But how do you stop catastrophization when you realize a group of narcissists have taken an interest in you again?I'm foreseeing shit 5 levels down the line"X is interested in me again, he will talk to Y, if I see Y outside my work I am going to kms, then they will tell Z and Z is the fucking worst. They will make my area their place of interest and appear here more, stopping me on the street, invading my space more and more."The more I obsess, the more ground I cede, instead of just accepting that maybe or maybe not they will be here, either way, fuck them.I don't know how to stop obsessing and catastrophizing.Has someone else gotten out of situations like this before? How do I do it?
Let n be the number of steps away from the core concern. Place 1/(n^2) of your concern on each step.Place 25% of your care on "X is interested in me again", then 11% of your care on "he will talk to Y", then 6% on the next thing...
>>33939857Idgi. I do not think in probabilities like this. It is certainties.X is 100% interested in me. He is a loser who stalks people he perceives as "winners" for clout. If you start doing good in life, he begins obsessing with you and becomes a drag.He is interest for sure.He hangs out at the café outside my work that I recently started every day with his obnoxious friends now, and if he sees me, he tries getting my attention because it gives him clout among his friends group. He is parasitic.I called him today to catch up and ask what he was doing there every day, and the first thing he remarked was that he saw my car.I know he is going to be hyped for having gotten my attention and he IS going to use my name for clout with his friends. He is going to idealize my work and bring it to the attention of his obnoxious friends.His friends are just like him, so maybe they will start driving my work because they are curious. Maybe even drive at the times I quit just to "let's see if we see him".You know the type.If they see me and we make eye contact, I would probably feel panic, because I know it's getting worse.If they stop me to say hello in such a situation, I would probably be too agreeable in my panic just to try to get rid of them, and that'd only make it worse.And this is how I'm catastrophizing.I would need to end up moving again, and I would have no one to blame but myself.If the above happens, these people will relay to my brother that "we saw your brother today :) What is he doing? He was walking alone lol, there are a lot of character where he works right?" and they start making it into an interesting thing.Word will spread and this will only get worse.All because my friend has taken an interest. I know word spreads, and this is how I'm thinking. I'm not imagining things, I just know the logical outcome of MY attitude towards this, and I want my catastrophization to stop so I can fix my attitude....
