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So, I'm beginning to feel really depressed due to the life I'm currently living and I would prefer to start over and take on a new identity. I feel that my identity has become extremely bland and repetitive, so how can I go about changing it? Also, How can I keep the same kind of medication if I take on the new identity? by the way, I would prefer not to state my reasons for this as I find it to be personal.
You have to get rid of all forms of identification
Being dissatisfied with your identity is not a reason to completely start your life over. Don't get me wrong, I understand depression and I was certainly depressed for a large part of my life, but you can always change yourself. Even if you feel that you can't fix things as they are right now, who's to say that you will as a different person? You're going to make the same mistakes if you feel like a change of setting will somehow fix everything.
Please just give some idea of why anon
No clue how to change your identity. You can always move to a new city and act differently, but you'll have the same name and social security number and shit. I've moved a number of times in my life chasing random jobs just to try new things. Started in LA, now living in rural Oregon working in a sawmill. I'm always keeping an ear open for positions that require no experience.

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>Break up with ex gf
>Start talking to a friend who I never had the chance to apologize to due to rough past
>Fast foward to a week ago
>We went out for a couple days but she broke up with me and told me that it was because she wasn't ready for a relationship and that she was still trying to find herself (16 years old)
>Say okay, I'm not wasting my time then and that I'm just going to cut contact
>She practically begs me not to go, but also says to do what I think is best. She says she wants me in my life and was willing to agree to not see other people if it mean I would be in her life.
>Says that she connects with me and that she sees me more than a friend, but just isn't ready for a relationship right now
>Fast foward to now
>Had a conversation with her today, she basically said that I'm everything that she wants in a guy. I'm sweet, understanding, attractive, and I'm one of the few if only guys she connects with intellectually.
>In the fray of us both basically spilling our spaghetti, I ask her if she intends on being more than friends and if she even has any romantic intrest in me
>She says she wants to be more than friends, but she really hasn't had any romantic thoughts towards me

Should I just up and leave? This is getting ridiculous. Shes said multiple times that she likes me more than a friend and we kiss, cuddle, hold hands, ect.
Sounds kind of immature. Well, she's 16....of course she's immature.

People aren't really 'long term relationship' oriented until they're in their mid to late 20s.
Before that, you've got school, more school... a job, apartment,..bills.

Try having a life before you settle down with someone still in high school.

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In 7th-8th grade this young Latino boy I went to school with and was part of a significant part of my friend group at the time asked to see picks of my dick, I bullshited him a few times (he knew it, probably would've told him wanted to do stuff in person) friends we're over and saw so was pressured to bs, he came out as gay to school but wasn't loser.avi. I moved away for a few years moved back, talking to him dated his best friend, nrokd up witj here, harsh, at some point a few weeks ago I was horny and brought the the dick pick thing up, and if I wasn't in a chill/good relationship, I'd be open to stuff in person, he said he would need to, came out as big to me,, broke up with girlfriend (she vented alot to him), anyways we've "hung-out" 3-4 times in the last month or two,genr I come over or more recently (better) he comes over, we generally do some drugs which he is a beginner. I really want to get into a friend's witj benefits type thing. I want to get hard when we're on my bad attached my house and flash my dick, or grab his, what should I do
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Have you thought about no longer being gay?
Not gay, if anything half faggot I'm fine
No difference between bi and gay. If you like cock or buttholes, then you are gay. And frankly, it's disgusting if you don't tell girls about your double life.
So it doesn't matter if I'm attracted to females to you, cool I don't give a fuck
Not how it works, imagine if I asked you to stop being straight, I get the best of both worlds faggot

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Hey /adv/. How would I go about finding a new dealer? The one I know that I met through a friend is out of stock, and it's unlikely that he'll re-stock soon.
Craigslist or Facebook
bars are good if you are observant enough to pick dealers out
Ask a black or latin male in his teens to mid twenties. Guaranteed they know someone.

What is it called when you aren't gay but sometimes you get accidentally aroused by thinking of men?
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Sometimes you're gay, don't worry, it's normal.

for you....
Its called bisexual. Pic related, your somewhere in the bisexual part depending on how you feel, what you do.
It's called, "bi-curious". Or "bi-questioning".

It's no biggie. It's a part of being human. And it's okay to be 'different'. If we were all the same, life would be very boring.

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Alright I feel like I've tried everything with fucking Photoshop. The brush tool behaves like a pan tool when zoomed in
>Restart pc, no luck
>Plug USB in back, no luck
>Deactivate windows ink, fixes panning problem but pressure doesn't work
>Save whatever the fuck notepad file in Adobe file, no luck
>Reactivate windows ink because I don't know what the fuck to do, back to original problem
>Go into system and restart Wacom, working for 2 minutes then no luck suddenly

What the fuck do I do? This seems ungooglable.

