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I feel so stuck, trapped in a loop of being myself and being something more than myself. I want to get off my ass, I want to change but where can I get the motivation, courage and discipline to do so?

How can I even want this for myself? I feel like a shit person everyday of my life with momentary, inane bursts of energy and drive that fizzle away beyond an hour.

It makes me tired, doing nothing and doing something make me feel lethargic. I hate it all honestly.
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>>30926200
Start small and start with one thing. You're probably losing motivation because you are thinking about many things you want to do and change, and they all require a lot of steps. It gets too much, you don't know where to start, and nothing gets done.
Break down your goals into smaller achievable goals. Break those down into steps that are manageable to do.

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I've been seeing yt vids about catching discord predators by pretending to be a girl, not sure which servers to search in tho. Does anyone know of servers where its easy to find pervs?
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>>30925876
> get creepy photos somehow (in minecraft)
what’s the point of catching predators if you will end up using CP anyway?
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>>30924594
Search servers for "roleplay", "meme", "memes".
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>>30924665
Tranny servers are 18+ by requirement.
Still tons of predators exploiting the vulnerable, but it's legal.
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>>30926130
I didn't say CP, just creepy shots. Like a mirror but selfie or whatever kids post these days. Usually that should entice an unfortunate, mentally wrung pervert enough to believe he is talking to a kid. He'll do half the convincing himself for you, just to feel a tad closer to his fantasy.
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>>30924594
People who do this are usually creeps themselves.

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Hi friends your friendly neighborhood Buddhist monk here.

Here to answer questions and offer any advice that I can.

I've been a booty smunk for more than 5 years and have found a way to deal with a lot of my suffering and I hope that my presence here and answering questions can be helpful to anyone who's looking for some hope and some peace.


Sincerely,
-Bhante Varrapanyo
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>>30915653
How to manage the effects of toxic people affecting your life and your personal image? I mean you can be a good person with good intentions and you don´t harm anybody but ....they do it to you (and even worst they lie about what they did to avoid having regrets).

I am talking about unknown people that could be randomly toxic to you (someone shouting at you when driving or looking bad at you) but also relatives that spread lies about you.

And it does not matter if you remove them from your life because you know they are affecting your image and making people be against you.

How to manage this toxicity ? It destroys your soul because you constantly see the evilness of other.
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Do you think enlightenment is a myth?

What is spirituality about for you?

Do you believe in any supernatural type things (existence of ghosts, afterlife, etc) or are you a buddhist monk mainly for spiritual reasons?

How do your parents feel about your decision to become a buddhist monk?
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>>30923736
It's cope mostly, they know they can't transcend their sexual desires and will forever remain slaves. It's crabs in a bucket.
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how can you be a buddhist and not know any kung fu or chinese medicine? do you know chinese and chinese science or no
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How’s life in a death cult? Have you subsumed your humanity completely yet? If you aren’t subsisting on prana are you even a Buddhist?

Recently I've been wanting to create videos. This isn't the first time. I've used a couple of editing software and made a handful of videos. This time however, I wanna use my voice. Problem is, I have difficult time speaking.

If I had to describe my speech pattern recently, it's mostly stuttering, buffering and sentence sequencing. This issue has been a thing all my life. Didn't help that I was a timid quiet child for most of my kid/teen years out of fear. It's only as of late 2022 that I put myself into a position to have daily conversations. No matter if it was IRL or in small VCs. I even enrolled in a behavioral program with a therapist but it wasn't for speech, mostly for my mental well-being.

Although for a month now, I've been noticing a decrease in my speech. Stutters on small words or buffering would happen more frequently. I really want to express myself in a video format without my speech being a deterring factor.
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>>30926073
Just practice, practice, practice.
Write a script for your video, then read and record it over and over again until you are satisfied with the result. The more scripts you do, the better you will get and eventually you won't even remember you had an issue.
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>>30926125
That sounds about right. Practice makes perfect as they say. I'm just hoping the cadence in my speech doesn't come off like I have some form of disability.

Sounds particular to say, but I had this happen IRL. A formal co-worker thought I genuinely had a disability for it.

Even so, I still will attempt. It helps me out at the end of the day.
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>>30926073
You can consider just using subtitles in your videos. I watch some Japanese YouTubers that do that. They don't show their face or record any voiceover; everything is expressed in the text on screen. I like those videos a lot because I will stop watching a video if I don't enjoy how the person sounds.

