how to move on from the trauma of circumcision? i got circumcised at birth and have trouble coping with the fact that my parents could do such a thing to me, not only that i left islam because its hard to me accept that a loving god would command such a thing, my life is devoid of spirituality, and i feel that our world is a total joke for accepting such a barbaric practice.
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>>34457011Did you feel like you had this trauma before you ruined your life through being online so much?
>>34456505You're right. Instead of just accepting what happened to you was out of your control and that the past can't be changed you should instead harp on it and let it haunt you for the rest of your life. Yes, it's fucked up that it happened. Don't accept the past. Be angry about it forever and die knowing your life was fucked from the beginning and that you will never be content.
>>34456475>that a loving god would command such a thingI don't think the god of the old testament is the same God as in the New Testament. Jesus said he had to come to the jews so they would know and if if they'd reject him they'd be guilty of sin, which is what happened.
>>34456493It has plenty of downsides, for starters that the mutilated boy's brain never returns to its baseline 'normal' even months after it occurs. Second it protects the head and keeps it sensitive, and it protects the woman from excessive chafing. This means more pleasure for both parties. It also pistons to bring more lube down from the cervis.The hygeine argument is ridiculous- no one tells women to clean their prepuce and yet that shit can and does wind up caked with smegma, and no one bats an eye. Cutting off your toes to prevent toenail fungus is retarded unless you're a dirty subhuman. And the odds of phimosis are near zero if you teach your kid to pull the entire foreskin back before and during puberty, almost as if nature intended people to use their bodies instead of being shamed or scared away from even basic cleaning functions.
>34 years old>zero interest in women>no friends>both of my parents hate meWhat do?
>>34453947Get internal family systems therapy.
>>34453947How do you live? Are you basically fully supported by your parents?
>>34457482I get nothing from my parents, I haven't spoken to my dad in 3 ish years and my mother last gave me money over a year ago.I do something called "data annotation" on a website and make a few hundred dollars a week, I also do online surveys for money to buy groceries which I have been doing for the last year. I also get unemployment benefit from my country which pays for my rent and like half of my bills, I've basically been able to earn a "part time retail job" wage for a year doing this, however it only makes my family hate me more.I have basically cut contact with both of my parents at this point.
>>34457492Honestly that's better than nothing. How long have you been doing that data annotation? I did a quick google search and it looks like it's related to ai. You could probably finesse that into a more rewarding job.It sounds like you basically make only enough money to live and shitpost on 4chan.I used to be in a similar boat where I barely made enough money to exist only in my room and the internet. I thought I was content with that life, but honestly I felt a lot more fulfilled after getting a better job and building a life for myself rather than just existing.
>>34457510Since september last year I have been doing the data annotation.I used to be a university student, but I will admit the poor family structure I have makes me think why even bother applying for jobs, I can't even get my family to be good to one another.
Just got done with my first relationship. Turns out she was cheating on me. So, i blocked her from everywhere and refused to listen to her guilty pleas. Her last messages are just her recording videos of herself crying trying to explain herself with even more lies.Everything she said to me was full of love and sincerity. I truly believed that she loved me, and even right now I can't bring myself to hate her.Everything i do reminds me of her. I used to tell her everything about my day, what was happening, what i was eating, where i was going etc. Life feels empty when i'm not sharing anything with her.The main fear that i feel is that i'll never find someone as compatible as she was with me, that ill never find someone like her. We both agreed that we were perfect for each other. Same tastes, same behaviors, same interests etc. I'm also scared that if she wants to get back together, i'll be the cuck that I am and accept her with open arms. And even if i do that, i know that no one in my life will accept her after what she did to me.Any advice? I know she's the worst person in the world for me, continuing anything with her would be throwing my life further in a ditch. But we really planned our whole future together, and i feel like absolute shit leaving her hanging like this, even though we both know that it was her fault. Feeling incredible isolation right now.
>>34457431Thanks man. I really needed to hear this.
