My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. Our schedules have gotten tight as she changed jobs, she works weekends (15:00-23:00) and I work weekdays, so we rarely get a full day together. For the first time, we didn't see each other at all last week.This week, she is off for Christmas and her family is visiting from out of state. I picked her and 2 family members up for Christmas Eve dinner at my place using my mom's car. I reminded her to bring her stuff so she could stay over, as today and tomorrow are her days off, and so are mine.She didn't bring her bag. She claimed she didn't want to stay over because she is on her period. However, she has stayed over while on her period many times before, and I keep pads at my house for her (last time, I brought the one without "extra spillage protection" but she has used them).After dinner, her sister encouraged her to stay over. She didn't bring any clothes, but she has borrowed my clothes before. My girlfriend then proposed I drive her and her family back to their place so she could pack her bag, and then bring her back to my place.I refused because I had been drinking, my mom had explicitly forbidden me from making that extra trip even if I was sober, since an Uber could fit her whole family minus her.When I said no, she got extremely upset. She was rude to me, refused to help clean up (even when her mom told her to help her mom-in-law), and left in an Uber without saying Merry Christmas.At midnight, I texted her Merry Christmas and expressed that I didn't approve of her behavior. I wanted to argue over text, but she went to sleep. Today, she says she woke up feeling ill. I ignored it and sent a text saying, "I imagine you don't want to spend Christmas with your boyfriend," and she left me on read. We haven't spoken all day since.What am I supposed to do in this situation?
>>34087284do you want to get /fit/? thats the only advice im good at.
>>34087284sounds like your girlfriend is a fucking retard, you should tell her to stop being a retard or she can find someone else to act like a retard with instead
>>34087284Honestly she sounds like she's just being a cunt on purpose. She knows all this shit but her dipshit female brain is making her act stupid on purpose become she wants drama instead of peace for something as important to you as Christmas. I'm not gonna go 4chan sperg and break up but I've been in these types of relationships and it only gets worse, she will know full well that these holidays and events are important to you and will be a bitch on a purpose just to annoy you enough that your day is ruined. Personally I've yet to find a woman who doesn't play such games but then again I feel like this is a racial thing, you wouldn't get this shit around the holidays fucking with a Latina or Asian woman, this seems like a strictly black or white woman problem
>>34087284Is she Asian?
>>34088037>You wouldn't get this shit around the holidays fucking with a Latina or Asian womanLatina women, i have no idea, but Asian women not causing shit?? lmao let's not be delusional here. asian women are queens among queens of drama
I am 25 and I have always had problems with dreams since childhood. I have struggled to fall asleep and when I do I ussually have very vivid dreams which easily devolve into unpleasant ones if not nightmares outright. I have spent a good amount of my life relying on Melatonin to fall asleep and for about 10 years I used to be on fluoxetine which had a side effect in increasing vividness further, meaning there was a point in my life where it felt like dreaming was another job with how long it felt. I am no longer on stuff like fluoxetine but my recall is still very absurd and sleep is always an obstacle for me. There are times where I know I can fall asleep and physically would like to, but mentally I am scared about the anticapation of falling sleep and the inevetible dreams.So I am now at a point where I am considering if there is way where I want to dream instead of wanting to avoid it outright and whether taking the plunge into enhancing dreams will help. Throwing myself into the deep end if you will. It's not like I can minimize it as without rem sleep I will be fucked mentally. Is there stuff I can take or things I can do to achieve next level dreaming or is there no point if I already have vivid recall as it is? Will only make things worse for me mentally? I can see myself living my life the way it is forever but at the same time if I can over come this personal obstacle I think my quality of life would be better.
>>34083212Thanks anon. I'm still on Melatonin to be fair but I no longer take the Fluoxetine (was placed on it at the age of 11 and came off it around the age of 20-21). Used to be on 8mg but now I am at a stage where 4mg of Melatonin is enough to get me to fall asleep. I have heard Melatonin offsets REM cycles which leads to restless early sleep but a later and far more intense REM phase during the night due to intial suppression which could be why my recall is the way it is.I know what you mean about music though. I had one rough night staying over at my friends trying to fall asleep and I ended going to sleep with headphones while listening to game essay stuff and whatever game was being talked about took place in my dreams. It was a pretty surreal but oddly pleasant experience, but I wrote it off as just one of those weird one off things. However I might try experimenting with that and see if I can recreate that experience and make things easier.
