>>34190607
hell on earth
hell squared if you have kids

>>34190607
I received a blowjob from my roommate and now she is acting like this despite both agreeing we weren't dating. I fucked up apparently

>>34190607
I lost my virginity to an unmedicated BPD chick. It was fucking terrifying and not at all worth it.

She would shift moods to the extreme like 10 times in a single day while texting. I drove a few hours to spend the weekend with her, and on the day of departure, I was like an hour late leaving. I told her this and she absolutely unloaded on me. This was nearly 10 years ago so I don't remember the details, but it's like I became the worst person in her life in just a split second. I've never seen anyone before or since who would go through that many cycles of emotion so quickly. I spent the weekend with her, which wasn't bad, and then left and broke it off.

I purposefully used spermicide condoms when fucking, which I think saved my life. She texted me a few months after and claimed that she was pregnant. That absolutely destroyed me and almost drove me to suicide until I remembered the condoms. I played into it for a bit to see what her game was, and eventually she left me alone. Probably another manic episode.

tl;dr don't do it

>>34190717
>Probably another manic episode.
BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder, not Bipolar Disorder. BPD don't have mania, they're just bugfuck crazy.

>>34190748
ah I always mix up the two. desu I don't fully understand the differences.

Both seem crazy as fuck to me regardless.

>>34190791
BPD is a personality disorder, Bipolar is a mood disorder. Bipolar can be effectively treated with meds, BPD can only be treated with a guillotine.

>>34190798
ah that makes more sense, thank you for the clarification anon.

she was def bipolar then. I occasionally stalk her fb. She did end up getting medicated later but I think might have stopped taking them. her eyes look manic again.

>>34190791
Also Bipolar comes in fairly long cycles. Several weeks of depression, followed by several weeks of mania. This means that there is not much volatility, they're either in a depressive cycle or a manic cycle

>>34190717
>many cycles of emotion so quickly.
That's definitely not Bipolar. Bipolar cycles last days up to months, if the cycles are shorter than 3-4 days that then it's not Bipolar, the length of the cycle is a major part of the diagnostic criteria.

>>34190607
horrible experience
they are to hit and run only, never to date
one literally wanted to cut my face because in her mind I was fucking her best friend.
I never gave her any reason to think about that
she called me to that hotel room to fuck and then after a couple drinks she goes retard mode for no reason

>>34190607
>>34190748
>being a retarded cunt is a personality disorder
I think it should just be called being a woman

>>34190607
The image isn't accurate of the BPD experience. It only shows the abandonment complex they have. Lots of types of disorders have abandonment issues, the biggest one is actually Autists, abandonment issues come packed in. Think of how many autists or spergs make threads asking "Is it over bros?" And they post a screenshot of a girl who didn't reply for a couple hours.

BPDs are different, they have both the fear of abandonment AND fear of engulfment.

Fear of engulfment is the opposite to abandonment, it's the fear of someone staying, or someone being clingy or someone being too close emotionally.

So BPDs freak out if you're distant and then they freak out if you're too close. That's why when you date one it feels like you're constantly getting smacked from the front and from behind. In a cycle that's called "push and pull" or "hot & cold". One minute they're loving you and pleading with you and flattering with you to come closer. Then you get closer and they're cold and brutal and volatile. Then you back up emotionally and they repeat the cycle over and over until your sanity gets drained.

That image only shows half of BPD.

>>34190607
It’s everything. You become everything. You are good, the most good, bad, the worst. You become a god. You have found everything you’ve ever wanted, and more. Everything works, everything clicks. It breaks you, because not only do they want to break you, but if you indulge in it, you break even further. You start to seriously break yourself. You wonder if this is all it’ll ever be. It’s isolating, because from the outside, everyone is jealous. You’re the favourite of the queen, and all they see is that favouritism, the love lavished on you, and the good parts that the BPD person shows off. The love itself breaks you, becomes too much, you can’t escape and you can’t enjoy it. You are sitting in the dark, alone.
The only time I ever attempted suicide in my life was when she left. It’s been a year and I’m still terrified of women.

