I don't know what I am. My family thinks nothing is wrong - but I am 26 and still a virgin.I don't like the negative connotations associated with identifying as an incel, but I am indeed INVOLUNTARILY celibate.I can't just get out and decide to have sex, so I am an incel.Now, everyone says I look fine, and "it's all in my head".My brother is nonchalant, 80 IQ Chad who winged it all his life - barely passed GED, graduated from uni in a meme degree and still hasn't taken his degree certificate, and he has banged 100s of women probably and is married and has kids.But now I read Red Pill literature and it's full of holding frame, acting confident, making money, getting fit, surviving "shit tests", and maintaining a 5% lifestyle 24/7 just to get some average pussy.If that's what ascending (having sex or getting married) is, I don't even want it. I'd rather stay voluntarily celibate than to work 24/7 for something that Chad gets on autopilot.But I don't really know. I can neither swear off sex, marriage and go my own way (MGTOW) or do the opposite.I don't know, what to do?
>>34595418Why do you keep reading it if it's just making you miserable? Don't take stuff said by some self-proclaimed knows-it-all on the internet, or in books, or wherever.Take care of yourself and your life, do what you judge to be right, try to be a good person, and try not to worry about others.Comparing yourself too much can poison your mind; the grass will almost always be greener on the other side.My advice is to just do your thing.Study or work on the field you think is nice, do the hobbies you're interested in, and have the morals you believe are correct, but do so by your own conviction.Stop listening to advices that are just doom and gloom. Hope is part of life. No one can guarantee what happens tomorrow, we can only hope things will go a certain way.Also like I said, don't compare yourself to others. Not only it may lock you down, their life most likely isn't as good as you may think it is.
>>34595418I'd like to share a story with you. I lost my virginity at 20 - I never dated anyone in high school. My first girlfriend was a nympho, so I was content for the time-being, but at the same time I never felt worse. She had a terrible personality and we spent a lot of time pointlessly arguing. I had dozens of opportunities to end things with her, but I had no self-respect and only wanted to keep getting laid. Things got much better for me after we broke up - I developed a confidence that made it easy for me to talk to girls and date. For the first time in my life, I had girls approaching ME to ask me out. It was a nice feeling, but since I had my eyes set on this one classmate - I'll call her Kate. Nothing else seemed to matter. I turned down several other girls during this time, all because I was trying to work up the nerve to ask Kate out. The more obvious it became that Kate had no interest in me, the worse I felt. It was terrible. I began to neglect my hobbies (to spend more time in the gym), and I became more cynical. When I eventually did ask her out - the answer was a sugar-coated "no." I felt like shit. I had spent an entire semester building this expectation up for NOTHING. But do you know what the real truth nuke is? I likely wouldn't have been happy if she said, "yes," because I was so invested in this girl that I felt the need to measure every action I took and every word I said with extreme caution to maximize my attractiveness. What you are describing is a systematized version of the lifestyle I subjected myself to, and I know from experience that headspace sucks. It may be a hackneyed sentiment, but it really is true that "a relationship won't fix your problems." As a man, you need to try to find peace within yourself - through God, your work, hobbies, and relationship the people you CURRENTLY have that care about you. You owe it to yourself to try to enjoy your life and be grateful for it, even though some parts suck right now.
>>34595428>>34595442Thanks man, I think you're right. It's one of the few times that someone said something on 4chan that really made sense.I will try to become self-independent and develop the lifestyle that makes me content. I will also try to avoid this situation.
>>34595418Go back to the digital steak, now!