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Are there a lot of girls who are into dominating short twunks?
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this but tall fatties
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>>30925869
>Are there a lot of girls who are into dominating

How do I get over the fact that I briefly dated a girl who looks exactly like Alice and managed to fuck it up? I'm literally never going to do any better than her, both personality and looks wise and it makes me want to kms not to mention I still think about her every day after almost 3 years
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>>30925460
picrel
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You should imagine her being fucked by her new boyfriend. His massive 8 inch cock sliding in and out of her tight pussy. Her reaching a leg shaking orgasm around his fat dick. In game, of course. Also get over her, faggot.
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>>30925884
>how do I get over her?
>get over her

Nice advice and cuck fantasies faggot
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>>30923980
Date the real miss Alice
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>>30926128
Your IQ is simply too low to understand the meaning of my post, faggot.

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my cat just died and i'm finding it hard to get over. my cat was basically the only being i hung about with outside of my fiance. my cat would always wait at the top of the neighborhood when i went to the gym and would always sit beside me when i would go out for a cigarette. my parents are telling me to get over it but we had the cat for near 17 years. i'm just not sure what to do. i'm not like crying all the time or anything but whenever i leave the house i find myself looking for it or trying to find it outside the house when i go for a smoke. i just feel lost bros.
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The grief you feel is a sign that you truly loved. Learn to appreciate this pain - it is proof that you are alive
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Its normal to grieve the loss of a long term pet or person. You'll hurt less in time
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>>30922629
adopt another cat
the love you felt from the cat you lost gives you more love to return
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>>30922629
Rip, sorry OP.
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>>30922629
Unironically study NDEs and realize that there actually is an afterlife and that we are eternal and will go to heaven unconditionally when we die. This applies to pets too. And NDEs are unironically irrefutable proof that heaven really is awaiting us because (1) people see things during their NDEs when they are out of their bodies that they should not be able to under the assumption that the brain creates consciousness, and (2) anyone can have an NDE and everyone is convinced by it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U00ibBGZp7o

So any atheist would be too, so pic related is literally irrefutable proof of life after death. As one NDEr pointed out:

>"I'm still trying to fit it in with this dream that I'm walking around in, in this world. The reality of the experience is undeniable. This world that we live in, this game that we play called life is almost a phantom in comparison to the reality of that."

If NDEs were hallucinations somehow then extreme atheists and neuroscientists who had NDEs would maintain that they were halluinations after having them. But the opposite happens as NDEs convince every skeptic when they have a really deep NDE themselves.

And there are many YouTube-videos and books about pets in the afterlife.

What can I do? I ran out of money and afraid I won't make it in time for rent, because I can't find a job - I'm talking manual labor, minimum wage shit. I've been to 5 different recruitment agencies today and they keep saying that there's no work available at the moment, which seems like complete bullshit. Don't know what to do. I have 0 contacts with other people. What about cash in hand donkey work, like carrying heavy shit around or whatever - where can I find work like this?
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Apply for the dole today. It takes time to process an application and gives you an income fallback if you aren't successful in finding work in the short term. You may also be eligible for other benefits depending on your individual circumstances, so that is something for you to look into.

In terms of getting work.

>> 5 different recruitment agencies today and they keep saying that there's no work available

All this means is that their agency does not have listings suitable to your CV. It doesn't mean they have no listings at all. Remember that an agency only receives a tiny fraction of available jobs in the market. A larger fraction of available jobs can be found via popular job board websites.

There's Monster, Glassdoor, LinkedIn, Reed, Totaljobs, etc. The government even have one

https://www.gov.uk/find-a-job

Try looking on job boards for work. Additionally, if you're looking for manual labour type jobs identify the specific types of jobs you're seeking and cold approach small businesses in person about work.
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Yeah there's unemployment benefits in USA, at least. Short term. also "day labor" centers can help a lot.

You dont get paid much but you show up whenever they open, often around 5:30 or 6 am. sign up and sit and wait to be called.

businesses who need extra help that day call in and pay to "rent you". The temp agency gets money for providing you, and you get a low hourly wage
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>>30926221

OP is in the UK...
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>>30925934
Donate blood and plasma
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>>30925934
Moids don't get housing.

I’m going to condense everything.

