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PLS gib advice
I'm 22 seniore in college.
I don't understand how dating works at all or even how to find potential dates
I have no idea how people are dating let alone meeting multiple romantic partners
I got lucky over 2 years ago and had 1 GF so not KHHV but very inexperienced.
>inb4 go to class
people are rarely making friends in class, everyone who talks are already friends. people are antisocial as fuck and on their phones with airpods in
>inb4 cold approach
are you fucking kidding? I don't know a single person who does this and have seen a guy approach once maybe twice in my damn life. girls look at you like you're a psycho and gib # because they're scared shitless
>inb4 go to bars
I go into a bar and know absolutely no one, what the fuck do I do. everyone there is already friends
>inb4 looksmaxx
I'm 6'2, more jacked than 85% of guys at my gym, and lean. I've been told I'm attractive my whole life and have been catcalled by a group of girls when running outside.

PLS GIB the protocol to consistently go out and meet potential dates

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>>30925615
Dating apps
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>>30925739

By clubs I don't mean night clubs. That's where you go for a shitty one night stand, not to find a girl to date. I mean like extracurriculars. As I said you need hobbies and shit. Best way to meet people. And rhe nest way to find a girlfriend is to find someone's who's interests align w yours
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>>30925615
how'd you get lucky 2 years ago? where'd you find her? did you fuck?
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datings apps have been the only way I met my exfiance, 2 ex's and current girl; I'm casually dating. I'm a fucking sperg that doesn't understand social cues and will never have balls to cold approach.

exfiance was tinder, 1 gf was bumble the other 2 were hinge.

6' 2", decent face, and average build, but I'm partly disabled in my legs so that drops me to at max a 4/10. I'm still fucking a girl. You can do it anon.
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>>30925615
When you say cold approach you are picturing some cringe guy from youtube videos. I csn assure you men are approaching girls they don't know but in more subtle ways. It's not that hard.

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Should I rat out an employee for bringing weed to his workplace, while also having a gun on him? Here's a bit of backstory.

We hired a wheelchair-bound person who can't move his legs at all. I (am one of the higher-ups) mostly ignore him unless he needs help with a task. A few days ago, he talked to me during my downtime and showed me his pistol in his jacket. I didn't think of it much since this is a very pro-gun state and I don't care much for it, but the idea of this guy using a gun (he can barely use his hands properly, mind you) is terrifying. He took 30 seconds just to get it out of his pocket. His excuse for having one with him on work grounds is for "self protection".

Later on that day, he decided to say I smell like marijuana. I don't smoke and haven't for 5 years so naturally I say no. He takes out a dime bag and shows me, the higher-up, it. I feel retarded in retrospect because I barely reacted to it. Told him to put it up and he ignored me.

So here I am now, being a pussy and not knowing if I should report this guy or not. He really isn't much help around the place. I have no idea why the boss hired him, even my boss doesn't know why. What do?
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>>30925545
OP here, forgot to mention something. inb4 someone says I'm anti-gun. I'm not. I just don't trust handicapped people at his level with a gun at a workplace. Not only do his legs not work, but his fingers and hands are all discombobulated and don't work properly.
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>>30925545
Yes, report him. He sounds irresponsible and may eventually get in trouble and drag you down with him. It's better to pre-empt that possibility.
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>>30925566
Okay, I'll probably lean towards that then. I just hate the idea of the rumor of being a snitch spread around.

How do you groon an intelligent gril successfully.
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>>30924327
What does groon mean?
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>>30924327
either have a huge dick or be smarter than her
literally that's it
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>>30924327
girls are retarded and easy to swoon. Just ignore the "intelligence" of her, all that matters is what kind of stuff she's into so you can make an impression.
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>>30924327
1. Kill yourself.
2. Stay dead.
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So the first step of your plan is to get on a video call with her and then get a stool out, this is very important. Now what you need to do is get a very sturdy rope and tie into a noose. You will now hang this from the ceiling, preferably from a nice stable pointing. You will now put your head through the noose and take out the stool from underneath you.

If you do all of these steps correctly, she should be properly groomed. If you need help simply ask, my fellow anon.

