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My girlfriend and I are in university, she in England and I in the Netherlands. We already did a year apart but where I was in China and things were great then. We skyped for hours a week and kept the emotions flowing.

This summer though she began pulling away, acting more and more inconsiderate to me. It was small at first but as the summer came to an end we weren't having sex and she wasn't communicating much anymore. I tried to get her to talk and ended up being to pushy and she broke down crying a few times and I had to let her be for a day or so. When she did talk, she told me that she felt like she couldn't trust me with her safety or emotions anymore. We hit our lowest point just before we both left for uni again and now it feels like we're trying to pick up the pieces.

The problem is that I feel like she doesn't make time for me anymore and will try to evacuate any conversation with me. She puts off talking to me until late, and we only really seem to talk about our days before she decides she needs to go to sleep.

I am visiting her in three weeks so I don't want to ruin anything now (seeing as the tickets are already bought) but the feeling that she doesn't love me anymore and would rather not see me is killing me. I feel like if I ask I'll only be acting like someone she doesn't love or want to see, so I don't think I can be that direct with her.

I don't want to lose her because she's the best thing that happened to my life. Is there anything I can do other than suffer in silence? How can I know if she still loves me without asking? Is there anything I can do to facilitate her trust in me again?

>pic unrelated, it was my dinner tonight
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>>18837483
Ldr never works. Accept that fact, politely end this relationship, focus on studies and find new gf. Your relationship wont stand this distance.
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>>18837483
Bump

Dealing with a similar situation, except my girlfriend lives with me
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She's taking Chads cuck as you type your post
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>>18837483
She doesn't respect you or find you sexually attractive any more OP. Focus on self improvement, studies, getting in better shape, etc. Don't give her as much attention.

Your problem is you're more invested than her. She's not logical, you've done nothing wrong to lose her trust but be too available Sounds counterproductive but the less you need her the more she'll need you
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>>18837483

It's because you're more needy/clingy than she is. Fuck man, I don't want to be on hangouts video chatting with my fiancee for fucking hours that sounds horrendous. I won't play games or do something else distracting while she's on the line with me because that's rude and I should be paying proper attention to her so that means I literally can't sink that much time into it every day unless I want to do nothing after work until I sleep.

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I've noticed that my erection size can vary a lot. Now, it usually is around a little over 6 inches but I've had times where it's easily 7 inches and even reaching 8. I've even had 2 of my exs mention the size varies. The fuck is up with my dick?
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Depends on a few things like how relaxed/comfortable you are, temperature of dick, how your blood is flowing, how horny you are etc
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This is normal. Erection size depends on how recently you've ejaculated (more ejaculations tend to lead to a somewhat weaker/smaller erection, and if you abstain from a long time it tends to be bigger/harder). The more aroused you are, the stronger the erection.

Some guys are "growers", with a variable size. others are "showers", with very little size change between erect and flaccid. Both are normal.
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Its normal. If I go weeks without any action, then decided to rub one out, it gets bigger than usual. Its totally normal. If its bothering you, visit a doc

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Sup /adv, long time lurker finally looking for some help. Just general help, I feel pretty lost in life right about now. Things need to improve pretty soon for the sake of my sanity, and I'm ready to do something about it, just not sure exactly what.

> starting to hate college after loving it for 2.5 years
> starting to hate job - overworked and underpaid
> friends all moved away for school, nobody to chill with
> horny 24/7, jerk it 1-2 times daily to questionable and degenerate things
> only see (low-libido) gf once a week, have sex *maybe* once a month if I'm lucky
> love her to death so can't just find someone else
> feel exhausted every single day regardless of amount of sleep or sleep cycles
> occasional onsets of severe anxiety, feel like I need to run away from whatever situation I'm in
> sometimes get paranoid about things that clearly aren't happening
> find solace in alcohol (3-4 max every few days, not the "blackout every night" type), vidya, music, and fast food
> still in relatively good health due to labor-intensive job
> can't just leave my current life, disabled parent won't be okay without me
> plus my doggos

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>>18837722
push forward

you might start to hate things, but not everything is meant to be enjoyed 24/7 in order for it to be right. even the greats had their doubts, bitched about petty things

you are well-employed, getting an education, and have someone you love which is no bad thing

See your gf more often. Explain to her your situation. She may have more going on than just low-libido

Vices are meant to be enjoyed, but if they are consuming more and more of your time that may be a problem. Find new ones