I offered to buy nudes from a girl on Snapchat. She seemed to be kind of the wholesome type but she had 6k followers as well, anyway I was surprised when she said yes. I bought 5 nudes from her and we sexted then I asked her if she’d let me see her. She told me that she charged a lot for that in the past, I offered my usual and she was taken aback by how much it was so she said yes. She informs me that she’s moving across the country in a few days.

She doesn’t seem like the prostitution type, more like the “can’t pay my rent” type, so anyway I get her flowers and we agree to meet at the subway station. She sees me there and she’s taken back by the flowers. We have a nice date and I take her to a Michelin restaurant then back to my hotel, conversation is flowing. We immediately have sex when we are alone, we both cum. Afterward I ask her how she’d like payment and she declines it, stating that she’s having such a good time shed feel wrong taking money for it. We then start talking about our lives, the topic of a relationship comes up and she immediately says “im not ready for one I was in a six year relationship that broke up last year” so I let it go. We talk and bond for hours before I call her an Uber home. Before she leaves I ask her if I should keep the hotel for another night, she agrees bc she wants to spend more time together.
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The next day I bounce around what’s left of the city while she’s at work. She tells me she got off early so we could have more time together. She comes over and we have sex again, then We go to a nice bar and talk more about the future, what kind of plans we have, I’m a little pushy admittedly about wanting a relationship bc I like her a lot. It’s not like me. She seems hesitant to commit to that, she brings up something like a “90 day rule” where she wants us to be single for 90 days before deciding. We bar hop some and joke around and I feel so at harmony with this girl, we go back to the hotel and fall asleep and talk more. In the morning, she The next few days we don’t talk much, I bring up the topic of commitment again and she kind of flips shit saying “I don’t like the way you’re acting” then blocks me everywhere. I mess up and at my lowest I make a few different Snapchats begging her to talk to me, I was so hurt by being abruptly blocked. I give up and say goodbye.

The next day I see she’s made a TikTok about our fling together and she’s leaving ALOT of information out, of course including the financial aspect and making things seem very one sided, she’s calling me a stalker and a creep and I’m wondering how this can be the same person who I just held in my arms crying as they went on about being abused, the same person I made love to, talking about me like our connection meant nothing.

I don’t say anything to her but I’m very heartbroken. I’ve been going to therapy and taking my friends ear off about this. I’m not perfect or a psychologist but I think she might be fearful avoidant attachment? I just want people’s opinions on things, I’m wondering how to stop hurting over someone I only knew for a few days, how I even got so attached. If any of this was real and why she’d make a TikTok instead of just talking to me and giving me the benefit of closure?

2/3
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3/3

tl;dr got attached after a two day fling to an avoidant girl I met on snap. How to make sense of it and find closure?
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>>30926165
In this world there's 2 kind of women:
1. Women for marriage
2. Women for pump and dump
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>>30926268
I understand , it hurts so bad

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What should I expect? I'm making 22/hr at an internship as a data analyst at a tech company
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>>30926146
maybe stop being a europoor
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>>30926146
different cost of living, plus most of your necessities are government subsidized

you fat welfare queen. stop riding on the backs of americans
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>>30926173
That's why I'm studying at uni, so that I can escape and land a job somewhere that is not an oilrig or a rice paddy..
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>>30926061
That's awesome dude
Work hard, learn a ton and hop on workstreams so that you get a return offer
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>>30926152

It in fact was.

Been talking to girl for 2 weeks. First date went great and had a lot of chemistry. We went out for dinner. Second date was today and didn't go as well, tried moving in for the kiss and she turned away, but we did sit down on a bench and I was able to wrap my arm around her and hold her hand.

Should I move on? This is moving way too slow for me. Should I go on another one and cut it quits if no kiss by then?

Btw I'm 27 and she's 29. We're not teens. I'm not even expecting sex right away but a kiss should be expected at this point if there's interest in both parties. I feel I'm wasting my time but she could just be a good woman I'm being way too impatient for.
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>>30925079
Potential partner*
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>>30925079
yeah give her a pass, that is fair.
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>>30919215
Yes she deserves a chaste man. Go be with a tinder ho
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>>30924298
>The answer is obvious. She licked the shithole of guys she was actually attracted to in college on the first date.
Oh definitely. She might even come to your dates with another guy's butthole sweat still on her breath.
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>>30923717
Wait, you guys don't have sex in the first date?

