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how to cure my autogynephilia
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>>30925801
>women don’t find anything attractive
Is that what you tell yourself to cope with not getting laid?
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>>30925801
They find me attractive :)
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>>30925611
First step is to stop consooming porn. Amsr, hypno, audio porn, fanfictions, ect, all count.
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>>30926220
consuming as ij masturbating to it?
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>>30925611
become trans

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What's the best way to deal with a breakup when that person was petty much your best and only friend too? What the fuck am I supposed to do now?
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Make new friends. Be social. Duh.
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>>30926225
Are you american? If so move to the east coast.
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>>30926568
>east coast
why the east coast

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What career path is there for someone who dislikes talking a lot, and likes art?

Ive always wanted to be a lead game designer, but landing that job and being successful is kinda hard, especially for an introvert. I was thinking on being an engineer, but Ive realized that would take too much responibility from my part, and I really wouldnt care all that much.

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>live in rural area
>be out
>every blue moon in a situation where I'll chat up a girl
>ask if she has boyfriend
>yep.jpg
>get on tinder
>works for 3 days, fucked by algorithm and paywall, girls ghost, are too far away, or I'm not interested (whales and creatures)
>get on bumble
>match with a baddie
>never messages me
>match disappears
>get on hinge
>100 carbon copies of the same profile x 1000
>get on Facebook dating
>no premium bullshit, no paywalls

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I am trying facebook dating too lol. And yea similar result honestly my theory is that antisocial people don't want to be alone but are also scare so they tend to go to apps or website where they can be hidden and not show much public information. I am keeping a open mind and trying other options to look for matches. God speed to you anon and may the god of love bless us with a good wife.

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previous >>30923771
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>>30928195
>Feeling hopeless
This is just the average modern human experience.
>mourning dreams you might never achieve
See above.
>not living up to the expectations of your family
Personally I don't give a fuck they laughed at my dreams, fuck them.
>not living up to the expectations of the opposite gender
I'm ugly so no matter what I do with my life women will always see me as human garbage, I can become a surgeon and they'd go "Wow bro nice peacock feathering, trying to get a gold digger to date you, you fucking pig?"
>not living up to the expectations of society
Could not care less about all those clowns.
>>not living up to your own expectations
I accepted long ago I was never ever going to be good enough.
>having to work full time for decades
I wish I had a job fuck off.
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>>30928191
Sexuality has never been anything but an energy drain and a cause for dissatisfaction. So I'm afraid I can't answer your question properly, sorry.
What I can say, though, is that if my dick was genuinely thin or short then it would be easier to come to terms with loneliness, but I know for a fact that there would be someone out there who would feel good with it. I just won't find her anytime soon.
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>>30928195
>>30928197
Thank you for the detailed answers. Very insightful.
>>30928196
Hm, is that so?
>>30928198
Do you feel like it is an energy drain no matter what or do you feel like it could also be a source of energy with the right person under the right circumstances?
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>>30928164
in what ways hasnt he?
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>>30928164
Yeah, i mean, we all have to unlearn the conditioning to conform and obey. I feel like as a kid you either comply or become an asshole since there is no room really to develop a healthy sense of self in the way society works rn.

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Why psichology is not taked seriously as it should be?
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>>30920691
We don't take you seriously, either, ESL
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>>30920691
It's not an actual science and it doesn't actually take 2+ years to study and understand in depth
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>>30924068
:c
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>>30922444
I was thinking I should read this faggot before I die. I’m slow. Is it a waste?
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>>30925151
If i tell you the truth i will be banned for antisemitism.

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I’m in my early ‘20s & live with my parents & sister, who’s a couple years younger than me. My sister gets stressed out at work a lot & seems to like taking it out on me, talking down to me like I’m a child, ordering me to do petty tasks & expecting me to run errands for her at the drop of at a hat. Obviously, I can refuse, but then she’ll get angry, we’ll argue, she’ll eventually start screeching at the top of her voice, maybe even try to provoke a physical fight & my ageing parents will suffer for it. My dad tells me to not to provoke her as she’s been diagnosed with a mental illness, but I’m tired of giving in. What can I do to assert myself without escalating things?
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>>30924409
P.S.

Personally I'd also throw in "Limitless" with Bradley Cooper - an awesome movie.