>>34191475
Sorry to hear of what you went through. The damage is severe. It took me almost a year to trust women again after my own encounter. And I did find a good woman, honest to God I have, married too. But the damage continued for another year or two dating her, it's so subtle too, you develop erectile dysfunction, anxiety in sex, you become emotionally closed off and it's very hard to shake off. But I can happily tell you it's not forever anon, you eventually shake it all off, you survive, you live and later thrive. The damage isn't forever, because that's reality. Nothing lasts forever not even the damage you picked up from that mind shattering relationship. Keep the hope up brother

>>34191491
Thank you anon. That means a lot. I contemplated becoming a monk and giving up everything because of the fallout. You’re right, recently I’ve been reminded that there is hope and I can be happy. I appreciate your words a lot, be well brother, very happy you found your one

>>34191510
No problem. And remember, only God is a monk-maker, it’s He who decides who should go into monk-mode lol. Never let a bad toxic woman inspire you into monk-mode, monks are made of divine cloth, not despair cloth. Though if you do wanna be a monk genuinely go for it. Consider being a Hierodeacon, thats basically a deacon + monk so in other words a married monk, if you want both lifestyles

>>34190791
>desu I don't fully understand the differences.
Being bipolar and having BPD have essentially nothing in common at all, other than the fact that they're both classed as neurodivergent.

>>34191491
Did your wife know what you went through? How did those two years look like for your relationship? If the damage was so big, how did you develop another relationship into marriage?

>>34190607
She WILL CHEAT ON YOU
Mark my words

>>34191521
>Being bipolar and having BPD have essentially nothing in common at all, other than the fact that they're both classed as neurodivergent.

Probably not for long, BPD is becoming more understood as a trauma disorder, just a very stubborn sub-type of one. It’s got way more in common with cPTSD than it does with ‘neurodivergent’ disorders like Autism, adhd, OCD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, tourette’s etc.

Neurodivergence has to do with neurology, so the nervous system and how its interpreted by the brain. BPD has nothing to do with nervous system, at least not in the ‘neurodivergent’ sense.

think of like this: An autist will still be an autist whether or not they got abused as a kid. You coild give them the best upbringing, still an autist. Or the worst one: still an autist.

A bpd wont be a bpd of they have a good upbringing. But they will be if their brains are exposed to repeated abuse or neglect (often both).

DSM-6 is supposedly even renaming the entire disorder and perhaps even doing away with the idea of ‘personality disorders’ altogether and jusr regrouping them as trauma disorders.

>>34191535
>Did your wife know what you went through? How did those two years look like for your relationship? If the damage was so big, how did you develop another relationship into marriage?

Yeah she did. And the first two years were good, its just I had some troubles that flared up. Emotional flashbacks, for example. Certain scenarios or dynamics that instantly put me into fight or flight mode when in reality it was nothing serious. And the aforementioned erectile dysfunction & anxiety issues & emotional bluntness. I was able to mask through it and put up a stable façade until it went away, and wife knew back then I was doing that because I told her and she was understanding.

>If the damage was so big, how did you develop another relationship into marriage?
The alternative was to rot and give up. But I began taking myself more seriously and spent the year figuring out why I was somehow attracting crazies and what things I should have done before to protect myself. Turned out I was shit at boundaries and setting them and shit at saying “No” so once I got better at practicing healthy disagreeableness I was able to feel enough self assurance to try again.

>>34191550
Do you remember any of the flashbacks you had, what caused them and how did you fix the situation? I presume it was your wife (gf back then) who triggered them.

The second part of your comment is interesting. It’s true that some people attract crazies. How did you attract the one that wasn’t crazy?

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>>34190607
She's not your girl, but your turn will be the best sex you've ever had.

>>34190616
I was in a relationship with a single mother with BPD.

When she felt she would be abandoned by her irrational perception, she would storm off together with the kid, call me names on the phone, try to convince her mother I'm the devil, then come back, be nice for 2-3 weeks aaand the cycle is back. She was doing it to her mother as well - coming to me with the child to be 'saved' from her mother who was doing everything in her power to help her financially and raise the child.

Thankfully her mother knew how she was acting so I was never hit with any false charges on domestic abuse, I would be fucked with a big F because a child would be involved.

Almost by a miracle, she once stormed off once again and never came back - which I think saved my life. God was watching over me that I never impregnated her.

