How do you deal with depressive episodes
I cut myself of course!No… i usually just try and meet new people during them so i can get over it by talking/distracting myself
>>34078841I just suffer
Why is “just ignore bullies” mostly bullshit advice? It doesn’t seem to effect them
>>34074746There’s no good advice for bullies because they’re relentless and they know your weak spot.All you can do is try to ignore them and hope they get bored and their wounds didn’t cut too deep. Hopefully they go on to live shitty lives as some sort of karmic retribution. I occasionally check in on the people that bullied me when I was young. Most of them turned out poorly, which makes me feel better.
>>34076134If their lives are poorly why are some of them still happy still behaving like bullies
>>34076116High iq comment listen to this op
>>34076116Great advice.
>>34076562One of my bullies killed himself. Another one is a serial violent criminal. Another one is just a complete loser fuckup that accomplished nothing.One of my other bullies okay and living a normal life. I ran into him a few years ago and he acted like we were best friends growing up, didn’t remember the bullying. Such is life.So to answer your question, I’m not sure they are happy people. Some of them are, maybe like the popular type bullies, and they go on to live successful lives. But I also find they’re also the least likely to relentlessly torment you. If you ignore them they get bored easily and move onto something else. The ones that relentlessly bother you for no reason are the ones that go on to be total fuckups and are bullying you simply because you’re available and they need a channel for their evil shittiness.
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>>34080070Yet...
>>34080074i think you need to discover grass
>>34080077the shameless samefaggotry on display here is making me cringe
>>34080076I guess weed?It's not that much free stuff unless you're trying to be a sugar baby or are shitty and don't also get him gifts.
>>34080080Men once again not beating the sleazebag allegations
There's a group of friends I found within church. Initially I liked them, and decided to "join" them. However, it's been a year, and I'm getting thoughts about leaving the group due to them not being the best "fit" for me. I always feel anxious and dread before hanging out with them, but I do feel better after we hangout.Why do I feel anxious to hang out with people? Shouldn't it be something I look forward to?
>>34078937I think it's just performance anxiety and you're sabotaging because you're afraid of failure. Usually problems aren't this straight forward.
when trying to make girl friends on the internet (i'm f as well and not a tranny ok) i always feel like i'm the more desperate one and they always act colder than me. should i just give up and search for the needle in the haystack that is an internet male friend who isn't a simp/just wants to be friends? i'm into good vidya and i just want friends.
Why would anyone want to be friends with you? Stay where you are, where people are kind of like you. The world will hurt you a lot if you don't. Take it from m
>>34077669because everyone has friends, people who are better and those who are worse than me. everyone but me.
>>34077627You're better off meeting real people at a club or social thing like college and playing games with themDon't befriend anyone from this thread either they will just be a simp
>>34077677>i'm into good vidya and i just want friends.what vidya are we talking about?>everyone but me.is a suboptimal mindset. i have no friends, for example. but im also a rather different character and born in the wrong century. also if you are strong yourself, you dont need friends. are you strong? and i dont mean strong physically dummyall my former friends took the clot shot and i didnt. if i did it like them, id be mentally done for this spin of the wheel or worse, deadyou should not look at others, but look at yourself. better yourself, make yourself better, capable. if you are better, people will see or feel that and try to be your friend instead/search contact w you.>just wants to be friends>over the internetyou should find ppl irl. actual friends are made irl.contacts, are made online.
It would be nice to have a friend to vidja with. I'm down if you want to chillDis is Ravencordance
What's it called when someone touches you casually/randomly, and you have a lingering uncomfortable feeling in that spot for a while, like you're hyper-aware of the spot they touched? Like a phantom sensation i guess... I'm trying to gauge how normal it is. Someone touched my hand over an hour ago, and I'm still like "ick, get it off me".It's not a germ thing at all. Although i do get a very strong urge to wash the part of my body they touched when this happens. It's literally just fucking cooties, I can't explain. I'm still annoyed by this an hour later, and it still feels like they just touched my skin a minute ago. How common is this shit??
i am my scares!
Have you ever considered you just dont like them
If I had a penny for every time a woman complained about a guy who did not come off as gay, I'd be richer than Elon Musk.
>>34077867I know what you mean but idk.
