What advice would u give t teenagers?
>>34071215Develop good habits. Avoid bad habits.
>>34071215Do sports, try as many hobbies or activities as possible to see what you're good at, to see what you like.
>>34077956>"experience" and not a familyYou will have bothI give this advice because it forces one to direct attention away from just their lonesome world and image, and more towards other people and what they perceive, how they think, and how to mesh with them, a focus away from the self and to another human. Financial preparation is part of it. It is a drastic change that forces one to be more serious and consider things.But yeah, some people shouldntve had kids
>>34071215>What advice would u give t teenagers?Youth is wasted on the youth. Youth is wasted if you just sit still and consume. Get up and create. Go out into the world and live. Nothing really matters until you turn 25. Want to run through girlfriends every 2 months? Do it. Want to tell your parents to fuck off? Do it! Want to live like a bum for a few months? Do it. Get drunk, sleep it off under a bush, then drive home.Just avoid making decisions that will permanently affect your future. Examples : debt, pregnancy, military service, criminal record, tattoos, drug or alcohol dependency, debilitating injury.I'm not saying "drop out until 25." Getting an education is good. And if you have a specific goal, say doctor or civil engineer, you're going to need to focus on that. But outside of that, remember that nobody in the adult world is going to give a fuck about your grades. At worst, your workers and boss want you to be smart and knowledgeable.
>>34077011>Don't let the internet/video games consume you. Spend time doing things with actual real life value.thats what the fuck i was saying dude, what do you think i meant by get out of your bedroom
Istacyne antibiotic 100 mg helped remove it but that's all, just a short term help which i have to rely on, I removed it and moved to Ketoderm which i'm on 10 weeks and it's fucking slow and doing nothingI have bacterial overgrowth in my fucking chin and under nose, can't even go out without someone telling me that I have this shit in my face, Fuck this shit, I considered suicide for this shit
change your diet bro, its not bacterial its fungal, and shit that feeds fungus is sugars and wet warm environments, keep your sheets clean, stop eating sugary foods, for some that includes dairy, for some it includes wheat products, for some it includes alcohol, i cant drink normal coffee because thats a bad trigger for mine, i switched to decaf and it helps, drink water, wash your face and hair with sebderm specific products, go to the gym, take a lot of vitamins for skin/immune healthits life altering but not ruining if you know you have options, stay strong man i promise its worth finding out what your solution is, just have to start with the nuclear treatment and work your way down to find a balance
>>34076786Thanks bro, I don't think Diet holds that much value, more of a stress thing
>>34076762>Sebborheic DermatitisCaused by parasites and toxins. Turpentine parasite cleanse and Andreas Moritz liver flush.
>>34077100stress can be found in your digestive tract too, you dont realize how the gut skin and mind form this fucked up triangle of torture, just try it and see if it doesnt help
Fembots, do women really hate each other and see other women as competition?
>>34078102Yep>gf talks that shit about the sisterhood>mention another woman, even a co worker>"who is she, why are you sending her memes, etc"Women are that retarded.
I miss being young when I see photos like these. So cute. So careless. So beautiful and horrible all at once.
>>34078516Youth is wasted on the young as they say. The pic has that stink of young person.>liminal melancholy>vibe of not knowing who they are, or where tney belong>living on the periphery of life itself>yet feeling stuck yet free, freely stuck>nothing to do but light a cigarette, so cool. so vogue, so kino, so lana del ray, so kurt cobain likeYoung people are dumb as dirt. Loveable dumb sacks of dirt. Their lack of awareness is never endingly funny too lol.
>>34076568Yes especially towards younger and prettier and child-free and less broken/bitter women. At my mostly male factory job no one ever said anything bad to me or got in my way, other than old lady who snickered at me every time I walked by. At other customer facing jobs with mostly female staff, was constantly sabotaged and made fun of (ofc in ways that you can't prove). One even permanently physically hurt me. The most terrible combo? An older black woman who's jealous of a younger white woman. It's as if the seething can be measured on the riktor scale. Sure women don't grape but grape's rare anyways, really it's women that will get you fired just for not liking that you didn't respond with enough submissiveness in your voice or some shit. My own mother gave young me weight gaining drugs even though I was a healthy weight, and constantly bakes and gives me sweets. You're not even fully allied with your own mother. If they're stuck with a 3 child apron belly, then they want you fat too, just to feel better.