>>34191565
>Do you remember any of the flashbacks you had, what caused them and how did you fix the situation? I presume it was your wife (gf back then) who triggered them.
Yeah it was during minor every day disagreements like how folding laundry should be done or whose turn it was to do x y and z. Every time I'd dissociate and have the flashbacks because my instinct was to anticipate a massive blow up from her end, then a cold shoulder and then having to 'rescue' her from her own messes like talking to dangerous or otherwise sex pest men just to punish me, expecting things like no more affection and expecting her to hold sex or love hostage etc etc. thankfully I never lashed out or let my fears dictate my actions, but I surmise actual BPDs do when they dissociate and go into trauma lalaland, they have no solid 'self' that's in control.

Emotional flashbacks are weird, man. They're a lot like daydreaming except they're involuntary and they are not day-dreams, more like day-nightmares.

>How did you attract the one that wasn’t crazy?
By changing what I was attracted to. I didn't wanna admit it but back then deep down I was attracted to crazies, I normalized it and thought I was just having 'normal' attractions. Turned out nah I was specifically drawn to women with 'issues'. And the reason I did that is because I felt alone in my own issues and I thought if I met someone who understood what it's like that they'd be understanding and kind.

>>34190607
They lie A LOT. To basically everyone but especially themselves. About anything too, which is weird. Like it stands out when they lie about something that doesn't matter at all when they're usually lying out of spite or selfish interest or for extra emotional attention. My ex lied about relapsing on her eating disorder when she was eating regularly and just felt insecure, it's weird. When someone leaves the lies get bad, but all you have to do is get ahead of that and keep receipts for your friend group/people in your life/cops etc.

Ironically they also like being lied to/about for the sake of having a moving smokescreen of drama to get invested in. Like they're weirdly comfortable with how nuts they are and subconsciously take comfort in their pervasive insanity and dysfunction being thrown back at them, which is a shame because at first they just seem kinda kinky but that's never enough.

They also like ruining things. Like all the time. You can't introduce them to things or they'll find a way to make it suck. Even if they like the thing they like the idea of ruining it for you more. They want to see you feel bad for enjoying things, so keep them out of your hobbies.

BPD girls are basically just what happens when you boil women down to their core personality element, and modernity has stripped away a lot of the window dressing, and now they're all evolving into a form more like that.

But that form does ass-to-mouth so have fun.

>>34191702
>They also like ruining things. Like all the time. You can't introduce them to things or they'll find a way to make it suck. Even if they like the thing they like the idea of ruining it for you more. They want to see you feel bad for enjoying things, so keep them out of your hobbies.

Yes, absolutely this one is often unspoken or rarely brought up. And I can vividly remember how that inferno starts too, I can pinpoint exactly when they are about to pour gasoline over your hobby or passion or friend group and strike the match.

>Be you, have a GF who you know is either BPD or undiagnosed and you don't know
>Invite her to join your hobby or friend group or community because she keeps complaining she has nothing and you want to help her
>She takes part/joins in
>Within days you hear her complaint, her big complaint: "I fucking hate your friends/group/community. They don't see me as (forename) they see me as "Anon's GF". I'm just a fucking tagalong."

That's exactly where it starts. Before long she will villainize every single person and will start shit deliberately to receive criticism and then she tells you privately:
>"See? They're fucking awful. And if you loved me you will just cut them all loose. How dare you even think of choosing them over ME"

If you don't comply, you get cheated on as punishment. If you comply, you lose part of yourself forever. And then the punchline is:
>She doesn't care you did that for her. She puts up emotional distance anyway and goes cold.

Fucking madness

>>34191542
BPD has a lot in common with severe ADHD. Both are characterised by impulsiveness, risk taking, disordered eating, substance abuse, lack of emotional regulation/fluctuating moods, and a pattern of intense but unstable relationships.

>>34191617
Did your wife have no issues then? How did you stay attracted to her if she was boring comparing to more challenging crazies you had before?

>>34191168
Men have BPD as well, though for them it's usually diagnosed as NPD. Same thing though, just less screaming hysteria due to lower estrogen.

>>34191521
>nothing in common at all
except the symptoms. but the underlying causes are completely different.
>>34191542
>BPD has nothing to do with nervous system
Neither does Bipolar - it's a hormonal regulation disorder.

>>34191617
>And the reason I did that is because I felt alone in my own issues and I thought if I met someone who understood what it's like that they'd be understanding and kind.

