I hate loud sounds. Claps, shouting, arguing, talking—all of this makes me completely uncomfortable. What could be causing this?
>>34071315'tismI mean, obviously.
I have the same issue, I'm also what you might call a psychology nerd.https://www.simplypsychology.org/highly-sensitive-persons-traits.htmlYou could also be schizoid, which sounds worse than it is, (it's not schizophrenic). Could be a touch of the tism as already noted. Could be a hundred other things.What really matters is what you do about it, how you handle it. You might want to stop telling yourself that you can't stand the noises, because you can stand them. There are unfortunately a lot of other bad things you can tell yourself that makes things worse, e.g. "This noise is fucking terrible". Let's say there are two different scales of human suffering, one rational scale that goes from 1 to 10, and one irrational scale that goes from 11 to a million. When you tell yourself things are terrible or that you can't stand them, you are using the irrational scale. When you say something rational like "I really don't like this fucking noise, it is very bad, I would rate it as a 7 out of 10 in badness", then you are using the rational scale and you help yourself cope.Another thing you might consider is how you might "cure" yourself. I could type for hours about this and this is 4chan so I don't know if I would be wasting my time. It would come down to exposure though, so I suggest researching how psychotherapists use exposure to cure people. You would slowly expose yourself, first in your imagination, then in real life, to the uncomfortable thing, and manage how you talk to yourself before, during and after. After some time and practice you can improve the way it feels, or maybe get rid of the problem all together. It takes more than just a few times of practice but it might be worth it for you.
What is the easiest job I can get that will pay for Costco groceries, a studio apartment, internet, a cellphone plan with unlimited data and some beersThis is all I want in life
>>34070489Hmm I used to do that on twitter before OF existed got up to 900ish followers
>>34070662Post twitter let's assess
>>34070803I deleted it like 5 years ago heres a recent photo I took
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>>34070474I won't read lazy mediocrity threads.
What kind of easy jobs are there in the arts? I don't even know where to go after school. It's really stressing me out, and I don't want to go to OnlyFans.
>>34071341none will be easy, dont fall for the onlyfans trap either, that will just be selling your dignity for a nickel, just do your best to provide for yourself and your loved ones with honest work and if you get to do art to acheive that thats awesome, if not keep doing it on the side and getting involved in circles where art is happening, things are looking bleaker than ever for creatives but its still not impossible
What advice would u give t teenagers?
>>34071215"I'm sorry for your loss"
>>34071215stay away from this website, stay put of your bedroom, otherwise just dont start any hard substances and treat people well
>>34071224*out* of your bedroom, too much time spent idly is a waste of your most formative years, chase things that are mentally stimulating to you
>>34071215I won't read musings about no-one in particular. Ask for specific advice for someone next time.
Why did a lying gay drug addict who takes pedo photos get a platform? Is the media owned by creeps?
Dunno, ask trump afterall he was best friends with the most prolific and evil pedo for over 10 years.>t. File 463
>>34070987I don't know, man. Why is a serial rapist president of the United States? It's crazy.
>>34070987>Is the media owned by creeps?
>>34070987When you can't have your needs satisfied by society, in some cases, people become passionate workaholics to cope.
My son goes to the same high school as my ex boss daughter. The guy made my life a torture back when we were younger, he bullied me, humiliated me, and made me feel like I was nothing. Should I ask my son to fuck up his daughter up? I don't care how, if he straight up bullies her or tricks her and makes her a single mom (he is very handsome), I want revenge.
>>34066576What if she falls madly in love with your son and they get married? Then the bullying will continue for the rest of your life from the rehearsal dinner to the wedding and beyond. even their first born will look at you as a coward.
>>34066576No, that’s insane and brutally unfair to that man’s daughter.I have to seriously question how capable you are as a father for even entertaining something like this.
>>34066576Do it yourself if it's a huge deal and you clearly don't care how screwed up an even worse idea sounds
>>34066576Sins of the father are not sins of the daughter
>>34066576This is from a manga.
how do i know if i have a testicular torsion?
oh here's a stupid thread. /adv/ why don't you bump this stupid bullshit to 400 replies like normal?Why don't you repost this stupid bullshit 2 more times next month, and get the same amount of replies!Why not!shittiest board on the planet btw.
>>34070907If you're in agony and one of your balls is turning black, you probably do.