>>34457351Relationships can recover from cheating - sometimes. But only if the person who cheats owns what they did and genuinely intends not to repeat it.
>>34457351>I used to tell her everything about my day, what was happening, what i was eating, where i was going etcYou seem like a massive faggot. Also don't get into "the one that got away thinking". It's highly delusional and very unhealthy.
>>34457502hello the fuck no bro. shut up
>>34457502Cheating is fine as long as 2 conditions are met. The person who cheats doesn't feel guilty about it. And the person getting cheated on doesn't find out.
I’m looking for advice about a long-term relationship that I feel stuck in.I’ve been with my partner for about 9 years. Over time, the relationship has become mentally exhausting. We have frequent conflicts, and when we try to talk about problems, it often turns into very long, one-sided conversations that can last for hours. During these, I feel like I can’t really express myself or be heard. My perspective often gets dismissed or turned against me.It feels like we’re stuck in a dead end, going over the same issues again and again without resolution. From my perspective, she tries to fix things through long emotional discussions where she:>lists my faults>talks down to me>calls me names>places most or all of the blame on me>continues until I calm things down by apologizing or taking responsibilityIn the past year, she has also started calling me a narcissist during arguments, and that has become a recurring pattern. The last 6 months in particular have been very difficult.At this point, I don’t want to be in the relationship anymore. I feel emotionally drained, and I don’t feel like my basic needs (rest, personal space, having a say in my own life) are being met. I’m also constantly fatigued, partly because our daily rhythm doesn’t support my well-being.Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34454060>Funny thing after dating one of you for a year. You can't just say you did something shitty. You can't do it. It's like a normal person trying to imagine a new color.Also I can find you at least over a dozen moments where OP admits to wrongdoing. And the problem is he is blaming himself for things that he never even did. His GF locks him in a house and takes away his keys and his shoes to trap him. The dude has autism, maybe if you read the thread you'd have known that. Fucking lunatic.
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Gawd it sounds like my husband posted this
>>34456473Sad to hear that.
>>34456473life is short , have an affair
Hello. I'm M, 29, resident doctor in my last year of residency. My wife is also 29, she's in her first year. We have a 1 year old daughter. These are our backgrounds on short, we don't have any debt, we're doing meh on the financial part. Here is the issue. Since our daughter was born, my wife became a control freak in the sense that she won't let her grandparents play with our daughter and only lets our friends to play with her which is stupid and I do not understand. I asked her and her response was something along the line of "they can't take care of a baby if unsupervised" and I was really pissed because both of my parents are doctors, how in the fuck they won't take care of their first niece, of course I felt like shit. My parents always bought us stuff for the baby from furniture to toys to clothing to diapers and they sometimes even send us money as "for our niece" and that's lovely and my wife appreciates it but that's it, she won't call them to thank them or anything. cont.
>>34457090just pay for help you rich fucks. pay some babysitter to sit there and do nothing while your parents are there. between 4 doctors you could buy whatever us retards on 4chan could ever want. so fuck off and go harvest some organs or stick your fingers up someone's butt or whatever you do.
>>34457153Yeah, thanks. I did come up with that idea you fuckwit but my wife doesn't agree with me because she doesn't want a stranger in our home.
>>34457170I got another idea, pay me to have an affair with your wife to distract her from the kids while you sneak them off to play with granny and pop
>>34457170You just let your wife do whatever she wants, huh?They're you're kids too, not just hers. Do what needs to be done, not what some hysterical retard says should be done.