Hypervigilance
>35>NEET for basically entire life>no high school or college education>dropped out of school in 9th grade>never worked>have left house maybe 6times in past 15 years>0 social skills>obese >never had a face to face interaction with someone my own age throughout my teens and 20s>ginger>never had a job>can't drive>never had friends>KHHV>parents are broke so I won't inherit anythingComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
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>>34075711>>34073419hey op are you real?
>>34078902Why wouldn't I be real
>>34078310heres the op samefagging her shitty b8 thread
>>34078930why are you uploading the same thread repeatedly and not doing anything?
Moved out, went no contact, but they found my address, now what?
>>34078373You are an asshole. Neat.
>>34078373Restraining order
>>34078373Guns
>>34078373Now what!
Should I really revisit my family ? >be me >argue with family >leave >holidays >emotional guilt >whatdo.pngI wrote them off a long time ago but could I net NEETDOM through it ?
>toxic?yes >NEETDOMI could leverage the guilt trip, if I'm not too bothered to and become a NEET for the holidays.
>>34078113you realize NEET means Not in Education, Employment, or Training, right?It connotes one who is either coasting on disability or unemployment benefits, or living in your mom's basement playing vidya for 16 hours a day and usually with a diet that comes out of bags, boxes or cans.What do you MEAN?
>>34078155Meaning I can quit trying.As I am doing all of those things currently. I am in all aspects doing all of them at all times. Should I let go of the wheel and cave in to the demands of an annoying fucking family ?!
>>34078163Ok, so you just meant stay at home..You have your own place?How long have you been on "outs" with them?Yes, you can quit trying.You can go full no contact, provided that you aren't being supported by them in any way.What you need to determine is, will what you got/get from them, ALL the good AND bad, outweigh the good it may do you if you never saw them again.Would you care if they all died in a fiery car crash?Would you shed a tear, or be relieved?Keep in mind, if you are just doing it out of selfish spitefulness, that's a far different thing than doing it for your well-being.
>>34078003I wouldn't if you already made it this far, picking a scab like this is worse than being alone even if the jolly visit stays jolly. NEETDOM in situations like these shouldn't even rhyme with the word freedom
Where did you guys find your degenerate perverted sicko girlfriends? I've been on here for years trying to find one with no luck.Skill issue?
>>34076462I dont know. FOSTA kinda fucked that scheme shortly after I met the love of my life so it was truly the end of an era. If I had to start over again in 2025 I'd probably just try my luck on Tinder or Fetlife.
>>34077227>FOSTAThe fuck is that? Anyway, I just checked craiglist and they don't have a personals section. Fuck.
>>34077765>The fuck is that?Bureaucratically tragic moment of hubrishttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FOSTA-SESTA
I found my degenerate sicko gf at a party in law school. We started chatting, flirting a bit, I complimented her piercings, she asked if I wanted to see the rest of them. I went home with her an hour later after making out a bit, we got high and had some rough, unprotected sex (as a more mature person who is a little better about Sex And Communication and Safety these days this kinda makes me cringe, this is not how I would do any of this today, but it was undeniably very hot). Anyways, in the afterglow and over a second joint we started talking about kinky shit. Over the next year we built a relationship partially on the foundation of being able to be honest about our fucked up desires together. It did not last in part because she was horribly traumatized, bipolar, and neither of us was super emotionally equipped to work through that as a couple.Today I'm married to a woman who is not a degenerate but who loves me, wants me to feel good, and despite being mostly vanilla herself is very willing to play and experiment with stuff in bed. That's decidedly Above Median in my experience and I feel pretty lucky to have found a life partner with that attitude.
>>34077787Oh shit... Guess I missed that fucking boat huh... Fuck
I recently got back into the dating scene after being single for about a year now. Its been a couple of days am im getting some matches here and there, about what i expected. But man am i bad at flirting, i dont really know how to text playfully or segway the convo into securing a date. Any things i should read or any other ways i can practice? I know "just do it" is the best way to learn but id appreciate some tips.
>>34078277>Any things i should read or any other ways i can practice?https://the-real-chad-move.com/ Texting is a game you can't really win. Play it as little as possible.