>>34070907im sorry to say theres just no way to know for sure
Here's the thing, I'm talking to a woman on Badoo. She mentioned in her bio that she likes beards in men - I happen to have one.She was praising it from the beginning and overall she was very warm and sweet to me (ex. using diminutives for my name).But she wasn't as talkative as I am, but overall responded to all the topics at time, asking questions and adding some topics herself.She also wasn't very active on that app ever, she would get on it every few - dozen hours and for a short time.In my last response to her I kinda did get comfy with my talkativeness and IDK if it overwhelmed her or somethingbut she wouldn't respond for 24+ hours and when she did, she responded kinda short even for her standard.She did mention one topic, said how it's interesting to her and she would like to hear more. She responded to my ADHD claimwith "I'm more of a reserved person but the problem is I'm not here too often".Okay, but in that same (last) message I asked her where can I text her outside of the app.So why did she only claim she doesn't come here often but didn't give me her contact elsewhere? Why did she respond so low-effort?Is it low interest or was she actually overwhelmed? If it's the former, why say she wants to hear some more about a certain topic?
>>34069296Just to add some info, here are the amount of characters per message:>Me (opener): 270>Her: 210>Me: 507>Her: 370>Me: 487>Her: 368>Me: 671>Her: 276>Me: 698>Her: 513>Me: 1429 + a meme pic (Here's where I overdone it, talked about a few topics and proposed using some other social media)>Her: 154 (Her lowest effort respoonse yet, after 24h+, where she said she wanted to hear about one particular topic some more and that she's more calm and reserved but doesn't visit the app too often, but didn't give me any other contact info)Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Bump. I didn't text her, she texted first, asking me nicely for my fb. It surprised me a lot. I send her the link, but she didn't respond since then.Is she socially retarded?
>>34069306idk what any of this means but based on this post, no you shouldnt be pursuing romantic endeavors and instead focus on your ocd
>>34071183No, but you are. Honest question, do you not see how insane this is? The level of focus time and energy you devoted to overanalyzing this screams OCPD (not OCD) or just unwellness in general. You really need help regardless of whether youre aware or not asap. Even just a peer service to talk to another human so you start to break this insane spiral
How do you stop hating yourself when you're ACTUALLY a bad person and 99% of people would agree that you're correct in your self-assessment? Self-hate is unproductive and leads to nothing, I know that. It's still almost impossible to get rid of it unless you own the things you did and embrace them, which isn't the path I want to take. No religious salvation bs, please. I feel like most "unlearning self-hatred" things are directed towards absolute OCD pussies who never did anything wrong in their lives, or if they did, it was very minor. But there's nothing out there for trademark bad people with legitimate reasons for their self-hatred. Except for religious groups trying to groom and blackmail you.
>>34069536>>34069546you can literally think of any position that would lead you to hate yourself, but the effect will always be the same where you're just sitting there, self-inflicting and the only outcome is a feeling of pain and guilt. it's obvious that you have learned, it's obvious that you will no longer make those same mistakes, so what's the point of self-inflicting pain? this isnt how you learn, and if you wire your brain to learn through pain then you will lead yourself into situations that you have placed yourself in before without even realizing it.think about it, the fact that you feel guilty now is because something significant happened. if you truly are a bad person, you did things to people without even thinking about it, not realizing the consequences. you realize the consequences now because you've done something significant. but what about all those small bad things you've done with no remorse at the time? you didnt have anything substantial to happen to you before, so you didnt learn from it. the true and only way to move forward is so that, when you're feeling normal and not bad about yourself, you understand there are ways to behave that are aligned with your morals that do not involve you having to feel so fucking sorry for yourself. the feeling of sorrow is not necessary but attempting to live your life avoiding regret is the most important way you have to live from now on.
>>34069331just shrug. it doesn't matter. religion and morality isn't real and no one cares. pedophiles and bankers run the world and no one stops them. why hold yourself to moral standards if it's just gonna hold you back? who gives a shit what people think if they're never gonna punish the people on their team that break the rules?https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Concept_of_the_Political
>>34069331>It's still almost impossible to get rid of it unless you own the things you did and embrace them, which isn't the path I want to take.Why? Who says that owning the things you did and embracing them that it must somehow mean you will double-down on doing wrong or evil? Because truth is when you embrace that’s part of who you are, you don’t double-down on being bad, you dial it back and stop being bad so much. You take control over the negative shit instead of having it take control over (you). That’s how it’s done, OP. You can’t hope to control your inner demons if you don’t first own them and put them on a leash.
>>34069331Make restitution for your past evil acts, resolve to never do them again and to do better in the future, and accept that you're gonna carry that weight.