>>34078672Yeah, so romantic. You're right. Most of the time nothing happened. Stupid, I guess. Excuse me. I have to tend to some responsibilities.
I'm 20 and for all my childhood and adolescence I had been shy and social anxious until I turned 18. Since then, I have been trying to improve my social skills, but there is something that I just can't get it on that is talking to women (women from my family not included). I don't know how to approach, what to talk or how to get a girl to kiss me, everytime I try to talk with one I just look like a robot.How the fuck do you talk to an woman? They all seem to have poor knowledge about more complex things, it just feels like I can't talk with them about metaphysical or technology heavy subjects (which I like to talk about) because they all seem to know nothing or get bored when you talk about these subjetcs with them.
Heavily depends on the woman, some just make it hard for you to talk to them, so don't think youre the problem, it goes both ways to have a conversation. Just continue talking with different woman.
I don't know what exactly you mean by 'approach', it's better to talk to women when you have a context that allows an organic conversation to happen (like she's taking a class with you, or she's a coworker, or it's a date from a dating app).Getting better at socializing is like learning the guitar, you have to practice doing the thing, not read about it. One useful piece of advice is that you have to internalize that you can't get on with literally anyone, sometimes you don't vibe conversations peter out, that's fine, it's just how things work.Also, what's your baseline? Do you have at least one friend? I think I wouldn't even bother with anything romantic if I had 0 friends. Not a big deal, just handle that first, establishes you have basic social skills.
The issue is you’re talking to neurotypical women, anon..
>>34073820Crawl before you walk, walk before you run. Start by meeting women in mixed-gender settings, like classes or clubs. It's easier to chat when gender is simply irrelevant to the situation. That will de-mystify them somewhat and make them less scary one-on-one
look up rizzzcam on insta, he gives a good example of social skills. i am working on the defunkt energy in my regular life but he changed my life fore sure, i would say that there is a breadth of experience you can get to where you dont have to worry about if you look like a robot, its just another one of many experiential experiences that actually, can have that lack of social skills in it from you yourself truly. its normal stuff. anywhere, anyway, where you can get yourself enough experience to say that its just a small thing to have normal nervousness then thats A OK
I'm 31 years old, haven't been employed in 8 years. I'm ugly, live with my parents, have no college diploma and no way to excel in life. I have severe social anxiety and am a very nervous person. I'm very wary of people. But I'm thinking of my options and realize I don't have anything left. So should I bite the bullet and join the coast guard, or try something different?
>>34071641okay i'll even take doing a little
saw people say look into working for MSPs. lemme just fire off my resume w/ a near ten year gap I am going to do so well LMFAO
hey tech companies i haven't done shit outside of one small contract for like 200 hours over 2 years for the last 10 years after getting fired because i'm too fuckin stupid to be a code monkey please train me to be an overpaid wfh teach worker or i'll kill myself
>>34027784Weird I was going to make a post about joining the airforce at 31 todayI havent come in here in forever, i have a remote marketing job but Im over it and it will probably get automated soonThere are a couple of jobs in the AF I was interested in
>>34078317mbn to not be medically unable to do ATC. I am legitimately perfect for the job but medically not cleared because FUCKING COLORS
If I don't get any responses I'm doing it in an hour.At first this post is going to be a vent and at the end an advice request.Basically I went to a few dates with this girl I met in university, an insecure girl, not really comfortable with herself, but I liked her. After a month of seeing each other we stopped and she told she wasn't interested in relationships.fast forward to a few months later she writes to me, things start coming back together, I tell myself that I'll give her a last chance, if she isn't interested I'll then begin considering her as a friend.We meet a few days later, but she is mentally distant, I don't even understand why she deflects any fun or romantic topic like a pest, for some other reason when I signal that I'm about to go she insists that I stay, I stay for some time and nothing really happens.I guess she wasn't into me, still don't know why she texted me out of the blue after months of being apart.I text her after the holidays and she ignores it, send her another, she replies, send her a text to possibly meet as friends, she ignores it.I'm not foreseeing to see this girl ever again since she ghosted me and we don't have any groups in common.-----She is cute and I feel bad for her obsession on losing weight and insecurity; I want to close all the threads I left behind before the arrival of the new year and not having to think about it anymore, which is why I'll text her this:Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34078396It's a reference to how she asked me to teach her how to speak with the barman, I'm Italian, she's not. Anything could sound like I'm being a dickhead, but this I hope in context makes sense.