>>34457125>I just need advice on how to talk to my wife without degenerating the whole thing into a shitfest. I want to communicate with her and I want her to know that I appreciate all the support she offers to me but sometimes I need her to spend time with the baby and I need her to give our daughter more "freedom" as in letting other people interact with her, she doesn't have to be cooped up, she'll end up a shitty introverted brat with zero respect for other people because she won't know what proper human interaction is.Fact of the matter is you can want all of that and it makes not one jot of difference - if your wife wants the conversation to become a shitfest, a shitfest it will be. And honestly, from the brief pen picture you've given here she doesn't sound like a poster girl for reasonable behaviour at the moment.Accepting that and especially the stuff that's going on with your wider family being excluded at a time when you would probably welcome the additional support, you really need to be having that conversation regardless of how bad it might get, because the only thing that postponing it will do is make it even worse when you do finally have it.And as you've said, you will finally have it because you're going to full-on explode one day. There's no way you can keep on juggling the demands of final year residency, a one year old, a neurotic wife who is also about to start an intensive career pathway AND a cancer diagnosis, nor should you be expected to, especially not by your wife who is supposed to be sharing your burdens not adding to them.I don't usually say 'I hope thing work out anon' when commenting on here because truthfully, I don't usually give much of a shit either way. (It might not make me a wonderful person but at least I'm honest). In your case though I genuinely do, I'd probably have gone off a tower block by now with all the stuff you're balancing and it's a massive credit to you that you've kept it together this long.
DO GORLS LOVE FAT DUDES BECAUSE I'M SO GASSY AND THE OTHER MEN AROUND ME ARE SO LEAN OR MUSCULAR
>>34455555I'm going to leave this here, and nice digits.https://archive.4plebs.org/trv/thread/2867607/#q2871097
>>34455555fat gassy nigga digits
>>34455600THANKS ANON, THIS REALLY HELPS ME, I'M GONNA FART IN BALLOONS FOR MY AUDIENCE!
>>34455555As long as you've gone to therapy
Im a 22yo anon working in a male-dominated industry (truck driving), so naturally meeting women is a rare ocasion for me. Every single one of my colleagues is male and even if I see a girl my age at places I load off at our conversations are brief and purely work-related as we simply dont have the time for small talk. My hobbies (cars and motorsports) are also male-dominated, so naturally finding a girl sharing them isnt exactly a smart idea unless youre into *that* kind of "girls". Im kinda lost and have no idea where I am even supposed to meet women. I am somewhat attractive and had girls show interest in me in the past, but good looks arent all I guess. >inb4 dating appsThe whole idea of dating apps feels unnatural to me, its out of question. I am not against tge idea of meeting irl someonr I have known online for a while, but a complete stranger no.
>>34454641Where do truckers hang out? Trucker bars? There are bound to be trucker groupies there
>>34454641Traditionally family, friends, church would sort this out
Op, Come to the realization that you are just not really going to find a woman into your hobbies. It's extremely common for spouses not to share many. You can likely find something new to both of you that is enjoyable.I have a few friends and my middle age dad that have had success using apps.>>34457066>trucker groupiesLot lizardsOP likely already knows he's not going to find a real GF that way. OP, not really
>>34457077>Traditionally familyMy relationship with my family is pretty bad>FriendsIm not gay, nor am I looking to get friendzoned if thats what you mean>churchI am strongly against religion>>34457079>Come to the realization that you are just not really going to find a woman into your hobbiesIts not important to me to begin with. I accept that people can have different interests and that in order to love someone they dont need to be a carbon copy of you.>You can likely find something new to both of you that is enjoyableI agree completely>using appslike I said, out of of question for me>OP likely already knows he's not going to find a real GF that wayComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
I recently experienced what is coming to be known as AI psychosis. Visual, auditory and sensory hallucinations combined with irregular and manic behaviour.It is a fairly rare phenomenon but becoming more prevalent, a lot of research is being done. People have lost family, houses, savings and their lives. I want to say that if you have or are having this, it are a friend or family member, that there are resources accessible. Found easily enough via Google. You are not alone.