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I'm bisexual and prefer males sexually, but want a relationship with a female. My plan was always to date a guy for a while then get a girlfriend once I satisfied my gay side. I finally moved away from home and started trying to date guys, and have some interested candidates. But... I also finally have a girl interested in me! For years I was trying to get a girlfriend and nothing and now that I can finally be with some guys a girl wants me!?

I don't want to let the girl go but I still feel I want to explore my gay side.

What do?
End yourself, at least you will only go to hell for suicide and not faggoty.
oh classic 4chan :) you never grow old
id go for the girl man might not get another chance for a while , defiantly do it if she is a cutie
You obviously want to be with a guy. And you never know, you might decide to be long term attached to a guy. The heart wants what the heart wants.

Getting the 'gay' out by playing around doesn't make those feelings go away in the future. Even if you get with a girl, you'll still gave the urges... just like you do now.

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I was driving my friend home and he started touching me between my legs while I was driving and I told him to stop but he kept trying it even though hes got a girlfriend. Wat do?
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How about asking what you yourself want, dumbass.
I want to know what to do I'm not sure
Mother fucker. Do you want him to touch your dick? No? Tell him to back off next time it happens. Yes? Tell him to fuck off until his girlfriend's gone.
Who said I have a dick? I did tell him not to.
Stop being obtuse. Do you want him to touch your non-dick*? No? Good, you told him to back off. Now tell him today you didn't like what he did, and tell him never to do it again or the friendship is over. If he stops talking to you after that, he was never your friend and only wanted you for sex. If he keeps talking to you and doesn't fuck up, he's truly sorry.

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How can I kill/dull my emotions? I've heard that SSRIs can make you numb, could I buy those online? Hard drugs can do this, but I don't want to fry my brain.
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SSRI actually dont do much (if anything at all), but psychiatrists love to prescribe them to make you feel better.
Do you know another viable way then?
Constantly go through strenuous fluctuations in emotion. Sadness, joy, anger, hapinness, disappointment, love. Put yoursrlf in situations where you force your emotions to hit maximum highs and lows constantly and pretty soon you'll be jaded

>live at home because father passed and mother has no-one else

>brother tried to kick us out of family home along with other greedy senpai members but failed

>now shes abusing the shit out of me due to manipulation off brother even though she knows hes only after money she stupid enough to believe shit

>every day I get struck by abuse by her even though I dodge her manipulation on a daily basis and hates that I have succeeded into college

>she winged about me not working so I go a job earning 80K a year doing intensive labour travelling an hour away to work, she abused me more so I went back to college

>I cannot figure out why she hates me so much

>she has told me that I wont be in her will

Ive basically given up on this induvidual and I dont know how else to mend a relationship with her. My brother and the rest of the family are basically dead to me until all contact is finished then I will pretend they never even existed in my life.

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Oh really? Well you know, I commenced college instead of work like they wanted me to and they all get jealous and then every family family abuse me for last couple of year

There is also a cycle that I dont understand:

>father's family including her own son try's to kick mother out f home during father's death (mothers husband aswell of 20 years), - for money

>I warn these people of a legal battle that they will lose and they will have to pay costs

>brother manipulates mother, mother hates me even though mother knows what hes like

I dont see what I've done wrong other than going to uni, try to find stable employment in the time being to which I even had some really good paying job whilst I ceased my studies. I may have a bit of a joking clown towards them but NEVER fkd them over in regards to money or go into their home to boot people out for money,

so no, I dont see how
wtf? OP here, THIS IS NOT ME
this is also not me
Well. I went straight into work after high school, then went to a shitty college a year late which was terrbile, then got some more okay paying job and went to college,

ceased my studies where I as on a 80k sal. then thought fuk this and went back to uni. Only real reason why I fkd my studies was because my mother would complain that I didnt want to work. I get a job and I get treated even worse so I was like fuk this shit
So wtf are you still there. tell them to get fkd and leave

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I found out my girlfriend cheated on me, fucked another dude. She had no remorse about it. She didn't think it was that big of a deal, we broke up. How do I get to feeling better? After 3 years she dropped everything.
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You're going to end it all because a girl slept with another guy you knew for 3 years? Well, I can kind of understand what you're going through and I can sugar coat it or I can just say you have to be stronger than this and overcome your pain. Remember OP, there are many other girls out there that you can talk to and be around. Don't worry about something like this. It usually takes about a month for me to forget something like this and about a year to get over someone but just remember time will heal your wound.

Get successful life and forget about her

fuck you bitch you arent worth it my man here deserves better
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Anon you cannot just go around killing yourself because of someone else's decisions.
Mourn and feel the pain and then start again.
Work on yourself, learn that you're the only one that cares about yourself seriously.
She’s a fucking dirty cunt whore, fuck her best friend and her mother.

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Is it okay to confess your feeling for a woman if she keeps sending you mixed signals?

