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Turned 18 recently looking for really any advice at all. Advice that could make my life better now, and in the future. I'm already building credit, have a roth ira, savings with a couple thousand, and checking account also. Along with a vanguard account with a couple hundred dollars.

Only problem I sort of have right now is I smoke weed once a week at my job with coworkers. Trying to stop since I'm worried it will eventually effect my health. Besides advice on that any other advice is greatly appreciated

Thank You
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>>30925940
Calm down, don't worry, have faith in your future, and just keep on going. And don't worry about all the weird shit that people brag or doom about. If you can follow this advice, you will be much better off than most.
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>>30926000
Okay thanks
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>>30925940
Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Dont stay out late, nothing good ever happens after midnight. When someone offers you advice or help look for what they get out of it. Never borrow or lend money to/from friends. Take care of your teeth, brush/floss and see the dentist regularly. If you find someone who loves you, do your best to love them back and overlook their flaws. Dont commit crimes of stupidity. Always keep 100 dollars in your wallet for emergencies. Dont sleep with people you work with. Dont lie. Dont overshare, people will use things you say against you. Be confident that even if you know nothing about a specific thing you have to confront, that you are competent enough to handle it. If I took all this advice starting from when I was 18 my life would be very different. I think better
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>>30925940
either cut on weed or grow your own, it will save you thousands
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>>30925940
Smoking weed once a week really isn’t that big of a deal. If you’re doing all that already you’re a leg up from most people.

The best advice I can give you is to be patient. I spent my late teens and early twenties busting my fucking ass and wondering if any of it was even worth it because I didn’t feel like I was actually doing any better than anyone else. My good decision making didn’t start paying off really until just recently, and I’m now 28.

Stay the course. Be willing to have fun too you don’t want to have no good memories from your early adulthood but if you’ve got your shit together as far as finances and work ethic is concerned it will all come together naturally in time.

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i'm a guy who is a little skinny fat and i want to shrink my belly so i don't look fat when i'm relaxed or stitting down but i don't want to have any abs or muscles
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>>30925591
with water throughout the day?
what's in the meal exactly?
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Are you actually fat, or is your spine crooked? Can you suck it in and have a flat stomach?
Also no you can't spot-reduce fat. You lose it all, randomly from all parts of your body, and if you dont eat right (starve yourself) that belly will persist, especially if you're 30s.
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>>30925618
also ozempic is now a thing if you dont care about those potential unknown side effects
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>>30925603
NTA but what you want. As long as it's below your daily expenditure you'll lose weight. But of course eating healthier options would be more beneficial
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>>30923376
Baboon ape mindset, stay losing

I am currently no contact with my ex and recently I made a new friend who just happens to be a woman. I guess my ex caught wind of this because she has completely lost her mind over it. She's harassing all of my friends over social media. What can I do to stop this?
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>>30924893
Shouldn't have stuck your dick in crazy. Sorry anon, but you'll remember this lesson next time.
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>>30924893
go to the police and report it as harassment, they'll visit her and tell her to stop, from there you keep pursuing everything through the legal system.
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>>30924893
what a shitty friend
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>>30925104
/adv/ - Advice
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>>30925104
this, op, you have to do it
do it for teh lulz

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Is this infographic really accurate or not? Seems like less money than I would expect to live off of
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It's a meme bro, you trying to get financial advice from strangers on the internet. Would you go up to some random homeless person on the street and ask them to help plan your financial future?

The internet is not a substitute for a financial planner and financial literacy. If you need financial advice make an appointment to see a professional.
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>>30924882
>>30924901
No it's pretty accurate, as the thing says look up the 3% and 4% rules. It says you need to be single though.
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>>30924882
>>30924901 is basically correct, but… honestly it seems about right to me. A little lower than I’d expect, but then I live in one of the most expensive cities in the country.
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>The internet is not a substitute for a financial planner and financial literacy
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>>30924916
>>30924926

Are either of you financial services professionals? No? Right, so what "seems right to you" is completely irrelevant. Getting financial information from a meme is straight retarded.

What kind of investment size you would need for any of these things depends on a multitude of individual circumstance factors, in specific investment factors, including time.

My long term boyfriend and I have been on the rocks for a few years and I'm finally at the point where I am done. We don't want the same future, we can be abusive to one another in different ways and we've both been disrespectful to each other and the relationship we share.

