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>just broke up with gf because i felt like we weren't compatible enough to be together and i lost feelings for her
>still feel like shit after
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I've been with a girl for about a month and 2 weeks. She is already clearly falling for me. I'm going to be in a similar boat. I don't see it continuing like this. I've pretty much already lost feelings. It feels like shit because you're a decent person. Your girl will respect you more down the line, and learn from you and herself, because you had the balls to actually break it off instead of just cheating on her. So that's a positive.
>lost feelings for her
How does that work?
At least she didn't get hit by a train
Because you got into the idea that it's something you wanted without looking at the negatives. If you weren't happy then you made the right call but it's human nature to desire something you can't see the negatives to and regularly it bites you in the ass a bit. Breaks almost always suck, but you'll get through it. Look back at the reasons you broke up and remember how unhappy you were. She wasn't the one you wanted to be with. You will be happier with a better person
Just means you're human, anon. It shouldn't feel good to hurt someone's feelings. But you did the right thing.

I actually just found this board and thought I’d start a thread I’ve been thinking about making somewhere else. Seems more appropriate for this board.

This thread is for people who have never had a relationship in their lives. Virginity is not a requirement. Post your thoughts on relationships.
>what you’ve observed about people who are in them
>if they are generally good or bad
>at least what you think it’s like to be in a relationship with somebody who you love
>or even someone you don’t love
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>relationships are incredibly overrated
No, don’t tell me this. I’ve seen and heard this, too. Don’t fucking tell me this.
Relationships are fantastic when they are working. Perhaps the most fulfiling thing you could imagine. When they go wrong, they are awful and stifling, and you feel starved of air, just hoping it will all go away.
Don't rush into one anons. Find someone good, and take it nice and slow. Don't put it on a pedestal.
This is coming from someone who has dated, had LTRs, had FWBs, and has had one night stands. You are better being alone until you find someone who is worth not being alone for.
They're vaguely interesting. Early stages are kind of fucked up in a way. It's like 90% pure projection and fantasy. And people get SO invested in it. In people they "knew" for a month or less. It's fucking crazy to me. Emotionally stable people in relationships are pretty cool once the fantasy stage passes and they figure out if they can actually stand the person they thought they love or not. Having someone to share good moments with, who supports you during bad moments, but also lets you be your own person seems great. A lot of people aren't emotionally stable though. I think that most of them just can't let go of the initial fantasy stage of the relationship. They either stay with shit people because they used to be x, y, and z, or they get mad at the partner because they aren't x, y, and z anymore. When in reality they never were. They just didn't know them, and made up shit that they wanted them to be.
I've had a relationship, and a short thing that i like calling a relationship. Because the latter was better.
After the first month she never made time to see me, and the further it went on the more clingy and needy i got.
But seeing someone twice a month is not a fucking relationship, and i don't think it was overbearing of me to ask for more.
3 weeks before we broke up i asked "Ok, what the fuck is going on? Something is wrong"
She just said "Nothing's wrong, the honeymoon phase is just over."
I think she was deliberately torturing me. I used to be emotionally stable before that, but i swear she deliberately withheld spending time with me.
>what you’ve observed about people who are in them
There's good and bad sides to everything so complex as relationships. Friends of mine who are in relationships seem to really thrive. Of course things go wrong, but that's part of life, and it seems to be worth it in their lives.
>if they are generally good or bad
Same answer I guess
>at least what you think it’s like to be in a relationship with somebody who you love
I think it would be pretty awesome to be able to be really intimate with someone you're really attracted to both emotionally and physically, or just to get a hug from them.
>or even someone you don’t love
That's probably hell. I think the worst mistake one can make is to start a relationship with someone out of desperation or something like that; I wouldn't know what's appealing about that at all. I don't think you'd really appreciate the intimacy or be able to trust them fully. It takes the irrational element of love to get you over that.