It's depressing to keep my thoughts and feelings all to myself.

I don't know what she wants from me. I feel like telling her to cut to the fucking chase and just tell me. I'm starting to grow feelings for her and it's just so damn confusing. I don't want to end up getting hurt, so I'm thinking if it's best to ask now rather than wait later.

Confess what?, if you like a girl just flirt already, otherwise youre just losing time. And what will you confessn "oh I love you", yeah go ahead and see how fast she'll drop you!

No I'm not in love like that. We do flirt. I just don't know if she actually likes me or not.

Also after I posted this thread, she messaged me saying "sorry. goodnight."

I think she could tell I was feeling moody. I'm just so confused man.
When a girl likes you man, you just know.

Ever had a girl like you and you didnt like her back?

When a girl likes you, you can feel it, you can be your asshole self around her.

If you have doubts then shes really not that into you and you know it

Fuck. She just told me she's afraid of opening up to me and getting attached / romantically involved because she's still working things out with someone else, albeit things are shaky. She said she doesn't know what she really wants.

Fuck man. :(

So I'm 23 years old and I've had my first breakup i guess a week ago. I can't even masturbate anymore. I can't look at other women romantically. I just don't know what to do. I feel kinda broken
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Not even a hot take, I listened to it and I was deadass bored af.

I Love You Honey Bear was just so much more interesting sonically, the latest album felt bland and repetitive.
Can I still masturbate to her nudes and videos?
I want to say no, but I'm in the same boat and I really want to. I destroyed my phone accidentally, and if I want to recover her nudes I'm gonna have to pay to fix it, so that's stopped me from fapping to her nudes.

But no Anon, I don't think tricking yourself into getting dopamine highs when you see pictures of her is going to help you get over her
Man, I really do hate this attitude. Being alpha is such a crock of shit. We all get our hearts broken, whether or not we want to admit it, and quite frankly there's nothing wrong with it. Sometimes being sad is the correct response. Sometimes being sad for a long time is the correct response. Without experiencing pain, and loss, and sorrow, how are we supposed to grow stronger? How are we supposed to learn empathy? How are we supposed to realize our own vulnerability and our own resilience? If you aren't willing to open yourself to getting hurt, what's the fucking point?
heartbroken guy that posted option 3) above, I agree with you, I dont want this to just be my brain chemicals, I want to find something that transcends the material world, all I see is my love for her, I can suffer and console myself with the ideea that she's maybe happier with someone else but dont tell me I am supposed to shut down my heart, even sadness is an expression that I give a shit about someone else, so be it, anything is better than to stop believing in love, what the fuck else is there to life, there is absolutely nothing.

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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

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To femanons: This girl and I have been seeing each other a lot lately but both of us avoid calling it dating. I initiate it all the time and I'm trying to be clear about it being a date but I'm afraid how she might react since she started mentioning her ex bf at least once every time we see each other and I feel like she's not completely over him so I think spending more time together and then over time making my intentions more clear is a better option than just being straight up now since she might bail on me.

Thing is, we're meant to see each other on monday and she seems up for it, but she's being vague in her replies. I had that happen with a different girl before and I don't like where this is going. What do I do? I'm anxious and in a shitty mood because thats all I keep thinking about...
It was 4/20. Did you expect thoughtful prose from me?
I like you.
Either way, would be more than happy to help you out with that.

My dad is cheating, to what extent I'm not certain. My mom is aware of the situation but I'm not sure if she will leave or not. If my parents decide to split up they will both be able to support themselves and my sister. I'm not sure what my sister will choose to do since she isn't (but almost) of adult age. I'm 19 and in college. My dad pretty much covers my tuition which relatively speaking is not that high. I just wanna know what steps I should take in order to cover my tuition and possibly my living situation. I have had temporary work before and I'm pretty sure I can find more work if necessary. I have my own car, but my dad also covers my insurance. Located in the US
I'm 19 and not from the U.S.
But I believe it depends whether you will have to move out or not.
I've seen several people in this forum recommending to save for 8 months meanwhile you live in your car and take baths in the gym, looking for a job, any kind of job then you could settle in. Another option is to live with a friend (I think it's called flatmates in there).
By tuition I assume college, and Honestly I doubt you can continue your studies without your father's economical support.
Well if you're 19 then you're already independent. What you'd need is to get a job and make it where your parents can't claim you as a dependent on taxes anymore if they cut you off, that way you can get financial aid.
Thanks for your response. I'm not sure how the situation will unfold. I don't have a strained relationship with either of my parents, but I've just discovered this news recently so I have a jump start on the situation. I can also relocate with other family if necessary, but I just don't want to have to rely on them and be a burden as well. I suppose saving up is the best way to start though.

As for school I'm nearly finished with my second year. I was on track but this news could possibly set my progress back.
Thank you I plan on meeting with the financial aid office at my school as well and will take the necessary steps.

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