How do I get my life together?I live with my mother. My mom has always been emotionally dependent and was psychologically abused by her own mother as a child. She clings on me and controls me, she paranoically gives me unwanted advice and talks my ear off, makes a bunch of mistaken assumptions and misunderstandings. She loses it if I talk back, or if I talk any bit more energically, she says she's too old to change, she blocks any communication and wants to have the final word on every petty argument. I don't want her hurt. I can't stand her shit either.I don't want to pay rent to live and work a shit enslaving job, I studied medicine and I don't want to deal with sick miserable people anymore. I don't want high stakes high responsibility work. I don't know what to study that leads to a balanced lifestyle with understanding friends.My age weights on me, and it seems every fucking problem compounds on itself. I am living a life I never fucking wanted and ended up choosing to suck up to my parents because they couldn't handle their own shit. The therapist doesn't give me advice on how to choose the best fit life for me, he just tells me to cope with the pile of shit im sunk in. I have no idea where to start, I have $7000 to my name and that's it.
>>34179495The only thing you can do about your mom is move out, unfortunately. I know people like your mom and I know they won’t change, they’ll drag you down just to feel superior. As a man, you have to act and think about yourself to secure your future. >I studied medicine and I don't want to deal with sick miserable people anymoreMaybe try pharmaceuticals? That way, you won’t have to deal with sick people and the job is much less stressful.>My age weights on me, and it seems every fucking problem compounds on itself.That’s normal, it’s okay. Even people in their 50s can change their careers and their lives.>I am living a life I never fucking wanted and ended up choosing to suck up to my parents because they couldn't handle their own shitIt’s never too late to change that>The therapist doesn't give me advice on how to choose the best fit life for meIf you don’t have serious mental problems, then you don’t need a therapist! It’s a waste of money, time and emotions.>I have no idea where to startYou’ve already pointed out the things that interfere with your life and the things you want to achieve. You just have to figure out what kind of work you want to do and do whatever it takes to get it.
>>34179666How do I find out what kind of work do I want? I can't tell well when I'm being picky and when a position is toxic. Today I went to the doctor's credit union and there was a guy who clearly was not a doctor, he was the son of a doctor like I am, dressed in a rockish style just like I do, He was talking with the tellers about his job 3D printing anime figures, cosplay accessories by request. The way he talked was a mix of embarrass about anime stuff and pride in making things. He talked slowly, relaxed rather than confident, and pulled everyone out of reality and into his story. I thought "Goddamn, this guy has never suffered in his life. This would be me if I hadn't studied medicine". I guess yes, the main problem for me is I don't have a passion, and things that give me amazement are the nichest of things, mostly archeology, mythology, etc. I have been trying to draw for some time as well, but I don't know how to find people to share these passions with and develop them.I fear investing my precious remaining youth working in something tedious, repetitive and high stakes, so the time to develop my interests and the time needed to surround myself with people goes past me just like my training in medicine went.Back then, I was a dumb teen and thought I had to make my parents live forever. Then I took pride in doing things perfectly to do the least damage, then I burned out and been NEETing and studying garbage for years. I wouldn't like to be an employee making others money, but I don't want to scam people out of their money, and I'm jealous of people who do. I still cling to the idea I have to aspire to something grand or my life will be useless and forgotten. I guess all of these are the silly negatives that every job has and I just amplify their impact.
>>34179978>This would be me if I hadn't studied medicinePlease, don’t compare yourself to others. This is the easiest way to lose your confidence and drive to improve your life. Just because he looks like he’s had no hardship in life doesn’t mean it’s true. Successful people can have tough lives too.>I guess yes, the main problem for me is I don't have a passionWhen it comes to careers, passion doesn’t matter most of the time. Many people have burned out in their dream jobs and hate them now.>but I don't know how to find people to share these passions with and develop themIf there’s no place for it on 4chan, then try some subreddits or discord groups. For drawing, go to /ic/ or /trash/. You don’t even have to go there, all you need to do is ask in a random thread on your favorite board for drawing request.>so the time to develop my interests and the time needed to surround myself with people goes past meYou can always make friends and enjoy your hobbies after work. Besides, you can do it right now! You’re a neet, so you have plenty of time!>I wouldn't like to be an employee making others money, but I don't want to scam people out of their moneyThen stay a NEET until your mom dies. Do you think people like their jobs? Of course not. But it’s about survival. How can you achieve something grand without money? Without experience? You either work for someone and have a stable income, or you work for yourself and take on huge responsibilities, not just for yourself, but for your company, your employees, and your livelihood. If you’re this hesitant, you’ll achieve nothing. Start being more proactive in life. Also, stop thinking about doing something grand, I can see you’re the type of person who gets blocked by such big goals. Many great things were made by people who didn’t think too much about them. Just chill out, don’t overthink, start taking action and great things will happen. Being stressed out about unrealistic long term goals is not productive at all
>How do I find out what kind of work do I want?By doing something or trying out a job you’ve never thought about. I once thought I would love working an office job, but it turned out it wasn’t for me. You’ll never be 100% sure if a job is for you until you actually start doing it
