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Is a 40 year old man too old to start dating 23 year old women? Is 45 years old too old to get married? Is a 46-55 year old man too old to have kids? What should be the age cutoff for these things?
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>>30921939
You will only find sluts and gold diggers at that age.
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>>30922303
No, you are wrong. My real life experience refutes it, - I am 30 and I am dating 20 - 23 years old all the time.
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>>30921939
How do I get over feeling guilty about dating women in their 20's?
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>>30922894
Would you really want to raise a kid in this dying world that will very likely turn them against you and into a troon?
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>>30922295
There is, men over 35 are more likely to have autistic children. Everyone delaying having kids is the reason for the rise in autism rates. Both men and women should not breed after 35 because the risk of problems is too high.

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I am depressed because this girl really likes me but we live so far from each other and I am afraid that distance will kill it. We have been in delusions for months now that we will make it work. I'm too hopeful and stupid to end it so if anyone ends it, it would be her and I'm afraid that will be the result even if it is the smart one. She's someone I want to make mine, I was daydreaming about marrying her and having some children with her but I'm a dreamer always. I told her no matter what I want her in my life... Anyone been down this road? I hate thinking about it because she really helps me get up in the morning, she's become a great motivator and it's scary how much she has meant to me
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>>30920743
You're a retard. Also don't come here, we don't want you
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>>30924437
Poor baby's jealous
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>>30920698
You can go from anywhere to anywhere in the world in less than 18 hours. 34 hours max if there are stopovers. You're a pussy.
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>>30924589
I am visiting her later but im not gonna fly every weekend gigatard
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>>30920698
She’s 5,000 miles a way think with your gut and mind anon, not your heart not you dick why would you want to be with someone that far if you okay with E-Dates be my guest I like mine within 30 miles the fuck you dumbass nigga in fact you don’t think like a nigga but a cracker

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I’m in my consolidation period with the a310 and last night I was doing the landing and I kept hearing a very faint voice to Go around, it was a clear sky and nothing happened. I was just wondering maybe it’s because of my extreme stress in the moment or maybe a mechanical glitch that kept saying go around. And keep in mind that it’s my first time flying a turbofan, going from piston to jet is quite something. Pic related
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>>30925527
i hear a voice too it keeps saying "eeeeeeeeeee" all the time especially when it's quiet
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>>30925544
Tinnitus? I love tinnitus, personally after every flight I earrape my hears so it can be extra louder in the hotel room and it helps me fall asleep
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>>30925544
Ears*
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>>30925560
WHAT? YOU SAY SOMETHING?

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Any advice on how to be an attention whore in a healthy way if you're not interesting or talented or anything? I crave attention a lot but it's hard to find a way to cope with this in a healthy way
I'm trying to solve the deeper issue of unfulfillment that leads to me being an attention whore but rn it's tough so i just wanna fill the emptiness with attention for the time being
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>>30925375
Ask people about their problems and actually be a good listener. At one point I had 20 people talking to me daily because of this. They weren’t sexually creepy to me at all, they were just lonely and never had anyone to talk deeply like that with. It made me feel good to help people like that.
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>>30925375
Theater. There are a lot of theater classes, hobby groups etc. that are very very beginner friendly because if an attention whore loves anything it's being better than someone else. Getting your foot in the door is easy and you get tons and tons of pats on the back. It's the ideal career if you're even a little good at acting.
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>>30925437
Hm, that might actually be a good idea. Although it might be tricky because i'm in my early 20s and have trouble connecting to people in general, but especially if they're under 30. And in my culture people are generally pretty guarded when it comes to revealing their problems. So when people are in like their 30s-40s they usually already have people who will listen to them and will be supportive so no need to confide in a random kid in her 20s. So like i'm not sure how to go about this. But maybe it might work, thank you
>>30925450
Well, not really. I'm an attention whore but i'm like never better than someone else and when i am it's more about wanting to help other people to get this as well rather than being smug. I guess I'm also shy and pretty bad at acting so that sounds scary. But thank you, maybe i'll consider this if i ever feel like overcoming my shyness
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>>30925375
don't be an attentionwhore, period
i used to be that guy who played guitar or tried to show off his intelligence all the time and the amount of cringe i generated was so toxic that it had to be deeply repressed until i could function normally again
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>>30925559
>don't be an attentionwhore, period
Why not? It's one of the more harmless things I can temporarily do to fill my emptiness inside (at least temporarily). I just want to do it in a healthier way
>i used to be that guy who played guitar or tried to show off his intelligence all the time and the amount of cringe i generated was so toxic that it had to be deeply repressed until i could function normally again
I'm glad you can function normally again and that's definitely something to be proud of but i'm not sure that's the path for me. Most of the time I just pour my attention whore tendencies in like volunteering or shitposting on 4chan which i think is alright and not completely unhealthy but i wanna do better

