just take it easy at first. It takes a long time to set in sometimes so just take one tiny hit and wait 15 minutes or so then see if you want to take another tiny one, then repeat the process.
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weed can definitely have psychedelic effects when you smoke a fuckton - how much did you blaze in the story you're describing?
theres no shame in having a low tolerance, just take 2 or 3 puffs, wait 15 mins, smoke more if thats not enough
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>there's no shame in having low tolerance
oh man what I'd give to get high off one puff again...

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Any other parents here want to weigh in?

My wife and I caught our daughter having sex when she was 13. Instead of getting angry, we decided to take a more sex-positive approach. We educated her on things like safe sex, consent and even put her on birth control. We also insisted that whenever she wants to have sex, she needs to do it at our house so we can ensure its a safe environment and not at some party where everyone is drunk.

Anyways, she's 15 now and so far this policy had worked well, until my sister found out from her 14 y/o daughter. She absolutely freaked out and now longer let's her kids socialize with my daughter.

My daughter was best friends with her cousin and this is devastating to both of them. How do I fix this situation?

My sister is freaking the fuck out and keeps calling me screaming, while I calmy try to explain me and my wife's idea for trying to provide a safe and responsible environment for her to explore her sexuality.
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>>17960807
What's weird about that? He's probably a high school teacher who fantasizes about his students loving him, wanting to lose their virginity to him, the sluts blowing him under the desk.
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>>17959847
>do you just honestly enjoy repetitive banter?
Entirely this, I'm willing to bet most of us on /adv/ are just looking for interesting (relatively mature) discussion, whether the situations are real or not
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>>17959774
This is why you gotta hit your children when they act up. Smh I hate you white people
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>>17959714

i never understood why we punish teenagers for having sex. you literally aren't any more responsibile at 18 as you ewre at 17 but we act like its a big deal.

we insist 'i can do this and you can't so if you do it, were going to punish you'. and whats worse is we say they can't do it at the itme where their hormones are raging harder than any other time in their life, way harder than an adult trying to resist, yet we limit their other freedoms.

i dont have kids of my own so maybe it'll change when i have em, but damn its pretty unfair.
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>>17959774
Can I sleep with your daughter too? :^)

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I just found out that several people that I considered to be friends/acquaintances have been shit talking about me behind my back in a chatroom when they thought I wasn't there, including several people that I respected and thought were standup guys.

One of them even went so far as to edit chat logs to make it look like he was on my side and helping me, when in reality all he said was "fuck, OP is PMing me again", and then lied to me again when I asked if he had been honest with me so far. I caught another guy lying and pretending to be on my side, and several others have basically stopped short of outright lying by being very vauge and evasive.

Several others have at least made it clear they want to cut off all contact by blocking me, but I'm confused as to why these guys are lying to me and pretending to be on my side when all they are doing is shit talking about me behind my back. Its really manipulative, except that theres nothing for them to gain by doing this.

I should add that these guys are mostly in their late twenties/early thirties, so we aren't talking about some shitty teenagers here (physically at least), but boy, the stuff they have been saying when they thought I wasn't there has been incredibly childish and stupid. Pretty much the kind of insults you see teenagers use.

What do you do when you discover that people whom you thought were your friends/acquaintances have been lying and putting up a facade the entire time, and shit talking about you behind your back?
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>>17962132
This case is.

These aren't random strangers, they are part of a niche community group thing that I have been part of for years. If it was random strangers I wouldnt give a shit, but for guys that I have known for years to lie to me, shit talk behind my back and manipulate me to make themselves look good really hurts.
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>>17962136
But you have never meet them in meat space?
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>>17962148
nope
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>>17962163

well forget about them and find some new pals

otherwise yes its painful
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>>17962163
You are sure that you are not really annoying online right? That would be an easy explanation.

I never came during sex not even after 10 hours of fucking. How can I make myself cum? Are there any supplements? I can cum when I fap.
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>>17962111
You do not have to stop. Just do it less often, and grap your cock lighter when you do.
And no there are no supplements.

It could also be related to anxiety.
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>>17962024
I'm hoping that wasn't 10 hours straight or else that chick is going to hate you. I used to not be able to cum, turns out it was a mix of jacking off too much and anxiety from worrying about impregnating someone. I suggest not fapping as much, but if you have anxiety like I did it's something you will have to work on personally.
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>>17962145
Yeah its probobly anxiety. How do I fix that?
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>>17962152
You take it slow, and forget about cumming. You have to learn to let go and just enjoy the moment. Do you have a steady sex partner?
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>>17962152
if you aren't jerking off multiple times a day then it's definitely anxiety
it may be worth talking to a doctor about but i recommend practicing meditation, learn to be able to clear your mind of thought and youll be able to enjoy yourself a lot easier

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Do girls show their breasts to male doctors? Do the doctors act unprofessional and look for reasons to touch them and masturbate later?

