Per suggestions from my Friends and most recently my therapist, I am trying out dating apps again and I have a few questions.1) I'm getting quite a few matches, and even replies from attractive women. They will go from posting paragraphs to suddenly no reply at all. I assume their attention has been pulled elsewhere by another guy? Is it even worth trying to message them again to try and get their attention back? I assume not.2) I've been on two dates with two women.>First one was great, and I think we'll actually stay friends but not date. Lotta great conversation.>Second one was really great and this woman has been flirting with me up until the date.After the date, she keeps talking to me, but has significantly cut back on conversations, doesn't bombard me with memes on instagram anymore. And by all accounts seems uninterested. But she keeps texting me? I've asked her out on a second date, and she just keeps dodging it and making up excuses to not go. So clearly she isn't interested, but she keeps texting me out of the blue.So that's my first question. Why is she doing this? Just keeping me in her back pocket just in case her prime candidates don't work out? I'm not upset at this either way. I'm doing the same thing, but should I just block her then? I told her to just let me know when you're available to hang out again and left it at that.Second broader question is, I have had multiple women tell me they're not interested but that I am "such a catch". How does that even work? Is it just them being nice? If I was such a catch, wouldn't you want to go out with me?
>>34073076If you were a plumber for a couple decades, it becomes second nature to look at a piece of shit and be able to comfortably say its a piece of shit within a few seconds and a few context clues and be right 90% of the time.It's called mastering something, try it sometime>>34073071We could say go join a group at the library but based on the 5 other threads discussing it here today, it's full of 40+ year olds and therefore not worth the time or something I guess. Better to be on carousel of dopamine hunters and escapism addicts
>>34073090>It's called mastering something, try it sometimeNah it’s called being a hyper-vigilant jaded asshole who thinks they can discern the depths of others based on snapshots of information and patterns you’ve only ever witnessed from the internet. And don’t try to bullshit me either, game knows game. I used to pull your stunts too back when I too was misanthropic and frustrated at the world. OP has given no indication of being a piece of shit whatsoever.
>>34073107>criticized over-analysing>over-analyses
>>34073119Damn right I did, and if you think it’s retarded remember that’s what you ran on OP lol.
>>34072949find a new therapist.
No matter how much I try to work hard, job and freelance at the same time I never get ahead. I didn't manage to get what I want, no wife or kids. Recently the small company I worked with failed and we all got fired for economic reasons. Should I give up on everything and accept failure and let it all rot? Why should I contribute to this society?
A girl has spilled water on me on purpose after minor disagreement and slapped my face (as a joke) on two different occasions, did not apologize once after giving her countless opportunities to do so. Justifies her every action that she has "learned to act this way". I was hanging out with her because we related in few ways, we both were social fuckups and she felt like she was true to me, would point out the issues I have and not try to be just nice like rest of the people, of course she'd give me compliments for authenticity etc. but I wasn't thirsting for them. I just enjoyed her genuinity but now I feel like she's not good for me at all.
>>34067860>as I said, majority of people in my field are women and I talk to them on a daily basisThat's GREAT for you.(Same anon)>no wonder some guys are incelsyes, but I'll say again: I'm a Volcel, (Voluntary Celebate)I moved back to the Trash State mentioned in the article, into and even MOAR shitty, Fuxxated city FOR my family after being in 2 other states for more than 20 years.(Big fuggin' mistake)I have a little story of the one time I even considered "dating" since I've been here if you want to hear it.Back you your quandary:>>34067911>she has a fucking boyfriend already>how should I proceed?I think you're making the right choice cutting off your connection with her, and probably most would say just ghost her. The forthright approach *seems* like it would be better, but were I in your shoes, I'd go with the latter, as a neurotic like this might have a "Drama Panic", with a straightforward and honest,"I'm done with you" and try even harder to pull you back into her strange fantasy world where she controls you.
>>34067540she wants to fuck you
>>34068151But do I want to fuck her? Told her on several occasions I feel nothing towards her, even if there were some little feelings here and there.>Bro learn to have fun and make it a one night standIntimacy is sacred to me and being a manwhore is not my goal in life. While I do crave intimacy, someone has to be worthy of it. I don't need rape accusations because her fucking hormones told her so. Really unfortunate she was one of the only interesting people that I happened to get along, shame she chooses to be a genuinely shit person.