However, anytime I even hint that I don't want to be in the relationship anymore he ignores me, leaves the room or avoids the conversation entirely and acts like everything is grand! I know that he is unhappy too and thinks that the relationship is unfulfilling. So, why stay?

How do I have a break up conversation with someone that avoids it at all cost?
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>However, anytime I even hint that I don't want to be in the relationship anymore he ignores me, leaves the room or avoids the conversation entirely and acts like everything is grand!
Lol I had no idea that you can’t break up with a guy if he sticks his fingers in his ears every time you try to do it.

Are you two living together? Are you still fucking him? Those are the only reasons I can think of as to why he hasn’t left.
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>>30925867
>How do I have a break up conversation with someone that avoids it at all cost?
You tell him that he can't ignore his way out of this and if he continues to do so, just move out and don't talk to him.
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>>30925911
Santa claus is real nananana
My dad owns nintendo
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>>30925867
have you considered suicide? It sounds like that would fix all of your problems.
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>>30926037
Why do we have an advice board in 4chan out of all places?

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I finally cleaned my dick cheese after 25 years of existence. Is there any other hidden hygiene tips I should know about?
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>>30922107
>it cracked
What does this mean? His dick fall off lol?
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>>30921960
Don't try to get away with skipping a shower or changing your shirt just because you can't smell it
Took me 25 years to learn that one
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>>30921960
Shave your armpits because the odour clings to the hairs. Actually, the older man would do well to get his whole body waxed because long, grey body hair looks awful.
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>>30922122
This
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>>30922535
This is not true

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I just landed a 2 week trial period for a promising new job after a whole year of neetdom. Thing is, it requires me to dress "business professional" and I have absolutely no experience with this type of fashion. I'm basically a loser who dresses in jeans and t shirt. Another complication is that I'm short and skinny (5'7 135 pounds) and suits tend to make me look like a kid playing dress up. I don't know how to go about this without making a fool of myself or wasting money on shit that I don't look good in.
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>>30925815
the suit and tie always looks good if it fits. that's all you need to do, is get something that fits properly.
dress shirt light in color, stiff point collar, tucked in
suit should be navy, charcoal, or gray, clean and wrinkle free, in NEEDS to be fitted
tie is darker than shirt and reaches top of the belt. can be patterned or have bold colors as long as it isn't insane
socks darker than the suit
polished and clean dress shoes, black or brown leather. no suede

stuff is actually really comfy and if you get stuff that fits you won't regret spending the money
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>>30925843
Thank you for the reply and information
>the suit and tie always looks good if it fits
I'm rather unconfident about this, because I feel like my small size and boyish face causes the tie to not be taken seriously
I was thinking of going with pic related, just a shirt and jacket type look because it's more understated
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I also don't know how to go about getting fitted
Like am I expected to have an idea of what I want even if I don't know what looks good on me or how the process works
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don't try to look like some movie star or model, you tism case

your headspace is that you're going to go buy the white collar working man's uniform. do a google search for where to shop for the stuff and go spend some time and check things out
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>>30925961
I'm already telling my friends that I'm going to be Bateman moding though
There is a promising place here, I'm gonna feel autistic saying that I've never been through the process before. Hopefully I'm not annoying

Also am I gonna have to get these outfits professionally cleaned if I get hired permanently? I assume I can't just toss them into a load

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it is normal for have some months in which i want to lose weight, eat healthy and have exercise; and then to have some time in which i end job being a lazy fuck which does nothing but eat a lot?

i was supossed to write a long ass story but this gay as stupid prehistoric website deleted my entire post because i forgot to do something. but basically, i started to be healthy cause i am a fat fuck, then i kinda started to put less atention to that after being kinda close to my desires weight, then some personal issue shit happen and i went to eat like a fat fuck again and now i start again to have the motivation to lose weight and eat healthy and i am doing that.
question is, this shit will always happen when there are months when i feel like being a productive member and i do exercise, and there i will have others where i will be a lazy fuck who does nothing?
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>>30925945
You are human. You can only commit to something for so long until you get tired, bored, hungry, or horny.
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>>30925957
>horny
oh, yeah. i forgor to mention my main motivation to get /fit/ is to get laid
yeah, i know, shitty reason when i should care about my healthy but it works

