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Here’s a little background information.
I’m currently a senior in HS and I’m black myself. But here is my problem. I really dislike black people. Mostly because of the way most of them conduct themselves. From being loud and obnoxious to barely being able to construct a sentence without the words “nigga” or “bruh”, and because of this I mostly tend to hang out with other races besides blacks and have minimal conversations with them. I feel like my mentality at the moment might not lead to good things later on in my life. How do I stop this way of thinking?
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>>20040213
Kill me, Pete
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>>20040183
You can judge a person by their speech and behavior and decide whether or not you like them, that's fine. But it's fucked-up to make it all about race, if you open your eyes and look around you will see people of other races acting the same way even if they don't say "nigga."

Certain aspects of "black culture" are self-defeating and destructive, it is true. But this "culture" is not universal to black people. There are many exceptions, you seem to count yourself as one of them, and it is naive to think you're the only one.

And not only that, but some of these guys you're judging by their surface-level behavior might not really be that bad. I am not black, but I could sometimes act like a bit of a "bro" jackass when I was with my group of friends in high school. There's a competitive thing among guys in some social circles that encourages this kind of behavior, but if you get to know those people as individuals, some of them are probably all right.
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>>20040183
>How do I stop this way of thinking?
Perhaps read some works by upstanding intellectual black authors. Not being sarcastic. It doesn't have to be "black intellectual" either.

Or just some milk-snortin' afrofuturism for shits and giggles.

Just for reference, I partly grew up in rural New Jersey (dad needed to be nearer sick grandpa), and blacks were not totally unusual. Some mixed race too. I had black friends, the social circles were not segregated or exclusive. Most were pretty normal, nearly as redneck as everyone else desu, and I always had the feeling racial tensions were somewhat relaxed. This was in the late 90s though...

>inb4 hurrr new jersey
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Go to university.

Study culture, study art, languages, colonialism, history, expression.

Learn about performative identity.

Look up books by african american authors, they've probably written about this kind of thing.
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>>20041155
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KC2r4VnmD2E

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Last one is about to die. GIOYC
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>>20041197
It's just an emotion, what you want is sex, pay a hooker.
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my belly gets hot when I go to sleep
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somebody please blow on my belly and suck my dick
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>>20041199
if only it were legal nationwide, then it would be so much easier, but no, love involves sex but it's a lot more than just sex
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just drank WATER

So as a young Marine surrounded by nothing but dudes all day you tend to get a little woman deprived. On instagram this Asian lady messages me to rate her nude performance on skype asking me to judge and I agree. I go on and it is legit her naked doing a show and she asks me to show her my dick to get her wet. I agree and then she cuts off her cam and shows that she recorded that footage of me and threatened to share it with my friends and family. She demands 750 dollars for her rent but I lie and tell her I only have 100. She agrees to 100 meaning she must be really desperate. I send her 100 dollars through western union to the Philippines. She said she would have deleted the video after she got the money but is now asking for 50 more. I figure she will pull the same thing after I give her 50 so I made her believe that I have absolutely no money left and that I don’t get paid until a month from now. She said she will wait. I have her landlords information that she sent for me to put in. What do I do? Anything that y’all can help with?
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If it's just you getting your dick out let her go. I mean it's embarrassing but what else can you do? I'd rather my entire social circle see me with my dick out than let some filthy chink whore blackmail me out of $100.
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>>20041173
This
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are you fucking 60? loooool only old ass people get scammed this easily
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>>20041183
He's a crayon eating Marine, it's expected of him
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>>20041042
Post the vid please

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>>20 years old.


How can I tell if I am immature?
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>>20041130
I never really paid attention to that. But recently my social anxienty became all time worst.
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>>20041163
Be yourself and people that matter will stick around, even if it isn't "mature."
That being said, have some dignity as well.
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>>20041083
>20 years old
you are
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11
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>>20041083
If you are still learning how to manage your time then you are still immature.
Once you can manage your time wisely you work on your interpersonal skills for your career.
After the first one but somewhere in the second one is when you mature as a person.
If your thoughts don't go past a week or a year at most then you are still immature.