>>34069590>The whole point is that I already made the effort and changed.(NTA) I have to agree with the other anon: based on your conduct in this thread so far, you come across as a rude, obnoxious, aggressive piece of shit. Maybe if you stopped being so angry and so unpleasant to people all the time, you'd feel better about yourself? You're also making it difficult for people to help you by constantly talking in abstracts. It would be a lot easier if you told us what, precisely you actually did in the past that made you dislike yourself so much, what you have done to try to change, in what ways you feel it hasn't worked (other than that you're still rude and aggressive to people who are trying to help you), and in what ways you are trying to atone. Right now we're just guessing.
I worry that women won't accept it. Is my fetish that bad or not?
as far as fetishes go this is a really tame one. it's not like you have a scat fetish or a fetish for corpses or anything
>>34068526I don't share the armpit fetish but wow she's cute. I like how effortlessly cute and laidback she looks at the same time with the casual outfit, messy looking hair, and seemingly no makeup at all except for maybe some clear lipstick?
Both of the girls I've brought it up with were cool with it and actually liked having their armpits licked once they tried it, so I think you're good OP. (I don't have any more data unfortunately:(( )
>>34068526Who cares. I get off smelling my partners pits when she's sweaty.
>>34068526my girlfriend has an armpit fetish too by sheer coincidence, i wasnt looking for that or anything, youre good for sure
My wife and I are mid 30's and married. We both have good careers. Made $225,000 this year together and next year will be at $250,000. We will probably be at $300,000 by the time we are 40. We have $475,000 invested for retirement in index funds and will add $100,000 next year if we maintain our current lifestyle. We're unable to have children and we live well below our means. Have a modest condo and don't eat out much or buy expensive clothes.We also have modest cars, but I'm feeling bored of just living my life to make line go up in our accounts. I'm starting to feel like what am I doing all this saving for when tomorrow isn't guaranteed? Known a couple people that have died in the last few years and it makes me fear having regret for not doing things while I still have the time. It was a boyhood dream of mine to drive a nice car and I'm not really interested in driving a nice one when I'm old. Would I be retarded if I got a 2 or 3 year old CPO BMW M340i next year? I would put a good down payment on it and finance the rest for 3 years. I'm not doing it as a status thing to try and look cool for others because I know no one cares. I just love the car and want to drive around in it with my wife. She's on board with it. Go on vacations with it and stuff. It would be my only big splurge.
>>34069627Blow a few million. Your life right now matters more than that of you at old age.I am quite serious about this.
>>34070579Anon, the story is that they make 200k but magically be at 300k in a couple years and they are contemplating buying a preowned bmw. If it's real, OP is a complete idiot anyway, there's no point using logic. It's memed on that only poors buy the used bmws that come from above average income people who lease them
Tldr'd you either buy fertility treatments, retire early, or fix some societal problem
>>34070904I wouldn't call creating a private foundation to dispense grants fixing a societal problem. It lets people who have no legacy keep their memory alive and all rich people do is use their money for power and control anyway. At least that way you're not just being a horrible person with it in theory. People would be surprised how common rich people doing it with their extra money is. It buys a lot of power in their community while they're alive
>>34069627If you’re interested in that kind of car, I would lease instead. It sounds like you’re just buying the car out of boredom and not because you are a racing car enthusiast. In three years, you’ll be bored of your current car. It’s convenient to just pick up a new lease and it’s clear you have the money to do so.
i am SURE i can help some of you incels out no offense lolcredentials: real social life/woman
>>34070035>be on your phoneSadly I walk with two sticks, so I can't use my phone at the same time. I'll just have to scare you. :(Which is worse, having someone come up behind you walking significantly faster than you are, or someone getting very slowly closer over the course of several minutes?
>>34069661How do I honestly convince my gf to have a threesome
>>34070428Femfrauds indeedAn actual pretty human is a rare eventPeople might have a good feature or two but all combined and taken into consideration usually they aren't well-rounded/all-rounded, too many ugly features outweigh any good ones
25 year old man here. I've never been on a date in my life. Any tips or things to watch out for, from the female perspective?
>>34070651I'm not OP, but you can't. Someone either wants to do that, or they don't; it's not something they can be convinced to do. If she were to ask how to convince you to let another man fuck you in the ass, would there be a good answer to that? You might be into that; but if you're not, there's nothing she could say to convince you.
Recently met someone and started dating. On our second date our chemistry was growing and we started tongue kissing and things started getting intense. Before it could go any further she stopped me and told me she has hsv 2 but she's on treatment. I don't know what to do:( I don't know if I am ready to make such a big decision. What are my chances of getting it from kissing if there are no visible sores? What would you do in my situation I'm sad
>>34070373this lolop is probably the same tho lol
>>34070373When i started dating my future wife, she tongue kissed me on the first date. She had been a lesbian before she dated me so idk maybe lesbians are faster with that type of thing.
