Being lazy is clearly the one thing keeping me away from getting anywhere.I have no idea of how I've let the thing get to this point, trying to remember I've probably been lazy since I can remember myself as a person, I used to postergate even the simplest of school assignments, would just sit for hours in front of it without ever getting anything done.During my teenage years I did the same, join clubs, start hobbies, but just postergate everything and give up halfway though, there's no way life's supposed to be like this. Since the begining of this year I got this really big project and gave my all on it, but now it's such a drag, I just do a little bit of work on it everyday and get to rotting on youtube.My relatives aren't like this, my friends, professors, coworkers and everybody else seem's to at least keep a stream of work.Have anyone fought this and won?Books? Tips? Rituals? Anything really.
>>34563637>Books? Tips? Rituals? Anything really.In my opinion, those would be just a refined and more subtle form of procrastination (or 'laziness'). There isn't a book, seminar, YouTube video or 4chan post that will flip a switch in your head and make you 'not lazy'. Change, long-term change, more often than not starts from within. And I think 'lazy' can turn out be a more complicated adjective to dissect than one would think. If you are lazy, then it sounds like you just don't want to do stuff, so, what's the point of stopping being lazy? If there's stuff that you need to do, but you don't want to, then it's not a matter of being lazy or not, but rather for how long are you willing to neglect the quality of your own life due to an inability to commit to such things.
>>34563637Fear is the only true motivation
>>34563733I can confirm.Well, that and frustration.Like having to deal with your landlord shutting the water off for 12 days straight in summer to make drano work, and yet he still wants to charge you full rent.It's thanks to that I'm able to hone in on my shit and learn faster than I ever did in idk, 10 years.
>>34563733This is extremely true, but there's another important component to it. When people think of fear, they usually imagine starving or not making rent, very tangible, physical things. Far more important, but far less talked about, is the fear of not becoming who you want to be.The one commonality in all really productive people I've ever met is that they are driven by an overwhelming fear of not meeting some expectation, almost always one they've had drilled into their head by their family, but occasionally one they've set for themselves. This expectation is all-consuming, all-encompassing, never-ending. It totally dominates the persons life and everything they do is in pursuit of meeting it. The person would prefer to meet the expectation, then die six months later, rather than grow old and never attain it.The one commonality in all lazy people I've ever met is that they do not have this overwhelming fear. They kind of just don't really care. They might really want something - to have a nice relationship, to be a famous artist, to be wealthy - but they don't particularly care if they *don't* get it. That's the important part. Not how much they want it, but how much not getting it hurts. A lazy person will never try, because if expending no effort gets them a 7/10 life and expending a lot gets them a 9/10, why bother at all? So to OP, >>34563637, I would ask this: Do you really care if you don't get what you want? If you don't finish that big project that you started, would you feel you have fundamentally failed as a person on the most baseline level and missed out on something amazing and beautiful, or would you feel about as bad as you would if you dropped a bowl of cereal? If you don't immediately, emphatically agree with the first option, you probably don't want whatever it is you think you want enough to do it to completion.
