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What's the best way to deal with a breakup when that person was petty much your best and only friend too? What the fuck am I supposed to do now?
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Make new friends. Be social. Duh.
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>>30926225
Are you american? If so move to the east coast.
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>>30926568
>east coast
why the east coast

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What career path is there for someone who dislikes talking a lot, and likes art?

Ive always wanted to be a lead game designer, but landing that job and being successful is kinda hard, especially for an introvert. I was thinking on being an engineer, but Ive realized that would take too much responibility from my part, and I really wouldnt care all that much.

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>live in rural area
>be out
>every blue moon in a situation where I'll chat up a girl
>ask if she has boyfriend
>yep.jpg
>get on tinder
>works for 3 days, fucked by algorithm and paywall, girls ghost, are too far away, or I'm not interested (whales and creatures)
>get on bumble
>match with a baddie
>never messages me
>match disappears
>get on hinge
>100 carbon copies of the same profile x 1000
>get on Facebook dating
>no premium bullshit, no paywalls

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I am trying facebook dating too lol. And yea similar result honestly my theory is that antisocial people don't want to be alone but are also scare so they tend to go to apps or website where they can be hidden and not show much public information. I am keeping a open mind and trying other options to look for matches. God speed to you anon and may the god of love bless us with a good wife.

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>>30927924
Well it wouldn’t be punishment if you weren’t scared of it now would it. If it really is that terrifying we can ease into it and find a compromise instead or alternative form of punishment. The goal is correction not to traumatize.
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Women
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>>30927943
You have to work on this problem, my dude, or you'll just isolate yourself at home and will compensate with the internet, in this case 4chan, but that won't solve the issue and will only deepen it.
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Anons that have a thing for girls smoking, i figured out what that is about.
So, initially it was judged harshly for women to smoke in public, which obviously was not in the interest of the tobacco industry, since it meant a customer cut of nearly 50%.
They hired edward bernays, which was sigmund freuds nephew and one of the most influential propagandist that first used psychoanalysis to brainwash people into buying shit they do not need, and asked him what they could do to make women want to smoke and make men be happy with it too.
He talked to another famous psychoanalyst of the times and together they said that cigarettes are phallic and thus a symbol of power. Now, if only they could make it so that cigarettes became a symbol of empowerment, freedom and progress, they knew they could seal the deal.
At a parade, bernays paid young debutants to smoke cigarettes on cue to make it look widespread and to tie it to youth and beauty. The rest is history.
Basically, if you like women smoking, you are a little sub fag. In the words of bernays „give women their own penis“. This is a form of subtle femdom so to speak.
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>>30927937
Its possible he’s just socially retarded, which given our crowd is not unlikely

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Why psichology is not taked seriously as it should be?
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>>30920691
We don't take you seriously, either, ESL
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>>30920691
It's not an actual science and it doesn't actually take 2+ years to study and understand in depth
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>>30924068
:c
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>>30922444
I was thinking I should read this faggot before I die. I’m slow. Is it a waste?
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>>30925151
If i tell you the truth i will be banned for antisemitism.

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I’m in my early ‘20s & live with my parents & sister, who’s a couple years younger than me. My sister gets stressed out at work a lot & seems to like taking it out on me, talking down to me like I’m a child, ordering me to do petty tasks & expecting me to run errands for her at the drop of at a hat. Obviously, I can refuse, but then she’ll get angry, we’ll argue, she’ll eventually start screeching at the top of her voice, maybe even try to provoke a physical fight & my ageing parents will suffer for it. My dad tells me to not to provoke her as she’s been diagnosed with a mental illness, but I’m tired of giving in. What can I do to assert myself without escalating things?
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>>30924409
P.S.

Personally I'd also throw in "Limitless" with Bradley Cooper - an awesome movie.

I mean like ideally, you'd do none of this and just leverage arguments with her psychologically/with intimidation but that is not an option in your situation. You are not her babysitter so you are not obliged to educate her. But in this case, you quite literally have to do this.