Per suggestions from my Friends and most recently my therapist, I am trying out dating apps again and I have a few questions.1) I'm getting quite a few matches, and even replies from attractive women. They will go from posting paragraphs to suddenly no reply at all. I assume their attention has been pulled elsewhere by another guy? Is it even worth trying to message them again to try and get their attention back? I assume not.2) I've been on two dates with two women.>First one was great, and I think we'll actually stay friends but not date. Lotta great conversation.>Second one was really great and this woman has been flirting with me up until the date.After the date, she keeps talking to me, but has significantly cut back on conversations, doesn't bombard me with memes on instagram anymore. And by all accounts seems uninterested. But she keeps texting me? I've asked her out on a second date, and she just keeps dodging it and making up excuses to not go. So clearly she isn't interested, but she keeps texting me out of the blue.So that's my first question. Why is she doing this? Just keeping me in her back pocket just in case her prime candidates don't work out? I'm not upset at this either way. I'm doing the same thing, but should I just block her then? I told her to just let me know when you're available to hang out again and left it at that.Second broader question is, I have had multiple women tell me they're not interested but that I am "such a catch". How does that even work? Is it just them being nice? If I was such a catch, wouldn't you want to go out with me?
>>34073221>>34077181OP here. Surprised this thread is still going. I’ve since ended contact with all of these confusing women and just blocked them and deleted Hinge. I’ll be speaking to my therapist about it later. I was already in the process of winding down therapy as I don’t think I need it anymore. Finding connection is something that everyone is struggling with these days. And dating apps are clearly not the way for me to meet people if I’m not just trying to get my dick wet. I’ve been avoiding the apps for years while I try to go out in public and socialize and join groups/clubs/events. And what I’ve learned is the best way to make friends is consistently showing up to the same events week after week. So I’m going to try something like that. Maybe take a night class, or join a run club.
>>34078132>best way to make friends is consistently showing up to the same events week after week.>So I’m going to try something like that. Maybe take a night class, or join a run club.Make sure it's something you actually like doing
>>34078132Fucking based OP, proud of you. You took control of your own life and decided what you don’t want. That’s just as useful as knowing what you do want. Well done.
>>34078184Any suggestions for me? I have a dog and a cat, so I've been mostly talking and meeting people on the walking trails and dog parks. I've tried Volleyball, Flag football, and I don't like sports it seems.Got any hobbies/club things I should try as someone that works 40 hours, and lifts weights 5 days a week? I've looked at climbing, but the closest gym is 30 mins away so I can't guarantee I'll keep going. Outside of that, I am pretty introverted so movies, games, and tv have been my thing, plus a few breweries. I was thinking of just going to a brewery/bar and reading/trivia nights.
>>34072976You're probably ugly or autistic or have a glaring personal error you're not aware of, like a gay voice.
How do you know if a female is able to be trusted
>>34076146this girl's ig is just full of engagement bait. I wonder why she does it and how she's monetizing it
>>34076146I want a real foid to try to answer this honestly
>>34076655You can still get aids.
>>34076146>How do you know if a female is able to be trustedFaith combined with her past behaviour and your judge of character.
>>34076655
I do it for hours on end every single day. I'll play some emotion-inducing music in my earphones, pace up and down my room or fix my eyes on a random photo and then just fantasize.Situations I'll never be in, women who'd never look my way, friends that don't exist... How do I stop this and the better question - should I? I have nothing and no one in my real life; why go back?And no, it wasn't always like this, I genuinely tried in life, just nothing came of it.
>>34077728I wasted 17 years of my life doing this. I don't know how to stop.
i have only a single friend in my life that texted or called me or tried to get anything going firstif i stopped initiating interactions with everyone i know right now we would literally never speak againis this normal or am i autistic?
>is this normal.It for you.
>>34077111unga?
>>34077040>is this normalAre you a guy? Then yes.Are you a woman? Then no.>am i autisticIf you're a guy then probably. Men don't worry about piddly shit like this.
>>34077040>is this normal?It's normal. As my best friend's dad put it (BF's dad was great at funny rants) there are 2 kinds of people - the ones on the blower (boomer slang for telephone) making plans and the ones answering the phone. He told me this in the 80s, talking about his on experience in the 50s.It's probably gotten worse now that everyone is happy to just sit glued to their smartphone all night.
>>34077040If male, normalIf female, not normal, you're probably just a filler friend