This. Probably the biggest part of guys that fall into these relationships. I wasn't with her long (>5 months) but in those, she had already wanted me to marry her, have kids, pay her rent, always be there. I was not ready for that commit but when you drop an "I Love You" during an argument you basically write your ticket to being her vice. All stemmed from my own issues of being a loser throughout my kid to teen years + mom walking out and not really finding my place until college.

Within those months I dealt with the full force of her problems. What i mistook as playfully talking shit of each other was really her insecurities and traumas hidden. Around the time Arc Raiders came out I reaaally wanted to game with the boys but if I wasn't over at her house (30 min drive) and there the whole night + weekend it was a problem so i really wasn't able to play when they were on. Same with WoW grinding (now I can which has been a blast) I mistakenly forgot she had a day off (nurse) and was gonna get dinner with my work friends and she completely broke down refused to talk to me and just lied in bed saying I don't love her or care I just wanna bang my one friend (This was a common argument). I had to basically force my friend to bring her SO so that I could take her with me. Constantly was spending 700$ a week since she hated home cooking and was a neat freak on shit food and drinks had to be 3 course meals if I didn't want to pay she would complain.

But through all I stayed, because it was someone who and understood my trauma. Until she called me fat ( I have abs) and said she didn't care about my good day at work (I got a raise) and proceeded to drink and eat shit when she and I agreed not to. I called my roommate and said I am done and he said "FINALLY We all have been waiting to hear that"

>>34190607
One stalked me for years. I had to make a new Steam and Discord account because the harassment after we broke up was awful. She even had our online friends come after me.
She told me that she was going to get a visa to my country and find where I work and throw acid on my face for leaving her. It got worse when she found out that I got a rebound with another e-girl. She told me that I look too cute to have a backbone, and it really pissed her off because she wanted to be the man in the relationship.
Thankfully I was smart enough not to tell her my real name, but I had to create a new online name because to this day, my old Steam and Discord account still gets harassing messages from this psycho and her beta orbiters

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hell. worse than you can imagine.
dated a bpd goth girl for years, lived together, the sex was not worth it. repeat: massive horny sexual degenerate here telling you THE SEX WAS NOT WORTH THE TROUBLE.
i wish i'd converted to Christianity and become a monk instead.
>>34190616
>>34190717
>>34190872
>>34191575
>>34191702
all above are accurate
and i'm not alone, holy shit, >>34191510 wrote my comment before reading replies

>>34192086
>except the symptoms. but the underlying causes are completely different.
Supposedly, yeah. It's true there are overlapping symptoms. BPD shares overlapping symptoms with Autism, adhd, cPTSD, Bipolar specifically type 2, and other disorders. But what's worth considering is when people see 'symptoms' what they're actually seeing is outward behaviours, or, outward expressions of a 'symptom' be it verbalized or gesture/action. And I think at a surface level, yeah, BPD has loads of common symptoms. Underneath the surface though not so much. At that point it's comparing chalk & cheese.

Here's an example.
Narcissists NPDs don't listen to what you have to say. They prefer talking about themselves
Adhds don't listen to what you have to say either. They prefer talking about themselves.
Now we can say this is a shared symptom, or we can dig deeper:

Narcissists don't care & prefer talking about themselves because they think you are inferior and not as compelling as they are. They don't listen because they don't see a point, you are beneath them.

Adhds don't listen because focus dysregulation. When you talk their minds are trying to process their responses. And while busy trying to do this, they mishear or struggle to pay attention all because they didn't wanna forget what they want to say. They also talk about themselves a lot, because they self-reference in a form of externalized empathy: "hey I dont want you to feel weird or alone in this problem. Here is my story of a similar/same problem I faced too. I was weak too and it's okay to feel weak/scared/hurt"

Etc. so on the outside 'same symptom'. Ib the inside it's night vs day

>>34190607
I went on a date with one once. She was very pretty. I thought she was a good fit. She went to therapy, so I wasn't worried. She told me she hit her ex's friend with a metal pipe to the knees because she hugged him. After the date she wanted to make plans but then suddenly ghosted me. We texted months after a little but it never went anywhere. Oh well.

>>34191542
>DSM-6 is supposedly

sure... and thats not been corrupted at all by political and pharmaceutical influence over the last 30 years....