You do not have the right to oppose your sister if she is mentally sick since she can't handle emotional aggression properly.

So all you can do is to elevate her psychologically.
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>>30924296
P.S. And yeah, you have to actually get her to talk to you, which means establishing a dialogue discourse with her.

But you're siblings so this should be fairly easy.
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>>30924296
P.S.
Give her these "lectures" in careful and steady dosages.

And in the case where she vaguely appeals to something like "I don't care about this nerdy crap" you can gently deflect by saying something along the lines of "the fundamental values of humanity's millenial experience are infinitely more valuable than degrading reddit culture that leads to mental illness"...(this would make for a nice subtle roast but don't overdo do it by being too mean).

But of course you have to pull it off with an intimidating presence without being too wordy one step at a time or leaning into cringe territory.

It's a very thin line but it's doable.

Ultimately it'd be a good long term solution and a virtuous one at that - having a good familial bond with your sister by blood is a noble goal worth striving for.
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>>30924296
>My dad tells me to not to provoke her as she’s been diagnosed with a mental illness, but I’m tired of giving in. What can I do to assert myself without escalating things?
Useless dad. Many such cases. This is a household problem, not something that you can solve on your own. If she bothers you, just ignore her or tell her that if she continues to act like this, you're done with her. You can also move away, if possible.
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>>30925289
And why is my advice above^^^ about educating the sister not suitable?

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PLS gib advice
I'm 22 seniore in college.
I don't understand how dating works at all or even how to find potential dates
I have no idea how people are dating let alone meeting multiple romantic partners
I got lucky over 2 years ago and had 1 GF so not KHHV but very inexperienced.
>inb4 go to class
people are rarely making friends in class, everyone who talks are already friends. people are antisocial as fuck and on their phones with airpods in
>inb4 cold approach
are you fucking kidding? I don't know a single person who does this and have seen a guy approach once maybe twice in my damn life. girls look at you like you're a psycho and gib # because they're scared shitless
>inb4 go to bars
I go into a bar and know absolutely no one, what the fuck do I do. everyone there is already friends
>inb4 looksmaxx
I'm 6'2, more jacked than 85% of guys at my gym, and lean. I've been told I'm attractive my whole life and have been catcalled by a group of girls when running outside.

PLS GIB the protocol to consistently go out and meet potential dates

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>>30925615
Dating apps
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>>30925739

By clubs I don't mean night clubs. That's where you go for a shitty one night stand, not to find a girl to date. I mean like extracurriculars. As I said you need hobbies and shit. Best way to meet people. And rhe nest way to find a girlfriend is to find someone's who's interests align w yours
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>>30925615
how'd you get lucky 2 years ago? where'd you find her? did you fuck?
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datings apps have been the only way I met my exfiance, 2 ex's and current girl; I'm casually dating. I'm a fucking sperg that doesn't understand social cues and will never have balls to cold approach.

exfiance was tinder, 1 gf was bumble the other 2 were hinge.

6' 2", decent face, and average build, but I'm partly disabled in my legs so that drops me to at max a 4/10. I'm still fucking a girl. You can do it anon.
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>>30925615
When you say cold approach you are picturing some cringe guy from youtube videos. I csn assure you men are approaching girls they don't know but in more subtle ways. It's not that hard.

How do you groon an intelligent gril successfully.
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>>30924327
What does groon mean?
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>>30924327
either have a huge dick or be smarter than her
literally that's it
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>>30924327
girls are retarded and easy to swoon. Just ignore the "intelligence" of her, all that matters is what kind of stuff she's into so you can make an impression.
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>>30924327
1. Kill yourself.
2. Stay dead.
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So the first step of your plan is to get on a video call with her and then get a stool out, this is very important. Now what you need to do is get a very sturdy rope and tie into a noose. You will now hang this from the ceiling, preferably from a nice stable pointing. You will now put your head through the noose and take out the stool from underneath you.