Can girls request a female doctor?
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>>17961783

>then for a split second went out of bounds and spent some extra time during a breast exam

If he distinctly started feeling a girl up during an exam in a sexual, non-medical manner, the patient and in-room nurse would take notice very quickly and the doctor would be on a fast track to losing her job and potentially his freedom.

>couldn't forget it later in the shower

Who fucking cares? Who would know?
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>>17961794

>her job

*his job
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>>17961783
There's a reason guys like you usually don't make it through medical school and actually stick in practice

plus as an another anon mentioned, after seeing them so many times in a clinical setting and having to drill into your head the technical anatomy and shit, it almost ruins the experience. Same reason that baristas get sick of coffee. Same reason photographers don't have permaboners aren't models. Same reason working at a shelter has numbed me to meeting cute puppies and instead immediately looking to see if they have worm belly, fleas, healthy weight, etc. if you work in a field where you're dealing with something frequently, you become desensitized to it. Even boobs. Even puppies.

>>17961771
This desu. My mom just recently completely fucked up a doctor's career because she talked about how weird they acted when she needed a mammogram. this stuff will make you unhirable at best, criminal at worst.
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>>17961470
>Can girls request a female doctor?

yes plenty of them are available now
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Anyone who is involved with health care has been properly instructed on sexual harassment policies and subsequently desensitized to breasts. The nature of the job, or really any job involving exposure, removes a lot of what you might imagine to be sexual tension.

That's not to say that doctors can't appreciate a nice set of tits, but they're probably not gonna go jerk off like teenagers over it. Hell, I learned how to place an EKG on my hot, topless instructor, and even then the situation is often so devoid of sexual energy that it often doesn't register.

I want to know how to deal with my stubborn girlfriend. U feel like she constantly cannot take criticism well and blows issues out of proportion. I find it incredibly hard to stand up for myself in situations because I'm scared of conflict with her which leads to her having no respect for me.
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>>17961713
Sound like she treats you like vending machine.
I bet she is that type of person:
>duh, i let you have sex with me, now you will do this
I would ran away. But maybe you will like this. Some people have relationships just because the surroundings tell them to. Try asking her dangerous question:
>why do you even want boyfriend?
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>>17961703
You let her treat you the way she wants because you're scared of being alone, right?!

Well, bad news for you, it doesn't get any better, at the worst, she will find a man that she can look up to and dump your sorry ass.
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How do I not "let her"? What behavior do I exhibit to make her respect me?
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>>17962166
>What behavior do I exhibit to make her respect me?
The ability to walk away from her, permanently, without hesitation, at any time.
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>>17962172
Expect to do so. She probably won't respect you. That ship may well have sailed. But at least you'll respect yourself again, and have a chance to maintain that respect and those standards in your next relationship.

Welcome to the "So You Wasted Your Life" General. Have you wasted your life? Let's talk about it because why not.

25 here. Totally wasted my life. Not a single real achievement to my name and no friends left in my life. Just an unstable mother and a shaky roof over my head.

Pic not related, unless you want it to be.
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>>17962022
That one year of work now turned into the second year, but I at least figured out I want to become a programmer or software developer.

Chronic depression, bipolar, started drinking and smoking on weekends, body image slowly fading, but still a lot above avarage. Have 10/10 gf, but feel bad about it, because she has never failed in life and is writing her diploma, getting jobs everywhere, wants to have kids with me by this point. She did everything she had to in life till now.
I wasted 3 years by now, seeing my old friends almost finishing college and never calling me again when they go out to hang out. I know I'm not what I was, developed some kind of stupidity, don't show the energy when I talk, even when I do a super funny joke people just smile a bit. If a friend repeats the same joke everyone is bursting in tears basically.
Dead on the outside, but somehow manage to be good enough when it matters, incredibly dead on the inside.
Started working in a dead end job in a factory 2 weeks ago, wake up at 5AM and drill holes for 8 hours, repetitive motion, hard as fuck and exhausting. The only reason I do it is to buy car and save up for apartment when I go to college in October. Have to finish my final high school papers and have to study 4 years of material in 5 different subjects. Feel like I'm going to fail, even though I have 4 months left to study and a lot of gathered material to do so.
In these 3 years of depression and not really using my brains, develop a serious learning disability, can't focus and memorize anything. Sometimes read same stuff 20 times and still not imagine it in my head and have to re-read it and super focus on it. Everything I do or learn, there are voices in the back of my head talking about what a failure I've become. Sometimes get momentum and feel I'm on the right path, actually have a calm happy face instead of serious dead look I posses. As soon as this happens some IRL stuff goies down and I'm back to anxieties/depression
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>>17962036
Thanks to the shitty job I do right now and seeing how hard some people work for their monthy low wage paycheck and money, I have gotten the biggest revelation and enlightenment about how hard life is if I'm not going tu study like crazy for the next 4 years.