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Motivate me to go study
nobody can build the bridge over which you must cross the river of life.
But a bridge is to be crossed, not to set up house upon it
Study you brainless fucking life form. You think you can make it without learning some shit. You think you sit on your computer laughing at your farts all day. Get shit done trooper
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Damn right, I'll become a god damn officer and I'll be paid to arrest gypsies all day
Thanks anon
Off to history class

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Can only stretching help me shape my body and lose fat?
I'm not overweight or anything my body just seems lazy and a little chubby. I don't have time to go to the gym this year cause of college entrance exams and family.
Also, I don't want to be masculine cause I'm female.
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>>>/fit/ sticky

Excercise is useless for defeating obesity. Watching your diet is where all /fit is.
Anon, stretching isn't even an exercise regime, it's used to make you more flexible and a lot of people do it before and after exercise, but not just it by itself.
If you want to lose weight then read the sticky on >>>/fit/.
And trust me, women who exercise and take care of their bodies without looking masculine are hot.
Stretching won't make you lose fat. Not ever.
> I don't want to be masculine cause I'm female.
It's not like the gym is only for becoming an insane bodybuilder. You don't even have to do strength training, or you can just go less often when you feel you're becoming to masculine.
You can do other sports than going to the gym, but desu I don't think they're that much more efficient. And how much is one hour twice a week (or if you do it well, every other day) really?
If you really don't want to do any sports then just eat less to lose fat.

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Hi folks!
My name is Jack and I struggled with Anorexia when I was 17 years old. It was the darkest period in my life and I felt so alone and helpless because I didn't find anyone that had been in a similar position like me. At the time, I also thought that it was something that mainly women dealt with.

I am now 23 years old and I don't want anyone to ever have to experience that same type of feeling. For the past year I have dedicated my life to gathering stories from other survivors and fighters from allover the world that were willing to share their stories. The amount of stories that I have received is unreal. Every single one of them is still going after their dreams, regardless of whatever shit that life has thrown at them. Hopefully this can help someone out there.

The platform that I have just launched is called the Underdogs Collective: www.underdogscollective.com
New stories will be posted every Monday & Friday and you will be able to search for any type of struggle that fits your situation (wether it be poverty, eating disorder, bullying, victim of a crime etc - it does not matter). The stories are also posted on the official YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdcZV7a4iqHK_Wi28hTOgSA

I hope I can help someone out there with this. Thank you for your time and stay strong.

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I don't know why, but seeing my crush happy makes me happy too, even though I know she rejected me and hates me. Why is that? Am I an idiot?
No,thats quite normal,my crush rejected me in front of my school,but later on apologized and later on we became friends

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I'm two years into a fairly great relationship, with a wonderful but so humanly imperfect girl, and you know what I'm daydreaming about right now? If I could break up with her, move put back into a nicer apartment with all my nice furniture, get some multicolored light bulbs and stock a bar, set it up like as an open art studio, and post this on tindr with my most creative and impressive photos
>26 6' 220lb
>$55k+ a year
>come smoke with me and listen to music while I draw, cook, and create shit in and around my apartment
>looking for engaging and creative people, or just lazy and chill girls to hang out and get to know
>chefs, artists, groupies, workaholics, procrastinators welcome
And just not give a fuck, invite people into my cool little life all casual like with with no expectations
It just seems so possible and so fulfilling. Im not about to end my relationship, but this is the type of stuff i was thinking of lately. Not sure what advice is warranted, but I just wanted to share. Im dating the girl I might marry, and yet I'm seeing so many options for how I could spend the remainder of my secual life, even if only for a while. Thoughts?
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>all that pretentious shit

lol lets be real here you just want to fuck lots of girls
To be honest she doesnt have very much free time right now with her work, and I am frustrated with a lack of variety but thats really just lust I guess
Yes, but this is how I would be able to do it and really make the most of my free time
And do you have the honest conviction that you’d be happier for it?
Idk its just an appealing fantasy about a part of my life I've sacrificed for my relationship. Thinking about options like this makes me feel more free

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Some chick i rarely speak to in uni just sent me an invitation to some political event her hippie organisation is setting up.
Just that, without saying a word. I havent actually spoken to her other than a 'hi' since like last year.
Do i just say nothing and ignore?
Do i write her i'm not interested or whatever?
Not to sound mean, but this cunt don't care about you, all she care about is having bodies in her stupid organization to try and spread some message.

I wouldn't bother, bro, unless you tryna smash liberal cunts, provided they won't accuse you of rape later
She's probably just publicising her stuff. Don't respond. Just ignore it.
I dont want to bang her arse, mate.
On the contrary, I want her off my back because this is just uncalled for.
I know its that kind of thingbwhere shes contacting whoever to get people but i dunnae what's the polite thing to do.
I'll most probably do that though

How do I realistically get a house for myself RIGHT NOW without money? Just by stealing it?
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1. Get to China.
2. Go to some second-tier city with high rates of housing development
3. Enter literally any high-rise apartment building in the suburbs
4. Move into one of the thousands of empty (never to be used) rooms. If you get kicked out, repeat the process in another town.
>a little extra
A slight under-statement, but ok.
>their services
>hand rubbing intensifies
By services do you mean loaning out money they don't even have?
1. Draw one
2. Buy a Barbie House
3. Ask your parents to transfer ownership to you
You could steal a caravan and live in that

This is not exactly true. Although it depends on your local laws, there are quite a few places with squatting rights - the general thrust being that derelict, unused houses can be claimed by anyone willing to maintain and use the house, and after a period of years (the length depends on the local laws) of no one contesting ownership, the property can be legally declared as the squatters.