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Should I rat out an employee for bringing weed to his workplace, while also having a gun on him? Here's a bit of backstory.

We hired a wheelchair-bound person who can't move his legs at all. I (am one of the higher-ups) mostly ignore him unless he needs help with a task. A few days ago, he talked to me during my downtime and showed me his pistol in his jacket. I didn't think of it much since this is a very pro-gun state and I don't care much for it, but the idea of this guy using a gun (he can barely use his hands properly, mind you) is terrifying. He took 30 seconds just to get it out of his pocket. His excuse for having one with him on work grounds is for "self protection".

Later on that day, he decided to say I smell like marijuana. I don't smoke and haven't for 5 years so naturally I say no. He takes out a dime bag and shows me, the higher-up, it. I feel retarded in retrospect because I barely reacted to it. Told him to put it up and he ignored me.

So here I am now, being a pussy and not knowing if I should report this guy or not. He really isn't much help around the place. I have no idea why the boss hired him, even my boss doesn't know why. What do?
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>>30925545
OP here, forgot to mention something. inb4 someone says I'm anti-gun. I'm not. I just don't trust handicapped people at his level with a gun at a workplace. Not only do his legs not work, but his fingers and hands are all discombobulated and don't work properly.
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>>30925545
Yes, report him. He sounds irresponsible and may eventually get in trouble and drag you down with him. It's better to pre-empt that possibility.

I am hearing noises that can't realistically be there. Like someone heavily breathing right outside my window (still ongoing), but I'm on the third floor of a soviet style bock paratman. Or occasional singular barks of something like a dog from the kitchen. But when I go out, nothing is there.

It is alarming but not necesarry terrifying. Should I seek something like medical help? Who do I even contact with something like this?
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>>30924996
Get a checkup. I know a schizo who hears voices from inside the walls and shit. Some people lose their marbles and eventually succumb to delusions that there are, in fact, people in the walls.
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>>30924996
Have you got a carbon monoxide detector? If not you should get one. It could be ghosts though, in my brother's bedroom we all hear unexplainable breathing and there's no carbon monoxide problem in the house. The world is a weird place, you should check all avenues before assuming the paranormal, but when all other options have been exhausted it might just be ghosts.
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>>30924996
Spend a few days staying somewhere else, a rural cabin or a short cruise, whatever, and see if you still hear those sounds. If not then they are in your apartment building and if you still hear them then they are in you.
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>>30924996

people will tell you that that kind of thing is just in your head, but that will most likely just make it worse as you try to resist it with little success. it sounds like demonic activity to me, just call on the name of Lord Jesus and those things will flee, their power is nill compared to His and they just feed off of your fear and submission to them, but the strength of the Lord terrifies them because they know His power and what He'll do to them. Then try to get everything opening demonic doors out of your life, things like drugs/images of strange gods, and read the gospel and proclaim the Blood of Jesus over you and your house, take Him as your Lord and Savior
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>>30924996
Whenever I have any sensation I rationally know is unlikely to be real I close my eyes, take deep breaths and clear my mind. I know that even if I had hallucinations of the highest degree, my rational mind is folded more often than the sharpest katana.

