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I feel like I'm having a quarter life crisis, I'm 26, I don't know what to do for a career, I get jealous of younger people because they wear cooler/more stylish clothes that I can't pull off because I'm older. I lost 20 pounds in the last 3 months, but I'm scared that If I keep working out, it won't be worth it. How do I stop this crisis?
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>>30926182
**yawnnnn**
looks like youre overthinking my buddy o pal
go to technical college use the financial aids they have, pick something that gives you a good paying job
there you go, career achieved

>jealous because of clothes
stop being envy about dumb shit

keep exercising its good for your health

see you next time mr krabs
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You don't seem to be describing a crisis, let alone a "quarter life crisis" whatever the fuck that is.

A midlife crisis occurs when you reach middle age, realise you're in the back nine and time is running out, but you haven't done the things you always wanted to do. That is, clock is ticking, time to get shit done.

No idea wtf a "quarter life crisis" is supposed to be. You just don't seem to be overthinking everything in order to generate something you can call a crisis to garner sympathy. But that's pathetic.

Pick a job, any job, doesn't matter. Hopefully you pick one you're good at that pays well so you can be successful. But just pick one. Forget meme bullshit about passion and joy. That's for hobbies not work.

You're 26 cunt, you can wear whatever clothes you want. You're bearly an adult.

Why wouldn't getting healthier be worthwhile? What a stupid, self indulgent, childish self doubt to have.

I am hearing noises that can't realistically be there. Like someone heavily breathing right outside my window (still ongoing), but I'm on the third floor of a soviet style bock paratman. Or occasional singular barks of something like a dog from the kitchen. But when I go out, nothing is there.

It is alarming but not necesarry terrifying. Should I seek something like medical help? Who do I even contact with something like this?
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>>30924996
Have you got a carbon monoxide detector? If not you should get one. It could be ghosts though, in my brother's bedroom we all hear unexplainable breathing and there's no carbon monoxide problem in the house. The world is a weird place, you should check all avenues before assuming the paranormal, but when all other options have been exhausted it might just be ghosts.
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>>30924996
Spend a few days staying somewhere else, a rural cabin or a short cruise, whatever, and see if you still hear those sounds. If not then they are in your apartment building and if you still hear them then they are in you.
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>>30924996

people will tell you that that kind of thing is just in your head, but that will most likely just make it worse as you try to resist it with little success. it sounds like demonic activity to me, just call on the name of Lord Jesus and those things will flee, their power is nill compared to His and they just feed off of your fear and submission to them, but the strength of the Lord terrifies them because they know His power and what He'll do to them. Then try to get everything opening demonic doors out of your life, things like drugs/images of strange gods, and read the gospel and proclaim the Blood of Jesus over you and your house, take Him as your Lord and Savior
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>>30924996
Whenever I have any sensation I rationally know is unlikely to be real I close my eyes, take deep breaths and clear my mind. I know that even if I had hallucinations of the highest degree, my rational mind is folded more often than the sharpest katana.
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>>30924996
See an audiologist, and psychiatrist.

How to get rich if you're from a 3rd world country and low iq.
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by doing the needful.
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>>30925802
Learn social justice jargon and become a diversity expert in the West.
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politics, military (officers only)

usually those jobs go to families with influence
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>>30925802
imagine the flashlight turning off

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Why am I into 2 different girls? how do I stop being a greedy bastard?
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>>30924536
Because humans are a polygamous species.
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>>30924536
Hint:
You are not the only male both girls talk to.

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Turned 18 recently looking for really any advice at all. Advice that could make my life better now, and in the future. I'm already building credit, have a roth ira, savings with a couple thousand, and checking account also. Along with a vanguard account with a couple hundred dollars.

Only problem I sort of have right now is I smoke weed once a week at my job with coworkers. Trying to stop since I'm worried it will eventually effect my health. Besides advice on that any other advice is greatly appreciated

Thank You
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>>30925940
Calm down, don't worry, have faith in your future, and just keep on going. And don't worry about all the weird shit that people brag or doom about. If you can follow this advice, you will be much better off than most.
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>>30926000
Okay thanks
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>>30925940
Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Dont stay out late, nothing good ever happens after midnight. When someone offers you advice or help look for what they get out of it. Never borrow or lend money to/from friends. Take care of your teeth, brush/floss and see the dentist regularly. If you find someone who loves you, do your best to love them back and overlook their flaws. Dont commit crimes of stupidity. Always keep 100 dollars in your wallet for emergencies. Dont sleep with people you work with. Dont lie. Dont overshare, people will use things you say against you. Be confident that even if you know nothing about a specific thing you have to confront, that you are competent enough to handle it. If I took all this advice starting from when I was 18 my life would be very different. I think better
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>>30925940
either cut on weed or grow your own, it will save you thousands
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>>30925940
Smoking weed once a week really isn’t that big of a deal. If you’re doing all that already you’re a leg up from most people.

