i’m 19f femanon. for many reasons, i can’t finger my vagina or use dildos in my vagina. i have an insane phobia of inserting things into my vagina to the point i get full on panic attacks. so i use my butt or rub over my folds instead.whenever i try masturbating, i just end up feeling unsatisfied, empty, and depressed. i feel a gradual build up over the 2 or so hours im getting off, but i dont feel a snapping(?) sensation or any intense release(?) im not sure how im supposed to feelit kind of just peaks and from there i feel cold and off and like i did something wrong.i can’t use my boobs / nipples because they’re not sensitive enough too, i kind of don’t feel anything there it’s as if they’re not erogenous.i also wish i could get over my phobia but one step at the time, i feel like if my body could register pleasure i’d have an easier time getting over it.
>>34459479I would seek either a doctor or a therapist. That particular phobia has its causes, either bodily or mentally or both. If it's a case of vaginismus, it could be your phobia is a fear response from pain that your body knows will happen due to undiagnosed vaginal issues that could easily be cleared up. If it's mental and the phobia comes from insertions, you need to investigate that as it could be a sign of long forgotten abuse that's at play. It could be nerve damage too, or a nervous system issue and is neither about the body or the mind but if neurology. 4chan won't be able to help beyond offering guesswork and this site especially will rot your brain because you're a girl talking about her vagina in a board that's mostly horny men or resentful men (often both).
>>34459489>>34459479And don't panic if it is a response to abuse, it doesn't always mean things like rape or sexual abuse. Its often the case that it's just generic abusive household, where stress was always high. And sex is a function that requires no stress to pull off, especially for women. If there is high cortisol levels, the vagina will overly tighten itself out of an involuntarily reflex. Similar to how the rest of your body tightens (jaw, back, shoulders) when carrying a stressful overload. It may not even require abuse either, but can still be psychological if that woman has a neurological or developmental disorder like autism for example, which means anxiety is a constant, and her body always tensed due to sensory difficulties. This could then cause vaginismus.
>>34459479Also about boobs and nipples. They're not erogenous. I'm a guy and lots of other guys will want to slap my shit for saying it, but it's true. They are not erogenous in the physical sense, only the psychological sense. Boobs are erogenous to men, because we are the ones impressed and attracted to them. For the woman with boobs, she knows they're just sacs of fatty tissue and mammary glands. Boobs are not erogenous in reality, they're meant to produce milk and nurture babies, that's why they're in the woman's body. Whether that woman chooses to have babies or nurse a baby if she has one is irrelevant, the boobs are there for that function. Men find them erogenous, women typically don't. They may find them to have a 'secondary-erogenous' feeling to them but that's not because of her own boobs it's because she is arousing herself with the idea of them being touched by a man. The woman is not going to see her own boobs the same way a man sees them so don't worry about that.
>>34459479You need to playing with your clitoris, not "folds".
>>34459507One of my exes could come just from having her nipples played with. *Your* nipples may not be erogenous, but that's not universal.
>>34459513It's not to do with the nipples. Nipple-gasms are purely mental, similar to how an over excited man might jizz his pants and all the woman had to do was deep kiss him and sit on his lap.
>>34459520lol as a guy my chest is really sensitive, playing with my nipples and licking them makes me go woooosh, in fact the entire chest area is sensitive but its more extreme towards the nipples
>>34459479Please stay single.
>>34459507virgin talk.You can train any body part to be erogenous zone.My gf would cum from her nipples just by edging her enough and then switching to nipple play only.
>>34459489thank you so much — assuming you’re the first 3 replies! you are very kind!!! i do know why i have my phobia, i just didn’t find it worth it to explain. i’m not sure if i have vagnisimus(?) because im not really constantly tightened / narrow(?) like that, i just can’t Feel things in there or i’ll have a panic attack. for example; i had an ex but we only did hand stuff because he didn’t want to do buttstuff. one time he tried inserting a finger and it went right in because i didn’t notice, but the second he tried curling it i told him to stop and felt myself getting stressed out.i thought understanding the male orgasm via 4chan could’ve helped, i thought maybe i was experiencing some sort of female post nut clarity & was cumming, it was just unsatisfactory.^ i am true gonadal intersex>>34459508due to the removal of my enlarged clit as a result of being true gonadal intersex, it’s too small for me to play with. maybe a sucking toy could help though ???
thats rough OP, but that shouldnt stop you from enjoying your body, you got to have a sexual outlet or your mental health will deprecate, do not be afraid of pleasing yourself, use fingers or get dlidos of appropiate sizealso use your imagination, a fantasy that always wrecks my brain is imagining myself with a happy family as i make love to my wifei also encourage you to love your body by doing bodybuilding, feeling good about yourself is important, do not make cumming your goal, you can imagine yourself with a cute husband cuddling and kissing him while touching your body, from intimate parts, i myself touch my nipples and thighs, intimacy is a good thing OP and we all deserve it, habe fun, love yourself
>>34459479Some women manage by crossing their legs and rocking, or by humping a pillow