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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>>20041158
College relationships are fake relationships by default, they don’t have to be LDRs for that qualifier.
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>>20041175
His point also involved the fact that most people her asking for help are probably in college so people in their late 20s who’ve actually matured shouldn’t really be giving them advice based on what they were doing as adults in the real world
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>>20041175
A lot of people meet their spouses in college. Most people on 4chan are probably in college anyway so his advice probably rang more true than any of the 30 year old boomers here give
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Do skinny guys repulse girls like female bodybuilders repulse guys?
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>>20041196
No. Many like skinny guys

I wanna know the best way to do this, i mean i hace tried but I don't know if my cutter is not sharp or I don't use enough strength idk help please
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>>20041091
Ok, you sound like a troubled individual, so let's go for parts, can you sustain by yourself?
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Tbh I have tried everything so I can be happy, but I can't stop begin like this, there is no more, I just want to end this, no one can help me, not even my friends, not even my family, not even you, but thanks for trying.
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>>20041121
Who are you to know what I can or can't do?
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Is not because of you, I'm not trying to offend you, I mean that I have tried to get out of this state of mind, my mom tried to help me, my friends tried, no one can and it's not them it's me, I'm sorry
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>>20040999
vertically, not horizontally

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how physical can I get with my gf without being considered a woman beater.

just in case for the next time she gets physical with me. she gave me a concussion last week and I told her this can't keep happening because I can't keep taking time off work and I'm sick of the girls at work fussing over me since theyve known the truth for some time now

I told her if she doesn't get help and does it again that I'm going to have to physically stop her.

realistically how physical can I get? I'm guessing I can seirously hurt her if I grab her arms or wrists. so am I just limited to hugging her?
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>>20038733
one time my ex-girlfriend tried to punch me in the face. I deflected her shot with my left forearm and connected a jab to her nose with my right before i even knew what was happening. Sadly i ended up in jail and no one believed me it was self defense.

my advice is to break up before you accidentally get yourself arrested, its more common than you realize.
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>>20038733
Don't date someone that's hitting you, and you don't have to worry about getting physical at all.
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If this is real then just fuck off OP, you're not listening to our advice that you should leave her and you will regret it.
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As soon as is get's physical, or even better, too heated to be a civil conversation. Tell her time out and cool off period. Don't point blame, just act neutral and say you want to talk with a level head.
Trying to restrain her will likely escalate things.

Also make her know that you need her to get therapy in order to be happy in this relationship, because if you stay and don't insist on improving the problem then you're as pussy whipped as everyone else is saying you are.

I'm giving you and her the benefit of the doubt here, but the above two are requirements for this relationship to possibly work.
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>>20040419
She is mentally ill in one way or another, as abusers and sadists tend to be. By abusing you she vents her negative emotions, finds herself in control, possibly even finds satisfaction in your suffering.
>but I can't just do that without trying other things first ya feel me?
From what I gather this is not the first time she hit you, but rather, it's something that happens from time to time, and yet here we are. Did she try therapy? No, she mentioned that she would like to, but never actually did it. She is playing you like a fiddle, and at this point it's painfully obvious that you have victim mentality, blaming yourself for getting abused, coming up with explanations for the abuse, painting her in positive light even though she gave you a fucking concussion. I'm sorry, you are digging your own grave here. All anons tell you to leave her and give you logical arguments as to why, you keep defending her and this relationship... you say you can leave her whenever. You can't. Most people would leave her after the 2nd or the 3rd abusive episode and never look back. You've grown too dependent on her to do that.

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An ex who hasn't spoken to me in 4 years just sent me a snapchat which I haven't opened yet. I'm really nervous to. We aren't on good or bad terms, we just kind of both fucked off out of each others' life after the break up.

What do? I'm not really sure how to handle this.
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>>20037329
What's the difference between this and staying with someone, in a relationship, for 4 years?

Surely the person will inevitably change - with or without you.
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>>20037314
She's bored and wants attention. Do not give it to her. Don't even open the message. Ghost her.
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>>20039870
I'm going to wait a few days and then open it because I'm curious what he said.

Alternatively, does anyone know how I can open a snapchat message (the blue one), without the other person being able to tell?
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>>20040208
You can slide your finger right on it without releasing it on some phones and it'll show the message
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>>20040208
tell us what she sent when you do it, you got me curious now.

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I'm a dude in my 20s. I kept score of every girl I put my dick in and I hit 70 this past weekend.

I was incredibly insecure with my first gf because she had way more sexual experience than I did, I was a virgin at the time, and I was paranoid as fuck that I was just the niceguy beta falling for a slut.

After we broke up I just fucked everything I could with abandon.

I had great fun, doing fucked up shit, tying girls up, threesomes, peeing etc.

I've reached a sort of clarity now. Im a completely different person now than I was pre-vagina.

I feel wiser, a LOT more cynical (multiple women I fucked were the wives and girlfriends of other men) but now I'm way better at handling women.