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Is 29 too old to go to med school?
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>>30924134
That's just sad, man.
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>>30923530
>secure job with a high salary
Not OP but what other solid options are there? Eurofag btw
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>>30922746
Dr. K, or Healthygamer_gg started med school at around that same age and now he's a gigachad of mental health content online.
How much regret do you thin you might feel in your death bed at 85 if you never go to med school? If you use the regret minimization framework, look it up, you might conclude that it makes the most amount of sense to go to med school.
also, assuming modern medicine gets even better, humans might live to 100+ healthily. some say 30s is the new 20s, idk how true that is, but it seems pretty normal/reasonable to do it imo
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>>30923533
in most of europe studying medicine is free, but you need to pass entry exams and the wages are much lower than in burgerland.
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I still don't understand what Americans go to med school for. undergrad + mcat + $250k + r&b just to grind FA on your own night and day.
Why would anyone do that instead of getting a 6-year MD from poland and then ECFMG, especially if you'll be mediocre internal medicine tier? Why is an MD in the US a graduate degree in the first place?

>be me
>wake up at 7:30 to see my phone flashing an alert from Wells Fargo
>my bank account has hit the negative
>-$4.76
>the entirety of the money we have totals $16.43
>transfer $10 from saving to get my account out of the red, literally 6 bux to my name
>my gf says "I'm getting a bunch of packages today please don't be mad."
>an hour later SEVEN packages are dropped off at my door
>my gf bought more FIM and G3 ponies
>again
>"It was all only $50 and I got something special just for you!"
>She bought me a vinyl statue of my favorite pony, Applejack, as a sexy anime woman

I just decided not to say anything and was thankful she at least thought of me and my favorite pone. Is there anyway for me to explain to her this really isn't the best time to be spending money on our hobbies when I'm in school full time and only work part time at a restaurant and we literally are poor af. When we started getting into Monster High together she did the exact same thing and basically bought every currently available G3 doll in a three month span and now she collects the old G1 dolls that are hella expensive.


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>>30924924
You need to have a serious talk about finances with her. Is she aware of how little you have, or do you tend to deal with the money side of things? Also, how old is she? If she's young she might not have a proper concept of money yet, if she has never had to provide for herself she won't really comprehend money properly. If she's gone from relying on her parents straight to you she is probably financially retarded. If you want this relationship to work, sit and have an honest chat with her, if she can't handle that then she probably isn't worth your time or money.
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>>30924924
You need to sit her down and have a serious conversation about your finances. It sounds like she’s stuck with them very childish ideas about money. Sounds like she went straight from being dependent on he parents to depending on you? She probably doesn’t take it seriously at all because she’s genuinely never had to, so you’re going to need to wake her up. “It doesn’t matter that it cost ‘only $50’ because we literally have $20 to our name.” I know that sounds really retarded to even have to say that, but this type of girl has straight up never thought about this stuff before, and it’s going to keep getting worse if you don’t nip it in the bud.

Looks like a quality statue though. So at least there’s that.
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>>30925315
>stuck with them very childish ideas
*stuck with some
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>>30924924
Hey I have the same problem as your gf. It’s actually debilitating. Maybe she’s waiting for you to ask her about this so you can help her. I currently feel powerless and I need my husband to take control of my finances that I keep ruining. I would feel free of this consumerist demon if he took that burden off my shoulders. Ask her if she wants help controlling finances from now on. It might give her intense relief. You can tell her that another autistic girl on the Internet has this issue too and said to ask her about it. Ask me anything about it if you are more curious about the issue itself since I have personal experience with it.
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>>30924924
If that anime statue is legit, they can get pretty expensive, so $50 is a steal if you feel like reselling. Otherwise, this is definitely something you should sit down and talk about, spending money on fun things is important too, but not when y’all are so strapped for money. Spending my savings, especially on hobby stuff is difficult for me too, so I do understand the impulse. But that doesn’t make that kind of behavior okay.

