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Hi /adv/
I'm in this situation where most of my classmates and friends are muslims but now they aren't allowed to be my friend if I don't convert to Islam which I totally get. I have considered it for a long time because it's a beautiful religion and these are my best friends I'm just not sure because idk if I really believe in god.. Should I convert? Are there any converts here?
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This is a >>>/pol/ bait thread, isn't it?
I think if I want out nothing incredible will happen other than maybe some of them will not talk with me anymore. They're not going to kill me. Why do you think that?where are you from? source?
As a muslim. No they will not kill you. If you're not from a muslim family chances are no one will give a shit other than your friends who will probably just stop talking to you
Even then, Muslims that do "leave" are usually just disowned or whatever, killings are rare only ever happen in the middle East or whatever.

Also as a muslim, your question in the OP is bullshit. Muslims can be friends with non Muslims, what a load of shit.
>they arent allowed to be my friends cause im not muslim

no this is wrong they probably dont know shit about their religion
It certainly is.

For the 25+ anons/losers.

It seems that most threads on /adv/ are made by idiotic kids who don't realize how much time they're wasting on a chinese drawing forum.
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I'm a month from being 25 and my life got a lot better after 22-23.

I spent my whole time at 22 working 15 hour days for minimum wage after graduating with a degree I hated. Spent a trying to find a way out while trying out a few different job fields which didn't work out.

At 23 I got a good job but also got a DUI and it basically ruined everything and half of everything I earned went to court fees until they found out and got rid of me.

Eventually I got a good job and I can finally afford shit I want now but yeah I worked with alcoholics who were still in fast food at 32 and shit and I wish everybody's lives always got better as they get older.
Its not that they have no girlfriend, it's that they've never had one. Like me: I'll be thirty in about a year and I've never had a girlfriend. On paper I'm not a loser (car, house, job, friends, etc) but it doesn't stop me from feeling like one because I'm still unable to attract anyone. I'm going to inherit about 1.5 million dollars in housing assets when my parents pass too so I'm a walking target for gold diggers if they'd even give me a chance... Oh well. I'll continue being that friendly fat guy that everyone likes having around but always leaves alone. I've survived this long so what's the rest of my life, yeah?
I see your problem, my friend. You're listening to your negative voices. Make your life the way you want it. Never give in to negativity. Never break. You are stronger than you realize. Embrace it.
>I'll continue being that friendly fat guy

Or you could simply start dieting and be that friendly guy after a bit of time.

It's not even dieting as much as it's just, not over eating. If you eat what you normally eat, but count the calories and set goals to eat set amounts, you'd lose weight.
If I got a lot of money from inheritance and no one to share it with I would probably purposefully sell anything that looks too big or rich and put it into the homestead.

Helps give you purpose.

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Dear C,
What the fuck is happening to me. I almost don't know you and yet you are something for me, more than a crush.
And Wtf. Everybody is telling me it's obvious that you feel something for me, but you have a boyfriend, and you haven't broken up with him, and aaaarrgh. Why.

And if only I could do something,like at least try to get to you and see what happens, but I can't. Because you are with E and I have played this before, and I don't want to hurt any of you, but I don't know if E loves you and I can't tell if you still want to be with him and I feel broken, and shattered and probably I shouldn't write no fuck in letter after drinking.

And I even if I had the opportunity to have a relationship with you I don't know if that's what I want. Because you' re so good, and inexperienced, and I'm the kind of asshole who constantly hurts people, and if I did hurt you I don't know what I would do.

I can't be with or without you.

That sounded gay.
Don't string me along. Tell me to fuck off, or welcome me back and let's be everything.

Ps: I think you're pretty.
There's so much I want to talk to you about and I know one day we will. I'm sorry for what you've been through and I'm sorry that I contributed to your pain. I hope you're healing, I hope you're happy.

You are a radiant woman and you deserve to be understood.

I love you.
i said sorry
and i didnt read the whole thing lol sry

hope hes ok
Dear W,

I am really glad that you are my friend. Every time we talk or hang out I feel amazing. I feel that I fit in, that I am one more person away from being completely alone. First time we met, way back in first semester, I already found you very cute and imagined how it would be to date you. I felt so stupid when I found out you started dating M after that. I was sure you two were a couple for way longer. When I realised that if I had just mustered the courage to talk some more, it could be us. I would have never gone for the other W and wouldn't be this mentally and financially unstable wreck. Yes. I am unstable again. I told you that I finally got comfortable with being alone, and it was all truth. But literally days after that it started changing. You breaking up with M, it made me perceive you as my potential girlfriend again. And it fucks me up. Because I know how horribly this would end. Because I don't want to ruin what we have. Because we wouldn't fit as a couple and it would drive me crazy. Because I'm ashamed of my poverty, laziness, of all the books that I haven't read, of all the things that I didn't engage in that would legitimize my life. In my eyes you are way above me. Smart, with hobbies, with passions. I catch myself thinking about how could we get closer. It stings like fuck everytime our conversation burns out. And it's not okay. Just know that if I behave weirdly - it's just me. I am again loosing my ability to have a life not centered around having someone. I am trying to fight is since I don't believe dating someone is the solution. I will do my best to not make this awkward for you.

