>>34281402
Leave the house, do your hobbies with other people, try new hobbies where you meet other people, find friends and they can introduce you to other people

>>34281404
>Leave the house, do your hobbies with other people, try new hobbies where you meet other people, find friends and they can introduce you to other people
I've already tried this. All the people involved in my hobby of choice are much older, the few guys that aren't older don't practice basic hygiene.

>>34281402
are you M or F?

>>34281410
F, gay guys don't have this issue kek

>>34281407
Why not go for an older guy?

>>34281420
They're married or like 70+

>>34281424
What hobbies do you have where you don't meet single guys in their 30s or 40s?

>>34281430
Tabletop, any recs for other hobbies?

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>>34281402
If you don't want to leave the house, maybe try leaving it virtually. Put yourself out there online, >>34277979 these 2 did it yesterday, it's possible. Are there any multiplayer videogames that you like?

>>34281414
>F, gay guys don't have this issue kek

I'm a straight male and people call me "demisexual". I have this "issue" too. I cannot get aroused, erected or in the mood for sex unless I have a deep emotional bond with the girl first.

I don't call myself demisexual over it, I call myself not a fuck boy, not a man whore, not a human dildo and not a degenerate. Someone who still has a functional pair bonding mechanism. Who doesn't separate love from sex and sees sex as an expression of love, that love should come first before sex. I'm happily married and have a great sex life with the wife.
Ignore the demi label shit. And don't strive to be loose and easy. You'll only regret it later

>>34281488
Wowwww I'm so happy with them (teeming with jealousy). I am open to multiplayer games, I pretty much have only played single player games though.

>>34281402
Why are you a hermit?

>>34281493
this seems like a way for you to just brag, you said nothing of value

>>34281493
Uhh I said demisexual so people don't just tell me to use hookup apps or something. I'm asking for advice on how to meet people so any ideas???
>>34281497
I don't really go outside besides the basics.

>>34281402
>it was awful
why was it awful?

>>34281501
Nothing to gain by bragging on an anonymous chink board, not bragging just trying to simultaneously tell OP to let go of the gay labelling & encourage her she can get what she wants despite being """demi""""

>>34281505
They'll tell you to use hookup apps anyway lol. Yes I have ideas. My idea is you need social obligation if you want to find reasons to socialise. It's not enough to be sexually frustrated or lonely, you need to go and find a hobby or group or small closed community offline or online to belong to. Either something themed around your interests or personal values, then you will be in a pool of people, a lot of them guys. This will naturally put you in trajectory to meet someone without trying too hard.

>>34281402
Just go to a bar on a Saturday night retard

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>>34281496
>I pretty much have only played single player games though.
That's too bad, you definitely have the hermit debuff. As much as I hate dating apps I have to recommend them. My sister was able to meet her husband through a dating app and he's a really good guy. Dating apps do work, you just have to put the effort in and actually meet people through them. Also picrel is a singleplayer game rec for you since you said you like tabletop.

>>34281484
Sounds like it might be a locale issue rather than a hobby issue, back when I was wargaming, the guys at the shop were around my age (25-35), but I happen to live in an area with younger people. I don't have many hobby ideas to share that you haven't already heard since I'm also introverted, but realistically the only way you'll find out if you like stuff is to try it.

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>>34281402
>I'm demisexual though so I can only want to do it if I have a good connection at least.
ugh, "muh <randomseed>-sexual orientation doesn't allow me to feel sexual pleasure unless you can solve an esoteric quantum-mechanical problem"

fucking get over yourself
learn how to socialize, meet a turbonormie male that watches hockey and has friends
then have sex (without all the sexual orientation propaganda)

>>34281402
>I'm tumblrspeak though
I DON'T WANT TO INTERACT WITH "GAY CULTURE" PEOPLE WHICH IS WHY I AS A MAN DO NOT LEAVE MY HOUSE

>>34281663
honestly, a good point to take to heart.
Men on the whole do not like this stuff. they may tolerate it, but they find it annoying. And in their heads they'll be thinking "when is the hammer going to drop, and when am I going to be accused of being a monster, just for being straight?".
You're isolating yourself from a lot of perfectly good people, just by insisting on it as an identity.

Why are so many of you guys bothered by my usage of demisexual? I know it's cringe but it's the best way to explain I don't want to just hookup with someone and need a connection

>>34281683
to them it sounds like an excuse to not go out and meet people

>>34281689
Yeah, that is true tee bee aych

>>34281683
we don't even know what that means

>>34281694
I just explained it.

>>34281695
that doesn't sound like a sexuality to me. It sounds like not wanting to do it with people you don't feel a connection to, which is pretty normal.