Been talking to girl for 2 weeks. First date went great and had a lot of chemistry. We went out for dinner. Second date was today and didn't go as well, tried moving in for the kiss and she turned away, but we did sit down on a bench and I was able to wrap my arm around her and hold her hand.

Should I move on? This is moving way too slow for me. Should I go on another one and cut it quits if no kiss by then?

Btw I'm 27 and she's 29. We're not teens. I'm not even expecting sex right away but a kiss should be expected at this point if there's interest in both parties. I feel I'm wasting my time but she could just be a good woman I'm being way too impatient for.
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>>30923678
That's because I'm not looking for a relationship, I just got out of one. She knows that, so my intentions aren't unclear nor am I being misleading. Sex to me comes before the romantic feelings do.

We had a talk about it and she said she likes to take things slowly and was only in one relationship before, but she is interested in me and sees me as a potential person. I think I'll give her a pass since I've lost some interest and we're not looking for the same things.
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>>30925079
Potential partner*
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>>30925079
yeah give her a pass, that is fair.
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>>30919215
Yes she deserves a chaste man. Go be with a tinder ho
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>>30924298
>The answer is obvious. She licked the shithole of guys she was actually attracted to in college on the first date.
Oh definitely. She might even come to your dates with another guy's butthole sweat still on her breath.

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How can incels (or former incels) make peace with never having any hot girlfriends? Trolls fuck off
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>>30925060
T. Ugly woman
> the universe is telling you to change
Says stuff like this yet is probably atheist. Lol
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>>30924603
Based
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>>30925070
So If I'm an ugly woman do I also deserve a hot man? Get a grip pal
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>>30924393
Only someone who has never experienced them would think this. You've put sex and romance on a pedestal and in your imaginings, they've become far superior to anything they could realistically be.

Your conception of love, of romance, of what a happy relationship looks and feels like, every last facet of your understanding of these things is pure fiction. I mean that literally - the popular concept of love and romance are the fictional creations of men. They are the love songs, the poems, the novels, the films. They are men describing an ideal that doesn't exist in reality. They are, at their best, men at the highest point of their own experience of euphoric love attempting to describe and preserve that feeling.

Rather than a "pinnacle experience", that feeling is one of nature's biggest traps. It is the natural equivalent of heroin. And just like heroin, love will never be as good as it was the first time. No matter how long you chase that high, you will never feel it like you did the first time and the longer and harder you chase it, the more miserable you will be and the more of your life you will waste.
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Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

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For context I'm a college student and I met this girl in my student housing while checking my mailbox, I thought she was cute and asked her for her number. We talked for a bit, I offered to make us some food at the shared kitchen (as a way to invite her, I'm a good cook). But she refused and sent me the messages in picrel. How am I even supposed to react to that?
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>>30925121
PREACH sister
so tired of all these incels
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>>30922787
Being seen as harmless is absolutely bad. It means shes willing to use you not fuck you.
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>>30925121
This! Also maybe she thought you were gay? For some reason straight and bi femboys are super attracted to me so this happens often. I assume they are gay I don’t realize they are hitting on me.
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Just ghost her. You are feeding her ego by replying.
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>>30925121
He doesn't need advice from a tranny, lmao.

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I don't understand. In all 28 years of my life, not a single girl has ever found me attractive. Shouldn't that be statistically impossible?
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>>30925316
nope. the brutal truth is that if you met a new woman every single day for the rest of your life, you'd still never meet even half of one percent of the female population.
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>>30925316
You don't actually know that, most people never confess feelings or attraction. I have found countless people attractive and I would say I haven't expressed my feelings to 99% of them and I imagine most people are the same. Just because nobody ever said it doesn't mean they never thought it.
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Ya boy back at it again Wk th the schizo posting

Same schizo posting daily

https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/search/image/smXPqpWKWYnOstDXO9dCRg%3D%3D/page/5/

Reposts in Jan (2024)

Schizo stick figure reposter
Sage
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>>30925504
Same schizo posting daily

https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/search/image/smXPqpWKWYnOstDXO9dCRg%3D%3D/page/5/

