I was talking to my boyfriend because he was planning to buy me a new mobile phone. During our conversation I posted a ChatGPT screenshot (I use the AI sometimes for questions cause I find it helpful and he's annoyed by it, but I told him to accept my freedom to do so) about the phone and he got annoyed again.I told him to cut it out to which he replied: "Why are you aggressive? I was in the middle of buying you a gift, one of many gifts..."This made me even angrier because I feel it's manipulative to bring up gifts as if that makes my anger not justified. I told him not to buy the phone and I will buy it myself and that I never want any gifts again if this is how he feels. Anyway, can any outsider tell me what they think of his reaction/words? Manipulative or not?
>>33668630Using 'manipulative' and labels like that is unhelpful here. He clearly feels that his gifts are unappreciated and you feel that his gifts come with some kind of expectation. Maybe they do, maybe the expectation is just that they'll be appreciated without argument. Idk, I also don't care. But if yall can't do the gift thing then just don't buy each other gifts and skip this whole stupid stupid argument
>>33668630Serves you right for using chatgpt
>>33668630I feel like a lot is being left out. Why would he be mad about a chat gpt screenshot?
>>33670274He doesn't like AI and feels that it takes away from his position to be useful and answer questions/do things for me as a man because the bot can fill that spot.
>>33668630Source on pic?
>>33668630don't overuse terms you've heard in therapy flickshe doesn't like that you use AI to talk to him, and probably felt disrespected/ not appreciated when you used it to reply to him.I do think that pleasantries/favours are reciprocal, and you likely hurt him that you didn't reciprocate a favour (not using AI) while he ostensibly did you a favour.personally, I believe you should stop using AI to talk to people that don't like that. the freedom to do so is a bad argument, you are free to do all kinds of things, but that doesn't justify them outright.best for you 2 to speak in person/ over a call
>>33668630You sound very annoying and unpleasant. Break up with him and date your chatbot.
>>33671729I see. You have a point.
>>33671729"I know this annoys him, but purposefully annoying him is a vital freedom of mine" is psycho shit.OP sounds braindead and soulless.
>>33671870He is purposefully annoying me by harassing me when I use ChatGPT. It goes both ways, genius.
>>33671873Please, say that to his face if you haven't already.
>>33671877I have told him in DETAIL and held nothing back. He still tried to diffuse the situation and asked me to please understand him and allow me to buy the new phone. I agreed (because I can't pay with my card in the shop) but I don't want further gifts in the future because this left a bad taste.
>>33671886I feel bad for your boyfriend.
>>33668630If someone kept using ChatGPT around me when they can't think for themselves I'd be annoyed too
>>33668630>>33670977?
Men like women who are flexible, not hard-headed and structured. Men like thinking of solutions and being useful. AI is like an extra nag on your BF, it sounds like. There's two people nagging him. Talk about a drag.
>>33673170That said, if your BF isn't listening to what you like, that's also an issue. Are gifts your love language? Are you that picky about them? Lots of things could be incompatible on both sides, impossible to know from a few paragraphs.
>>33668630>posted a ChatGPT screenshot stopped reading here, already annoying as fuck and I agree with him. can people nowadays even breathe properly without consulting the literal fairytale storyteller chatgpt ?
>>33673170God, can you imagine?>but but but the computer sez
Ai aside, the problem is your questioning of his gifts instead of being appreciative. Using chat gpt instead of typing up your own slop= you not giving his gift the energy or thought that he feels it deserves.Many gifts= yes, manipulation tactic. Don't take it as a bad thing because the first gift is too. Nothing is for free.
>>33671873So he's asked you not to use ChatGPT to talk to him, and "harasses" you when you do so instead, so instead of stop doing it, you continue to do it just to make a problem out of it? Why cant women be logical, honestly
>>33673279Most of them can, but you know how some men are just fucking dumb as shit? What you are seeing here is a woman who is fucking dumb as shit.
>>33673073I don't know, sorry. Just saw it on Pinterest. I think it was from a japanese music video.>>33673279>So he's asked you not to use ChatGPT to talk to him, and "harasses" you when you do so instead, so instead of stop doing it, you continue to do it just to make a problem out of it?He can't interfere with my life like that.
>>33673170>Men like women who are flexible, not hard-headed and structured. I don't really care what men like. I am how I am. I am extremely stubborn and sensitive.If he doesn't like it he can leave ANY TIME. I will not change myself to please him or any human/being/creature on Earth.
>>33673401Got it. Do you ask AI stuff because you don't have a relationship with your dad?
>>33673399You're just being a problem on purpose then.>>33673401Spoken like someone who's going to be lonely their whole life.
>>33673428I don't use AI for hours. I just ask a question here or there for calculations or finding sources. He was annoyed by that because he wanted to find out everything himself. It's just less efficient.No, I love my Dad and he's married to my Mom.>>33673466>Spoken like someone who's going to be lonely their whole life.I wouldn't be afraid of being lonely. I do not bend over for anyone.