I really like you. Thank you for being. Whether you find it or not I hope this won't break anything between us.

Your friend,

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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?

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But I really am.. I don't know how to change it. When I look in the mirror I feel bad. Also this >>17691606
Thing is, I'm like super sure that it's just chit-chat bullshit and that flirting would be inappropriate. Thanks for responding.
I feel so conflicted man. That's sounds like a great one night stand to me.

From the perspective of a Virgin loser....
Assuming that you're striving to better yourself as it is, if you can't muster the feeling that you're attractive, maybe be a little dishonest with yourself. Tell yourself you're better than that even if deep down you don't feel like it yet.

When you get into the habit of talking to yourself with respect, you start to believe it too, and then you actually do become more attractive and the things you tell yourself become true about yourself, you see?

This doesn't mean being cocky or arrogant, but treating yourself like you're worth it in general is an attitude shift that can be a huge factor.

It wasn't. It was really awkward man. As I said, i tried it again 2 years later with a different girl. It was just as awkward.

>be 22
>meet girl on tinder
>went on short hike with her in a park
>went back to her place and sat on couch
>she was right up against me
>watching Criminal Minds
>she turns and looks at me
>start making out
>I get ontop of her
>she stops and looks at me and says randomly "wait, are you a virgin?"
>startled I said "no"

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How often do people lie or exaggerate story's and concepts? How often do people avoid talking about certain things to fit their narrative?
I consider myself quite the liar (for the greater good,) and I'd say I lie...maybe 20 times a day, or, at least a couple of times in every conversation I have.
people lie quite a lot, especially when it comes to women. even when it comes to shit like height and weight people lie
I wouldn't say I really lie all that much but I exaggerate the importance of just about everything on my resume and it works.

Quite obviously this depends on the person. Some do it more and without a thought, some actively try to avoid it. You need to get to know people before you can tell where they fall with this.
I do the same. I lie to keep the vibe of the mood constant. As a truth could damper the mood.

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My gf childhood friend is behaving inappropriately and is hitting on her hard in front of me.

If this was any other guy I would put the smack on him, but this guy is terrible deformed. He was born with a birth condition that basically makes him look like a burn victim. It's really painful to look at him.

I can't bring myself to say anything mean to him, so I let everything pass.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation?
no but poor guy and I'm sure your gf is in a difficult spot too. How the fuck to you shoot a guy like this down? Impossible
Just tell him that it is not cool to hit on someone else's girlfriend right in front of them.

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Do you have to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend about things you did before you started dating. There are things that i know she would break up with me over that i hope she never finds out. Am i morally obligated to tell her these things?

For example, i messed around with a guy before. It turns out i didnt like it and I'm not even bi, just a confused kid, but she's very homophobic and would leave me.
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I think OP shouldn't tell her unless it comes up(even then it's up to him) but people are all of the things they continually do for the most part. You have to look in the past to predict the future.
>completely talking out of your ass

Seriously, you could take two seconds to plug in into google instead of talking about shit you have no clue about. But don't take my word for it.

I'm in the same boat OP. I had a series of flings with men, but everyone is confused as they grow up.

How do you know you dislike something without having tried it? It's the same thing.

But I'd never tell my girlfriend, I don't think she'd understand or look at me the same way.

Past is the past OP.
Dude, don't you ever give any woman that kind of amo!
>but everyone is confused as they grow up
Everyone as kids may be confused about a lot of shit but not everyone is confused about wanting a dick so stop speaking for every male. If you liked dick fine but it has never crossed my mind and a lot of other men would tell you the same.

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>ask for girls numbers
>I just got a new phone and don't know my number

Women stop fucking doing this just lie and say you have a boyfriend, it's a much better way to reject someone.
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Nothing personnel kid

I hope so she was a qt.

Lord kek pls bless me with cute gf
Female here. I know it seems really rude, and probably irritating that women aren't upfront.