New:"Anyways, you really are beautiful although you don't notice that, and I'm telling you just to let you know, since I don't think we fit well. I'm moving on. I wish you happy holidays and lots of fun around the italian cafes."
"Anyways, you really are beautiful although you don't notice that, and I'm telling you just to let you know, since I don't think we fit well. I'm moving on. I wish you happy holidays and lots of fun around the italian cafes, without mistaking your ordering"makes more sense, yeah I think this is it.
>>34078443*"messing up your order" but yeah, I'm sending this.
I sent it, I might update the thread if I get a reply.I think you guys helped me clean all the hanging threads left in my message and head; it, the message, permeates a positive mood.
I wish I had the courage to tell people that are doing annoying things to fuck off but I'm too afraid of getting my ass kicked.How do people do it?
>>34065997Get a weapon (like a knife) and decide if they throw fists you're going to end them. It's not wrong to protect yourself so if they put you in that situation it's their own fault what happens next.
>>34071479GET TO THE CHOPPAAHHH
>>34073986I'LL BE BACK!!!
>>34072505Spoken like someone who hasn't been in a fight since grade school.
>>34078276kek what?
At what point should you accept a relationship being stagnant? I've been with my gf for about 4yrs now, and while she's great and all, nothing has really progressed in terms of our future. Even my mother said she's starting to think that I'm wasting my time because we haven't even gotten close to being ready for kids or even a real adult future. While I know every relationship is different, I can't feel like mine is reaching a point where it's just sitting idle. What do you anons think? Yes I will talk to her, but I wanted different opinions.
>>34076331If you arn't living together, why not? Not to mention if you expect her to save while you also save, but you don't want to help her with living expenses to do so (because you are probably already paying rent elsewhere) then wtf are you doing? Wasting both your times and cutting your investment by more than half. You must be retarded because that shit doesn't make any sense,
>>34076331She has mentioned wanting kids but in a non practical way. You know how kids say they wanna be an astronaut when they grow up but have no idea of the real work involved? That's her with kids. She thinks kids is like having a dog, which is frustrating because that hints to me that she will be a poor mother.
Stagnancy is not measured by external milestones but rather you both being comfortable and happy. What would "not' being idle look like? WHat is a "real adult future"? Realize that if you're comfortable with how it is(both of you) that's okay. You can take things on your own speed and what success looks like to you may be different. Its natural to get a little nervous when society (either passively or actively like your mom's comment) appears to comment on or say you're not on the "regular" path, but that doesn't mean they're correct. Your relationship can progress with intimacy and a slow one that does it right is greatly preferable rather than one where people get their finances and lives entangled quickly, get married etc..and then find out 5 or 10 years down the line they get divorced because they really weren't right for each other or do a "what might of been mid life crisis" or something unexpected like a serious illness was never tested etc... end up breaking things. Spend 5 years dating before you get married especiallyif you're in your 20s or 30s. As far as living together, it can come down to everything from financial to social/interpersonal factors when that's right for you, but its worth giving some thought. If its better for you both to live at home for instance and save for when you move in together for instance, that's an idea. However if you're both living alone it may be a good to decide if moving in together is something worthwhile and if one or both of you arent' ready from an emotional or life skills standpoint (there's a big difference between seeing each other on dates and being in the same home together when you both look like shit and are taking dumps in the same bathroom etc). then see what wiill make you more comfortable and what holdups there may be. Same with the kids thing - you do NOT want to do that until everything else is long term stable for years and years ideally.
>>34077487Some foid want to have a man to dedicate their life to. To cook for, to bathe with, to smell his farts and play with his hair. Nothing is more desireable than having a man come home to a hot meal, take his clothes off for him and bathe and lotion him to releave him of his daily stresses. This is something some women want to do. What is funny is that it is often the most dominant women who want to subjugate themself to in the most trad of ways. That being said, I would still pull out my riding crop and ball gag to please him of his biological yernings.
>>34073478Don't let your mum get too into your head, things are different now than they used to be. If you guys are having a good time it's okay not to artificially make your lives harder just because you feel like you're supposed to by now.>>34076709Why would you help with your partners living expenses? She should be entirely capable of saving her own money. It's a big assumption that they're both living on their own and not with friends in various house sharing situations. It's completely normal in some countries to have house mates and would likely be more expensive to just live together.