>>34067540She's flirting bro. Just take the opportunity and plunge
>>34073072She's a massive red flag>got back with ex that dumped her>spreads rumors if things don't go her way>"I hate youuuuuuuu" which is obvious what it means>literally told him that "she found someone more annoying than him">can be violent>rumored to have scored a shit ton of bodieswhy the fuck would I
moids, if you want to be loved for your personality, you need to be a person (that is, not a clone of every other moid) and therefore not be motivated solely by malevolence.
>>34072271i can "entertain" myself but James Madison could entertain me better
>>34072209>unconditionally hate womenI don't hate women, matter of fact two of the most important people in my life as a dude were women. As someone who loves women, you really are being everything you hate. Why even diminish the hope of understanding the other sex, why must you catastrophize and treat them like Scapegoats. Dunno what man's hurt you but men aren't a monolith just as women aren't one either.
>>34072187>posts a picture of a man
>>34072193Lol fpbpOP 'Squirtin Curtains' BTFO'd
>>34072645you want to fuck and beat women. that obviously doesnt mean you love them>i am being blamed for what i choose to do, therefore i am a scapegoat
Wholesome Activities EditionIn this thread, we attempt to ask the opposite gender anything.Previously: >>34068634
>>34075790good ^_^
New thread, frens>>34075791>>34075791>>34075791>>34075791>>34075791
>>34075794Aw snap I’m sorry, I also baked
>>34075752No can do. Especially since femanons never post anything good.
>>34075663holy shit, me but not clickbait
Is it potentially dangerous to eat out a prostitute? Since she always makes her clients use condoms, it should be clean, no?
>>34067732ABSOLUTELY no bro
>>34067732It’s really no less “dangerous” than fucking them. Most people don’t do it because it’s icky but it’s not like there’s some increased risk of STDs.
>>34067832What's wrong with that?
Use a Dental Dam if u decide to do it.
>>34069312You wouldn't taste anything though
I married my wife in 2013 when we were both 23 years old; we'd been dating since our senior year of high school in 2007. We have four kids born 2015, 2017, 2020, and 2022. I had an affair during 2020 and for several months was considering leaving her. She knew this and I went back and forth multiple times. In March 2021 I came to my senses and ended all contact with the other woman. I have never cheated, and will never cheat, again. I was very close with her family prior to the affair. Now there's a... kind of distance. Like they don't trust me as much. They're cordial and polite and are absolutely not cold, but there used to be a warmth that's no longer there.Is there any hope of recovering from this? My wife seems to have fully put the whole incident behind her and trusts me again seemingly as much as she did before 2020, but her family... I don't know. Maybe this is the new forever normal. I hope not. I'm hoping that maybe it was just recent enough that things aren't fully healed, but that they will get there with time.
>>34070309>breaking up a homeYou're talking about having an affair right? Glad we are on the same page
>>34070275Probably they do that because once the crime is committed, you can expect it will happen again. So, if you would cheat on your partner, they will always feel scared that you’re gonna do it again. That’s how marriages collapse btw.
>>34070317Jesus is defining the definition of adultery, not the guidelines for divorce. He is saying that divorcing a wife is adulterous, except if she was already an adulterer, then the divorce is not adulterous. He does not say “If she commits adultery you should divorce.”
>four (4) children>high treason, betrayal, the absolute worst S I N there is in the cosmos on par with lucifer>iS ThErE AnY HoPe oF ReCoVeRiNg fRoM ThIs?what a whoreson turbonigger you are OP.>>34070030this.i really hope this is bait, for your poor lady.
Don't know your wife OP but i do know a lot about women. Here's my predictions:i) she's already cheated on you to get revenge and plans for you to never find outii) she has definitely already ahd legal advice and knows exactly what to do, and when, to terminate the relationship at a pre-determined time, at which point she will be 100% prepared emotionally and logistically and you will be on the back foot. (She may already be backgrounding the kids).iii) OP will post again when his oldest child is 14yo or so "My wife left me X years after my affair I can't believe she did this"
what's the equivalent concept of penis length from women
>>34069369>Men have no idea Ok child. You probably shouldn't be talking sex organs with adult strangers.