>>34192532
>sure... and thats not been corrupted at all by political and pharmaceutical influence over the last 30 years....

Kek yeah I mean it probably has. Find me one institution in the world that hasn't had corruption in it though, and I'll show you a hen's tooth. In other words, they don't exist unfortunately.

But DSM-6 making possible changes towards certain categories is pretty big. Even if we think they're wrong or right about it, fact is it means the collective human think-tank is rethinking its idea of 'personality disorders'. Whether that's good or bad is up to you.

Personally I think the entire field of psychiatry needs nuked and then re-worked from the ground up. I think the idea of personality disorders are stupid, and they only reason they exist as labels is because they stopped using the term "sociopathy" as a clinical diagnosis. And before "sociopathy" it was "psychopathy". And they can't even agree on which is which accurately so they just call all of a "cluster". A "cluster of traits". And there's three "clusters". A, B, and C. And they don't outright say it but A = weirdos. B = evil assholes. And C = scared pussies. Just with fancy names and subtypes.

And it all started because psychiatry really really wanted to replace modern man's mysticism and spirituality, and really hated the notion of 'evil', and wanted to dissect it 1,000 times.

>>34192086
>except the symptoms.
No. BPD symptoms and bipolar symptoms are almost complete opposites. BPD is characterised by extremely unstable, volatile emotions. People who are bipolar have unnaturally *stable* emotions. If a bipolar person is in a depressive phase, they are constantly in a state of misery, despair and lethargy, and absolutely nothing can affect that. Similarly, if they're hypomanic, they will be constantly happy, fizzing with energy, and incredibly confident (or overconfident), and absolutely nothing can bring them down. Depressed or manic phases last at least days, and often weeks or even months; and during that time, *nothing* can cause their emotional state to change much. But someone with BPD has emotions that ricochet from one extreme to another in seconds. No matter how happy someone with BPD may be, the tiniest thing going wrong can flip them into a state of extreme rage or despair in an instant. They are never stable. They can go from thinking someone is the most wonderful person in the world to thinking they're the most evil person in the world in just a few seconds, and sometimes back again half an hour later. It really is completely different.

>>34192564
>BPD symptoms and bipolar symptoms are almost complete opposites
BPD symptoms and bipolar symptoms are so similar that one of the diagnostic criteria for BPD is that the patient doesn't respond to bipolar medications.

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>>34190607
i had a friend since elementary school i'd fallen in love with and eventually asked him out after like years of pining from a distance and he was completely perfect and amazing in every way and then the first time we kissed and cuddled i completely dissociated and everything in my entire life fell like it was rotting away and it was all because of him (?) even though i could tell myself it wasnt true it was how i felt and it didnt change for weeks and i was almost nonverbal so i broke up with him and i havent dated since because i think im just fundamentally broken and incapable of love and i dont think hes gotten over it but we dont talk much anymore. i miss him a lot. if i was worse at controlling myself id be texting him "im sorry im so sorry im sorry please dont hate me" like every night but i dont because i dont like bothering people i care about

do not ever ever ever give sick people a chance it will hurt you and it will hurt us

>>34190607
i e-dated a BPD girl for about two months when i was 14 and she still stalks me to this day. that was 11 years ago now, all the way back in 2015

she leaked my nudes, doxxed me, got her friends to falsely accuse me of being a pedophile and sex pest, and tried to get me arrested and expelled from school. that was all within the year that i left her.

i met my girlfriend (now wife) IRL later that year and she ramped it up, and literally never stopped trying to break us up. four years later (so 2019) one of her friends texted my girlfriend to try and tell her a fake story that i was cheating on her with a 12 year old. nothing worked, we got married, and we aren't on social media anymore (for unrelated reasons) so nothing has happened for a while

i have been contacted by the BPD ex as recently as 2023, and heard from mutual friends that she is still actively looking for me and my wife. it has massively impacted my life and the way i trust people and view online privacy. i only have facebook and linkedin and both accounts are hidden to the public. her false accusations of me being a sex pest persisted for years in our social circle and it haunted me for a long time, and permanently crushed my self-esteem. and it's ironic because she was 2 years older than me and clearly got off to the age gap (would frequently make pedophilic remarks like calling me a "sexy little boy" when we dated). nothing i ever did was enough to dispel the false shit she said about me. as recently as 2022 i was added to a group chat and someone i didn't know immediately said "isn't that guy a pedo?"