The thing is, most of us have tried saying we have a boyfriend as well as outright rejection. Neither of them are good options. Thing thing with men who ask you out w/o knowing you is that you don't know them either. You don't know how they'll react or what they'll do. When you have variables in a situation, it's best to prepare for the worst case scenario. That means that you can't outright reject men because a percentage will become enraged, inappropriately attached, and may injure or stalk the woman. This is really not as uncommon as you may think. Every woman I know has at LEAST one story about a guy like this, if not five or ten stories. I have tried the 'I have a boyfriend/husband" line, and it actually seems to make most men pursue even MORE aggressively.

So please, understand that because women are typically weaker and more physically vulnerable than men, we have to protect ourselves against crazies, autists, and the guys who 'just dont get it'. Giving an airtight reason as to why you can't give them your number without rejecting them is one way to do that.
Go back to your containment board.
I didn't ask her out I asked for her number.


>Women are typically weaker and more physically vulnerable than men

Good god woman that's a load of shit. They won't do fucking anything unless no one else is around, and even then most men are pussies and would just get mad.
please don't tell me you think OP's example is anywhere near airtight.

I actually think it would work well on a lot of men, though. They'll assume that you're too retarded to have a functional relationship and walk off.

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I'm 29/yo man and Junior CompSci student at Uni. My wife is preg. Wat do? Work fulltime and school part time? Parttime work and take on more school to rush and finish? Please don't say abort it.
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Never heard of buckshot?
We planned to get pregnant, just about 1 year from now. Also, I am a man and we are definitely having this baby.

This sounds like great advice as well, gentlemen. Thank you. I currently work evenings and weekends and will continue doing that but I just don't think i'll be able to keep doing school fulltime during the day and be able to help my wife with kid. Maybe I'll do like many of you have suggested and keep with classes just not as many.

see >>17691372
Also pic is relevant because I want to bring home the meat for mom and kid - like a proper man.
I was in the exact same situation. I went balls out at school for my senior year and started working full time after I graduated. (I always had a part time job while at school). My parents helped out some, but we still had 0 cash. It wasn't a problem because we just did around the house stuff anyway. You're not going out clubbing when 8 mo pregnant or with an infant.

I was happy then, and looking back, I still think it was one of the happiest times in my life.
>Bro, do you even read?
You said you were a man and s/he replied that you shouldn't become a mother until you're ready. This shows his/er understanding of genderfluidity. Just because you're a man doesn't mean you can't become a mom you cisnormative cunt
Just remember a timely abortion is even more critical for a man.
Go down to your local welfare/social service office and ask for what programs are open to you.
Go down to your local church and ask for donation for baby stuff.

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First off, I'm 28 and not sexually inexperienced/a virgin/autist/whatever.

I only find my nipples to be erogenous. My vagina doesn't feel like a sexual organ to me at all. Being eaten out feels no more sexual than if someone was licking my arm.

I can get close to orgasm from nipple/breast play though. wtf?

is this normal? will guys find this creepy?
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My girlfriend is some of like you. She knows I want to fuck vagina ass etc... All good she doesn't mind and enjoys seeing me happy but... I don't like having her feel left out.

She gets off with nipple breast play. So... I just titty-fuck her 90% of the time and when she has her orgasms, I switched to fucking her pussy / ass what not. Tends to make my own orgasms that much more explosive and such inside her, or on her. She likes me rubbing my dick against her nipples and such. So... Yeah and she seems to love it.

I'm pretty vanilla. When it comes to sex. So being able to tit-fuck, get oral which was not something I normally did with previous girlfriends. Has been pretty fucking awesome and she can have epic orgasms too. And if i don't want to cum on her face from titty-fucking, I can wait for her to cum and then I can go inn and enjoy the afterglow and it seems to make everything all the better.

Good stuff. Just have your dude do his thing on your tits instead of just thinking of himself all good.
Plenty of women out there are like you. Arousal is different from stimulation. I like seeing and feeling a guy play with my tits because I like the tease and it makes me feel sexy. I can get close to orgasm with breast play alone. Watching a guy pound my vagina makes me feel like a cum dumpster (which some girls are into), so it's harder for me to get off that way, unless I'm in the mood to really milk his cock and have him fill me up with his cum. A lot of it is mental.
in queue today at Starbucks behind a really good looking man about 45 and I got real close and kept brushing my nipples lightly against his back. He turned and smiled and looked at my tits, I think he heard my heart pounding in my chest. Oh my fucking god
As a totally straight guy who finds cunnilingus kinda gross and loves nipple play I would marry you.
>good looking man about 45
As a representative of good looking men about 45, I'd like to say Thank You and invite you to keep rubbing your nipples on us in the future.

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how do ask out a really shy girl ?