>>34281683
>Why are so many of you guys bothered by my usage of demisexual? I know it's cringe but it's the best way to explain I don't want to just hookup with someone and need a connection

Because its a word dreamed up by hypersexual, dysfunctional, unsocialised pervert queers and “DiVerGenT” retards with no personalities so they have to rely on labels to feel special. And the label “demisexual” shouldnt exist even in their own framework. Emotional connection is not a sexual orientation. It also implies that having self respect and not being a whore is somehow an oddity or non-norm and quirky so they call it ‘demisexual’, which only justifies their own twisted normative of being narcissistic human fuckholes for anyone who gives them a lick of attention. Because to freaks like them, wanting deep connection before putting out is not normal and needs its own flag and label. Dont adopt their terms or their labels because it only validates their lunacy.

Just say you are not looking for casual shit. You are not into short term arrangements. No one night stands, no FWBs, no situationships, that you play for keeps and are in it for long term shit.

>>34281683
>it's the best way to explain I don't want to just hookup with someone
No, it's objectively the worst possible way to explain that. For one, it should be assumed that you don't want meaningless hookups. Having to state that you don't want that is like thinking you have to state that you aren't addicted to drugs. For two, if anyone suggests it, just say that you aren't a slut. This meaningless label garbage doesn't convey meaning, and 99% of people have no idea what "demisexual" means without context. I sure didn't prior to entering this thread. It's not a real term, it's not a real identity and it's not a real sexuality.

>>34281695
if you had to explain it then obviously it's not "the best way" to get an idea across.

>>34281703
>>34281704
>>34281708
Okay thanks for explaining. Now how do I get a bf pls and ty

anyway, to get off that, where are you located?

>>34281712
I'm in the US

>>34281683
Literally just say you don't want to hookup or have sex with a guy you aren't emotionally invested in, if I met you IRL and you introduced yourself as demisexual I wouldn't be interested no matter how hot you were because there's a good chance you're insane and going to ruin my life.

>>34281717
Well, no point me trying anything. I'm agoraphobic in another country.

>>34281720
I wouldn't say that irl though.
>>34281721
I don't think it would be a good idea to date someone off 4chan, nothing good ever comes from that anyway so it's for the best

>>34281493
23M and i'm fucking jealous. You have no fucking clue how annoying it is when you're just doing your shit at uni in a lab and you get a sudden thought that pushes you to glide your finger across your lecturer's arm once she gets close enough. Be fucking happy that you're "not normal"

>>34281728
>I don't think it would be a good idea to date someone off 4chan, nothing good ever comes from that anyway so it's for the best

Damn right. NTA but just go and find a group dedicated to something you enjoy. You have your head screwed on right, you aren't a naive and easy girl and you seem to know whats a stupid idea and what isn't. You could go far, but you need to just go and pick a social hub and be a part of it. Just find anywhere online or offline. If you don't have a hobby it doesn't even need to be a hobby it can be a favourite show or movie fandom or book club or anything. The internet is pretty vast and it doesn't need to be hookup culture hookup app shit. Other non sexual non speed dating social platforms suffice, fb groups or the like, even small servers on platforms like discord are good if they aren't filled with terminally online losers and are dedicated to something like a specific scene or interest.

What are you interested in? Doesn't matter how small or insignificant. Name a show or a movie or a book or a music genre or a specific topic.

>>34281736
>You have no fucking clue how annoying it is when you're just doing your shit at uni in a lab and you get a sudden thought that pushes you to glide your finger across your lecturer's arm once she gets close enough. Be fucking happy that you're "not normal"

Thanks I'll try to count my blessings. You're right I got no clue what your side of the game is like. I wonder why these differences occur. Maybe it's because I wasn't touch starved as a kid growing up, I got plenty of affection and hugs from my mom so I never felt a void in myself that I needed female touch/attention like it was oxygen or something. I've had women try to touch me up before at random and I hated that shit. You're also a man like me so I understand you got a dog in you, so do I, I just got mine on a leash is all.

I don't understand females who are touchy feely though. I had one random chick try to pull me into a side room at a friend's birthday party and I had to tell her to fuck off. Also had a real fucked encounter on a plane overnight flight and some 40 something old woman next to me. Was trying to sleep, had a blanket over my lap as I sat and all of a sudden her hand creeps under and she's grabbing at my thigh and trying to "accidentally" grab at my dick. It's fucking weird when women do it

>>34281738
Hmm good question. I like media about or made by outsiders. A book I really liked was I who have never known men.

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>>34281703
Just let her express the way she thinks is adequate, moron.

>>34281770
While I do think he was overexaggerating and maybe treating me like "2016 libtard tumblrina feminist DESTROYED" a little bit, I think it would be better to just keep it simple and say I'm not looking for something casual.

