i caught my gf of 4 years whom I lived with cheating about 3 months ago. she has since moved out as of last month but she still stops by to see our cat and pick up some of her things that are still in my apartment. Anyways, I keep having visions of the life I had planned out for us (kids, marriage, etc.) and I have this feeling of forgiving her and starting over. I think a lot of this stems from me wanting to save her, our whole relationship has been me trying to fix her, so to speak. supporting her when she didnt have a job, helping in so many ways i could write all day about. I hate seeing her so sad. Getting back together with her would certainly make her happy, and I think it would make me happy too. I liked making her happy, and while she broke my heart i dont hate her for it. its hard to hold onto hate in this situation.So, have you ever forgiven someone who cheated on you? were you able to work things out? her dad cheated on her mom when she was young, and while her mom almost left she decided to stay. I remember her telling me she believed, that no matter how many partners you try to have a meaningful relationship with, you'll always have the same problems to deal with, or something to that nature. So is it worth it to work with the one you currently love, or roll the dice and find someone new? also she's lost a ton of weight and looks super good, its not fair lol
>>34456116a part of me will always love her. she's not in a permanent living situation, so i cant just give her cat back and all her other belongings quite yet but eventually, i hope. this thread has done a good job convincing me not to try things over again at the very least, but part of me will still care about her>>34456169i think if we were breaking up on mutual terms but she clearly still wants me so sex will just send a message that i still want to be with her. it would be cool if sex was just the physical pee pee hole bang bang walla walla ding dang
>>34455471Lmao why even make this thread?You just want someone to tell you "go for it bro she loves you this is a good idea"Okay. Go for it bro. She loves you. This is a good idea.Feel better?
My bf caught me cheating before and basically laid down that if he ever caught me doing it again we'd be fucking over, and graciously "believed" my excuses. He didn't call me names just stoically looked at me like he didn't recognize his woman anymore. It made me realize what I needed to prioritize. My guilt was too high anyways I was hardly enjoying it. I realized I needed a life with him more than variety. If you want to make it work with her than have a convo like that. I don't mean that you have to be paternalistic but have self respect. You are choosing to give her another chance because you as a man decided you want her in your life enough to give her grace, don't let her twist it
>>34457209so are you still together? is everything going well or is there still lingering resentment or tensions?
>>34455428Make a contract with her. Also make sure she pays for everything.
How can I find a woman like Elvira?
Women like this do exist and they paint themselves as the odd duck, but they're very cheery and high spirited while working the strangest jobs. Good lucking finding them though because I see them only once every other year.Most you can do is target gothrock bands and their ilk and go to their concerts, but they won't be like the woman I just described and will probably want something.
>>34456502Like Elvira in what way? Goth? Big boobies?
>>34456749Really bad actress?
>>34456502>How do I find someone who was in costume for television in real life?Lol
>>34456749Ideally both, honestly
I'm 26 years all and all I want out of life is to have sex with a woman with huge boobs. Hiring a prostitute would defeat the whole purpose because I want to be worthy enough for a big breasted womanThe thing of course; I'm really bald, skinny and ugly so my chances are not highAn I too old? Should I give up on hope?
>>34456705You'll never be worthy so long as you cling onto a notion that you have to pass a certain worthiness threshold to fuck a saggy tit hoe
>>34456705Women are born with big tits they don't earn it.
>>34456705this thread is dumb and you're probably the same retard that keeps posting her here but I'm gonna indulge you for a bitHave you had sex before?
>>34456705fuck a fat 50 year old with big tits. You're a loser but will still be the pretty one. Problem solved.
>>34457064I did have sex before, yes. With 3 different girls. All unattractive as well, except one of them. All flat
I am desperate an sometimes I meet a woman (federal agent) who looks like she has down syndrome or is overweight or retardedThese are my 3 deal breakersFatRetardedFat and retardedCan I remain friend with fat retards, or would it be best to cut them off completely?HOW ARE SO MANY PEOPLE FAT
>>34457201>Fat
Hello, this is rather embarrassing to admit. But lately I've been trying to confront my flaws and move forward in life, as I'm in my early 20s and don't want to be plagued with guilt and shame for the rest of my life.Back in 2020, during the peak of the BLM movement, I became rather politically active in terms of turning into a racist little shit, and with that racist little shitness came a guilty pleasure in watching interracial porn. This has become a curse, as now my OCD has become truly terrible these days, and I am haunted by these memories. I have a hard time listening to rap music I used to enjoy without thinking of the porn, and being around black people in public, as all it does is make me anxious and sends groinial responses. It's really embarrassing to admit, and sometimes I contemplate maybe just ending my life because it's become such an issue these days.
>>34441655NTA, but how do you let those thoughts pass over.I am trying to cut down on fapping, but when I get bored or stressed I start thinking about porn and I feel like I cannot focus until I gain some post nut clarity. afterwards, however, I traded clarity for low energy. I am not getting anything done. How do I focus on something else to let the porn thoughts pass. Any helpful techniques?