The best advice I can give you is to be patient. I spent my late teens and early twenties busting my fucking ass and wondering if any of it was even worth it because I didn’t feel like I was actually doing any better than anyone else. My good decision making didn’t start paying off really until just recently, and I’m now 28.

Stay the course. Be willing to have fun too you don’t want to have no good memories from your early adulthood but if you’ve got your shit together as far as finances and work ethic is concerned it will all come together naturally in time.

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anons i started talking to this girl i met in a store next to my workplace and she's cute, we share the same taste in music, we both like the 80s music era a lot, collect vinyls and we clicked kinda quickly by liking the same bands, songs and stuff but that's about it.
She's really interested in me and became pretty obsessed real quick. That's the first time someone obsesses over me instead of the other way around and it honestly is annoying and completely turns me off.
I was playing vidya the other day and didn't answer her text for half an hour and she was immediatly pissed. That happened 2 times already and we've been texting for a week maybe and drank coffee twice between work breaks
I'm rather introvert and have had one relationship for 3 months so that's the only expierence i have but she's like even more introvert than me and also seems to overthink a lot more than i used to
The problem might also lie with me as i'm not over my ex i guess as i still miss her (i broke up cause overthinking led to jealousy and that led to me breaking up)
How do i tell her that i don't want to keep dating? It will probably break her heart if i say that
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>>30924904
You have to take charge and become the captain, not the passenger. You know she's already into you so you'll have to be the one to initiate here. Girls like a guy who can assert himself without coming across rapey
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>>30924904
Understandable I was in your position anon take the risk to the chin you was already laying in bed with her let your intrusive thoughts take over… if she rejects you now you know what was on her mind it’s better to find out than keep guessing your just blue balling yourself don’t think about how well you do or bout the sex just do it… pick her up kiss her toss her on the bed plenty of teasing
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>>30924720
>have a dream girl
>reject her while thousands of men are staved out of attention
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>>30924783
you have an ex
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>>30924783
Keep your virginity and marry another virgin OP. The divorce rate for virgin marriages is incredibly low. Relationship and sexual satisfaction is rated higher too.

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i'm a guy who is a little skinny fat and i want to shrink my belly so i don't look fat when i'm relaxed or stitting down but i don't want to have any abs or muscles
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>>30925591
with water throughout the day?
what's in the meal exactly?
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Are you actually fat, or is your spine crooked? Can you suck it in and have a flat stomach?
Also no you can't spot-reduce fat. You lose it all, randomly from all parts of your body, and if you dont eat right (starve yourself) that belly will persist, especially if you're 30s.
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>>30925618
also ozempic is now a thing if you dont care about those potential unknown side effects
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>>30925603
NTA but what you want. As long as it's below your daily expenditure you'll lose weight. But of course eating healthier options would be more beneficial
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>>30923376
Baboon ape mindset, stay losing

I am currently no contact with my ex and recently I made a new friend who just happens to be a woman. I guess my ex caught wind of this because she has completely lost her mind over it. She's harassing all of my friends over social media. What can I do to stop this?
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>>30924893
Shouldn't have stuck your dick in crazy. Sorry anon, but you'll remember this lesson next time.
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>>30924893
go to the police and report it as harassment, they'll visit her and tell her to stop, from there you keep pursuing everything through the legal system.
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>>30924893
what a shitty friend
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>>30925104
/adv/ - Advice
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>>30925104
this, op, you have to do it
do it for teh lulz

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>I'm seeing this girl once in a while
>We have this on and off relationship
>She decide if we are on or off
>Sometimes she comes over just to suck my dick and leave
>Sometimes she just ghost me for weeks.
>Sometime she won't even let me cuddle because she says it's "haram"
>today she text me to ask if I want some food she cooked.
>Answer yes as soon as I read the text
>She says "You wouldn't answer, so I trew it in the trash. Too bad!"
>I only took 10 min to answer
Is she bipolar or some shit?
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>>30925847
why do guys here always get into the WORST relationships
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>>30925861
We have low self-esteem :(

>>30925847
None of that sounds even remotely worth getting your dick sucked occasionally
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>>30925847
ghost her.
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>>30925861
how the fuck you retards even get some crazy bitches in the first place? I want one

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Is this infographic really accurate or not? Seems like less money than I would expect to live off of
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It's a meme bro, you trying to get financial advice from strangers on the internet. Would you go up to some random homeless person on the street and ask them to help plan your financial future?