>>34281770
It's not controversial to say that LGBTQ speak is fucking stupid outside of the internet the majority of any given population do not use it. The rest of the world isn't California, 'moron'. >>34281765
So find a book reading club or group dedicated around that book or similar books. You don't get immediate results it will require using the groups a while and ingratiating and to be real, from what I know, book clubs are majority female. But don't fret because other girls can be a good resource for you. Other girls have brothers, they have male acquaintances. Sometimes a good girl group can put you closer to meeting with a solid guy by association

>>34281778
Well. A big part of why I don't go out much is how other people, especially women treat me. I don't anticipate good results from that except for getting bullied

>>34281774
Youre exactly what every non brown /pol/chud ever wanted and people are still pissed.

>>34281778
Low IQ coded.

>>34281783
To be fair I'm not pissed at her I'm pissed at the fact such a gay label makes it into the vocabulary of otherwise well put together people.

>>34281782
Usually so are the bookish type of girls, they weren't a girl's girl either. High chance you won't experience bullying from well read women

>>34281761
ffs why are you getting all this and i'm getting none of it. I honestly would enjoy it. Fuck this distribution man. What are you doing to have this?
>tell her to fuck off
i'm sorry but for me this is just comical as i imagine you just bluntly saying "fuck off" lmao

>>34281770
nah he's right though. you say stuff like this, and you out yourself as having spent too much time in some online rabbit hole.
it's like trying to decipher "jestermaxing and framemogging" language.

>>34281795
Well I'm speaking from experience. You'd be surprised

>>34281795
>>34281798
We life in a degenerated swamp and expect a modern human to sound like an english nobleman from 1900. But whatever, she explained her case and I show compassion trying to find true love. Nothing wrong about that. Havent read something like that for years at this point.

>>34281812
Thank you for your kindness anon <3

>>34281796
>ffs why are you getting all this and i'm getting none of it. I honestly would enjoy it. Fuck this distribution man. What are you doing to have this?
No clue I only have my guesses, it's not every woman that's like that, only the mentally ill ones I think. And mentally ill women usually chase things they can't have, so when you aren't interested in them they tend to get all spooky and stalkerish or touchy. It's either that or maybe women project weird shit onto me because I'm not sniffing at their skirts they might think I'm a secure guy to be with, and I also wear my heart on my sleeve a bit as a force of habit so I really don't mind talking about emotional shit or being vulnerable or honest around them. Sometimes girls take it as a sign I was interested when I really wasn't, I just wanted honest convo and that's all. And for some reason a number of girls thought it meant they should try shit with me, romantic or sexual. I could talk to a girl and make it abundantly clear I don't want romance or sex or anything just friendship and within a week, a fucking week I'm getting the "I'm having feelings for you" spiel.
Which always confuses me because the chick has no clue who I am really doesn't even know how my farts stink and yet she's convinced I'm now her love interest.

So I'm not really doing anything, I just do what I wanna do and it pulls some women in when I don't intend it.

>i'm sorry but for me this is just comical as i imagine you just bluntly saying "fuck off" lmao
If I remember it correctly it was
>The fuck who are you, let go of my arm the fuck, I'm trying to leave to get some Domino's pizza, please fuck off.

That's all I was trying to do was go get something to eat, man. Spooky bitch trying to pull me into an embrace and she didn't even know my name.

>>34281804
Maybe you're right, I'll trust your experience I got no clue how female bullying works. In man world, bullying is direct and obvious and there are at least logistics to it. Don't appear weak don't be a weirdo and don't be a loser and you don't get bullied. I heard female bullies will bully those above them and those beneath them so it's bizarre world as far as I'm concerned.

Do you reckon your experience of being bullied rocked your ability to go out and socialise a bit?

>>34281833
Even when I was more sociable it was still a thing.

>>34281849
Got it. Well all I can suggest and re-suggest is explore the in betweens. In between dating apps, hook up culture Vs
Being all alone and not socialising. There's a fuck ton of social avenues to explore but the thing about socialisation is you won't know where to look or what to try because it's one of those things you need to experience to gain intuition on. So at that point, fire everything you got at exploring groups related to innocent and inconspicuous shit like hobbies or interests and build out of that.

>>34281402
>I got pumped and dumped, now I want to be serious
The absolute state of femcels

>>34281933
??? I've only had sex in a relationship

>>34281941
A fleeting relationship that you're now looking to replicate for the sake of sex.
If you want to be a slut, fine, but don't pretend this "demisexual" nonsense is relevant.

>>34281946
>A fleeting relationship
It was multiple years actually.

>>34281402
>How do I meet a guy? I'm a hermit

watch this
https://youtu.be/ZppGy-2dvN4?t=1043