I somehow managed to accidentally purchase one credit on audible. So i essentially get to pick one book.

I want something centred around getting your shit together, Motivating me to stop being a lazy fat shit and actually learn how to better myself.

Bonus points for a smooth voice.
The antitode
The Communist Manifesto is really nice

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Basically I'm 20 years old and I'm feeling bad of seeing all of my friends getting laid while I got nothing. Last girlfriend I had was when I was 15 and since then I haven't been in another relationship, but the thing is that I'm desesperate for someone special. My self-esteem is fucked right now and my grades are dropping because of this. I'm in a point where I'm starting to hate myself.

What should I do? Like I have no idea where to start to fix my fucking life.
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How many girls have you asked on date this years?
Mmm... If my memory is right, two girls (I'm OP). Both girls said yes to the date, but I only went out with one of those girls (the other one cancelled our date like two times in a row and I surrendered). That said I approached a girl and she just got freaked out (she seems very shy to start with, but maybe I looked creepy when I approched, who knows). Anyway, should I try my luck more?
Forgot to mention, this was this year
If you want gf or laid? Yes you need to up your dating game. Try one girl per week.
I can't wait to have old nasty roasties all over me for my stable income

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my life is a trainwreck, im old and I keep repeating the same mistakes
how do I escape this cycle of suffering
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lesson is being reapeated until learned

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I am 18 and a virgin though I'm not too fussed about it, however, is it worth me hiring a prostitute/escort to experience it or no?

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Grab your balls and do as most guys do - ask many girls out, get rejected by most, and date the few that dont reject you.

a) You will keep money in your pocket
b) You will gain confidence
c) You will have a girl that hasnt been used by at least 100 different men (most escorts at a minimum have fucked this much)
no. It’s definitely not worth it

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how do I talk to a girl online that I love?

>checked her kik she deleted it
>checked her Instagram she deleted it
>I know she still has Instagram because I checked from another phone
>dont have any other forms of contact except I know her username she uses for everything

so is the only way basically to make a 2nd Instagram to talk to her? I dont think id go that far and its a little obsessive
u answered your own question. idfk what to suggest also wtf she deleted the platform u talked onto? she ghosted u get over it.

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A supervisor and shift leader who have been with my company for 3 months are trying to get me fired from a company I've had no problems with since being hired 2 years ago. Just before they both arrived, I was promoted and called an "excellent" employee. I've been harassed and had my work sabotaged over and over. I could prove it in court, but I'm poor and have a lot going on outside of work. Others have experienced harassment and reported it as well, but they made us sign a contract stating that we waived our rights to class action lawsuits. They also made us sign an arbitration agreement. If I were to sue, I would have to sue alone and face a judge that the company picks. I'd rather just quit immediately and forget about these bastards, which brings me to my question:

Have any of you ever had issues with being hired by other companies after being deemed non-rehireable at a different one?

If I quit immediately and right before the holiday, I'll be marked down as non-rehireable by HR.
I'm sorry anon, in what kind of shithole do you work? Just round up everyone that has been harassed and make a complaint with HR, they will have to listen to your complaints and will act on them by conducting an investigation and reporting this to the boss man because that's part of their job.
The more people that turn up and do this the more likely they'll get fired on the job, especially if you can prove that they've sabotaged work to try and get you all fired and harassed you all in the workplace.
If for some reason your HR doesn't do this then just round everyone up and go talk to their boss.
HR doesn't give two shits about employees, they're only concern is that someone isn't breaking the law, in which case they'll just fire everyone.

Harassing you at work isn't illegal. They can be assholes and try to get you fired if they want. You only have a case of they harassed you based on a protected class like race or religion.

Black listing is a real thing, but if you can find another job before you quit it won't matter. Also if you have someone to count on as a reference and who can explain the toxicity of the environment and your hard work you'll be able to overcome it.

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