That's about it, a lot more to write, but feels good to get it out. I know I'm ''only'' 21, but I feel 50 and as I've thrown my best years of life away, while everyone around me had fun. This hurts the most I think.
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28 in a week..didnt achieve anything at school...live with parents and work a part time job in the mornings which i hate.
suffer from anxiety and depression..
have a great gf
cant bare to think ill have to do some dumb job the rest of my life so im killing myself trying to find ways to earn an income on my own somehow.

totally depressed and down.
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I wasted my life, but I realize that's a blessing as well as a curse because it means I have no obligations, nothing holding me down. I can just go travel and be a bum on very little money, live in tents and hostels, do the things that most people probably think are cool and wish to do themselves deep down but don't have the courage to do. There are ways to retain your pride when you've wasted your life. You can reject consumerism in full and live in harmony with nature, enriching your mind, body, and soul. If you see the world you will have gained something valuable that most people miss out on. Reject society seriously, not half assedly and you will feel so much better about yourself. You can't keep suckling off the teat of society, indulging in the pleasures of the wage slave without being a wage slave yourself if you want to have any pride. Only small minded folks with no imagination can't find a way to enjoy life and derive meaning and fulfillment from it on the road with very little money.
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If you are still in your twenties and you think you have wasted your life, can't you see how that is completely your attitude that is at fault? It doesn't even make logical sense.

Anyone and everyone here can make changes and live the life they want.

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So did i do something illegal?

TLDR girl friend cheated on me and used a computer I let her use since it was my old one.

So during the break up i felt bad for goin off on her and gave it to her. Just a verbal thing.

Then i changed my mind and sold it. Is there any legal recourse for that? Or is it fine since it was never really her property.

I do not have any proof of purchase since i got it from a friend however he can verify i did purchase it from him.
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Possession is 9/10ths of the law. Who has it now? If her, good luck getting it back. If person you sold it to, all gravy.
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>So did i do something illegal?
you sold her computer
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No, that's not illegal, and no cop would waste their time entertaining the idea that it was
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>>17962151
cops wouldn't be involved, this is a small claims court situation
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is she threatening to call the cops on something like this? this isn't even worth a cops time to pursue, let alone provable in any way

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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>>17962095
Really depends on the reason for her not having any interest in the first place.
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>>17961307
yes, but i hope its something he is able to overcome or at least keep under control, because from a past relationship with a guy that was depressed i can say that its def not easy.
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>>17962120
religious upbringing, also she's very gullible and not exposed to sexual things at all, she doesn't even like to joke around sexual things. We talked about this and she said that she agrees to start sharing her unexplored sexuality with me, we've only become a couple for about a month now and this are going REALLY well, we had different experiences with sexuality but have agreed on the way we view the act of sex itself
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Looking for advice from either gender

>been in classes with a girl for 1 year now
>we study together a lot and spend a considerable amount of time together
>we've become decent friends but our relationship outside of school is fairly weak
>we've had dinner together on occasion and gone out to events but there has never been any intimate moments beyond casual touching (but no hand holding or anything like that) or standing really close
>I suspect she views the relationship as platonic
>I wish the relationship was more than platonic
>I've asked her to do things this week but she had to cancel on all of them due to work or other circumstances
>I still need to study with her through this semester since we're both top of our class and help each other excel

So my question is this:
Should I approach her about making the relationship more than just friends if I think that she:
a. probably views us as solely platonic
b. I still will need to be around her for extended periods of time every week

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>>17962149
Well, then just give her time i guess, and take it slow. As someone who was brought of strictly Catholic, both at home and in school, and it took me quite some time to get comfortable with my sexuality (I've had my first orgasm with 18), give her some time and ease her into it.

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What are the lessons people most often learn too late in life?
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To start loving yourself. Treat yourself like a baby left on your doorway, and you have to raise them. So ,many of us wat for someone to come along and do that, and it never happens
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>>17962018
That's nice advice you
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Not to take loved ones for granted. Make time for them and let them know you care about them,because there's no guarantee how long they'll be here
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It is better to die a coward than live as a fool. A fool who think's he is free when he is not. Who is bounded by chains of societal norms.
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>>17962018
>Treat yourself like a baby left on your doorway, and you have to raise them. So ,many of us wat for someone to come along and do that, and it never happens
great great quote



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