>>34083066write them down
>>34085519On one hand, I think it would be cool to have a record as I can document things such as the city that comes and goes in my dreams. It used to re-ocur so often I could remember the layout and its variations down to the city market and spire that for some reason always ending up colapsing, or the current trend of the bus or train transit system that I always get tangled up and stressed about because I have missed a timeslot. I also get a lot of dreams of an eastern european country side and industrial estates that are active warzones if I am not trying to survive in a knock off halo or mass effect space installation against horrors beyond my comprehension. Yet all of it is intwined in someway or overlaps.But on the otherhand I would also have to write stuff down like last nights dream:>Dear diary>Last night I dreamt that my mother was talking to transgender person>From what I remember of the conversation it was regarding the visiblity of transgender people and the normalisation that should come of it>The transgender person was a male to female and was talking a lot about how people come across transgender people without realizing it>As the conversation progressed I jumped in out of passive aggressive disgust>I never outright antagonize the person, but I downplayed the extent of how trans people passed at all>As we went back on forth on the topic I listed to every detail how you can ID a transperson and how even the ones that can pass for some people are still clockable by voice>When I was 2 thirds into the argument, I realize that I was using words like "trans-women" a lot and that I was concious of how the transgender person thought of my views>Suddenly thoughts crept into my mind questioning whether I was being passive aggressive and down playing the sucesses of trans culture, or actively advertising to the transperson that I am into transgender people with how much I know about them>At the end of it, I was hoping that person was into it>fml
>>34085568Dreamscape is the place your brain goes in order to have a conversation with itself about your own beliefs and opinions and worries etc. You should (mostly) be able to figure out what connections your dreams have to your day-to-day life. Your dreams are a reflection of you.
>>34087842I don't like that implication but it makes sense. Anxiety has been a historic issue with me so processing that would result in issues with dreams. Does that mean "lucid" dreams are not really thing? If dreaming is integral to processing insecurities or day to day experiences wouldn't lucidity get in the way of that? From the sense you are hyjacking the processing your brain is undergoing in REM.
Does the feeling of being an alien in human flesh ever go away? Have you actually been able to form genuine bonds with other human beings? Or is it still a performance that leaves you exhausted mentally?
>>34085933I bet you interact with other people better than I do. I bet you're a social butterfly. You'd never understand me.
>>34085306Ever since the covid hoax I stopped interacting with the goyim cattle. I just look through them and pretend they don't exist. I don't even greet them or acknowledge their presence. I'm not staring either, I'm just looking straight through them as if they weren't there.My life has significantly improved. I am at peace
>>34086069How does that work at your place of employment? Or are you a neet?
>>34085563How do pregnant women insert an alien sould into the fetus?
>>34086247i mean, it's done automatically and seamlessly. it's like how a mitochondria was a different thing and got absorbed into a cell and became an organ that reproduce each time with it's own separate dna. endosymbiosis. the human part on its own never had sapience or a soul, it just wants to toss it's own shit and run mastodons off a cliff
I'm White.I went on a date with this asian girl months ago and her english was okay but had many moments where it was slightly awkward. That being said we did have chemistry made out but i decided not to persue. Long story short shes in my dating apps again and am contemplating whether it is a good idea to give it another go or just saving myself the hassle of going again.
No.
>>34085928no.i had one.she was batshit crazy.i ended the relationship.i was lucky to find a little piece of my passport.her first reaction: "Quick, burn it!" in spanish. because i speak 3 languages. learning a 4th. she being a shithead in general. made me research women. most are shitheads.