Reposts in Jan (2024)

Schizo stick figure reposter
Sage
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>>30925508
Same schizo posting daily

https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/search/image/smXPqpWKWYnOstDXO9dCRg%3D%3D/page/5/

Reposts in Feb (2024)

Cya tomorrow autism boi

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I try to be the best at my job as I can. I work in retail and go to school part time. Part of me says I should just finish school but I'm already in my mid 30's so going to school full time doesn't feel right. I feel like I should be working. Do I have the wrong mentality? Sometimes I feel like I care way too much about what my boss thinks and my job.
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>>30924811
There is no right or wrong here. Do whatever you think is best for your happiness. If what other people think is getting in the way of you being happy, then don't listen to them. Simple.

Generally though, caring about how other people think you should live your life is a recipe for unhappiness.
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>>30924811
You should 'try to be the best' and invest the most time and energy in things that will pay you back the most longterm. A retail position is not going to pay you back longterm. A good education and valuable skills will.
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>>30924811

Can you afford to work less and study more? If not the question is moot.

>> school

What? What field are you going to "school" for? Is it your intention to turn the outcome of your tertiary studies into better work?
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>>30924863
I can afford to work less yes. I'm in school for cybersecurity and if I can find a job in the field then I most certainly would but I've heard it's pretty competitive.
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>>30924878
Then work less

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My bf has been threatening with cumming inside to get me pregnant and I've been dead scared to have sex for the past week, though I'm mad horny.

We're waiting to buy a house (we live in a crammed 2-room flat) that we'll also have to work on renovating. Initially, the decision was to wait to buy the house which should happen this year, work and finish it then try for a family. Now he's pushing it all of a sudden. We're in our early 30s and he says if we wait too long it might be too late. That might be true but I personally know women who've had healthy babies even at 40, though I don't want to wait until then. Just 2-3 more years.

Biggest problem is how do I mentally prepare for this change and responsibility? I'm autistic and lazy, don't like children only animals and barely face taking care of making food for 2 people. I've read pros and cons of pregnancy/children and I'm more undecided than ever. How can I feel sure of myself?
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>>30924726
Also women are left by their bfs all the time once they spit out a kid you need to lock him down before you're even pregnant. Don't be a fool
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>>30924726
This is some next level femcel trolling. I am really sorry if you think any man is stupid enough to knock someone up when he doesn't like the person.
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>>30925003
You've been living under a rock
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>>30922832
YOURE TOO OLD RIGHT NOW TO NOT HAVE FUCKED UP KIDS AND YOU WANT TO WAIT 2 OR 3 MORE YEARS BECAUSE RICH CUNTS CAN SPEND 40k TO GET PREGNANT AT 40 HOLY FUCK HE SHOULD DUMP YOUR ASS FOR A HOT 23 YEAR OLD
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My mom was 32, and I came out over cooked. It is too late, just because the baby isn't delivered in a bottle doesn't mean it will be a healthy adult.

I recommend leaving this man, but you also don't have any other choice, there's no going back in time. If you do have a baby, you better submit to the father and give up any fantasy of being an equal partner. Otherwise you will emotionally fuck up your child in ways that will last until they're 30, if they don't kill themselves before.

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Are there any jobs I can get with a CS degree that won't be outsourced to pajeet or taken over by AI in the next decade?
If not, what kind of career change should I consider?
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bump
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>>30924514
Actuary
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>>30924872
If software dev is taken over by AI, so is the actuary field
Also in Europe actuaries have to do specialized degrees, I haven't heard of any of them coming from a CS background
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>>30924514
MY BUDDY GOT A CS DEGREE AND HE USED IT TO GET A JOB AND THEN HE MARRIED A 32 YEAR OLD SINGLE MOTHER HAHAHAHAHA THATS WHAT YOU HAVE COMING FOR YOU HOPE IT WAS WORTH IT HAHAHHAA
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If you are looking for stability now and in the future I would just go into the usual paths (nursing, vet, medicine, physiotherapy, etc)


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