Like you ask out any girl. Just give her time to form a response without pressuring her.

Shy people tend to be surprised when people express interest in what they say. She will be uncertain how to react and if you get impatient, she'll just freak out even more. If she says something like "I'll think about it", it doesn't necessarily mean she's rejecting you, but that she needs to sort out her thoughts before saying anything. You might been to bring it up again, too because even if she does want to go out, she could be too shy to bring it up again with you. Basically, be patient, but other than that do what you'd do with a non-shy girl. Talk to her, flirt and listen to what she says and especially keep an eye on how she non-verbally reacts.

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As the title says.

I'm about to graduate with a BS in Neuroscience. I want to study the neuroscience of drugs, psychedelics and stuff like that. I'm networking now, going to conferences about psychedelics and drug policy and stuff. GPA is probably a 3.3ish. Haven't taken the GRE yet. I know I need a job and experience to get into grad school, and I've applied to a few so far.

Problem is I feel almost paralyzed with fear/anxiety. Mom and Dad are both successful, MBAs, Dad owns his own firm, makes a lot of money. Sister is in med school. And I'm just floundering around.

Parents think I play too many video games, but I always get my work done, and I'm getting solid Bs. Don't really have any friends, don't really go out except to dinner with my parents, and I have no idea how to "get out there". I feel like I'm kind of stuck in place, but I don't want to move out of my cozy routine either.
As long as you are moving forward in life its fine. I would recommend getting out of your comfort zone now though. That way in the future when you have to deal with people you are ready for it.

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If I plan to do a master's in somethint I have limited experience in would it be best that I go to a community college first?

My goal is to get a master's in cs and I have a bs in math with some experience already, but I'd feel more comfortable trying it out at a cc first.

I just don't have any references that I know so I'm kind of going in blind.
It's not a bad idea. If you get into a program with no formal CS experience, you'll probably have to take a few classes as deficiencies anyway. A community college would be a cheaper way of getting those classes finished and seeing if it's something you want to commit to.

So I asked out a friend a few days ago and she said no, She technically lied and said she has a bf (she is single) and I have moved on, we haven't had contact except for school where we casually talk in a group like friends but once I tried to talk to her 1 on 1 she refuses to look at me. Do you guys think she just needs time and I need to give her space or is she genuinely creeped out by me? I would like to stay friends with her but if that means It's awkward I will give up on that
Give her space. Her defenses are up. Just play it chill and act like nothing is going on.
Give her space and she'll probably become friends with you again. But unless something drastically changes, don't assume she wants to date you if she starts being nice to you again.

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>be me
>do karate with this qt 3.14
>Our minds click, like finish each other's sentence levels.
>Have gone out places just the two of us before and it is always a blast
>Problem: She has BF of 5 or so years
>Been best friend's with this guy for years and he is friends with all her friends. They are all best buddies and i am just that guy from karate to most of them.
>Girl tells me BF is jealous of me because I am 10x manlier than he is and he doesn't understand karate
>BF is total cuck (2 stories for this one if ya wanna hear em)
>Girl is really bad with making decisions sometimes (gets really nervous and junk about stuff)
>Wanna tell her how I feel real bad

What do? I really really like her, like head over heels shit. I don't want to ruin perfect friendship and her friendship with others by telling her how I feel. I know I am better for her than her cuck BF but I don't want to put her in a hard place, having to pick me or him. HELP
Don't make it about feels, make it about sex. It's easier that way.

Put your hands on her, get her to fall into your touch, and it'll be easy from there. Don't even bring up the boyfriend, he's not a factor in this.
>i wanna steal my friend girlfriend who is acting like a whore.

Ask yourself. Would you ever be comfortable in a relationship with her after what she did to the guy before you?
>>BF is total cuck
so she already had cuckholded the guy with other men and you still want this cunt. He may be a cuck but you are an idiot
i wouldent recommend it. it will cause an unbelievable amount of drama for something that might not even be worth it. yeah, you click but that doesent always mean that a long term relationship will work, you might not be compatible in other ways. plus, she is happy with her current gf and things sound like they are working with them. up to you at the end of the day, if you're willing to sacrifice for something that might not even happen, sure, go for it.

i would like to hear the story of her bf being a cuck.

also, how doesent he understand karate? if he is going to the classes, shouldent the coaches be teaching him the correct technique.
OP clarifications
A) She is not a whore. she is a virgin. By cuck I am using it in /pol/ terms as in he is a pussy.
B) Dude is not my friend. Weird ass motherfucker.
C)>>17691615 dude wtf i am not just gonna start grabbing on her. i have more respect for her than that

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