>>34069427Clit, boob size, pancake boobs, weight, if a woman doesn't have an "innie" he probably will tolerate it and probably he wants her to shave a lot/certain areas and or get permanent hair removal desu.
>>34069417that’s untruemost men DO care about the bodycountbut not as much as to refuse pussy
>>34069355Then it's how hard she sucks
>>34069229fpbp kudos
My wife and I are mid 30's and married. We both have good careers. Made $225,000 this year together and next year will be at $250,000. We will probably be at $300,000 by the time we are 40. We have $475,000 invested for retirement in index funds and will add $100,000 next year if we maintain our current lifestyle. We're unable to have children and we live well below our means. Have a modest condo and don't eat out much or buy expensive clothes.We also have modest cars, but I'm feeling bored of just living my life to make line go up in our accounts. I'm starting to feel like what am I doing all this saving for when tomorrow isn't guaranteed? Known a couple people that have died in the last few years and it makes me fear having regret for not doing things while I still have the time. It was a boyhood dream of mine to drive a nice car and I'm not really interested in driving a nice one when I'm old. Would I be retarded if I got a 2 or 3 year old CPO BMW M340i next year? I would put a good down payment on it and finance the rest for 3 years. I'm not doing it as a status thing to try and look cool for others because I know no one cares. I just love the car and want to drive around in it with my wife. She's on board with it. Go on vacations with it and stuff. It would be my only big splurge.
>>34071474Educate yourself on how grant funders impact a community before calling it virtue signalling. In many places those foundations are the only thing that keep major programs alive that help a lot of people in locally
>>34071667No. Cuz idgaf. If it's helping people then it's fixing societal issues unless it's causing a parasitic codependent relation where one is given fish but not taught how to fish themselves
>>34071759The irony is almost comical reading your replies
>>34071879TF you talking about
>>34069627>finance the rest for 3 yearsOr you could just build up your checking account for a few months and pay cash for it and avoid the interest. But sure, if you have so little self-control that you can't wait a few months then go for it. But be aware that lifestyle creep is a slippery slope.
I'll be honest. Almost everytime I speak with customer service over the phone, I always feel rushed. They cut me off when I'm speaking, make me lose my train of thought, and I almost always end up forgetting to ask or address something I was supposed to address during the call.Doesn't matter if it's customer service for my internet or for my doctor visits.Always have this rushed experience.What am I doing wrong?
>>34069615Tell me about it. I had no problems being a wagie, but I found out they do in fact keep wagies in cagies. I can’t even be a helpful or pleasant wagie to help customers in a meaningful way. I once got verbally disciplined one time because I spent 20 minutes trying to source local help for a 102-year-old grandma who called needing help with her TV and she couldnt follow the telephone instructions I was trying to walk her through because she had bad vision. She lived alone and had no family in the country and depended on TV to keep her spirits up. I felt bad and wanted to find a community service near her who could help her physically and for that I was apparently a bad employee.
>>34069626YES! When you try to do your best work, they don't give a shit. They want quantity not quality. And you don't deliver at the ridiculous speed they want, your ass out the door!You helped that grandma? They don't care. They would've wanted you to tell her to fuck off and figure it out for herself. Or to tell her she's old as fuck and shouldn't be watching TV anyway, LOL.
>>34069656The worst part is knowing all of this as a worker and seeing the propaganda around the office, the commercial advertisements and slogans. “Teamwork makes the dream work”. “Quality care is the priority”. “Honesty is the best policy” The fake stock images of smiling normies hung up on walls, hallways, offices with fake platitudes. When truth is, if you actually try to live up to any of those virtues or goals, you get punished. Big corporations only want to look good, but not actually be good.
>>34069677>TeamworkThat word sends shivers down my spine!
>>34070254As an introvert I never want to hear that word ever again LOL stuff of nightmares desu XD
Is a college degree even worth it these days?
>>34072686Depends on what you're going to school for. I make a pretty decent living with my job, got into this field right after college and always made good money.
>>34072686Define "worth it."
>>34072686Just get blue collar job and be good at it.