so yeah... not even once lol

i know my story is the worst case scenario but i am FAR from the only person to have their life ruined by someone with BPD. i feel for them, i know that their disorder is literally visible on a brain scan and that it's not their fault... but abuse and wrath are built into their personalities, and you need to stay far away from them

>>34191168
i hate BPDemons but cluster B disorders are a real thing. as in, they are visible on a brain scan, and are the result of stunted physical brain development as a child (due to neglect, abuse, etc)

they are probably the only mental disorders (besides schizophrenia, OCD, and autism) that are actually a real thing

i shared your view for the longest time so i get it. i was fully convinced that people with BPD were just nasty fucking demons who thought being evil was cute and quirky, but that is demonstrably false

>>34190717
>>34192605
Jesus Christ

>>34192605
And here I thought I was the only one who got his self-esteem shattered from highschool bullying. At least you got together with someone. The power of a common enemy, I guess. Crazy how those people believed her wtf, probably her accomplices though. That group chat sounded like a setup, desu. I feel you man

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>>34190607
They are never that hot, ever, after you cum for the first time and have a clear head they are fucking sub par and gross

it sucks so bad

>>34192792
>Crazy how those people believed her wtf, probably her accomplices though.
It's simple to understand how it happens. They use victimhood as a weapon, they know that if they shroud themselves under the guise of 'victim' no one questions them. And those who do are easily beaten submission because all they have to do is turn on the tears and pretend to be helpless and you will get frustrated, angry or panicked and to everyone on the outside they see "poor crying defenseless person" Vs. "angry and frenzied bad person". And they know 99% of people will side with them, and not (you). They know this and they deliberately play this strategy, it's not something they do mindlessly it's got some calculations to it. My own ex used to tell me "as a joke" that if I dumped her, she'd tell people I hurt her. And when I took the bait I told her I'd just tell them I didn't and she replied "You're a guy. No one would believe you anyway"

>>34192860
Didn't you read? The BPD bitch was older than him, she wasn't the victim herself.

>>34192963
nta. you need to read the post youre replying to
anons not saying she was a victim but she is playing one

>>34192963
>Didn't you read? The BPD bitch was older than him, she wasn't the victim herself

What >>34193059
Said. Perhaps I should make it more clear or I didn't type it plainly: She pretended and lied about being a victim and other people believed her because people are usually too scared to doubt self-professed 'victims'. Because people will think you are the bad guy if you question someone who identifies as a victim, even when that person is lying, others do not know they are they just instantly assume that the 'victim' is always telling the truth. And the people who have doubts keep their mouths shut because they are too afraid to publicly voice their doubts because the people who believe the victim will instantly attack or shame the doubter out of mob anger or outrage.

And BPDs are aware of this social phenomena and they deliberately exploit it in order to escape accountability and/or hurt the person they hate

>>34193088
Do normies really? Sounds pretty fucking retarded

>>34193103
>Doesn't remember "Believe All Women"

>>34190607
How is a BPD girl any different from a "normal" girl?

>>34193103
Yeah normies really. And also sperg simps too, lots of types of people believe them. Your average run of the mill autistic incel black piller would believe them too if they thought it meant there was a 1% chance of pussy so they can finally complete their virginity_loss_quest.exe

I dated someone whose ex was BPD. She was his ex more than 5 years ago.
I was very patient and tried to ignore all the ways he was projecting and mistreating me.
I had hope, love, a future.
I loved him too. I have never threatened suicide or violence.
I may end up killing myself in a few weeks because of him. He still doesn't understand all the damage he caused. And doesn't seem to take it seriously that he really has pushed me to the brink of suicide.
Please any advice?

>>34193332
What did he do?

>>34193381
He is on 4chan a lot.
I'm afraid he will know if I give details.

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>>34190607
I dated a girl with it for nearly 3 years. a good chunk of the time I had to actively dissuade her from the idea of self harming, and on top of it I pretty much had to always be available, which if I failed to be at any point or I didn't react to something as expected, we'd go back to square one. she was the most jealous person I've been with since, even getting jealous of the time I'd spend playing vidya with friends and checking my phone. we still had plenty of good times that I remember clear as day, but these moments weren't totally rare or isolated. despite all of this, I had to end it after she cheated on me and had to be the main one consoling her afterwards about it, over fear that she'd commit or do something else stupid. been years and I haven't felt comfortable as I did with her prior to knowing with anyone else I've been with since.