I don't want to settle down, but I'm a little tired, managing 4 girls a week takes a toll eventually

How do I seek meaning now? Ive fulfilled my genetic potential.
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>>20040972
Pregnancy scares every single day. I also have over 750 different STD’s
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>>20040378
Yep
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>>20040972
OP here not the troll >>20041004

I've had one girl who had a late period once.

And I got chlamydia from a Croatian nurse a couple of years back, but other than that nothing
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>>20041044
>And I got chlamydia from a Croatian nurse a couple of years back, but other than that nothing

Man that never ceases to amaze me. I have a friend who was a late bloomer - only starting going out etc in his 30s. He's pretty attractive, such that he can still pull college girls at 40. He's laid well over 100 girls by now, and yeah - same deal: No major STD's or pregnancy scares.
Statistically speaking, it's probably impossible for you to not have contracted HPV and HSV at this stage; you're probably asymptomatic for both.

I'm really curious: Do you have oral sex when fucking the random girls? Is it different with FWB's?
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>>20041002
This is bullshit because I've never starved myself to reach gymcel levels or took my mom to help me get dressed or learned 101 knock knock jokes or tried to impress girls with my money like a zuckerberg wannabe and Ive still gotten laid tons of times

This whole thread is retarded.

Women, what are your biggest turn offs in a man?
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>>20040613
>Do women really find this attractive?
Little girls do.

And big gay men.
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Ignorance, lack of critical thinking and low emotional intelligence or self awareness
And to be a brown latino
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>>20040942
>ex. angrily referring to any black people he meets as niggers
>ex. gets upset if I call some black robbers in the news niggers
I....what?
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>>20041149
What about a white looking latino? I'm legit lighter than some of my white friends.
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>>20041059
This I need to know now or I will never make it

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>parents make over 120k a year
>refuse to pay a penny of my college tuition
>their Income fucks me over and I dont get any financial aid
What do
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>>20041014
dude same boat

if their income is allowed to fuck you i assume you live at home

just get a trade that you can afford, do community college and figure it out from there

if i started community college right when i'd started working in my trade, and continued living at home like i am, i'd definitely be able to afford the rest of at least a bachelor's degree by now (i make about 55-60k atm)
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>>20041014
You do what I did. Get a full ride academic scholarship. Or go to a state school where most of your tuition is taken care of.

Stop being a faggot, the only place that ever even looked deeper than "do you have a degree" in my career was Abercrombie & Fitch. To fold pants. In the worst economy in recent memory.
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>>20041014
have them cosign on a private loan that you agree to pay

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I have a girlfriend who is a foreigner. She's living here for 5 months now and that's the same amount of time we're having this relationship. Before that she lived in another country (not her country either). I know her longer than that though, we first met on the internet in 2014 and we are very good friends since. She came here basically because she likes me and because she always wanted to live in my country. She has always been very independent and courageous, traveling by herself all the time.

I live with my parents. She lived in my house for 2 of these 5 months she's been here but went to live by herself months ago because my mother wasn't really too welcoming anymore... We're having some relationship troubles since then but it never got close to what happened today. She's also having some financial troubles, she can't find work without a permanent visa and now she had an altercation with her landlord and doesn't want to stay in that house anymore. She doesn't have enough money for a new place and neither wants to find a cheap place (even though she was already kind of living in a cheap place there) because it will either be full of people (she doesn't want that) or it won't have home appliances (which she doesn't have either). She's also not having enough time to do stuff because she's spending the day in makeup classes (she wants to be a makeup artist).

So, she gave me an ultimatum: I have to convince my parents to let her live here until she can find a better place or she'll leave me and go back to the other country where she lived before because she had friends there who supported her with places to be and work.

I don't think that's fair, I have no control over my parents' decisions and the house is theirs. Is this even worth doing or is it cruel emotional blackmail on her part? I feel really bad thinking that the price of our love is my parents' decision whether she stays here or not. It just doesn't seem right.
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>>20039755
Fucking moron. DUMP. HER. SHE WILL DO THIS AGAIN, AND SHE WON'T STOP
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>>20037808
Ultimatums are sometimes warranted. For example, go to rehab or I'm leaving you
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>>20040581
I still don't like the sound of that
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My parents didn't let her stay here, as I already predicted, but she stayed calm and we're finding a new place for her together.

>>20040529
I mean, I'm gonna give her a second chance. Maybe she was desperate. I didn't say it before but she does have huge anxiety problems. Perhaps when she's stabilized in a home, a job, and therapy, she's going to be okay.

>>20040581
That is a valid ultimatum. The one she gave me wasn't.
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>>20040750
>The one she gave me wasn't.
Kind of is a valid choice, what choice does she have besides going back to her country. I'd expect my s/o to allow me to cohabitate until I were on my feet. Not to say that I'd abuse of the hospitality given to me.