Um, what in the god has AI have to do with anything?>People have lost family, houses, savings and their lives.GoodDeserved
>>34456973It seems pretty obvious to me that regularly "talking" to a machine might degrade one's mental health. When using chatbots people should remember that they are only dealing with an algorithm. The diffusion of AI will definitely worsen this already existing issue. Most people knew a world where LLMs did not exist and still find them alien in some way, they are able to put a distance between themselves and a chatbot and are not really at risk of getting delusions caused by AI. I'm more concerned about the generation that will grew up using chatbots and which might be significantly more affected by this type psychosis.
Not gonna lie man I think you have to be a real fucking moron for this to happen holy shit. Sometimes I wonder how cult leaders found followers and I thought you needed some super powerful messaging and psychological manipulation but now I think I understand it better. All you have to do is find the fucking morons like you out there and talking them into your world view is as easy as talking a kid into giving you a piece of candy.
>painters are over to re-paint the apartment complex hallway>playing stupid radio music>coughing/clearing throat constantly>HURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH>CAAUUGUHGH>HURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGPHI want to kill this fucking guy
Why does it bother you so muchNo I don't want to know
>>34456872put on headphomes
>>34456898It gets on my nerves.
Being an alcoholic painter is fucking peak man. When I am working I just put in my headphones and go into a trance. Sling that fucking paint. Get paid in cash and go get drunk and try to score a fat booty hoe. Life is good brother
I have a crush on this girl for around 1 year. She's a coworker, but it's a big place so we barely meet.She's always minding her own business, very quiet and plain. But she's cute af.People say she's never dating, just work, go home and do her won stuff.I got her Instagram, but we never chatted, I feel nervous.
>>34456733I was in a similar situation. Crush on a girl in a big company with no excuse for us to talk. One day I'd had enough so I just walked up to her and said "Hey it's (her name here) right? I know this is completely out of the blue but would you like to go out together sometime?" she was really flustered but was pleased and said yes. I'm not saying that will work for you but it is possible
>>34456733"Hi"
>>34457043And later? I don't know how to keep up a conversation
Since you got her instagram, try sending her a few reels that you both relate to. Then when she sends one back, fully reply to it in text. Rinse and repeat. Do this for a few weeks to a month then ask her out.
>>34457369Sorry, did OP ask 'how do I get friendzoned'?>>34456790OP if you're chad enough to pull it off, this is the way.
I demand /adv/'s advice>at work>have a gorgeous coworker, 38>I say nothing, she keeps giving signals she has a crush on me>she's currently single>No simpery ensues>She's fucking busy as hell at work and has to also go to meetings and get hit on constantly>she's loaded but I'm not gonna fucking bother her>We constantly talk outside of work, but no weekends yet>She's constantly flirting at workI'm more cohesive than that. Point is, I don't know what the fuck is going on. She hugged me, constantly wants to arrange dates "sometime" on her own volition, and hearts every text I send her, even though I treat it like warmth, not love.>fast forward, uh nothing changed, maybe preening my clothes more but I ain't saying shit>dare I ask?>she says she always loves seeing me>dare I bother?Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34453228As for that?She's also busy with tutoring, doing extra assignments at work, maintaining a business, so much crazy shit, that while she can make time for me anyway, I'd like to be considerate of her frail schedule. She uses our tiny pockets of time together to say what she wants and needs to say, and then she blips off for another few days. They're working her to the bone.
>>34453235Don't think of it like pressing her to play. You are asking when she is available and she already suggested playing with you. I highly doubt she will see that as a bother. If she's busy, she'll say so, and then you can just ask her to let you know when she is available. That puts it back on her, so you aren't feeling like you need to ask her again and risk bothering her when she is busy. >>34453241If you have no idea when she is free, you can't exactly pick a day ahead of time. You'll just have to ask her when she has free time.
>>34453297I came back to update Sunday is a good day for the both of us. Not sure if it will lead to anything, but there you go.
>>34453102Is this a parody of that other thread or wat
>>34457109Yes actually.
As of late, I have been feeling an overwhelming sense of loneliness and no matter what I try I cannot combat it for the life of me.I am at a complete loss and it's eating at me more and more as the days pass. Its brutal.Please if anyone knows a way to help please share.No, it's not as simple as getting a social life or going out either. I have been trying.