The internet is not a substitute for a financial planner and financial literacy. If you need financial advice make an appointment to see a professional.
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>>30924882
>>30924901
No it's pretty accurate, as the thing says look up the 3% and 4% rules. It says you need to be single though.
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>>30924882
>>30924901 is basically correct, but… honestly it seems about right to me. A little lower than I’d expect, but then I live in one of the most expensive cities in the country.
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>The internet is not a substitute for a financial planner and financial literacy
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>>30924916
>>30924926

Are either of you financial services professionals? No? Right, so what "seems right to you" is completely irrelevant. Getting financial information from a meme is straight retarded.

What kind of investment size you would need for any of these things depends on a multitude of individual circumstance factors, in specific investment factors, including time.

My long term boyfriend and I have been on the rocks for a few years and I'm finally at the point where I am done. We don't want the same future, we can be abusive to one another in different ways and we've both been disrespectful to each other and the relationship we share.

However, anytime I even hint that I don't want to be in the relationship anymore he ignores me, leaves the room or avoids the conversation entirely and acts like everything is grand! I know that he is unhappy too and thinks that the relationship is unfulfilling. So, why stay?

How do I have a break up conversation with someone that avoids it at all cost?
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>However, anytime I even hint that I don't want to be in the relationship anymore he ignores me, leaves the room or avoids the conversation entirely and acts like everything is grand!
Lol I had no idea that you can’t break up with a guy if he sticks his fingers in his ears every time you try to do it.

Are you two living together? Are you still fucking him? Those are the only reasons I can think of as to why he hasn’t left.
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>>30925867
>How do I have a break up conversation with someone that avoids it at all cost?
You tell him that he can't ignore his way out of this and if he continues to do so, just move out and don't talk to him.
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>>30925911
Santa claus is real nananana
My dad owns nintendo
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>>30925867
have you considered suicide? It sounds like that would fix all of your problems.
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>>30926037
Why do we have an advice board in 4chan out of all places?

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People around me want me to get a degree. But I actually want to open a coffee shop instead. I don't want to tell them that. It's none of their business.
How should I reply to them instead?
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>>30925592
Coffee shops have extremely thin margins.
If you want to do it sure, just don't expect to make much or save much. Most close within a few years.
You also need a good amount of capital for renting and supplies
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>>30911248
>How should I reply to them instead?
Get a degree that will help with running a coffee shop?
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>>30925687
bisniss
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dont let bots and niggas talk shit. most people in the world are idiots, so stupid they didnt even try to do anything other than what other people told them
the small group of people that attempt to do something, all of them will make money at something if they just keep doing it. nobody doesnt sell. there is some stupid person out there that will buy your shit even if it is dogshit. look at all the dogshit being sold around you every day and the dogshit people at work. you wont sell anything you are not offering that's all. theres demand for everything even garbage and poop. whatever your hustle is even if you're a poor african at the very least you can make it to not be completely shelterless. it'll work out for you just try shit you like. get credit if you want or not doesnt matter it's all fake anyway. you can do anything it's the future
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also do not go to school unless it is private school or some self learning org type thing

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I finally cleaned my dick cheese after 25 years of existence. Is there any other hidden hygiene tips I should know about?
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>>30922107
>it cracked
What does this mean? His dick fall off lol?
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>>30921960
Don't try to get away with skipping a shower or changing your shirt just because you can't smell it
Took me 25 years to learn that one
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>>30921960
Shave your armpits because the odour clings to the hairs. Actually, the older man would do well to get his whole body waxed because long, grey body hair looks awful.
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>>30922122
This
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>>30922535
This is not true

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This is something Ive been thinking alot about, not because its an issue, but I feel like generally its good to have well thought out answers to these things. Is it okay for your partner to have close friends of the opposite gender. Ill provide my answer and rationale; however, I would like to hear the general view of everyone else.