>>34444134love me some bpb
>>34452013Try not to react to them. Let them pass, you’ll feel it, but don’t try to unravel it.
>>34452803aka erp for ocd
>>34452023Whats your fave video by them?It's my go-to
>Matched with this girl from tinder, talked and joked a bit. >Got a good back and forth going.>asked for her number. Got it>make plans to hang out together on Wednesday night for drinks>it is now Wednesday>I no longer feel like going out>I have to get dressed and drive 20 miles away to pick her up>find a bar, pay for her overpriced drinks and mine too>I dont even like drinking because of hangovers and its a giant waste of money>have to tip 20 percent to bartender for both our over priced drinks> I have to pick her up, drop her off, entertain her, listen to her stories, pay for her tan>all for the chance, just simply the chance to maybe get a kiss or a thank you and a second date to do it all over again>I dont even feel like going out tonight>but if I cancel or reschedule 99 percent chance I will offend her and she will lose interest or move on to the next beta in line. And trust me there are hundreds waiting for my place in it.>I feel like I am my own worst enemy.> I already did the hard part of finding a match, getting a number, and securing a dateComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34455889>I already did the hard part of finding a match, getting a number, and securing a dateWhat are you talking about? That is the easy part.
>>34455889Do a date that doesn't involve spending money. Go to a park, walk the beach, actually get to know her.Will she dislike that? Will she be upset that you aren't spending money on her? Yes? Good. Drop her. You don't need low quality gold diggers in your life. Like, really ask yourself this: do you want to be with a woman who will get mad at you and lose interest in you if you aren't showering her with gifts?
>>34455940>OP's gut instinct is telling him this.he doesn't know it yet, might me autosabotage due to childhood wounds
>>34455889Bars also serve coca cola for non drinkers and you driving is a responsible excuse to not drink
>>34455919fpbp
>$300 in checking account>$30 in savings>$20,000.00 in 401kShould I withdraw? I don't really have an emergency but I'd like to move out of my parent's home. I know I'll be taxed to hell and back but it's been pay check to paycheck for years
>>34454327club goers are 18-22there's a huge difference in those 3-4 years
>>34452236I'm glad i'm out of this late twenties phase where you're not even 30 but you think you're old. That's such a retarded thing society makes us believe.
Bump
>>34454525>club goers are 18-22>there's a huge difference in those 3-4 yearsGood news. Not only are you wrong, you are also retarded
>>34452236>Should I withdraw?No. Early withdrawal for a 401k gets reported on your taxes for that year as 100% income.It's generally a really big mistake to draw from a 401k early for this reason.>$20k in 401kThat's chump change. Just leave it in there.>it's been pay check to paycheck for yearsHow would the added expenses of living on your own improve that? Is moving out of your parents' home somehow paired to also making MORE money to afford it?
My cousin is 20 and claims he is sexually attracted to pre-pubescent children and he argues that its because of his hentai addiction, because before 16 he never felt attracted to children or even girls his age, he only felt attracted to adult women.He says he wants to stop feeling attracted to children. He says he wants to stop masturbating or looking at any type of hentai or porn and see if it changes anything, but he's scared that it won't. I told him to get therapy but he's afraid that his parents will find out.So is it a good idea for him to get therapy? Would abstaining from masturbation and porn be a better solution?
There should be some attempt to correct the problem, but going to far means that you aren't coming back, and bashing the candle to CP may be the final stop before rape occurs.
>>34456122https://www.stopitnow.org/
>>34456122Tell him to take finasteride, it will kill his sexuality.
>>34456122Either you sex a female and produce children, or you don't. This whole free time to play with your genitals for extended periods of time is a very modern invention that can be remedied by simply having not a whole lot of time to play with your genitals. By you know, doing something constructive with your time and building something that endures and doesn't dissipate in 25 minutes of building up with your very muscular right hand and arm.
>>34456122>So is it a good idea for him to get therapy? Would abstaining from masturbation and porn be a better solution?Both of those things are essential. (Actually giving up porn may not be necessary, but he needs to be very strict about it only containing adult women); he needs to quit the stuff he's looking at now).
heya /adv/ I know there's a lot of men on 4chan so I'm coming here for some help. I was wondering... what would a girl have to do to successfully hookup with u? and no I don't want to wear makeup it's waay too expensiveidk what to do when I approach a guy and I wanna make sure they don't try to go further for a relationship or anything. just want a one night stand thing. but I also wanna make sure they don't like, have an std. I'm an introvert sooo I really need help with this. what should my lines be? should I make a script or anything? rly sry if that's a dumb question but as u can prob tell Im cluelessss T~T
>>34455691feel gross afterwards?? why??>>34454111okey but um.. if not 4chan where tho>>34455108rly??? but like i have NO. experience. at all. omg the most I could do is literally just lay there like it's THAT bad
>>34454360How do you know that anon is a woman
>>34456086If you're just looking for tips on how to make a man cum I'd say try to start with foreplay like a blowjob, then go to vaginal sex.
>>34454360I'm a guy, but whatever helps you sleep at night.