If you do all of these steps correctly, she should be properly groomed. If you need help simply ask, my fellow anon.

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Last week, I started an extreme fast. The gist of it is that I had my father lock me in the basement.

The plan is that twice a week he opens the door and hands me a box of dominos pizza, but that's all I get to eat. Even the dogs are eating better than me.

I drink water out the sink. There are no windows. I just have a computer and internet and a bathroom, and an old ass bed.

Yesterday I began to panic. I begged and begged him to open the door and let me drive to wendy's. I shouted for over an hour, I promised I would just get a spicy chicken sandwich and not eat anything else.

After a while he answered that he's heard it all before, and I better shut up. All I think about everyday is that pizza I get twice a week. I just want some advice about strategies how to get through this.

It is constant suffering but I really have to lose 100 pounds to have any kind of chance of a regular life.
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>>30923902
That's incredible.
Keep us updated. I'm keeping a tab permanently locked on this thread.
Best of luck.
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>>30925569
yes this
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>>30926183
I am excited now because it is only one day till I get my pizza on wednesday. It is a lot of suffering but at some points, the sky clears and I feel like I am doing the best possible thing that I can do. I know that if I keep doing this, I'll lose all the weight. I'll be a regular person again. That makes the suffering worth it.
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>>30926557
You will never be able to keep the weight off if you still want goyslop that badly.

Do the refeeds with salad/keto like that other anon was saying.

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I usually take a 10mg AdderaII pill at 9am, and another at 1pm to carry me through until 5pm.
Lately I've been having to study extra, is it bad if I take another 10mg at 6pm?
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>>30926305
Helpppp please
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>>30926405
>>30926305
Screw it I took 0.50mg of Xanax, I'm going to bed.
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>>30926305
what? i take them whenever i feel like lol.

>be me
>wake up at 7:30 to see my phone flashing an alert from Wells Fargo
>my bank account has hit the negative
>-$4.76
>the entirety of the money we have totals $16.43
>transfer $10 from saving to get my account out of the red, literally 6 bux to my name
>my gf says "I'm getting a bunch of packages today please don't be mad."
>an hour later SEVEN packages are dropped off at my door
>my gf bought more FIM and G3 ponies
>again
>"It was all only $50 and I got something special just for you!"
>She bought me a vinyl statue of my favorite pony, Applejack, as a sexy anime woman

I just decided not to say anything and was thankful she at least thought of me and my favorite pone. Is there anyway for me to explain to her this really isn't the best time to be spending money on our hobbies when I'm in school full time and only work part time at a restaurant and we literally are poor af. When we started getting into Monster High together she did the exact same thing and basically bought every currently available G3 doll in a three month span and now she collects the old G1 dolls that are hella expensive.


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>>30925315
>stuck with them very childish ideas
*stuck with some
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>>30924924
Hey I have the same problem as your gf. It’s actually debilitating. Maybe she’s waiting for you to ask her about this so you can help her. I currently feel powerless and I need my husband to take control of my finances that I keep ruining. I would feel free of this consumerist demon if he took that burden off my shoulders. Ask her if she wants help controlling finances from now on. It might give her intense relief. You can tell her that another autistic girl on the Internet has this issue too and said to ask her about it. Ask me anything about it if you are more curious about the issue itself since I have personal experience with it.
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>>30924924
If that anime statue is legit, they can get pretty expensive, so $50 is a steal if you feel like reselling. Otherwise, this is definitely something you should sit down and talk about, spending money on fun things is important too, but not when y’all are so strapped for money. Spending my savings, especially on hobby stuff is difficult for me too, so I do understand the impulse. But that doesn’t make that kind of behavior okay.
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>>30924924
First off AJ is the best pony.