>>34454586Same fag op making some post about loneliness. Narcs out. Watch for new threads that are carrying a common theme
>>34454595Meds, dude. Get a family member to remind you, set a timer, whatever works. Just remember to take 'em.
>>34454600Those who say "meds" are typically narcs gas lighting
>>34454586The person in my photo is a composer I am quite fond of, Dmitri Shostakovich.And I am glad other like minded people exist. Very unfortunate that it had to be found out this way but oh well.
>>34455501>Dmitri ShostakovichI swear I've heard picrel at the start of a movie. Sounds like a perfect song to start off a historical drama made in the '70s.>And I am glad other like minded people exist.I'm never going anywhere, and even if I stop being lonely, I'll never forget the feeling. In a way it defined my formative years and I'm never getting those back.What are your struggles?>Very unfortunate that it had to be found out this way but oh well.How do you mean?
so today im planning on telling my parents that im dating a 33 year old man. im 18F. we’ve been dating since January in secret. its been online so far but i really love him and he loves me too. its not some weird groomer situation. we actually have things to talk about and we get along sooo well. this will be my first ever relationship i will tell my parents about. my parents arent against me dating, but they prefer if i just focus on college. (im in college rn). i think they would accept him if it wasnt for the fact he is 15 years older than me.which honestly, i dont completely blame them. if i was a parent i would also be a bit concerned if my daughter is dating a 33 year old man. but i know he loves me. he has his life together. he has a career and his own house. im gonna continue college and my other stuff but my goal in the later future is to move in with him and become his wife and have kids. i plan on letting my parents know they can meet him IRL. im so nervous. i feel like my parents will have a heart attack when they find out how much older he is. i dont think they will approve of this but i have to tell them because im serious about him.
>>34456850My 25y.o ex left me for a 40y.o guy behind my back. Then moved to his country. You're fine. It all depends on how your relationship with your parents is. If they can let you make these decisions yourself, great, if not, that's a problem you'll have to face later too, until you solve it.
>>34456863i havent met him, but its very serious and i want to be upfront about him to my parents because i want to meet him irl but i dont want to do it behind my parents back.>>34456899i dont like him only because he is older. i would love him if he was my age. its just that i think because of his age we share the same values, like i feel like a lot of boys my age (18-25) arent really serious about marriage. they just want to fuck and mess around and hang out. jm loooking for something serious. he doesnt have a lot of money honestly but i know he will do what he has to do to provide for me and future children. im not with him only for money. my relationship with my father isnt the great but he is present in my life. i know he is serious about me, im just worried of what my parents will think of the age gap
>>34456850You know women, on average, live 8 years longer than men? That means he'll probably die 23 years before you do. Are you looking forward to growing old alone?More importantly: you are not in love with him. You think you are, but you're not. You're in love with the idealised image of him that you have in your mind. Because you've never actually met him, the real version of him has never intruded on the fantasy; and your mind fills in all the unknown details, making them as good as the few things you do know about, and giving you an impossibly perfect image to become infatuated with. If I were your parents, I would certainly be concerned about you dating someone that age; but I would be much, much more concerned to hear you talking about moving in and having children with a person you have NEVER ACTUALLY MET. You are moving way, way too fast here. When you've been dating him close up for at least six months, then and only then should you be thinking about getting serious with him.One final question: how much of what you know about him is based entirely on what he himself has told you? Or, to put it another way, how much might be lying about, and you would have absolutely no way of knowing? When you meet someone in real life, you also meet their friends and their family, and that makes it a lot harder for them to lie about anything really big. When you know someone entirely online, they can lie about *anything* and you have no way of finding out.