>>34085928It depends on the language barrier. My wife is ESL, however she’s fluent in English, and generally I have zero problems talking with her. In the beginning communication was a little difficult as we were getting used to how each other speak, but there was never any moment where we couldn’t figure out what the other was saying.Now if she barely spoke English that would be a problem. I’ve been with a girl who spoke almost no English and we couldn’t understand each other at all. You need to be able to have deep a conversation with someone to form any sort of decent connection. You can’t just rely on smiles and nods.
>>34085928>>and her english was okayshe could speak better English than you could speak her language>>should I give it another go?Idk man you should state what language she spoke in
Honestly, no.
>at a work christmas party>getting flirty with the ladies but not doing anything wildly inappropriate>next day>girl A sends me a photo of me that was taken from across the room sneakily>tells me that girl B took this photo>im slightly creeped but i respond jokingly:>"does girl B want me to autograph this for her lmao">no response from girl AAm i missing something here? Is girl B attracted to me or is she creeped out by me? Im seeing them both tmrw at work but idk if i should confront girl B or just ask girl A about it. Im pretty close with girl A, not as much with girl B but i was flirting pretty heavily with girl B the whole party, not sure how she might've taken it
Girl A is more important than Girl B here.If Girl B showed you the photo, likely she didn't expect A to share it around to you
Leave it alone, youre "does she want me to autograph" it line was pretty solid. Just go to work and act normal.
anons please helpwas the correct choice"haha we look like a cute couple""she seems jealous of us""cool""you can see my boner""great tits">>34086683the autograph thing didnt register for me but youre talking to girls and im not so maybe i should take notes
>>34086812I think it's totally fucked up that this is considered creepy now, I mean it's the most wholesome way to express attraction that I could think of. I'd rather do this than tell a woman I wanna fuck her or something like that. Wtf has this world come to??
OP here, guys I just wanna know wtf was running through her mind when she took that pic. Obviously if I took a creep shot of a girl from across the room like that I'd get fired or worse, why does she think it's ok to do that to me? What's her motive exactly?
Old: >>34084274Merry Christmas
>>34091315making shit up too
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>>34091373i did, i'm sorry you were too retarded to comprehend. perhaps it's best if your genetic line doesn't continue.
>>34091374I hate it because my boss says it all the fucking time
>>34091380no you didn't
How do you deal with the resting bitch face of autism? People always ask me why I'm angry or sad.Whenever I try to force a smile I look constipated or freak people out. I work at retail and this is a huge problem.
I'm rather likeable.
>>34083613Do the frowny smile where you purse your lips inwards (awkward courtesy smile of acknowledgement), and make eye contact. Or do the eye smile thing (squint) and make eye contact. Important thing is to make eye contact (this acknowledges the person). Then you can move a muscle or two. Doesn't have to be frenetic/overdone, just polite. Keeping it minimal and efficient/fast (but polite) can be more elegant/tactful/effective/savvy than going overly extroverted fake-ass route
>>34085502But what if you want to make friends? Get along with NTs?
>>34083613just turn that frown upside down silly
>>34087959That's a different topic then - you have to say stuff and make plans
I feel so sad and miserable like there’s a hole in my chest any advice on how to get rid of this feeling?
shrooms
>>34087451It doesn't go away for me, but I definitely feel better if I am hydrated, ate well, and exercised that day
>>34083858When you witness something horrible, trauma is formed from the wish in that moment that it would have gone differently. You're essentially contending with that desire for reversal or differentiation of these events. Trauma is that desire locked in amber. > Understanding how to prevent it if it happens again.> Accepting your agency at the time wouldn't have been able to change things even if you knew what was happening. > Getting through the feelings you held back at the time due to it being unsafe to slow down and feel them.Really depends on the trauma and to what degree it affects your daily activities of living. > What's the treatment?> Well, depends on the wound.
>>34084297Do you need advice or...?
>>34084297why did you make this thread instead of replying to that one you point out?
I wish I had the courage to tell people that are doing annoying things to fuck off but I'm too afraid of getting my ass kicked.How do people do it?