I mean like ideally, you'd do none of this and just leverage arguments with her psychologically/with intimidation but that is not an option in your situation. You are not her babysitter so you are not obliged to educate her. But in this case, you quite literally have to do this.

You do not have the right to oppose your sister if she is mentally sick since she can't handle emotional aggression properly.

So all you can do is to elevate her psychologically.
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>>30924296
P.S. And yeah, you have to actually get her to talk to you, which means establishing a dialogue discourse with her.

But you're siblings so this should be fairly easy.
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>>30924296
P.S.
Give her these "lectures" in careful and steady dosages.

And in the case where she vaguely appeals to something like "I don't care about this nerdy crap" you can gently deflect by saying something along the lines of "the fundamental values of humanity's millenial experience are infinitely more valuable than degrading reddit culture that leads to mental illness"...(this would make for a nice subtle roast but don't overdo do it by being too mean).

But of course you have to pull it off with an intimidating presence without being too wordy one step at a time or leaning into cringe territory.

It's a very thin line but it's doable.

Ultimately it'd be a good long term solution and a virtuous one at that - having a good familial bond with your sister by blood is a noble goal worth striving for.
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>>30924296
>My dad tells me to not to provoke her as she’s been diagnosed with a mental illness, but I’m tired of giving in. What can I do to assert myself without escalating things?
Useless dad. Many such cases. This is a household problem, not something that you can solve on your own. If she bothers you, just ignore her or tell her that if she continues to act like this, you're done with her. You can also move away, if possible.
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>>30925289
And why is my advice above^^^ about educating the sister not suitable?

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Last week, I started an extreme fast. The gist of it is that I had my father lock me in the basement.

The plan is that twice a week he opens the door and hands me a box of dominos pizza, but that's all I get to eat. Even the dogs are eating better than me.

I drink water out the sink. There are no windows. I just have a computer and internet and a bathroom, and an old ass bed.

Yesterday I began to panic. I begged and begged him to open the door and let me drive to wendy's. I shouted for over an hour, I promised I would just get a spicy chicken sandwich and not eat anything else.

After a while he answered that he's heard it all before, and I better shut up. All I think about everyday is that pizza I get twice a week. I just want some advice about strategies how to get through this.

It is constant suffering but I really have to lose 100 pounds to have any kind of chance of a regular life.
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>>30923902
That's incredible.
Keep us updated. I'm keeping a tab permanently locked on this thread.
Best of luck.
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>>30925569
yes this
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>>30926183
I am excited now because it is only one day till I get my pizza on wednesday. It is a lot of suffering but at some points, the sky clears and I feel like I am doing the best possible thing that I can do. I know that if I keep doing this, I'll lose all the weight. I'll be a regular person again. That makes the suffering worth it.
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>>30926557
You will never be able to keep the weight off if you still want goyslop that badly.

Do the refeeds with salad/keto like that other anon was saying.

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I usually take a 10mg AdderaII pill at 9am, and another at 1pm to carry me through until 5pm.
Lately I've been having to study extra, is it bad if I take another 10mg at 6pm?
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>>30926305
Helpppp please
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>>30926405
>>30926305
Screw it I took 0.50mg of Xanax, I'm going to bed.
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>>30926305
what? i take them whenever i feel like lol.

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I started renting a room in a house with other guys and I can't jack off. Any other coomers ever experience this?
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>>30926288
Nah I have roommates and I don't care if they hear me jacking off
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AAAAA I CAN'T PISS

I've been on a few dates with a girl, and she abruptly stopped talking to me.
I didn't mind much, so I started seeing other women. I just assumed she lost interest or something and moved on.
A few days ago, she sent a text and said she's been on a "social decline" and was gonna get back to me at some point this week.
I'm going out with another woman now, but I feel like it isn't going anywhere and I've been debating breaking up with her.
What should I do, anons?
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>>30925557
yea, i guess but girl 2 has a kid, and she didnt tell me about it until today so im not so sure lol
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>>30925567
Well that's some bullshit too. Girl 2 is no longer superior.
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>>30925495
Like others anons already said: date both because i can make sure that you are not the only man both girls are dating and talking to.
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>>30925495
Communication is the relationship

Good job for moving on

>thinking about dumping new girl for girl that ghosted you

That is stupid
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>>30925529
dating multiple partners until you're exclusive with one is not bigamy and was accepted even in the 1950s, Archie constantly dating Betty and Veronica, etc.