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So recently I decided to open up to my parents about the suicidal thoughts that have been plaguing me for at least the past four years. It's been a constant struggle for me, and I have had some unsuccessful attempts as well. I'm supposed to graduate from college this semester but I would like to take the rest of this semester and the summer off to get my head straight, figure out what I want to do with my life, try to work through my problems, and just have a bit of a reset. They are ok with this. The one place where we don't see eye to eye though is I would like to stay out in Texas where I go to school, and they would like me to come home. If I stayed out here, I have a job as a waiter lined up where I could use the money to pay my rent and grocery bill, which were things that they helped me out with previously. I would probably end up getting a job back home as well, but I don't know what it would be yet. They are pretty much completely opposed to me staying in Texas if I'm not going to be in school. I absolutely hate living at home and want to stay out on my own, and I like living in this city, but I also do feel like I need to take some time off. How can I get them to understand my position and let me take some time off while also staying out in Texas, and is this request unreasonable?
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>>30925882
If you're paying for it do whatever you want. If you're on someone else's dime their call goes.
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>>30925890
Well they have been paying for my school, but working full time I could make more than enough money to support myself and probably even have enough left over to put a little bit away and have some spending money. I still need their help to pay for school after I finish working for six or so months, so I just don't know if it's a completely fair request even if it is on my dime you know?
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>>30925882
Do ketamine, trust me. Plenty of clinics in Texas where you can get ketamine therapy. It is a life changer
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>>30925882
I think your parents are concerned that if you pause your studies you won't have anything to do and for depressed people that can make things a lot worse. By having you closer to them they feel they can support you better by making sure you don't slip deeper into depression. If you don't think this will happen, you perhaps need to make that clearer to them somehow.
As with most differences of opinions, asking the other person *why* they feel that way helps a lot to understand where they're coming from.

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Last week, I started an extreme fast. The gist of it is that I had my father lock me in the basement.

The plan is that twice a week he opens the door and hands me a box of dominos pizza, but that's all I get to eat. Even the dogs are eating better than me.

I drink water out the sink. There are no windows. I just have a computer and internet and a bathroom, and an old ass bed.

Yesterday I began to panic. I begged and begged him to open the door and let me drive to wendy's. I shouted for over an hour, I promised I would just get a spicy chicken sandwich and not eat anything else.

After a while he answered that he's heard it all before, and I better shut up. All I think about everyday is that pizza I get twice a week. I just want some advice about strategies how to get through this.

It is constant suffering but I really have to lose 100 pounds to have any kind of chance of a regular life.
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>>30923902
That's incredible.
Keep us updated. I'm keeping a tab permanently locked on this thread.
Best of luck.
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>>30925569
yes this
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>>30926183
I am excited now because it is only one day till I get my pizza on wednesday. It is a lot of suffering but at some points, the sky clears and I feel like I am doing the best possible thing that I can do. I know that if I keep doing this, I'll lose all the weight. I'll be a regular person again. That makes the suffering worth it.
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>>30926557
You will never be able to keep the weight off if you still want goyslop that badly.

Do the refeeds with salad/keto like that other anon was saying.

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I usually take a 10mg AdderaII pill at 9am, and another at 1pm to carry me through until 5pm.
Lately I've been having to study extra, is it bad if I take another 10mg at 6pm?
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>>30926305
Helpppp please
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>>30926405
>>30926305
Screw it I took 0.50mg of Xanax, I'm going to bed.

>be me
>wake up at 7:30 to see my phone flashing an alert from Wells Fargo
>my bank account has hit the negative
>-$4.76
>the entirety of the money we have totals $16.43
>transfer $10 from saving to get my account out of the red, literally 6 bux to my name
>my gf says "I'm getting a bunch of packages today please don't be mad."
>an hour later SEVEN packages are dropped off at my door
>my gf bought more FIM and G3 ponies
>again
>"It was all only $50 and I got something special just for you!"
>She bought me a vinyl statue of my favorite pony, Applejack, as a sexy anime woman

I just decided not to say anything and was thankful she at least thought of me and my favorite pone. Is there anyway for me to explain to her this really isn't the best time to be spending money on our hobbies when I'm in school full time and only work part time at a restaurant and we literally are poor af. When we started getting into Monster High together she did the exact same thing and basically bought every currently available G3 doll in a three month span and now she collects the old G1 dolls that are hella expensive.


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>>30925315
>stuck with them very childish ideas
*stuck with some
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>>30924924
Hey I have the same problem as your gf. It’s actually debilitating. Maybe she’s waiting for you to ask her about this so you can help her. I currently feel powerless and I need my husband to take control of my finances that I keep ruining. I would feel free of this consumerist demon if he took that burden off my shoulders. Ask her if she wants help controlling finances from now on. It might give her intense relief. You can tell her that another autistic girl on the Internet has this issue too and said to ask her about it. Ask me anything about it if you are more curious about the issue itself since I have personal experience with it.
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>>30924924
If that anime statue is legit, they can get pretty expensive, so $50 is a steal if you feel like reselling. Otherwise, this is definitely something you should sit down and talk about, spending money on fun things is important too, but not when y’all are so strapped for money. Spending my savings, especially on hobby stuff is difficult for me too, so I do understand the impulse. But that doesn’t make that kind of behavior okay.
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>>30924924
First off AJ is the best pony.