Is it entirely normal for me to have at once been a very confident person, then for that sense of power to have gone away with time? It seems I believed I was the king of the world when I was younger, now talking to people feels terrifying and alienating. Thing is, I don't even know if I want to feel that power or influence anymore, for some reason I just want to stop caring more than put any energy into having any sort of confidence and just go on with my life...Not sure if anyone here relates?
>Got ghosted, AGAIN, for the Nth timeOkay maybe It's my bad luck, but why do women do this? Did they not have a proper upbringing to teach ethics and morals and virtue, I don't mind being rejected, no problem,a 1000 people 1000 differences, but what the hell, when you lead me on and throw stuff at me and then just disappear into thin air, without any politeness or human decency, then sorry, it's not my or a male problem, it becomes a general women problem.Assholes exist, but women do this way waay more. What gives?
>>34073942You hate gravity but don't want to lose weight
>>34073869If you get ghosted once, it was just a bad date.If you get ghosted repeatedly, you're doing something wrong or your personality is weird.
>>34077373>Nta, my friends like me and I can hold the interest of strangers in conversations and have them try to get closer to me - men as well as womenWho you are in friendships or in casual conversation is not who you are in a romantic setting. Plenty of awful people have friends and can hold conversation. That really isn't proof of anything.>But the moment I express romantic interest, women dip out of my life.Well, its something about you or your behavior. Again, if "all women are like this and its not my fault" is the position you take then you essentially admit you have zero control, there's nothing you can do to change your circumstance and you're just here to complain about it.
>>34073869>why do women do this?Ghosting was invented by millennials and is prevalent in all genders.To answer your other question - you got ghosted because you are a millennial.
>>34078103Ghosting has been around for a long time bro, the method has just changed. It was easier in the past since there was no social media so people could just disappear without having to block on various websites.
Is it time to put a gun in my mouth? I can't even crack 1500 on lichess. Seriously, is there a reason to live when vermin like this can cheat with impunity and get away with it because they intentionally lose some games? It makes me physically ill.
>>34068458its ironic I got my 2400 blitz chesscom account banned for typing to an aussie guy that I wish for him to die of cancerhe played some obscure line in the king’s indian and I got a good position but lost a lot of time early and he flagged menevertheless don't kys yourself opkill someone else instead like your boss or some immigrants
>>340684581000 elo 2 digit IQ kramnik.Also, who replies to messages on lichess? lmao
Just found your account and just reported you with a link to an archive of this thread attached.Get ready to get banned faggot.
>>34077725>Just found your accountName?
>>34078301>Name?lichess.org/@/Kramnik_Is_Rightnta, but you just have to look at the other players accounts and find when he played them, the screenshot has a timestamp
How do I not kill myself for having such a late start?I will never catch up. I am constantly reminded of my inescapable inferiority.
>>34074448>at 23oh anon, try doing it at 30I fucking hate retards that think your early 20's are too late. Even more so because i used to be the same retard
You decided to give up without trying.
>>34074272I am also a late bloomer but not by choice. This also made me the most ambitious man in the world.
>>34076012Higher granularity means lower chance of deciding a person's ENTIRETY is superior/inferior to you. If one actually has to decompose one into tidbits, it's unlikely one will think a person is just BETTER or WORSE, instead everything will be compartmentalized.>You decide they're better than you. Now you're insecure, your self-esteem gets dinged. You start thinking you don't have a right to exist in this world or try to meet your needs in it.>You decide you're better than them. Now your vanity gets inflated, you think no one is good enough for you, you close yourself to the world.Both scenarios imply one will "close off" to the world, the first scenario because 1 is too unworthy, the other because 1 is too worthyBut actually if one is in comparison engine mode, one will be more receptive to the world because it requires noticing and observing it acutely. One CANNOT "close off" and achieve this, one must open and expose oneself to the world to gain more accurate readings.And one will realise that superior/inferior is not that branding/death sentencing, it's just a fact of life and one reads the cards they're dealt with and plays their hand better.But there is no point ignoring the fact that some people have gifts/talents, others have weaknesses/hiccups/hindrances, all this helps the person target things with higher efficiency and live better.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34074272>I will never catch up.This isn't a race, man. Go at your own pace.