>>34456850make sure to tell them the part about how it's online and you never met
>>34457166This OP.You are in thr age of dual sexes working. It needs 2 to run the life the previous generation enjoyed with just the man working.You are in limerence. Promises, and ideals all fall flat when a man faces tough situation either spontaneously or in the long run. That is the true test of character. From your conversation it doesn't sound like he's financially up there for his age. You have to understand, I'm a male I should hyping up a 33 year old but since it's all online, you don't even know how he lives, what his financial condition is but from all you've told that he would try to make it work.If you were my little sister and this man happened to be: decent looking, well kept, no known history of philandering, previous altercations with law, his grades and opinions of teachers, professors, colleagues, friends, and finally where he is financially. Then I would give you my blessing.Trust me it all looks rosy in your youth.You need to focus on your career at the moment and let it play out long term.You first then everyone else
How embarrassing could it be?I rage-quit my job today (just for today), and when my boss asked me what happened, I told him as vaguely as possible that I'm going through a lot right now. Yet it still brought me to the verge of crying.I have appointments with a clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist in the next two weeks, and I know I won't be able to hold back at all when they start digging deeper. It's not like something dramatic happened either. I'm just so defeated I can't talk about my life without tearing up.I'm male, the psychologist is female, and the psychiatrist is male. How embarrassing will it be for everyone involved when I inevitably start bawling my eyes out?
>>34456707Embarrassment with a shrink is just abiout as self-sabotaging as you can get. The whole point of therapy is honesty
>>34457036Personally I think going to a shrink is self sabotage to begin with. Imagine paying $100 an hour for someone to talk you out of your own instincts. And then when you react in some sort of way, they pathologize it like dissecting an insect lol.>Oh anon. I know you pay me $100 an hour to pretend to give a shit. And I knew you had zero positive affirmations from other humans. I gave it to you and now you say you are having feelings for me? That's called transference anon, it's okay anon it's a pathological thing anon."??? Bitch you knew I had zero positive affirmations and you gave them and you telling me it's some voodoo that I caught feels? Therapists are just emotional prostitutes.
>>34456707I think it would be unusual for a psychiatrist or therapist to get through a whole day without any of their patients crying.
>>34456707They deal with violent and paranoid schizophrenics, conspiracy theorists, and other genuinely crazy people. Some guy with depression crying during a routine appointment is THE most normal thing they see. They have loads of tissues in their rooms for a reason.
You'll only feel worse by holding in all your emotions. A good cry can really help sometimes. I'm sure your psychiatrist will understand. If he doesn't, then fuck him.
So I have a friend whos an alcoholic, meth addict and just all drugs that he gets access to, he even did heroin few times just because he got it for free, hes balding, he has debt on social security, lives with his mom and his only hobby is doing drugs or drinking in front of his PC playing league of legends or roblox, he is 19. And what fascinates me is that, he has a tinder account and he manages to bag very nice women, at least 1 per month, some are drug addicts like him, and some are actually pretty decent women, who just occasionally drink, have a decent job and pay, are independent, live alone (The women are also 20-25 years old). No matter who they are he still at least gets a one nighter or a short lived 3 month relationship. I dont know are girls on tinder really this easy? He also manages to play with women, that they are the ones messaging him and chasing him instead of him having to message them first, it really fascinates me that such a guy can get so many women. He also does not hide anything about himself, he will with no problem nor shame tell them about his habits, the fact that he has debt, hes a junkie, alcoholic etc. Is Tinder just an easy way to women or is there something that Im missing here?
>>34456967I thought he'd be like 30. But 19? He's an overgrown child just like the rest of the women he dicks. Let them play around with their genitals in some desperate attempt for meaninglessly fleeting validation they seem to be in severe deficit of.
>>34456978The thing is he looks bad,+many of his unhealthy habits yet he gets so much matches
>>34456967>is there something that Im missing here?He's probably very confident. That's the single most important thing when it comes to attracting women.
>>34456967Are you the same age? Probably so many of your generation are faggots that it's easy pickings for women. Plus he probably gives them cocaine.
>>34457160I am 20, hes 19, we knew each other since we were 7