>She has free access to your bank account/credit cards

Here is your problem.
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>>30924924
>Wells Fargo
>>my bank account
if you're seriously so poor you overdraw a bank account is the last thing you need

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I started renting a room in a house with other guys and I can't jack off. Any other coomers ever experience this?
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>>30926288
Nah I have roommates and I don't care if they hear me jacking off
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AAAAA I CAN'T PISS

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Any advice on how to be an attention whore in a healthy way if you're not interesting or talented or anything? I crave attention a lot but it's hard to find a way to cope with this in a healthy way
I'm trying to solve the deeper issue of unfulfillment that leads to me being an attention whore but rn it's tough so i just wanna fill the emptiness with attention for the time being
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>>30925437
Hm, that might actually be a good idea. Although it might be tricky because i'm in my early 20s and have trouble connecting to people in general, but especially if they're under 30. And in my culture people are generally pretty guarded when it comes to revealing their problems. So when people are in like their 30s-40s they usually already have people who will listen to them and will be supportive so no need to confide in a random kid in her 20s. So like i'm not sure how to go about this. But maybe it might work, thank you
>>30925450
Well, not really. I'm an attention whore but i'm like never better than someone else and when i am it's more about wanting to help other people to get this as well rather than being smug. I guess I'm also shy and pretty bad at acting so that sounds scary. But thank you, maybe i'll consider this if i ever feel like overcoming my shyness
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>>30925375
don't be an attentionwhore, period
i used to be that guy who played guitar or tried to show off his intelligence all the time and the amount of cringe i generated was so toxic that it had to be deeply repressed until i could function normally again
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>>30925559
>don't be an attentionwhore, period
Why not? It's one of the more harmless things I can temporarily do to fill my emptiness inside (at least temporarily). I just want to do it in a healthier way
>i used to be that guy who played guitar or tried to show off his intelligence all the time and the amount of cringe i generated was so toxic that it had to be deeply repressed until i could function normally again
I'm glad you can function normally again and that's definitely something to be proud of but i'm not sure that's the path for me. Most of the time I just pour my attention whore tendencies in like volunteering or shitposting on 4chan which i think is alright and not completely unhealthy but i wanna do better
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>>30925375
>I crave attention a lot
Narcissistic personality disorder.
You're welcome.
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>>30925375
I don't like the idea of someone wanting to be an attention whore, but I suppose it could be a positive thing for you if you create something and contribute positively to the world.
It could be artwork, music, educational guides, anything that either helps or enriches people's lives in some way. I personally don't think you should be an attention whore but at least you would be justified if you're doing something worthy and of value.

I want to stop being a bitch. I've been thinking about becoming a copywriter for a year, but I've only made 80 stupid dollars.

I know that this is happening because I don't have the mental resilience to face life. I'm just 20; I'm young, but I still want to change it as soon as possible.

Being a weak-minded individual for this long is making me depressed. I thought I'd have bought something great for my parents by now, but nothing has happened, and I feel so sad.

How can I stop being a bitch and man the fuck up? Is it just as easy as doing things I don't want to do? Will it really ever get easier?
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Defeat your mother in your mind, forgive her so you don't have to live life proving her wrong. Your response to life's challenges is informed by your response to your mother. Until you cut the umbilical cord mentally, and step over her in your mind, you will continue to be a bitch.
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>>30924153
>How can I callous my mind?
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>>30924153
Didn't the guy on the pic (Goggins) have two failed marriage and abandoned one of his sons?
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>>30925748
He was just making his kid and ex wifes extra hard. So they can STAY HARD and CARRY the BOATS
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>>30924153
There's not a lot of money to be made as a copywriter any more, and it's going to go down to almost nothing soon. This is one of the areas where AI has already genuinely been able to replace most of the human work. It's definitely time to look for other ways to make a bit of money.

I've been on a few dates with a girl, and she abruptly stopped talking to me.
I didn't mind much, so I started seeing other women. I just assumed she lost interest or something and moved on.
A few days ago, she sent a text and said she's been on a "social decline" and was gonna get back to me at some point this week.
I'm going out with another woman now, but I feel like it isn't going anywhere and I've been debating breaking up with her.
What should I do, anons?
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>>30925557
yea, i guess but girl 2 has a kid, and she didnt tell me about it until today so im not so sure lol
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>>30925567
Well that's some bullshit too. Girl 2 is no longer superior.
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>>30925495
Like others anons already said: date both because i can make sure that you are not the only man both girls are dating and talking to.
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>>30925495
Communication is the relationship

Good job for moving on

>thinking about dumping new girl for girl that ghosted you

That is stupid
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>>30925529
dating multiple partners until you're exclusive with one is not bigamy and was accepted even in the 1950s, Archie constantly dating Betty and Veronica, etc.