>>34073986THE CHOPPAAAAAAAHHHHHH
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>>34087005https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHi_QK-p97w
hi. i need some advice about eating disorders. what i'm really hoping for is like a discord server or several about eating disorders, so i have people i can talk to about it and also benefit from harm reduction. what i don't want is any space with a lot of censorship, or spaces that are about recovery. was on some sites in the past but they've mostly died off now. and like i know edtwt is a thing still but it kinda got lousy with white nationalists and turned mean and weird. so discords would be great plsthank you!! <3thanks!
>hoping for is like a discord serverget a load of this glownibba. maybe you want an adress and street too? maybe even the digits on anons credit card?>no censorship, no one watching out for fuckeryso that you can have your abc-glow-op in full force on easy mode, yes?herb
>>34084733excuse me?tf are you on about. feds aren't out there looking for ED discord servers, they're too busy going after the commies and transgenders
>>34082632I'm confused. You're looking for an ED Discord? I feel like you'd find tgat kind of community on Tumblr.
I was thinking, it seems like a waste to just kill myself normally.>sacrifice my life saving someone elseGood, but I'm a bit scared of wasting my life on some asshole who didn't deserve it if I don't know them. Plus chances like this don't come up often... I think if it was MULTIPLE people that would be good because more people saved + at least one probably deserved it but again, rare.>killing myself to bring attention to something Aaron Bushnell style...Not very useful, and I would probably just get laughed at too lolIs the only answer to keep living, at least until I come across some rare oppurtunity? At least when it does I'll be more ready and willing than anyone else
Become an organ donor, so you can save a lot of lives. Sign life insurance and place someone as beneficiary.
when you kys you'll go to hellany gain from this world is going to be meaningless in comparison to that
>>34083916This. My loved ones would've never pulled through if it wasn't thanks to a organ donation to bless us with a match. Also if you so chose, donate a lot of blood. It really does help.
>>34081371You could take out a life insurance policy and then get killed in a freak "accident" to give the money to somebody else, but honestly I'd just keep living. You can do a lot more to help people out while you're living than when you're dead.
>>34081371you could try blowing up yourself next to some high rank kike if you find them
How do I stop having a fetish for morbidly obese landwhales? I've had this ever since I was 13 and having sex (with both normal people and fats) just reinforced this obsession in me. I also masturbate almost exclusively to BBWs and SSBBWs. Help! I'm white, by the way, not black or brown.
>>34086381Why do you want to stop? Why not just get a fat gf?
You're complaining about a superpower. You have any idea how much harder skinny girls are?
>>34086381>eats another man's trash and calls it deliciousRealize that you're attracted to death. They can't have children or raise them properly.
I believe I genuinely have undiagnosed depression and I don't know what to fucking do. I've been this way for the past 2 years and it took my room looking like an episode of Hoarders to realize I might have an actual problem. If I end up with a diagnosis, meds, or any kind of treatment I will be permanently fucked out of the careers I was setting myself up for. How should I proceed?
>>34083278Outside of medication, there are still ways to manage depression. Life changes can include daily exercise, daily time spent outside, staying hydrated, and eating well. If you can afford it, you could also talk with a counselor (not a doctor, so they can't officially diagnose anything) and try to work on the depression that way
Exercise
>>34083290And a social circle. You will likely treat your depression by getting friends even if the friends will get you into unhealthy habits like drinking.>>34083278Don't take SSRIs. They're very dangerous and have no benefits. They don't beat placebo.
>>34083290>>34084105>>34084112thanks bros
Guys, be honest, is working a physical job boring even a little bit? I'm trying to add a very little money by working, I mean, I'm still thinking, I have money to stay neet forever, gaming and coding, and investing, is this bad?
>>34085336Daydreaming and light on the end of the tunnel keeps me afloat. I recommend you to either get a very boring simple job or a job that kills time.
>>34085336If you have the money to stay at home for the rest of your life, there is no point in getting a job.
>>34085336I saw a video today about the US military language school. If you can get in you can have a satisfying and well-paid job with ZOG, grilling captives and being a spy.
Yes, but there are things you can do to make it more enjoyable. Be sociable with your co-workers, some places will let you listen to music. Sometimes I sing to myself and play in my imagination
>>34085336GTTOYC?