It’s difficult because I’m a woman and most femboys are into dudes.. which makes sense. Though if I go searching for someone under the pretenses of my fetish(?) for androgyny adjacent people then I feel like it’s disingenuous and objectifying which it isWhat should I do
>>34078090I hope so, it’s a hard demographic to scout
>>34078101I'm just saying this as a cautionary thing in case you actually attract said "femboy" and they end up liking you, but then you dump them because your hormones kicked in and you realized you like mechanics who watch football instead
>>34078166I see, thanks for letting me in on your wisdom
american or european?euros are less zogged and you probably think he's a femboy while he's just a prettyboy and you could perfectly talk with him, if you're in america the chance is still there but there is a probability he's actually gay
>>34078233Im American but I might move to Canada, I wonder if the meta is diff there..
Why am I jedi-mind-tricked into believing in artificial scarcity? Things like food and water are abundant, wasted every day. Touch and human connection should be abundant we are over 6 billion people on earth. Deprived of adventure because everything is made so safe and boring.How do I escape this mindset?
>>34076192water abundance is complicatedultimately, water that remains in circulation (eg the water that runs through your pipes and into your shower and toilet) is mostly a closed and treated loop. water used for farming is a bit more complex due to the nature of run off, evaporation, rain water transport, and other factors, especially in areas that have very low humidity/precipitation (the rockies, midwest, southwest, etc for people in the US)water reservoirs that function as city water supplies for these cities is at a higher premium when it comes to how the water gets used.tldr flushing your toilet does nothing, but running your sprinkler system to water a lawn in Reno is basically going to kill the midwest in less than 50 years time and farm lobbies brainwashed kids in the 2000s into shaming their parents for taking 20min showers
>>34076247>Just use hyperdrive to jump into hyperspace!Have you never watched Event Horizon dude??? baka
>>34076334Will check.>>34076192What way do you mean about the abundant food tho? If we put heads together and cut the crap, there can be a lot of food, but if we reject society altogether and survive from hunting, farming, foraging, bartering, most of us would be in trouble.
>>34076192Touch, human connection and adventure are all bullshit scam meme conceptsFood is all
>>34076507They are on the Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Ignore them at your peril.
My childhood was a nightmare. I was not fed and was yelled at every day for hours. The longest time I recorded was 3 hours. I will say I was not raped, so it's not too bad.My sister took it much worse than I. She is a single mother in her mid 30s so severely depressed and unhealthy that my 65 year old mom has to take care of her financially, emotionally, and physically. I'm also 90% sure my sister has become my dad and both my sister and dad are abusing and manipulating my mom.Since I was 7, it used to be my own death yearned for but I'm still here.What am I supposed to do to help my mom? She is at my sister's beck and call even after my sister drove her out of the house making my mom cry.
>>34076319If you're on an airplane and there's a catastrophic failure, oxygen masks will drop from the ceiling, and the instructions are to put on your own mask first before you help anyone else. You MUST help yourself first before you help anyone else. If you try to help someone else first, then you are liable to be trapped inside of a mental fog, dazed and confused and unable to see the situation clearly, and so you are liable to make grave mistakes while attempting to help them that only end up hurting everyone involved.Make sure you've already helped yourself before you help your mother, because you won't do her any good if you aren't helping her with a clear head. And when you truly are ready to help her, when you have both internal and external readiness, make sure that you put limits on how far you're willing to go. If she's cold, you can't set yourself on fire just to keep her warm.Talk to a therapist about this. Not just because a therapist has better training and insight than we do, but also because a therapist can be a regular fixture in your life who continues to give you evolving input as your situation evolves too.
>>34076340I think I have healed (enough)? I was away from these people for nearly a decade but I recently moved back.I just try to tell her what they are doing. It took her more than half a decade to finally stop fighting me about it and realize what I've been saying was true all along. She knows now but she is afraid if she leaves my sister will kill herself. Which I highly doubt will happen.I think I am fine. I only text her. But she's basically stuck there. She's got blood in her stool now, possibly from stress from my sister. My dad will not let her come home because he's constantly cheating on her and my sister knows she can make her stay with her "depression".
>>34076319>What am I supposed to do to help my mom? She is at my sister's beck and call even after my sister drove her out of the house making my mom cry.you can't control other people. your mom makes her own decisions. you can take my word for it and try to fix your own life, or you can spend 10 years smashing your head against this problem until the truth sinks in. your call.
>>34076319>I'm also 90% sure my sister has become my dad and both my sister and dad are abusing and manipulating my mom.You need to find out if your niece/nephew is OK. If not, either take care of them or call CPS.But I really think you need to bail on your family. Explain to your sister why you are cutting off contact. Ideally get her to come with you. But get as far from that bad situation as possible.