Only modern psychotic Internet users see something wrong with it

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How often do men actually cry? I've seen studies that show men cry once 1.5 month or something similar to that time frame. But at the same time another person told me that they're bullshiting and men cry more often than that, they just don't want to admit to it. I've also seen some posts by men describing reasons that made them cry and some listed reasons that i wouldn't even think crying about, if it was another woman i would think she's overreacting a bit. But other men didn't chastise them and seemed to be understanding which tells me that there's truth to what I've been told.
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>>30910694
I haven't cried in years. Sometimes I want to but tears just won't come out. I can't see myself ever crying in front of another person as an adult.
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>>30910694
I'm crying each month I think, mostly because of garbage stuff like watching a movie, watching a show etc, mainly nostalgia I guess
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>>30910694
Every day.
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Everyone is different, some more than others.

For me I'd say 4-5 times a year. Most of the time when I'm sad I just feel numb. Just carry a deep sense of sadness around, everything feels grey.

Sometimes it just hits you though. Most of the time when I'm trying to sleep, alone in a bed by myself and I think of the better times.
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I cry rarely. I can't give you a frequency, but it's not a common occurrence

what does it mean when your parent complains about very random or inconsequential things about you?

for example

>be in bathroom brushing teeth
>dad brought a really large pizza from work (i'm the only one in the house that eats pizza) last night at like 12-1 AM
>go down, eat two slices, call it a night since i already had dinner
>haven't eaten yet today and still feel full from last night
>overhear mom in the kitchen
"SUCH A HUGE PIZZA HE (my dad) BOUGHT, WHY DOESN'T HE (me) EAT ANY???!!" in an angry voice (different language, not english so grammar is different)

I'm thinking wtf, am I supposed to eat this entire 1600 calorie pizza I didn't even ask for by myself that I only got like last night? Am I a terrible person or something for not eating a pizza?

Not to mention this is the only kind of thing she ever complains about. It'll be random as fuck, like things like me turning all the lights off downstairs at night (to save energy) and then not leaving one on "BECAUSE I CANT SEE AND ITS SCARY" or some shit like that. This is the kind of thing that's gonna guarantee me going no contact with you when I move out.
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>>30924856
honestly you should go no-contact because it will give you time to understand how your parents are set in their ways and it's your duty as a child to forgive them for being retarded
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>>30924866
The problem is I can't go no contact with my dad because he's completely tech illiterate and I need to help him with everything regarding things like emails and excel sheets related to his business, as well as signing every single digital form. They straight up can't do any of that themselves
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>>30924856
There's nothing wrong with you, this is just the classic blue collar, non-Western household experience. A pizza can always be put in the refrigerator and eaten later anyway.
>This is the kind of thing that's gonna guarantee me going no contact with you when I move out.
Yeah that sounds about right.
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>>30924856
Your dad bought a whole pizza just for you? You should thanks to your dad. You should thank him and explain to him why you only ate 2 slices, literally exactly the same you posted here.
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that's called a mom OP

you dense fuck

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This is a thread for people who have and would like to recover from an unhealthy dependence on pornography, eroticism, or sexual imagery. Share your advice, your struggles, your solutions, and discuss strategies to get better.

Helpful links:
>Studies and research
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/research/
>Practical effects of porn usage on the brain (4:25)
https://youtu.be/9qJHRvHU8IM
>Addiction science (3:06)
https://youtu.be/1Ya67aLaaCc
>Paid porn blocker with built-in accountability
https://blockerx.net/
>Sexual addiction help groups
https://saa-recovery.org/
>National addiction helpline
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

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Good thing hentai isn't porn, it's art
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https://youtu.be/eoVkQDDNa0g?si=8vXCUJej0lVQtn4z

Pretty helpful and informative video, I like this channel
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>>30907918
if you are watching people fuck yes that's insane
but just looking at a lone woman i feel like isn't that insane. just go back to the regular old porn just a nice naked classy woman boom. they had that shit at barnes and noble in front of the kids nobody cared
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get a naltrexone prescription. take it for a few months. problem solved. works for overeating, alcohol AND tobacco/nicotine
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>>30907918
I don’t want to recover so I am leaving this thread.

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I’m in a relationship currently but I’ve developed jealousy over a girl I know/used to have a crush on and her new relationship. I’m also just jealous because they have more sex than me and my gf do.

How do I stop these feelings?
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you sound insecure. start exercising
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>>30925407
Seconding.


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