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Well there is a reason actually, so basically we both have been hitting on each other for a few weeks, and signaling, flirting etc. Then I made a mistake of staring at her cooch area, and basically acting like a horn dog and feel zero emotional connection with her, whereas she has been with me. When she saw and realized this, she flipped and turned 180, went from being kind, soft, cute, and high tone voice, and feminine voice with me to literally dismissive, hateful, serious tone. It gets even worse when I took a 4channer's advice to ignore her and avoid her as much as possible since it's a co-worker. And if she wants to forgive me, or continue with our flirting and leading to a relationship (which is forbidden btw at workplace), it's her choice and I should let her initiate. Turns out, the more I avoid her, and ignore her and act disinterested, the more this girl gets mad and it starts to turn into hate, it's scaring me a bit. She loved my attention before, and genuinely thought we had some sort of connection, so does she thinks she's been played? Is that where the hate comes from? Maybe I should not have took the advice. But the advice was in the right, I acted normal, behaved normal, and avoided drama, avoided staring, acted disinterested, and she just gets hateful of me? It's also turning me off too ngl, her attitude is not fun at all, she's mean at times.
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she's projecting some weird trauma or something. it's not a huge deal, people are weird. also, never take any advice from 4chan ever
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>>30925817
Yeah that's what I was thinking logically, it's some sort of trauma, so what do I do?
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>>30925822
maby try and sit donw with her and make her open up about it. do whatever you can for her to make her feel like talking to you is safe. Dont be pushy dont be defensive and listen to her.
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>>30925796
Go talk to her and clear things up dumbass. Tell her you want to have a frank discussion and tell her how things look from your perspective and ask if you're missing something.

I'm in over my head with a lot of shit right now going on in my life. I've kind of been neglecting myself and my well-being for a long time now because it was easier than just addressing the issues. But I've been trying to get back on track as of late and address these issues. A part of me feels like I should take a personal leave of absence off of work.


I don't want to take a personal leave of absence, because I feel like I could do the things I need to do to address these issues without having to quit my job temporarily. And I feel very guilty that I'm just going to be asking for this because I want time off, when it's obvious that I don't actually need it. I want it because I feel like pure fucking shit and i hate myself and the life I've led up until here. I don't have any friends or social group of any kind, I don't have any idea what kind of career I want to pursue, I've only ever worked jobs just for the money. I've never actually considered what I want to do with my life. And I'm almost 26 and I still live with my parents. My job barely pays just enough to afford a low rent apartment. If I moved out now I would be living paycheck to paycheck and I would be one crisis away from eviction. And the last time I had a gf was when I was 16.


But I hate myself for even thinking about taking the time off. I'm an asshole who thinks he can just leave work whenever he wants. I'm the moron who actually believed for many years that I could just turn my life around whenever I wanted like a dime, of course I never actually did that. I don't know what to do anymore. I hate myself. I hate everything about what has become of me. I look in the mirror and can't help but feel disgust. I want to change. But am I asking for too much by getting off work for a few months? Do I actually need this?
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>>30923273
What the fuck
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What's the best way to learn multiple languages? I'd like to learn Spanish and French and Japanese, should I start learning them simultaneously or should I devote myself to one of them, get a good grasp on it and then hop onto the other ones?
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>>30925863
It depends entirely on what kind of person you are. I am learning two languages simultaneously and it's not troubling me.

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I have a grad stipend that I will receive over the summer. It will be treated as taxable income. I'm getting conflicting information as if I can invest this into an IRA, as they aren't counted as wages and I probably won't get a W-2.
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>>30925840
Yeah but reach out to the payroll function and ask how it will be reported to be sure
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>>30925850
I mean that makes the most sense to me, otherwise I'd be "wasting" multiple thousands of dollars that I would be received in compensation but can't use because it's not for living expenses and shit and it would be returned back to them
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>>30925859
Well you should be granted the entire stipend regardless. Its not an expense reimbursement directly like meals and travel business expenses. The question is really just hows it being reported to the government
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>Under the SECURE Act, amounts paid to aid the pursuit of graduate or post-doctoral study or research (such as a fellowship, stipend or similar amount) are treated as compensation for purposes of making IRA contributions.
sounds like you should be fine. apparently it used to be the case that stipends couldn't qualify for IRA, but since the 2019 secure act they can, so there's some conflicting info on the internets
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>>30925883
Yeah, I read about the secure act. This is actually undergrad research so I don't know if that makes a difference.

