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I just don't get it, /adv/. I made eye contact, I talked, I listened, I said her head looked like an Easter Island monolith, I...oh, there it is...fuck...
Lol. Next time mention mr Ed and smile really big. Women like that.
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Would it help if I used an indian accent?

I’m 22, hate my family and I want to move to far away as possible.

I’ve always wanted to move to Canada, I just don’t know how.

America is just a shit show and I just want to leave.

Besides being financially stable and having enough money to survive, how do I seek residence in Canada?
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Canada is colder, more expensive, has meme tier gun laws, no free speech, and is being actively colonized by the 3rd world. You're better moving to Oregon desu
You have to go back
America is a big place, anon. You might look into a different state, which you can move to very easily.
But if he moves here, he'll bring a little bit of his sanity with him, ando slow this country's collapse.
We literally have more freedom than you americans always brag about

So I'm quitting smoking pot and threw away my stash and everything in a public trash can. Couldn't use the trash at my apartment as if they caught me I'd the kicked out. How likely is it the trahs will be tracked back to me?
Nobody will even realise the weed is in the trash. Even if they do nobody will put in the effort to find out who threw it.

Don't worry friend, you're all good.
Thanks famalam. That's good to hear.

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Do I have a sex addiction?

I want to bang every chick I see when I'm out and about in public, and regularly fantasize when talking to women etc

Is this normal? When does it end?

I'm 27 for Christ's sake, not 17. That's why I'm a little interested.
It'll stop in 20 years time, don't worry.
Get a gf.
No man. Watch Shame if you want to know what a sex addiction looks like. Brief walkthrough:

>most sex addicts start by becoming hyper sexual and never feeling real satisfaction/gratification from sex with their partner, it's merely scratching an itch that plays up five minutes later again
>they start requesting increasingly more sex, increasingly weird acts, becoming less and less respectful of their partner's rejection (might go into rape), they cannot stop this behavior despite knowing they are ruining their relationship
>sometimes at or before this stage porn comes into play and the addict tries to turn to it to release some excess energy - porn in turn keeps the sexual energy going and introduces addict to new ideas
>will end in cheating and sexual encounters addict was never interested in (e.g. a straight man offering himself at a glory hole) to get increasingly extreme, deviant and new kicks

There are variations but generally you know it's an addiction when it gets in the way of your life. Just looking at women is different from having such a compulsive need to ogle and flirt with any woman around you that you get fired everywhere. Masturbating a lot is different from not being able resist rubbing one out at a friend's house in their bathroom. Roleplaying online and enjoying it is different from seeking out sexual scenes you don't feel comfortable in and feeling self-loathing, disgust and existential dread even before you had an orgasm.

>tl;dr you're not addicted, you just have a high libido and/or interest in women (they're not even always entirely the same)

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This screencap and the common human instincts it represents make me angry and always has. How can I best use this anger?
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What i said is all I meant.
>You should probably try to actually interact with some in real life.
Easy to say for a normie like you.
The guy in the story you posted never had friends in the first place.
>says he hasnt seen proof of women that aren't horrible
>given logical explanation for that
>refutes with ree normie
I guarantee I haven't been outside longer than you, have less friends (0), haven't had friends much longer than you and have had a much shittier life than you. I just actually still have a functioning brain and am not a complete and total dipshit.
Are we making this into a contest of whose life is more miserable?
You win I guess, because despite also never having any friends ever, I at least never felt sad because of all the escapism I plunge myself into.
And what's wrong with being a dipshit if I don't interact with real people anyway?

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Can you guys give me tips on getting harder long-lasting erections?
It's not a bodyfat issue for sure, I exercise regularly and have a good diet.
I've got real bad anxiety and usually very stressed out for no reason at all and it's tough for me to relax, I think this probably plays a big role. Also, I'm about 8 inches when completely hard but usually get about 7 inches and it feels somewhat soft.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
wait for stem cells to grow you a new dick because your seems to be useless
Found the guy with the small dick.
Nah, average sized, but actualy functional and rock hard.
>limpy dic
Your only choice is to become a cuck

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Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?

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On a scale from 1 to yes how bad of an idea is it to date a girl from the workplace?
>started working 1½ years ago
>girl started ½ year ago
>she looks so cool and cute and unf
We work in different sections and I see her maybe 2-3 times a week.

Can really only see it ending in disaster.
Usually the advice is, don't shit where you eat - however the workplace is one of the most common places for people to meet. You are probably in the same age bracket, have something in common when it comes to interests/ambitions/background, you spend a lot of time together without pressure. It's only natural.