I don't know, anon. You're eons ahead of me
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>>18837722
If youve got a labour intensive job, supplement it with lifting, look good and your GF will want sex alot more. Works everytime. Try and find a way to get a promotion in your line of work? Learn/develop skills in your own time to help this. Spice up your relationship by taking her new places, possibly travel. Find a hobby or sport of some discription with a long term goal to it i.e marathon running, or something thats exciting like boxing. Instead of going for a few beers a day, save the money and just go for a run or phone your gf or something rewarding and you will save money aswell. Or fuck everything and start your own business or go back to college and find a subject you enjoy.
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>>18837828

I'll try bulking up more, even if it doesn't help with gf it can't hurt overall. I definitely need to work on saving, something I've had struggles with for years. I still go to college and enjoy my major, but the non-major-related classes can suck my ass.
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>>18837809

Fuck, why you gotta be right. It's hard for me to see silver linings right now, but you're right. She does have more going on than low libido, but I can;t do anything about it.

She feels like she has to pee every time we try to get intimate, and some times it's less present than others, namely when she's tipsy. She's been to doctors and apparently it's all in her head. No physiological reason whatsoever.

I guess all I *can* do is push forward.

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What color should I the walls in my new house.
Pic related is carpet plus two colors I think suck on the wall. Original color was yellow and it looked gross in the dark. Personally I was thinking a light blue.
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>>18837801
I was just going to paint the living room the bedrooms have a light gray in them and the dining room is an awful peachy color but I'll have to cross that bridge later.
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I'll post more pictures of house on Friday if the thread isn't down
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Pale blue is nice, go for it.
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>>18837815
I understand, but keep the sample card so you get the correct hue and balance through your home. (I'm sure you have been to a house where they ignored my tip and you sort of cringe when you walk into each room because the smurf blue living room clashes with every other room in the house).
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>>18837833
Okay sounds good. And I know what you are talking about when we were looking for houses I got to see a few places like that. Do you have any idea what color would line up nicely with this carpet? The carpet is the same in every room except the kitchen where it has a light tile linoleum I believe its called. It's not actual tile is what I'm getting at. The house has plenty of natural light from fairly large windows. The windows have a white trim around them.

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Hey /adv/, I noticed there are lots of neets and virgins on this board. Personally I've slept with over 100 beautiful women (according to my taste, no fatties) as your average looking 25 year old dude. Thought I'd answer any questions you may have regarding anything, really, or advice pertaining to the subject at hand. I know a lot of you struggle with sex/relationships so I'm here to offer what I can
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Girl asked me to go get an oil change for her.
Offered to do it for her but she said no
Proceeded to wait 2 fucking hours, talked mostly before and after the waiting room.
Why are women so strange? I get that it might have been lonely to go alone but I don't know why I was dragged on this adventure unless she's trying to work into my pants. Known her for three years, still confuses me.
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>>18837721
#Metoo

Women are afraid of men.

Good job though dude, I'd hope my sister's dude friends would do her that kind of favor too.
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Should I ever superlike on tinder?
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>>18837291
I thought about what to ask you op. Of all questions i have only one:
How do you find your future wife?

Have a nice day.
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>>18837291
I haven't had sex since Donald Trump became President. Fuck. He promised to make America great again, but here I am, nothing.

How do I get laid? I don't want to wait another 7 fucking years under the Cheeto in Chief.

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>bored of video games and anime
>apply for jobs
>get called for an interview
>start enjoying video games and anime again
>don't go for the interview because I'm enjoying myself again
>eventually stop enjoying them
>waste all day on 4chan again
>apply for another job
>get called for an interview
>this time I don't get anymore enjoyment out of video games and anime
>go for the job interview panicky
>get offered the job
>still don't enjoy video games and anime
>spend weekends bored of doing nothing
>don't enjoy work but if I don't work I'm not enjoying myself either

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Have you tried socializing with the people of your same age group from work?
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What about preparing yourself for the next part ? A place for yourself, start a family and stuff that can't wait ?
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>>18837807
only one guy is my age and he doesn't even play video games
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>>18837787
Work on improving yourself and finding a girlfriend. It gets better.
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>>18837829
I only like dommy girls that treat me like dirt but the women at work are nice and treat me with respect.