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Me and a group of friends I met on the internet have a group chat where we play games together and just talk to each other over text only. Recently though they keep ignoring me and leaving everything i say on read. I’m worried because these are the only friends I have, what do I do?
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Why don't you ask them?

If they're good friends/people they'll either tell you if you've done something, or they'll tell you your fine. If they make fun of you for being vunerable or whatever, they were shit friends anyway

Not gonna lie, there is a person in our discord group that really grates on a lot of people. But we all understand that we're her only friend group she has in her life. So rather than kicking her out, or chewing her out or whatever, we just tell her directly if she's being annoying, in a nice way, and she'll accept it and try to improve on it.

Not telling you this to make you feel bad or anything, I just wanna give you an example bc it's the only point of reference I got. Good luck anon
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>>30925296
They haven’t seen my face or heard my voice, ever.
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>>30925788
Oh, I wanna add we don't just tolerate this person. We genuinely like them which is why we're willing to put up with them when theyre acting up.
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>>30925788
>>30925792
Thanks. I’ll ask them when I get a chance. I can’t really tell if I’m being annoying or anything, I have autism so the answer is probably yes, but I’ll see.
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>>30925809
It will probably just be like >>30925180 says, people are busy and don't always reply. I've definitely had a feeling that everyone in the discord chat hates me but turns out everyone was just busy and it just so happened no one was replying to my posts because of the timing

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I have a horrible fear that I won't be attractive anymore once I grow old and have kids to my husband.
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>>30922338
you must be 18 to post here
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>>30922338
don't worry, there's always people who life milfs and gilfs
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>>30922518
>Always give birth by C-Section
Rule of thumb: if the advice directly contradicts normal biological mechanisms, it’s likely garbage.
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>>30923032
I was cracking a joke at how anons will often use anecdotal evidence as proof against actual research (even though i didn't lie)
In reality it depends. In many cases, C-section is optimal compared to natural birth, usually when there are underlying conditions (interestingly, in some cases wearing glasses alone can be considered a condition that calls for C-section because natural birth might result in blindness).
It's one of the things where it's a medical advancement that heavily decreases rates of multiple issues, but comes with its own risks. Think like schizophrenia medication. You're free to not take your meds, but it'll come at a cost to your quality of life. On the other hand the medication comes with it's own side effects. So it's really a choice of "which side effects you'd rather deal with".
I don't think it should be the default but I'm glad it's available on demand.
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>>30922338
There are people who were born ugly and they’re still happy
also being older doesn’t always make you less attractive. and if it do, you gotta deal with it

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>be me
>23 y/o warehouse wagie loser
>40k in leafbux savings
>physically fit gymcel
>articulate and well-spoken, said to have a strong endearing voice
>still no friends, never wanted friends, aloof and never hung out with anyone before, never went to a restaurant, never went to a bar, never went travelling, purely just do solitary hobbies
>long term gorgeous introvert gf who gets hit on all the time who loves me to death but I feel guilty for having her be in love with such a loser so I ghost her for days at a time
>i don't even desire a girlfriend anyways
>don't even feel anything when she was desperately riding me, that's when I knew I'm far gone
>she's still obsessed with me I don't even know why
>i have no desire for college
>cant even get a trades apprentice lol
>pretty much have no future
>been having OCD thoughts of dumping my gf and going crazy before throwing my life away either dead or in prison
The worst part is I relate to absolutely nobody. I'm not a robot, yet I'm not a normie. I'm handsome, but not a chad. I'm well-spoken, but empty. I detest human vices and the "hierarchy" and "system". I hate the ego competition and conceit of normies, yet I hate the envy, awkwardness and pure hatred from the incels.
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>>30925360
That shit doesn't matter to everyone though, for some people love is all that matters. You don't get to decide this because you think you are a loser, if she loves you and wants to be with you that is her call. If you were to break up with her because you think she deserves better that wouldn't be fair.
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>>30925435
>If you were to break up with her because you think she deserves better that wouldn't be fair.
She'll get over it when she's 26 working a real job being surrounded by actual decent men lol.
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>>30925404
So what is stopping you from training for such a job?
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>>30925204
This is pretty much how I feel about myself. I'm unexceptional and don't "fit in" with any group. And as much as I don't like to acknowledge it, I'm probably going to have a boring and mediocre life.
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>>30925623
Because I need connections to even get my foot in the door. It's pretty much impossible to get into the trades.


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