>>34066224just do blood test
>>34066224Gross dude
>>34066224>What are my chances of getting it from kissing if there are no visible sores?Depends. Herpes is often restricted to one part of the body; if she has it in her pussy, she may well not have it in her mouth. The treatment won't cure it, but will probably prevent her from transmitting it.
Is medical billing and coding a good paying job? I earn decently right now but it's hard labor and I really just want to make a fucking shitload of money so I can retire early
>>34064420It is now. AI may change that.
>>34065689Agreed and to that point, if you don't already have a foot in the door in terms of networking and connections in place and OP is of adult age it's already too late. Any of these smaller industries, you either need to be absolutely exceptional or a friend/family hire. There's just not enough positions, and especially something higher stakes, people wont take a shot on you knowing your career path. I know in my career, even taking on students to supervise, I see people in their late 20s early 30s who have on their resume that they are in school doing a midlife career change and I immediately bin it. I can't be bothered because it tells me they almost certainly are here for the money but wont have the intangibles in place from being immersed in the industry vs the person who at least has some kind of volunteer or work experience in (your case) medical stuff
>>34070209>Agreed and to that point, if you don't already have a foot in the door in terms of networking and connections in place and OP is of adult age it's already too latewrong>Any of these smaller industries, you either need to be absolutely exceptional or a friend/family hireAlso wrong. Contrary to AI anon, this shit isn't going to be automated for years, maybe decades (too many laws and loopholes to trust to a computer) and outlook is grim for having enough coders. There's an initial struggle getting hired just because few places WANT freshly certified coders, but the situation is so grim atm a lot of places have little choice. You're just assuming all "white collar office work" is the same and applying the same clichés to any desk job.
>>34070487At least you have a name so I can filter your stupidity. I said nothing about AI so I don't know what you're stupid rant is ever addressing. You also don't know what the fuck OP is even talking about becuase that job isn't "coding". Reading comprehension.I am a regulated professional in a role that works with people doing the career OP is talking about. You're completely wrong. Big city no chance, rural area they groom relatives into these roles while they're young
>>34070619>I said nothing about AII explicitly called them "AI anon" and you can scroll up (ONE post above you) to see... another anon talking about AI>HOW DARE YOU TALK TO ME LIKE THAT I'M A PROFESSIONALHey faggot, what "professional" role are you in here? Tell me in detail, because I think you likely would have just named it to begin with and not just vaguely insinuating what it is.
>women that I was friends with for five years and in love with for two years dumps me on a whim. She was my first and only love. >I was devastated by it and did not understand why. I am stunted and do not talk to her for a week.>After a week I reach out and ask why she dumped me. >"Anon I do not love you anymore">Even though a month earlier she was very happy with me. And she's always been in those years. Very consistently. I did not notice a change in her attitude.>Of course, I did not lose my feelings for her.>Three weeks later she's sleeping with a guy from a dating app. Who did not call her back, by the way. >She tells me and I'm devastated by it. >I know that, formally, it had ended. But I did not lose my feelings for her, of course. I could not believe, how she could have done that to me. Knowing how I feel for her and that I thought she was not only my lover but my friend. I felt deeply betrayed.>I break off contact completely, delete her photos, throw her presents in the trashWhat do you make of this?>I try dating again>I feel as if I had wasted five years of my life on a person that threw it all away in a month. As if I had never really know her, in the first place.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34070867Already did, married and got kids now. I was close to calling it quits on the idea of love, but I wasn’t happy with feeling like a victim or feeling like all women were hoes or that love never existed etc. Seemed way too easy of a conclusion, still had more unresolved questions. Like “why did I allow this to happen in the first place? what did I not see at the beginning?” and i obsessed over that till I came to the conclusion its because I had zero self esteem and I was attracting social parasites like a piece of dog shit attracts maggots. So I worked on self esteem for a solid year and stopped caring to find love or sex and shit clicked into place.
>>34070895What do you make of the memories? Both the bad and the good ones?
>>34070949With the ex? The bad memories still feel bad. The good memories used to feel bad when I was still stung and hurt, then they felt like nothing. Now I can think of the good memories and realise they were good memories, just misguided ones. I remember them as if they were someone else’s memories, not mine. Like watching some old film reel in the screen of my mind. I neither love or hate the ex, neither desire or miss them, just the same feeling I got for them as I would have someone passing me by in the street, a stranger, really.
>>34070980Thanks, man. This gives me hope. Take care.
>>34070503>women that I was friends with for five years and in love with for two years dumps me on a whim.So, you were never actually a couple, right? You never dated? You were in love with her and she was never interested in you?