>She has free access to your bank account/credit cards

Here is your problem.
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>>30924924
>Wells Fargo
>>my bank account
if you're seriously so poor you overdraw a bank account is the last thing you need

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I started renting a room in a house with other guys and I can't jack off. Any other coomers ever experience this?
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>>30926288
Nah I have roommates and I don't care if they hear me jacking off
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AAAAA I CAN'T PISS

I've been on a few dates with a girl, and she abruptly stopped talking to me.
I didn't mind much, so I started seeing other women. I just assumed she lost interest or something and moved on.
A few days ago, she sent a text and said she's been on a "social decline" and was gonna get back to me at some point this week.
I'm going out with another woman now, but I feel like it isn't going anywhere and I've been debating breaking up with her.
What should I do, anons?
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>>30925557
yea, i guess but girl 2 has a kid, and she didnt tell me about it until today so im not so sure lol
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>>30925567
Well that's some bullshit too. Girl 2 is no longer superior.
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>>30925495
Like others anons already said: date both because i can make sure that you are not the only man both girls are dating and talking to.
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>>30925495
Communication is the relationship

Good job for moving on

>thinking about dumping new girl for girl that ghosted you

That is stupid
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>>30925529
dating multiple partners until you're exclusive with one is not bigamy and was accepted even in the 1950s, Archie constantly dating Betty and Veronica, etc.

Only modern psychotic Internet users see something wrong with it

what does it mean when your parent complains about very random or inconsequential things about you?

for example

>be in bathroom brushing teeth
>dad brought a really large pizza from work (i'm the only one in the house that eats pizza) last night at like 12-1 AM
>go down, eat two slices, call it a night since i already had dinner
>haven't eaten yet today and still feel full from last night
>overhear mom in the kitchen
"SUCH A HUGE PIZZA HE (my dad) BOUGHT, WHY DOESN'T HE (me) EAT ANY???!!" in an angry voice (different language, not english so grammar is different)

I'm thinking wtf, am I supposed to eat this entire 1600 calorie pizza I didn't even ask for by myself that I only got like last night? Am I a terrible person or something for not eating a pizza?

Not to mention this is the only kind of thing she ever complains about. It'll be random as fuck, like things like me turning all the lights off downstairs at night (to save energy) and then not leaving one on "BECAUSE I CANT SEE AND ITS SCARY" or some shit like that. This is the kind of thing that's gonna guarantee me going no contact with you when I move out.
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>>30924856
honestly you should go no-contact because it will give you time to understand how your parents are set in their ways and it's your duty as a child to forgive them for being retarded
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>>30924866
The problem is I can't go no contact with my dad because he's completely tech illiterate and I need to help him with everything regarding things like emails and excel sheets related to his business, as well as signing every single digital form. They straight up can't do any of that themselves
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>>30924856
There's nothing wrong with you, this is just the classic blue collar, non-Western household experience. A pizza can always be put in the refrigerator and eaten later anyway.
>This is the kind of thing that's gonna guarantee me going no contact with you when I move out.
Yeah that sounds about right.
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>>30924856
Your dad bought a whole pizza just for you? You should thanks to your dad. You should thank him and explain to him why you only ate 2 slices, literally exactly the same you posted here.
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that's called a mom OP

you dense fuck

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I've been seeing yt vids about catching discord predators by pretending to be a girl, not sure which servers to search in tho. Does anyone know of servers where its easy to find pervs?
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>>30925876
> get creepy photos somehow (in minecraft)
what’s the point of catching predators if you will end up using CP anyway?
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>>30924594
Search servers for "roleplay", "meme", "memes".
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>>30924665
Tranny servers are 18+ by requirement.
Still tons of predators exploiting the vulnerable, but it's legal.
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>>30926130
I didn't say CP, just creepy shots. Like a mirror but selfie or whatever kids post these days. Usually that should entice an unfortunate, mentally wrung pervert enough to believe he is talking to a kid. He'll do half the convincing himself for you, just to feel a tad closer to his fantasy.
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>>30924594
People who do this are usually creeps themselves.


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