I would let it depend on how much you like her and how promising the signs are, and how much you like the job. If she's amazing, you feel really on the same wavelength and flirt sometimes, and the job is decent enough, give it a shot or you will regret it in the future. If she's just a pretty, cool girl who barely acknowledges your existence and you love the job, don't do it, it's not worth any risk at awkwardness or office drama.
>tfw emotionally distant guy

Is this going to ruin my chances of getting a gf?
Yeah, unless you find an emotionally distant girl

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so my GF is being forced to work at her job on new years eve

she works at a pub and a few weeks ago, she told her manager she could cover the new years eve shift because i was going travel and see my family that day.

plans changed and i'm staying with her on new years eve. we want to spend that day together, so she talked to her manager about not covering the shift, now that manager tells her that she will be fired if she refuses to work that shift.

Now my gf is an amazing employee at her work, bends over backwards to cover shifts other people can't do, i've had the manager singing her praises to me.

the manager offered to have me work there with her that night but we have other plans that neither of us want to miss out on. she didn't sign or write anywhere that she would work that night.

is this treatment seriously allowed from an employer ? is there anything we can do ?

>someone offers to take a shift
>lol changed my mind
>too late, you already agreed

yes. it is legal, it is allowed, it is normal.
She can simply refuse to do it. But her boss knows her how sub she is so he uses that knowledge to his advantage.

She could get "ill" on that day. Flu is very common.
You changed plans, moron. Live up to your word and stop bitching.

Now get the fuck off of adv.
Is she going to be paid extra?

I'd say who cares, NYE is just a day/night like any other, except people make a big deal out of it. I always tried to work it when I could, so I'd get the 2x (2.5x after 6pm) pay. Make some bank and then go away together next weekend or whatever.

The point is, she already said she'd work. It's not like anyone else is going to suddenly volunteer now, are they? Why doesn't your girlfriend ask around? If she can find a replacement, I'm sure the boss would be cool with it.

Also, she is not being "forced". She volunteered (verbally is as binding in this matter as signing or writing) and is now trying to worm out of it. You are shifting the goal posts to make yourselves look the victims, but it is YOU two who are in the wrong here.

Get your shit together and plan better next year. Maybe this will be a lesson about the limits of your girlfriend bending over backwards.

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I was raised in a very sheltered (though not spoiled, and not very happy) childhood.
I was always very obedient, did stellar in school, and worked diligently.
I rarely ever went outside, and I rarely ever got to socialize with people.

On top of another whole host of issues, I feel robbed of a proper childhood and development.

I've noticed however, that I have a lot of characteristics of a natural leader. I'm very intelligent (I'm an undergraduate physics researcher at the top university in my country), I am very intuitively observant, and despite being kept out of sports I've noticed I have a knack for being athletic.

My problem is I've built up so many mental barriers, I don't know how to stretch my muscles. I rebel in small ways, but I still notice I still revert to my passive programming.

I know I was meant to be naturally proactive in life, but I don't know how to exercise my proactive mentality.

Can any of you anons recommend ways in which I can strengthen a proactive personality?

The impetus for this question:

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Buddhism thread.

Buddhism is true redpill

The four noble truths
>Existance is suffering
>Desire is the root of this suffering
>Eventually your suffering will end and turn to Nirvana
>The path to Nirvana is made up of eight steps "the Eightfold path"

The Eightfold path
>Right View
>Right Thought
>Right Speech
>Right Action

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Meditaton is pretty nice, dont even have to be buddhist or religious at all to do it
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>Implying there's something we can universally define as "truth"
>Implying we can communicate it through language
>Existance is suffering
>Desire is the root of this suffering
Yes indeed.

>Eventually your suffering will end and turn to Nirvana
>The path to Nirvana is made up of eight steps "the Eightfold path"
Probably not.
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Secular Buddhisim is the way of the Jedi.
What kind of meditation do you recommend?

>tfw started smoking weed at 16
>tfw bombed first semester of college while doing tons of drugs
>tfw transferred into EECS the following semester and got 2 4.0s in a row, pulling me up to a respectable 3.5
>tfw still feel completely lost, knowing deep down I squandered my abilities
>tfw in upper division EE classes and setting the curve,still feel like an unfulfilled empty brainlet
>tfw rapidly approaching end of undergrad with no internship and no idea what career I want
>tfw staring down the barrel of a life with lost potential and alcoholism

help an anon
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Nigga shut the fuck up.
You're what, 22/23? You're also pulling a great gpa if you actually are setting curves.
You're not "staring down the barrel of a life". You're just a moody faggot.
this. why do these people always think that they're special? successful people went through this shit earlier than you. you're maturing, just at a slower rate.
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anything other than 5.0 is brainlet tier
if you coast by (5 mins studying daily max) with 3.5 then its valid desu
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Why don't you join the fuckin Marines?

I found someone at work that I have really great chemistry with. The problem is, I’m not single and havent been for over 3 years.