My answer is no, its not okay. But ill go into a few subpoints before I begin. First of all, I think it would be too demanding to ask of your partner to cut off all close friendships prior to you guys dating, and would only apply to future friends. Secondly, close friendship means anyone they hang out with outside of work, clubs, classes, etc. So if Anna and Jim hang out alot during class but then jim starts taking anna out to lunch alot, then they become close friends. Them hanging out alot during class and clubs is fine, but once they start eating together and doing things outside of their initial enviorenments, then it becomes wrong. This includes the digital sense, so if anna and jim text alot about stuff besides class or clubs, then they are close friends.
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>>30926003
With that out of the way, I want to touch upon what a relationship is. A relationship, in my view, can begin from anything. It can start with a sexual desire, comradery, etc. but must always end in a deep friendship. A quality relationship is always dependent one a friendship. When looking at the terms we apply to our partners, that being boyfriend or girlfriend, its important to break it up and analyze each part. For instance, when someone talks of their partner, they say, "This is my boyfriend." In a literal since, this is my specific boyfriend. He is a boy who is my friend. In the structure of the words, it claims this boy soley as your friend. It implies closeness and a bit of ownership, as he only belongs to you. It also isnt "This is one of my boyfriends" but "This is my boyfriend" From the title applied to the partner, we can see that it carries an overtone of ownership/personal belonging, closeness and it also applies that their is only one friend of the opposite gender who is yours.
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>>30926006
Now, I will begin my main argument as to why close friends of the opposite gender is wrong when in a relationship. The question may be asked as to why does this matter, I mean its obvious that your partner should be who your closest to in respect of opposite gender friends, but why should they be the only close friend of the opposite gender? To begin, we covered before that a relationship is a deep friendship. These two realms, that of relationships and that of friendships are inseperable. So then, if your in a relationship and your closest friend of the opposite gender isnt your partner, then whoever it is your closest to is infringing upon your partner. A relationship is more than kissing, sex, physical closeness, its a deep bond of friendship. So then, if you have close friends of the opposite gender, those close friends then infringe on your partner. When someone is in a relationship, they shouldnt be going to another girl or guy to have dinner or lunch. Nor should they be going for emotional comfort or to text about their day. That close friendship, that is what two partners have between one another is sacred. It shouldnt be diluted from either side by both having close friends of the opposite gender. A partner wouldnt kiss a friend of the opposite gender, so then, why would they also emulate all other aspects of a relationship, that being a deep friendship, with another person of thtmtae opposite gender.
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>>30926017
A relationship is a deep friendship and any deep friendship with someone other than your partner infringes and invades the domain of your partners deep friendship. It begins to emulates everything about a relationship, just without the sex, kissing and cuddling. A relationship truly is special, you are choosing one person of the opposite gender to be your closest and deepest friend. No other person of your gender could be a deeper friend to them than what you are. So then, why would you allow someone of the opposite gender to be close friends with your partner. You were given that role to serve and now it gets infridged upon.

That is my main argument

Please now give me your thoughts so I can better develop this, and thank you for reading/sharing.
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>>30926003
>>30926006
>>30926017
>>30926022
I'm happy or sorry for you anon, and I hope you either learned your lesson or live happily ever after.

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I just landed a 2 week trial period for a promising new job after a whole year of neetdom. Thing is, it requires me to dress "business professional" and I have absolutely no experience with this type of fashion. I'm basically a loser who dresses in jeans and t shirt. Another complication is that I'm short and skinny (5'7 135 pounds) and suits tend to make me look like a kid playing dress up. I don't know how to go about this without making a fool of myself or wasting money on shit that I don't look good in.
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>>30925815
the suit and tie always looks good if it fits. that's all you need to do, is get something that fits properly.
dress shirt light in color, stiff point collar, tucked in
suit should be navy, charcoal, or gray, clean and wrinkle free, in NEEDS to be fitted
tie is darker than shirt and reaches top of the belt. can be patterned or have bold colors as long as it isn't insane
socks darker than the suit
polished and clean dress shoes, black or brown leather. no suede

stuff is actually really comfy and if you get stuff that fits you won't regret spending the money
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>>30925843
Thank you for the reply and information
>the suit and tie always looks good if it fits
I'm rather unconfident about this, because I feel like my small size and boyish face causes the tie to not be taken seriously
I was thinking of going with pic related, just a shirt and jacket type look because it's more understated
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I also don't know how to go about getting fitted
Like am I expected to have an idea of what I want even if I don't know what looks good on me or how the process works
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don't try to look like some movie star or model, you tism case

your headspace is that you're going to go buy the white collar working man's uniform. do a google search for where to shop for the stuff and go spend some time and check things out
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>>30925961
I'm already telling my friends that I'm going to be Bateman moding though
There is a promising place here, I'm gonna feel autistic saying that I've never been through the process before. Hopefully I'm not annoying

Also am I gonna have to get these outfits professionally cleaned if I get hired permanently? I assume I can't just toss them into a load


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