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How do i delete my desire to want attention from people? it makes me feel weak, especially if someone ignores what i say, or if i dont get answered back in messages
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>>20040022
You shouldn't try to deleted it altogether it is a natural want after all, but definitely tone it down a couple of notches. Just go about your day and do other shit instead of just staring at your phone.

Most people do that, they'll see a text and be like "oh yeah I'll reply to him when I get a chance and maybe they forget about it and don't respond until like 12 hours later.
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>>20040071
This,

We all crave positive attention to some degree. We all like it when other people acknowledge us in a sexual and/or social manner.

But don't let yourself get carried away with it.
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>>20040071
Yeah I've been trying to not key it bother me. I guess I have a weird obsession with not being the last text

It makes me feel like the loser

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30+ people
everything and anything
talk, advice, lash out, anything
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>>20040859
I feel like you're hardcore projecting. I dont think Im normal, but Im healthy and pretty happy. Literally nothing in my life is bad except my family, which has nothing to do with 4chan.

Just because you couldnt be here and not turn into someone totally fucked doesnt mean other people cant be here and not be total wackjobs or depressed.
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>>20040882
I'm not projecting at all, I'm saying that if you compare your own life to other people you see on 4chan or people like Chris Chan or some shit then you're completely missing the mark.

This place is an echo chamber of negativity and stupid stupid dumb ideas that you do pick up even if you're not aware.
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>>20040909
a) He's probably lying about being here since 8
b) He'll be fine, he's 18 and has at least 7 years to fix his life.
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>>20040941
>>20040909

My life is about as good as other people's around me, if not better, and Im not lying. Dad specifically introduced me to 4chan.
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>>20041076
You were asking 30 year old 4chan users for advice a minute ago so no your lie is not as great and youre now trying to make it seem and also your dad should be reported to CPS.

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/adv/ idk what to do
>be me
>in GC made by friends
>some weird shit about being married to somebody in the GC starts happening nobody was my age.
>add some cutie my age
>we talked and continued the marriage crap
>we actually have good conversations apart from the gc
>we talk about ourselves and stuff we like
idk I'm sorta weird so I don't really know what to say so I just start asking weird stuff "whats your favorite food" and stuff I guess I'm just autistic or unless chads do this but idk
>she deletes her snap(without me knowing) have no contact with her for 5 months.
> I honestly thought she blocked me and I didn't even have her number
>depressed.wav
>decide life to short to stay stuck on this girl so I focus on myself
>maybe like 5 months later I see her at a party ignore her
> I think she poped up on quick-add on snap so I added her (thought about not adding her but I was like "fuck it, she can add me or not but I'm not letting this slide away")

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>>20040251
>the responsibilities of a gf
>>20040311
>before committing with something

I don't think you've ever had a girlfriend, since you're comparing it to like buying a house that needs heavy repair work.
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>>20040327
by responsiblities i mean
- talking to them often
-caring for them emotionally
-only exclusily talking to them
-take them out
-buy things they may like
stuff like that i don't think I'm ready for that. Buying a house is probably easier since you can literally call anybody else to come fix it.
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>>20040179
HEY ANON, she doesn't like you like that. End of story. It's not your fault, it's not her fault, that's just how chemistry works. Move on.
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>>20040175
>>20040179
>>20040267
Just gonna tell you now because you didnt initiate you got cucked.....but here is what I would do, stay friends with her until later on and then make your move.
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Jesus christ OP you're either really young or really inexperienced and naive. People say this all the time, but as you grow older you come to realize it is quite literally 100% true: stop worrying about ONE girl that you barely even know. You know what you're feeling right now? It's a chemical fuck up in your brain. You're not actually in love with her, you're just lonely and latching onto the first tiny glimmer of hope of being romantically engaged with someone

My advice? Go out more and meet more people. Talk to everyone you can. Meet more girls. Go out on casual dates. Don't even think about dates actually, think more of these things as hanging out. If you hang out with someone you like cool, if not cool as well. Take time to do whatever the fuck you want to do. It's pointless to get so caught up in all this.

We've all been in this situation OP, so take advice from someone who has been to the other side and just stop thinking about this. Realize that your mind is going to try and play tricks on you and keep pulling you back into a vicious cycle of thinking about her all the time, so make a conscious effort to get your mind off this.

I also recommend you to look up some realsocialdynamics stuff, everyone who is ever assaulted by the complexities of the female psyche needs to learn this because literally nobody ever talks about it.




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