>>34192552
>Kek yeah I mean it probably has. Find me one institution in the world that hasn't had corruption in it though, and I'll show you a hen's tooth. In other words, they don't exist unfortunately.

the remark was just intended to caution that the DSM is not a bible, in any iteration. And because its explained one way isn't in a vacuum of just the medical data from practitioners and researchers. People with non-medical corruptions have their hands in it.

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>>34193332
LOL.
Coward supreme, killing yourself will do nothing but prove that you're not even competent enough to give yourself a chance.
There's people who starve, people escaping war, people born blind, and even they continue living becuase they know that the only way they can go is up since they got nothing.
No clue how much of a selfish coward you have to be to even consider it.

>>34193462
oh yeah the best and the worst sex ive ever had in my life was with her also, we were sexually compatible like no other but I also got the news right after the 2nd to last time we fucked

Dated a poor BPD soul by the name of Charmaigne. Cool chick when she wasnt bouncing off the walls. Really hope she heals.

>>34193471
I'm not a child anon.
I have developed serious health issues because of this relationship. I've wasted important years for a person who lied about a future. There is so much more and worse.
It was like he was taking revenge on his ex. But I am nothing like her.

>>34193332
BPDlovedones on reddit

Post your story and you'll find many people in your shoes

>>34193557
He said his ex was BPD. He isn't.

>>34193557
Which is why I am asking anons here who have dated/married BPD women.

>>34193567
I have. She got pregnant and used the baby and ultimately the abortion against me for months, among countless other soul degrading things. I have tried posting my story on here but it's just too long.

Basically youre going to be dealing with a lot of unstable emotional reactions to normal things, a total inability to communicate what they want, frequent self harm and suicidal thoughts, depression on a daily basis that is more or less eventually blamed on you, and no matter how much emotional energy and optimism and good will you give to them none of it will be appreciated or returned, and in all likelihood they willl leave you thinking like youre a piece of shit and they are really good at doing it. Plus of course theyll cheat & monkey branch, but all the damage has been done by then.

They are more or less exclusively pump & dump material but they are generally really great and charming so it isnt easy to leave them, and their true nature is only revealed after youve already fallen for them. The ones on social media that signal how BPD they are seem like posers to me. The real ones are pretty shy and looking for guys who are good natured and will commit to them. Its pretty tragic because I think they are fundamentally good women who have been broken and society does them no favors either by absolving responsibility for their poor actions. I think you shouldnt seek them out and they are hard to find anyway in earnest, just leave them be. Girls posting how quirky they are because of cutting isnt the real deal.

>Source: long term relationship with BPD girl and then met another but just kept her as a friend because I couldnt do it again and didnt want to

>>34193332
>>34193541
Not any of the anons, but chances are your ex had the BPD. And the story about his last girlfriend having BPD was a lie, and he reversed the roles of the story. BPDs do this often it's called DARVO'ing.

Deny attack reverse victim with offender.

Or as children say "I know you are, but what am I?"
They will take their own mental profile and copy paste it onto the victim so as to feel blameless. You can meet a BPD who will claim their ex was BPD and they got abused and cheated on. But it turns out they're the one who did that, the cheating and they are the one with BPD.

And I know for a fact this is what they do because when I caught my ex sexting and fucking around with other guys, she was telling them I cheated on her and abused her. She even made up stories where she reframed the words, telling others things I supposedly said or did but she was describing herself and what she had done and said. It was fucking mind boggling and I have never to this day ever seen something as mindfucking weird as that. Never knew humans could do that.

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>>34190607
>What is dating damaged BPD girls really like?
Imagine you're dating a regular girl and she cheats on you, or otherwise leaves you for someone else. Give it a year maybe, not even. But they come back to you saying they still love you even though they're fucking and sucking another guy, and won't even leave them for you. They'll see nothing as their fault, and that even if they did, they'd never admit it without blaming you right back. That's how that feels.

>>34193249
just read this, sums it up pretty nicely >>34192605