my gf came out as queer yesterday and I was really surprised because she never talked about this or showed even any interest in females or hinted even slightly in this direction. She says she figured it out a few weeks ago and wants to explore this - I was supportive. She then asked how an open relationship would sound and I said it wouldn't work and we could just be friends. She wanted to at least get back together later and I said I couldn't promise that. Was I right to dump her? whole thing seems fucked because she is still so in to me just has some exploring to do I guess. my plan rn is just to give her space and move tf on
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>>18837296
I think it was right to break up with her.
It's best for the both of you.
She can now pursue dating other girls without any baggage and in the end she can reach her decision without any doubt.
Maybe she'll find out it's not really for her. If that's the case then maybe you could try getting back together.
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>>18837296
op made his girlfriend turn Dyke
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>>18837296
>interest in females
>open relationship
Goddamn OP you definitely fucked up. You could've at least attempted to get a threesome or anything along those lines and even if that wasn't possible then you could've gone from there, but instead you decide to go and possibly miss some great experience you could've had in your life. Good job OP!
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>>18837296
Dude don't listen to the naysayers. You did perfect. If youre not okay with it that's your decision. Treat her wanting to see other girls as her wanting to see other males. Don't chase her. When she comes back, figure out if you want to be with her then. This loyalty over anything/everything shit that gets preached these days is bullshit. You only get one life.
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Op here

>>18837747
>>18837552

I agree w this shit.

>>18837577
eh, the thing is I can get that pretty much any fucking day I want if I just hit her up and ask. She wants to fuck me still so she would definitely be down. The thing about people coming out to you, is if you ask them right then and there to have potential threesomes the chance of you looking like a asshole is really high.

>>18837416
Sounds like something I would hate doing

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So I'v been trying to learn SHA-512 and also I'v been trying to learn how to encrypt an image based on its pixels and colors, into the form of an encrypted message. I don't want to use an already existing software to do this because I want to actually "learn" this stuff, primarily how the hell SHA-512 hashes a message or if there is a more effect way to do so.

Here is the idea. Imagine I wanted to publish a book and to never have the book become easily found to just anybody. By encrypting everything, you would have to search for the encryption you already knew, which would be random numbers and letters. I want to make software without anybody just "finding" it and following me.

I'v already tried to learn RSA but when I work out the formulas math, the output keeps equaling zero because I don't know what the hell I'm doing. Halp.

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I am thinking into getting into art/film, but I can't quite get myself to do it. Though I would love to do it, I just don't see any real purpose in it. What affect does art have in the real world? How can I convince myself that I am making a difference by going into this line of work.
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>>18837708
Search your local job market for open position. If it isnt employable skill, it isnt worth wasting time and money mastering it.

https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html
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>>18837708
You can send messages through art and film. You can make people question the world around them. You can also give people a break from this bleak world by giving them something to enjoy
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Keep it as a hobby dude. If you like art, and you like doing art, that's cool, but you gotta realize that society today is cutthroat as fuck, and unless you really, really know what you're doing, you won't make it, like 90% of all the artists out there.

Take a page out of the history books. A lot of the old masters? Poor as fuck in their days, nobody liked their shit, etc. Then they died and suddenly they had a market.

I speak from some experience here. Keep art in the hobby category. Trying to use it as a method of stability in your life likely won't work, and you'll watch your hobby dry up and die as it becomes more of a job than a love affair.

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And I wonder if the way I've done things or how she acts in my company are actually great for a beginning relationship and actually not a friendzone situation. What I mean by that is simple : I've been with her on a date once Saturday night, walking and talking about anything around in Paris, went to a bar, I bought my drink and she bought hers. I pussied out despite the fact that in my opinion everything was open for at least a kiss, we were lying down next to each other, facing the eiffel tower by night, our discussions were getting philosophical (maybe here was my mistake, I should have sexualised the conversation more)

I think that we spent a good time together (she really enjoyed herself, by her words) but I wonder if she saw it as a friendly date... Even more, when I talk to her in classes (we are in the same major) I don't sense that she's attracted to me physically. Maybe I'm just a pussy and need to step up my game... I'm 18, virgin, never done anything close to this with a girl before so I don't want to get my hopes up because I misinterpreted some "signs" that are perceived differently in Canberra.

Sorry for the blogpost and the broken english. I hope I did'nt violate any rules and I'm sorry if I did
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Shameless self-bump. Have this too
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Sounds like you cucked yourself

Ask for another date, don't pussy out, go in for kiss, if it doesn't go then no big loss
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>>18837382
Yeah I think I'll do that. Otherwise I'll be forever stuck in the beta mindset
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Stop over thinking it, faggot.
Just see her as another human being. Ask her out for a dinner in a nice fancy restaurant. If she's introverted, look for cozy restaurants with personal space etc.
And go in for the kiss after dinner. All the best, frenchtwat. Also, you're French. So, that helps

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What to do after you have reached your goals?