>>33673484Your bf is aware that AI hallucinates and is wrong more often than not. Simultaneously, you're too proud to change, because you're the most specialest person in the whole world and could never be at fault. Enjoy loneliness!
>>33673513>Enjoy loneliness!Merci!
>>33673484>I do not bend over for anyone.Look, I understand you're coming from a place of trying to be authentic but the way you're painting appears to me very immature. If you're never willing to change for someone, then you're never going to grow. Growth is never easy and, when it comes down to it, rarely desired. People accept faults, change behaviors and seek to improve themselves all the time for the sake of professional/academic achievement, but now somehow it's become taboo to do so for the sake of a relationship.
>>33674038Such is the insidious nature of what a lot of people consider to be "self-love".
>>33668663fpbp. truly op. this is good advice
>>33674038I don't really care to grow into anything. As long as I'm reasonable and respect the free will of others (which I do, I don't force or abuse people they can step out any given time) I don't seek to grow or mold into something others prefer. >>33674330>>33668663Yeah, I have read it.
>>33668630Can you post the conversation between you and him? censor the names and we judge the situation from there.Honestly, most the retards here are anti-AI and a victim cuck for losing their jobs or afraid to lose their jobs because of it and sympathize with your husband that has nothing to do with the relationship at hand. Traumatized out of AI is just a funny mental illness here.
>>33676383>abuseYou have got to stop with this lingo.Abuse is beating someone because they went out without checking if it was ok.Manipulation is calling their work and getting them fire so they dont have a reason to leave the house and can no longer afford to leave.Reddit culture, tumblr, 4chan, all these teenager filled socisl forums has turned these into 10 penny words people just throw around for literally any transgression.Humans are individuals with individual needs, motives, expectations and comforts. Sometimes these clash (even if everyone is well intentioned in the first place) and it causes conflict. That in itself isnt Abuse. Its just what it is. Conflict. And we resolve these conflicts through compromise, or acceptance and tolerance. But it isnt fucking Abuse or manipulation because you want it one way and he wants it another and you can't come to an agreement. Just like it isnt manipulation he buys you gifts and you don't like it and he feels gut punched his love language isnt being accepted. Its not manipulation. Thats how he shows affection. You dont like it. He feels offended and frustrated. He expresses that the ways he does.
>>33676511>most retards who are anti AIOr for a lot also, the internet told them they hate it before they knew anything about it and they saw the strawberry thing or some other example of it being stupid in very specific cases so they've just decided its dumb with like little to no further research.That's another thing people do. To the point i think that bias has a name. Its slipping my mind though. But it involves just believing and committing to the first opinion you're exposed to.Dumb either way.
>>33668630If he isn’t fully embracing AI than he is a retard. Don’t be apologetic of using AI. Use it more. Start coding with it and tell him to stfu. Imagine your partner telling you not to use a computer because it’s evil. What is he an Amish boomer? He sounds boring with a fragile ego. Or is he a leftist whacko that’s worried about carbon credits? Yikes good luck with that.
>>33676550Okay I read what you said and semi-agree but I still think if someone brings up how many things they buy you after you are mad that is weird.
>>33676671People are weird.You calling someone's frustration and abuse is weird.Emotions are irrational. All of us are stupid when emotional. He is clearly frustrated. You both sound young and not very in control of your emotions which will lend to more weirdness. Still, and again, this is the fault of teenagers in internet forums: you can't just set out a standard of perfect constantly correct behaviour and then hold people to that standard. We are emotional illogical animals. Everyone acts erratically and irrationally.Then their partners take to the internet and say "my partner is being all human and shit" and other retards who dont acknowledge thats just what people are like say "we agree that behaviour isnt the perfectly idealized way an android would handle that situation, therefore we support your position your partner is abusive". Yeah its weird. Hash it out with him. Dont run to the internet for allies. Thats stupid.
>>33668630Ditch him and date ChatGPT instead
>>33668630If youre going to out source human interaction to a corporate homunculus, it says you dont want a relationship at all. Break up with him and buy some cats. Do him a favor so he can find someone who does not treat him like a chore.
>>33676740>NOO YOU CAN'T USE CHATGPT FOR 1% OF YOUR INTERACTIONS!You sound just as retarded as he does.
>>33676757Homo insipiens says what
>>33676757I highly doubt its only 1% My bet is that its closer to 1/16. Btw that AI is only going to feed you sources from the top of googles search results. Youre only mad at your BF over this because he has issues with you outsourcing your thinking to something that lies 24/7 and you use it against him. Youre allergic to self actualization and chose to submit to a consumer product over the person who loves you. You are too proud and self absorbed to admit fault and instead went to a Mongolian basket weaving forum in hope that others make justifications on your behalf, once again outsourcing your relationship to others.