>>34456086>omg the most I could do is literally just lay there like it's THAT badIn which case, one-off casual sex is not what you should be aiming for. At least find a guy who's patient and sympathetic and willing to teach you what to do. I did that for a virgin FWB some years ago - she was very grateful! (And rather sweet).
Please /adv/. Please. Please. >at work>have a qt coworker 21f>no pretense. Tell her straight up I have a crush on her>she married young (he's 26m like me) but still wants to be friends>typical simpery ensues>husband yells at her I'm there to wipe to tears>she needs money for gas I'm the ATM>not allowed to talk to her outside of work because of husband. >constantly flirting at workI'm sorry I know I'm rambling. Point is she knows I have feelings for her but I'm the only one who talks to her. She let me hug her and we go on walks away from the group and she even let me use a photo of her as my wallpaper>fast forward she tells me her husband went off the deep end and she's done>dare I hope?>she says he's filing for divorce>dare I dream?Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>34455530>>34455538Stop torturing yourself man, just leave her be and move on. Don't ever pay her mind that way again. Put this whole thing behind you, and don't look back.
>>34447905>Please. I can't fuck this up. How do I proceed?If you think she'd cheat on him for you, why wouldn't she cheat on you for another man?Is it because she's hot or something? Get over it. Find someone who appreciates you as a person, not you as a wallet.
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>>34452347>>34452675>She said its going to be months and months before she's ready to date>OP here. She chose her husband over me. I want to die.You told her you liked her, got rejected, simped for her, asked her while she's getting abused when she'll be ready to date, then sent her a fucking goodmorning text after she asked for space?Put your dick in your pants and man the fuck up.You are an embarrassment. Get another job or ignore her entirely from now on.
>>34447905Do not confess. Don't give her time or care like that unless you wanna be just friends. When you give and give you get taken for granted.
How can I stop being attracted to my mom?
>>34451086You're not attracted to your mother. The human body has a mechanism specifically to prevent that. You're just a gooner that gets off on breaking sexual taboos. The solution is just to stop gooning. To stop gooning simply stop using any social media and tell your parents whenever you goon. I have started confessing to my parents whenever I goon and it has helped me cut down on it a lot.
>>34456351that would fuel the fetish more you retard
>>34456351>The human body has a mechanism specifically to prevent that. Like a magical forcefield that prevents a benis in the bagina?Can it be turned off like with Chris-chan?
>>34456351That mechanism can be broken down. There's a mechanism that prevents you from spontaneously murdering someone but if that gets worn down you become capable. All that needs to happen is the mind just needs a bit of a push or one thousand stressors to send it into survival mode. There doesn't even need to be an apocalyptic environment or anything severe, just enough psychological abuse over years or decades does the same trick
You can't
How the fuck are you supposed to get literally any job here in Canada today? Ay leafanons who've gotten hired recently please lend me your tips. God bless you all
>>34453806Then you're probably okay. I would advertise the client facing stuff on your resume
>>34453750Walk to nearest McDonalds. Fill out form.
>>34453716There is literally tons of jobs in Canada rn
>>34454431nice bait bro
Good morning sirs I will do the job instead
How do I find a woman that will let me keep my dick inside of her after I bust?
All women do this.
>>34456801All women do this. And if the one you find doesn't, just filibuster that shit. After climax just start asking her random questions about the state of affairs in foreign countries and keep doing that to let time pass by itself. Look her in the eye as you do this.
>>34456801Just find a woman.
We fought infertility for like 7 years before my wife eventually had her tubes removed. Pie every day
Women that let your flaccid dick grow hard in their mouth, pussy, and ass are sexual goddesses sent by the divine mother.
>be me>24 years old warehouse wagie>go to work>go to gym after (hit 2 plate bench milestone a while ago)>come home, meditate, read, maybe play some free emulated vidya,>eat clean, cooking>go to sleep>no friends, no online friends, no girlfriend, no socializing, no unnecessary spending, no parties, no drugs/alcohol, no fastfood/junk, nothing>been doing this for 3.5 years>6 more years to go, started posting this 2 years ago>have 130k saved up, 100k of that investedStill alive and kicking boys. Gunning for retirement at 40. You guys got any advice for that? God bless.
All useless when the currency becomes worth zero. Go build a wind mill or a water purifier or some shit that you'll actually use
>>34456901Try to meditate for 2 hours everyday.
>live at home with mom and brother>sister moves back home after years renting, broke and no job>6'8 footballer boyfriend suddenly is over every thursday after practice>im the next bedroom over>have to listen to them fuck every week for the foreseeable future>on top of this she mooches off everyone, is messy as fuck and eats all my foodwat do, this is the ultimate humiliation ritual and any serious man would not live like this
>>34456737>live at homeThis is where you fucked up. You're a grown-assed man, act like one and move out into your own place.
>>34456737Find a woman to have sex with and have sex with her.
>>34456864what the fuck are you saying
>>34456737She stole your food, privacy and dignityYou must steal something from her to get even: fuck her boyfriend
>>34456865Have sex with a woman in order to get your revenge.