>be me.
>31/m/southern California
>always wanted to work with animals.
>got hired at top-tier zoo that is also one of the best paying.
>got lots of experience in training animals, medical procedures, etc.
>After 8 years, I think I'm finally over it.
>My job was my passion as well as my identity.
>pay has become stagnant
>upwards mobility is limited and the stress does not reflect in the pay.

Do I stick with this job and hope the passion returns? Or do I just drop the whole thing to get paid more and deal with the added stress of starting a new career?
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>>18837412
Ya create new goals to move forward.
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>>18837437
I feel like there are many obstacles to starting a new career at my age. Have any oldfags here done this?
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>>18837412
Wife, babies, family.

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Sup /adv, long time lurker finally looking for some help. Just general help, I feel pretty lost in life right about now. Things need to improve pretty soon for the sake of my sanity, and I'm ready to do something about it, just not sure exactly what.

> starting to hate college after loving it for 2.5 years
> starting to hate job - overworked and underpaid
> friends all moved away for school, nobody to chill with
> horny 24/7, jerk it 1-2 times daily to questionable and degenerate things
> only see (low-libido) gf once a week, have sex *maybe* once a month if I'm lucky
> love her to death so can't just find someone else
> feel exhausted every single day regardless of amount of sleep or sleep cycles
> occasional onsets of severe anxiety, feel like I need to run away from whatever situation I'm in
> sometimes get paranoid about things that clearly aren't happening
> find solace in alcohol (3-4 max every few days, not the "blackout every night" type), vidya, music, and fast food
> still in relatively good health due to labor-intensive job
> can't just leave my current life, disabled parent won't be okay without me
> plus my doggos

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TLDR at the bottom

I received an offer for employment at Tesla, working on the assembly line. I of course accepted, and asked them for a two week notice to complete the pre employment process, where then I will begin work on the 23rd. I passed the background check, drug test, and all that's left is the physical exam, which was scheduled for yesterday. I missed the appointment for work related reasons, and received an email that the hospital will now be charging
Tesla a no show fee, and that it is up to them if I can reschedule. I emailed my Tesla representative explaining the situation, but I'm still afraid this might effect my eligibility.

>TLDR
>Missed pre employment physical exam
>Work related reasons
>Company getting charged a no-show fee for my absence

Is there anything I can do to fix this beyond what I've already done? Am I fucked Anons? Really need this job so the anxiety is crippling me. Pic related.
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>>18837588
Stay cool anon. You will be ok.

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I know this kind of thread is boring as fuck but I just need an advice atm.

So there's this person whom I like, she's a friend of mine. She's very friendly and she thinks of me as a friend. I'm perfectly okay with her being my friend, but here's the problem, I've been helping her with college stuffs since like 2 months ago and I do like her and told quite many people about it except her. I haven't been in touch with her for like the last 4 weeks or so. I actually talked to her on phone like last week but that's it.. I haven't met her at all or anything. She didn't even read my last chat. How can I get to be close to her again like before? part of the problem is probably me being a beta... and also she's majoring in different studies than me so that's probably gonna slow me down in getting closer to her.
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Oh yeah I forgot to mention, I'm actually afraid she knows that I actually have feelings for her. She's kinda awkward towards people who have feelings for her.
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Listen dude. She knows you like her. Women have a sixth sense about this kinda thing. Next time you feel you like someone let them know ASAP. Don't beat around the bush. It makes you an orbiter in their mind.

The fact that she hasn't even talked to you in real life makes it worse. If you like a girl you should always be elevating the relationship toward sex. They will elevate it past that.

I'm not sure if she lives near you or how exactly your relationship is, so my advice is to send ONE! more message. It's should read something like "hey ____. I helped you with studying so how about you repay the favor and help me. Let's meet up at ___ and study together."
Sounds fun and innocent and escalates the relationship. If she doesn't respond let it go. You don't want to seem needy anything else past that hurts your chances. Good luck anon.
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>>18837730
worth a try... thanks anon

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Anyone know any non-docter/non surgical remedy for these,had one that appeared from nowhere right on the right side of my cheek,should I be worried it's going to get any bigger?

The night before it appeared I felt like something have tightened my face like a "scrounging" sensation
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Treating a keloid, however, can be involved. To reduce the chance of another keloid forming after treatment, more than one type of treatment may be necessary.

No one treatment is best for all keloids. To give their patients the best results, dermatologists choose treatment based on the patient’s age, type of keloid, and other considerations. For example, one patient with a keloid on an earlobe may get better results if the scar is surgically removed in layers (called shaving) than surgically cut out.



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