>>34072686if you're going into college JUST for the degree, then no, it isn't worth it.Some degrees are still valuble but they are NOT a guarantee of a good job or career, and not worth the 3+ or whatever years you're gonna spend on them.If you're actually looking to learn some things, meet pepole, get certs, involve yourself in the academic social life, then yeah, I'd say it's worth. But keep in mind you're gonna need to put in extra effort, and even then it depends on the college
>>34072686Depends on the degree. There are some jobs you just can’t do without a degree.You’re also more likely to get higher wages at some jobs with a degree.
Why did a lying gay drug addict who takes pedo photos get a platform? Is the media owned by creeps?
Dunno, ask trump afterall he was best friends with the most prolific and evil pedo for over 10 years.>t. File 463
>>34070987I don't know, man. Why is a serial rapist president of the United States? It's crazy.
>>34070987>Is the media owned by creeps?
>>34070987When you can't have your needs satisfied by society, in some cases, people become passionate workaholics to cope.
>>34071147Pretty sure being a serial rapist is part of the job requirements.
Should I out to Bermuda?>small island in the middle of nowhere>population of snobby rich people>literally everything is imported>beautiful beaches>beautiful climate>no plebs around except for the workers
>Should I out to Bermuda?Fuck off we're full
>>34063079You're from Bermuda? What's it like there?
Bump
For a couple of years, I've spiraled into a deep depressive state but recently I've gotten better. But because of the time I was depressed, I now realize that I have characteristics of a hikikomori - never leaving my room except needed, little to no social interactions, no passive skills and I absolutely don't want to worsen it. I tried to make friends both at school and online but I could barely held up a conversation and I either didn't know how to reply (I think it's because of due to my social knowledge/awareness), zone out, stutter, saying things that I thought are related or just awkwardly smile/chuckle. But then I got friends (kinda) that could talk smoothy and click with other people without any problems and when I asked them: "How'd you talk so smoothly?" , they responded with "Dunno, just went with the flow" and such. Online, where most people felt more comfortable with having social interactions, I personally struggle a lot too. I also find it hard to find the correct thing to say, the right tone to speak in and at the same time, I tried really hard to not piss the other people off but I still don't have any valuable relationships. When I look for advices online, they are mostly vague or can be boiled down to "Just have more social interactions" but I find that so ??? Like how can one make more sociable and meaningful interaction when they have little to no social skills and friends that are comfortable with!!
>>34072580A tip about having more social interactions, you can do it anywhere. You go to a store, go for a walk, go to a library. The thing with stores that's easiest for beginners is the person there has to talk to you (this also applies to services like a doctor, mechanic, etc) - you can get good practice there. Just ask how their day is going, you can segue into other topics if they're receptive. Keep it about them, people like to talk about themselves. If they're not interested that's fine. You're just out of practice, you need to learn the flow of a conversation, you need to understand body language and non-vernal cues. Those come with experience
>>34072595Thanks for the advice!! I'll take it into consideration the next time I go to a store and such but I'd like to add that in my country, you don't go around talking and greeting other people unless you know them, or at least it'd make it much less awkward. However, I've been to Canada before and I get that starting conversations with strangers is much easier. Nevertheless, I'll try to do my best
>>34072644I don't know where you're from and I wouldn't know the customs, but it's all about putting yourself in situations where you can work up the skills, they're called social skills for a reason, because just like any skill while some people have a more innate affinity for them than others, they're still a skill. You got rusty, find any type of "safe" situations you can in real life
Is nofap worth doing if I won't have sex anyway? I had a 3 months long streak once, but didn't notice any real benefit besides having more energy.
>>34066679>Is nofap worth doing if I won't have sex anywayNope, i recommend 24 to 48 hours. It's enough to resensitize, but not enough to go psychotic or experience the "flatline".Nofap for a long time is retarded.
>>34066679There are no benefits to nofap.
>>34067082Self control is for sucka's
>>34066679No.Even scientists admit after rigorous ''research'' that it's optimal health to unclog your pipes every 3 days or so. Lower risk of problems with your prostate, urinary tract, kidneys, etc.''no fap'' was just a trend for dudes who got too sexually neurotic around women because they spend every waking second polishing their knob so they decided on just no-nut-november as a start but now it turned into full on restraint because apparently.. not using your dick nature gave you makes life better.
>>34069295Go back to pol, rabbi