How the hell do I get the person out of my head? I feel like wanting them and knowing it is wrong just makes the intrusive thoughts worst. I see them pretty much everyday thanks to work.
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You are stronger than you think you are. You have control and you are strong enough to keep control. Every time an intrusive thought comes into your mind, tell yourself you won't think about that right now and focus on something else.
If you need to, distance yourself from your coworker and keep it professional. If you're bored with your partner, communicate and mix things up in a positive way. Good luck.
Good call on the co-worker thing. I will remind myself of this.
Told him /her you have a boyfriend / girlfriend yet?
Yes, they know.
Does he still flirt with you? Saying compliments and things all the time?
I had someone like that who was really physically attractive and in marriage with kids himself like me.
One day I couldn't take it anymore and told him he needs to stop that because I think he is attractive and cute and it not all right for me to hear this from him. It makes me feel weird.

He stopped and the problem was solved.

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So I need some advice about co parenting.
A little background
I'm a step mom, my husband has full sole custody of his daughter. She's 9 and we have been taking care of her pretty much all her life. her actual mother was not very involved when she was really little and had a lot of her own issues. She hasn't had anything to do with us or contacted us in like 4 years but just recently she tried to contact my husband on social media. I'm so unsure how to handle this and so is my husband. Her infrequent contact and broken promises have hurt our daughters feelings before and it's been so long since she's had anything to do with her... I guess I'm just curious how other people might handle something like this, particularly if you have kids yourself.
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> I'm honestly thinking she might have just been thinking about her because of the holidays and drunk messaged my husband.

You're probably dead right about this. I would ignore it unless she continues to contact you. I'm sorry about the other person in this thread. I can tell you are a great mother and only want what is best for your step-daughter.
Projecting much?
Thank you so much. I try my best to be a good mom, to my step daughter and my other kids to. They are my whole life taking care of them is the most important thing I'll ever do in my life. I would do literally anything for them. I actually gave up going to collage and got a 2nd job to help my husband afford lawyer fees when he first went for custody. I know how worried he was for his daughters safety and when court keep dragging on and coasting more and more money I know it was the right thing to do to help her even if it ment sacrificing my education to make money for it. I would do anything for my kids. If her bio mom is serious and it wasn't just a drunk message thing then I will even put up with her if it was what my sd wanted. I just want her to be happy and safe.
You get some real assholes on this site (see above), but it makes me so glad to know that there are people like you here too. You seem like a smart woman, and so my advice for this situation is to trust your instincts. Ignore the message and try not to let it stress you out. Unless the bio mother has cleaned up her act significantly, she probably won't make much of an effort to get back into contact with her daughter. On the off chance that she does, talk to your step-daughter about it. She is old enough to understand and make the decision of whether or not she wants her birth mother to be a part of her life. If she expresses a desire to have no contact, as she likely will, then you are completely within your rights to ignore the birth mother's wishes. You will not have to fear your daughter's resentment later, as it would be her choice not to see her birth mother.

I'm sorry that you are going through this. I hope that it all works out well and you and your family are able to enjoy the holidays in spite of this added stress.
Thank you so much that is really good advice I think and how I was kind of thinking of handling it too. I am super stressed about it tho, like when my husband showed me the message I almost had a panic attack and started shaking, felt sick to my stomach. It's stupid but I'm kind of scared of this women because of now much pain she's caused for my ad and for our whole family. I'm trying to to get overly upset about it tho because hopefully it was just a whim of hers and won't amount to anything.

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So usually I have come to be a rather self-confident person, however lately I've been rejected quite a lot by girls I went on dates with. I can't help but start to get serious self-doubts, fear of being an unlikeable person, of nobody ever loving me, of growing old alone, etc. In the past I've been able to take rejection without any of this angsty shit coming to my mind. How do I deal with this?

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get anti-anxiety meds


No need to go to that extreme, you can just pop xanax or phenibut for your First or second date

To help you relax. Don't take that stuff every day
>dude drugs lmao
Thanks, but that's not the kind of solution I'm looking for.
Stop being desperate and quit dating at least for a while. Focus on being awesome, begin new hobbies that involve meeting people.

Take a kayaking or skiing class for example. Show up, smile, help others.
Not drugs,

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looks like a good time to me
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Can you imagine if someone found one of those in your house though?

Worse, what about those people that own sex dolls. Just... fucking christ. I would feel less guilty having a real girl tied up in my closet than one of these.
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As opposed to? It beats the alternatives.
I've wanted one of those for a very long time
>I wonder if the head of my cock is going to be sensitive when I do someday try fucking without a condom.

No. We're built for sex and stay nice, wet, warm and comfy all the time. Your first time raw will be the best feeling you'll ever had.

Why do you think all those pregnancy scare thread exist?
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>a real girl

No wonder you feel guilty!

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