Only modern psychotic Internet users see something wrong with it

what does it mean when your parent complains about very random or inconsequential things about you?

for example

>be in bathroom brushing teeth
>dad brought a really large pizza from work (i'm the only one in the house that eats pizza) last night at like 12-1 AM
>go down, eat two slices, call it a night since i already had dinner
>haven't eaten yet today and still feel full from last night
>overhear mom in the kitchen
"SUCH A HUGE PIZZA HE (my dad) BOUGHT, WHY DOESN'T HE (me) EAT ANY???!!" in an angry voice (different language, not english so grammar is different)

I'm thinking wtf, am I supposed to eat this entire 1600 calorie pizza I didn't even ask for by myself that I only got like last night? Am I a terrible person or something for not eating a pizza?

Not to mention this is the only kind of thing she ever complains about. It'll be random as fuck, like things like me turning all the lights off downstairs at night (to save energy) and then not leaving one on "BECAUSE I CANT SEE AND ITS SCARY" or some shit like that. This is the kind of thing that's gonna guarantee me going no contact with you when I move out.
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>>30924856
honestly you should go no-contact because it will give you time to understand how your parents are set in their ways and it's your duty as a child to forgive them for being retarded
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>>30924866
The problem is I can't go no contact with my dad because he's completely tech illiterate and I need to help him with everything regarding things like emails and excel sheets related to his business, as well as signing every single digital form. They straight up can't do any of that themselves
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>>30924856
There's nothing wrong with you, this is just the classic blue collar, non-Western household experience. A pizza can always be put in the refrigerator and eaten later anyway.
>This is the kind of thing that's gonna guarantee me going no contact with you when I move out.
Yeah that sounds about right.
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>>30924856
Your dad bought a whole pizza just for you? You should thanks to your dad. You should thank him and explain to him why you only ate 2 slices, literally exactly the same you posted here.
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that's called a mom OP

you dense fuck

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I've been seeing yt vids about catching discord predators by pretending to be a girl, not sure which servers to search in tho. Does anyone know of servers where its easy to find pervs?
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>>30925876
> get creepy photos somehow (in minecraft)
what’s the point of catching predators if you will end up using CP anyway?
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>>30924594
Search servers for "roleplay", "meme", "memes".
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>>30924665
Tranny servers are 18+ by requirement.
Still tons of predators exploiting the vulnerable, but it's legal.
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>>30926130
I didn't say CP, just creepy shots. Like a mirror but selfie or whatever kids post these days. Usually that should entice an unfortunate, mentally wrung pervert enough to believe he is talking to a kid. He'll do half the convincing himself for you, just to feel a tad closer to his fantasy.
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>>30924594
People who do this are usually creeps themselves.

Recently I've been wanting to create videos. This isn't the first time. I've used a couple of editing software and made a handful of videos. This time however, I wanna use my voice. Problem is, I have difficult time speaking.

If I had to describe my speech pattern recently, it's mostly stuttering, buffering and sentence sequencing. This issue has been a thing all my life. Didn't help that I was a timid quiet child for most of my kid/teen years out of fear. It's only as of late 2022 that I put myself into a position to have daily conversations. No matter if it was IRL or in small VCs. I even enrolled in a behavioral program with a therapist but it wasn't for speech, mostly for my mental well-being.

Although for a month now, I've been noticing a decrease in my speech. Stutters on small words or buffering would happen more frequently. I really want to express myself in a video format without my speech being a deterring factor.
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>>30926073
Just practice, practice, practice.
Write a script for your video, then read and record it over and over again until you are satisfied with the result. The more scripts you do, the better you will get and eventually you won't even remember you had an issue.
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>>30926125
That sounds about right. Practice makes perfect as they say. I'm just hoping the cadence in my speech doesn't come off like I have some form of disability.

Sounds particular to say, but I had this happen IRL. A formal co-worker thought I genuinely had a disability for it.

Even so, I still will attempt. It helps me out at the end of the day.
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>>30926073
You can consider just using subtitles in your videos. I watch some Japanese YouTubers that do that. They don't show their face or record any voiceover; everything is expressed in the text on screen. I like those videos a lot because I will stop watching a video if I don't enjoy how the person sounds.

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Are there a lot of girls who are into dominating short twunks?
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this but tall fatties
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>>30925869
>Are there a lot of girls who are into dominating


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