This might be a long one.

this weekend i met a girl i have been crushing hard on for the last 3 years (me28 virging she 24 and sexually active lmao) at an all girls party i reluctantly went to.

A little important backstory. Last summer i confessed my feelings to her and she rejected me. Evreything happend in and orderly and adult fashion i genuinly dont have any bad feelings towards her and she said that i was brave for telling her. I genuinely felt i huge weight lifted of my shoulders and that now there wouldent be this gnawign between me and her.

This party that i reluctantly went to was because a friend of mine and my crush kept pushing me to pop by, i came late, and most of the night was fine, really fun even, me and my crush had a good and genuin fun time in the beggining and i dident sense or feel anything akward

Fast forward a couple of hours, me and her is getting ok drunk by now, so i cant 100% remember what exactly happend so i will tread with casion. i remeber i invited her back to my place if she wanted to sleep in a guest bed, but i might also have insinuated that there could be more if she wanted (this is funny because im a vrigin and i dont really want to lose my virginity while drunk i have pictured myself taiking them/her out on a date and make her feel like the special someone she was/ is to me)

i cant remember if she just waved at me said something to me or grabed my arm but i ended up following her to the bathroom and i explicitly mean to remember that at no point did she give me any sort of signal that i wasent supposed to follow her. She isent shy in that way and earlier that night she went to the bathroom with others (only girls offcourse)

Yes this is a long one will post the rest under
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>>30925710
Holy shit youre an idiot lmao holy kek

Lmao girl wants you and you say why me i dont get it im a loser. She is horney and u drop this at her holy fuck max level autism

fake last part lmao bro get urself checked no joke, you need therapy
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>>30926089
I just got this gnawing feeling that if i was to act on it wouldent i have taken advantage of her? She was in a releationship, and me and her have talked about previously that we cant stand people who cheat.

Btw last part isent fake maby exaderated abit but still
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>>30925710
Does overthinking actually predict unlikely outcomes?
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>>30926271
yes you overthink all scenarios and act them out and then one of the scenerios will happen and like pic rel
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>>30926271
OP her, from my experience no. Its only a way of torturing youself

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Anyone have tips or strategies for cleaning a room? Whenever I get started it feels like I'm just shifting stuff around with no progress. When I lived with my parents I could just take everything out into the living room, organize it there, and put it all back in an organized manner, but I don't have the space for that method anymore
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>>30919834
Dump everything onto your bed. Now you can organize it and put it back where it belongs AND you have a strong motivation to get it done.
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Divide thing by blocks, I also live in a very small space(a University student room that has a bed, a table, and a kitchen all cramped up in 20-30 square meters lmao). For example: Ill start with cleaning the kitchen, then ill move on to the bathroom, then the table, and at last the hallway if it can even be called that. Dump everything you need out into another block you will clean in the future and concentrate in that block.

>>30919852
No fuck off having a clean room is worth it.
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>>30919852
i'm the opposite, my room at home was spotless except for clothes on the ground because i cycle through them a lot and they're going to get washed again anyway
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>>30919964
My room's set up in a way that if I can get the junk cleaned up, it'll look aesthetic enough. There's just a bunch of things which I use very infrequently (scanner, vacuum, Halloween costume stuff, dress clothes, cooler, etc.) which don't have set places to go into.
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>>30921152
best advice in the thread

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what is a decent job I can get from home? parents have started treating me like a shit stain they live with. I'm a turbo autist but mom has stopped all attempts to get neet bucks. it's this or hero and my gf would be sad If i did
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Data entry, or OnlyFans
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>>30926060
I'm fat and look like a ogren from shadow of war so I guess I gotta learn data entry

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Just got a gf
How do you keep things going?
It's been a week and we've been texting for like two hours a day and I feel like I'm about to run out of things to say
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>>30926214
youre not suppose to hangout everyday with your gf or friends
example: its like your friend everyday who keeps saying do you want to see his pokemon cards and then one day you snap "NO I DONT WANT TO SEE YOUR POKEMON CARDS LEAVE ME ALONE"

>t. gf dump me haha....
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>>Just got a gf
>> we've been texting for like two hours a day
>> It's been a week

I'm not sure how anything you said he describes a girlfriend. How many times have you hung out in person?


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